AboutDebbie Preece Expertise Feeling like a frustrated parent? Learn how to get first-time obedience,cheerfully and happily from children 4-14. Designed for the easy use of Mom and the children keep it going. This Christian author has sold more than 4,000 copies of her remarkable system to thousands of battle-weary parents who are trying desperately to raise children that contribute to a happy family, better society and love of God. She has spoken to standing room only audiences that laugh and cry with her as she shares her insightful discovery of a unique parenting tool that she declares is a gift from God.
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Experience One desperate night after a very trying day, while raising three children four years apart, Debbie found herself in "Shock" with the behavior of her children and frustrated with her parenting skills. Her home had become a Combat Zone and she was the prisoner! The "Golden Rule" wasn't working. It seemed the more she did for her children, the more selfish and demanding they became.
Teaching internal values like integrity and honesty; as well as, happy mommy and family values, such as, children responding the first time happily and cheerfully were a ‘mission impossible’. The consistency factor on the parenting side was booby trapped by the troops all day long.
That night, after holding up her flag of surrender, she sent an emergency S.O.S. to her commander in chief and a new battle plan was developed that virtually guaranteed her survival and that of her family. What resulted in 1983 was “The Happy Face Token System.” Her sigh of relief (AHH!) could be heard in the form of happy children responding with; "What can I do for you Mommy? May I set the table? You’re the BEST MOMMY IN THE WHOLE WORLD!" She had gained control of her family and a truce had been accepted with this most remarkable interactive parenting tool. Consistency was a built-in feature of this now “Kid Tested & Mother Approved” INTERACTIVE experience.
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My family recently moved to the same town my sister's family lives in. We live less than a mile from each other and see each other alot.
The problem is with my 11 year old daughter and my 6 year old niece. They always end up arguing!! They both have said hurtful things to each other and my niece has even taken it to a physical level.
We don't know what to do. We recently decided not to see each other as much, but that doesn't seem fair to all of us who do get along.
It bothers my daughter very much. She talks about it to me and often gets upset and cries about it. (I think she cries because she thinks no one is on her side, not because she is remorseful) It does not seem to bother my niece as much - one unheartfelt "I'm sorry" and she is over it.
Do you have any ideas about what we could do?
Answer Hi Kristie,
It's hard to understand children at times, but maybe there is a jealousy issue going on. It could also be just the difference in ages. My suggestion would be to have your 11 year old, bring a friend she can play with and ignore the cousin for a while unil she gets the idea. That often solves the problems of only playing with even number of friends. Learning to play with odd number automatically instills politeness and consideration among all. Hope this helps. Good luck, Debbie
