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If my son knows the punishment at home what can i do to get him to stop talking and misbehaving at school. I tried surprising him with negative and positive punishments. He see's me coming to pick him up and starts crying knowing he didn't be have that day. He asked his teachers not to tell me and knows they will. Please help

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I have a wonderful mom/kid friendly system that helps mom get what she wants from the child and the child is happy to give it.  It is called The Happy Face Token System.  It works because the rewards are what the child wants (like I don't want to make my bed) and the parent is paid with happy faces earned by i.e, for each good report I get from your teacher you may have 5 happy faces.  For a while, have the teacher write you a note about the behavior if good.  Use the Reward list, from my book and you'll have the behavior you want for as long as it is needed.  It is an amazing simple plan but it works wonders.  http://floridabestmom.com

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Debbie Preece

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Feeling frustrated with your parenting skills? Learn how to get first-time obedience cheerfully and happily from children 4-14. Designed for the easy use of Mom and the children keep it going. This Christian author has taught this remarkable system, over 25 years, to battle-weary parents' worldwide who are trying desperately to raise children that contribute to a happy family, better society, and love of God. She has spoken to standing room only audiences that laugh and cry with her as she shares her insightful discovery of a unique parenting tool that she declares is a gift from God. The charts actually work and have been kid tested and Mother approved worldwide. The room specific, chore charts provide the accountabiltiy factor(Garden Experience)by providing a "Do/Did" box by each line item task and step by step instructions help develop specific skills and expertise in doing a job well done. Instruction for PMS/PMDD as well as ADD/ADHD and non-compliance behavior. http://biblebasedparenting101.com

Experience

One desperate night after a very trying day, while raising three children four years apart, Debbie found herself in "Shock" with the behavior of her children and frustrated with her parenting skills. Her home had become a Combat Zone and she was the prisoner! The "Golden Rule" wasn't working. It seemed the more she did for her children, the more selfish and demanding they became. Teaching internal values like integrity and honesty and family values, such as, manners and first time obedience happily and cheerfully were a ‘mission impossible’. The consistency factor on the parenting side was booby trapped by the troops all day long. That night, after holding up her flag of surrender, she sent an emergency S.O.S. to her commander in chief and a new battle plan was developed that virtually guaranteed her survival and that of her family. What resulted in 1983 was “The Happy Face Token System.” Her sigh of relief (AHH!) could be heard in the form of happy children responding with; "What can I do for you Mommy? May I set the table? You’re the BEST MOMMY IN THE WHOLE WORLD!" She had gained control of her family and a truce had been accepted with this most remarkable interactive parenting tool. Consistency was a built-in feature of this now “Kid Tested & Mother Approved” INTERACTIVE experience. http://dissdcourtesy.com

Publications
NEW PRINTING: 2010 From Combat Zone to Love at Home: The Happy Face Token System From Combat Zone to Love at Home 1995 (book)
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Education/Credentials
REVIEW: If we are to take the Lord God as our model in raising children, then the implication is that we should also provide appropriate rewards. I have never wanted to "bribe" our children into compliance, so I found the following excerpt from Debbie Preece's book very interesting: She notes that: ". . . according to Webster's Dictionary a bribe is: 'Anything especially money-given or promised to induce a person to do something illegal or wrong.' . . . Webster's defines a blessing as, 'The gift of divine favor. Anything that gives happiness or prevents misfortune.' This book is packed with fun ideas like "The Slothful Servant Quarantine," as well as practical charts and ideas. Altogether a very valuable resource to aid you in child training and setting up and enforcing chores. Lorrie Flem, Editor of TEACH Magazine. author's note: The SLOTHFUL SERVANT ROOM QUARANTINE is designed for ages 8-18. This provides a simple and effective way to get children to clean their rooms to your specifics. They can't use the room until the QUARANTINE is taken down by you. Psychologists refer to this type of reward system as "A Token Economy" or tokenomics as I like to say. It provides a positive, happy experience for compliance and a negative experience, that of losing tokens, when ignored.

Awards and Honors
HAPPY PARENT AWARD EDUCATIONAL CLEARING HOUSE "With From Combat Zone To Love At Home, the weight is off of your shoulders, because the program sets the rules of the game in place." OUTSTANDING PRODUCT FOR OUTSTANDING RESULTS."For very little out of the pocket expense, you can gain some order and peace in your home. All of the charts, tokens etc. are all included in the book... Full instructions are included on the tape, she walks you thru it, in its entirety." Lorrie Flem, Editor of TEACH Magazine:Chore and Behavior Systems-SUPERIOR PRODUCT RATING "I have long been engrossed in trying to find the perfect chore and behavior system for my family to use. This illusive system must be easy to implement, inexpensive, appealing to mother and children, and of course, effective. FROM COMBAT ZONE TO LOVE AT HOME is one of my favorites."

Past/Present Clients
REVIEW: I've just begun listening to the audio tape of your seminar and also reading your book about your Wonderful system. I'm excited to think that perhaps I've found system that might actually work! I too have tried everything I can think of to achieve the results you talk about. My spirit quickened when you talked about the analogy of the Garden of Eden and I'm anxious to get started. Sincerely and gratefully, Julie M Oklahoma City, OK, REVIEW: I am so excited about your book. My sister-in-law brought it on our family camp out and in the four days we were there I read it twice and discussed it heavily with my husband. We are ready to get started. We started trying to use the system while we were camping and the change in our children was incredible. Michelle G. Phoenix, AZ

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