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If a 12 year old girl is scared, why would she like it when a adult man that she has never seen before gives her a big hug and kiss?

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Dear Info;

The behavior you describe could be due to many factors, including a child with limited intellectual ability, certain personality disorders, history of abuse or neglect, defiance of parental rules, to name a few. As an isolated event, a discussion with the child regarding dangers associated w/ such behavior would be in order. The phrase, "why would she like it," could also represent many parental interpretations, some accurate, some possibly inaccurate.

When a pattern of such behavior is observed, assessment by a well trained child therapist or psychiatrist is advisable. This question is not amenable to a quick answer.

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Alan M. Davick, M.D.

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As a Johns Hopkins trained Developmental-Behavioral Pediatrician with 40 years experience, I have focused on distinguishing underlying willful, poor choice-making (like Oppositional-Defiant Disorder)from innate "conditions" masquerading as willful misbehavior (like ADHD, Autistic Spectrum Disorders, Bipolar Disorders, Cerebral Palsy, Developmental Delay, Epilepsy and "Behavioral" Seizures). Though I cannot act as a formal medical or psychiatric consultant, I will answer queries with generic information and suggestions for discussion readers may direct to their own professional advisers, including physicians, psychologists and educators.

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I trained at the Johns Hopkins Medical Institutions in Pediatrics, Child Psychiatry and Behavioral-Developmental Pediatrics. Thereafter, I've continuously practiced Behavioral-Developmental Pediatrics and have taught the principles mentioned above to parents, colleagues and professional groups.

Organizations
American Academy of Pediatrics SW Florida Sportsman's Association Florida Writers Association

Publications
First Travel Meds - 1987; Managing Misbehavior in Kids: The Mis/Kidding Process; Bullying: Rarely Travels Alone; Discipline Your Child (without going to jail); AD(H)D: What Every Parent Needs to Know

Education/Credentials
Undergraduate - NY University WSC Arts & Science, NYC 1959-63 - B.A. Medical Degree- State University of NY, Upstate Med Ctr, Syracuse 1963-67 - M.D. Internship/Residency - Johns Hopkins Hosp/University - Baltimore, MD 1967-70 Major, US Army Medical Corps, Chief Pediatric Section, Savannah, GA - 1970-72 Sp. Fellow, Dept Child Psychiatry - Johns Hopkins Hospital/University - 1972-73 Practicing Behavioral-Developmental Pediatrician, lecturer, author - to date Currently practicing Child Psychiatry - SalusCareFlorida, Fort Myers, FL.

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