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About Debbie Preece
Expertise
Feeling like a frustrated parent? Learn how to get first-time obedience,cheerfully and happily from children 4-14. Designed for the easy use of Mom and the children keep it going. This Christian author has sold thouands of copies of her remarkable system to battle-weary parents' who are trying desperately to raise children that contribute to a happy family, better society and love of God. She has spoken to standing room only audiences that laugh and cry with her as she shares her insightful discovery of a unique parenting tool that she declares is a gift from God. http://biblebasedparenting101.com

Experience
One desperate night after a very trying day, while raising three children four years apart, Debbie found herself in "Shock" with the behavior of her children and frustrated with her parenting skills. Her home had become a Combat Zone and she was the prisoner! The "Golden Rule" wasn't working. It seemed the more she did for her children, the more selfish and demanding they became. Teaching internal values like integrity and honesty; as well as, happy mommy and family values, such as, children responding the first time happily and cheerfully were a ‘mission impossible’. The consistency factor on the parenting side was booby trapped by the troops all day long. That night, after holding up her flag of surrender, she sent an emergency S.O.S. to her commander in chief and a new battle plan was developed that virtually guaranteed her survival and that of her family. What resulted in 1983 was “The Happy Face Token System.” Her sigh of relief (AHH!) could be heard in the form of happy children responding with; "What can I do for you Mommy? May I set the table? You’re the BEST MOMMY IN THE WHOLE WORLD!" She had gained control of her family and a truce had been accepted with this most remarkable interactive parenting tool. Consistency was a built-in feature of this now “Kid Tested & Mother Approved” INTERACTIVE experience. http://dissdcourtesy.com

Publications
From Combat Zone to Love at Home (book)
http://floridabestmom.com http://happyfacetokens.com http://biblebasedparenting101.com http://dissdcourtesy.com http://happyfacetokens.home.att.net

Education/Credentials
REVIEW:If we are to take the Lord God as our model in raising children, then the implication is that we should also provide appropriate rewards. I have never wanted to "bribe" our children into compliance, so I found the following excerpt from Debbie Preece's book very interesting: She notes that: ". . . according to Webster's Dictionary a bribe is: 'Anything especially money-given or promised to induce a person to do something illegal or wrong.' . . . Webster's defines a blessing as, 'The gift of divine favor. Anything that gives happiness or prevents misfortune.' This book is packed with fun ideas like "The Slothful Servant Quarantine," as well as practical charts and ideas. Altogether a very valuable resource to aid you in child training and setting up and enforcing chores. Lorrie Flem, Editor of TEACH Magazine author's note:The SLOTHFUL SERVANT ROOM QUARANTINE is designed for ages 8-18. This provides a simple and effective way to get children to clean their rooms to your specifics. They can't use the room until the QUARANTINE is taken down by you.

Awards and Honors
HAPPY PARENT AWARD EDUCATIONAL CLEARING HOUSE "With From Combat Zone To Love At Home, the weight is off of your shoulders, because the program sets the rules of the game in place. OUTSTANDING PRODUCT FOR OUTSTANDING RESULTS."For very little out of the pocket expense, you can gain some order and peace in your home. All of the charts, tokens etc. are all included in the book... Full instructions are included on the tape, she walks you thru it, in it's entirety. Lorrie Flem, Editor of TEACH Magazine:Chore and Behavior Systems-SUPERIOR PRODUCT RATING "I have long been engrossed in trying to find the perfect chore and behavior system for my family to use. This illusive system must be easy to implement, inexpensive, appealing to mother and children, and of course, effective. FROM COMBAT ZONE TO LOVE AT HOME is one of my favorites."

Past/Present Clients
REVIEW: I've just begun listening to the audio tape of your seminar and also reading your book about your Wonderful system. I'm excited to think that perhaps I've found system that might actually work! I too have tried everything I can think of to achieve the results you talk about. My spirit quickened when you talked about the analogy of the Garden of Eden and I'm anxious to get started. Sincerely and gratefully, Julie M Oklahoma City, OK, REVIEW: I am so excited about your book. My sister in law brought it on our family camp out and in the four days we were there I read it twice and discussed it heavily with my husband. We are ready to get started. We started trying to use the system while we were camping and the change in our children was incredible. Michelle G. Phoenix, AZ

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Parenting K-6 Kids - 6 year old-hitting in aftercare

Expert: Debbie Preece - 10/28/2009

Question
My 6 year old son is a very sweet cuddly boy, who loves to hug and kiss. Recently at his aftercare program a little girl called him a name and he choked her. I am very concerned that this may be a clue to a bad temper in the future. What can I do to make sure that this is addressed properly so that it does not happen again. He is my only child and I want to make sure that he never hurts anyone.

Answer
Hi Stressed Mom,
I have felt stressed over such things as well. Sometimes it's as simple as the fact that the child doesn't know how it feels to be choked or bitten, but the reaction they get from it sometimes empowers them to do it again. Sometimes it is brought on by stress and not understanding how to express the feelings they have. Sometimes it is by example that they see or live with. There are other examples, but these will suffice for now.

Is he feeling secure in school? Does he have friends? What kinds of reports is the teacher sending home? If all seems well, perhaps he is just trying something he has seen others do for effect.

For sure, a question of what provoked it or why he did it should be explored. My 5 year old kindergartener came home one day and as we were looking at something together, (heads in each other's way) he said, "move your butt!" That is not an acceptable word in our family, we say behind or rear end. I instictively began to lecture him, but I felt I should ask him what the word butt means. He said, "your head,silly." So I told him what it was and he felt bad but said all the kids at school say that word. We had a teaching moment.

The Happy Face Token System is very good in teaching acceptable behavior in your home as well as academic and social skills. It gives you informative information as to what is happening while your child is away and you can reward him with tokens when he reports his day to you. For instance, when my Kindergartener comes home, I ask him to show me his papers. Usually, they stay in his backpack until he's ready for bed, but because I give tokens for every "happy face" mark from the teacher, he wants me to see them first.

You could use the tokens to help your child resist bad behavior and choose to be nice and try to ignore it or make a new friend. When he comes home ask him how his day was and did he have any experiences that he could earn tokens for. He'll tell you and what's more, his teacher will probably let you know what is happening as well.

I offer discounts for all expert parents. Check my web site and review the Token system. It is an answer to a desperate mom from a Father in Heaven that wanted me to be happy. It is made and developed for busy moms and kid approved instantly. I used it over 10 years in my home and I have been using it since my kindergartener grandson was 3 1/2. It has been very dramatic.
Good luck, Debbie

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