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About Debbie Preece
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Feeling like a frustrated parent? Learn how to get first-time obedience,cheerfully and happily from children 4-14. Designed for the easy use of Mom and the children keep it going. This Christian author has sold thouands of copies of her remarkable system to battle-weary parents' who are trying desperately to raise children that contribute to a happy family, better society and love of God. She has spoken to standing room only audiences that laugh and cry with her as she shares her insightful discovery of a unique parenting tool that she declares is a gift from God. http://biblebasedparenting101.com

Experience
One desperate night after a very trying day, while raising three children four years apart, Debbie found herself in "Shock" with the behavior of her children and frustrated with her parenting skills. Her home had become a Combat Zone and she was the prisoner! The "Golden Rule" wasn't working. It seemed the more she did for her children, the more selfish and demanding they became. Teaching internal values like integrity and honesty; as well as, happy mommy and family values, such as, children responding the first time happily and cheerfully were a ‘mission impossible’. The consistency factor on the parenting side was booby trapped by the troops all day long. That night, after holding up her flag of surrender, she sent an emergency S.O.S. to her commander in chief and a new battle plan was developed that virtually guaranteed her survival and that of her family. What resulted in 1983 was “The Happy Face Token System.” Her sigh of relief (AHH!) could be heard in the form of happy children responding with; "What can I do for you Mommy? May I set the table? You’re the BEST MOMMY IN THE WHOLE WORLD!" She had gained control of her family and a truce had been accepted with this most remarkable interactive parenting tool. Consistency was a built-in feature of this now “Kid Tested & Mother Approved” INTERACTIVE experience. http://dissdcourtesy.com

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From Combat Zone to Love at Home (book)
http://floridabestmom.com http://happyfacetokens.com http://biblebasedparenting101.com http://dissdcourtesy.com http://happyfacetokens.home.att.net

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REVIEW:If we are to take the Lord God as our model in raising children, then the implication is that we should also provide appropriate rewards. I have never wanted to "bribe" our children into compliance, so I found the following excerpt from Debbie Preece's book very interesting: She notes that: ". . . according to Webster's Dictionary a bribe is: 'Anything especially money-given or promised to induce a person to do something illegal or wrong.' . . . Webster's defines a blessing as, 'The gift of divine favor. Anything that gives happiness or prevents misfortune.' This book is packed with fun ideas like "The Slothful Servant Quarantine," as well as practical charts and ideas. Altogether a very valuable resource to aid you in child training and setting up and enforcing chores. Lorrie Flem, Editor of TEACH Magazine author's note:The SLOTHFUL SERVANT ROOM QUARANTINE is designed for ages 8-18. This provides a simple and effective way to get children to clean their rooms to your specifics. They can't use the room until the QUARANTINE is taken down by you.

Awards and Honors
HAPPY PARENT AWARD EDUCATIONAL CLEARING HOUSE "With From Combat Zone To Love At Home, the weight is off of your shoulders, because the program sets the rules of the game in place. OUTSTANDING PRODUCT FOR OUTSTANDING RESULTS."For very little out of the pocket expense, you can gain some order and peace in your home. All of the charts, tokens etc. are all included in the book... Full instructions are included on the tape, she walks you thru it, in it's entirety. Lorrie Flem, Editor of TEACH Magazine:Chore and Behavior Systems-SUPERIOR PRODUCT RATING "I have long been engrossed in trying to find the perfect chore and behavior system for my family to use. This illusive system must be easy to implement, inexpensive, appealing to mother and children, and of course, effective. FROM COMBAT ZONE TO LOVE AT HOME is one of my favorites."

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REVIEW: I've just begun listening to the audio tape of your seminar and also reading your book about your Wonderful system. I'm excited to think that perhaps I've found system that might actually work! I too have tried everything I can think of to achieve the results you talk about. My spirit quickened when you talked about the analogy of the Garden of Eden and I'm anxious to get started. Sincerely and gratefully, Julie M Oklahoma City, OK, REVIEW: I am so excited about your book. My sister in law brought it on our family camp out and in the four days we were there I read it twice and discussed it heavily with my husband. We are ready to get started. We started trying to use the system while we were camping and the change in our children was incredible. Michelle G. Phoenix, AZ

 
   

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Parenting K-6 Kids - arguing and doesnt listen


Expert: Debbie Preece - 12/28/2006

Question
how can you get a 7yr old and a6 yr old and a 2yr old to do what they are asked and not have to yell so much and not argue so much with them and their arguing between themselves.  

Answer
Hi Jody
Parenting can be very frustrating.  I used to think that if I lived by the "Golden Rule" (treat others as you would be treated) that my children would respond in kind.  I found, however, that they only got more selfish and stingy and misbehaved.  I discovered that children do what they can get away with.  What I mean by that is, how many times do you have to tell them before you really mean what you say.  I had to discover, that my children really didn't expect that I meant what I said until about the 5th time I said it when I lost my temper with them.  I needed a visual gauge to help me mean what I said.  Through prayer, I discovered "The Happy Face Token System".  Within a week, my children jumped up the first time I called, ran to me, happily and cheerfully and asked, "What can I do for you Mommy?"  This miracle had built in consistency for me and happy results for all in the family.  It is very easy to use and the children love it.  I have a web site that gives insights to some of your concerns and I guarantee my Happy Face Token System unconditionally for 30 days.  I used it over 10 years in my family.  If you would like to purchase the book, with the secret only found therein, I would be happy to give you a $12.00 discount off my Book, From Combat Zone to Love at Home, my National Parenting Cassette, and CD ROM Valued at 27.00 because you  asked an expert.  Mention this notice please.  here is my web site:   http://floridabestmom.com


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