AboutVena McGrath Expertise As the author of a novel about my life online in chat rooms specifically, and a few adventures into online dating, I can answer almost any question anyone could ask about chatting online. The excitement, the adrenalin rush, the manipulation of the mind, the corruption of morals, the danger of stalking and harrassment online and offline, the lies, the secrets. The reality of this `fantasy` is frightening. My book tells a story that hopefully will make anyone who reads it more wary and chatwise than I was when I stumbled upon chat in late 1999 as a naive woman who didn`t have a clue what a chat room on the internet was. I have spent many hours online counselling men and women with broken hearts, wounded pride, and yes, very real fear. My passion is to try to help eradicate the not so good factors out of chat rooms and make them once again fun places where people feel safe.
Experience My experience commenced in June 1999 in international chat rooms and then a move in late September 1999 to chat rooms in Australia. I am still online, have my own chat room, and my first novel titled 'Secrets, Lies & Chat' was published by American-Book Publishing in 2005 and is now available from my website www.secretslieschat.net.au for a very competitive price. I have also released on my website an eBook which is a revised version of Secrets, Lies & Chat and only costs $4.95 5o download in either word or pdf format.
Organizations I belong to many writing organisations online and I belong to the chat room community of BigPond.
Publications Communique - a monthly newspaper produced by the NSW Government Department of Commerce
SMH ICON liftout 'The Net Effect' April 2004
Numerous articles in PoynterOnline
Numerous letters to the editor, SMH
My profile and short stories and articles are all online at AuthorsDen.com and some are posted on my website.
Education/Credentials High School Educated
TAFE Secretarial
Numerous OH&S certificates
Numerous Computer related courses
Expert: Vena McGrath Date: 3/5/2008 Subject: Guy Problem
Question I really like this guy, but he's real popular and I'm not. I have no idea if he knows who I am. The worst part is he has a gilfriend, AND SHE'S ONE OF MY FRIENDS AND KNOWS I HAVE A CRUSH ON HIM!!! I need someone to tell me how to let him know I LOVE him.
Answer Hello Abby
You asked me to tell you how to tell this guy you love him. That I cannot do.
If the girlfriend is really one of your friends then you will turn your face the other way and find your own boyfriend. True friends are not crucified; they are treated with honesty and loyalty.
'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you' are words you should listen to carefully. Also 'wear the shoes of the other person and find out how they feel' is another saying you should think about carefully. How would you like it if someone was about to cast themselves upon a relationship you were involved in?
I think that you only want this guy because he likes someone else and as soon as you broke them up, if you possibly could, you would move on to the next victim. I could be wrong, but this is the picture I am getting from you.
How can you possibly 'love' another person that you don't even know? Your feelings are probably from jealousy and a need to be noticed by a guy the way this other girl is noticed by this guy. You have no conception of love between a male and a female.
Do yourself a big favour and forget all about what's in your head. It's not your heart that is talking here.
