AboutRhyn Essence Expertise I am freely able to answer any type of question in respect of expectation, emotional need, desire, living with fantasies and the cold harsh reality that frequently fails to match expectations.
Experience I formerly advised on this site until about 2002 when physical ill health forced me to withdraw from just about every interest that I had. Previous to allexperts I'd run through the emotional minefield of online relationships myself. Recognising that while a professional may take a keen interest in human motives and behaviour that there isn't a hard and fast template which can be applied to various individual sets of circumstances, regardless of what they want you to believe.
Past/Present clients Numerous enquirers using the AllExperts route. I've answered questions regarding religious differences, dealing with the difficulties of addictions and spousal abuse. Age knows no barriers in respect of online relationships and even cultural differences are swept aside, though that can lead too additional difficulties.
I met this very nice lady named Christina on match.com. Initially, we chatted
on yahoo messenger and then on the phone. We spoke on the phone every
other day for over 10 hours straight! Which means, we have at least over 30
hours of chatting on the phone! Now, mind you, I enjoy talking on the phone
with my friends and I usually chat with them that usually lasts for half an hour
to an hour, and sometimes for two hours. But never in my life have I spoken
with someone for over 30 hours in total, its unreal. Christina told her best
friend about it and she admitted that she was a little jealous because they
chat on the phone for at least two hours, but with Christina and myself, we
broke the record. Well, eventually we met for coffee but she was a little
nervous meeting me because she never met anyone online before, so I
suggested to bring her best friend as backup to calm her nerves and make
her feel comfortable. I assured her that she would have a wonderful with me
and all three of us did. Soon, we were chatting on yahoo messenger again
and we both admitted that there were sparks between us. Last week, we
chatted for several hours on the phone again and we're making plans to see
each other again. But here is the real interesting part: we both reside in
Florida, but we both went to the same high school in New York. At the time,
she was a sophmore and I was a senior. We never met in high school and
since it was such a huge school, its quite possible that we bumped into each
other and didn't even knew the other existed. What's ironic is that when we
were living in New York, we never met in high school and now that we're here
in Florida, we are communicating. Life's crazy sometimes, huh? Maybe this is
fate's way of saying now is the time? Are we both in love with each other or
are we just in love with love? Do you see us as potential soulmates or just
good friends? What does your instincts tell you on how I should proceed?
Best regards,
Julian
Answer Hi Julian,
The best advice I can give you is not to concern yourself with other peoples possible perceptions, mine included, just take things slowly even if you don't feel like it. Don't rush into living together even if it feels right. There is not any reason why this cannot work unless either of you developes doubts about the other.
Regards,
Rhyn
