Aboutvanessaoz Expertise I love helping people and and some may say that I am a very chatting and friendly person. I can offer advice to people who are in long distance or a different cultural online relationship as I have experienced both. I know how hard it can be and how heartbreaking it can be but I also know how rewarding they can be.
i live in australia so depending where you live my time frame for answering may differ but i will try to answer within 24 hours of receiving your question.
Experience I have experience with online relationships and having friends who are in one or have had them, I know the highs and lows that can come from being in one, especially long distance. I have been online for five years and met many people from different cultures.
Question I am involved in a relationship with a man I met on facebook. He lives in another country. We have met once so far. I flew to him and we stayed together for five days. He says that he loves me, but I'm doubtful because I see other attractive woman on his page who write to him and he had met these women on the same application where we met. Also, he says that he spends all these weekends with his family and that he lives with a roommate (with whom he just moved in)so sometimes it seems he cannot talk. I just don't know why I don't trust him. One weekend, I got upset and wanted to end it but he said that he felt very sad and that he loves me. Am I overreacting? Meeting someone like this is new to me. Any guidance would be appreciated. Thanks!
Answer hi Feleciamarianne,
thanks for your email....
i dont feel your overreacting,
its not easy maintaining a long distance relationship. the fact that you flew to meet him means you have some idea if he for real or just a player. if you get the feeling he cant be trusted then thats not a good feeling to have and you could be right. you need to have trust in any relationship and without it, well your relationship wont last.
if trust is a big issue for you then it will eventually cause your problems and that isnt healthy at all.
the only options you have are to trust him and accept that he has friends online, or end the relationship because i dont feel he is going to change his online habits.
only you can make that decision because you know him better then me. go with your gut feeling. thats what i tell everyone. you have to be happy and not being able to trust him wont make you happy, as you will always be wondering what he is up too.
