About Mona R. Spiegel, Ph.D. Expertise I am a licensed psychologist and professional coach. I have been guiding parents and their children for over 25 years and now specialize in coaching women on the telephone for parenting, relationship and personal life issues.
Experience After receiving my Ph.D. in 1977 from Columbia University, I became licensed in New York State as a psychologist. I worked for many years in schools and subsequently as a private clinician. Most recently, I have received training from a professional coaching institute to provide services on the telephone.
Organizations American Psychological Association
International Coaching Federation
Publications MFC Newsletter and Dr. Mona's blog @ http://www.myfamilycoach.com .
Question Hi I'm a single mom of a 8 year old boy. Recently he told me that his dad, who he's very close with, had a shower with his girlfriend while my son was there. I was appalled!!! My son said to me "but don't worry mom it's not what you think one of them must of been waiting their turn."
Is this healthy or am I over reacting?
Answer Hi, Dari.
I understand your shock at your son's report. Obviously, it's hard to assess the situation and whether you're overreacting to it.
Depending on your relationship with your ex, you might speak to him about it in a tactful manner. Alternatively, you could question your son further as to where he sleeps and how he knows what his father does in private. Lastly, you could leave the topic alone and monitor the situation to see what comes up in the future.
The only approach that would not be helpful is to react emotionally, in a panic, and accuse someone of inappropriate behavior when you don't know that it happened.
Dr. Mona Spiegel
"My Family Coach"
www.myfamilycoach.com
