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About James Windell
Expertise
I am a parent trainer, psychotherapist, and author specializing in parenting issues.During the past 40 years I`ve worked with parents with discipline problems and challenging children. I give frequent lectures and workshops related to discipline, social skills, and aggressive children. I consult with various agencies and schools where there are child behavior problems. I am listed in the American Psychological Associations` media panel as an expert on parenting and am frequently quoted in leading magazines and newspapers.

Experience
I have worked in a juvenile court as a clinical psychologist and as a psychotherapist in private practice. In the Oakland County (MI) Juvenile Court, I developed an award-winning parent training program for parents of adolescent delinquents. In addition I have done group therapy with adolescent delinquents using a social skills-building model. I have consulted with courts, schools, churches, preschools, and domestic violence shelters in areas of parenting.

I received my BA with a major in Psychology in 1963 from Wayne State University. I got my MA in Clinical Psychology from Oakland University in 1972.

I am a member of the American Psychological Association and the Michigan Psychological Association. I have written pamplets, newspaper articles, and professional journal articles. I have been the Coping With Kids columnist for the Oakland Press for 21 years, and my columns also appear weekly in the Staten Island Advance. I have been the author or co-author of 12 books. My books include, 8 WEEKS to A WELL-BEHAVED CHILD, CHILDREN WHO SAY NO WHEN YOU WANT THEM TO SAY YES, and 6 STEPS TO AN EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT TEENAGER. My latest parenting book is THE FATHERSTYLE ADVANTAGE. I have appeared on over 175 radio and TV shows related to my books and parenting. For more information about me, my books and columns, go to my website at Jameswindell.com

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Parenting --Teens - Would this man be a good man

Expert: James Windell - 11/1/2009

Question
QUESTION: What does this tell you about a man? He has five children with five different women and he does not pay than any child support because most mothers never go to family court in this country. All five children are not planned. All five children think they have the greatest daddy in the world because he loves them very much and sees them every weekend and is very good with children in general. He would never have done that in the Australia, Britain, Canada, New Zeeland and the United States. He is an American citizen and has lived in the USA for at 5 years or more and at least 2 are after his 14 birthday. All his children are also American citizens and are citizens of there country of birth and there father does not want them to have any to do with the USA other than speaking English as a second language and have a US passport.

ANSWER: Hello,
The only things this description suggests is that this man doesn't really like commitments and on-going intimate relationships, that he doesn't really want a family, that he is perhaps impulsive, that he doesn't want the financial obligations of a family, and that he prefers his independence.
Do you agree?
James

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QUESTION: Would this man be a good man if his children think that he is a very good father and is very good friends with there mother and his children do not live in poverty and are better off than most American children? He is also a naturalized US Citizen living in his native country and has no intention g of coming back to the USA ever and thinks the USA sucks in a diplomatic friendly manner.

Answer
Hello,
There are all sorts of ways of measuring whether a man is a good man. The way he treats his children may be one way of determining if a man is a good man. If his children love him and he is able to give them what they need from a father, then maybe he is a "good" man.
James

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