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| 5 yr old son being overly affectionate and happy. | 11/23/2009 |
Q: My son is 5.5 years old. He was diagnosed with a moderate speech delay just before age 3 and I ...
A: It breaks my heart to think that your son's behavior has to be construed as "bad". I can see where ...
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| 10 year old boy having problems | 11/22/2009 |
Q: I'm a mother of 4 children, 3 boys and 1 girl. My oldest son is 10 and is experiencing some ...
A: You have actually identified your answer; he needs support and reassurance. Imagine living in a ...
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| difficulty with 9 year old's anger issue | 11/22/2009 |
Q: My daughter is 9 years old. I have been divorced from her father for nearly 5 years now and in a ...
A: Emotions are felt physically and often need an outlet. Children often pick the safest and most ...
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| 5 year old boy and sex | 11/19/2009 |
Q: My 5 year old boy was at daycare (in home daycare). He had a pa day so he along with a 4 year old ...
A: Its not unusual for children 4 to 6 years old to play doctor or "I'll show you mine if you show me ...
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| How much info is too much info for 8 year old boy | 11/8/2009 |
Q: My son has just turned 8 years old. He is getting curious about erections that he is getting and ...
A: There is a difference between an 8 year old and 11 year old who will be entering puberty in a couple ...
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| A twist in the question about difficult behaviour in my 5 year old daugher | 10/28/2009 |
Q: .. i read your answer to another parent regarding their daughter and her difficult behaviour and i ...
A: I feel that kids can change their behavior, but they won't do it by themselves. She has developed a ...
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| 6-yr-old boy needs self control | 10/27/2009 |
Q: my husband and I are nearing our wits end with our 6-yr-old. He is constantly, I mean every few ...
A: The burping and potty humor is normal at this age. Acting out is normal too...if allowed. The ...
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| Child sex play | 10/23/2009 |
Q: This is kinda weird as I'm no longer a child (19), but something's emerged from my childhood past ...
A: If it was "completely consensual and non-coercive" I'd say its normal explorative play. Unless ...
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| 6 year old not sleeping all of a sudden | 10/22/2009 |
Q: I am the father of a 6 year old little boy who, up to this point, hasn't given us any trouble ...
A: Children's behavior doesn't change all of a sudden without a causal event. Kids don't have the ...
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| MY son doesnt talk to others. | 10/22/2009 |
Q: my name is Paola. i have a 6yr old son hes got this problem since he was a baby. he didnt talk until ...
A: What is the school saying about this issue? What is your son saying? If he talks at home, it could ...
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| School Anxiety | 10/20/2009 |
Q: I have a 5 year old daughter that has never attending any preschool at all,she was all excited about ...
A: Anxiety is not something that can be fixed in a one shot deal ... as you've discovered. You can pull ...
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| Competitive 5 year old girl | 10/19/2009 |
Q: My daughter seems to be very competitive, and we think her tantrums are coming from her fear of ...
A: This behavior will likely subside as she gets older. At her age its hard to share. You can give her ...
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| Competitive 5 year old girl | 10/17/2009 |
Q: My daughter seems to be very competitive, and we think her tantrums are coming from her fear of ...
A: Five year old girls can be overly dramatic and sensitive. But what I'm not clear on is whether or ...
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| 8 year old son struggling socially in school | 10/16/2009 |
Q: We have an 8 eight year old son and 10 year old daughter. Our daughter has no problems socially she ...
A: Sometimes children with brilliant minds struggle socially. Part if it may be that because he's ...
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| Personal vs Private | 10/15/2009 |
Q: My husband and I have a 4 year old and 7 year old son. My husband and I have taken to the practice ...
A: I don't see a problem with using "personal" instead of "private" parts. However, I do have some ...
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| How long would this take | 10/14/2009 |
Q: How long would it take for a women to get in a secure relationship for her to have unprotected sex ...
A: There is no set time to get into a secure relationship, but because children are a huge ...
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| 6 year old - with behaviour problems | 10/12/2009 |
Q: Good day Leslie, I've got a 6 year old boy and 8 year old daughter. Me and my husband got ...
A: Changes in the family can be very upsetting for children as they don't really understand what's ...
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| My 5 year old son won't complete tasks | 10/6/2009 |
Q: My son started kindergarten in August. He does well academically with phonics, reading and knowing ...
A: What does he tell you about coloring? Does he not like to color? Is he color blind? Are his small ...
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| 6yr old in trouble at school | 9/24/2009 |
Q: Let me explain my child...he is a very loving, affectionate caring person that has no troubles at ...
A: There are a couple of things to consider and look into here. First, 5 years old is often too young ...
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| Oldest child's behavior | 9/24/2009 |
Q: I have two boys. My oldest is 6 1/2 and my youngest is 3. My first son has always been difficult ...
A: Your son needs help learning to cope with anger. Its okay to be angry, just not to express it the ...
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| my younger daughter overwhelms my older daughter | 9/23/2009 |
Q: I have two daugthers by two different fathers. My oldest is 11, my youngest is 7. What is unusual in ...
A: You have GOT to take control of this. The message your oldest daughter is getting is that she's not ...
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| mommy and daddy aren't here so I can do whatever I want. | 9/18/2009 |
Q: I am a frustrated parent of a 5 year-old. My son behaves as expected and instructed at home without ...
A: Kids with ADHD are ADHD all the time, not just at school. Most likely your son is young and ...
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| my 4 1/2 year old is aggressive with other children. How do i stop it? | 9/17/2009 |
Q: I have one son who will be 5 in November. He has been hitting and biting since he was about 3. The ...
A: Before he gets out of time out, do you ask him to tell you why he was put in time out and what he ...
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| 6 y/o wetting the bed | 9/16/2009 |
Q: My 6 year old nephew, who was potty trained fully by age 4, has been wetting the bed nightly, for ...
A: Although its likely the bedwetting is due to the stress of the situation, its always best to have a ...
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| My son and I play toys for hours almost every day of the week | 9/12/2009 |
Q: Leslie I played with toys all the way until I was in the 9th grade. I graduated college with a ...
A: No worries. Its difficult to prevent a 13 year old to develop normally if everything in his life is ...
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| Separation Anxiety in Son | 9/10/2009 |
Q: My son is 8 years old and does not like to be apart from me. He is clingy and likes to make sure I ...
A: Has he always been like this? Or is this a new behavior? Some ideas at school include getting the ...
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| Long distance dad | 9/10/2009 |
Q: My ex-son-in-law is a long distance dad.(Lives abroad) Visits his daughter (3years) annually and ...
A: Some things are just hard and difficult to understand for a three year old. The best that can be ...
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| Physically accelerated children | 9/8/2009 |
Q: I'm currently investigating the influence that parents have upon the physical development of a 4-6 ...
A: I don't know the research in this area, but it would seem that children who's parents are involved ...
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| My question is if a man gets women pregnant in Belgium in one night stand, as a mother not a lawyer | 9/7/2009 |
Q: My question is if a man gets women pregnant in Belgium in one night stand, as a mother not a lawyer, ...
A: I don't know what's going on in Belgium that I get questions like this so much. Is this a school ...
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| Should a mother allowed her child to have an invisibal permainat tattoo on her body | 9/6/2009 |
Q: Should a mother allowed her child as young as ten or six to have an invisibal permainat tattoo on ...
A: I believe the age is 18 and any younger will need a parent's permission. Because its a permanent ...
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| Resentment | 9/6/2009 |
Q: My daughter is 13 years old soon to be 14. She is currently not living with me. I am from a small ...
A: There are a couple of things going on. First of all 13-14 years old is a difficult age and can be ...
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| Should a mother allowed her child to have an invisibal permainat tattoo on her body | 9/4/2009 |
Q: Should a mother allowed her child as young as ten or six to have an invisibal permainat tattoo on ...
A: Its really up to family to determine if and when tattoos are okay. In some cultures, tattoos are ...
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| 6 year old body part talk | 8/28/2009 |
Q: I recently overheard my 6 year old son talking to my 8 year old (Autistic) son in the bath. He was ...
A: Its not unusual at this age for kids to be curious about their bodies and engage in "playing ...
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| 4 year old daughter | 8/24/2009 |
Q: So. I will try to make this brief but thorough. I have a 4 year old girl with my ex who I split from ...
A: Simply saying she wants to leave after a short visit could be a function of boredom. Even though ...
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| sleep | 8/23/2009 |
Q: I have a 10 year old (who is on meds for ADHD but I don't think that matters here) who has NEVER ...
A: First of all, he probably won't continue to come into your room forever. While he is a bit old for ...
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| scared child | 8/23/2009 |
Q: i have an 8 year old step daughter that is afraid of everything and what i mean by everything is she ...
A: Children can develop depression and anxiety. Unfortunately at this age, they don't have the skills ...
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| Do you find this offence as, an American woman yes or no | 8/20/2009 |
Q: Do you find this offence as, an American woman yes or no? The husband should generally be the same ...
A: There is a part of me that wonders if this question is for real. I'm not going to go through each ...
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| my 5 year old and starting kindergarten | 8/15/2009 |
Q: My youngest daughter just started kindergarten and the teacher has concerns as do I, because she is ...
A: This is a difficult situation for me to assess without actually see her. It could be that she's ...
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| Separation anxiety | 8/8/2009 |
Q: I've been divorced now for 4 year and my seven year old son comes to stay with me every other ...
A: Four year olds can be over the top in their behavior. I have a couple of suggestions. One is to make ...
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| How you react as a American mother if you see this child in Japan | 8/6/2009 |
Q: How you react as a American mother if you see this child in Japan? The child is happy in Japan, ...
A: I don't agree with that. While a child may grow up to be well-adjusted without ever knowing one ...
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| punishment | 8/5/2009 |
Q: I have a 7 year old who would rather try to lie her way out of getting in trouble. She seems to not ...
A: I don't really agree with the 4 days in the room, but that's because punishment works best when it ...
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| How you react as a American mother if you see this child in Japan | 8/4/2009 |
Q: How you react as a American mother if you see this child in Japan? The child is happy in Japan, ...
A: This is a legal issue which is not my area of expertise. However, if the parents are wanting ...
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| Emily | 7/15/2009 |
Q: My daughter will be 5 in September. She will be repeating Pre-K. Her behavior is impulsive and this ...
A: As you probably know, five year olds can be impulsive. Even in the best of kids, at that age its ...
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| my nephew | 7/14/2009 |
Q: I have a 5 year old nephew who is entering kindergarten this year. He has already attended ...
A: Young children often react to difficult situations around them, but they don't understand why or how ...
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| child behavior | 7/13/2009 |
Q: What would generally cause a five year old girl to exhibit destructive behavior?
A: There are a number of things that can cause children to be destructive. If its a new behavior, its ...
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| 5 yr old anxiety-divorce? changes? | 7/13/2009 |
Q: I have been separated from my daughter's father for over two years. He is minimally involved in her ...
A: Young children don't always understand their feelings nor have the words to express them. Its not ...
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| 7 year old granddaughter | 7/9/2009 |
Q: We have a lovely, intelligent 7 year old granddaughter who only wants to play with her friends. She ...
A: I don't see this as being a problem as long as she's happy. She's social and has friendships that ...
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| My stepdaughter is verbally abusing my grandaughter. | 7/7/2009 |
Q: My stepdaughter is 20 years old. She has a two and a half year old daughter that is the sweetest ...
A: There is little that can be done to help your step daughter if she doesn't want help. You can ...
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| My three year old screams all the time | 7/2/2009 |
Q: My three year old son screams a lot. He screams at the top of his lungs when I tell him to go to his ...
A: Your three year old probably continues to scream because he knows it stresses you out. Perhaps it ...
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| My 3 year old loves to dump stuff out! | 7/2/2009 |
Q: My 3 year old son love to dump stuff out all the time. Things such as laundry soap, conditioner, and ...
A: Dumping is a common game and seen as a developmental stage in which kids begin to get the basics of ...
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| fear of rain | 6/17/2009 |
Q: I have a 5 year old girl. She is deathly afraid of rain and thunderstorms. Her fear came about 1 ...
A: Its not unusual for 5 year olds to get phobic about something. Usually they just need time and ...
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| My 5 year old little girl | 6/15/2009 |
Q: My 5 year old girl (6 in October) has had a bit of an attitude in the past couple of weeks. She's ...
A: The reality is that she may not be clear on what the problem is. Kids can react to changes ...
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| Pre-K issues and fearing Kindergarten could be trouble | 6/10/2009 |
Q: I will try to be brief. Our oldest of two sons started pre-k this year. Initially he started the ...
A: Clean slates usually only work when someone is aware and consciously making changes to make it work. ...
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| my son of five | 6/8/2009 |
Q: My son who is going to be six in september said last nite that he feels his penis gets erection when ...
A: Kids body parts do work like adult body parts, they just don't have the same meaning as adults do. ...
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| How to reward my 2 yr. old? | 6/7/2009 |
Q: Simple question really, I am going to be implementing a simple behavior chart to help my daughter ...
A: Great job on the chart. I've used them a lot with kids in school. What I find works best is that you ...
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| 5 year old Terror | 6/7/2009 |
Q: I have three daughters, one 5, one 2, and a 7 month old. My 5 year old's biological father died 2 ...
A: The loss of a loved one is significant in anyone's life. What makes it hard for children is the fact ...
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| 8 year old rebelling | 6/5/2009 |
Q: I am at the end of my rope and don't know what to do. I have an 8 year old son who has always been ...
A: It can be difficult for children to adjust to having a new sibling. While his behavior is attention ...
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| behavior issues | 6/2/2009 |
Q: My 10 year old son's (4th grade)teacher has mentioned that he has been talking, out of his seat, ...
A: I'm always surprised by schools that let you know the problem, suggest it could be ADHD but then ...
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| children being removed from home Alabama law on custody | 6/1/2009 |
Q: If the children are removed and have a parent with partial custody elsewhere are they turned over to ...
A: Laws can vary from state to state, but the philosophy of child welfare is to keep children with ...
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| 6 year old daughter | 5/27/2009 |
Q: I have two daughters 18 and 6 my six year old is good and everyone says shes good but i fell like ...
A: Is this behavior new? It is unusual for 6 year olds to be biting and spitting...usually they grow ...
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| 9yr old boyfriends daughter gets different treatment from the boys. | 5/23/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend lives with me and my 2 sons (12&14). We have his children, son 12, daughter 9, stay ...
A: I wouldn't call the behavior normal, but I think its a need for reassurance and affection. If you're ...
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| 9yr old boyfriends daughter gets different treatment from the boys. | 5/19/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend lives with me and my 2 sons (12&14). We have his children, son 12, daughter 9, stay ...
A: It would be easy for the boyfriend to think that there was jealousy from your boys, but the fact ...
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| Major problems with my 4 yr old daughter!!! | 5/16/2009 |
Q: I have been having problems with my 4 year old not listening and not helping pick up her toys, which ...
A: Four year olds can be difficult and interesting kids. Its not unusual for them to be overly dramatic ...
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| temper tantrums in 4 and a half year old daughter | 5/15/2009 |
Q: I am about at my wits end. I am a stay at home mother to twin girls that are 4 and a half years old. ...
A: I have not read that book specifically and in reading the information and reviews, I'm not sure its ...
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| 1st grader guns, killing himself & urinating ! | 5/15/2009 |
Q: My best friend got a call from the 1st grade teacher. Her son wrote in his journal the he wanted to ...
A: Whether or not he actually intends to do such a thing, the fact that a 6 year old is saying that ...
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| temper tantrums in 4 and a half year old daughter | 5/14/2009 |
Q: I am about at my wits end. I am a stay at home mother to twin girls that are 4 and a half years old. ...
A: In general, 4 years olds can be difficult. They can be overly dramatic and bossy. Sometimes they can ...
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| my destructive 5yr old | 5/13/2009 |
Q: my son was just recently diagnosed as having ADHD. The doctor put him on a medacine but it isn't ...
A: Based on what you've indicated, I'm a bit surprised that he only received the ADHD diagnosis and ...
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| Six year olds growing anger issues | 5/12/2009 |
Q: Our son is six and a half and over the past 6 months has had an increasingly difficult time dealing ...
A: My suggestion is to work on building his self esteem which will lead to him being happy with ...
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| Protective Services for children | 5/8/2009 |
Q: I have never done this, so please be patient:) I have been awarded full physical and legal custody ...
A: I don't know the laws of every state, but usually removal is not automatic simply because her ...
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| disciplining a nine year old | 5/5/2009 |
Q: My daughter's nine year old son is a good boy. He rarely has behavioral problems at home. He is ...
A: It is important to help children do well in school. You didn't indicate whether or not he had any ...
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| 5 year old anxiety | 5/1/2009 |
Q: My daughter, who has always been fairly fearless, is all of a sudden terrified of going to her dance ...
A: While separation anxiety isn't unusual at this age, children's behavior doesn't do a 180 without ...
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| Is this true or not. Yes or No | 4/22/2009 |
Q: Many educated (submissive women) say that if I have a child in a one night stand, the father can ...
A: For some reason I'm getting a huge number of questions with this same theme. Is there a course or ...
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| aggressive with animals | 4/17/2009 |
Q: I have a 4 year old who will be 5 next month. Lately I am noticing her being aggressive toward our ...
A: You are right that spanking isn't the best deterrent for aggression. But neither is time out your ...
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| My 4 year old Madi and behavioral problems | 4/16/2009 |
Q: I have a 4 year old daughter named Madi. And sadly my heart feels nothing for her. I don't mean to ...
A: Many people don't realize that four year olds can be as challenging as two year olds. They tend to ...
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| 5 yr old boy | 4/16/2009 |
Q: My 5 yr old boy wants to play "dress up" as a girl. How should I handle this?
A: Its not usual for children to "dress up" ... even boys. Depending where you live or how you feel ...
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| Sensitive 9 year old girl | 4/15/2009 |
Q: My 9 year old daughter (who happens to be gifted as well, not sure if that matters) has been coming ...
A: Providing reassurance and giving coping strategies can help. Because you have a similar issue, you ...
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| finger sucking and pacing | 4/14/2009 |
Q: My six year old son still sucks his fingers. My husband is constantly on him (with irritation in ...
A: Finger sucking is like blankets and stuffed animals. It provides a source of comfort. Most kids ...
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| 8 year old stealing | 4/13/2009 |
Q: My son started out stealing eggs from my mom and throwing them outside and then lying about taking ...
A: If your son has previously never had any behavior problems and this stealing is new, it could be ...
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| sleeping arrangements | 4/10/2009 |
Q: I have a five year old daughter. Her father and I are no longer in in a relationship (haven't been ...
A: It can be difficult to navigate through a new relationships with children. I think its important to ...
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| out of control son | 4/9/2009 |
Q: Our 11 year old son is completely out of control. His blood father he has never known, and my ...
A: You are in a very difficult situation. I'm wondering about your insurance situation? If your son has ...
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| Does my son have ADHD? | 4/9/2009 |
Q: I have been wondering for a while if my son has ADHD or not. I have voiced my concerns to his ...
A: ADHD can only be diagnosed by having someone evaluate him. There is a set of criteria and ...
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| 11 yr old boy | 4/8/2009 |
Q: My son is 11 years old. My fiancee feels he is at an age to stop playing with a lot of toys, easter ...
A: I'm a big fan of prolonging childhood as long as possible, but the question of when to stop ...
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| Does a ten year old have the right to complain when her father uses her to make millions of dollars? | 4/4/2009 |
Q: Does a ten year old have the right to complain when her father uses her to make millions of dollars ...
A: I'm not certain that in the United States that it is legal for a parent to pocket all the money ...
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| Anxious 5 yr. old girl | 3/31/2009 |
Q: My 5 year old daughter has been doing beautifully in Nursery and now Kindergarten. However recently, ...
A: Children sometimes let their imaginations get the best of them. The best thing to do is to be ...
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| Sister in law is hitting children | 3/31/2009 |
Q: My sister-in-law believes in rough parenting. She has 2 small children, 4 years old and 1 year old. ...
A: There is little you can do to change a person who doesn't feel the need to change. There are steps ...
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| talking to much | 3/24/2009 |
Q: I have a 5 yr old daughter who talks to much at school, and has started back talking to me and her ...
A: If her talking a lot is new thing, then it probably is related to something going on in her life. If ...
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| social skill | 3/24/2009 |
Q: 6 year old girl(only child) in kinder. She is not shy would happily talk to an adult but hesitant ...
A: I would suggest that you seek her teacher's help. The teacher can assist your daughter by putting ...
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| approiate question being ask? | 3/20/2009 |
Q: I have soul custody of my daughter she is 8yrs old.She see her father on the weekends.He ask her if ...
A: All your child knows is how she feels about her parents. She isn't going to understand child support ...
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| Should a good mother do this | 3/19/2009 |
Q: Can a baby newborn and even a toddler or order child live in live in a stable environment, is she ...
A: Children can have a very normal, stable upbringing even if her parents are not living together. Its ...
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| almost 5 year old having problems | 3/17/2009 |
Q: My son is going to be 5 in May this year. He was completely potty trained both night and day for ...
A: Children's behavior rarely changes so drastically without some sort of causal event. The first thing ...
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| 7 year old crying and daydreaming | 3/16/2009 |
Q: even when she was younger and there was a problem or she did something wrong, we would try our best ...
A: Some children are simply extra sensitive and are daydreamers. That doesn't mean that you don't try ...
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| Destructive behaviour | 3/14/2009 |
Q: My son will be turning 4 in May 2009. I canot handle his demanding and destructive behaviour. It is ...
A: Its not unusual for four year olds to be bossy and a little unruly, but I do have some real concerns ...
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| childs perspective on death | 3/12/2009 |
Q: Our family does not go to church but we live by the great lessons they teach. My 7 yr old daughter ...
A: First is important to understand that at 7 years old, children don't really understand death like an ...
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| kids behavier | 3/3/2009 |
Q: I am a mother of 6and half year old kid(boy) . He was quite and good boy lately he is behaving so ...
A: Kids will often test out parents to see what they can get away with. And if they can get away with ...
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| 12 year old adopted son's behavior | 2/27/2009 |
Q: WE ADOPTED OUR SON 6 YEARS AGO WHEN HE WAS 6. SUDDENDLY, HE HAS SHUT MY HUSBAND AND ME OUT. HE NEVER ...
A: His adoption may or may not having anything to do with his behavior. Many 12 year old boys get moody ...
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| 6 year old boy who worries about everything | 2/27/2009 |
Q: My son just turned 6 & we have 4 year old b/g twins. He is always worring about who is doing what, ...
A: Kids who are anxious often feel their worlds are out of control or chaotic (even though your home ...
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| worried mum | 2/25/2009 |
Q: i am a mother of 2 beautiful children. My youngest is 9 months and my oldest is 2 and a half. 6 ...
A: Its not unusual for 2 year olds to be aggressive. They are easily frustrated but don't have the ...
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| 4 year old | 2/24/2009 |
Q: We are a mixed family. I have two girls of my own, ages 10 and 5. My boyfriend has a daughter age ...
A: Four year olds can be a handful with very dramatic behavior. Because they don't have the verbal ...
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| 5yr old only wets at grandma's | 2/18/2009 |
Q: He goes to a preschool for half the day and then to my mothers (his Neena). This week is winter ...
A: While its not unusual to have accidents, the fact that this behavior is new and frequent is worth ...
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| potty problems | 2/16/2009 |
Q: My ex-husband and I have been dealing with personal hygiene issues with our daughter recently. The ...
A: You didn't indicate how old your child was or how bad the problem is. Its not unusual for children ...
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| I think my daughter is being bullied in kindergarten | 2/14/2009 |
Q: There is a little girl in her kindergarten class that she often speaks about and whose behavior ...
A: Regarding the friend, I'd find out if your daughter actually wants to be friends with this child. If ...
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| 5 yr old need for privacy | 2/13/2009 |
Q: my daughter has recently (in the last 6 months) started closing her door when she gets dressed, ...
A: The only thing I'd be concerned about is that someone said or did something to make her feel ...
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| kids lying | 2/13/2009 |
Q: Whether its called lying, fibbing, telling stories, make believe, big imagination, etc its all ...
A: People (kids included) lie for a variety of reasons including to avoid getting in trouble, save face ...
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| 6 yr. old girl social behaviour | 2/11/2009 |
Q: My daughter who has just turned 6 has started to misbehave socially with some of her friends, she is ...
A: Six year olds can be self-absorbed and impulsive. But while its normal, its good to keep on her ...
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| 6 year old boy not eating at dinner | 2/5/2009 |
Q: My 6 yr old grandson doesn't ever want to eat dinner. His parents make him sit at the dinner table ...
A: Has his eating always been a problem or is this something new? Does he eat well other times of the ...
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| I don't know what to do to help my daughter. | 2/4/2009 |
Q: My daughter will be nine in a few days and she is suffering with something that I cannot sort out. ...
A: I wouldn't switch in the middle of the night especially if you're on an every other day schedule. ...
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| I don't know what to do to help my daughter. | 2/2/2009 |
Q: My daughter will be nine in a few days and she is suffering with something that I cannot sort out. ...
A: When there are lots of changes in a child's life, it can often cause problems because they feel like ...
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| My 11-1/2 year old son | 2/2/2009 |
Q: I've been asking my son to wash his hands before we eat and to chew with his mouth closed while we ...
A: Do you have to remind him more than once in a single meal? What happens when he doesn't show good ...
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| Is this the best way to parent | 1/31/2009 |
Q: Is the following a smart idea. A woman gets pregnant with a man. When the baby, she tells the ...
A: In most areas birth fathers have the same rights as mothers. If he terminates his rights then he has ...
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| Getting my 7 year old to use her own brain rather than copying others | 1/29/2009 |
Q: My 7 year old daughter is very strong willed. She knows what is right and wrong and follows rules ...
A: Have you enlisted the teachers help at school? Has she provided any suggestions on what she's ...
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| My 5 1/2 yr old is disruptive in class and goes under tables | 1/29/2009 |
Q: I am a mother to a 5 1/2 year old girl. She is in kindergarten and has an older half brother that ...
A: It sound like you're doing what needs to be done. Although I doubt she'll get a diagnosis of bipolar ...
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| social acceptance in Kindergarten | 1/22/2009 |
Q: my son is about to be 6 and is attending K at a new school. most of the kids already knew each other ...
A: I'd talk to the teacher to get her take on what's going on. Then I'd enlist her help in finding a ...
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| Aggression in 5 year old at Daycare | 1/22/2009 |
Q: Our daughter is in daycare 5 days a week for 50+ hours a week. She has been at the same daycare ...
A: It is true that 5 year olds can be impulsive and selfish. One of the great things about preschool is ...
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| behavioral/academic problems with my 5yr old son | 1/21/2009 |
Q: I am in desperate need of some advice. My son turned 5 years old right before kindergarten started ...
A: Part of the problem could be that he's socially immature. Many boys don't start school until they ...
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| My 5 1/2 yr old is disruptive in class and goes under tables | 1/20/2009 |
Q: I am a mother to a 5 1/2 year old girl. She is in kindergarten and has an older half brother that ...
A: What did the psychologist indicate was going on during the times she was seeing him/her? Was it your ...
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| aggressive beahvior in my five year old son | 1/17/2009 |
Q: My son turned five in November, I have been having a very hard time helping him control his anger. ...
A: This kind of behavior doesn't usually pop up out of the blue without some causal event. Has he ...
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| Favoring Boys Over Girls | 1/16/2009 |
Q: Ms. Truex, I am wondering if I can get your insight on something. My sister and her female partner ...
A: I'm not aware of any "theories" that suggest gay women favor parenting boys over girls. Parents are ...
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| Completing Morning Classwork | 1/13/2009 |
Q: How can we get my 5-year son to complete his morning class work assignment at school. For about 3 ...
A: I'm going to suggest two things. First, I would have the teacher work harder to get him to finish ...
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| jealous child | 1/10/2009 |
Q: Can you provide me with books on a 1st grade level to assist my daughter with her jealous feelings ...
A: I'm going to suggest books on feelings in general. This will help you and your daughter together ...
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| 5yr old son | 1/8/2009 |
Q: Sometimes when he gets mad at me he will pee on purpose. This morning he did it before school in his ...
A: There are two things that are difficult to control in children; 1) what goes in (eating) and 2) what ...
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| 6 yr old girl, multiple issues. | 1/6/2009 |
Q: I have been listening to my best friend for years and things are getting worse with her ...
A: First, while judges do often to try to maintain biological ties, I doubt he puts much weight into ...
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| 4 and 6 year old boys | 1/3/2009 |
Q: We have two very active boys.They are wonderful,kind,caring and funny little guys whom we love more ...
A: While your boys will likely stay busy and loud for the time being, you can put a stop to the ...
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| parenting | 1/2/2009 |
Q: At what age of a son should a mother stop taking a bath with him?
A: I'm not aware of any legal statutes on this, but based on child development, my opinion would be ...
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| disrestectful 13 old boy/ cant live like this | 12/31/2008 |
Q: My son is 13 and has had many behavioral issuse for many years. He has bipolar disorder and is adhd ...
A: It sounds like you have lots of resources ... but they aren't being as helpful as you need. Have you ...
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| 4 year old jealousy | 12/24/2008 |
Q: My 4 yr old daughter is extremely jealous when I show her friends affection. Showing love to younger ...
A: Four year olds can be a little dramatic to begin with and are very aware of "what's mine". In this ...
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| Desicions!!! | 12/23/2008 |
Q: My husband and I made a patch with our daughter. We said if she gets a 95% average in her report ...
A: To a certain extent you need to decide how "hard" you want to be. However, if you give in for one ...
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| Why is this the case | 12/22/2008 |
Q: Why is this the case? Why are there children that want to live with there mother, but others want to ...
A: I don't believe children that are 2 or 3 years old are developmenatlly capable of deciding where ...
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| Why is this the case | 12/21/2008 |
Q: Why is this the case? Why are there children that want to live with there mother, but others want to ...
A: There is no one answer to why kids would choose to live with one parent over another. They may be ...
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| 4 yr old acting out, tried everything I can think of | 12/18/2008 |
Q: I have three children, 4 and a half year old son, 2 and a half year old son and an 8 month old ...
A: It sounds as if you're children are responding to changes in the home including a new baby and a ...
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| Would this good mother or not | 12/10/2008 |
Q: Would this be a bad mother for not doing and respect the father and doing what he wanted her to do? ...
A: I don't think its a good idea to set a child up to experience rejection. Let her lead the way. If ...
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| Would this good mother or not | 12/9/2008 |
Q: Would this be a bad mother for not doing and respect the father and doing what he wanted her to do? ...
A: A mother should always be supportive and honest with her child. Answer her questions. Be supportive ...
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| Sticky situation | 12/8/2008 |
Q: Leslie, First of all, thanks so much for offering this service. My 9 yr. old son has been friends ...
A: This indeed is a sticky situation. You indicate you wouldn't want to hear this about your son, but ...
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| Would this good mother or not | 12/8/2008 |
Q: Would this be a bad mother for not doing and respect the father and doing what he wanted her to do? ...
A: Children don't like being lied to or purposefully prevented from knowing the truth about their ...
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| What should mother do when her 12 year old got pregnant | 12/6/2008 |
Q: What should a mother do if her 12 year old daughter got pregnant with a man, and she does not want ...
A: There are a couple of issues here. First you indicate your 12 year old is pregnant by a man. That is ...
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| Child with tattoo | 12/6/2008 |
Q: What should a mother do if her 12 year old daughter got several real tattoos on her body arm/lower ...
A: Are you the same person with the 12 year old pregnant daughter? I have very real concerns. Tattoos ...
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| How do children feel if they do not know there father | 12/3/2008 |
Q: How do children feel if they do not know there father, there father is not on the birth certificate ...
A: My answer is the same. A child will feel angery and betrayed to know there is a lie or cover up in ...
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| Social skills? | 12/2/2008 |
Q: I have a 6 year old, first grader. It seems hard for her to make friends. She talks about kids ...
A: There are no silly questions. Its okay to have concern and want to make sure your child is doing ...
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| Social skills? | 12/2/2008 |
Q: I have a 6 year old, first grader. It seems hard for her to make friends. She talks about kids ...
A: Is your daughter expressing any feelings about this? You indicate she likes school and visiting ...
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| How do children feel if they do not know there father | 11/30/2008 |
Q: How do children feel if they do not know there father, there father is not on the birth certificate ...
A: Children are resilient creatures which is fortunate as many parents make poor decisions. I wouldn't ...
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| What should a mother do | 11/29/2008 |
Q: What should a mother do if she got pregnant and the father a green card holder/foreign national ...
A: I'm not sure why a father would want to "flee" his child, but if he did, it would be harder to ...
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| What should a mother do | 11/29/2008 |
Q: If the father advises pregnant woman, that he does not want his name put on the birth certificate, ...
A: You should probably talk to a lawyer regarding all this. I don't know what the father is telling ...
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| What should a mother do | 11/26/2008 |
Q: If the father advises pregnant woman, that he does not want his name put on the birth certificate, ...
A: If mother and father are both people of their word, then he can be out of the baby's life regardless ...
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| pretend play too far? | 11/24/2008 |
Q: My 6 year old daughter has been pretend playing she has a baby in her belly. She starts out by ...
A: I wouldn't worry about this behavior. Putting the baby undershirt simply represents pregnant women. ...
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| 10 yr old, extremely low self esteem | 11/20/2008 |
Q: I have a 10 yr old son with very low self esteem. Everyday we go through the same scenario. I hate ...
A: The best way I know how to fix self esteem in children is through focus time. This is time that you ...
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| 4 yrs old boy afraid to lose | 11/20/2008 |
Q: My 4 years old has always been competitive. But lately he has become "too competitive" to the point ...
A: Its not uncommon for kids to have an aversion to losing. But learning to win and lose are important ...
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| My 6yr old son | 11/12/2008 |
Q: I have 7 children and I thought I have seen and done it all with them. I have a 6 year old, who I ...
A: With seven children you already know that despite having the same parents, children have their very ...
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| behavior problem | 11/12/2008 |
Q: I have a 4 year old daughter and she can be such a sweet and loving child however, lately she is ...
A: Four year olds can get bossy and difficult, which is not to say that its okay, but that its not ...
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| Difficult behavior in 7 yo daughter | 11/7/2008 |
Q: I feel totally put through the wringer with my 7 yo daughter. She is a very intelligent child, ...
A: Children's behavior rarely changes quickly without some sort of causal event. This could be related ...
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| poor elementary school grades | 11/5/2008 |
Q: Leslie: thank you for reviewing this situation. It may not sound as bad as it is, but it is ...
A: Its not unusual for 13 year old boys to start to struggle in school. Puberty and changes in school ...
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| 5 Year old child - hurried work at school | 11/5/2008 |
Q: I have a 5 year old son who is in Kindergarten in an International School. He has been having this ...
A: I would go ahead and check with the doctor again. Its true that this behavior is not unusual, but it ...
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| Advice | 11/2/2008 |
Q: I have a 6 year old little girl who the past 2 months has been little miss attitude and it is only ...
A: Its unusual for children who have previously behaved well to all of a sudden change unless something ...
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| moving with children | 10/26/2008 |
Q: There is a strong possibility that we will be moving to a city about 10 hours away from our current ...
A: I haven't met your son or your family so I can't say for sure what is best for you. But my first ...
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| Behaviour | 10/24/2008 |
Q: I'm not sure what to call this... My daughter spends her all her free time now doing "flips" on a ...
A: You didn't indicate the age of your daughter (is the 11 year old the older daughter?). And I want to ...
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| out of control 8 year old | 10/23/2008 |
Q: I have an out of control 8 year old boy, and we are at our wits end trying to discipline him. I ...
A: The difficult part for me in helping you is that solutions can't come in an email. I can offer you ...
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| Listening Skills | 10/16/2008 |
Q: My six year old's teacher told me that my son is a well behaved boy, but he has a problem in ...
A: There could be several reasons why your son isn't listening. It could be a processing disorder or an ...
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| 5 year old behavior | 10/15/2008 |
Q: My 5 year old daughter just refuses to listen at all. She throws tantrums slams doors. I just don't ...
A: It can be difficult for some children to share the attention. Some things you can do include to have ...
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| a kid who has an anwer for everything | 10/14/2008 |
Q: My son age 11 1/2 is never happy with what comes out of my mouth. I'll say it's blue and he says ...
A: It sounds like he isn't appreciative because you do too much for him. At 11 if he doesn't like the ...
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| where do the babys come from? | 10/10/2008 |
Q: My six-year-old is starting to ask a "where do the baby come from?" question, I am not sure how ...
A: Six year olds don't need the nitty gritty details. Sometimes a simple "they come from mommies" is ...
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| My 5 year old has trouble focusing in school | 10/9/2008 |
Q: My 5 year old son is having trouble focusing at school. He gets at least 2 notes a week from ...
A: It could be that your son is simply young and hasn't developed the skills needed to help him in ...
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| 2 year old sleeping with parents | 10/8/2008 |
Q: My fiance' has a 2 almost 3 year old daughter.The mother and he has split custody. So she is with us ...
A: Ideally you should put her back into her own bed as it can be a hard habit to break. You do want to ...
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| My Five year old | 10/7/2008 |
Q: My five year old daughter has become so oppositional it's unnerving. She simply put will not ...
A: First of all, it this new behavior or has she always been oppositional? New behavior suggests that ...
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| 10 year old exploring private parts | 10/6/2008 |
Q: i have caught my daughter almost nightly for about 3 weeks now rubbing her private parts. When I ...
A: You're right to remain calm and explain the situation as part of growing up. You do need to make ...
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| 3yrs screaming at night | 10/6/2008 |
Q: I am a single mother of two one3 and the other is 1 my 3 yr old will not go to sleep until 1 in the ...
A: Kids get into a habit and routine when getting to bed, even bad ones. The difficult is that these ...
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| Disciplining my 6 year old | 9/26/2008 |
Q: My 6 yr old boy has just started kindergarten. Ever since he started, he has been very negative, ...
A: Children's behavior doesn't change drastically without some sort of causal event. It could be school ...
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| daughter 6 hitting a girl at recess | 9/26/2008 |
Q: My adoptive daughter, age siz has apparently made another girl afraid to go to school. Her teacher ...
A: What does your daughter say is going on? It could be a reaction to adjusting to school. Some ...
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| father dies | 9/17/2008 |
Q: What happens to a little girl when, her father dies, she is between the ages of 6 and 18? Both ...
A: My answer is essentially the same. Children need love and guidance and it can come from a host of ...
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| father dies | 9/17/2008 |
Q: What happens to a little girl when, her father dies, she is between the ages of 6 and 18? Both ...
A: While losing a parent is very traumatic, it doesn't doom a child to an unhappy life or the inability ...
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| physical aggression when words don't work | 9/12/2008 |
Q: Our nearly 5 year old girl resorts to physical aggression (hitting, poking, pushing, kicking, etc.) ...
A: First, behavior can take time to change. One intervention will not cure her any more than one ...
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| 5 Yr Old Behavioral Problems at School | 9/9/2008 |
Q: My grandson is five and is in kindergarten. He went to four year kindergarten last year and loved ...
A: It would be unusual for your grandson to have ADHD (which is what I suspect his teacher thinks) and ...
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| 6 year old in new school can't make friends | 9/8/2008 |
Q: My 6 year old daughter started a new school and is having a hard time making friends. We are in the ...
A: Have you talked to the teacher about it? Has she indicated what is the problem? Shyness? Behavior ...
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| 9 year old daughter's questions | 9/2/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have a daughter (9), and two sons (7) and (5). Our daughter has asked if our pet ...
A: The process of making babies is not a "bad" topic. Its a part of nature. Your daughter asked if the ...
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| Ex-wife and new Boyfriend showering with my 7yr old! | 9/1/2008 |
Q: My fiance and I have found out from my 7 year old son that he has been showering regularly with his ...
A: Victims of abuse often have poor understandings of boundaries which may be the case here. I agree ...
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| inappropriate behavior | 8/27/2008 |
Q: I am a divorced mother of 2 children. My concern is with my 6 yr old daughter (my son is 4). She ...
A: I would recommend going to the book store and browsing the selection they have there. Most are good, ...
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| inappropriate behavior | 8/26/2008 |
Q: I am a divorced mother of 2 children. My concern is with my 6 yr old daughter (my son is 4). She ...
A: While curiosity about body parts is common at this age, it doesn't usually manifest like this. I ...
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| building self esteem | 8/24/2008 |
Q: How can you help a child with self esteem issues if they are now adults, but feel like a child ...
A: As people get older its harder and harder to build self-esteem. In some ways, your child needs to ...
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| child custody | 8/23/2008 |
Q: Would an elementary school Dutch born child be would she be upset/hatful/resentful at her Dutch ...
A: I'm getting many questions all along a similar vein (Dutch/American child custody) leading me to ...
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| gestational surrogate | 8/23/2008 |
Q: How would a typical Belgium child feel when she is told by Belgium father that she has no mother, ...
A: I'm getting many questions all along a similar vein (Dutch/Americna child custody) leading me to ...
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| 10 yr old obnoxious behavior | 8/22/2008 |
Q: when my 10 year old daughter get around other kids she becomes very obnoxious. she gets very bossy ...
A: The consequence (talking to her) isn't compelling enough for her to change. She gets something out ...
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| Norwegian child prevented from seeing American Mother. | 8/20/2008 |
Q: Would a normal Norwegian child, love and trust her father very much, if he is a loving caring father ...
A: I do believe this situation could pose a problem. For one thing, there is no indication that there ...
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| Concern for 11 year old. | 8/19/2008 |
Q: My husband has visitation with his son on alternating holidays and during th summer for ...
A: I would probably get back in touch with the lawyer in regards to the name changing and see if there ...
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| kindergarten | 8/16/2008 |
Q: My son is 4.10 years old. He is currently signed up for pre-k at a nursery school (8 students, half ...
A: While boredom can be an issue, my sense is that your son might be better off to wait to start ...
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| Emotional 10 year old daughter | 8/16/2008 |
Q: My daughter is just 10 years old and over the past 6 months she seems to be very emotional. Happy ...
A: There could be a couple of reasons for this. It could be "that age" as she gets close to puberty. ...
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| 5 year old wants to be perfect | 8/14/2008 |
Q: My 5 year old son just started Kindergarten last week. He wants to be perfect at everything he ...
A: Children who are perfectionists often feel insecure which can happen when plopped into a new ...
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| teach American child Dutch and Engish | 8/12/2008 |
Q: Is difficult for a stay at home mom who is fluent in English and Dutch, to teach her three year old ...
A: Its unusual and unnecessary for a 3 year old to read and write in any language. Learning the ...
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| teach American child Dutch and Engish | 8/12/2008 |
Q: Is difficult for a stay at home mom who is fluent in English and Dutch, to teach her three year old ...
A: Most studies indicate that children who are raised in two-language families are a bit slower to talk ...
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| Starting to panic! | 8/7/2008 |
Q: I have a wonderful 6 year old daughter and she is starting to say things that really have me in a ...
A: You are right that children don't understand or have ways to express their feelings. Further, moving ...
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| Troublemaking? | 7/29/2008 |
Q: My 6 year old is actually a pretty good kid, and this happens maybe 2-3 a month, but its enough to ...
A: Sneakiness isn't unusual at this age, but you do want to do something about it. Whatever ...
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| Siblings | 7/28/2008 |
Q: I have 2 boys (6 yr old and 10 yr old). My 10 year old is not nice to my 6 yr old and I know this ...
A: Its hard to know where this behavior came from. But if its jealousy, then I'd hold of on having ...
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| sharing the bed | 7/24/2008 |
Q: How can we get our 8 yr old out of our bed? He was born deaf, now has a cochlear implant, so we was ...
A: This is likely going to take some time. Eight years is a long time to have a habit plus, with the ...
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| Kids | 7/15/2008 |
Q: I am soooo frusterated and confused!!! Im not sure if this is the spot to ask but hopefully you can ...
A: Its important to understand that children are curious about their body and body parts. Particularly ...
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| Childhood Depression | 7/15/2008 |
Q: My son will be 7 in September. Lately, I am feeling more and more frustrated by his behavior and am ...
A: It does sound like your son suffers from anxiety. Although his threats may be empty, anytime anyone ...
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| Temper Tantrums | 7/10/2008 |
Q: A friend of mine has a little girl who just turned 4 and recently she has started acting out by ...
A: There are two things that parents can't really control in children; what goes in and what goes out. ...
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| Child care | 6/30/2008 |
Q: I am a mother of 4 yr old.she is very active and she is very intelligent and frequently asks ...
A: First off, if she is "beating" you (hitting?) you need to stop that. You need to find a way to ...
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| 5 year old misbehaving at school | 6/19/2008 |
Q: I'm a single mother of a 5 year old son. He recently started summer camp at his day care. He is ...
A: Five year olds may understand what you're talking about, but that doesn't always translate into ...
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| animals and children | 6/19/2008 |
Q: I've overloaded myself with animals - 4 dogs, cat, 4 birds, and 8 sugar gliders. I can't afford them ...
A: This is a difficult situation for your son and I'm sure for you as well. Pets are members of the ...
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| 5 year old | 6/18/2008 |
Q: Our son turned five on June 5th and will attend a private school this fall with children who are ...
A: I don't mean to sound negative about private schools. In general they provide an excellent ...
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| 5 year old | 6/18/2008 |
Q: Our son turned five on June 5th and will attend a private school this fall with children who are ...
A: The reasoning for keeping boys out of school until they are six or almost six has to do with social ...
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| 9 year old agressive/competitive behavior | 6/9/2008 |
Q: My son wants to win at all costs not matter what type of game. If it is just a recess game of soccer ...
A: Hockey is an aggressive sport, so if its a concern of yours, then maybe you need to reconsider. ...
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| Competitive 6 Year Old Boy | 5/29/2008 |
Q: My son is a very social and friendly child and usually gets along well with everyone. However, when ...
A: Its not unusual for kids to be competitive. At six they have a strong desire for right and wrong ...
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| disobedient 4 year old with no sense of control | 5/21/2008 |
Q: i am a mother of 3 with another one on the way. (a four year old, a 2 year old, and a nine month ...
A: Your situation is difficult for me to assess without seeing you and your child together. While ...
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| 5 year old still acts like she's 2!! Help! | 5/21/2008 |
Q: I am having a problem with my 5 year old. She usually wakes up in the morning before I do and within ...
A: I will caution you from locking her in her room as some places may see this as a safety issue and ...
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| 6 yr old. | 5/15/2008 |
Q: . my name is rebekah and my husband and i are very young(early 20s), and have been married about a ...
A: Is this placement being facilitated through Social Services? If so, be sure to sign up for all the ...
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| Emotional 5 year old. | 5/13/2008 |
Q: I have a beautiful, compassionate, bright 5 year old daughter who is struggling in school due to to ...
A: The good news is that your daughter can be compassionate without being overly sensitive. While its ...
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| eating obsession | 5/8/2008 |
Q: my daughter is 11 years old and is overly concerned about her weight she is not over weight but she ...
A: This is an age were often girls begin to notice the focus on beauty and weight. The hear it at ...
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| 6 yr old problems | 5/7/2008 |
Q: My son Alex is 6 yrs old and in Kindergarten. He whines and cries about everything especially when ...
A: These sound like symptoms of a lack of confidence or low self esteem. The best and easiest way I ...
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| Eating | 5/7/2008 |
Q: I have 3 kids, daughters are 8 and 4 and the baby is 1. The baby is fine so far as were my ...
A: It nearly impossible to control what goes in and what comes out of children. Your issue is not ...
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| Adolescent Questions | 5/1/2008 |
Q: If a parent bathes two of his adolescent children, one male and one female, together and one of the ...
A: I don't know if this is a typo "If a parent bathes two of his adolescent children" but in case it ...
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| my 4 1/2 year old daughter | 4/29/2008 |
Q: wed, and every other Friday. I have gotten 3 phone calls from her principal and about 10 notes ...
A: Does she exhibit this same behavior at home? Children who don't listen usually don't have consistent ...
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| Closer to son | 4/21/2008 |
Q: I have truly been an overbearing and strict parent. I am over coming many issues that I know my son ...
A: I think you're on the right track. It can take time to relearn new habits and that includes your ...
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| 6 year old hitting | 4/20/2008 |
Q: I am the mother of two boys, one is 3 years old and the other 6 years old. My 6 year old is such an ...
A: Its not unusual for children to behave differently at home than outside the home. It sounds like ...
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| 5 yr. old son showing Avoidance/Anger issues | 4/4/2008 |
Q: We have a 5 yr old son who seems to be having an issue that we are hard pressed to identify. My ...
A: A child counselor is a good option as he/she will be able to question and observe in a way I can't. ...
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| 7 year old daughter thinks she is "fat" and "ugly" | 3/28/2008 |
Q: My 7 year old daughter often complains and cries that she is "fat", "ugly", her "face is fat", her ...
A: Is this a new thing or has she always put herself down? If this is new, it suggests that something ...
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| Daughter not | 3/25/2008 |
Q: My 5 year old doesn't play much with fake babies or dolls. When she does, she tells me not to ...
A: Kids don't generally need to be taught how to play. It could be her style of play is different than ...
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| Daughter not "girly" enough | 3/24/2008 |
Q: My 5 year old doesn't play much with fake babies or dolls. When she does, she tells me not to ...
A: Does she let you play with her? Does she not want you to watch just when she plays with dolls or ...
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| Shy 4 yr daughter constantly rejected... | 3/24/2008 |
Q: My daughter will be 4 in a few days and I am desperate to help her. She was born with a few health ...
A: What are the teachers doing? Teachers usually try to help in these situations by pairing kids ...
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| son | 3/12/2008 |
Q: My son is an almost 9 year old underachiever. He does just what he HAS to, to get by. He hurries, ...
A: The key is to find out why your son is this way. Is it his temperament (hard, but not impossible to ...
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| My son says he doesn't like me | 3/6/2008 |
Q: I am a single dad and have raised my 9 year old son his whole life. Since I work in the Sports ...
A: Sudden changes in behavior are usually the result of some incident. It doesn't necessarily have to ...
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| toothless... | 3/6/2008 |
Q: I'm an novelist and have a question about a character I'm developing. It's a five year old boy. I ...
A: If both teeth are missing, he'd more likely be 6. Some kids lose one tooth at 5 years old, but most ...
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| my step-son | 3/1/2008 |
Q: My step-son is 10 years old, his mother died suddenley when he was 5 years old, he has a brother of ...
A: Its difficult for me to pinpoint what is going on. It may or may not having anything to do with the ...
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| My 11 year old son | 2/28/2008 |
Q: I am a divorced mother of an 11 year old boy. He has periodically told me his father walks around ...
A: At this age, boys do start to desire privacy and the desire for privacy should be enough for others ...
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| out of ideas! | 2/23/2008 |
Q: I have three daughters 4yrs, 6yrs, and 9ys old. My oldest and middle girls are experimenting with ...
A: First of all, I would insure that your children aren't playing together unsupervised. I know this ...
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| 8 yr old -horrible behavior problems | 2/22/2008 |
Q: I am hoping you can help me to help my niece. Her 8 year old daughter is having horrible behavior ...
A: This sounds like pretty out of control behavior, and not something that can be fixed with a simple ...
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| 8 year old - acting up or is she being 8? | 2/21/2008 |
Q: I need some perspective on the appropriate behavior of an 8 year old. My daughter just turned 8 ...
A: While we acknowledge that kids can be a challenge at 2 and 14, kids actually cycle through ...
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| Nervous 6 year old | 2/21/2008 |
Q: I have a six year old daughter who is extremely nervous to try anything new or meet new people. She ...
A: Some kids are just more tentative about trying new things. I suggest that 1) you let her be a part ...
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| Scared of Dance | 2/19/2008 |
Q: I have an eight year old daughter who has always been extremely talented at acro and dance, she has ...
A: Again its difficult to pinpoint exactly what's going on, but it seems clear that the acro is the ...
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| Scared of Dance | 2/15/2008 |
Q: I have an eight year old daughter who has always been extremely talented at acro and dance, she has ...
A: Things like this can be very hard to get to the root of. Sometimes kids just all of a sudden lose ...
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| HELP | 2/15/2008 |
Q: I am not sure what to do. I have a very out of control four year old. She tells me she hates me ...
A: Four years olds can be difficult, but it appears that your daughter doesn't respond to your ...
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| Grandson talking out | 2/14/2008 |
Q: I'm the grandmother! Our 43 year old son and wife aren't divorced as yet but our son lives with ...
A: Children develop best in loving stable homes. When those homes are disrupted, young children often ...
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| Swearing and Lashing out | 2/14/2008 |
Q: My question for you is that my 9 year old has been getting into trouble this year at school more ...
A: It seems possible, although not necessarily so, that he's reacting to your divorce. When homes are ...
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| My 4 year old is struggling with my new boyfriend | 2/13/2008 |
Q: I have just introduced my boyfriend to my 4 year old son.I have been a single parent all his life ...
A: It is natural for any one to struggle with learning to share after 4 years of exclusive attention. ...
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| 1st grader talks too much | 2/7/2008 |
Q: I am a single Mom of a motormouth! Help! Every week, my 6 year old's first grade teacher sends ...
A: Some kids just talk a lot and it can be hard to control. Its good that you provide incentives or ...
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| Socially immature | 2/6/2008 |
Q: I have a 6 yro step son who seems "socially immature" My husband got custody of him 2 years ago from ...
A: If you're really concerned about autism, aspergers or PDD, take him to a specialist who can evaluate ...
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| How to Motivate my 6 year old to Learn | 2/6/2008 |
Q: I want to know the best way(s) to motivate my 6 year old son to take more interest in reading and ...
A: The easiest way to encourage learning is to make it fun. Unfortunately, most of the time it isn't ...
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| "punishment vs crime" | 2/3/2008 |
Q: our almost-six year old is a very bright boy. he is loving to his younger sister, does very well in ...
A: Restitution is an important part of discipline so good for you to try to find a way to make that ...
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| grandson | 2/2/2008 |
Q: I have a grandson that is 4 and having behavior problems at home. When he comes to my house he is ...
A: Its not that unusual for children to express their anger or frustration using the "I hate you" line. ...
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| 8 year old lying | 2/1/2008 |
Q: My daughter is 8 years old. She's a great kid and lives in our family with a 2 year old brother, ...
A: There could be a variety of reasons for what's going on. It could be she new she had to come up with ...
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| out of control 7 year old. | 1/31/2008 |
Q: I have two girls; a 7 year old and a 1 year old. My 7 year old has me at my wits end. She was ...
A: The behavior you're describing is very extreme and needs to be brought in control ASAP. Have you ...
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| 4 year old boy behavior | 1/27/2008 |
Q: He did not speak until the age of 3 so I have had him in our state's early intervention program ever ...
A: I'm going to suggest that you start with a doctor's examination to be sure that there is no medical ...
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| Kindergarten | 1/20/2008 |
Q: I am trying to find out if I have to send my daughter to school in September, or if I have the ...
A: This varies by state and school district. Contact the local elementary school to determine the legal ...
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| 6-year old body part exploration | 1/12/2008 |
Q: Two days ago my 6-year olds teacher came to me for a quick chat and asked me to talk to my daughter ...
A: Body curiosity is very normal for six year olds. That doesn't mean its okay to touch other kids, but ...
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| DISPLINE AND SCHOOL | 1/9/2008 |
Q: I am a 27yr old single mother of a 6yr old boy and 3mth old girl. Ever since my son was in ...
A: Well... all the things I normally suggest, you have tried. There are a couple of things to look at ...
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| 7 year old son | 1/8/2008 |
Q: I"ll try to make it short. I moved to GA 4 years ago (job change for my husband) on my block I was ...
A: Friendships come and go. Its possible that the other boy has developed other interests and that ...
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| 3 children | 1/3/2008 |
Q: I have 3 children, ages 11, 10 and 9. I am a good mother and don't worry about that. However, there ...
A: Your's is a common complaint of moms everywhere. The minute we're engaged in something else, the ...
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| 8 year old girl | 1/2/2008 |
Q: Destiny was abandoned (along with her older and younger brothers) by her mentally abusive, drug ...
A: Activities are nice. Is dad following through on this? Abandonment issues can get serious and lead ...
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| 5 Year Old Daughter - Anxiety/Not Eating | 12/30/2007 |
Q: I am the father of 5 children ages 16, 11, 8 and twin girls who are 5. The past 4-5 days now, one of ...
A: Children's behavior doesn't change drastically without some causal event. My suggestion is to first ...
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| 5 year old shy | 12/30/2007 |
Q: Our 5 year old daughter is extremely shy. She won't talk to any grownups (aunts, uncles, neighbors, ...
A: It is true that some kids are very shy. The fact that her teacher says she's opening up is a good ...
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| Playground Behavior | 12/22/2007 |
Q: Leslie, My grandson is 6 years old and in the first grade.He does well in the classroom situation ...
A: There may be several things going on here. First, he may be socially immature (many kids are 7 in ...
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| Bullying | 12/20/2007 |
Q: Does anyone have an opinion on how to address bullying in 5th or 6th grade. After a child tells you ...
A: If its happening at school, go to the teacher and administration. Get your hands on the school's ...
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| Swearing | 12/18/2007 |
Q: Ours is a Christian home. We have a seven-year old boy who has picked up swearing from some of his ...
A: Children don't really understand the ramifications of swear words. They know they seem "cool" or get ...
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| 5-year-old daughter destructive behavior | 12/9/2007 |
Q: My 5-year-old daughter is an angel at school, does brilliantly well with her work, but from the ...
A: There are a couple of things that can lead to difficult behavior. One is that she may have a ...
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| 6 yr old son scared of EVERYTHING | 12/3/2007 |
Q: Please help!!! My step son is scared of everything!!! I mean he will not got to bed without the ...
A: This is a hard question for me to answer without some background information. However, I'll provide ...
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| 7 Year old grandaughter cheating in school | 11/30/2007 |
Q: My daughter and grandaughter moved in with us a year ago because of a seperation (soon to be ...
A: It sounds like your grand-daughter is going through a difficult time. I would first insist (not ask) ...
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| My 10 year old is killing my spirit | 11/29/2007 |
Q: My very bright 10 year old son is not listening to any adult (I started noticing this behavior this ...
A: What you're describing is not all that uncommon and as child behavior goes, not as bad as it could ...
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| 4 yr old having "accidents" | 11/22/2007 |
Q: Good evening! My wife and I are the parents of 3 beautiful girls, aged 5 and 4 (twins). One of our 4 ...
A: The first thing you want to do is take her to the doctor just to be sure there is no medical issue. ...
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| Boyfriend sleeping with 6 year old daughter | 11/18/2007 |
Q: My boyfirned and I live together and he shares custody of his 6+ year old daughter. When we have ...
A: These behaviors are not necessarily inappropriate, but its about time that some limits are set. ...
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| Almost 5 year old aggressive behavior | 11/15/2007 |
Q: I just read a question from Kirsten dated 8/7/07 and it sounds exactly like my son. He is having ...
A: As things settle down, so should his unsettled feelings. He does need consequences for his behavior ...
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| Almost 5 year old aggressive behavior | 11/15/2007 |
Q: I just read a question from Kirsten dated 8/7/07 and it sounds exactly like my son. He is having ...
A: Talk to teachers to learn if there is a new student or a change in the classroom that may be a ...
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| My daughter doesn't want me to have a boyfriend | 11/12/2007 |
Q: I am a mom and ended my 15 year relationship 2 years ago. My 11 year old daughter was handling ...
A: This is not an unusual situation. It can be hard to share after having been the center of attention ...
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| in the long term | 11/9/2007 |
Q: i have a 31/2 year old son and i want some insight on how important a fathers role is to him im the ...
A: Father figures are important; however, its always better to have a good role model. Further, while ...
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| My 5 year old and her behavior in Kindergarden. | 11/7/2007 |
Q: I have a 5 year old daughter. She is as per her teacher a young adult. She has an old soul. She ...
A: You do need to support the teacher in her efforts and that may mean some consequences at home for ...
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| 5 year being bossy | 11/7/2007 |
Q: My son just turned 5 last week. whenever my husband and I play with him he has all these rules that ...
A: Its not unusual for kids to be bossy at this age, but that doesn't change how annoying it is. One ...
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| My 5 year old and her behavior in Kindergarden. | 11/6/2007 |
Q: I have a 5 year old daughter. She is as per her teacher a young adult. She has an old soul. She ...
A: I find it interesting that the teacher describes your daughter as a "young adult and old soul" and ...
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| my very troubled 6 year old | 11/6/2007 |
Q: I am devastated over the recent behavior of my daughter. She is almost 6 and started kindergarten at ...
A: I'm glad to hear you're seeing a therapist as this behavior can be from a multitude of things and a ...
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| visitation with 6yr old and daddy | 11/4/2007 |
Q: My situation is that my 6yr old beautiful little girl has been visiting her dad every other weekend ...
A: Children's behavior doesn't suddenly change without some sort of catalyst. It doesn't have to be ...
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| She won't stop talking and moving around | 11/1/2007 |
Q: My daughter is 5 and she's always been inquistive, a talker and a mover. She was having so many ...
A: By saying the "results are good" I'm assuming that the doctor determined she didn't have ADD or ...
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| 6 yr. old boy | 10/26/2007 |
Q: My son is showing a pattern of disrespect towards his 1st grade teacher. It seems at home this type ...
A: Not doing his best work is not a sign of disrespect. What other behavior is the teacher indicating ...
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| five year old boy | 10/25/2007 |
Q: I am a mother of three children ages 8, 7 and 5.5 years. My question is regarding my youngest. He is ...
A: Five years can still be very young particularly for boys. But you are right, being larger, people ...
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| sneaking food | 10/23/2007 |
Q: "I have a 6 yo daughter that has developed the habit of getting into food, and/or picking at food ...
A: Food hoarding can be the symptom of several things. I would suggest that you first take her to the ...
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| Uncharacteristic behavior in 6 yr. old daughter | 10/22/2007 |
Q: Recently our 6 yr. old daughter has shown some uncharacteristic behavior that has left my husband ...
A: A couple of things maybe going on. First of all, she's not likely to know why she wanted to do it. ...
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| Behaviors after visits | 10/22/2007 |
Q: We are the mother of 2 adopted girls, aged 15 and 18. We also have a foster son who is 4. My ...
A: First of all, hats off to you for making such a big and important commitment to this child's life. ...
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| Unruly 6 year old | 10/17/2007 |
Q: I don't know if just typing all of this will be enough, but I have been engaged to my fiancee now ...
A: There are a couple of issues that need to be addressed before you and your fiance get married. Its ...
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| 10 year old son | 10/16/2007 |
Q: My son is too cool to wave or say hi to me in front of his friends at the bus stop. Should i try ...
A: Its not unusual for kids to stop being outwardly affectionate or even acknowledge their parents. It ...
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| Serious problem with my 6.7 year old only Son | 10/13/2007 |
Q: My son is 6 years and 7 months old in standard 1. In studies he is doing very fine and class ...
A: There are a couple of things that can be going on. It sounds as if he's angry and directing it at ...
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| Frustrated 7 year old | 10/12/2007 |
Q: I have a 7 year old son who, no matter what task he is doing, gets extremely frustrated when he ...
A: It sounds like he has developed low self-esteem. This can come from a variety of places and doesn't ...
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| loss of a parent | 10/9/2007 |
Q: I have a 6 year old nephew who recently lost his mother. Do I let him see the open casket at the ...
A: What does your nephew want? Whether he sees her or not, he may still not fully grasp the permanence ...
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| 5 yr old daughter - immature, emotional | 10/4/2007 |
Q: I have received my second phone call from my daughter's teacher today and am concerned. I am told ...
A: Its possible that your daughter isn't ready for kindergarten yet. Some kids just don't have the ...
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| Fire Drill Anxiety | 10/4/2007 |
Q: My son is in first grade and is having serious anxiety about fire, tornado and lockdown drills as ...
A: Is it the noise that bothers him or the commotion and idea of disaster? If its the noise, you may ...
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| 11 year old change in behavior | 10/3/2007 |
Q: my son is 11, soon to be 12, and he is ADHD. Although this has always been a struggle, he is on ...
A: It can be difficult for boys entering puberty to manage the multiple tasks required to stay on top ...
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| STRONG WILLED 6YR OLD SON | 10/2/2007 |
Q: I GOT A CALL FROM MY SON'S TEACHER TODAY SAYING THAT HE WAS ONE OF THE MOST "STRONG WILLED CHILDREN ...
A: Some kids butt against authority more than others. And sometimes its because they eventually get ...
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| 6 yr old wanting to be an adult | 9/29/2007 |
Q: We are having a problem with our oldest daughter and don't know what to do. She is in 1st grade and ...
A: Today little girls are socialized into adults at an early age. Some little girls pick up on this and ...
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| My 7 year old boy | 9/29/2007 |
Q: I am a divorced Mom of a 7 year old boy and I am having some serious issues with him lately. His ...
A: You're welcome. As far as the reading; I think boys who have behavior problems may be poor readers, ...
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| My 7 year old boy | 9/27/2007 |
Q: I am a divorced Mom of a 7 year old boy and I am having some serious issues with him lately. His ...
A: Has he always been difficult or is this fairly new behavior (ie since the divorce or since starting ...
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| Very badly behaved 6 year old girl | 9/26/2007 |
Q: I have a daughter, an only child who is six and in the first grade. She has had problems since day ...
A: I apologize if my answer seemed like it was saying you did nothing. That was not my intention. I ...
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| OUT OF CONTROL 5 YEAR OLD!! | 9/26/2007 |
Q: ok my sister has 3 children a one year old girl sera and a almost 4 year old girl renee and a 5 year ...
A: This behavior sounds very extreme, and while your sister tried counseling, I have to recommend that ...
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| My five year old | 9/25/2007 |
Q: This is my five year old first time in going to a public school and his behavior is awful. I have ...
A: Did he go to pre-school? Did he act this way there? It is possible that he's not ready for ...
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| jealousy in 5 year old | 9/25/2007 |
Q: my daughter is 5 and has been extremely jealous of any child, other than her brother, who i help. ...
A: What does she do exactly? Does she yell? Get in the way physically? Sharing is a touch concept for ...
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| fear of rain | 9/24/2007 |
Q: My 7 1/2 year old daughter has developed a fear of rain. She looks to the sky and talks about dark ...
A: Fear is difficult in children. As adults, we recognize the irrationality of it. But if you've ever ...
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| Lying and stealing | 9/24/2007 |
Q: My daughter turned 15 on the 9/17. She has been lying and stealing for as many years. What do I ...
A: At this late stage of the game, I think your best option is to get family counseling. Because your ...
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| My daughter who is in 1st grade... | 9/21/2007 |
Q: My daughter began 1st grade a few weeks ago. This year has seemed to start off much better than ...
A: First, the fact that your daughter went into the boys bathroom doesn't mean you're a bad mom. Kids, ...
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| Mother showering with my 5 year-old stepson | 9/19/2007 |
Q: My husband and I just discovered through comments made by my 5 year-old stepson that he has been ...
A: The more important question is how does your step-son feel about it? While its not necessarily ...
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| 5 YEAR OLD WITH ANXIETY PROBLEM | 9/18/2007 |
Q: MY 5 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER JUST STARTED KINDERGARTEN THIS YEAR. THE FIRST 3 DAYS SHE WAS O.K. WHEN i ...
A: School anxiety is not that unusual. Its good that you have the teacher and guidance person involved. ...
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| split custody & starting kindergarten | 9/17/2007 |
Q: For starters my son's father and I have 50/50 split custody. (a full week with me and then off to ...
A: It could be the custody situation isn't to blame or that its coupled with other things like starting ...
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| 7 year old thief | 9/14/2007 |
Q: My 7 year old daughter has a bad stealing habit. She was caught for the first time last year during ...
A: For discipline to work it needs to be compelling (make an impact) on the child. It also needs to be ...
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| split custody & starting kindergarten | 9/14/2007 |
Q: For starters my son's father and I have 50/50 split custody. (a full week with me and then off to ...
A: Your son could be having difficulties for a variety of reasons. He may not be ready, the custody ...
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| mental child abuse | 9/13/2007 |
Q: my boyfriend is going through a divorce and he is worried about his 10 year old son. the mother ...
A: First of all, a good counselor will not make any recommendations to the court without having met ...
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| mental child abuse | 9/11/2007 |
Q: my boyfriend is going through a divorce and he is worried about his 10 year old son. the mother ...
A: I can't say for sure what's going on because I can't talk to the child or the mother. However, in my ...
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| my 5 yr old son and his behavior issues | 9/7/2007 |
Q: Please help me!! I am at a loss of what to do with my son? He has been in kindergarten for 3 weeks ...
A: Consider having him evaluated at school for readiness and other interventions that he may be ...
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| my 5 yr old son and his behavior issues | 9/6/2007 |
Q: Please help me!! I am at a loss of what to do with my son? He has been in kindergarten for 3 weeks ...
A: There are a couple of things that may help. First, has your son always been like this or is this new ...
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| 6 year old son | 9/6/2007 |
Q: My 6 year old son just started first grade @ a new school. He Is a very friendly, but sensitive boy ...
A: Childhood depression and anxiety is more common that people think. I would work on developing ...
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| 11 year old with fire drill anxiety | 9/5/2007 |
Q: My son is in 6th grade and and has had anxiety to fire drills that started around the beginning of ...
A: This is an unusual fear and its not clear where its come from. What happened in 4th grade that he ...
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| help us! = ) | 9/5/2007 |
Q: Truex! I am a Senior in high school and participate in a class called Future Problem Solving (FPS). ...
A: I'm not supposed to answer homework problems, however, I can give a little guidance. First, is this ...
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| First Grade Troubles??? | 9/3/2007 |
Q: I am the mother of a first grader (school just started 5 days ago...) My daughter is one of three ...
A: First, take your daughter to the doctor to make sure the wetting isn't related to a medical issue. ...
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| five year old aggression and argueing with imaginary people | 9/2/2007 |
Q: my five year old son has had different stages of aggressive behavior since age two. last year for ...
A: This behavior may be helped by getting some parent education training and implementing interventions ...
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| My boyfriends 5 year old son, has recently threatened to stab and kill two people | 9/2/2007 |
Q: What exactly can i do. I am a parent of two (an 11 year old and a 2 year old). I am dating a guy ...
A: This behavior could be the result of a multitude of things including an inability to manage anger, ...
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| daughter 5 1/2 | 8/29/2007 |
Q: My daughter Maegan is 5 1/2. She has always had a mind of her own but lately it is getting worse. ...
A: Getting children invested in good behavior takes a couple of things. First, I always recommend ...
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| 6 yr old daughter's classmate likes getting her in trouble | 8/29/2007 |
Q: I have one 6 year old daughter whom I would describe as confident and outgoing (talks too much and ...
A: You have a couple of options. The first is to keep biting your tongue and taking the abuse. Since I ...
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| My 6 year old is pulling away... | 8/28/2007 |
Q: I'm having some unexpected issues with my 6 year old (almost 7). He's always been a pretty well ...
A: Seven is a bit young to start the "I'm tool cool for hugs" stage, but some kids do start younger. ...
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| Bad attitude | 8/28/2007 |
Q: I have a step daughter who is 9 years old. She is very disrespectful to her father and I. She argues ...
A: I do recommend a parenting class or books to give you lots of great ideas. Also, do start with the ...
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| Bad attitude | 8/27/2007 |
Q: I have a step daughter who is 9 years old. She is very disrespectful to her father and I. She argues ...
A: The short answer is to create some special time for her...focused time in which you and her dad are ...
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| almost 6yr old daughter taking things from me | 8/19/2007 |
Q: This past few months, my daughter has snuck candy and other items and hid them in her room. Just ...
A: Its not that unusual for 6 year olds to have sticky fingers, however its usually impulsive (like ...
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| 6 year not wanting to eat | 8/19/2007 |
Q: I have a six year old daughter who has recently decided she doesn't want to eat. She had a vomiting ...
A: First, take her to the doctor to make sure she doesn't have some sort of medical problem that could ...
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| 4 month old sleep habits | 8/14/2007 |
Q: My son was a big newborn, 9lbs. 11.2oz., eats alot and very frequently. He is now 4 months old and ...
A: I'd recommend starting with your doctor. You want to rule out any sort of illness or ailment that ...
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| Concerned about 7 year old daughter | 8/13/2007 |
Q: I am a stay at home mom of 7 year old boy/girl twins. My concern is regarding my daughter. About a ...
A: Playing "doctor" isn't unusual; however, simulating intimate activities is a bit over the top. The ...
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| Behavior problems with almost 5 year old | 8/9/2007 |
Q: My (almost) 5 year old has been bullying (pushing, hitting, etc) the other kids at her daycare ...
A: Since the behavior is somewhat new, don't rule out some sort of incident that has led to this ...
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| Behavior problems with almost 5 year old | 8/9/2007 |
Q: My (almost) 5 year old has been bullying (pushing, hitting, etc) the other kids at her daycare ...
A: Has she always been aggressive to other children or is this a new thing? Is it only at daycare or at ...
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| fourth grader that misses mom at school | 8/8/2007 |
Q: my fourth grade daughter cries at school because she says she misses me. this has happened every ...
A: Does this happen just at school or does it happen when she leaves you at other events such as sleep ...
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| son starting kindergarten | 8/7/2007 |
Q: My husband and I are having a dispute. Our son is three years old and we are already discussing his ...
A: Your son should start kindergarten when he's ready to do so. Since he's three, you have two years to ...
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| boundaries for 10 year old and 5 year old | 8/4/2007 |
Q: I have two children: one is ten, and the other is five. It is difficult to be consistent and fair ...
A: You need to be sure the boundaries you set are clear to everyone and that they are enforced. Your ...
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| Not Listening 5yr old Boy in grade K | 8/2/2007 |
Q: I have a bright 5 year old boy who just started at a great public Kindergarten, the teacher called ...
A: Most behavioral interventions teach appropriate behavior and after a time, work without the full use ...
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| 8 y/o Boy without Cares | 7/26/2007 |
Q: My son has a displayed an inability to be self-motivated. He will not do anything without either ...
A: There are some people who just have difficulty with self-motivation although usually you can find ...
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| Stepchild | 7/25/2007 |
Q: I have a 9yr old step child & recently her dad & our 2yr old purchased a house. The child (9yr old) ...
A: Nine year old girls can often develop the behaviors of teenagers... lying, liking to mix things up, ...
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| ill effects of conflicting parenting | 7/23/2007 |
Q: I am concerned over my 6 yr old grandson's health issues relative to conflicting parenting of his ...
A: I'm sure the parenting and care he is receiving is taking a toll. However, he needs proper nutrition ...
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| ill effects of conflicting parenting | 7/22/2007 |
Q: I am concerned over my 6 yr old grandson's health issues relative to conflicting parenting of his ...
A: Well, you have left very little room for me to provide help. Even though the mother and legal ...
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| 5 yr old behavior problem | 7/20/2007 |
Q: I have a 5 yr old daughter, soon to be 6. She has not had any problems until a few weeks ago, and ...
A: Behavior that changes quickly is often in response to something. It could be something she saw or ...
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| Sleeping with children | 7/19/2007 |
Q: I am a step mom to a wonderful 7.5 year old boy. He ocmes over to our house and constantly tells us ...
A: I have to agree with you in that it appears that the child is taking on "man of the house" type ...
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| head lice | 7/14/2007 |
Q: I am pregnant and my 6 year old came home with head lice, is there a non chemical treatment i could ...
A: This question might be better suited to someone who specializes in homeopathic medicine. I use ...
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| behavioral issues | 7/13/2007 |
Q: My husband and I are literally at wits end. We have two boys, ages 5 and 2, and for the past ...
A: Its unusual for this kind of behavior to pop up out of the blue or in response to not napping. ...
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| My "touchy" 6yr. old | 7/13/2007 |
Q: I live in a household of six children...3 are mine and three are my fiancee's...I have a 7yr. old ...
A: First I would take your son to the doctor and a child professional to see if anyone has been ...
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| parenting a sensitive child | 7/12/2007 |
Q: I am seeking advise on parenting a sensitive child. My daughter, Natalie, is 3 years old. She is ...
A: When my daughter was a baby, I remember mentioning to the doctor and nurse at a well-baby visit ...
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| 6yr old girl and hitting | 7/6/2007 |
Q: My six yr old daughter continually hits my son, her brother who is 10ys old. Alot of the times he's ...
A: What does your daughter have to say about her behavior? Don't ask "why" but "what made you do ...
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| 4 yr old twin daughter has always been obsessed with food | 7/1/2007 |
Q: My daughter talks and thinks about food constantly. She is an identical twin, and her sister has ...
A: If you still suspect a medical condition to be the root of this problem, then you should take her to ...
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| 6 year old girl anxiety | 6/27/2007 |
Q: My 6 year old girl is an excellent student and loves to learn - her teachers have never had one ...
A: Often new behavior is the result of some event. For example, perhaps something she experienced as ...
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| 6 year old girl anxiety | 6/27/2007 |
Q: My 6 year old girl is an excellent student and loves to learn - her teachers have never had one ...
A: You didn't indicate whether or not this is a new behavior. Children can develop interesting coping ...
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| 3 and 4 years old | 6/24/2007 |
Q: Ok well I'm the girlfriend of a man who just got divorced recently. We've been together 6 months now ...
A: Its a difficult situation. If your boyfriend says its okay for you to discipline, then do it. You ...
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| 7 yr old son | 6/23/2007 |
Q: My son is turning 7 in a couple of weeks, he has three brothers that are 24,23 & 19 they do not live ...
A: Despite his intelligence, you were wise to keep in in Kindergarten when you did. It sounds like he ...
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| 6 yrs old and always worring | 6/17/2007 |
Q: My 6 yr old son has always been happy and out going. Recently he is always asking questions, like ...
A: Behavior that pops up unexpectedly is often the result of some event. Did he spend time with a ...
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| 5 year old daughter stealing from me | 6/5/2007 |
Q: My daughter is five and has stolen money from me for the third time now. The first time I was easy ...
A: First, I'd have her pay restitution, have her work off the money she owes. That will make a bigger ...
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| my 6 year old daughter | 5/31/2007 |
Q: I have a six year old daughter and she is great but she has this nasty attitude to where she likes ...
A: Sometimes actions speak louder than words. The key is to have a consequence that your daughter is ...
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| obsessive eating 6 year old | 5/30/2007 |
Q: My daughter is obsessed with food. I try to get her to eat slowly but not much seems to work. She ...
A: Its very hard to control what goes in and what comes out of children. As a result, sometimes ...
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| help with 6 yr old | 5/29/2007 |
Q: My 6 yr old daughter has been acting up at home only. She is fine at school. The behavior has been ...
A: The best way to eliminate bad behavior is through a consequence that makes an impression on your ...
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| Concerned Aunt | 5/25/2007 |
Q: My 4 yr old nephew is way out of control. I have a 20 month old nephew also that is following in his ...
A: Taking the kids might be nice for your sister and the kids may behave for you, but it won't solve ...
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| Concerned Aunt | 5/25/2007 |
Q: My 4 yr old nephew is way out of control. I have a 20 month old nephew also that is following in his ...
A: This is too big a problem to fix with simple solutions such as set limits and enforce them (which is ...
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| 5 year old playing with a 10 year old | 5/25/2007 |
Q: I am the mother of 2 children. One is a 5 year old girl, and the other is a 3 year old boy. The ...
A: Kids can sometimes pick up obnoxious behavior from others. You have a couple of options. If you ...
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| age appropriate chores | 5/24/2007 |
Q: I have an 8 yr old 2nd grader, a 4 yr old son, a 2yr old daughter and a three week old son... i'm ...
A: All your children, except for the baby, are old enough to do some chores; however, it sounds like ...
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| my 10yr old boy crys at the drop of a hat | 5/21/2007 |
Q: PLEASE HELP , I HAVE A 10YR OLD SON WHO BECOMES UPSET AND STARTS TO CRY EVERYTIME YOU CORRECT HIM ...
A: Is this new behavior? Was its onset sudden? If so, I would be concerned that something has happened ...
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| Girls and Friends | 5/15/2007 |
Q: My first grader has recently voiced that she never has a friend to play with at recess. She claims ...
A: In speaking with your daughter, ask her what she has tried and what hasn't worked. Kids that age are ...
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| my 5 yr old son | 5/11/2007 |
Q: My 5 year old son is a loving child, however, everyday for the last 2 weeks he has not been getting ...
A: There are a couple of things that can be going on. First, the fact that your son is still five in ...
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| lying & crying | 5/4/2007 |
Q: I found out this morning that my 6 yo daughter has told all of the kids at her school that she will ...
A: Your daughter seems to be exhibiting behaviors that will get her attention. As adults, we find this ...
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| Bossy 6 year old girl | 5/2/2007 |
Q: My daughter has been struggling with bossy behavior in the kindergarten classroom. Her teacher tells ...
A: I don't think the size issue between your children is a problem, if it were, it would mostly be with ...
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| Bossy 6 year old girl | 5/1/2007 |
Q: My daughter has been struggling with bossy behavior in the kindergarten classroom. Her teacher tells ...
A: Is your daughter an only child? Did she attend any sort of preschool or other activities with other ...
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| Girls/Friendship | 4/28/2007 |
Q: How can I help my 9 year daughter to be a better friend? She does have quite a few girls that she ...
A: Its not unusual to have the "odd man out" at this age in girls, which doesn't make it okay, but it ...
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| Help needed with 5 year old Son | 3/29/2007 |
Q: Im a proud Mom of 3. My little girl, almost 3, my middle son, just turned 5 and my 14 year old son. ...
A: I'm sorry for the delay in getting back with you. Has your son always been fussy and challenging ...
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| 5 year old who wets and soils his pants | 3/25/2007 |
Q: My son turned 5 in January. He transitioned to a new daycare in February. He has been at this ...
A: Its not unusual for a child to wet again at 5 years of age. However, you do want to take him to a ...
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| 5 year old-dont want to go to school | 3/19/2007 |
Q: My daughter was doing great in school until about a week ago when she had an accident. The teacher ...
A: I'm glad you checked with the doctor. Its always good to make sure there was no medical reason for ...
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| Playing with others when my son wants to. | 3/12/2007 |
Q: I have a creative 6 year old who loves creating and is pretty confident in whatever he does. All ...
A: Do these other kids want to play with your son? Do they try to play the same thing your son is ...
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| siblings | 3/6/2007 |
Q: I am the mother of two boys-ages 10 and 7. they fight constantly, and i do not know what to do ...
A: Clearly something about your intervention isn't working. The stakes are not high enough to get the ...
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| 6 year old out of control | 2/13/2007 |
Q: My son turned 6 in January. He is wetting his pants all day every day. When he wants something he ...
A: You didn't indicate how long this behavior has been going on. Has been wetting every day since he ...
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| Talkative and Bored 5 Year Old | 1/30/2007 |
Q: My daughter is in kindergarden and does very well with all her work. Her teacher indicated on her ...
A: Being talkative in and of itself is not bad. However, if it effects your daughters work OR other ...
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| fighting | 1/18/2007 |
Q: My son, his girlfriend and her 2 kids live with me. One is 3 the other is 4. My sons girls have ...
A: This is going to take more than an email from me to fix...if it will be fixed at all. Ideally, mom ...
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| Bad behavior | 1/4/2007 |
Q: My 5 yr old son is stressing me out. He lies, he STARTED stealing stuff at child care, I have tried ...
A: There could be a couple of things that are creating trouble. First, while you are strict, your ...
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| 4 year of "scared of monsters" | 12/22/2006 |
Q: Our 4 and a half year old daughter has been struggling with 'being scared' and 'being startled' for ...
A: Four year olds can be interesting people. Its often when they have imaginary friends. And its not ...
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| Appropriateness?? | 12/22/2006 |
Q: He's very close with his dad and spends a lot of time with him. Recently, my son told me they had a ...
A: Is it inappropriate for dad to be in the shower with girlfriend? Yes, IF the kids were up. However, ...
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| no manners | 12/13/2006 |
Q: My 3 year old daughter use to use her manners all the time. about a month ago she absolutly ...
A: The most important aspect of your question is the fact that your daughter is only 3 years old. While ...
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| My 5 year old son | 12/11/2006 |
Q: I am writing today, because I am not sure what to do anymore. My son is 5 years old and goes to ...
A: There are a couple possible scenarios. The first may be that your son isn't ready socially for ...
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| 5 year old | 12/11/2006 |
Q: I have not been able to think of an appropriate "consequence" because she is so young. We do not ...
A: Consequences are not a 'one size fits all' sort of thing. You need to take into account her age, ...
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| 5 year old "forgetting"... | 12/10/2006 |
Q: My five year old daughter is recently repeating behavior she knows I do not wish her to do - i.e., ...
A: Well, there are a couple of things to consider here. First of all, little kids really do forget...or ...
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| 4 year old son | 12/6/2006 |
Q: We enrolled my son in a pre-k program he goes two days a week from 8:30 unitl 11:30. He gives me a ...
A: Its not uncommon for children to have separation anxiety about going to school. What you didn't tell ...
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| 9 Year Old Daughter - Afraid to Ask Questions | 12/4/2006 |
Q: We have a 9 year old daughter (mature for 9) only child. She is bright, but often forgetful, ...
A: Most schools have parent teacher conferences to discuss students progress and the goals for the ...
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| Talks Too Much.... | 12/4/2006 |
Q: Actually the teacher has stated on several occasions that she can solve any problem and had ...
A: In that case I would get clarification on what is involved in being in the gifted program. It ...
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| Talks Too Much.... | 12/2/2006 |
Q: I have a 7yo daughter in first grade. She is in the gifted an talented program...but may not be in ...
A: First of all, is her talking impacting her grades or quality of work? I'm not sure how talking too ...
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| 9-year old son has recently acted out in school. | 11/26/2006 |
Q: My son and 12-year old daughter are with their dad in CO. I recently relocated to CA for work. We ...
A: I agree that your son needs some sort of intervention, but I'm not convinced medication is it. In ...
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| Child does things halfway | 11/15/2006 |
Q: ..very insightful...our son is actually ahead in Math and Reading which is how we keep him from ...
A: You're welcome. I do understand your dilemma. Its a struggle many parents of this generation are ...
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| Child does things halfway | 11/14/2006 |
Q: Our seven year old son is very bright. He is very smart in reading and math. He is also very good ...
A: School Kumon Drama/music chess basketball/football tennis golf community group... Your son is very ...
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| 5 year-old behavior at school | 11/14/2006 |
Q: My 5 year-old is having behavior problems in Kindergarten. The teacher is having a great deal of ...
A: I'm not sure I have enough information to help you. My first thoughts are: 1) Is he ready for ...
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| I am at a loss and need some help. | 11/9/2006 |
Q: I am a mother of 4 beautiful children. My youngest son is acting out for some reason. He is now 6 ...
A: If this behavior has really come out of nowhere (he didn't act like this before), I would suggest ...
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| My 6 year old, Emilie | 11/5/2006 |
Q: Emilie is very successful in school when it comes to academics. But her other behaviors are ...
A: Based on what you have told me, I think you need to arrange for some sort of intervention for ...
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| 5 year old daughter | 10/31/2006 |
Q: .. and I do ignore her most all the time but I have 2 younger siblings that have to hear her ...
A: Your younger kids may try mimic their older sibling. But if they see it doesn't get a reaction out ...
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| 5 year old daughter | 10/31/2006 |
Q: What do I do or how do I react to my daughter when I am punishing her and she starts yelling I hate ...
A: My opinion is to ignore it. It is an expression of her anger and meant to rattle you. If it does, ...
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| 9 year old boy lacks motivation | 10/28/2006 |
Q: Mark is an only child and I had him later in life (47). He is extremely bright but in school can't ...
A: It's not clear to me if the lack of motivation and concentration is a new thing, like the tic or ...
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| 5 Year Old Son Behavior/Developmental Issues | 10/24/2006 |
Q: Our son (who was 5 in April) has been having behavior problems for the past year or so. As ...
A: My impression is that no, your son probably doesn't have ADD or ADHD since he can focus when he ...
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| SHARING BEDROOMS | 10/20/2006 |
Q: ------------------------------------------- The text above is a follow-up to ..I got your response. ...
A: Am I right in thinking you will live together? Because if you don't live together then I assume the ...
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| SHARING BEDROOMS | 10/20/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend and i are expecting a baby boy in February. I have a 6 year old son. My boyfriend has a ...
A: Initially, you can keep the baby with you. Since babies get up so much at night, it will be more ...
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| 5yo daughter silently rebelling | 10/19/2006 |
Q: My wife picked up our daughter from kindergarten today. Her teacher told my wife she was silently ...
A: Is this new behavior or something she has been prone to doing all her life? If its a new behavior, ...
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| my grandsons anger | 10/17/2006 |
Q: My grandson is 7, in the second grade, and a delight to be with most of the time. He is very polite ...
A: I think talking to the school counselor is a good idea. Perhaps he or she has some small group work ...
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| dealing with 5 yr old frustration | 10/11/2006 |
Q: i just wanted to thank you for your suggestions. After his kidergarten conference yesterday I was ...
A: My response only takes into account basic child development and what you told me (much I didn't know ...
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| dealing with 5 yr old frustration | 10/11/2006 |
Q: My 5 year old son is a friendly, outgoing happy child, but has some issues controlling his emotions. ...
A: Its not that unusual for 5 year olds to still be wanting to be front and center although, it should ...
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| 4 yr old boy | 10/9/2006 |
Q: My son is 4 1/2 yr old in kG1 very smary in writing(by showing once he will write, counting also ...
A: Reading to your son will be the very best way to help him develop rhyming, vocabulary as well as the ...
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| my five year old : | 10/4/2006 |
Q: I am a mother of four. (11,5,3,&1) Obviously my life is hectic, but over the past few years it has ...
A: Its hard enough being a mom of 4, but having a challenging child makes it even tougher. I'll do my ...
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