Expert: vanessaoz - 7/15/2009

Question
I met a guy online and we really hit it off. We chat for several hours every
week day about any and everything. We spend weekends apart and catch up
with each other on Monday's. We've talked about everything from our families
to water heaters and politcs. He also has showed me different pictures of
himself when he was little. We've talked about our ex's and what we want in
the future. He also says when he talks to me, time flies by. Today he said I
was a great friend and that I was dear to him. Do I have a chance? Should I
risk our friendship? Its been a great 3 months and I dont know if I want to
lose him as a friend. Thanks for any help you can give!

Answer
hi jamie,

thanks for your email,

you sound like you both have developed a wonderful friendship, with many things in common. being able to talk about anything and everything is step in the right direction for a deeper relationship in the future.

three months is not a long time and you both are still getting to know one another, i always feel its the best part of a new relationshop, like a honeymoon stage, your learning about what makes each other tick, their likes and dislikes and your bound to feel closer to each other at this time.

i think you do have a chance with him, take things slowly but still dont be afraid to say how you feel. tell him that in the time you have been together it feels like a lifetime and getting to know him is wonderful. you could tell him that you feel a closeness to him and enjoy his company very much.

take each day as it comes, if the opportunity comes and you feel its the right time to express how you are feeling, then just do it. i beleive in being upfront with your feelings. i dont think you will lose his friendship.

good luck,
vanessaoz