AboutRhyn Essence Expertise I am freely able to answer any type of question in respect of expectation, emotional need, desire, living with fantasies and the cold harsh reality that frequently fails to match expectations.
Experience I formerly advised on this site until about 2002 when physical ill health forced me to withdraw from just about every interest that I had. Previous to allexperts I'd run through the emotional minefield of online relationships myself. Recognising that while a professional may take a keen interest in human motives and behaviour that there isn't a hard and fast template which can be applied to various individual sets of circumstances, regardless of what they want you to believe.
Past/Present clients Numerous enquirers using the AllExperts route. I've answered questions regarding religious differences, dealing with the difficulties of addictions and spousal abuse. Age knows no barriers in respect of online relationships and even cultural differences are swept aside, though that can lead too additional difficulties.
Question QUESTION: I have a serious question.Okay there is this older guy,He's 50 (I'm 13) that I talk to over the internet and we have very sexual conversations,now I haven't ever had sex before but I guess we do what you can call cybersex.Does this mean that I lost my virginity? And can I get in trouble wiht the law for this? How can I tell the guy that we shouldn't talk anymore? He is really nice too. And I told him that I don't want to be in a relationship with him and he said "okay" and I said we could just be friends and he agreed,do you think that I should keep trying to convince or do you think he understands? What should I do now?
I messaged him today and he still thinks we ar ein a relationship and I keep telling him no.He's an allexpert on here and he lives in the U.K.I live in the U.S.I can't get married when I get older if he thinks that me and him are in a relationship.So what do I do?
Can I not get married?
How do I convince him?
ANSWER: Hi CGLLR,
I am going to pass you question onto others more capable of dealing with this. As it is totally unacceptable behaviour for anyone regardless of their status to try to corrupt a person of your age.
Regards,
Rhyn
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QUESTION: Well what do you mean?
ANSWER: For an adult to try to corrupt a child.
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QUESTION: Well I feel that it is my fault.But he thinks that we are in a relationship and I keep telling him,so how do I convince him and does this mean that I can not get married now?
Answer How about telling me who he is by making this a private reply? For the record you are not in any kind of relationship, regardless of whether its online or not, unless you want to be and wanting to be has to be for both people otherwise it is a form of bullying more frequently called stalking.
When you are older you may freely do as you wish for what you have experienced is not loss of virginity. Cybersex is at best a delusional emotion it may seem real but it is not.
Rhyn
