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About Debbie Preece
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Expertise
Feeling like a frustrated parent? Learn how to get first-time obedience,cheerfully and happily from children 4-14. Designed for the easy use of Mom and the children keep it going. This Christian author has sold thouands of copies of her remarkable system to battle-weary parents' who are trying desperately to raise children that contribute to a happy family, better society and love of God. She has spoken to standing room only audiences that laugh and cry with her as she shares her insightful discovery of a unique parenting tool that she declares is a gift from God. http://biblebasedparenting101.com

Experience
One desperate night after a very trying day, while raising three children four years apart, Debbie found herself in "Shock" with the behavior of her children and frustrated with her parenting skills. Her home had become a Combat Zone and she was the prisoner! The "Golden Rule" wasn't working. It seemed the more she did for her children, the more selfish and demanding they became. Teaching internal values like integrity and honesty; as well as, happy mommy and family values, such as, children responding the first time happily and cheerfully were a ‘mission impossible’. The consistency factor on the parenting side was booby trapped by the troops all day long. That night, after holding up her flag of surrender, she sent an emergency S.O.S. to her commander in chief and a new battle plan was developed that virtually guaranteed her survival and that of her family. What resulted in 1983 was “The Happy Face Token System.” Her sigh of relief (AHH!) could be heard in the form of happy children responding with; "What can I do for you Mommy? May I set the table? You’re the BEST MOMMY IN THE WHOLE WORLD!" She had gained control of her family and a truce had been accepted with this most remarkable interactive parenting tool. Consistency was a built-in feature of this now “Kid Tested & Mother Approved” INTERACTIVE experience. http://dissdcourtesy.com

Publications
From Combat Zone to Love at Home (book)
http://floridabestmom.com http://happyfacetokens.com http://biblebasedparenting101.com http://dissdcourtesy.com http://happyfacetokens.home.att.net

Education/Credentials
REVIEW:If we are to take the Lord God as our model in raising children, then the implication is that we should also provide appropriate rewards. I have never wanted to "bribe" our children into compliance, so I found the following excerpt from Debbie Preece's book very interesting: She notes that: ". . . according to Webster's Dictionary a bribe is: 'Anything especially money-given or promised to induce a person to do something illegal or wrong.' . . . Webster's defines a blessing as, 'The gift of divine favor. Anything that gives happiness or prevents misfortune.' This book is packed with fun ideas like "The Slothful Servant Quarantine," as well as practical charts and ideas. Altogether a very valuable resource to aid you in child training and setting up and enforcing chores. Lorrie Flem, Editor of TEACH Magazine author's note:The SLOTHFUL SERVANT ROOM QUARANTINE is designed for ages 8-18. This provides a simple and effective way to get children to clean their rooms to your specifics. They can't use the room until the QUARANTINE is taken down by you.

Awards and Honors
HAPPY PARENT AWARD EDUCATIONAL CLEARING HOUSE "With From Combat Zone To Love At Home, the weight is off of your shoulders, because the program sets the rules of the game in place. OUTSTANDING PRODUCT FOR OUTSTANDING RESULTS."For very little out of the pocket expense, you can gain some order and peace in your home. All of the charts, tokens etc. are all included in the book... Full instructions are included on the tape, she walks you thru it, in it's entirety. Lorrie Flem, Editor of TEACH Magazine:Chore and Behavior Systems-SUPERIOR PRODUCT RATING "I have long been engrossed in trying to find the perfect chore and behavior system for my family to use. This illusive system must be easy to implement, inexpensive, appealing to mother and children, and of course, effective. FROM COMBAT ZONE TO LOVE AT HOME is one of my favorites."

Past/Present Clients
REVIEW: I've just begun listening to the audio tape of your seminar and also reading your book about your Wonderful system. I'm excited to think that perhaps I've found system that might actually work! I too have tried everything I can think of to achieve the results you talk about. My spirit quickened when you talked about the analogy of the Garden of Eden and I'm anxious to get started. Sincerely and gratefully, Julie M Oklahoma City, OK, REVIEW: I am so excited about your book. My sister in law brought it on our family camp out and in the four days we were there I read it twice and discussed it heavily with my husband. We are ready to get started. We started trying to use the system while we were camping and the change in our children was incredible. Michelle G. Phoenix, AZ

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Questions Answered By Expert Debbie Preece
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Subject	Date Asked

My 10 year old son	11/20/2009
Q: I have a ten year old son that is having severe behavioral issues at home and at school. At school ... A: I can feel the urgency with which you speak and I will offer prayers in your behalf as well as your ...
grumpy moods in my 5 year old	11/18/2009
Q: my 5 year old girl is in year one and lerning spelling and have in general, lots of homework, in my ... A: Children express stress in various ways but it sounds like she is needing some attention. She might ...
6 year old rubbing his private parts	11/16/2009
Q: I have a 6 year old son who is in First grade in a Private School. He has been having this habit of ... A: Masturbation is a habit that becomes addictive over time. It is a source of much havoc and can lead ...
9 yr old cousin misbehaving	11/12/2009
Q: My aunty is finding it very difficult to continue dealing with her, it has reached a point now where ... A: It sounds like things are getting overwhelming. I am sorry that there has been so much turmoil in ...
6 year old-hitting in aftercare	10/28/2009
Q: My 6 year old son is a very sweet cuddly boy, who loves to hug and kiss. Recently at his aftercare ... A: I have felt stressed over such things as well. Sometimes it's as simple as the fact that the child ...
6 yo having accidents at school	10/27/2009
Q: I have a 6 year old girl who is in first grade. She refuses to go to the bathroom at school. The ... A: It sounds like you have tried some creative ways to help her. Children seem to concentrate on ...
Parenting a nine year old boy	10/22/2009
Q: I am 30 years old woman who has a nine year old son.Just to give a breif background on how I ... A: Because of your difficult past, connections to the heart may be difficult with people in general I ...
my 5 yrs old behaviour in school	10/17/2009
Q: I'm a mother of a 5 year old kid.Who is now in kindergarten.He is very into music and arts. He loves ... A: Sometimes children are very much socially adept before they go to school. They seem to excel in ...
KINDERGARGEN TROUBLE	9/30/2009
Q: My son is 5 1/2 years old. He started Kindergarten this year and it has been a real issue for me. ... A: Children like things that are familiar and consistent. School is neither. Having to adapt is ...
anxiety with school tests	9/29/2009
Q: My daughter is 5 years old and she just started Kindergarten. She has been going to preschool for 3 ... A: Shyness is inherited. It is difficult to overcome but it can be done very successfully. From what ...
2nd grader back talking a teacher	9/17/2009
Q: My 7 yr old, 2nd grader, back talked a teacher today. I was called to the school because my son ... A: It sounds like something is bothering him. It could be that dad isn't home and he misses him. Are ...
Explaining puberty to 6 year old?	9/12/2009
Q: I am a single mother, my 6 year old son, Hart goes to a private school, he is in 1st grade but the ... A: The best way is always the straight forward way. Children will learn all the ficticious names and ...
stealing	9/4/2009
Q: My step son takes things and doesn't seem to understand that it is stealing. He stole batteries from ... A: This problem you speak of is a difficult issue and one hard to teach unless children see a reason to ...
4 yr old and separation aniety	8/27/2009
Q: My 4 yr old just started VPK. He is bright, flirtatious, outgoing and loves all kinds of people ... A: I thought I had answered this question but I don't see my answer. I'm sorry it took me longer to ...
6 1/2 year old cries in sports	8/25/2009
Q: My son is a very competitive boy and he LOVES sports, but when he plays them and he doesn't do ... A: I can empathize with you! We want our children to be successful and feel happy, but there are ...
sleeping	8/23/2009
Q: I have a 10 year old (who is on meds for ADHD but I don't think that matters here) who has NEVER ... A: It is time for your 10 year old to sleep in his own room. It may be that habits have been formed ...
my friend has a behavioral child	8/11/2009
Q: my friend has a six year old child that is basically uncontrollable. runs from the house, screams ... A: It seems that your friend doesn't mind that kind of behavior. All children will do what they want ...
My 6 year old doesn't listen to others	7/21/2009
Q: I have a 6 year old son who is going to be in the first grade this year. In his first year of school ... A: I can understand your frustration and concerns. It sounds like your son has recognized his ability ...
8 yr obsessed with food being old	7/10/2009
Q: My 8 yr is asking me everytime he eats anything if the food is old, or does that food get old, ... A: It can be annoying for your child to ask you these kinds of questions all the time, but in reality ...
5 yr old behavior	7/9/2009
Q: I have a five year old son that will not listen i talk till i am blue in the face. He torments my ... A: Your concerns are justified and as a parent it is difficult to see your child causing such ...
disrespectful + defiant = distressing!!	7/2/2009
Q: My soon-to-be 7 year old son is really testing my patience these days! Everyday is a challenge, and ... A: I understand disrespectful + defiant = distressing!! It seems that you have a strong willed soul ...
Obesessive 5 year old....	6/25/2009
Q: I have a 5 year old daughter. She is extremely bright and has always seemed to be above her peers by ... A: What a dilemma you have. With the knowledge you have of other medical issues in your genes it is ...
6yo behavior at home what can I do?	6/24/2009
Q: My 6 year old's behavior at home is getting not only out of control but what I feel dangerous. He ... A: Parenting is a challenging Calling isn't it? It can be a daunting experience especially when our ...
My 6 year old daugther	6/24/2009
Q: My 6 year old daughter-who is usually a very happy, enthusiastic, who has lots of friends has ... A: During the summer heat can play a part in some of these symptoms. When children play outside or do ...
4 and half y.o. girl acts up	6/8/2009
Q: I have 2 daughters, 4.5 and 1.5 respectively. I had behavioural issues now with my elder. She now ... A: I have been out of town, so I am sorry I am late getting back to you. It would be nice if our ...
4 year old who is manipulative and cruel to animals	6/2/2009
Q: My husband and I are currently fostering a 4-year-old. He will be 5 next month. We will be adopting ... A: I have been out of town for a week, so I am sorry I did not get to you sooner. I am sure that as a ...
Separation Anxiety in 4 year old	5/25/2009
Q: My 4 year old daughter is fearless and very headstrong (let's be frank, she's bossy) but in the past ... A: Has there been a new person in her life? A new friend or a new group that you have taken her to? A ...
6 yr old copying movements of 4 yr old	5/25/2009
Q: 6 yr old boy, only child has an new addition to the family following a death of aunt. new addition ... A: I would suggest that the new (brother) is somewhat the center of attraction,which would be normal ...
Talking back	5/9/2009
Q: I am 39 years old and have a 6 year old and a 4 year old. I am separated from my husband and have ... A: It sounds from what you tell me that the boys have been with the boyfriend a good portion of their ...
5 year old son and his negative behavior	5/6/2009
Q: My son is 5 years old and says and acts in a very negative way when asked anything of him. Is this ... A: Perhaps this personal example will answer your question. At a family reunion of 50, I asked my 5 ...
6yr old BOY behavior problems	4/23/2009
Q: Our oldest son, 6 yrs old has recently began some very agressive behavior at home. When he does not ... A: It sounds like something has promoted the new behavior. Maybe he has seen someone get results that ...
Sensitive 9 year old girl	4/15/2009
Q: My 9 year old daughter (who happens to be gifted as well, not sure if that matters) has been coming ... A: As the older child she probably has the responsibility to help with the younger. How does she get ...
8 year old son with challenging behavior	4/8/2009
Q: Within the past month, my 8 year old has exhibited some challenging behaviors. After a routine bout ... A: With the help of the professionals you have surrounded yourself with, narrowing down the issues will ...
my six yr olds tardiness at school tasks	4/5/2009
Q: I am facing problems with my 6 year old daughter’s behavior particularly when it comes to studying ... A: I feel your concern as a parent who conscientiously tries to teach their child correct principles. ...
9 year old Grand daughter	3/31/2009
Q: I have a beautiful, smart, sweet 9 year old granddaughter. She in every way is what a person would ... A: When our children tell us about the mood's of their children even though we don't see them, we ...
My Daughter's Behavior	3/26/2009
Q: Iam a mother of three children.Their ages are 8,6 and 2.My daughter is a good girl but she has a ... A: I am assuming your daughter is the 8 year old. I understand the dismay that comes to a parent when ...
almost 5 year old having problems	3/17/2009
Q: My son is going to be 5 in May this year. He was completely potty trained both night and day for ... A: It would appear that something is up in your little one's life. Has there been a change of teacher ...
Our 6 year old daughter	3/17/2009
Q: Our 6 year old daughter is a challenge. We have read Dr. Ambertson's book regarding "strong-willed ... A: There are lots of different kinds of reward systems. The Happy Face Token system is different than ...
Our 6 year old daughter	3/16/2009
Q: Our 6 year old daughter is a challenge. We have read Dr. Ambertson's book regarding "strong-willed ... A: It sounds like you do have challenging strong willed child on your hands. It also sounds like you ...
5 yr old son cries about everything	3/14/2009
Q: My 5 yr old cries all the time, and then says things like, "if I can't watch my movie, then I'll ... A: Your son has learned this behavior is reinforced by attention and action. It is time to help him ...
pulling down pants	3/12/2009
Q: I just got a call from my son's principal. My 5-year old pulled down his pants during lunch recess ... A: Did your son say why he did it? I would suggest a little shaming and a good spat on the "moon" would ...
my graandaughter hits at school and is a big problem getting her to go to bed	2/26/2009
Q: my grandaughter witnessed her Mummy dying and although she seemed to be getting on with things she ... A: Loss of a loved one, especially a mum is always devastating no matter how we seem to be on the ...
distructive behavior	2/22/2009
Q: Ok well were to start I have a son his name is Ryan and he just turned 6 on Tuesday. To start he had ... A: It is very possible he feels ignored and invisible. Sometimes just involving him with story time or ...
distructive behavior	2/21/2009
Q: Ok well were to start I have a son his name is Ryan and he just turned 6 on Tuesday. To start he had ... A: It sounds like you are having quite a battle with your son. Just a few questions, Have you had his ...
step kids	2/18/2009
Q: ok,my name is Tamara and I am 22 years old my husband is 29. We have been together for 5 years and ... A: Blending families is always a tricky experience. You are willing to take on that responsibility and ...
My daughter age 5 in Jr. Kg	2/12/2009
Q: My daughter is extra mature. She tends to keep very few friends, and invariably fights with ... A: Your daughter is still a little girl and developing social skills is always an ongoing process. ...
6 yr. old singled out problem	2/9/2009
Q: I have seen this repeatedly in my son's behavior when there's a social gathering of his friends and ... A: It is always difficult to watch our children learn difficult things isn't it? When considering ...
My 6 year old daugther bad attuitde	2/5/2009
Q: My daughter constantly cries when I tell her do something. She always resist what I say to do. I ... A: It's hard not to take her misbehavior personally, but we must remember she is testing you to see if ...
temper tantrums	1/22/2009
Q: I have a 6 almost 7 year old daughter who is still having temper tantrums. The silliest things will ... A: You could be right about being tired. Temper tantrums are also learned thing and tolerated by those ...
attitude	1/19/2009
Q: I am temporarily living w/my friend. We have been friends for about 6yrs. I have met his wife, ... A: It sounds to me like the 5 yr old is feeling threatened and jealous of all the attention baby is ...
daughter 6yrs.behavior	1/15/2009
Q: how can i stop my daughter from acting up in school, by following direction when told, not pick up ... A: There may be some unknown factors that you have not considered. Make sure the following things are ...
My 6 year old	1/14/2009
Q: I have no control over him. At school his is reported as an angel, but at home he is mean to me ... A: I'm sure you feel discouraged at what is happening in your family. We all start out with such grand ...
My 5 year old boy	1/9/2009
Q: I have a 5 year old son when he was in kindergarten he told me that he was playing in the bathroom ... A: My instinct tells me you did all the right things. My instinct also tells me that even though there ...
is 6 yr old rebellious?	1/2/2009
Q: we have a 3, 6 and 11 year old boys. The other two play up but it's within reason. The 6 year old ... A: I can understand your concern. I had a daughter just like that. The two younger siblings played so ...
bossy playdate	12/22/2008
Q: Sometimes at adult parties, my daughter plays with my other friend's kids. I recently noticed that ... A: It sounds like you have addressed the issue with her. Bossiness and bullying are different. She ...
5 yr old boy who hits	12/11/2008
Q: I have a 5 yr old son who hits and bites at school. He has been sent home 3x this school year for ... A: It sounds like you have had lots of frustration with your son. Obviously, he feels frustration as ...
child exhibitionism	12/9/2008
Q: my girl friend is worrying. i am asking this to help her, she is 35 and her only son is 13 now.upto ... A: This behavior is NOT NORMAL and should be stopped immediately. There may be issues of abuse in your ...
What should a mother do	12/4/2008
Q: What should a mother do if her little girl about six or seven got her ears pierced by her father ... A: You didn't say whether or not you and her father are living together. But my initial response is ...
Girlfriend in need of help with a 12 year old son of boyfriend	12/1/2008
Q: I need help so badly. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half and living ... A: It doesn't sound good. I don't see a good resolution unless your boyfriend is willing to step up ...
bullying 1st grade	11/25/2008
Q: my 6 yr old son complaining ABOUT COUPLE KIDS HITTING HIM, SNATCHING THINGS FROM HIM writing bad ... A: I'm sorry your son is having such issues so early in his life. If you have mentioned this to the ...
My six-year old son	11/11/2008
Q: My son does not listen at home.He does great in school, excels in his classes, and is able to follow ... A: It sounds to me like he knows he gets away with bad behavior a few times before you "really get ...
defiant behavior in 5 year old grandson	11/7/2008
Q: My daughter is having a really tough time with her 5 year old middle child. He is very defiant, very ... A: It's hard to watch our children as they struggle with life's issues isn't it. It sounds like she ...
Scared at night	10/27/2008
Q: I have a 7 year old and here recently he's started being scared of being in any room by himself or ... A: It sounds like the issues you've been dealing with are still with your son. We never really know ...
not listening	10/24/2008
Q: My son is 7 years old. When it comes to getting ready for church, school or bedtime (anything that ... A: It may be as simple as not hovering and reminding him. Give him space to "be responsible for his ...
having trouble listening in school	10/14/2008
Q: my son is 5 yrs old he has been having problems at school in listening , at home he listens better ... A: I'm sorry your son is having such issues. I agree with you that something has happened to make him ...
My 6 yrs old-consistent leadership	10/2/2008
Q: My six yrs old son's behaviour is beyond my control at times. He never listens to me or obeys even ... A: when children start school they find other behaviors that seem to get attention or work for others. ...
My 6 yrs old	9/29/2008
Q: My six yrs old son's behaviour is beyond my control at times. He never listens to me or obeys even ... A: It sounds like you have a problem that needs addressing NOW! I guess the first thing that comes to ...
little girl living with singel father.	9/18/2008
Q: Would it be normal for a child/teenager to become too dependent on her single father? Her father ... A: I am assuming she is in her teens then. I will give you some things to consider. 1. Hormones, ...
5 year old with RAGE	9/16/2008
Q: My daughter is 5 years old and traditionally has really good days, but when she gets upset at ... A: Rage is also another name for temper tantrums. It sounds like your daughter has had a controlling ...
7 year daughter	8/27/2008
Q: my daughter is 7 year old, we are all a very close family me my husband, daughter 13 and my seven ... A: I'm sorry your daughter is having a hard time right now. It sounds like she is experiencing ...
Misbehaving 9yr old at school	8/15/2008
Q: I have a son who just turned 9 and is in the 4th grade, he has been misbehaving and very disruptive ... A: I understand your frustration. You are right to feel that the teacher did address the ADD problelm ...
too much affection	8/15/2008
Q: Can a parent give a child/teenager too much affection/love, if the child/teenager does not object? I ... A: I don't think there can be too much positive affection. Your child might act like it bugs them but ...
Misbehaving 9yr old at school	8/12/2008
Q: I have a son who just turned 9 and is in the 4th grade, he has been misbehaving and very disruptive ... A: I am assuming you have made sure that he isn't being bullied or abused while at school. I am also ...
dependency disorder	8/11/2008
Q: At what age should a child show a little independence. I have a 10 year old step son who can not do ... A: Independence issues show up at all different ages, but usually by 10 the child should do the things ...
discipline	8/6/2008
Q: My 8yr. old,when in timeout, kicks walls, argues, scoots his chair ect..I tell him I'll start the ... A: Parenting isn't an exact science. It would be nice if it were wouldn't it? That you are open to ...
6 year old terrible tantrums and behavior	8/1/2008
Q: I have a 6 year old son who will be 7 in about a month. He has thrown tantrums since he was a ... A: From reading your letter, I would guess that your son has you figured out. He knows he gets away ...
Bed time	7/29/2008
Q: I have a 2 kids. My problem is that every single day my kids find a reason to cry. The most frequent ... A: You didn't specify the ages of your children. But the suggestion that comes off the top of my head ...
How to stop the troublemaking?	7/29/2008
Q: My 6 year old is actually a pretty good kid, and this happens maybe 2-3 a month, but its enough to ... A: It is frustrating that our children haven't figured out that we do have eyes and ears in the backs ...
MY SIBLINGS ARE OUT OF CONTROL	7/29/2008
Q: My mother had me when she was about 26. Im now 18 in August. She recently had kids. A girl named ... A: I can commiserate with you, but you are in a tough spot. I had a sister 11 years younger than me ...
arguing cousins	6/11/2008
Q: My family recently moved to the same town my sister's family lives in. We live less than a mile ... A: It's hard to understand children at times, but maybe there is a jealousy issue going on. It could ...
5 year old still acts like she's 2!! Help!	5/21/2008
Q: I am having a problem with my 5 year old. She usually wakes up in the morning before I do and within ... A: I can hear the desperation in your voice! It sounds like you are a new mother again as well. Sleep ...
eating	5/7/2008
Q: I have 3 kids, daughters are 8 and 4 and the baby is 1. The baby is fine so far as were my ... A: I feel your frustration. Many mothers feel the same way so you are not alone. Hopefully you'll get ...
7 yr old lying and stealing	4/29/2008
Q: We have been dealing with this off and on since he was 5 but it seems to have gotten worse this ... A: In response to your last question, absolutely not! It sounds like there is something else going on. ...
My 12 years old son has no respect towards most people	4/27/2008
Q: My 12 years old son is a sensitive child. He is quite spoiled. My husband and I have never been ... A: First of I congratulate you for recognizing why the problems exit. Not many of us are able or ...
My 6yr olds behavior	4/10/2008
Q: Im concerned about my 6yr old daughters obnoxious behavior.she gets this way when around other ... A: I'm sorry my answer didn't get to you earlier. I forgot to press the right button to send. So I ...
7 Year Old Gifted Child	4/9/2008
Q: He is in 2nd grade and in the talented and gifted program. He will only finish his "in-school" work ... A: It can be difficult with children who really need that mental stimulation. They are always thinking ...
Child Behavior	4/9/2008
Q: I have an 8 yr old grandson and there are a couple of issues we are having with him. The first is ... A: Aren't grandchildren the best experience of the parenting process? You didn't say whether or not he ...
I want my son back!	4/7/2008
Q: I have a son, Francis Meriwether Shewan (Frank/Frankie) who used to be the sweetest boy ever. He ... A: I am sorry that you are having these issues and that your son is unhappy. There could be several ...
Disrespectful 10 year old son	3/24/2008
Q: Our 10 year old son is very disrespectful to us - his parents. He speaks rudely to us, disobeys us, ... A: Isn't it interesting how different our children are coming from the same family? The methods and ...
regarding my daughter	3/13/2008
Q: my daughter is 11years old.she is very good girl.since last two months i saw some changes.she ... A: Most likely she is experiencing some PMS symptoms. Help her understand that her body is changing ...
son	3/12/2008
Q: My son is an almost 9 year old underachiever. He does just what he HAS to, to get by. He hurries, ... A: There are some children who use the "underachiever mode" to get the attention they feel they don't ...
crying 3 year old	3/10/2008
Q: I have a 3 year old and lately she cries about everything. Before she did not cry hardly about ... A: First of all, she is too young for kindergarten. She is still a baby and needs time with mommy. ...
4 year old cries ALOT when he is tired.	3/4/2008
Q: I am not sure this is the problem but every time I pick my son up from After School Care he first ... A: My first instinct is to remind you that he is only 4. He just might not be ready for after school ...
School Misbehavior	2/29/2008
Q: My son who is 6 and will be 7 next week has been having some issues at school. He will play in the ... A: I agree with you. He is too young for counseling unless there has been a major stressor in his ...
DAD SNEAKS INTO CHILDREN BED...	2/14/2008
Q: I am in desperate need of advice. My 8 year old son and 7 year old daughter are well-mannered ... A: It sounds like you and your children are getting help from Above. Angels watch over these little ...
11 year old son	2/13/2008
Q: Our 11 year old son has an IQ of 132 yet makes B's, C's and even D's on his assignments. I ... A: I appreciate your concern. It sounds like there might be underlying issues to your sons lack of ...
don't know what to do about all this lying and anger issues!	2/6/2008
Q: My husband and I are at our wits end! Our 8 yr old came home yesterday in tears that a boy said she ... A: My suggestion would be to make sure nothing serious happened to create the anxiety and anger she is ...
DAD SNEAKS INTO CHILDREN BED...	2/6/2008
Q: I am in desperate need of advice. My 8 year old son and 7 year old daughter are well-mannered ... A: I like you am very concerned about your ex husband's behavior. The word pedophillia comes to mind. ...
2nd grader with aggressive behavior	2/4/2008
Q: My son has a problem with pushing and shoving and the need to be first in line at school. He's very ... A: Pushing and shoving and being first is by nature how boys compete. I have learned that it can be ...
5 year old behavior issues	1/30/2008
Q: I have a 5 1/2 year old son who started Kindergarten this past fall. His teacher has advised me ... A: First of all let's remember that your son is only 5 1/2 and he's in kindergarten. Boy's are ...
Daugther got ZERO on her test	1/30/2008
Q: Last week my daughter's 5 grade teacher called me and told me that she had found an answer of the ... A: Sometimes the lessons of life are harsh. I don't agree with cheating either, however, unless your ...
play time	1/29/2008
Q: We just recently moved to a new neighborhood. I have an 8 year old daughter and when we first moved ... A: It is difficult to watch our children learn difficult lessons in life isn't it? Learning social ...
6 year old son school wetting	1/24/2008
Q: My shy 6 year old son was in the school toilets and 2 of his friends blocked the toilet. A teacher ... A: I empathize with your son's dilemma and yours as a concerned parent. Bullying can be very difficult ...
kindergarten	1/20/2008
Q: I am trying to find out if I have to send my daughter to school in September, or if I have the ... A: I don't know the answer to your question, but I would think you have the option and it may be that ...
11 yr old son	1/11/2008
Q: our 11 yr old son, now in 6th grade, does not apply himself at all in school. In elementary school, ... A: I feel your concern. As parent's we want our children to excel and be accepted by their peers. It ...
bad behavior	1/4/2008
Q: my son has just turned 5 yrs old and he is always getting up to something. I can not leave him for ... A: The unbridled energy of these little ones can certainly be exhaustive. Does he get disciplined in ...
3 kids	1/3/2008
Q: I have 3 children, ages 11, 10 and 9. I am a good mother and don't worry about that. However, there ... A: I am not worried about them feeling abused or neglected either! Children know how to push our ...
Swearing	12/17/2007
Q: Ours is a Christian home. We have a seven-year old boy who has picked up swearing from some of his ... A: At this time of year the Christmas story of Jesus' birth would be a good way of teaching how we ...
5 year old	12/13/2007
Q: My son is being very hateful towards his mom we are no longer together and live 360 miles a part, ... A: When there is a major change in the family, sometimes there is a little bit more pampering that goes ...
HELP. My 5 year old is OUT OF CONTROL	12/3/2007
Q: I have a 5 year old daughter. First born, first grandchild, first great grandchild ON BOTH SIDES. ... A: I'm reminded of a mother's day card I once received from my daughter who I would describe as you do ...
My 6yr olds behavior	11/15/2007
Q: Im concerned about my 6yr old daughters obnoxious behavior.she gets this way when around other ... A: Let's face it, 6 yr olds can be obnoxious! They are learning so much and have so many questions. ...
5yr.old wetting herself constantly while sitting in class	11/7/2007
Q: i am a teacher(pre_k}. we have a 5 yr. old girl who wets herself at least 3times a day. she won't ... A: I have a few theories concerning your questions. I am aware of a medical condition that just ...
Temper Tantrums/fits in a 5.5 yo	11/1/2007
Q: I have a 5.5 yo little girl. At school and in public she is very well behaved. She gets along well ... A: Temper Tantrums are the worst aren't they? Have you ever just given her a good spat? She is ...
5 year old not gaining weight	10/28/2007
Q: I have been struggling with health problems with my five year old for several years. She is being ... A: It sounds like you have been conscientious in getting your daughter tested for numerous symptoms and ...
Sneaking Food	10/23/2007
Q: I have a 6 yo daughter that has developed the habit of getting into food, and/or picking at food ... A: I would suggest that you have her tested for food allergies. Some allergies may actually increase ...
Sneaking Food	10/23/2007
Q: I have a 6 yo daughter that has developed the habit of getting into food, and/or picking at food ... A: I wonder if she is just plain hungry. Children have growth spurts and sometimes have achy legs ...
my 5 yr old daughter	10/21/2007
Q: me and my ex have been split up since my daughter was 8 months old we never see eye to eye on ... A: You are at a definite disadvantage in being able to be heard aren't you? Children aren't much ...
disrespect	10/19/2007
Q: My hubby and I live with our widowed daughter and her 10 yr old girl. I say 10 going on 15 in ... A: Grandparenting is supposed to be fun! What's up with that? When you are the one's living with, do ...
7 year old girl with friendship trouble	10/15/2007
Q: My daughter is a 2nd grader. She has a pleasant personality over all. She has friends wherever she ... A: Learning socialialities is a challenge at any age. My suggestion would be to continue encouraging ...
not listening at school	10/5/2007
Q: my son is six years old and in grade one. He is not listening to his teacher at all. He listens ... A: I'm glad you are finding pleasure using the Happy Face Token System. How long have you been using ...
7 year old lacks focus	9/30/2007
Q: My daughter Rachel is 7 1/2 years old. She is an exceptional student, top of her class, reads at a ... A: I can tell you are trying to be a consistent parent in both discipline and behavior and manners. ...
5yr old boy/kindergarten probs	9/27/2007
Q: We are now in the last week of the 1st 6 weeks of kindergarten, and we have already been called 3x ... A: Sounds like you are feeling the frustration many parents feel. With an aggressive child, many times ...
not listening at school	9/27/2007
Q: my son is six years old and in grade one. He is not listening to his teacher at all. He listens ... A: I guess my first thought is what does the teacher say is the problem? Is it when he is reading, or ...
problem parents of my kids friends	9/26/2007
Q: My daughter is in the 4th grade and has had a friend for 5 years. This friend and her family are ... A: I didn't notice in your letter whether or not your daughter's relationship with this family is being ...
Kindergarten blues:(	9/12/2007
Q: Debbie, I have a 5 year old daughter, for the most part is a good child but, we started kindergarten ... A: Sometimes starting school is just as hard on mom as it is on the child. It sounds to me like your ...
1st Grader is smart, funny, but lacks focus	9/11/2007
Q: My son is a happy-go-lucky little boy. He has a great sense of humor, he loves to build things, ... A: How old is your first grader? Sometimes late birthdays can make a difference. However, sequence of ...
out of control daughter who is only 6	9/9/2007
Q: I was just wondering if you could give me some advice on how to deal with my 6 year old daughter. ... A: I can understand your frustration. I'm not sure what your discipline methods are that you speak of, ...
4 year started kindergarden	9/5/2007
Q: My son is in his third week of Pre-K and he has ran three times from the teachers on the playground ... A: I am so sorry that he is having such a hard time. I know it is difficult for you as a mom to see ...
6 Year old son hits other children and talks back	9/1/2007
Q: My 6 year old son hits other children when he is angry. He talks back to everyone including adults. ... A: As a mother who loves her children, I'm sure you feel frustrated when your child doesn't get ...
7 year old	8/31/2007
Q: My 7 year old boy whines all the time and my 10 year girl has no patience for him. She teases him ... A: It is frustrating to say the least when siblings incite each other. What kind of rules do you have ...
Terrible changes in our 4-year-old... no resources left	8/30/2007
Q: My daughter is 4 1/2 years old and just starting her second year of pre-school. Until about a month ... A: There is a saying I like that goes like this, "Motherhood (parenthood) is a snap. First your nerves ...
My 6 year old daughter	8/26/2007
Q: I got a note home from my daughter's teacher already and it is only the second week of school. In ... A: It's only the second week of school and your daughter is learning the rules. I have a friend whose ...
5 year old son & kindergarten	8/15/2007
Q: I have 4 children ages 26, 25, 16 and 5. Girls except for my 5 year old bonus - a boy. He is a ... A: It is obvious that you are an experienced mother. Children are different every time aren't they? I ...
Total defiance from my almost six year old!!!	8/14/2007
Q: I have a son who is almost six. He has been acting out in the last few years but in the last year we ... A: Children are certainly a challenge to even the most conscientious parent's. The first child is ...
Unappreciative children!	8/10/2007
Q: I have 6 year old twins and a 4 year old. No matter what I do, they absolutely will not take care ... A: Picking up toys after playing with them is a pain for the parent. However, it is a constant issue. ...
4-year old finger sucking	8/9/2007
Q: My 4 year old son has been finger sucking for forever. The dentist indicated we really need to do ... A: I understand your concern as a parent. Did you ever suck your thumb or fingers as a child? I had a ...
dealing with a bossy and mean 4 yr old	7/30/2007
Q: my 4 yr is a very bright, yet challenging little girl. She came into this world fighting and things ... A: Bright and challenging children are challenges to all good families. You are not alone and that is ...
8yr old daughter tantrums	7/29/2007
Q: I have a beautiful eight year old daughter. Her father and I have been divorced since she was about ... A: It always tugs at our heartstrings when our children hurt. Motherhood is a tough experience at ...
First grade son having trouble school	7/20/2007
Q: His kindergarten year was okay...he had some initial time-outs for not listening, not following ... A: You don't mention when your son's birthday is. If it is late in the year like Sept or further it is ...
5 year old nightmare	7/19/2007
Q: My granddaughter has been impossible since she was a baby. Right after she learned to crawl(8 months ... A: I feel your pain! I have raised three children and am enjoying 8 grandchildren now. I have a ...
Argumentative Ten Year Old Girl	7/15/2007
Q: We have a wonderful ten year old little girl that argues nonstop. She thinks the world should ... A: I'm sorry you are having issues. Motherhood is full of them... It is very possible that your ...
sibling disrespect	7/13/2007
Q: I have an 8 yr old daughter and 10 year old son. In comparison, my problems are probably small, but, ... A: I can feel your pain! That's why the name of my book is From Combat Zone to Love at Home....Sibling ...
5 yr old boy doesn't listen at home but does at school	7/12/2007
Q: My 5 yr old son will not listen to me, he constantly whines to get his way, I have tried everything ... A: I'm sorry you are having problems. It sounds like you are well trained in child behavior. Often ...
Hitting peers at school	7/11/2007
Q: I am a very frustrated mother of a very active and intelligent 4 years old boy (almost 5). (He is my ... A: Some stressors outside of the family are social anxiety. he may not feel secure, so he bullies. ...
my 6 and 7 year old is acting like 2 and 3 year olds	6/27/2007
Q: I love my children very much, along with all my neices and nephews. My children, Boy is 6 and Girl ... A: I'm sorry you are having trouble. Generally, when behavior is so uncharacteristic and dramatically ...
rebellious 9 year old	6/25/2007
Q: i have a nine year old who is very head strong. i say left. she says right. i say yes. she says ... A: Headstrong children can be very "high maintenance" throughout their lives. They often learn at ...
8 Year Old Daughter Behavior Problems at Home	6/21/2007
Q: I'm hoping you can offer some insight on some behavioral problems we've been having with our 8 yr ... A: I am a mother of three, 2 girls and a son. Girls definitely have hormonal issues sooner than we ...
Sudden Separation Anxiety	6/18/2007
Q: My son will be 7 in October. He is very intelligent. He is starting 1st grade in the fall. He ... A: It sounds like your son has had lots of attention with the teachers and children in the small ...
my 6 year old daughter doesn't listen to anything I say	6/14/2007
Q: What should I do to get my 6 year old to listen to me? I talk to her about it calmly, I take her ... A: It seems that what is important to the parent, is not often the same importance to the child. It's ...
Crying and whinning	5/31/2007
Q: I have a 6 year-old little girl who cries and whines for any little thing. She will cry for anything ... A: I understand your frustration. It seems that children often go through these crying stages. My ...
appriate terms	5/22/2007
Q: is it wrong to tell my child " your being obnoxious or annoying" in these terms. she is 5 yrs old A: Children need to understand what these words mean and that socially are often reasons people avoid ...
9yr old acting out	5/4/2007
Q: It's just been my son and me most of his life. i am recently remarried and have a 5month old ... A: I am from the old school of discipline. You might try flipping his mouth and tell him that what he ...
6 yr old cries at school, daycare	5/3/2007
Q: My son is six, seven in a few months, he cries alot, but not around me. At school the teacher will ... A: There seems to be a lot of this going around lately. I've recently addressed this issue for other ...
9yr old acting out	5/3/2007
Q: It's just been my son and me most of his life. i am recently remarried and have a 5month old ... A: I feel your pains...Sounds like jealousy to me. I recently encountered a similar experience in my ...
6 year old son.	5/2/2007
Q: My 6 year old son cries in school when it is lunch time and goes to the nurse to have lunch with her ... A: I'm sorry your son is having such a hard time right now. It's good you are visiting with a family ...
Disrespectful 4 year old	4/24/2007
Q: We have a 2 year old and a 4 year old, both boys. For the most part the 4 year old has always been ... A: I understand your concerns. Have you checked to see if he is being bullied at pre-K or child care ...
eating	4/18/2007
Q: Our 5 year old will go to eat at a resturant order food and not eat it. Sometimes it is just that it ... A: Sometimes children are hungry when they sit down to eat, but they fill up on crackers, soda, bread, ...
6 year old being disrespectful	3/24/2007
Q: My 6 year old girl is very disrespectful to her grandparents and to other adults at times. ... A: I'm sorry you are having issues with your daughter. I have a daughter, now married, that I would ...
An angry 10 year old Boy	1/25/2007
Q: My oldest child is 10 years old and is very angry ALL the time. If he is playing with his friends ... A: I have raised three children and found that the age of 10 was a difficult time for mine as well, ...
help what do i do 5 year old girl	12/29/2006
Q: heres the past father left when she was one i was a single mother for about 4 years , she now ... A: I feel your frustration. I too was a frustrated mom. At least you have recognized that you have ...
arguing and doesnt listen	12/28/2006
Q: how can you get a 7yr old and a6 yr old and a 2yr old to do what they are asked and not have to yell ... A: Parenting can be very frustrating. I used to think that if I lived by the "Golden Rule" (treat ...
6 Year Old Not Listening	12/13/2006
Q: My 6 year old daughter is so good in all areas except listening. She ignores you until you have to ... A: This behavior is typical and frustrating for all parents I know. I discovered that I like many ...
crying baby	11/23/2006
Q: I have 3 year girl baby and I have put her in a playgroup. She cries to go and also she wants me to ... A: I have a nearly 3 year old grandson. He is nearly at the end of this issue. Whether it is the ...
7year old son anxiety	11/17/2006
Q: My son is 7 and has been doing fine the first semester of first grade but for the last couple of ... A: I'm sorry I didn't get back to you sooner, I was out of town. Anxiety is a common problem with ...
Help with my sons attitude at school	9/28/2006
Q: If my son knows the punishment at home what can i do to get him to stop talking and misbehaving at ... A: I have a wonderful mom/kid friendly system that helps mom get what she wants from the child and the ...
4th grader fighting doing homework	9/26/2006
Q: My daughter from the start of 4th grade (about 6 weeks ago) is fighting doing her homework. In ... A: I developed the Happy FAce Token System for my daughter in the 5th grade. Homework became more time ...
4th grader attitude	9/18/2006
Q: My daughter is 9 and is quiet. Her two closest friends are more out going and were elected student ... A: I'm sure she feels badly that she isn't on the student council, but maybe there is something in ...
out of control child	9/5/2006
Q: I have a 5 year old child who has recently become very hard to control. She is very rude and ... A: I understand that it can be very frustrating with hard to control behavior. Your child may be ...
Tough Potty Training	6/6/2006
Q: Debbie, My sister has twin boys who turned seven this past January. They will be in the first ... A: Potty training is hard, but by age 7 you should be feeling pretty good about it. There could be ...
son got kicked	5/27/2006
Q: my son is 6 and he came home from school yesturday and he said that a girl from school kicked him in ... A: There is such a thing in most schools as the bully rule. Bullying is a problem and is not ...
Five year obehavior issue	4/23/2006
Q: I am trying to work with my darling 5 year old BOY whom is acting pretty bad right now. The time ... A: I am the author of a parenting book called From Combat Zone to Love at Home. I wrote this book for ...

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