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Question my daugter is a professional musician who is constantly being pushed by her father. However, her father is so emotionally abusive and i have hre in therapy. But i found her journal laying out in the living room for 2 days and i decided to take apeak and found her saying things like "i must have done something really horrible as a baby for him to be so mad at me". i became very worried and now don't know what to do? she never uses bad language and in her journal she curses alot.
Answer Hi Dfradkin, thanks for the question. YOu don't say how old your daughter is so I'm not sure about your concern about her language (cursing). The reality is this, she is in therapy and I suspect that is positive. Unfortunately her dad is probably not in therapy and he should be too. At the least, he should be available/willing to go with her should she request it. You found her journal and probably should not have read it, but you did. I think it would be fair to tell her you read some of it and tell her your concerns. See how she responds. Again, as I don't know her age it is a little difficult for me to be more specific. Bottom line- she is getting support from a professional so she should be fine. Hope that helps. If you need more info. let me know.
regards
Shana
Hi again, I just noticed that she is 13. I think she is old enough to be able to have a conversation with you, should you decide to bring up your concerns. Another point, what is your role in this? Is father still in the home? If so, it is your responsibility as a parent to protect your daughter if she is being emotionally abused. If he is not in the home, and this takes place on visits with him, your daughter is of the age where she can decide if she wants to continue those visits. If that is the scenario, ask her if she wants to continue and then respect whatever decision she makes.
