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| I'm out of my league | 12/3/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: I have been married for 4 months to a great guy. He has a 7 year old son whom I get along with very ...
A: Tell your stepson that you do not wish to hear anything that your mother has said about you. If he ...
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| Step Kids | 12/3/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: I have major problems and it is all because of me. I am married to a wonderful man. The only ...
A: I'd just like to add that you may wish to visit your doctor and explain to him/her all your ...
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| "You're not my stepmom, yet!" | 12/2/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: I have been with a man for almost 2 years and we are contemplating marriage. He has a 4 year old ...
A: This is a four year old, not a 24 year old. This child has had to adapt and accept a lot of changes ...
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| Adult son living with us, Should I leave now? | 12/1/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: My husband and I dated for 4 years and now married for 6 weeks. He has 3 kids. Two boys, ages 27 & ...
A: So much for the honeymoon... A 25 year old is an adult and should be treated like one. So here you ...
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| Husband treats stepson unfairly | 12/1/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: HELP ME! I am at my wits end. I have recently married (1.3 years) after being a single parent for 10 ...
A: It's sad really, the things we do in order to not be alone in life. "My son has seen my husband be ...
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| My son lives with me | 11/30/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: I need some advice for my blended family. A little background...I have been married for a year and a ...
A: This can be an easy although lengthy fix. It will require extensive counseling for all concerned. ...
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| How much do I have to take? | 11/29/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: How much do I have to take? My husband and I have been married for 11 yrs. Our family consists of my ...
A: So much control given to one young person. The solution can be a tough one. You can pack her things, ...
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| blending kids-I am desperate | 11/29/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: I am 40 years old and have been divorced for 7 . I have shared custody of my 11 year old son. He is ...
A: You both need professional help with this. Living with ADHD, or ADD is tough enough; add ODD to the ...
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| Ex Wife and Family | 11/27/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: I realy need to know if I am really the bad and wrong person as I am made out to be. My boyfriend ...
A: One who is facing entering a blended situation that makes her a stepmom. Stepparents have to realize ...
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| children not meshing | 11/27/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: I am 40 years old.I have been divorced for 7 years, and am now in a serious relationship of 6 ...
A: Seems to me that this according to you and your bf, is all about your son. There is no real ...
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| surprise kid 12 years later | 11/24/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: Here's the picture: I am married to my husband of 9 years. We get the surprise phone call from the ...
A: You want to save this marriage, get into counseling. Your husband needs to step up and decide what ...
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| Step children | 11/24/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: I am in this relationship for 3 and a half years. Was engaged to him and was getting married. All ...
A: Yes, I can... for the sake of your child and your sanity... RUN! RUN FOR THE HILLS AS FAST AS YOU ...
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| stepdaughters | 11/21/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: i really dont like my stepdaughters who live with us, i have 6 children of my own, who are ...
A: I don't know... which one sounds good to you? As I don't live the life, there is no way for me to ...
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| Meshing kids | 11/21/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: My fiance and I are getting married in July and have lived together for about a year. I have a 6 ...
A: Get them into counseling. A counselor will help both cope with the changes in their lives and how to ...
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| Resenting 14 yr Old Step-Son | 11/20/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: I need help learning how to not resent my 14 year old stepson. My husband and I have been married ...
A: Man oh man does this family need counseling, or what... Okay, first off, you need to ask yourself ...
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| Stepdaughter | 11/19/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: I am a 32 year old female with a 10 year old daughter. In June, 2008 I moved in with my boyfriend ...
A: This little girl needs to get into grief counseling. Some people grieve for years at the loss of ...
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| adult stepdaughter | 11/18/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: My husband and I have been married over 13 years. We have two children together aged 8 and 11. The ...
A: Not only do I agree with your husband about having her over to meet with you and have "it out", but ...
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| life with step teenagers | 11/17/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: I'm not sure I really have a question, it's more of a comment, really. I began living with my ...
A: So... why are they still there? The house is in your name and you work long full time hours to help ...
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| 3 year old stepson's behavior | 11/17/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: I am currently 7 months pregnant with my first child. My husband and I have been together for 2 ...
A: This lad will need to be assured a lot that you are not replacing him with this new baby. He needs ...
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| My stepson | 11/16/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: This will sound terrible I know...but here goes. I have a 16(going on 11)year old stepson. He's very ...
A: Imagine for the moment that you are a child who knows that no one really wants you around; that no ...
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| What are my boundries? | 11/16/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: I recently married and my husband has a 3 year old son from a previous marriage. I don't have any ...
A: I would have thought that all this had been discussed and worked out prior to the wedding. Now, you ...
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| step-son | 11/15/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: I have a 14 year old step son who is really lazy, I ask him to do something and the only way he does ...
A: The problem isn't your stepson, it's his mother. Until she steps up and starts parenting her child, ...
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| what am i really? | 11/14/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: Im 21 years old. Im married and i have 2 biological children and a "stepdaughter" i guess. she ...
A: Your husband and his ex gf are being very unfair to you. If they expect you to take care of this ...
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| stepchild vs own child | 11/14/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: I have a 8 month old son, he is my first!!! I have been married 2 yrs and have 2 stpedaughter 11 and ...
A: Your son is 8 months and will not remember anything. However, in time, it is okay to want to make a ...
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| my son and stepson | 11/13/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: I became a stepmom 12yrs. ago. and today my son Sean and stepson Sammy are both 16yrs old. My ...
A: I see your husband's point. I always believed that if you do for one, then you do for all. However, ...
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| Disrespect from step child | 11/13/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: My 12 yr old stepson of 2 years does not do what I ask as far as house hold chores & basic ...
A: I get asked this a lot from others in similar situations. My response surprises them, so prepare ...
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| Blended Family Broken - Divorce? Moral dilemma. | 11/12/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: This is a very very difficult situation for me. I'll start with the back story. When I was in my ...
A: Counseling. You and your husband need to get into marriage counseling and find out what the problem ...
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| My new spouse hates my son | 11/12/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: Please help! My husband and I have been together for 8 years, married 4 of those. I have 2 children ...
A: Hmmm the world of instant resolution once again strikes. We live in a world of instant, instant ...
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| My new spouse hates my son | 11/11/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: Please help! My husband and I have been together for 8 years, married 4 of those. I have 2 children ...
A: There are a lot of issues here that I can offer an opinion on. First, it is of my opinion that ...
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| step daughter | 11/11/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: I have been married for 7 years and we have 3 children 11 year old son, 8 year old daughter, and a 3 ...
A: You need counseling, Katie, to help you deal with all the stress and mixed feelings you are ...
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| This brat is driving me bannanas!!! | 11/10/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: Please help! I don't know what is wrong with me. Normally I am a very patient, loving person; ...
A: Get into counseling fast. Your fiance should take a few parenting courses to help him see how much ...
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| 19 yearold stepson has girlfriend pregnant. How to accept this! | 11/10/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: I have been married now for 10yrs., and when we married my stepson was 9. My stepson loved me and ...
A: So many guns and so little time. What on earth was your husband thinking when he decided to keep ...
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| 2 much 2 handle | 11/9/2008 | Lana Sen |
Q: I met my fiance about 5 yrs ago and we have been together for 4 years. He was a widower with 2 sons ...
A: You have not mentioned the age of the younger son. If he is a teenager or young adult, naturally ...
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| 11 year old step son | 11/5/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: I have an 11 year old step son who is an absolute nightmare, I dread the weekends we have him. He is ...
A: Pack up baby and go to the park or mall and walk around. Enjoy each other and visit with family and ...
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| Making a new home | 11/4/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: My Fiance and I live in different states. He wants to move here with me, but we do not want his kids ...
A: I would have to wonder what the court order states about visitation, custody and support. Does he ...
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| 3yr old I cant stand | 11/4/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and his son who is 3, is all of a sudden a little ...
A: Getting involved with a person who has children that could at some point become your stepchildren, ...
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| Step Daughter - Serious Problem | 11/3/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: I have been with my fiance for over six years and we have a 5 year old daughter together. He has a ...
A: I hope you are taking a good look at all this? I can't tell you what to do, only you can make that ...
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| Help Help Help | 11/3/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: I am married with 3 kids a pair of twins from my previous relationship and a single from my current ...
A: What you have described here is child abuse. There should be no hesitation on your part, you need to ...
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| Spoiled step daughter | 10/29/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: My two step daughters have been living with us for a year now and the oldest one is so spoiled its ...
A: Interesting... You've not mentioned what you think your husband should be doing during all this. ...
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| In addition | 10/29/2008 | J.L. Slipak |
Q: I just wanted to add to my question a little more information. I had my fiancee's second son two ...
A: Now I understand what you are asking. Yes, pay child support or face having wages garnisheed. Your ...
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