Aboutvanessaoz Expertise I love helping people and and some may say that I am a very chatting and friendly person. I can offer advice to people who are in long distance or a different cultural online relationship as I have experienced both. I know how hard it can be and how heartbreaking it can be but I also know how rewarding they can be.
i live in australia so depending where you live my time frame for answering may differ but i will try to answer within 24 hours of receiving your question.
Experience I have experience with online relationships and having friends who are in one or have had them, I know the highs and lows that can come from being in one, especially long distance. I have been online for five years and met many people from different cultures.
Question I met a guy two months back, he is in a relationship with another woman but has problems with her, he is the only one who puts in all the effort. And he wants kids but she said never, he confides in me about everything he has done for her, not complaining. But he told me he wants to break up with her, she found out about me and break up with him but he asked her back and said he will change. I read the sms's without him knowing, now I dont understand him. Why should he lie to himself? When I asked him to split he said its fine cos he does'nt wanna hurt me. Then he tells me he might regret leaving me, I honestly don't understand. Please help me. He asked for space and I agreed. I know to forget him is the best thing to do, but at the back of my mind something says I should be patient with him. What do I do?
Answer hi joyce,
thanks for your email...
personally, i feel you should forget him and move on. he has had a chance to break up with this woman but decided not too. he cant have his cake and eat it too. some men like the attention of more then one woman. if your expecting a relationship with him, i dont feel he is ready to commit to either of you right now.
you deserve better then to be just hanging around 'just' in case he decides to leave this othe woman. you shouldnt have to do this. he may never leave her, then where does that leave you???
you need to ask him just how he feels about you and be honest about how you feel about him.
the fact he sked her back and said he would change for her, means to me, he isnt thinking about you and how you feel. maybe he sees you just as a good friend but you need to know where you stand. don't play the other woman, you will never win.
