AboutDebbie Preece Expertise Feeling like a frustrated parent? Learn how to get first-time obedience,cheerfully and happily from children 4-14. Designed for the easy use of Mom and the children keep it going. This Christian author has sold thouands of copies of her remarkable system to battle-weary parents' who are trying desperately to raise children that contribute to a happy family, better society and love of God. She has spoken to standing room only audiences that laugh and cry with her as she shares her insightful discovery of a unique parenting tool that she declares is a gift from God.
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Experience One desperate night after a very trying day, while raising three children four years apart, Debbie found herself in "Shock" with the behavior of her children and frustrated with her parenting skills. Her home had become a Combat Zone and she was the prisoner! The "Golden Rule" wasn't working. It seemed the more she did for her children, the more selfish and demanding they became.
Teaching internal values like integrity and honesty; as well as, happy mommy and family values, such as, children responding the first time happily and cheerfully were a ‘mission impossible’. The consistency factor on the parenting side was booby trapped by the troops all day long.
That night, after holding up her flag of surrender, she sent an emergency S.O.S. to her commander in chief and a new battle plan was developed that virtually guaranteed her survival and that of her family. What resulted in 1983 was “The Happy Face Token System.” Her sigh of relief (AHH!) could be heard in the form of happy children responding with; "What can I do for you Mommy? May I set the table? You’re the BEST MOMMY IN THE WHOLE WORLD!" She had gained control of her family and a truce had been accepted with this most remarkable interactive parenting tool. Consistency was a built-in feature of this now “Kid Tested & Mother Approved” INTERACTIVE experience.
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Publications From Combat Zone to Love at Home (book)
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http://happyfacetokens.com
http://biblebasedparenting101.com
http://dissdcourtesy.com
http://happyfacetokens.home.att.net
Education/Credentials REVIEW:If we are to take the Lord God as our model in raising children, then the implication is that we should also provide appropriate rewards. I have never wanted to "bribe" our children into compliance, so I found the following excerpt from Debbie Preece's book very interesting: She notes that: ". . . according to Webster's Dictionary a bribe is: 'Anything especially money-given or promised to induce a person to do something illegal or wrong.' . . . Webster's defines a blessing as, 'The gift of divine favor. Anything that gives happiness or prevents misfortune.' This book is packed with fun ideas like "The Slothful Servant Quarantine," as well as practical charts and ideas. Altogether a very valuable resource to aid you in child training and setting up and enforcing chores. Lorrie Flem, Editor of TEACH Magazine
author's note:The SLOTHFUL SERVANT ROOM QUARANTINE is designed for ages 8-18. This provides a simple and effective way to get children to clean their rooms to your specifics. They can't use the room until the QUARANTINE is taken down by you.
Awards and Honors HAPPY PARENT AWARD
EDUCATIONAL CLEARING HOUSE "With From Combat Zone To Love At Home, the weight is off of your shoulders, because the program sets the rules of the game in place. OUTSTANDING PRODUCT FOR OUTSTANDING RESULTS."For very little out of the pocket expense, you can gain some order and peace in your home. All of the charts, tokens etc. are all included in the book... Full instructions are included on the tape, she walks you thru it, in it's entirety.
Lorrie Flem, Editor of TEACH Magazine:Chore and Behavior Systems-SUPERIOR PRODUCT RATING
"I have long been engrossed in trying to find the perfect chore and behavior system for my family to use. This illusive system must be easy to implement, inexpensive, appealing to mother and children, and of course, effective. FROM COMBAT ZONE TO LOVE AT HOME is one of my favorites."
Past/Present Clients REVIEW: I've just begun listening to the audio tape of your seminar and also reading your book about your Wonderful system. I'm excited to think that perhaps I've found system that might actually work! I too have tried everything I can think of to achieve the results you talk about. My spirit quickened when you talked about the analogy of the Garden of Eden and I'm anxious to get started. Sincerely and gratefully, Julie M Oklahoma City, OK,
REVIEW: I am so excited about your book. My sister in law brought it on our family camp out and in the four days we were there I read it twice and discussed it heavily with my husband. We are ready to get started. We started trying to use the system while we were camping and the change in our children was incredible. Michelle G. Phoenix, AZ
Question My oldest child is 10 years old and is very angry ALL the time. If he is playing with his friends he seems to be OK until he gets mad about something and the whole world is out to get him. The worst part of his behavior is with mom. He has no respect for me and we argue about EVERYTHING. He yells and me and tells me that I don't listen to him. He says he hates me and thinks I favor his 2 younger sisters (age 8 & 3). When my husband I try to help him with anything (sports, homework etc)he goes into a rage telling us we don't know anything but yet if we don't offer to help him, he gets frustrated and more angry. He recently started have "temper tantrums" like a 2 year old, throwing himself on the ground and throwing things. He doesn't have any behavior problems at school and is an A and B student. He doesn't act like this with any other adults except my husband and I. We are at a loss, we've tried grounding, taking privledges away etc. We are scared that he is going to become a troublesome teenager!!!! Help.
Answer Hi Miranda,
I have raised three children and found that the age of 10 was a difficult time for mine as well, but most of all for the first. I am assuming that your 10 year old is in the fifth grade. This is the age when they are in the top of their elementary class, and getting more and more homework and less time to play. More pressure on them because they are the oldest both at home and the school and many other factors. Developmentally, at least in my daughters, hormones are raging, they are developing into adolescence and are not sure why they feel how they do. This is also the age where friends comments matter and they want to be noticed for their contributions. Sometimes, parents become the villain in their eyes as they try to figure out what's going on with them.
I too had a temper tantrum child develop at this age. I too tried everything I knew to no satisfactory avail. Then I became inspired to start something that popped in my mind. A token system, I called it the Happy Face Tokens because I needed more happy faces in my family. This amazing tool became indispensable and I used it successful and consistently for over 12 years in my family. I found it to be most effective for the strong willed, older child. Within a few weeks of using it, I was tucking her into bed. I leaned down to kiss her good-night and she put her arms around me and said, "Thank you for the happy faces mommy, I feel much better." From that point on I could get her to do pretty much anything I needed, the first time I asked, happily and cheerfully. There were still occasional outbursts, but more controllable. I wrote my story and share my program in a book I wrote called "From Combat Zone to Love at Home" If this sounds like home, maybe some tips from my web site will help. You can begin the Happy Face Token System today and within a week be amazed at the miracle that is taking place. I sell the book and CDrom(printable charts) along with an audio tape of my National parenting lecture that easily teaches the system. I would be happy to send you a book comb at a 10.00 discount ($15.00)and help you with any questions as you begin your happy mommy experience. I offer a 30 day money back guarantee. Check out the site and see if there is something there that sparks your imagination and we'll go from there. http://floridabestmom.com
