About Rhyn Essence Expertise I am freely able to answer any type of question in respect of expectation, emotional need, desire, living with fantasies and the cold harsh reality that frequently fails to match expectations.
Experience I formerly advised on this site until about 2002 when physical ill health forced me to withdraw from just about every interest that I had. Previous to allexperts I'd run through the emotional minefield of online relationships myself. Recognising that while a professional may take a keen interest in human motives and behaviour that there isn't a hard and fast template which can be applied to various individual sets of circumstances, regardless of what they want you to believe.
Past/Present Clients Numerous enquirers using the AllExperts route. I've answered questions regarding religious differences, dealing with the difficulties of addictions and spousal abuse. Age knows no barriers in respect of online relationships and even cultural differences are swept aside, though that can lead too additional difficulties.
Question Please help me. I am a female and I have several male friends on the internet but want them to stay that way because I have a boyfriend. However, they seem unhappy to just stay at communicating online and want to meet up. What is wrong with these guys?
Tiddles
Answer Hi Tiddles,
Well I suppose its really down to how strongly they feel with regard to your mutual online interaction. Are they aware of your boyfriends existence? Or indeed of your other online friends.
If you've positively insisted to them that they are friends and nothing more and they persist, then there is only one solution, say goodbye to them.
Of course encouragement can be a two sided affair...if for example these friends are online cyber lovers who have been informed of your boundaries yet they constantly try to expand your limits. Delete them, yes I know it looks harsh but its no less disdainful than what they're trying to do.
However, on a note of caution, some people frequently get caught up in the fantasy of the moment and say things they don't really mean beyond the fantasy act. Only you Tiddles can decide which part of my advice is really that relative to your own circumstances.
