Aboutvanessaoz Expertise I love helping people and and some may say that I am a very chatting and friendly person. I can offer advice to people who are in long distance or a different cultural online relationship as I have experienced both. I know how hard it can be and how heartbreaking it can be but I also know how rewarding they can be.
i live in australia so depending where you live my time frame for answering may differ but i will try to answer within 24 hours of receiving your question.
Experience I have experience with online relationships and having friends who are in one or have had them, I know the highs and lows that can come from being in one, especially long distance. I have been online for five years and met many people from different cultures.
I met this amazing guy online, through a dating website. And we have been talking on skype and on the phone for a couple of months now. i'm american and he's portuguese. And i was planning a trip to europe soon, and now portugal is on my itinerary. my question is, this first meeting how should it be like, since i'll be in a foreign country and not really much time to take it slow, and if he extended an invitation to stay at his house instead of a hotel? and last but not least how do you suggest we carry on from that point on, if we really did feel as good together as we do now, due to the distance and such?
Thank you so much for your time.
ANSWER: hi adam,
thanks for your email,
i would be inclined to stay at a hotel and not his place. firstly, you never really know a person until you meet in real and if things dont work out then you have your hotel to go back too. even if he asks you over and things develop that is up to you to decide how comfortable you feel. i just think staying in a hotel is the wise thing to do.
im sure if you feel as good together in real as you say you do online then other things between you will happen naturally and you wont have to think much about it. just make sure if you are not comfortable that you can get out of the situation your in, particulary in a forgein country.
good luck
vanessaoz
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QUESTION: Dear Vanessa,
Thank you so much for your prompt response.
But you see, i've never met anyone through the internet before, so its new to me. with conventional dating you get to go out on multiple dates and take it slow. whereas i'll be in a foreign country, and i think i'll get to know him pretty well before i even get there, we talk a lot. But still should the visit be about, trying to figure out if we have the same feelings in person, or still more getting to know each other?
Thank you so much
Answer Hi again adam,
i hear what your saying and ive seen people who have been chatting online/phone for years then when they meet, there is no connection. that is why i suggested you stay in a hotel because if things are not comfortable you have your own space but that this is entirely up to you when you get there.
just be careful and dont take any unnecessary risks. i tell this to everyone because you going into a country your not familar with as well as a new culture.
