About Melissa Burton (a.k.a Bee) Expertise I can help with people who are having problems in their internet relationship/long distance relationship. This includes arguments, being patient, understanding what they are trying to tell you, going from friends to even more,precautions, and even breaking up.
Experience Know plenty of people who have loved/liked someone from online and have met.
Expert: Melissa Burton (a.k.a Bee) Date: 5/1/2008 Subject: Why won't he meet me
Question Well to start off, I have been talking to this guy online and on the phone for 3 months now. We have great conversations, and he is just one of those guys that i have a great connection with. We talk about everything. He lives about 10 mintues away from me and is my age. Well about 2 weeks into talking to him, I asked when he were going to hang out. At this point i was only interested in him as a friend. I had seen pictures and thought he was very good looking. So anytime i brought up "hanging out" all he would tell me was soon. Well days turned into a weeks, and he kept telling me that it was way too soon to meet, that we barely knew each other etc. Then he also said that he was too "fat" for me that he had gained weight within 6 months and he didn't look like his pictures. Well he sends me recent pictures, and he isn't fat. I like the way he looks and if he were to be bigger in person i wouldn't care, and i have told him this.
Since talking to him, i know i'm actualy falling for him. He has gotten out of control with this fat thing. He constantly tells me how fat he is. He even cried to me on the phone. At first i thought he was messing around or just had other girls he was hanging out with, but he is always texting me, online with me or on the phone. I normally don't get hung up on a guy like this but there is just something about him i just can't get over. I have TRIED not talking to him, but i always end up texting him. I have left my phone at home purposely so i wouldn't be tempted to text him. I'm at my wits end. I really like him and would love for something great to come out of this, but he just will not meet me. He has even starting jogging so he can lose weight. I don't want him to lose weight and i have told him this repeatedly. I don't know what else to do. Could it be that this is a complete lie? helllp
Answer Hi Sheri
I'm not sure what to make of this. This sounds typical of a guy who is either not the person he says he is or something has happened with his looks that he is embarrassed about. To be honest it sounds like a complete lie or either he's not being completely honest with you. Like perhaps that picture was not that recent and he has gained an obscene amount of weight. And although you say you wouldn't care, you have to understand that that may be very difficult for him. The one thing I can tell you to do is to give him an ultimatum. Right now you have no idea when you guys will meet which is very unfortunate since you both are only 10 minutes away. This guy cannot keep putting you on hold like this. The only way you could meet him is letting him know you can't talk to him anymore unless he meets you and you need to step by that act. That's really the only way because if this guy is lying, then he wont tell you the truth, and if he is being honest, then who knows when he'll feel secure enough to meet you. Either way you should not wait for this guy forever and the only way to really meet this guy is to give him an ultimatum. Again, I think he's lying about something with his looks or who he is. In other words he's lied about his pictures completely or he has gained quite a significant amount of weight or of course he could be telling the truth but suffers from an unusual amount of insecurity.
Melissa
