AboutJ.L. Slipak Expertise Over the last 19 years, I have been researching the issue of stepparenting/stepchildren and living life as a blended family. I have 4 stepchildren. I am available to answer any questions regarding parenting a stepchild/stepchildren and will base my answers using my own personal experience with 4 of my own.
I'm an advocate for children with special needs and have worked in the legal area of Family Law and Civil Law for 7 years. I'm a published writer of this subject. I have dealt with many issues including: dealing with the biological parent, eating disorders, relationships between siblings, education, access, etc. I can offer support, personal opinions and resources based on research I've used while writing about these subjects. Don't ask me any questions that you have the answers for already. Make sure you include all information pertaining to the question at hand, as I base my answers on what you've sent me. Remember, this is just my opinion and nothing else. I wish all stepparents great success with their perspective lives. Remember it takes a lot to step in when others have stepped out.
Experience
Education/Credentials BFA, working towards my Masters. Stepparent of 4 stepchildren.Bioparent of two, all inclusive of two special needs children: one down syndrome; the other ODD/ADD.
Expert: J.L. Slipak Date: 6/11/2008 Subject: Terror
Question Where do I begin. I am with the love of my life and we had our own fair shares of arguments. With him comes beautiful baby girl Alexis. She is seven soon to be eight in October. I have know her Father, Mother, and even Alexis all my life, and even all her life(Alexis's that is). About three years ago her Father and I recently got together again, it turned really serious, really quick. In September of 2006 David had to get a paternity test because Patty had no idea who Alexis's Father was. In 2006 it was David's. He has been there for her since she was born, and so was I so it really wasn't that big of a deal when we found out. I thought that would be good for you to know when I actually ask my question. Also something that you should know, I am 22 years old, and David is 25. Okay so here it goes.
Alexis when she found out how serious me an her father are she did a 360. She is a very mean and full of a bitchy attitude girl when her father is not around. Or she is the sweetest girl I have ever met. She knows how to irritate people and she really not doubt does it on purpose. She talks shit about her dad to me and I tell her I don't want to here it. She is so so so rude. Here is an example. I live in Albany, NY, the days here are longer. Her father was not here
to put her to bed so I did she asked me what time it is /i said bed time 8:too which it was 8:30 and she goes "prove it" I swear to you I almost lost it. Her father helps but he is not really that good of a helper. I mean she just became his kid and eventhough he was in her life not as a father. I am sure he feels bad but he is strict on her too make no mistake on that. I can't seem to get along with her. I do everything, I have tried everything, I am tired. How do /i not give up how do /I make this better. Me and David would like to move in and get married sometime after that but /i will not move in with him when it is like this. I just can't please help me.
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Answer Hello Kristen,
Stop trying so hard. If it's meant to be, it will happen. Right now she knows she can push your buttons. I would take your time, since getting in the middle of this mess could really hurt you. Wait for some time to pass and people to adjust. Good luck,
