About Melinda Mantilla Expertise I am able to answer lots of questions such as behavior, discipline, arts and craft tips, clean-up tips, I can assist in dealing with the stress of raising twins, I can assist in problem resolving and also single parenting.
Experience I have an eleven year old and a 3 year old, and was a single mom for many years, I was a nanny to twin boys who were six years old and was a nanny for a 2 year old and his 2 month old sister! I also worked in a child care center and preschool for about 2-3 years, I do other babysitting and have attended several workshops. I have read TONS of books and guided many parents in my life, none of which have come back telling me I was wrong. I have dealt with the shy child, the over-excited child, the abused child, and am open to discuss just about any situation.
Question my 6 yr old is in kindy,she cries every day when i leave her .i am a parent helper at the school but even then when i need to leave she cries. ive been told that she usually settles very quickly after ive left although iam very concerned now what effect this is having on her.she is a quiet and shy girl and does not like to have her surroundings interupted .she loves having her friends over although she does not like to visit other peoples homes unless iam with her.early on in the year there was a teacher change as she left and its become very difficult since then. she has an older sister 22 yrs old and a brother 17 yrs old.bothe myself and her dad spend a lot of time with her she is loved and cared for very well.i have tried explaining to her that if she continues this way i will not be allowed to be a parent helper as its disrupting the class.iam very worried and tired and have started to dread the school mornings.she tells me that she loves me and misses me thats why she gets upset when i leave her and i always tell her that i too love her and miss her but she will have lots of fun at school with her friends and she has plenty of kids that love her and want to play with her.what have i done wrong with her?
Answer Vesna,
Oh that sounds terrible! I am sorry for the delayed response in answering this question!
My recommendation is that you try to leave her more often. But the process of leaving her needs to be the least amount of drama possible. When you are going to leave then have teacher or other caregiver involve your daughter in something and then announce you have to run to the store and you will be RIGHT back. And hugs kisses and leave. No drama, no crying, etc. JUST LEAVE!!!
Try this, it will not be easy in the beginning so just keep at it, it will get easier as she sees you leave more and come back more, then the seperation will get easier. She just has seperation anxiety, but this too shall pass...
