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Marj wrote at 2013-02-27 11:36:44
This is exactly how I feel. Except that I am the wife. Actually your wife is more lucky because she's able to see your kids during weekend only Can you imagine living with that kind of kids in one house everyday.. The reason I went to this site is because I'm starting to feel unhappy with my married life. I know I love my husband and I don't want my two kids to have a broken family. But I just cannot take his kids anymore. I would say they are the laziest kid (17 and 15 yr old) I have ever met. They don't even respect me especially the 15 yr old one.



I am a very organize person. I want my house to be always clean and neat. And my husbands kids are vice versa which I hate most. I want them out of our house but I know it's impossible maybe until they get married. I really don't know if I can wait for that. Don't know what to do.


Marj wrote at 2013-02-27 11:36:54
This is exactly how I feel. Except that I am the wife. Actually your wife is more lucky because she's able to see your kids during weekend only Can you imagine living with that kind of kids in one house everyday.. The reason I went to this site is because I'm starting to feel unhappy with my married life. I know I love my husband and I don't want my two kids to have a broken family. But I just cannot take his kids anymore. I would say they are the laziest kid (17 and 15 yr old) I have ever met. They don't even respect me especially the 15 yr old one.



I am a very organize person. I want my house to be always clean and neat. And my husbands kids are vice versa which I hate most. I want them out of our house but I know it's impossible maybe until they get married. I really don't know if I can wait for that. Don't know what to do.


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Over the last 19 years, I have been researching the issue of stepparenting/stepchildren and living life as a blended family. I have 4 stepchildren. I am available to answer any questions regarding parenting a stepchild/stepchildren and will base my answers using my own personal experience with 4 of my own. I'm an advocate for children with special needs and have worked in the legal area of Family Law and Civil Law for 7 years. I'm a published writer of this subject. I have dealt with many issues including: dealing with the biological parent, eating disorders, relationships between siblings, education, access, etc. I can offer support, personal opinions and resources based on research I've used while writing about these subjects. Don't ask me any questions that you have the answers for already. Make sure you include all information pertaining to the question at hand, as I base my answers on what you've sent me. Remember, this is just my opinion and nothing else. As I am using this information for research, DO NOT SET YOUR QUESTION TO PRIVATE. I am not your personal counselor. This site is meant to help others in similar situations by being able to read those experiences and seeing my suggestions. I will most likely send your question to the "pool" if you do wish to remain a private emailer in order to allow another expert a chance to address your concerns. I wish all stepparents great success with their perspective lives. Remember it takes a lot to step in when others have stepped out. I encourage Bioparents to stop fighting with stepparents and start working with them as a team.

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Living with stepchildren is incredibly difficult; being a stepparent has always been sterotyped under the Cinderella persona. The wicked stepmother, overbearing and cruel... Often times, the reality of the situation is completely different. Stepparents are expected to step in when the bioparent steps out, then are criticized and attacked when they try their best to be a good "fill-in" for the bioparent. Stepchildren are often the ones who are cruel and difficult, filled with issues surrounding their bioparent's divorce and resentment towards the "intruder" in their lives. No one truly knows how hard it is to be a stepparent, except another stepparent.

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BFA, working towards my Masters. Stepparent of 4 stepchildren.Bioparent of two, all inclusive of two special needs children: one down syndrome; the other ODD/ADD.

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