About Stefani Barner Expertise I have been a practicing Witch (Reclaiming Tradition) for over 15 years and am the author of "Faith and Magick in the Armed Forces, a Handbook for Pagans in the Military" (the definitive guidebook for minority faiths in the military). I have taught, lectured and led rituals at Convocation (www.convocation.org) for many years and I can answer questions about:
- Paganism
- Wicca
- Santeria
- Unitarian-Universalism
- Interfaith Dialogue
- Military Pagan life
- God/dess (Perceptions of Deity)
- Ethics
- Parenting
- Relationships
- Coven Leadership & Group Dynamics
- Spellwork
- Ritual construction
- Sabbats
- Rites of Passage
- Apologetics
If you have a question about nearly anything within the realm of modern Paganism, Witchcraft and Liberal Religion, I have an answer for you!
Experience Practicing Witch for over fifteen years. Founding member of the Heart of Isis Womyn's Ritual Fellowship. Student of Santeria for five years (child of Obatala). Expert on Pagan Military Affairs and author of Faith and Magick in the Armed Forces: A Guidebook for Pagans in the Military (Llewellyn, 2008).
Organizations Member of the National Organization for Human Services, Unitarian Universalist Service Committee, Military Families Speak Out and Military Pagan Alliance.
Publications Air Force Times Newspapers, Detroit News & Free Press, newWitch. Speechwriter for several nonprofit advocacy groups & military organizations. Published author.
Education/Credentials Degree in Human Service; advanced training in Crisis Intervention and Conflict Resolution. Professional mediator. Currently studying for my Masters of Divinity.
Awards and Honors NOHS Outstanding Student of the Year (awarded for undergraduate performance).
Question I am not very familiar with Pagan/Wiccan religion. However, I became friends with an experienced Pagan. It was only after he became comfortable (or trusted me), that he shared his beliefs. I felt a very strong connection with him, which only grew the more we got to know each other. It was as if we looked beyond/through each other's eyes. Sometimes it felt like I could see into his soul. We did not have a sexual relationship, but there was an intimacy. He was concerned that as he revealed more of his practices/beliefs, that it might scare me. Although I might not understand Pagan/Wiccan religion and practices, the energy and connection I feel with/from him is amazing. I guess my question or hope is that you might be able to give me some insight regarding the connection or energy. I was raised in a Christian household, but feel such a strong pull. Would appreciate any feedback. Thanks.
Answer Rechel,
It sounds to me as if this has nothing to do with your religion, or that of your friend. Every so often, we find people with whom we have a strong affinity that often leads to deep, life-long friendships. It sounds like you were lucky enough to find such a person. His religious practice has nothing to do with the strong connection that you feel.
