Parenting K-6 Kids/Grandson
My g son is four almost five from divorced parents when he was two split custody he is with us grandma dad granddad and brother 47 percent of the time mostly he is a good kid but lately he has started sneaking up and hitting his grand mother in the back and every time his mother comes to pick him up he smacks her in the back or tackles her from behind now he is also doing this to his grandmother then laughing about so far we the grand parents have done the time out thing and talking firmly that this not allowed in our house and giving him the evil. Eye look which bothers him the most buthe continues to do this we can understand with his mother because she is mostly a tramp and he gets tried of being hauled around but can not figure out why he does it to his loving gmother
This is a learned behavior, which can be unlearned as well. He is only 4 years(almost 5)You may try sitting him down explaining that not only should he not smack his grandmother on her back, but he is not to hit anyone.( Including his mother) You can explain that this type of behavior is unacceptable, that it is not funny, that it makes you and grandma sad when you see him putting his hands on his grandmother except to show her love.
I am sure he gets a response when he smacks his grandmother on her back. You may want to not make a big deal out of it(Attention getting on his part.)This may take a few weeks to work. Have everyone to ignore(look away no comments) this behavior except the grandmother.
The more attention and responses he gets the more he will continue the behavior. Have grandmother handle the situation by getting at eye level with her grandson and stating firmly. "You may not smack me on my back or anywhere else, that is rude and makes grandma unhappy please do not do that again" If you do then I will.....You decide what the consequences will be. ( Remember time out should be for five minutes based upon his age)
I agree he is going through a lot right now and needs a little extra attention and loving, but should not be allowed to be rude.
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