About Melissa Burton (a.k.a Bee) Expertise I can help with people who are having problems in their internet relationship/long distance relationship. This includes arguments, being patient, understanding what they are trying to tell you, going from friends to even more,precautions, and even breaking up.
Experience Know plenty of people who have loved/liked someone from online and have met.
Question Hi! Ok, first off my story/question is A LOT more different then any other ones I have seen. I met a boy online when we were 12 years old. That was 7 whole YEARS ago. I fell in total complete love with him probably about two or three years ago after we met. Before that I just considered him my best friend, but things change :-) We started talking about meeting, and how much we were in love, and even getting married. We agreed when we started talking like this that we would not go out. We both knew what we had was special, and we didn't want to ruin that. Besides, what would that change? What we had was so much better and deeper then any other 14 year old's casual bf/gf online. Did we know we were destined for more?
He makes me the happiest I have ever been, but there was a huge bump in the road. When I was a Sophomore in High school, he got a girlfriend who he apparently told about me. She HATED me, probably because of what we had (or at least that's what I like to think). She e-mailed me, and long story short, we stopped talking for two years. It just about killed me. Two years without him made the best food bland, and I know that's a horrible simile, but you get the idea!
Anyways, I eventually found a boyfriend, like face to face. We have been going out for two years. He makes me happy, but never as happy as my online...whatever he is. About a month ago, though he came back into my life. I can not tell you how good it felt to read the words "I love you, I'm so sorry I hurt you babe." on a computer screen.
I don't question why it took him 2 years to come around, but if you let something go, and it comes back to you, then it's yours, right? We started talking, and for the whole first week we stayed up every single night talking. I mean from like 10 at night to 5 or 6 in the morning. We never seem to get tired of each other. it's great!
However, I still have a boyfriend. I told him this, and I think it crushed him. He stopped talking to me so much, stopped saying I love you. I told him "I love you" still, and He told me "I love you too, even though you aren't supposed to say that to someone else when you have a boyfriend."I can't help it. When he told me that, though it crushed me, and I realized it's either one or the other. Right?
So, now I'm on a break with my boyfriend, but I don't know if that's stupid to do for someone online. He's been talking to me more since i told him we took a break, telling me he loves me, and whatnot. My boyfriend is in total love with me, but i don't think I love him as much. I don't want to hurt him by breaking up with him, but I feel like I deserve to be the happiest I can be!
I don't want to settle with the one that makes me comfortable knowing that the one who I can't live without is out there somewhere. I really don't feel like my life will be complete without meeting him. But what if we didn't get along as well? Am I better off living my life ignorant to that? I was thinking about doing a student exchange and go to a college near him for a semester. Is that stupid? I know love makes you do dumb things, but am I going overboard? I've never even kissed him! He bought a $42 webcam so I could see him :-)
I don't really have a specific question, I just need someone's advice on my situation! I've told my parents about him, and my mom thinks that i need to choose who i want, and focus on that person.
Is it possible to meet your soul mate when you're 12 years old online?
Answer Hello
Well it's possible to meet your soul mate or whatever at anytime in your lifetime. To be honest with you though, I think you guys should meet before making a huge solid commitment to this guy. Being with someone in person is completely different. For example at one point I met this guy online and we clicked like nothing else. We have a very strong emotional connection and everything. When I met him though the way he acted in person with me was really fun and we had a great time and I realized that this was more of a best friend thing than a romantic relationship. We tried to make it work but we realized that our love could not transition to that in person, even if online or on the phone it felt that way. I moved on and consider him a very great friend and who knows what may occur in the future but I've found someone I really connect with online, on the phone, and in person and really am happy. So you never know where life takes you. You may meet this guy and he may be your dream guy like you've always imagined or you may realize that you dreamt up this great guy and that he's real online or when you guys talk, but the connection and physical attraction isn't there or as strong as you thought it would be. Just keep that in mind because you may want to spend the next year saving up money to see him. I don't know how far of a distance you guys are together but I do know with planning and combined resources you guys can arrange a meeting and it wont be too expensive. Like last year I went to Europe from the US and it was about a 1000 (flight, hotel, food) which is something you can save up over a year. So think about doing that.
I also feel that you are doing a really bad thing by saying you love someone while in another relationship. That is really wrong and I think you need to consider breaking up with your boyfriend. He may make you happy but I think it's really sad that you are telling another man that you love him while being with someone else. It's sort of selfish and unfair to your boyfriend. So if you are continuing to have your heart be with someone else then do your boyfriend a favor and end it with him, and don't keep him around for convenience. You must be around the age of 19 or something which means that you should not be settling for anyone at this age. End it and move on cause if you already feel happier with someone else then that tells you that there is someone else out there better for you, and your boyfriend does not need to be some guy you just settle for, just second best. So consider that because it is selfish to just keep him around just because you can't make up your mind. And take a break from relationships for awhile and I strongly suggest you don't commit to this guy until you meet him.
