Aboutvanessaoz Expertise I love helping people and and some may say that I am a very chatting and friendly person. I can offer advice to people who are in long distance or a different cultural online relationship as I have experienced both. I know how hard it can be and how heartbreaking it can be but I also know how rewarding they can be.
i live in australia so depending where you live my time frame for answering may differ but i will try to answer within 24 hours of receiving your question.
Experience I have experience with online relationships and having friends who are in one or have had them, I know the highs and lows that can come from being in one, especially long distance. I have been online for five years and met many people from different cultures.
Question QUESTION: Me and my Girlfriend have kept a relationship online now for a year. We are
actually quite young to be doing this, i believe. But i love her very much and
cant think about not "being with her". We talk a lot about our love for each
other witch keeps us going. But im starting to realize that its not all about
love. We talk every day and i feel like i don't know half of her. I mean she
doesn't express her feelings to me like i want. How can i get her to talk
more? And i would like to know if talking to her everyday is a good idea or
not?
ANSWER: hi david..
thanks for your question..
even for adults its hard to keep a long distance relationship going for a long time.
i can tell that you have strong feelings for her and seem to be very open with her. she might just be finding it hard to open up to you due to her age and how mature she is. you might be expecting more from her then she can give you right now.
i beleive in good honest communication to keep a relationship working well, so i dont see any harm in talking everyday unless your whole focus is her and then that can be not healthy for you. you need other interests as well.
maybe she is feeling you coming on too strong and she doesnt know how to ask you step back a little, she may be feeling boxed in by you, so just be careful.
you are right, a relationship is not just about love, there are so many other emotions and feelings involved in creating a lasting relationship. common interests, humour and being a good listener to name a few.
whether you decide to not talk everyday is up to you both, i think it would be good if you missed few days now and then. have you heard the old saying ' absence makes the heart grow fonder' well its very true. sometimes we dont know what have until we dont have it anymore.
hope this helps you a little
good luck
vanessaoz
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QUESTION: Yes that helps a lot.
Yes i am very open with her. Thats because we started of as best friends on
XBOX LIVE™.
That has changed though. I mean changing our relationship from best friends
to Boyfriend - Girlfriend.
Its hard for me to think of her as a best friend now that she is the my girl
friend.
All i can think about is how not to make her mad.
Can you help me figure out how to keep a good friendship as well as love life.
Answer hi david,
you cant keep worrying about making her happy all the time. you can work on keeping her happy but for reason that come up in normal relationhips there will be times that no matter what you do, she wont be happy.
focus on being the best friend/boyfriend you can be to her and hopefully that will keep her happy most of the time.
