About Melinda Mantilla Expertise I am able to answer lots of questions such as behavior, discipline, arts and craft tips, clean-up tips, I can assist in dealing with the stress of raising twins, I can assist in problem resolving and also single parenting.
Experience I have an eleven year old and a 3 year old, and was a single mom for many years, I was a nanny to twin boys who were six years old and was a nanny for a 2 year old and his 2 month old sister! I also worked in a child care center and preschool for about 2-3 years, I do other babysitting and have attended several workshops. I have read TONS of books and guided many parents in my life, none of which have come back telling me I was wrong. I have dealt with the shy child, the over-excited child, the abused child, and am open to discuss just about any situation.
Question i am at my witts end....my 5 year old daughter is consistantly giving the teacher as well as I a hard time....She doesnt listen and follow directions very well...she screams and hollers...talks back...anything and everything you can think of...today I finally...took her tv and dvd/vcr player out of her room..i had been taking 5 movies out of her room for every offense..but this time...I am seriously fed up...I told her that this was going to happen if she got color changes again today...
My ? is do I do the right thing or did i go too far in the punishment? I am a single parent..and I just want my child to be more respectful and do as told...is grounding her from tv appropiate for her age?
I feel like i am not doing something right..
Sincerely Kristy
Answer Kristy,
Wow!! Well several things...a 5 year old does not need a TV/DVD/orVCR in her room at any rate. I know it seem so easy at night to have her go to sleep watching TV, or for whatever reason, but it is not a good idea! So I would remove it and keep it out all together.
Several points to look at, I wont go into detail on each one but mark them with stars and if need me, email me and I will be happy to clarify some for you...just read through my highlighted points...
*Are you spending quality time with her?
*Does the teacher have expectations that are way to high?
*Have you/Can you set in the class and observer for a day or 1/2 a day?
*Does your daughter need more attention from you? Do you all play games, do puzzles, read together? Do you have a mommy/daughter day?
*Are you dating anyone? Is this person in the home or around your daughter?
I think that is my list...ponder it over, and email me back with your thoughts and input...together we WILL get to the bottom of this, I promise!
