Aboutvanessaoz Expertise I love helping people and and some may say that I am a very chatting and friendly person. I can offer advice to people who are in long distance or a different cultural online relationship as I have experienced both. I know how hard it can be and how heartbreaking it can be but I also know how rewarding they can be.
i live in australia so depending where you live my time frame for answering may differ but i will try to answer within 24 hours of receiving your question.
Experience I have experience with online relationships and having friends who are in one or have had them, I know the highs and lows that can come from being in one, especially long distance. I have been online for five years and met many people from different cultures.
Question O.k. not sure how this will work but I'll explain a few things. I met this guy on a game and we would talk everyday during the summer for like, what maybe 2 months. Our conversations would start around 3:p.m. and last until one of us got tired and wanted to go to sleep. We played 20 Questions just to get to know each other and after awhile we became friends on MySpace. Then we started to talk there instead and over the weekends we would talk morning until night, believe it or not. Well I started to like him, and eventually I began to love him. At least I hope I love him. On my status I said I loved him but I never put his name. He would start to become a bit jealous and would pretend he wasn't. Then one day he said "You know, I feel the same way." And that was the way he confessed to me. We still talk everyday and just have our conversations, and I still learn more about him. He compliments me and tells me he loves me at random times. He would write me a few poems and he's so different from many guys. He's respectful and kind. Sweet, too. But he's also strong and not afraid to speak his mind.
I'm positive we love each other but we live far away from each other. Him in Florida and I in Wisconsin. We plan to meet in the future, if we stay together for more than a year. But is our relationship...realistic? Many of our friends say they're happy for us but we both know that they don't believe we will stay together or in fact ever actually meet physically.
Advice about this, possibly? :)
Answer hi summer,
thanks for your email,
realistically, the odds are against you but, i know many that have met and married from meeting online, so it can happen.
in any relationship it takes work to be together, you need honesty, trust and good communication offline and online, plus you need to want to be together.
remembering that someonetimes who we chat too online can be a different person offline again this may not be your case but it can happen.
if you really want to make this work, then go for it, listen to your friends advice but dont be detered by what you both want to do. your friends will be sceptical but only you know how you feel and whether this guy is the right one for you.
