Aboutvanessaoz Expertise I love helping people and and some may say that I am a very chatting and friendly person. I can offer advice to people who are in long distance or a different cultural online relationship as I have experienced both. I know how hard it can be and how heartbreaking it can be but I also know how rewarding they can be.
i live in australia so depending where you live my time frame for answering may differ but i will try to answer within 24 hours of receiving your question.
Experience I have experience with online relationships and having friends who are in one or have had them, I know the highs and lows that can come from being in one, especially long distance. I have been online for five years and met many people from different cultures.
Question I have been having problems with my long distance, online boyfriend of two years. We have met once, and had had plans to meet a second time until he was barred entry to the United States. We have had more break ups and make ups than I care to count. I know one of our biggest problems is communication, and I was wondering how to fix this. We always seem to be on opposite pages, and a lot of the time it seems impossible to talk to him. If I do not reply to him instantly on instant messenger he gets very upset and very paranoid. He is constantly afraid that because he is so far away I will find someone closer to me that is more interesting and leave him, which I can understand.. But how do I get him to step back and calm down? What do you suggest for improving communication? We were great together and I absolutely love him, but he is driving me crazy.
Answer hi megan,
thanks for your email,
the only way to make someone communicate better is to keep communcating as much as possible. you have been together for 2 years now, so he shouldnt be shy around you. the fact that he gets upset if you dont reply quicker or is worried about you finding someone else shows his insecurities and that isnt good. if he loves you, then he will be should be able to trust you.
there must be a reason he is barred from entering USA, ihope its nothing too serious.
im glad you have met once and hope you do get to meet again, with all your breakups and getting back together, you needd to work out what is causing these breakups and work on these issues if you want a long term relationship with him.
long distance relationships are hard to maintain and if you having doubts then you need to talk to him about them,otherwise your relationship wont last. honesty,trust and good communication are the keys to any successfull relationship, online or offline.
