About Janelle Marks Expertise I can answer most questions about Online Romance/Dating. How to keep an Online Relationship without complications. How to keep it heathly. What to do? How to go about telling others?
Experience Currently have two online relationship books in publication, due out Dec 17, 2006
Publications www.lulu.com, whispy.com
Education/Credentials Research for Online romance for 8 years.
My name is Janice and I am married with two children. When I met my husband he was working in the airport. he met this single lady from his country, Ghana and they became friends. I did not really like the idea. She is now a single parent. She is very educated and has a good job but she can't find a husband. My husband said she always asked him for advice and if he does not have money, she borrows him the money. I said to my husband, this lady will not have respect for you, if you are always borrowing money from her. My husband cannot handle finances. I think this makes her feel important and that my husband cannot live without her. Last week her daugher came to the door and said to my husband, here is a bag of rice for you, I thought this was very rude, considering my husband is married with two children. I think he discusses our finances with this lady and I am not happy about this. She always wants to help him, why? is this. We can manage on our own, I wish she would get married and let us get on with our relationship.
Janice Nartey
ANSWER: Morning Janice,
I have had many questions likes yours. Many married people have no idea what is actually going on when things like this happen. Your husband can be just friends with this woman which is fine. However, many things you are telling me are signs that he is either having a "fling" or something is going on. I am going to be honest with you, it doesn't sound to me as if they are friends.
Has anything changed between you two? Sexually? Communications? Has anything tragic happened in your life lately?
Sometimes these little things change about how a person acts or feels.
You can approach your husband and tell him how you feel.
I do suggest you communicate with him about your feelings, or you may not have it under control later.
Please write me back so I can advise you better with your answers.
Thank you
Janelle
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QUESTION: Hello Janelle
Why do u think he is having a fling with this lady
Janice
Answer Good Morning Janice,
My reasoning behind the fling is basically because no man/spouse should have any other woman in his life pay for anything inside or outside the marriage. The way you stated "Last week her daugher came to the door and said to my husband, here is a bag of rice for you, I thought this was very rude, considering my husband is married with two children. I think he discusses our finances with this lady and I am not happy about this" shows that you also see your husband doing something that should not be done.
I think deep down inside you know whats going on, the question is do you want to face it? Please forgive me if I sound rude however, again, no married man or spouse for that reason, should be looking towards another woman for any type of outside help.
I really do wish you the best. You can always send me a new email and let me know how things are.
Thank you
Janelle
