Aboutvanessaoz Expertise I love helping people and and some may say that I am a very chatting and friendly person. I can offer advice to people who are in long distance or a different cultural online relationship as I have experienced both. I know how hard it can be and how heartbreaking it can be but I also know how rewarding they can be.
i live in australia so depending where you live my time frame for answering may differ but i will try to answer within 24 hours of receiving your question.
Experience I have experience with online relationships and having friends who are in one or have had them, I know the highs and lows that can come from being in one, especially long distance. I have been online for five years and met many people from different cultures.
Question Hi my name is natalie. I am 17 years old and my boyfriend is almost 21. We met online in a chatroom in the fall of 2007 and we've talked been eversince. The first time we talked we both felt a connection and not long after did we fall in love with eachother. Its been almost 2 years now and he's planning on visiting me. He lives in DC and I live in Mass. In a way I'm worried about what it will be like meeting him in person because I don't want to let him down or have the emotions we've been feeling to not be there. I love him so much and cannot see my life without him but I just don't know how to transition from online to real life. We've talked on the phone once but my parents don't know about him so I'm hesitant to talk with him while their home. So I'm just wondering how and when I should tell my parents about him because he means the world to me I just am afraid of how my parents will take it.
Answer hi natalie,
thanks for your email...
its perfectly natural for you to feel the way you do about making that transition from online to real life.
sometimes feelings can change once you both meet, he may not have the same personality that you have grown to love or you both may not be physically attracted to one another. then again, it might you both might just 'click' instantly when you meet. you wont know this until the time comes. its easy to be relaxed online but meeting is something very different.
as long as you are the same person online that you are offline then you shouldnt have to change who you are. just be yourself and things will come naturally.
i would talk to your parents, just tell them that you have a good friend that you met online and you would like them to meet him. be upfront and honest and dont go behind their backs because nothing works out when you go about hiding things from your parents. also, you have to think of your safety, dont go meeting anyone without letting either your parents or a friend know where your going too.
im sure this guy is perfectly safe but you cant take any chances because like i said, some people are very different offline then online.
