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| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
| tantrums | 1/25/2012 | Richard Taylor |
| Q: About a week ago my 13-year old daughter threw a tantrum in a store (there's really no other way of ... A: Let her have her tantrum....walk away from her and don't talk to her. Leave her where she is and if ... | ||
| tantrums | 1/25/2012 | Richard Taylor |
| Q: About a week ago my 13-year old daughter threw a tantrum in a store (there's really no other way of ... A: First of all, nothing is normal about a 13 yr old girl. You may never have to spank her again. She ... | ||
| my 22 year old son | 1/21/2012 | Jason Wittman, MPS |
| Q: Do I keep helping him? he is lazy, drinks, cant keep a job, doesn't help around the house, does not ... A: Joseph, I am presuming from your question, correct me if I am wrong, that you are feeding and ... | ||
| 12 year old step son | 1/18/2012 | Penny K |
| Q: I have a 12 year old step son who has major behavioral problems.To my understanding he had major ... A: Diana, I would like to see him have a psychological evaluation. When I took care of adolescents who ... | ||
| Am I the only one | 1/8/2012 | James Windell |
| Q: Becuase my 14 yr son is grounded. and we r holding to it . and it ready been a a week since a ... A: It is important that you stick to the grounding and you end it on your terms. A grounding doesn't ... | ||
| TEEN STAYING OUT TO WEE HRS | 1/3/2012 | James Windell |
| Q: James, My teen (17), generally with behaviour difficulties, has somehow gotten it into her head ... A: You may not be able to convince her, because at her age she may believe that she has the right to ... | ||
| Help me please! Newphew scaring me | 1/1/2012 | Bj Hickman |
| Q: Me and my husband have known each other for over 10 years married 6. My husband has a nephew with ... A: I'm sorry it's taken me so long to respond. I'm not really sure how to advise you. This is very ... | ||
| teen Urgent help! nephew making me stressed/uncomfortable | 1/1/2012 | M. Kay Keller |
| Q: Me and my husband have known each other for over 10 years married 6. My husband has a nephew with ... A: The teen needs intervention and you need therapy to find out why you reacted like this, "I thought ... | ||
| 18 yr old son not worried about possible felony!!! | 12/30/2011 | Jason Wittman, MPS |
| Q: My son just turned 18 10/3/11. He's always been a great kid, altho very lazy, especially at school. ... A: I will start with the last part first. Scared Straight does not work and the bail bondsman is ... | ||
| 18 yr old son not worried about possible felony!!! | 12/30/2011 | David Simonsen |
| Q: My son just turned 18 10/3/11. He's always been a great kid, altho very lazy, especially at school. ... A: Kris, You are spoiling your son by continuing to give him chances. He knows that you view him as a ... | ||
| 18 yr old son not worried about possible felony!!! | 12/30/2011 | Penny K |
| Q: My son just turned 18 10/3/11. He's always been a great kid, altho very lazy, especially at school. ... A: Kris, Wow...I can read the anxiety in your email and understand how stressful this can be on a ... | ||
| 18 yr old son not worried about possible felony!!! | 12/30/2011 | James Windell |
| Q: My son just turned 18 10/3/11. He's always been a great kid, altho very lazy, especially at school. ... A: I'm sorry to hear about your son and his problems -- and his lack of concern about his situation. ... | ||
| Rebellious Teen | 12/27/2011 | James Windell |
| Q: My mother is a 53 years old single mom. Her 16 year old has been giving my her the hardest time. My ... A: It is certainly no fun to have a teenager who is out of control. It's even worse for a single ... | ||
| Rights | 12/26/2011 | Jason Wittman, MPS |
| Q: I am 18 and live in Oklahoma where i have a 17 year old fiance who turns 18 in a month whom i have a ... A: I do not live in Oklahoma and am not familiar with the laws there and how the authorities deal with ... | ||
| Daughter Boyfriend | 12/19/2011 | Jason Wittman, MPS |
| Q: I have a 17 year old daughter she will be 18 in 5 weeks and is talking or dating this guy that is ... A: Let's start with the easy answer about control. With one month to go before she is 18, you are past ... | ||
| Daughter Boyfriend | 12/19/2011 | Jason Wittman, MPS |
| Q: I have a 17 year old daughter she will be 18 in 5 weeks and is talking or dating this guy that is ... A: With an 18 year old, you can only parent her when she gives you permission to do so. If you have ... | ||
| Troubled 16 year old | 12/16/2011 | David Simonsen |
| Q: My mother is a 53 years old single mom. Her 16 year old has been giving my her the hardest time. My ... A: Jilleon, Your brother doesn't simply need a talking to. He needs direct police involvement. He is in ... | ||
| Motivation | 12/15/2011 | Penny K |
| Q: My daughter is a 13 year old, a good student, good at sports but with friends who are good but ... A: Nira, My apologies in the delay in answering your question, the email got lost in my spam box. I ... | ||
| 19 year old son disrespectful | 12/9/2011 | Jason Wittman, MPS |
| Q: I do not have much authority over my son. I have younger son age 19 (almost) and calls me filthy ... A: It seems, from what you have written, that you have not had much authority over your son for many ... | ||
| 16 yr. old son | 12/9/2011 | David Simonsen |
| Q: My son is very bright but does not apply himself to his school work. (mostly C's but sometimes F ... A: Kathy, People respond best to positive rewards, but they also respond to negative consequences. This ... | ||
| older daughter hating younger | 12/7/2011 | Penny K |
| Q: my older daughter just hates her younger sister (17 and 10) the refuses to do anything that involves ... A: Betsy, Siblings have fought this battle for years. I think my older brother tried to sell me for ... | ||
| Step-Teen Talking Back | 12/5/2011 | James Windell |
| Q: I have 3 teen step-children. The middle teen is very mature and respectful to me. The oldest is ... A: It's not easy to get along with stepchildren, and teens are usually the most difficult to form ... | ||
| 16 year old son | 12/4/2011 | Penny K |
| Q: Ok. My son has played basketball since 2nd grade. He is naturally a good player and athlete. Last ... A: Rhonda, First, thank you for following up. Doesn't sound like he is depressed, but displaying some ... | ||
| 16 year old son | 12/2/2011 | Penny K |
| Q: Ok. My son has played basketball since 2nd grade. He is naturally a good player and athlete. Last ... A: Rhonda, Could you provide me with a little more information? such as what games are being played on ... | ||
| My father | 12/1/2011 | James Windell |
| Q: I am Yuss, I have 17 years old and a Palestinian. I am at the last year at school. I have to study ... A: I'm sorry to hear that your father doesn't appreciate that you are a good student who works hard to ... | ||
| discipline and coping with a pre teen | 11/30/2011 | James Windell |
| Q: im a single mother and i have an 11 year old son. his father is actively in his life. we are facing ... A: Isn't raising teenagers a wonderful experience?! Your son doesn't sound all that unusual as a young ... | ||
| Vacation | 11/22/2011 | Penny K |
| Q: "Hi, I am Shayna, I am 39 years old and have been married for 18 years, and we have a 17 year old ... A: Shayna, The short answer is yes you are going to embarrass your son, regardless of what you wear or ... | ||
| 14 year old son | 11/18/2011 | Penny K |
| Q: My 14 year old son Lukas is gay. He acts a lot like a girl and also dresses like one. I have no ... A: What I can hear from your email is that you are wanting your son to grow up learning healthy ... | ||
| son 15 | 11/15/2011 | James Windell |
| Q: My son was recently expelled from school and charged with possesion of schd4 narcotics. He took ... A: I think you want to impress on him the seriousness of taking pills from other kids because he ... | ||
| son 15 | 11/15/2011 | Jason Wittman, MPS |
| Q: My son who is 15 was recently expelled from school and charged with schd4 narcotics. He has never ... A: This might sound strange, but I do not think that punishment from you is your first priority as ... | ||
| heartbroken daughter | 11/8/2011 | Jason Wittman, MPS |
| Q: Recently my daughter had an awful fight with a boy she's been going out with for two years. They ... A: You have not given me much information to go on, so I am going to have to make some assumptions. If ... | ||
| college son to meet serious boyfriend | 11/7/2011 | Jason Wittman, MPS |
| Q: I'm a widow with a college age son (19) and older daughter (25). I was widowed almost ten years ago ... A: My first question to you would be, have you ever asked your son his feeling about you dating and ... | ||
| social awkwardness | 11/3/2011 | Richard Taylor |
| Q: I want to know how I can help my son be accepted socially. He is 17 and very handsome. He plays one ... A: First of all this is not an uncommon issue and one that can have an easy solution but it depends ... | ||
| I want to help my 13 year old daughter deal with issues that cause her stress | 10/31/2011 | James Windell |
| Q: My 13 year old daughter is very upset about misplacing things and forgetting school assignments. ... A: I'm glad to hear that you and your daughter have such a close relationship. Given that she confides ... | ||
| 12-year-old Grandson going to be incarcerated | 10/29/2011 | Kjirstin |
| Q: My grandson, who lives about 500 miles from where I live, has had problems at school and other ... A: Actually, you may rest easy, as this sounds as if he is FINALLY getting the kind of help he really ... | ||
| First names with Daughter | 10/25/2011 | Penny K |
| Q: Sorry,but I did try to send you a mail before (with a wrong id)..oops Hope you are well. My name is ... A: You are probably not going to like my answer, I am from the south, and here we find it disrespectful ... | ||
| teen bedtime | 10/24/2011 | James Windell |
| Q: I don't normally fight with my teenage daughter who's 14 except over one thing-bedtime. The girl ... A: I hope you haven't resorted to spanking to try to solve the bedtime problem. That might relieve your ... | ||
| Blended family/preteen behavior | 10/13/2011 | James Windell |
| Q: I am a stepmom to a girl 12 yoa. I have known the girl for 4 yrs. The mother briefly put her into ... A: I apologize for the delay in responding to your question. I understand your position and I ... | ||
| rules/contract for 19yr old son | 10/9/2011 | James Windell |
| Q: .need help as we are a stepfamily a 19 , 13 year old boys.my 19 yr old wont work , wont help around ... A: Clearly something needs to change. You can't allow your family to be destroyed without trying ... | ||
| My daughters hate each other | 10/7/2011 | James Windell |
| Q: I have two daughters aged 13 and 11 and a son who is 7. My daughters argue constantly and more ... A: As you have discovered, the traditional approaches (reprimands, consequences, and trying to settle ... | ||
Parenting --Teens
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James Windell
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Expertise
I am a parent trainer, psychotherapist, and author specializing in parenting issues.During the past 40 years I`ve worked with parents with discipline problems and challenging children. I give frequent lectures and workshops related to discipline, social skills, and aggressive children. I consult with various agencies and schools where there are child behavior problems. I am listed in the American Psychological Associations` media panel as an expert on parenting and am frequently quoted in leading magazines and newspapers.
Experience
I have worked in a juvenile court as a clinical psychologist and as a psychotherapist in private practice. In the Oakland County (MI) Juvenile Court, I developed an award-winning parent training program for parents of adolescent delinquents. In addition I have done group therapy with adolescent delinquents using a social skills-building model. I have consulted with courts, schools, churches, preschools, and domestic violence shelters in areas of parenting.
I received my BA with a major in Psychology in 1963 from Wayne State University. I got my MA in Clinical Psychology from Oakland University in 1972.
I am a member of the American Psychological Association and the Michigan Psychological Association. I have written pamplets, newspaper articles, and professional journal articles. I have been the Coping With Kids columnist for the Oakland Press for 21 years, and my columns also appear weekly in the Staten Island Advance. I have been the author or co-author of 12 books. My books include, 8 WEEKS to A WELL-BEHAVED CHILD, CHILDREN WHO SAY NO WHEN YOU WANT THEM TO SAY YES, and 6 STEPS TO AN EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT TEENAGER. My latest parenting book is THE FATHERSTYLE ADVANTAGE. I have appeared on over 175 radio and TV shows related to my books and parenting. For more information about me, my books and columns, go to my website at Jameswindell.com
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