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| Wife and Ex-Wife Relationship | 10/6/2008 |
Q: My wife and ex-wife do not get along. I have been married to my current wife for 1.5 years. I ...
A: What you have to remember is that the children in the situation don't see what the adults see. All ...
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| Adult Stepchild problems | 10/5/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have dated since 2003 and got married in 2005. I have Three Children and he has ...
A: Let's look at this in another way. If someone 19 years of age were to break into your home and steal ...
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| Step-Parent to 3 or her children | 9/18/2008 |
Q: I am 50 and she is 38. I have two adult children that do not live with us. My wife has 3 children ...
A: So let me get this straight, you are paying the expenses of all three or four children of a woman ...
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| i am a 23 year old mother | 9/16/2008 |
Q: is it healthy to have my 2 year old call my boyfriend DADDY? He doesn't know his donor! His donor is ...
A: I would have thought of this before getting involved with this man. It's only natural for your two ...
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| New Spouse Does Not Like My Children | 9/16/2008 |
Q: I'm hoping that you have some insights that I don't. I have had a mostly positive relationship with ...
A: I've been waiting for you to write. First and foremost, you are a parent. When you met your new ...
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| Widower's Goth Teen Daughter | 9/15/2008 |
Q: I have been dating a man for 4 years now. He has two daughters, 14 year old who lost her mother when ...
A: Only as long as it takes for your bf and his daughter to find another place to live. There are ...
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| Teenager in conflict with boyfriend! | 9/15/2008 |
Q: My oldest son age 16 does not comunicate with my bf.Nor does my bf comunicate with him! I am moving ...
A: I cannot imagine living like this. This bf of yours is way out of line. Forcing the lad to live a ...
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| My Stepson no longer wanting to visit | 9/12/2008 |
Q: My question concerns my five year old son and how to tell him that his 12 year old half-brother (my ...
A: This may pass. The lad is 12 and will soon be able to have a say in what he truly wants and not what ...
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| Loosing Sleep | 9/11/2008 |
Q: I am a 33-year-old mother of 2 & stepmother of 2. My step kids has lived with their father & I now ...
A: Print off a copy of this letter you've written to me and give it to him. I think you've said it all ...
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| Welcoming my Stepson | 9/10/2008 |
Q: Just a week ago, we recently took in my stepson. His mom is an alocholic and needs to get herself ...
A: Sounds like dad needs to lay down the law about respect, rules and boundaries. He needs to support ...
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| Parenting Styles | 9/10/2008 |
Q: I have an 18 year old son that I have raised on my own since he was 2. I recently married. My ...
A: Interesting. I stand with my first suggestions/opinions. If you are willing to help his son too, I ...
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| Stepparenting and Ex-wife | 9/10/2008 |
Q: I am 28 yrs old with one 6 yr old son from a previous marriage. I have recently married my husband ...
A: "She talks very badly about me to her children and so of course that doesn't make it any easier on ...
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| Stepparenting and Ex-wife | 9/10/2008 |
Q: I am 28 yrs old with one 6 yr old son from a previous marriage. I have recently married my husband ...
A: Leave. Under no circumstances should any of this be happening. Whether his kids are being coaxed ...
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| Parenting Styles | 9/9/2008 |
Q: I have an 18 year old son that I have raised on my own since he was 2. I recently married. My ...
A: There are so many aspects to this. Let me address each one separately. 1) I have an 18 year old ...
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| Anxiety over his children | 9/9/2008 |
Q: I have been dating a man for over a year now. He has three children 2 girls and boy ages 16, 7 and ...
A: Take a good, hard look. This is exactly how being married to him will be, but ALL the time. You will ...
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| atep-dad transfers agression to step-daughter | 9/9/2008 |
Q: My 20 year old daughter, lives with us and is working and saving to travel before starting college ...
A: I am not involved with this site to be rated. My participation is based on the growing need for ...
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| Soon-to-be-Blended family/ Unruly Stepchildren | 9/8/2008 |
Q: I have been with my husband for close to five years. When I met him, he was divorced with two sons, ...
A: I think this is highly unfair of your husband to suddenly decide after all this time to get custody ...
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| no body is happy in my family!!!!!!!! | 9/8/2008 |
Q: madam, i am 40 years old man with 2 teenage kids 14, 16 who live with seperated spouse. my relation ...
A: Is it advice that your gf is giving, Richard, or is she simply telling you to do it? Advice is just ...
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| how do i make my husband happy and get along with his kids | 9/8/2008 |
Q: I appreciate it if you can help me with two issues of step-parenting. I live with my husband since ...
A: I can't tell you enough how many times I wish women who marry men with children would take their ...
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| Dealing with adult children in a relationship | 9/7/2008 |
Q: This is a long story...I will hit on some details....I have dated Frank over 5 yrs having with ...
A: It sounds to me, Suzanne, that you were hoping I'd take your hand and say, "there, there, dear." My ...
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| help me please | 9/7/2008 |
Q: I have just recently gotten married to a my husband, he has 3 children and I have none. He has 2 ...
A: I would recommend counseling as a family unit, marriage counseling so you both can learn to work ...
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| atep-dad transfers agression to step-daughter | 9/5/2008 |
Q: My 20 year old daughter, lives with us and is working and saving to travel before starting college ...
A: So let me understand this? You have an adult daughter living at home, not paying room and board ...
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| Dealing with adult children in a relationship | 9/5/2008 |
Q: This is a long story...I will hit on some details....I have dated Frank over 5 yrs having with ...
A: I feel extremely sorry for Frank. I cannot imagine the pressure he is under to please everyone, ...
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| Picky eater stepchildren with rude comments | 9/3/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been together five and a half years and married two and a half years. My two ...
A: Stop cooking for them. If they can't say anything nice, why bother? Until your husband stops acting ...
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| help | 9/3/2008 |
Q: I have been with my partner for over a year.We met, got pregnant and moved in together.He has a 4yr ...
A: Visit your doctor and discuss port-partum blues with him. Then I would look at finding a place so ...
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| concerned Nana | 9/2/2008 |
Q: I am looking for wisdom on whether we should offer our new daughter in law some written helps on ...
A: I would suggest that you find counseling for them as a unit. They need to get into family counseling ...
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| Help...before its too late... | 9/2/2008 |
Q: J.L. Slipak, I need your help in a desperate way. Two years ago, I met a man and his daughter. ...
A: There is no reason why a 16 year old can't get a job to help keep HER horse. I would stick to ...
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| step kids dicipline | 9/2/2008 |
Q: I have been living with my boyfriend for a year. he has three kids 13 14 and 5 yr old i have a 7 yr ...
A: He has three children, two of which live with you always and a five year old who only visits on ...
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| My husband has intense anger toward my son | 9/1/2008 |
Q: I have been married to my husband for almost 8 years now. My son (from another marriage) is 13 and ...
A: This seems more a relationship question than one about stepparenting. I cannot possibly offer any ...
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| Stepchildren? | 9/1/2008 |
Q: I married my husband a year ago & have been with him almost two.He has two kids whom live with us ...
A: Basically, as I read this, you've awaken one morning and decided you've made a terrible mistake. I'm ...
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| Am I over reacting? | 8/31/2008 |
Q: I came across this site while researching my question on my own and maybe an expert can help me feel ...
A: This does need to be addressed. Talk to your husband about your concerns. The girl should see a ...
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| Moving in together | 8/30/2008 |
Q: I have an 8 year old boy with adhd which comes with behavioral problems. He's gotten really close to ...
A: This man has every right to spend quality time with his daughter. If this means to be done alone, ...
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| "Core Family" | 8/29/2008 |
Q: I have been in relationship with a man for 4 years who I am engaged to be married to next summer. ...
A: Jane, Well... how can I say this without sounding contrite... you are the nanny, but with special ...
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| Stepchildren | 8/28/2008 |
Q: Am I wrong for feeling this way. My boyfriend has an 18month old son with his ex and we have a 8 ...
A: I would recommend counseling for you. You have an 8 month old son. You could be suffering from ...
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| Out of control step kids | 8/28/2008 |
Q: I am 26 and i have to step kids. My fiancee just got custody of both them and the will be moving ...
A: You cannot do this on your own. You need to put these kids in counseling and youth programs to help ...
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| Aggrevated!! | 8/27/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for 6 years.. he has a son who is 7 from a previous relationship. ...
A: I can imagine the pressure your husband felt knowing this was the first visit after 3-1/2 years and ...
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| Trouble with my 14 year old step son | 8/27/2008 |
Q: My husband's two children (boy, 14; girl, 12) are with us two nights a week and every other ...
A: I would stress to his mother that the lad should be in the room with the counselor alone, without ...
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| Step Family Trouble! | 8/27/2008 |
Q: I'm having problems with my step child (to be!!!) and thought maybe you could help. I am 28 years ...
A: I will never understand why bioparents rush into relationships so quickly after divorce. There are ...
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| Problem's with boyfriend's 17 year old daughter | 8/26/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 1/2 years. We each have one daughter from previous ...
A: The problem here occurred long before you came into the picture. There is a concern with parental ...
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| Trouble with my 14 year old step son | 8/25/2008 |
Q: My husband's two children (boy, 14; girl, 12) are with us two nights a week and every other ...
A: I would be asking myself what this child's behavior is a "symptom" of? Is he acting out because ...
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| Me vs Bio Mom | 8/25/2008 |
Q: My husband has physical custody of his 2 daughters, aged 9 and 10. For almost 4 years I have been ...
A: Ahh the ideal world of what "should" and "shouldn't" be. I have been a stepparent for over 20 years ...
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| Trouble with my 14 year old step son | 8/25/2008 |
Q: My husband's two children (boy, 14; girl, 12) are with us two nights a week and every other ...
A: Hell JW, The person who should be doing something about this is your husband, not you. He needs to ...
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| Me vs Bio Mom | 8/24/2008 |
Q: My husband has physical custody of his 2 daughters, aged 9 and 10. For almost 4 years I have been ...
A: Welcome to the world of stepparenting, where it is expected by bios for stepparents to do all that a ...
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| Me vs Bio Mom | 8/24/2008 |
Q: My husband has physical custody of his 2 daughters, aged 9 and 10. For almost 4 years I have been ...
A: This is a difficult situation as the biomom still has legal custody of the children. She does have a ...
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| step-daughter problems | 8/24/2008 |
Q: I am not sure where to begin. My fiance and I have been together for 5 years and he and his ...
A: This child needs to live with her mother. If after four years, counseling and many, many discussions ...
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| Stepfamilies & Finances | 8/23/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend, "John", is a divorced dad of two (ages 7 & 10), and shares joint physical & legal ...
A: Yes, I've answered this question. Whatever you have made up to now, put into some sort of investment ...
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| Stepfamilies & Finances | 8/23/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend, "John", is a divorced dad of two (ages 7 & 10), and shares joint physical & legal ...
A: My advice would be whatever you've saved, put in GIC's or other investments, strictly in your name. ...
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| Stepson stole from me | 8/22/2008 |
Q: My stepson, that I raised since he was 10, is now 25. Throughout the years, we have taken care of ...
A: Sounds like there could be other issues involved, such as drugs/alcohol abuse or gambling. You are ...
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| Step parenting | 8/21/2008 |
Q: This is the question I had sent earlier. Thanks in advance. I have 19 yr old Uni step and 17 yr old ...
A: There are many possible issues here. The fact that a parent, their mother, died raises a red flag. ...
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| My husband hates my son | 8/21/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been together for 8 years, married for 3 of them. He has 2 children (girl 11, ...
A: There is no question here that I can see. In my opinion, it would be wiser for all if this baby ...
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| My 11 1/2 year old daughter VS my fiance! | 8/20/2008 |
Q: My fiance and I are getting married in January 2009 and I have 3 daughters: 11 1/2, 10 & 2 years ...
A: Without living in the situation, or having all the history and information that would be privy to a ...
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| My 11 1/2 year old daughter VS my fiance! | 8/20/2008 |
Q: My fiance and I are getting married in January 2009 and I have 3 daughters: 11 1/2, 10 & 2 years ...
A: Her father is such a great person, yet he's in jail? Hmm... what's wrong with this picture... I ...
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| Husband Lashing Out At Sep Daughter | 8/20/2008 |
Q: I have been married for 2 years. I have two children, daughter 11 years old and a son 23 years old, ...
A: I do not see a question... So good for you, at least you have your priorities in place. Now, go talk ...
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| Step parenting | 8/20/2008 |
Q: I sent my question twice and got an answer that you were unable to answer the question although you ...
A: I have checked all my records and have nothing showing a question from a Peggie. With these computer ...
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| Should I stay or go?? | 8/18/2008 |
Q: I have a stepson who is 13 and a biological daughter that's 6..me and his mother have been together ...
A: This is a difficult situation. You have your thoughts in the best place, the well-being of your ...
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| stepchild problems | 8/18/2008 |
Q: i have been living with my husband for about 4 years now and we got married last year. he has a 12 ...
A: This girl has some serious issues. It is up to her father to fix this. To blame you for something ...
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| help me out pls..... | 8/17/2008 |
Q: First of all...thanks for your time to read this story, i've been married for 2 years, but my ...
A: The only person who can answer all this is you. You will have to decide if you can live like this ...
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| stepchildren | 8/17/2008 |
Q: Ok...I am engaged to a man with two boys, ages 13 and 11. They haven't had a good mother experience ...
A: No. Do not wait. After you are married, start your family if that is what you wish. Prior to getting ...
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| step children problem | 8/15/2008 |
Q: I dont want my step kids around. my husband has 5 kids 3 are mine 2 are not. the issue i have is ...
A: You got involved with a man who has kids. He is entitled to have a relationship with his kids. To ...
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| Should I go to Step-daughters wedding? | 8/14/2008 |
Q: She is 25 Ive been with her father for 20 years my relationship with her has always been strained ...
A: You need to sit down with just your stepdaughter and lay it all on the line. Tell her your feelings ...
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| Matters and Courtesy | 8/13/2008 |
Q: I am engaged to a wonderful man whom I have been dating for the past 3 years. He has an 8 year old ...
A: You are correct, he is wrong. Manners and common courtesy do start at home with respect. If she is ...
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| Fiance'sAdult Daughter Breaking up Our Relationship | 8/12/2008 |
Q: I have had a 3 year relationship with/ my fiance'. Everything was going well until 2 years ago when ...
A: This is a relationship question, moreso than a question about stepparenting. But, I had to say just ...
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| baby momma drama | 8/11/2008 |
Q: My fiancé and I both have children of our own and share a son together. He has 3 from previous ...
A: Go back to court with this story. Inform the judge of her interference. Get specific rules and ...
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| How can I be more positive with a step child that is only catered to | 8/9/2008 |
Q: I have a 16 1/2 yr old step son. We have had partial custody of him since he was 7 yrs old. I have ...
A: Sounds impossible. Shame on the parents for ruining this child. Until they change, nothing more can ...
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| Step children | 8/9/2008 |
Q: So, before I ask a question, I will "fill" you in on our situation. My husband and I have been ...
A: You answered your own question... he is turning 18. I'm afraid, no matter how much this may bother ...
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| Oldest Step-Son Won't Visit Us | 8/8/2008 |
Q: I'm engaged to a wonderful man who has two really great sons! One is 12 and the other is 15. The ...
A: You cannot force him. He's clearly made a choice of not visiting or staying. Your fiance should try ...
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| stepkids | 8/8/2008 |
Q: my boyfrined recently revealed to me that he could be a father to a 3 yr old child. i say could as ...
A: You need to get yourself and your boyfriend into counseling. There may be some serious decisions ...
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| lying stepdaughter | 8/8/2008 |
Q: my husband and i have been married for 2 1/2 years and we have a 5 month old daughter. my husband ...
A: Try having your husband visit with his daughter when you are not around or better yet, away from the ...
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| Step children | 8/7/2008 |
Q: So, before I ask a question, I will "fill" you in on our situation. My husband and I have been ...
A: All this over a little box. Get rid of the box. Cell phones have turned into a curse for parents ...
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| Toxic stepchildren. | 8/7/2008 |
Q: I have been married to my husband for almost 10 years. We have two children a 9 year old with ...
A: You need to tell your husband all this and then give him a choice, support you as his wife and the ...
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| parenting stepchildren | 8/7/2008 |
Q: I am step mother who has been married for 7 years .I have a great husband but he has 5 other kids I ...
A: Pack and leave. His goal for having 8 children under one roof is obviously asking too much of the ...
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| step mom and showering | 8/6/2008 |
Q: I would like to know if it is appropriate for a step mom to get in the shower with a 7 year old girl ...
A: From the letters you've written and from your husband's, which don't really supply a whole lot of ...
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| Stepdaughter and her dad | 8/5/2008 |
Q: First a little background here. I married my husband 3 1/2 years ago. I have two daughters from a ...
A: This is inappropriate if you are concerned about sex. I will not comment on the religious factor as ...
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| parenting stepchildren | 8/5/2008 |
Q: I am step mother who has been married for 7 years .I have a great husband but he has 5 other kids I ...
A: Your three and his five? Are you insane? Tell him when you hit the lottery, you will be happy to ...
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| blended family with 1 on the way | 8/5/2008 |
Q: i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year. He has three kids from prior marriage only ...
A: You've been with this man for a year, lived in this chaos and are 8 months pregnant... and NOW you ...
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| Stepdaughters hate me, what should I do? | 8/3/2008 |
Q: I have been married for 11 years to a man 26 years older than me. He has 3 kids in their 20's and we ...
A: I would ignore their childish behaviors. They are jealous. But because they are adults, you don't ...
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| 15 year old stepdaughter | 8/2/2008 |
Q: I have 3 stepdaughters. Jennifer is 21. She is actually my husband ex-step-daughter, but he raised ...
A: These are your husband's problems that he needs to address. He needs to stress that you are his wife ...
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| Coping with the negative influence of my step son's Mother | 8/1/2008 |
Q: I have been is his life since he was one and my son was four. We have a daughter together and very ...
A: I wish I could tell you that this will change soon. But I can't. One day, however, he will see it ...
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| Is it ok for husband to visit stepkids outside the home | 7/31/2008 |
Q: This question comes from a long and sorted history with husbands ex-girlfriend, mother in law, and ...
A: I think you did the right thing in removing the 'issue' from your family. Obviously, the steps don't ...
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| My three almost step daughters | 7/30/2008 |
Q: I knew my fiancee for about three years before we started dating and for 1 1/2 of those he was still ...
A: Run! You are not married to him... yet. Why would anyone in their right mind want to be part of this ...
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| stepchild on drugs/father does nothing | 7/30/2008 |
Q: Where do I start, years, he has two boys and I have a boy and a girl and we have one child together. ...
A: What is there to compromise, the life of your children? You are kidding right? How can you even ...
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| stepchild on drugs/father does nothing | 7/30/2008 |
Q: Where do I start, years, he has two boys and I have a boy and a girl and we have one child together. ...
A: It is easy to agree with sound advice, but the test will be... when are you going to do something ...
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| stepchild on drugs/father does nothing | 7/30/2008 |
Q: Where do I start, years, he has two boys and I have a boy and a girl and we have one child together. ...
A: Postpone the wedding. Call the police and have his eldest son removed. Exposing younger children to ...
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| His daughter / | 7/29/2008 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend now fiance for 8 years and have struggled with the "family" dynamics ...
A: Well let me put it to you this way... for every action there's a reaction. She pouts... umm who ...
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| My wife cant cope with my kids, her step kids | 7/29/2008 |
Q: My wife is wonderful. I love here dearly, however, she is struggling to cope with my kids. I have 3 ...
A: Take a break from seeing them. But before you do so, schedule the next visit so that they know you ...
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| His daughter / "my" issue | 7/28/2008 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend now fiance for 8 years and have struggled with the "family" dynamics ...
A: Get out of the line of fire! Stop trying so hard with your stepdaughter. This is the number one ...
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| issues with future step daughter | 7/28/2008 |
Q: My 25yo future step daughter all of a sudden hates me. We have gotten along very well for the last ...
A: Ask her. It could be a possibility and not unheard of from adult stepchildren when "daddy" finds a ...
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| StepSon/Mom/Drugs | 7/25/2008 |
Q: My 31 stepson, a struggling addict has never spoken to his Birth Mom. She is a recovered addict of ...
A: You never asked me for a reason why, Sandi. The truth of the matter is you know the reason or you ...
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| 17 year old step daughter | 7/24/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. He has been divorced for 5 years. I am his ...
A: The solution is quite simple. Until your boyfriend takes care of this issue, nothing will change. So ...
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| Older Step-Children Interference? | 7/24/2008 |
Q: my husband and I have just combined our families within the past two weeks. Week one was fine, but ...
A: Legally, your 23 year old stepdaughter could be restricted from contact with her siblings if she's ...
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| step parenting | 7/24/2008 |
Q: what to do now, my partners ex wives child, who is now 18 acts like she is two when she visits. She ...
A: I'm known for my straight forward, no nonsense responses... I say this a reminder and not as a ...
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| Stepmother of 2 | 6/20/2008 |
Q: I am a stepmother of 2 girls - 12 and 7yo. I met my husband 3 years ago and we married a year ago. ...
A: When you met him, you knew he had kids. Of course, he's going to want to spend time with them. ...
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| Do I stay or do I go? | 6/19/2008 |
Q: I have been married for 3 years (together for 7). We went to court and won majority custody of his 2 ...
A: So let me understand this... the adults in this scenario, who are refusing to act like adults seem ...
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| Stepson Moved Back In | 6/18/2008 |
Q: I am 50 years old and have lived with my boyfriend for 10 years and he is 60 years old. His ...
A: Well you are indeed in a difficult situation. I hate to be the bearer of bad news but if a bio has ...
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| A living nightmare! | 6/18/2008 |
Q: My 4 yr. old step son is with me 24/7. I have a in home daycare, and his biological mother is a ...
A: You are frustrated right now. How can anyone "hate" a four year old. What you need to do is get him ...
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| where to place my step-daughter? | 6/18/2008 |
Q: I have a 12 yr old step daughter and she visits on the weekends. To make a long story short we have ...
A: Yes, you are correct. Your step-daughter should have her own place to sleep and ideally, her own ...
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| darlenepolattie@webtv.net | 6/16/2008 |
Q: I have 3 stepchildren ages 37, 33, 30. My husband and I have been married for 11 years and together ...
A: I understand how torn up you are about not having your husband's children included in the will. I ...
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| Since when is it her fault that your son chose to be her step dad? | 6/16/2008 |
Q: How should I confront my husbands family? My daughter has no contact with her biological father. ...
A: Frankly, I'd keep my child away from these lunatics. Under no circumstances would I sacrifice my ...
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| step-parenting | 6/14/2008 |
Q: I am a step-mom to two boys (5&6)that are very difficult to handle. Their mother left them when she ...
A: There you go, you said it "trying really hard just to love these boys while their mom is out and ...
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| my boyfriends daughters | 6/14/2008 |
Q: My boyfriends daughters are 19 and 20 yrs old. they do not like me at all, they wont come over and ...
A: Until your bf gains a clue and sees things as they are, nothing will change. So I wouldn't worry ...
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| Feelings of a stepfather | 6/13/2008 |
Q: I have 3 children, 2 oldest children (boy 15, girl 10) are step children to my current husband. My ...
A: You haven't given me much to comment on. No abuse is acceptable. And a refusal of counseling is a no ...
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| How do you no get so upset | 6/13/2008 |
Q: I have a 14 year old step daughter a couple of years ago we had to move away. Her mother has always ...
A: Can't change what we don't have the power to change. As stepparents, we see a lot of behaviors from ...
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| New custodial stepmother of 18 year old girl | 6/11/2008 |
Q: Well, my husband and I are newly married in Feb. 2008; however, just moved in together recently ...
A: Your concerns for your 4'1/2 year old are justified. I think the fact that you are trying to have ...
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| Terror | 6/11/2008 |
Q: Where do I begin. I am with the love of my life and we had our own fair shares of arguments. With ...
A: Stop trying so hard. If it's meant to be, it will happen. Right now she knows she can push your ...
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| Meeting the kids | 6/10/2008 |
Q: I have been dating this guy for about 4 months now. I am a very mature 23 years old, career ...
A: How do I say this... This man clearly needs to get his act together and stop messing with your ...
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| 11 year old | 5/21/2008 |
Q: oh my, where do I start? I have been with my "domestic partner" for 3 years, 2 of these we have been ...
A: Sounds like you sure are conflicted over this... Can you imagine how this young girl feels??? ...
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| living with stepchildren and more | 5/21/2008 |
Q: My home isn't my home. I don't feel you can be happy with your life if your not happy about your ...
A: The easy answer, is to leave. Three times is the charm they say. I am my partner's third spouse and ...
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| My husband's daughter . . | 5/19/2008 |
Q: My husband's daughter has been jealous of me since I first met her 25 years ago. She is in her late ...
A: I see this quite a bit during my research. Adult stepchildren can be the most difficult. I've always ...
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| Step Father..won't back down | 5/8/2008 |
Q: I was in a relationship for 15 yrs,Ihave 2 son's aged 8 & 15.I split up with their father Oct 06,our ...
A: I don't know can it? You've got to want it to... You need to get help for your addiction first and ...
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| HELP ME PLEASE!!!! | 5/8/2008 |
Q: Ok, My fiance and I got together 2 tears ago, and we are so perfect together, i had 3 children from ...
A: Actually a diagnosis such as the one you've mentioned, can explain a lot about his behaviors. I ...
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| seeing a guy with 3 sons | 5/8/2008 |
Q: I am seeing a guy with 3 sons. I never see the kids since they have to mind at my house and when i ...
A: It takes a lot to be a stepparent and if this is the route you wish it to go, I would wait and take ...
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| Step-daughter sleeping arrangement | 4/5/2008 |
Q: I have just remarried after being a widower for 2 years. I have 3 teenage boys ages 13,15 and 16. ...
A: Your stepdaughter needs her own room... period. She will require privacy and deserves it. As for ...
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| a triangle of confusion | 4/3/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for over a year. About 24 years ago, my husband was involved with ...
A: There is no easy answer to this scenario. I think there are a lot of facts unavailable in your ...
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| To TALK or not to TALK, is the question | 4/3/2008 |
Q: Slipak, I am impressed by your experience. Normally I have seen you answer in one or two lines. ...
A: This is a common concern for all stepparents, not just stepmoms. As you've been reading my advice ...
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| HELP! my fiancee's 14 year old and 9 year old are tearing us apart! | 4/3/2008 |
Q: My fiancee and I have lived together for 6 years. i've been with the kids since the youngest was in ...
A: This is sad. I see this a lot when a woman enters a family already established after there has been ...
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| Stepmom the enforcer | 4/1/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for about 3 years and we have a 23 month old together . He owns ...
A: Firstly, you've married a trucker. He will be away for periods of time. Secondly, you've married ...
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| Should I be involved in counseling with husband and exwife | 2/8/2008 |
Q: She says that the communication between them was great before I came along. she says i am the ...
A: Counseling for yourself and your husband, yes... counseling for the ex, no. Absolutely, you should ...
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| I feel insane! | 2/8/2008 |
Q: I have been married to my husband for 5 years now and helping raise his children when they come ...
A: "I am tired of being stuck in the middle of my husbands and his exes bickering. I think they should ...
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| 15 Year old Wants to Rule our world | 2/8/2008 |
Q: My husband recently received an email from his 15 year old daughter, stating that she does not wish ...
A: Welcome to the world of teens. You need to stick to your guns. Absolutely, do not do anything ...
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| step child | 2/7/2008 |
Q: Ok i recently had my step son come and live with me and my fiance and i feel as if there has been a ...
A: It sounds like you have discovered that being a stepparent may not be for you. So now you have to ...
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| children | 2/6/2008 |
Q: I would like some advice I have been involved in a 12 year relationship which involved domestic ...
A: All parenting should be consistent and constant. Whether you all live together or not is not my ...
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| my 6 year old son, and my 8 year old stepson | 2/6/2008 |
Q: I am in a relationship with a man who has 2 children from another woman, but only one lives with us. ...
A: Counseling is recommended for you and BF if you are serious about this relationship. With counseling ...
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| My Husband is a helicopter parent | 2/6/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been married a bit over a year. He is truly a wonderful man and the love of ...
A: There are many issues here that would have done well with counseling as they were happening. But it ...
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| Boyfriends Daughter | 2/5/2008 |
Q: I've been dating a man for awhile now and we are in the process of moving in together, he has 2 ...
A: Whispers in his ear??? Doesn't see anything wrong??? Excuses her behavior with lame excuses... And ...
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| financial responsibility for stepchild | 2/5/2008 |
Q: My fiance and I moved in last year. He has 2 children and I have none. His kids live with us at ...
A: These are his kids. He is legally and financially responsible for them. You are kind enough to help ...
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| Step children | 2/3/2008 |
Q: 3 years ago I married a man who was both a long time friend, and someone that I had a brief affair ...
A: Counseling is always a solution for as long as you wish to fix this. Counseling does not provide an ...
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| Step children | 2/3/2008 |
Q: 3 years ago I married a man who was both a long time friend, and someone that I had a brief affair ...
A: If you do not want another solution other than to leave, then I can't help you. It does sound like ...
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| I can't seem to deal with boyfriend having a son.. | 2/3/2008 |
Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 3 years now and we've lived together for 2 1/2 ...
A: The boy is not going to go away, nor is it in your right to ask him to give up on his son. I do not ...
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| issues with 20 year old step-daughter | 2/3/2008 |
Q: I have been married for almost ten years. I love my wife very much. She came with three daughters. ...
A: Stop trying. She starts, tell her to knock it off. She tells you to "man up", tell her to grow up. ...
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| Step children | 2/2/2008 |
Q: 3 years ago I married a man who was both a long time friend, and someone that I had a brief affair ...
A: Your husband needs to deal with this girl. He needs to get her out of the house and either in school ...
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| Husband clashing with my son. | 2/2/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been together for 3 years, married for 1.5 years. My son is 12 years old, a ...
A: You need to think of the well-being of your children and you first. If counseling hasn't helped, ...
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| Stepson's anger/atitude is destroying our family | 2/1/2008 |
Q: I moved in with my fiancé and his 3 yr old son almost 7 yrs ago. Thing's were fine at first up until ...
A: It would appear that you do wish to live like this. So I recommend counseling for you, to further ...
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| not her mother not her friend | 1/31/2008 |
Q: She was 17 when we met and I thought we got along well. She was being raised by her grandparents so ...
A: Get into counseling. There are issues here you need to deal with in a one on one situation with ...
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| Stepson's anger/atitude is destroying our family | 1/31/2008 |
Q: I moved in with my fiancé and his 3 yr old son almost 7 yrs ago. Thing's were fine at first up until ...
A: "I basically feel like step-parents are just used to substitute for the paternal parent and that we ...
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| Dinner with ex and kids at restaurant for "family meeting" ?? | 1/31/2008 |
Q: I am a new stepparent of 3 teenagers for 2 months. 18 year old stepson lives with us, along with my ...
A: Although I'm sure this could be argued, I do not agree with the husband in so far as to leave you ...
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| Stuck Step Parent | 1/31/2008 |
Q: I have a 13 year old son, and a step parent in the house. My son is a pretty good kid, does well at ...
A: So what are you doing there? Your son comes first. The mental well being as well as the physical and ...
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| Partner cannot split time between his son and me | 1/30/2008 |
Q: Im not sure whether im being completely unreasonable and need to change my whole attitude or whether ...
A: Time to make the "hard" decisions. I doubt things will change until dad does. So now, you have to ...
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| Crush | 1/30/2008 |
Q: My 11 year old step-son has a crush on my 14 year old daughter and she feels uncomfortable about it. ...
A: These are issues that need to be addressed via a counselor. They will not go away on their own. ...
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| spoiled step son | 1/30/2008 |
Q: My partner moved in with me about a year ago, it should have been both her and her son together ...
A: You've got to be kidding. This is your home and your wife threatens to leave you unless you give ...
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| Stepfather does little for family structure yet acts as if he deserves ALPHA position. | 1/29/2008 |
Q: L. I got a tuffy here for you. A bit of a long back story to it also but I will give you the ...
A: I believe there are often confusing clashes when two strong cultures blend and attempt to make a ...
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| 16 year old step-son | 1/29/2008 |
Q: I have a 16 year old step son, that i have raised since he was 3. I adopted him into our family when ...
A: It has been my experience, that children grow up to respect the one giving the discipline more than ...
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| Adult Children still living with us | 1/29/2008 |
Q: I have been married to my wife for four years. A couple years later we bought a home. Her adult ...
A: Where to start... 32 and 31 and STILL living at home? Is your wife insane? By not allowing them to ...
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| Marriage and Stepchildren | 1/28/2008 |
Q: I am currently dating a wonderful man who has raised his 21 year old daughter and 19 year old son by ...
A: What can I say? You've said it all... If there are doubts, then don't get married. Wait it out to ...
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| step-daughter issues | 1/26/2008 |
Q: My 8 year old step-daughter is an absolute pain in my butt. It use to not be that way & I'm not ...
A: You need to get your husband more involved dealing with this. He needs to set rules about respecting ...
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| 25 yr Stepdaughter and husband is driving me crazy | 1/26/2008 |
Q: My husband and I got together 2 yrs ago. He had been married once when his daughter was born, he ...
A: From what you've written, there seems to be no solution. If it's a matter of she said or she said... ...
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| My boyfriend and my daughter | 1/26/2008 |
Q: Well I have a 7 year old daughter from a previous relationship Me and my current boyfriend have been ...
A: Stop the boasting. This should not be allowed; it is merely cruel to the younger siblings and ...
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| when ex-spouse talks negatively to children | 1/26/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for 8 months, and have lived together for almost 2 years. We have ...
A: Why on earth would he agree to share custody with this woman in the first place? This was his ...
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| Stepdaughter Angry w/ BioMom | 1/25/2008 |
Q: My husband and I are raising his 10 year old daughter. She was removed from the bio Mom due to drug ...
A: You have to make a choice, you either go the nine yards with this little girl, or you don't. She can ...
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| My kids don't like my wife and she's having a hard time dealing with it | 1/14/2008 |
Q: I recently got married, exactly 8 months ago, my kids thought the world of my new wife then my ex ...
A: You are entitled to see your children. If she truly loved you, she would not keep you from them. If ...
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| step child | 1/14/2008 |
Q: my wife's daughter keeps a lot of pictures of her mom and her dad together before the divorce up in ...
A: Under no circumstances should you remove them. The pictures are no threat to you, to your ...
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| How to deal with a very difficult ex-wife | 1/14/2008 |
Q: I am living with my boyfriend and we are planning to get married. I have an 18 year old son and a ...
A: Welcome to the world of stepparenting. It is often frightening what bioparents do to their children ...
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| stepdaughter always first | 1/14/2008 |
Q: My fiance has a 14 year old with some special needs. He split up with her mother after a year and ...
A: This is his child. Of course he wishes to spend time with her. You are not married yet, so you can ...
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| my role | 1/13/2008 |
Q: my step-daughter is 14 she is a beautiful angel. when i first met her i fell in love. the same ...
A: You need to convince your husband to go for custody. There are bigger issues here, your stepdaughter ...
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| step parenting | 1/12/2008 |
Q: I have a stepson who is 12. I feel my husband treats him 10 times better than my kid and even ...
A: The best thing for you is to get your family into family counseling in order to learn to live and ...
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| What is a stepparent business..... | 1/11/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been together for 6 yrs. I would like to know what is my concern, concerning ...
A: I think his daughter is spoiled. I agree, he is doing the wrong thing by constantly indulging her ...
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| stepson unruly with biodad | 1/11/2008 |
Q: I have a very intelligent 6 year old stepson, I came into his life when he was 4 years old, he right ...
A: I would recommend counseling for you and your husband in order to learn to stop fighting each other ...
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| A step son who hates me and OUR children | 1/11/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been together for a little over 4 years now. We both had a child with our ...
A: You need to let your husband deal with this lad. Your husband needs to re-enforce that the lad is to ...
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| manipulative, ungrateful stepdaughter | 1/11/2008 |
Q: I guess this is quite a long story but i'll do my best. My ex-husband and I took in my stepdaughter ...
A: I understand completely. There is no immediate solution to your situation, Celeste. You will have to ...
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| manipulative, ungrateful stepdaughter | 1/11/2008 |
Q: I guess this is quite a long story but i'll do my best. My ex-husband and I took in my stepdaughter ...
A: " also believe that when something bad happens to you at some point you have to make a decision for ...
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| sleep problems with 8 yr old stepson | 1/10/2008 |
Q: My husband and I are recently married after 4yrs of dating. He has an ex-wife with whom he had a ...
A: My thoughts on this is that you need to get this back to court and possibly change the custody ...
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| Husband dislikes my daughter and I dislike his | 1/10/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for a year and a half. I have a 10 year old daughter and so does ...
A: Counseling. You need to get you and your husband into parenting classes and marriage counseling. You ...
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| step son | 1/10/2008 |
Q: I waited to marry my husband until his son was out of the house. The son is deceptive and ...
A: You and your husband need to have a long talk. Time to put the coffee on. If he was aware that you ...
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| manipulative, ungrateful stepdaughter | 1/10/2008 |
Q: I guess this is quite a long story but i'll do my best. My ex-husband and I took in my stepdaughter ...
A: Your stepdaughter was molested by her father; her mother walked out and never looked back... You are ...
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| Moving in Together | 1/9/2008 |
Q: I recently divorced in April of 2007. I have two kids, ages 7 and 5.5. I have been dating a ...
A: Your boyfriend is correct. His son needs his own room so that he will feel part of the family and ...
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| Blending Stepsisters | 1/9/2008 |
Q: My husband and I are struggling with the dynamics between my oldest daughter (age 10) and his ...
A: Family counseling. There are many issues here, far too many issues here for me to address in a ...
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| Stepdaughter | 1/9/2008 |
Q: Do I talk to my stepdaughter's boyfriend about innapropreate behavor. she's 17 & he is 18 I think. ...
A: You didn't happen to have been in, or are in the military? You need to remember two things. This is ...
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| Manipulative stepdaughter | 1/9/2008 |
Q: My husband and I married when his daughters were 7, 5, and 4. My daughter was a month short of 2. ...
A: The problem here is your husband. He needs to find a backbone and step up and be a father. Shoving ...
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| MY HUSBAND HATES MY KIDS | 1/8/2008 |
Q: I have 2 sons, ages 12&14 from a previous marriage. I remarried almost 2 years ago to a man who has ...
A: So what are you waiting for? You need to do whatever is best for the well-being of you and your ...
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| step-daughter nightmare | 1/8/2008 |
Q: I have been married for five years. when my husband and I got married my son-from previous ...
A: This is a tough call because of the current access schedule. Normally, I would recommend that when ...
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| Whiney,Clingy Stepdaughter | 1/7/2008 |
Q: My fiancee and I have a wedding planned for May 08. We live together and I have a 5yr old son, his ...
A: There is nothing I can do or say to help you here, except ask: Why are you still there? It's ...
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| blending family on my own | 1/6/2008 |
Q: My husband has full custody of his two daughters. I have full custody of my two sons. We have been ...
A: You stand your ground. I do not know the ages of these girls, but the circumstances for your husband ...
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| The crazy ex-wife | 1/6/2008 |
Q: I need help on how to deal with my fiance's ex-wife. It is getting way out of hand. The oldest boy ...
A: I would do as I advised earlier. You cannot take on the responsibility of this woman. She's a grown ...
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| The crazy ex-wife | 1/4/2008 |
Q: I need help on how to deal with my fiance's ex-wife. It is getting way out of hand. The oldest boy ...
A: There are several things to do here. First, I would have all communications regarding the children ...
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| Stepdaughter | 1/3/2008 |
Q: I have been married for two years. We recently bought a new home, close to where my husband's ex ...
A: You need rules and boundaries set. Tell them that they are to call first and if you have company you ...
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| Adult Stepchildren | 1/2/2008 |
Q: We have been married for 8 yrs, he was divorced for 6 before we met. His ex left him and took 3 ...
A: Can we adopt you both? <smiles> It is their loss. They are being petty and selfish and ...
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| Step dad whos mean | 1/2/2008 |
Q: I have been married for 5 years now and have 2 teen from my previous marriage. My Husband I think ...
A: You need to get both you and your husband into counseling, or you need to make some tough decisions. ...
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| How to deal with a husband who does not like step children | 1/1/2008 |
Q: My problem is I sponsored my children to come and join me here in canada, the year they come is the ...
A: This is a unique situation. You are doing exactly what you should be doing as far as I can see. My ...
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| question about ex spouse's new spouse's | 12/31/2007 |
Q: I have a general question. My ex lives with his new woman and they have a child together. But I ...
A: She has every right to be there as a support to your Ex. She is becoming an active role maker in ...
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| jealous and I hate it | 12/31/2007 |
Q: I've been married to my husb a little over a year now. He had a nasty divorce and his Ex hasnt ...
A: Ignore it. My advice is when she visits, let her have her dad all to herself. Go to the gym, go ...
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| He doesn't like my son....He doesn't like kids.. | 12/31/2007 |
Q: I know this is somwhat a repeat but everything that I've read both sets of SO's have children, but ...
A: Move on. He has no desire to have a "family" with you. For a man to ask a woman to give up her ...
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| Natural mother belittling Stepmother | 12/28/2007 |
Q: My husband a I have been together for over 8 years, his daughters are now 13 & 10 and they live with ...
A: This is typical. Biomoms tend to overreact to the roles the stepmoms play in their children's lives. ...
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| Stepdaughter and Drugs | 12/28/2007 |
Q: I have been married to a great man for 5 years. I am fed up with his 22 yr.old daughter. When we ...
A: First you must remember, you can't control that which is not within your power to be controlled by ...
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| 18 yr old and EOW visits | 12/17/2007 |
Q: My Step-son will be 18 next month. I was looking forward to no more 'calendar consulting' before any ...
A: Easy, stop doing them. End of story. But under no circumstances ask your husband to stop wanting to ...
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| Angry Stepdad | 12/14/2007 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for 4 and half years but been together for 7. He came into my ...
A: Time for counseling. All children play one parent against the other at some point. It is up to the ...
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| How to Manage, please help... | 12/14/2007 |
Q: I had posted a question on here before about my step-children and their bio-mom and you were very ...
A: Yes, I remember this situation very well. You are indeed dealing with bullies. However, the word ...
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| behavior of 9yo boy | 12/13/2007 |
Q: I just read "help! this is destroying our marriage..." posted on 12-12-07 and it sounds like ...
A: You are nothing like the man described in the other letter. There are very important differences. ...
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| RESENTMENT and bad feelings towards my stepson | 12/13/2007 |
Q: To start, I am a 34 year old mother of 4. 12, 9, 4 (stepson) and 9 months. I have been with my ...
A: First...BREATHE! You've just had a baby (9 months)ago. Postpartum is sometimes attached to women ...
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| My son and my boyfriend | 12/13/2007 |
Q: Here's my situation. I have a now 2 year old son. His father, who is now married and an active part ...
A: Time... you need to give this a lot of time. Patience... will be needed from both you and Ed. ...
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| trouble w/teen daughter of partner | 12/12/2007 |
Q: I've been seeing a man for almost 3 years. I'm 48, he's 50. He and his exwife share custody of their ...
A: In all honesty Claire, I'm not sure how to answer that. Frankly, I feel this would be just putting ...
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| trouble w/teen daughter of partner | 12/12/2007 |
Q: I've been seeing a man for almost 3 years. I'm 48, he's 50. He and his exwife share custody of their ...
A: There is NO excuse for bad manners. Why do bioparents excuse disrespecting, bad mannered ...
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| Help! This is destroying our marriage... | 12/12/2007 |
Q: I have 3 boys of my own (their father was killed in a car accident). I've been married to a man for ...
A: "Head of the household"... what exactly does that mean? I have my own theories but I don't think his ...
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| recent difficulties | 12/10/2007 |
Q: Over the last year certain difficulties have arisen with myself and my step children, I have ahd a ...
A: I could recommend that you allow the girl to make her own sandwich in the morning to her own liking. ...
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| stepchildren | 12/10/2007 |
Q: I have been reading ur replys regarding stepchildren and proms and parties.i am in the same ...
A: My statement is this: Your stepdaughter should be incredibly ashamed of herself. Her behavior is ...
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| violent stepson | 12/8/2007 |
Q: I have a 17 y.o. stepson that is out of control he punches holes in the walls,destroy ...
A: This is very serious. It sounds like the lad should be tested for drug abuse or mental issues. You ...
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| Being a step dad and dealing with partners Ex | 12/8/2007 |
Q: My girlfriend had a child with her ex 8 years ago, but they broke up after a year due to his form ...
A: "We have never wanted to stop contact between them as i believe this to only bad for the boy as he ...
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| stepdaughter no longer wants to visit | 12/7/2007 |
Q: My fiance's oldest daughter is 14 and no longer wants to spend the weekends with us. He is ...
A: This is a typical result of what happens when Daddy tries to buy his child's affection. Instead of ...
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| stepdaughter inappropriate | 12/7/2007 |
Q: My stepdaughter is 11 and my husband has full physical custody. The problem we have is when she ...
A: Throw them away each time you find them. Have your husband write the biomom and tell her of his ...
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| Uncontrollable resentment towards stepson after birth of baby... | 12/6/2007 |
Q: I have been in a three-year relationship with my boyfriend. He currently has a child from a previous ...
A: Why settle for second best? I can see why you are never sure and always unsettled about feelings. ...
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| i CANT stand my step son | 12/6/2007 |
Q: I just recently got married to my husband after a year and a half of dating. we had a long distance ...
A: Hormones rage sometimes out of control when pregnant. But when mixed in an environment such as the ...
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| girlfriend's 4 year old son - love-hate relationship | 12/5/2007 |
Q: I have been dating my girlfriend very seriously for 2 months now. She has 3 boys 9,7,4. She has ...
A: Two months? Man, give it time! He is acting like any typical kid craving attention. You need to ...
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| Hating my Stepson | 12/5/2007 |
Q: Please help! My 21 year old stepson (I'll call him John) did something recently that has made me so ...
A: Counseling. You both need to get into grief counseling to deal with the issues of your husband's ...
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| My 13-year old daughter hates her new step-father | 12/4/2007 |
Q: My husband and I were married last month. We have been living together with our 4 children since ...
A: Counseling... Everything you've described is what you should be doing. Your husband needs to be a ...
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| Re: Biological Fathers Choices | 12/4/2007 |
Q: I am a new step father and everything is going smoothly. My fiancee's 5 year old calls me Dad and ...
A: A five year old with a pierced ear. Do you believe that this five year old was capable of such a ...
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| Im a childless step mom | 12/3/2007 |
Q: I am getting married in January and will be a step mom to three kids, two of which I get to see all ...
A: Laws vary country to country, but I believe that until there is a court order in place outlining the ...
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| Stepparenting troubled teen | 12/3/2007 |
Q: I could probably write 50 pages on the last six months, so I need to try and be concise here. I ...
A: Firstly, let me commend you for staying this long in a highly unpredictable and potentially volatile ...
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| stepdaughter wants to live with us... | 12/2/2007 |
Q: i am not married to my partner, we were in a relationship and got pregnant and now we have a son who ...
A: I think you need to sit down with your partner and read him this letter. There is a lot to being a ...
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| I CAN'T STAND MY STEPSON | 11/29/2007 |
Q: I have been married to a nice man for the last 1 1/2 year. The problem is his son, who is 15 and ...
A: Sadly, there isn't much more I can offer here. Sometimes, in the search of love, we find ourselves ...
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| Stepfather wants Father to be responsible! | 11/29/2007 |
Q: My daughter is 16 years old and has never seen her biological father. My daughter wants to see ...
A: I can fully understand where the stepfather is coming from. He has raised this child and up to now ...
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| step daughter wants mum to leave | 11/29/2007 |
Q: my girlfriend of two yrs is being pressured intensely by her 12 yr old daughter to end our very ...
A: I can't tell you how many times I've seen this happen, where interfering stepchildren control their ...
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| Stepdaughter Allegations | 11/28/2007 |
Q: I am a Christian, hard working Man in Construction and have been married one time for 12 years. My ...
A: My first question after reading this is, has the girl been tested for drug abuse? Has she been ...
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| Stepdaughter | 11/28/2007 |
Q: Could you please give me some advice. I have had a baby (7 months old) with a man who has a 9 year ...
A: The problem here is the biodad. Until he wakes up and sees the damage he's causing, nothing will ...
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| Manipulative, Sloppy, Lazy, Rude, etc. | 11/28/2007 |
Q: I just recently became engaged and moved in with a man who has two children. A 10 yr old daughter ...
A: Ahhhh to live stress free... what a nice world it would be. Sadly, it is not this. Your fiance needs ...
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| Husband is way too strict on his stepson | 11/28/2007 |
Q: How do I successfully convince my husband that he is too strict on my 11 and 1/2 year old son. It ...
A: You've not said how long you've been married. Your husband's feelings towards this lad could stem ...
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| Meeting the kids | 11/28/2007 |
Q: I have been dating this guy for about 4 months now. I am a very mature 23 years old, career ...
A: My comment to this would be, do not let your emotions cloud what is going on right now. If he felt ...
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| I CAN'T STAND MY STEPSON | 11/27/2007 |
Q: I have been married to a nice man for the last 1 1/2 year. The problem is his son, who is 15 and ...
A: You have got to be kidding? This lad swears and cusses at you and your husband does nothing? Let me ...
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| I'm at my wits end | 11/27/2007 |
Q: My 7 year old SD lives with us full time, and has for nearly two years. I have three teens, 15, 16 ...
A: "She is destroying the relationships of everyone in this house, and my ten month old baby does not ...
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| Husband wants his daughter to live with us | 11/27/2007 |
Q: Her dad works out of state during the week and swears that what I say goes as far as parenting her ...
A: This is a personal choice that only you can make. You have to decide if your are willing to do all ...
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| 14 year old stepdaughter | 11/26/2007 |
Q: Please help!!, I recently got remarried after 18 years single to a wonderful man with a 14 year old ...
A: The one to do the talking is the dad. He must explain to his daughter that he is always there for ...
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| My family.. | 11/25/2007 |
Q: I have been with my husband for 11 1/2 years, married for 6 1/2 of those years. He had shared ...
A: Simple... if he makes this move, inform him that this will be the last move. He will have to remain ...
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| my daughter | 11/24/2007 |
Q: crystal has been my stepdaughter for 7 years & she is 11 1/2 now we have full custody of her. We ...
A: All children heading into the terrible teen era talk back. Moms are home more and are the planners ...
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| crazy ex | 11/22/2007 |
Q: my husband and i live in Washington state.my husband daughter's mother is very jealous becoz he ...
A: Visitation? I would fix the custody issue. This woman is an alcoholic and drug user and raising a ...
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| Step Daughter cries for biomom/ Mom is controling | 11/13/2007 |
Q: I have been with my fiance for a year now. I am a divorcee with twin girls that are 4yrs. My ex and ...
A: This is happening because there are no rules or boundaries in place. You need to take this back to ...
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| Spoiled Adult Stepson? | 11/13/2007 |
Q: I have been with my husband for over two years now and we've been married since June 2007, I love ...
A: The issue seems to be respect, rules and boundaries for the stepsons and the lack thereof. I will ...
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| problem stepdaughter | 11/11/2007 |
Q: My husband and I married last year. I have one daughter, who is 9, and he has three children - 17 ...
A: So allow me to fully understand this... this teen is obnoxious, rude and disrespectful to you in ...
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| When world collide | 11/11/2007 |
Q: I am a sinlge father raising my 13 year old daughter. Recently, I have begun dating and have fallen ...
A: There is an old saying: "If it's not broke, why fix it?" I think this would be a perfect time to ...
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| should I be watching his children? | 11/7/2007 |
Q: I am a mother to three children, 17,15 (boys) and a 12 yr.old autistic daughter. I separated from my ...
A: Yes, you are. If you were not in the picture but he was still working all these hours, would there ...
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| Do I financially help adult stepdaughter? | 11/6/2007 |
Q: I do not have a good relationship with a 23yr old step-daugher. She is financially out of control. ...
A: I think the real question here is... is she capable of learning to change for the better regarding ...
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| Trusting a Step-Daughter | 11/5/2007 |
Q: I have been with my husband for 4 years. This year his 16 year old step daughter moved in with us. ...
A: This is your husband's stepdaughter? I take it then he was married before and was part of a blended ...
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| Manipulating Ex-Wife | 11/4/2007 |
Q: I started a relationship with my fiance year ago. We hit it off great. He was a divorcee with one ...
A: With all due respect, I would say... consider yourself lucky and keep going. Do not look back. The ...
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| introducing my 3 young boys to a step sister out of wedlock. | 11/4/2007 |
Q: L., I am so confused on what to do here... I have been married to a wonderful man for the past 10 ...
A: I give a lot of credit to your husband for his efforts. Shame on this stepdaughter for not seeing ...
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| Wicked stepmother | 11/1/2007 |
Q: My stepson just turned 14 and has lived with my husband and me full time since he was 10. Prior to ...
A: Remember there is a difference between this generation and ours. The kids today have grown ...
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| Adult (?) Step Daughter | 10/31/2007 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for almost ten years. He had been widowed for five years before ...
A: Let me understand this properly... she is 33??? There should be no issue. She is an adult and should ...
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| Wicked stepmother | 10/31/2007 |
Q: My stepson just turned 14 and has lived with my husband and me full time since he was 10. Prior to ...
A: Allow me to ask you this one question... if we were to take the "step" out of "stepson" here would ...
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| husband and stepdaughter | 10/30/2007 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for seven years(1st marriage for both). We recently found out ...
A: Sometimes we don't know what we want until it hits us in the face,so to speak... Legally, your ...
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| Ex wife drama | 10/29/2007 |
Q: I am currently engaged to a fantastic man who has two daughters from his previous marriage. A ten ...
A: First, I would get a lawyer to write the 22 year old a nice letter explaining the consequences of ...
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| Step Son | 10/29/2007 |
Q: My fiancés 18 year old son moved in with us in March and only planned on staying the summer. The ...
A: This is a no brainer, Sara. My first question back to you, is what in the world is the father ...
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| step children | 10/28/2007 |
Q: i have two step children and now a 11 month old baby to my fiance we have been together now for 3 ...
A: The solution is simple. Your fiance needs to step up his disciplining of his kids. He needs to ...
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| step daugher | 10/25/2007 |
Q: my husband's 17 yr. old daughter has opted to move in with us. she wants to connect more with her ...
A: Hmm, a one bedroom apartment for two adults and a teen. I see this as an impossible situation that ...
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| Bio Mom and Stepdaughters | 10/25/2007 |
Q: Where to start...hubby and I have been together for 4 years. Bio mom (his ex) is a VERY ...
A: What you are describing are called bullies. They use manipulation and fear to get what they want. ...
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| Wife and her stepchildren and their privacy right | 10/24/2007 |
Q: L., I have been married to my wife for 4 years now. Her biological children are 17, 15, and 13. Two ...
A: First thing to question is why all the secrecy? Secondly, I would like to stress that any blended ...
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| Stepson Teen-Age Pregnancy | 10/24/2007 |
Q: My partner and I have been together for 4 years now and are in our eyes married. She has a son ...
A: Well, there is one thing apparently that the lad is good at, and that is making babies. This child ...
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| difficulty with ex wife | 10/22/2007 |
Q: My ex wife continues to tell my daughter she is sick when she is not. At her soccer game saturday ...
A: I'm no expert in this field but I did do a bit of research into an issue surrounding hypochondria ...
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| Help with behavioral issues | 10/22/2007 |
Q: I have four of my own children 8, 5, 3 and 2. My boyfriend has 2 children 5 and 3 that we see 6 ...
A: Six children, six times a month? Two are 5 and 3... could there be a bit of jealousy involved with ...
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| Returning Step-child with lack of respect | 10/22/2007 |
Q: I want to know what should I do about a step-child that has returned home from a 1 year 3 month run ...
A: We all want our children, either biochildren or stepchildren, to be successful. I give you credit ...
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| husband's daughter | 10/21/2007 |
Q: I AM HAVING PROBLEMS IN MY MARRIAGE DUE TO MY HUSBAND'S DAUGHTER. MOST RECENTLY SHE CAME BY OUR ...
A: This stepdaughter is twenty-five and an adult. Her father's financial obligations are done. He no ...
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| Stepdaughter with an Electra complex | 10/20/2007 |
Q: I seriously need some help. My stepdaughter is 18 years old. I have been with her father for 10 ...
A: I'm not entirely sure what it is you're asking me, Sally. You have a stepdaughter who is 18 and ...
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| Step Daughters | 10/19/2007 |
Q: I have two step daughters and they are very diffrent. At least they where until recently. The ...
A: If I could count the number of times I've been exactly where you are... and look, I survived. Was it ...
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| Returning Step-child with lack of respect | 10/18/2007 |
Q: I want to know what should I do about a step-child that has returned home from a 1 year 3 month run ...
A: I'm a little confused... where is it written that parents must buy their children a car? I never ...
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| 3 Boys, how to relate to new step children | 10/17/2007 |
Q: I have not quite crossed over the threshold into step-mom land, but am preparing for that move. My ...
A: Take your time before becoming fully involved with this family. Your soon to be husband should get ...
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| stepdaughter cries for mom | 10/17/2007 |
Q: My stepdaughter is 10 and has been crying for her mom since they divorced when she was 4. Her father ...
A: You need to get counseling Carly so that you can have coping methods in place to deal with this ...
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| Boyfriends' kids | 10/17/2007 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years. We are both divorced and our kids were with our ...
A: The difference between marrying and becoming a stepparent and then finding out that things are like ...
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| problematic step child | 10/17/2007 |
Q: I met my husband a year after he'd been divorced. His 3 year old son lives with the mother. The ...
A: The issue as I see it, is stability and what instability is doing to the lad. He has no "real" home. ...
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| Am I a "Step Parent" by default - where to seek help? | 10/16/2007 |
Q: My wife and I married 9 mos ago, she 50 , me 47. We are quite compatible and enjoy life together ...
A: Are you a stepfather? You are your wife's husband. Should you learn how to be a parent? I give you ...
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| shutt in | 10/16/2007 |
Q: My step daughter is 13 years old and has faced many problems since her parents have split up. She ...
A: ODD is not a "learned" behavior, but it can be an inherent disorder passed from one to the next. ...
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| no follow through | 10/15/2007 |
Q: I have been reading some of the other questions and answers. My husband and I have tried to set up ...
A: The rules and boundaries set within a household should apply to all children equally, regardless if ...
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| shutt in | 10/15/2007 |
Q: My step daughter is 13 years old and has faced many problems since her parents have split up. She ...
A: My stepdaughter was exactly like this when I married my spouse. However, she started much younger. ...
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| stepdaughter cries for mom | 10/15/2007 |
Q: My stepdaughter is 10 and has been crying for her mom since they divorced when she was 4. Her father ...
A: Your husband is doing exactly that which he can. It is an upward climb with the biomom undermining ...
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| my new husband is tough on my son... | 10/15/2007 |
Q: this is a very hard issue for me to deal with.... i hope i get some guidance through your answers. ...
A: I must give you credit... your plate is full every day, day in and out. This new man in your life ...
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| Step children | 10/15/2007 |
Q: I recently married into a non traditional family with three step children.It appears that my wife ...
A: It is a combined misunderstanding of what is expected of the blended family. I would recommend ...
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| Difficult new relationship with boyfriend and 8 yr old son | 10/14/2007 |
Q: I met my boyfriend online over three years ago. We took our time getting to know each other and ...
A: The best sentence in this entire letter is "he wants to go to family counseling." I say GO! There ...
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| my husband does not like my son | 10/12/2007 |
Q: My current husband had never been married, no children and pretty much kept himself reclusive,very ...
A: If divorce is the decision you have arrived at, do not hesitate, seek help from the police in having ...
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| dicipline | 10/11/2007 |
Q: Since me and my fiance just got married I am now his 10 and 9 yr old daughters step-mom. They both ...
A: Congratulations on your marriage Joleen, The biofather is responsible for disciplining. He can ...
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| Step-Son Dilemma | 10/11/2007 |
Q: I have been married to my husband for 5 years it will be 6 June of 2008. I met my husband and his ...
A: "I am getting tired of being treated this way in My home. His dad doesn't really say much. When I ...
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| my stepfather bullys me | 10/11/2007 |
Q: What should i do. I live with my dad but stay with my mam and her partner on the weekends, he bully ...
A: I'm very pleased to see you writing me. It takes great courage as a step-child to discuss an issue ...
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| stepdaughter | 10/11/2007 |
Q: I feel as though I have to walk out of a beautiful 12 year relationship with my partner because all ...
A: So... after 12 years of being in a "beautiful" relationship with a "lovely" man... you are going to ...
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| stepchildren status when remarried | 10/10/2007 |
Q: My husband has been divorced from his previous wife for 27 years. He had stepchildren in his ...
A: Of course. How does one turn on and off being a parent, even if a parent is a step-parent? How does ...
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| My boyfriends hates my son | 10/10/2007 |
Q: I have been living together with my boyfriend for 6 months and we met 2 y ago. I have my 3 children ...
A: I believe there is a serious issue developing here that you need to address immediately. The fact ...
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| Alternate names | 10/9/2007 |
Q: First of all, I just want to say, "Kudos! to all stepparents out there. I have been blessed since ...
A: I am glad to see a success story about stepparenting. Kudos to you! Blessings come in all shapes and ...
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| re: PARTNER'S BEHAVIOUR | 10/8/2007 |
Q: I really need help. Was I wrong? My partner, his ten year son (nearly 11, my son (16) and myself ...
A: I'm not really sure what the issue was. Your partner suffered separation anxiety from his 11 year ...
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| girlfriend's son is disrespectful | 10/7/2007 |
Q: I have been dating my girlfriend for six months. We are pretty serious and would like to consider ...
A: If you are serious about this lady, Mike, then you will need to be very patient and take your time. ...
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| Fed up! | 10/7/2007 |
Q: L., I am engaged to a wonderful man who has a soon-to-be 7 year old boy. I have been in this ...
A: The problem and the resolution to this situation lies within the biodad. There must be rules and ...
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| My wife has nothing to do with my 10 year old son | 10/5/2007 |
Q: I have been married now for 2 years. My wife has a 16 and 10 sons. I have a 10 son. Over the last 3 ...
A: I must ask how it would be if you were to reverse the roles and apply your wife's way of thinking to ...
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| Help understanding my Stepson | 10/5/2007 |
Q: I have been married to my husband for almost 1 year now. I have an 11 yo daughter from a previous ...
A: Yes, counseling, but I would recommend counseling through an agency not attached to school. The last ...
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| Step-parenting | 10/5/2007 |
Q: Greetings, I will try to give you a little history before I ask a question. I have been raising my ...
A: It depends on where you are living, Astrid, as to what type of access and restrictions on access can ...
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| Angry young girl | 10/4/2007 |
Q: I have been dating a wonderful man for the past year. I have been divorced for 7 years with two ...
A: Allow me to say this first: I think you and this man should marry. Second, remember, you cannot ...
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| Help understanding my Stepson | 10/4/2007 |
Q: I have been married to my husband for almost 1 year now. I have an 11 yo daughter from a previous ...
A: Let me commend you on your wanting to help this lad. However, I think there is a greater issue here, ...
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| Teenage crisis in stepchildren | 10/3/2007 |
Q: I really wish you can give me some guidance here. I have a rather long story which I shall try to be ...
A: I do wish you well with whatever decision you face. Indeed, you have much on your plate to work ...
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| Will my boyfriend ever accept my son? | 10/3/2007 |
Q: I have an 8 year old son and have been divorced for 3 years. During that time when I have dated only ...
A: Wow... I think you already have an idea where this is heading. It is so difficult on single women ...
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| Meeting my girlfriends 2 year old daughter... | 10/3/2007 |
Q: I am in the military and am currently involved in a long distance relationship. This girl means the ...
A: I suggest you keep your first visit simple, light and fun. "Out of twelve months, I can only visit a ...
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| Help Reconnect with Stepdaughter | 10/3/2007 |
Q: I have been in a relationship with a (now 42 year old) man for the past 5 and a half years. He has ...
A: The father needs to decide if he wishes for this relationship to work. Then he needs to set ...
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| children do what they want | 10/2/2007 |
Q: I have 2 stepdaughters to be, both now teenagers. When I came into there lives (7 years ago) they ...
A: No, they are not your children, but you did marry their father. With that said, when do you think ...
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| Meeting my b-f's 6-year-old daughter. | 10/2/2007 |
Q: I'm 25 and have been with my b-f, Brian, on-and-off for a year and a half. It was back and forth ...
A: Please write me back after the 26th court hearing and inform me about the results so that I can make ...
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| I hate my step daughter | 10/2/2007 |
Q: My husband and I have been together for about 8 years and my husband always had custody of his ...
A: Hate is a very strong word. I can completely understand your frustration, conflict, and resentment ...
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| Jealously w/stepdaughter/biological son | 10/1/2007 |
Q: My fiance' of 6 years and I have a son together and my daughter of my deceased husband. He came into ...
A: Besides therapy? You need to get into therapy for learning how to deal with ADD and fast. Your ...
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| Teenage crisis in stepchildren | 9/30/2007 |
Q: I really wish you can give me some guidance here. I have a rather long story which I shall try to be ...
A: First, let me commend you for writing such a well worded letter. Your feelings and beliefs are very ...
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| 14 year old desciding custody | 9/30/2007 |
Q: I'm 14 years old, and I would like to have my custody changed from my mother to my father. My father ...
A: It is a tough decision you face, and I hope you've given it much thought based on things beside your ...
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| 4 year old cries for mom | 9/29/2007 |
Q: My 4 year old step daughter and I have always had a really good relationship. She has stayed with ...
A: Children go through various stages during development. Your stepdaughter is typically entering the ...
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| Father going crazy response | 9/29/2007 |
Q: J.L. This is in response to my husbands letter to you. I just wanted to tell my side of the issue ...
A: First let me say how happy I am to see your letter. It takes a great amount of courage to come ...
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| husbands ex wife | 9/28/2007 |
Q: My husband seems to be having problems letting his ex mess with his head.She uses the kids as a ...
A: Bitterness has a way of carrying forward into behaviors such as this. The need to get even is ...
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| My 22 year old step son | 9/27/2007 |
Q: I am in a situation where i married a man who came with two of his three kids, i also have three ...
A: I agree. Better yet, ask yourself what all this is doing to the other children that are still home ...
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| stepmom stepson father going crazy | 9/26/2007 |
Q: Looking for help (need to understand) I have remarried – have a 12-year-old boy from previous ...
A: Both of you need to calm down. I can see both of your perspectives here and will address each of you ...
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| BM and SD issues | 9/26/2007 |
Q: This is VERY long. I apologize: My SD,13, is over for the weekend. Yesterday she was sitting on the ...
A: I understand what you are saying. Do you realize that even though you have access of your ...
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| step daughter | 9/25/2007 |
Q: me and my hudband have been together now for almost 5 years i have 2 children from a previos ...
A: There is no problem. You are the adult in the home, your home, and she is the guest... While in your ...
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| My step son is on his last string | 9/25/2007 |
Q: I have been with my step son for 10 years. He is now 13. We have had school problems since the day ...
A: First off, allow me to say well done for taking on a stepparenting role for a child with ADD. I ...
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| BM and SD issues | 9/24/2007 |
Q: This is VERY long. I apologize: My SD,13, is over for the weekend. Yesterday she was sitting on the ...
A: Basically, she is playing all of you... and well. Remove the computer, and eliminate |
