Expert: vanessaoz - 10/4/2009

Question
QUESTION: I am having this online relationship for a year now. And i recently found out he is keeping in touch with his first love on facebook and that they are going at the same school. I shouldn't be worried but i know how he got hurt when she left him. It took him years to get over her. And i doubt if hes really gotten over her. What should i do.?

Thank you.

ANSWER: hi laarnie,

thanks for your email..

i agree with you, doesnt seem like he is over her and really if he gets hurt again, he has only himself to blame.

all you can do is be there as a friend in case he needs someone to talk too. you need to let him know you know what he is up too if he doent already know you know.

if you cant remain friends then break it off with him until he sorts himself out and find someone who is dedicated to you only.

good luck
vanessaoz

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QUESTION: I really can't tell him it's bothering me.
Cause he would be like "you are being paranoid" and that i should trust and should have faith in him. And that our relationship would never work without those. And that i should believe everything he says. We got plans on meeting next year after he graduates. I'm worried he got a super hot ex. hahah. Can't blame me but yeah your right i should talk bout things with him.


Thanks. Your a great help.

Answer
hi laarnie,

what you say is true, if you cant trust him then the relationship wont work. please talk to him about how you feel, once you do, then maybe you feel better after your have this chat or email.

try to remain confident in yourself, beauty isnt everything and it doesnt last forever. relationship to work have to built on more then how one looks.

good luck
vanessaoz