Aboutvanessaoz Expertise I love helping people and and some may say that I am a very chatting and friendly person. I can offer advice to people who are in long distance or a different cultural online relationship as I have experienced both. I know how hard it can be and how heartbreaking it can be but I also know how rewarding they can be.
i live in australia so depending where you live my time frame for answering may differ but i will try to answer within 24 hours of receiving your question.
Experience I have experience with online relationships and having friends who are in one or have had them, I know the highs and lows that can come from being in one, especially long distance. I have been online for five years and met many people from different cultures.
Question Hi I've been talking to this guy who i met online 2 years ago! we live 15 mins away, which isn't too bad and it doesn't bother me. I'm 17 and he's just turned 21. we get along so well and we can just have conversations about anything, i definitely know he's real and he's not a pervert at all; I've seen him on webcam and talked to him on the phone loads. I've never got along with any other guy as well as i do with him, i cant stop thinking about him and I'm falling for him so bad! I've tried to avoid these feelings and tried not texting him for a few days but i just end up texting him.
he's so genuine and respectful and seems pretty loyal, we text each other nearly everyday and have done for atleast a year! he says he cares about me and says he's going to ask me to be his girlfriend when we've met, But the problem is he keeps saying i'd say no. ive told him i won't and for him to stop worrying so much! recently he hasn't been texting me as much and its been me who's been texting him first.. and he allways replies (i don't want to sound desperate to him though) I have got a few guys that like me, but i only want this guy! does he think he isn't good enough for me? Is he stringing me along?
We've been saying we want to meet for months now and i'm getting so frustrated and confused about it all. I've told him when i'm free and not doing anything and hinted at him to set a date to meet up and he manages to slightly change the subject. I sometimes think he doesnt want me but when he texts me he says he loves talking to me and says he talks about me to his mates, and when i tell him i'm ill he says he doesnt want me poorly etc.. please help I'm really confused!
Answer hi gemm,
thanks for your email.....
this guy sounds very nice by what you have written to me. what you need to remember is,girls mature much earlier then guys and maybe its his immaturity that is holding him back from wanting to meet up with you.
i will take your word that he isnt a pervert as you have seen him on webcam and spoken to him on phone, but you still need to be careful with anyone you meet online or offline.
one thing about the internet is that you can be less inhibited, so you tend to say how you feel because you not with them face to face, its feels easier to express how you feel, like texting. maybe he is shy and finding it difficult to meet with you, that will pass the more you both communicate with each other and the more you know each other, though in saying that you have known each other for two years.
i just hope he is not hiding something that he hasnt told you the truth about, this can happen too and a reason why a lot of internet relationships fail. honesty and trust are two main ingredients in any relationship but online its very important.
if you really want to meet him, then dont let him drop the subject, just keep askig him is there a problem and maybe you can help him overcome it. that is the only way you going to find out. dont let him use any more excuses and i dont think you sound desperate.
