Aboutvanessaoz Expertise I love helping people and and some may say that I am a very chatting and friendly person. I can offer advice to people who are in long distance or a different cultural online relationship as I have experienced both. I know how hard it can be and how heartbreaking it can be but I also know how rewarding they can be.
i live in australia so depending where you live my time frame for answering may differ but i will try to answer within 24 hours of receiving your question.
Experience I have experience with online relationships and having friends who are in one or have had them, I know the highs and lows that can come from being in one, especially long distance. I have been online for five years and met many people from different cultures.
Question QUESTION: *Follow-up limit*
The girl hook up with 2 guys since I admitted my feelings for her, and she did the same to me.We agreed that friendship is best for now, but we also agreed to share what happened to each one of us, and to tell what we feel that we should tell...
Today she sent me a e-mail kind of showing that she likes me in a way she never done before, I never felt so loved by one person before and a part of me wants to try something with her. So, what are the tips you can give for us to keep our friendship, without changing it too much?
ANSWER: hi victor,
thanks again for your email..
i think you both are wise in waiting a bit longer to meet and to tell each other how you are feeling.
the best tip i can give is the open and honest. you need good communication and dont make promises that either of you can keep.
remember this is reality and not some fantasy world. people tend to make that mistake over the internet.
be true to who you are and dont try to change yourself for her or anyone else.
when you both meet eventually its easier if you are who you led her to beleive you are.
hope this helps,
good luck
vanessaoz
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QUESTION: I think you misunderstood again... we aren't exactly awaiting to meet(we simple don't have the money right now..) and we aren't hiding our feelings(I think her e-mail shows that)
With the rest I agree, being honest and straight is best to avoid any illusions if this relation is to happen in the future.
But what I really want to know, is if you know any tips for us to keep this friendship without changing it drastically(especially because everything indicates that we are going to be decreasing the time spent online from now on, because of high school and university)
Answer hi victor,
i feel the main tip is to make the best of the time you have together. remember quality over quantity. make that time together special and meaningful.
send e-cards to her to let her know your thinking of her. just because you cant spend so much time together, you can still think of each other and sending email or e-cards are a nice way of showing the affection you have for each other.
