About Mona R. Spiegel, Ph.D. Expertise I am a licensed psychologist and professional coach. I have been guiding parents and their children for over 25 years and now specialize in coaching women on the telephone for parenting, relationship and personal life issues.
Experience After receiving my Ph.D. in 1977 from Columbia University, I became licensed in New York State as a psychologist. I worked for many years in schools and subsequently as a private clinician. Most recently, I have received training from a professional coaching institute to provide services on the telephone.
Organizations American Psychological Association
International Coaching Federation
Publications MFC Newsletter and Dr. Mona's blog @ http://www.myfamilycoach.com .
Question I have a 6 yr. old daughter who gets along with everybody and is well liked by others. The issue is 2 times a week she has friends over to our house which is fine, BUT her problem is whenever she asks to go over to one of their houses the mother will say not this time or another day. Then the next day comes and she sees one of her friends going over to another friends house when she has previously asked if she could and the answer was no.She feels the parents do not like her or want her over. I am not sure what to do it is a circle of 3 best friends that this is going on with and I am also best friends with the girls moms. So what can I do to help my daughter with this issue?
Thank-you
Shelly
Answer Dear Shelly,
It is very hard to see one's child in pain. And girls are notorious for causing each other social angst, even at the tender age of six.
How would you feel about talking to the other mothers directly about this problem? Can you do so without making a big deal of it?
Otherwise, it's probably best to encourage your daughter to seek other friends or, if she doesn't want to, to make do with the situation.
This is one area over which we parents have very little control.
Lastly, observe how your daughter interacts with family members. Is it possible that she exhibits some "anti-social" behaviors?
All the best,
Dr. Mona Spiegel
"My Family Coach"
www.myfamilycoach.com
