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SubjectDate Asked
Am I the only one1/8/2012
  Q: Becuase my 14 yr son is grounded. and we r holding to it . and it ready been a a week since a ...
  A: It is important that you stick to the grounding and you end it on your terms. A grounding doesn't ...
TEEN STAYING OUT TO WEE HRS1/3/2012
  Q: James, My teen (17), generally with behaviour difficulties, has somehow gotten it into her head ...
  A: You may not be able to convince her, because at her age she may believe that she has the right to ...
18 yr old son not worried about possible felony!!!12/30/2011
  Q: My son just turned 18 10/3/11. He's always been a great kid, altho very lazy, especially at school. ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear about your son and his problems -- and his lack of concern about his situation. ...
Rebellious Teen12/27/2011
  Q: My mother is a 53 years old single mom. Her 16 year old has been giving my her the hardest time. My ...
  A: It is certainly no fun to have a teenager who is out of control. It's even worse for a single ...
Step-Teen Talking Back12/5/2011
  Q: I have 3 teen step-children. The middle teen is very mature and respectful to me. The oldest is ...
  A: It's not easy to get along with stepchildren, and teens are usually the most difficult to form ...
My father12/1/2011
  Q: I am Yuss, I have 17 years old and a Palestinian. I am at the last year at school. I have to study ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear that your father doesn't appreciate that you are a good student who works hard to ...
discipline and coping with a pre teen11/30/2011
  Q: im a single mother and i have an 11 year old son. his father is actively in his life. we are facing ...
  A: Isn't raising teenagers a wonderful experience?! Your son doesn't sound all that unusual as a young ...
son 1511/15/2011
  Q: My son was recently expelled from school and charged with possesion of schd4 narcotics. He took ...
  A: I think you want to impress on him the seriousness of taking pills from other kids because he ...
I want to help my 13 year old daughter deal with issues that cause her stress10/31/2011
  Q: My 13 year old daughter is very upset about misplacing things and forgetting school assignments. ...
  A: I'm glad to hear that you and your daughter have such a close relationship. Given that she confides ...
teen bedtime10/24/2011
  Q: I don't normally fight with my teenage daughter who's 14 except over one thing-bedtime. The girl ...
  A: I hope you haven't resorted to spanking to try to solve the bedtime problem. That might relieve your ...
Blended family/preteen behavior10/13/2011
  Q: I am a stepmom to a girl 12 yoa. I have known the girl for 4 yrs. The mother briefly put her into ...
  A: I apologize for the delay in responding to your question. I understand your position and I ...
rules/contract for 19yr old son10/9/2011
  Q: .need help as we are a stepfamily a 19 , 13 year old boys.my 19 yr old wont work , wont help around ...
  A: Clearly something needs to change. You can't allow your family to be destroyed without trying ...
My daughters hate each other10/7/2011
  Q: I have two daughters aged 13 and 11 and a son who is 7. My daughters argue constantly and more ...
  A: As you have discovered, the traditional approaches (reprimands, consequences, and trying to settle ...
7 year olds curiosity or sexual?9/21/2011
  Q: Wendell, my son and his friend are both 7. I found pictures on my son's ipod that concern me. The ...
  A: As far as I know, based on what you wrote, they did nothing sexual. They had their clothes off and ...
my six year old boy keeps hitting and kicking9/15/2011
  Q: my six year old boy is very good at school and clever.He is fully aware of what is right and wrong ...
  A: Since this aggressive behavior only happens at home, then it is not a matter that your son has ...
Teen Stealing9/8/2011
  Q: My husband and I have been married for 25 years and have 4 beautiful children that we love dearly. ...
  A: It's probably not a good idea to get into the interrogation business or set a trap for the presumed ...
jessica9/8/2011
  Q: I really don't know where to start!!! Jessica is know 15 and at the moment is living with her ...
  A: I think your daughter has a serious behavior problem. This is not uncommon with some children of ...
teen stealing8/30/2011
  Q: i have a 13 yr old daughter who has had a history of stealing from friends and classmates. i have ...
  A: Your daughter's stealing has nothing to do with any material needs. It has a lot to do with her ...
Would watching give the people in Europe give a good idea on how Americans behave and how they live.8/30/2011
  Q: Would watching True TV at http://tvpc.tv/Channel.php?ChannelID=3113 and watching National Geographic ...
  A: I suppose watching any American TV channel would give others some idea of how Americans live and ...
Adult son turning into a sponger8/29/2011
  Q: I hope you can help me. I have a 21 year old son who is still in university, but works part-time and ...
  A: It's relatively easy for many parents to fall into the position you find yourself in with your son. ...
defiant teen8/20/2011
  Q: what are my parents rights?..I live in Ontario Canada..I have 17 yr old daughter who will not follow ...
  A: The age of majority in Ontario is 18. This means that your daughter is still a minor child and you ...
My son8/20/2011
  Q: Last year my 13 year old son got in a fight with his 15 year old sister but she started it. The cops ...
  A: I'm not sure what you expected to get from a relationship from a teenager, however, I'm sure raising ...
My 5 yrs old is curious8/18/2011
  Q: Mr. Windell I'm the mother of two young boys. Recently my 5 yrs. old son has been caught looking ...
  A: Young children have a natural curiosity about the human body. It's part of their learning about the ...
17 yr old daughter lies, sneeks around8/17/2011
  Q: My just-turned 17 yr old daughter was caught sneaking out of our home in the middle of the night to ...
  A: Whether you let her do these things or not probably has very little to do with her relationship with ...
Son is heartbroken8/16/2011
  Q: My son, who is a whisker short of 15, fell in love with this really nice girl a month ago. He ...
  A: Being heartbroken now and then is all part of learning to have loving relationships. Of course, we ...
17 yr old daughter lies, sneeks around8/15/2011
  Q: My just-turned 17 yr old daughter was caught sneaking out of our home in the middle of the night to ...
  A: It's so easy sometimes for adolescent girls to be impressed by older guys. As a consequence, even ...
17 year old daughter asks to live with her step dad8/11/2011
  Q: Tonight my daughter (who's 17 and about to start her senior year in high school) asked me if she ...
  A: Since your daughter is 17, I don't think you can really stop her from going. However, since she has ...
12 yr old angry daughter8/10/2011
  Q: I have a daughter that is 12 and very explosive with her anger and moods.She is menstruating and is ...
  A: Children can buy into traditional stereotypes and roles, too. Dads are "supposed" to work; moms are ...
my son spends 24 hours a day 7 days a week with his girlfriend8/6/2011
  Q: My 16 year old son spends every day and night with his 15 year old girlfriend. She sleeps over at ...
  A: You've already let this go on too long. Your son is only 16 and his girlfriend is only 15. You need ...
17 Y.O. son with mental heath history threatened dad8/5/2011
  Q: We have a 17 year old son who has a psychiactric history. He was treated with medication and therapy ...
  A: You have every right to be anxious and scared about him coming home. He is showing signs that he ...
12 yr old angry daughter8/2/2011
  Q: I have a daughter that is 12 and very explosive with her anger and moods.She is menstruating and is ...
  A: I think it is important with young teens to keep in mind that their behavior is generally not ...
how to handle my teen8/1/2011
  Q: I have a 13 y.o. daughter who does what should not be done (waking up late, busy texting while ...
  A: Your daughter is responsible to some extent in that she wants to be a top student and she allows you ...
Son in dangerous cult and it's concerning me immensely7/25/2011
  Q: ***I am on a VPN so my IP will show up as being elsewhere; information provided for the record*** ...
  A: Of course, there is reason to be concerned. Teens can become over-involved in a cult and neglect ...
14 year old being picked on7/22/2011
  Q: I have a fourteen year old son. He has always been somewhat shy, however gets good grades and plays ...
  A: Giving advice to teenagers usually doesn't work. We all try to draw on our own experiences and ...
Summer vacation for college student7/20/2011
  Q: I am extremely close to my child, we talk at least once a day when away at college. She has always ...
  A: I understand that you feel left out of your daughter's life. However, you have more than many ...
Issues concerning son and business-systems lecturer7/20/2011
  Q: My son is 19, in university, and studying business systems. He's getting good grades, he's in his ...
  A: I've been teaching regularly in a university for more than 10 years. If I made this kind of ...
Husband's behaviour is concerning my son7/20/2011
  Q: I am 43, my husband's 45, and recently he's joined this forum, known as "blackhatworld.com" [Google ...
  A: I support your son and his good judgment and ethics. It's too bad your husband has some holes in ...
Five year old boy sexuality7/18/2011
  Q: My five year old boy wants to look at Victoria's Secret catalogs. I believe this curiosity is ...
  A: I think you are right that his curiosity about the female body is normal. I think the best approach ...
my son7/9/2011
  Q: I want to thank you for this opportunity to write to you with my problem. I am a parent of 2 ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear about the difficulties with your son and how alienated you feel from him. There's ...
Disrespectful Bi-Polar 18 Year Old7/8/2011
  Q: I've been struggling with my daughter for about 2 years. She turned 18 and graduated this past May ...
  A: I understand that you are ambivalent about what you want to do to help your daughter and your ...
What do you think about this?7/5/2011
  Q: So what makes these foreign women so different from American women? #1. Foreign women tend to have ...
  A: What do I think of this? There's always a kernel of truth, but also much that is untrue or ...
Why is this the case?7/4/2011
  Q: Why is this the case? Most Americans with a foreign-born mother can properly present them selves ...
  A: The close-knit family is not unique to Europe. There are many American families which are close-knit ...
15 yr old son touching 11 yr old daughter7/4/2011
  Q: I need some advice on how to handle this situation please!! I recently found my 15 yr old son ...
  A: I think the way you handled this was fine. And I don't believe there is anything further you need to ...
Son and daughter approaching loggerheads with son's girlfriend7/2/2011
  Q: I was wondering if you could please help me on a situation involving my son who's 21, my daughter ...
  A: I think this is a common problems for girls because relationships are so emotional for them. You ...
What does tell about a European man?6/30/2011
  Q: What does tell about a European man? He intentionally has a child with a woman from Latin American ...
  A: Actually, it's my understanding that more than 80 percent of American men pay child support and also ...
What does tell about a European man?6/30/2011
  Q: What does tell about a man? He had unprotected sex with a 18 year old girl that resulted in a baby ...
  A: I know that most American women are able to work out amiable co-parent plans because I work directly ...
Son and daughter approaching loggerheads with son's girlfriend6/29/2011
  Q: I was wondering if you could please help me on a situation involving my son who's 21, my daughter ...
  A: I suspect the underlying problem for your daughter is her own sexuality and her discomfort with her ...
What does this tell you about a American father?6/27/2011
  Q: What does this tell you about a American father? He has lived in Bahrain with his US born daughter ...
  A: I don't know how the daughter feels. She may resent his legal manipulations. Or she may believe he ...
What does this tell you about an American man?6/27/2011
  Q: What does this tell you about an American man? He intentionally has two children with an Italian ...
  A: Some men apparently believe that Italian women (and most European women) are superior to American ...
15 yr. olds son's behavior6/26/2011
  Q: My son's behavior problems are not responding to withdrawing privileges. Currently, the behavior ...
  A: I'm always in favor of using positive incentives instead of negative sanctions. Offering him a ...
Would American women still go out with me and like me and hang out with me?6/24/2011
  Q: Would American women still go out with me and like me and hang out with me? I tell them that I only ...
  A: If you want to be a playboy, I suspect that the rules and customs are different than they are for ...
Selfish, arrogant and irresponsible 21 year old6/24/2011
  Q: I have a 21-year-old son who is like the little girl with the little curl in the middle of her ...
  A: We called one of the books I co-authored "The Fatherstyle Advantage." Fatherstyle was sort of a word ...
Selfish, arrogant and irresponsible 21 year old6/24/2011
  Q: I have a 21-year-old son who is like the little girl with the little curl in the middle of her ...
  A: Not confronting things immediately is probably something you should continue. But how you confront ...
Why can a child still have a very good relationship with her biological father if he is a career criminal?6/23/2011
  Q: Why can a child still have a very good relationship with her biological father if he is a career ...
  A: Perhaps she has not had any direct experience with him carrying on his trade as a criminal. It may ...
my fourteen year old son6/22/2011
  Q: I have a fourteen year old son and it seems he and i are all ways having issues. He is very head ...
  A: Your situation is not an uncommon occurrence in families. Sometimes the reason is because you have a ...
15 yr. olds son's behavior6/22/2011
  Q: My son's behavior problems are not responding to withdrawing privileges. Currently, the behavior ...
  A: I know it is difficult to be a working mom and to supervise and monitor your teen's behavior. It ...
What does this tell you about this man?6/22/2011
  Q: He was ordered to pay child support in the USA, but went back to Europe where he is from, because he ...
  A: There are millions of parents -- both men and women -- who pay child support in the U.S. and do so ...
19 yr old unhappy daughter6/21/2011
  Q: My 19yr old came home from a terrible semester at college. Failed everything.She has been encouraged ...
  A: Your daughter is not in a position at this point where she can be objective. Nor is she capable of ...
What would an American mother do?6/21/2011
  Q: What would an American mother do? Her Greek father abducted her US born daughter to Greece when she ...
  A: People dislike change and disruption in their lives. This may be particularly true regarding ...
Why can a single father raise his daughter in the same close nit family6/20/2011
  Q: Why can a single father raise his daughter in the same close nit family structure of the 1950’s and ...
  A: It tends to backfire sometimes because some children don't want to be isolated or restricted. ...
What does tell about a European man?6/20/2011
  Q: What does tell about a man? He had unprotected sex with a 18 year old girl that resulted in a baby ...
  A: So, what your saying about this man is that he has sex with women for whom he cares little or ...
Driving from Pittsburgh to Florida at 176/16/2011
  Q: My seventeen year old son wants to drive my old car (approximately 90,000 miles on it) with a friend ...
  A: I think there are enough facts in this email for you to make a rational argument. The fact is you ...
Why can a child still have a very good relationship with her biological father if he is a career criminal?6/15/2011
  Q: Why can a child still have a very good relationship with her biological father if he is a career ...
  A: This is the case because children are self-centered and are mostly concerned about the way they are ...
Why can a single father raise his daughter in the same close nit family6/15/2011
  Q: Why can a single father raise his daughter in the same close nit family structure of the 1950’s and ...
  A: When parents try to isolate their children from all negative influences, this effort usually ...
Selfish, arrogant and irresponsible 21 year old6/15/2011
  Q: I have a 21-year-old son who is like the little girl with the little curl in the middle of her ...
  A: I'm not so sure you are to blame for the way your son is at age 21. Sometimes it's the temperament ...
help for my family6/14/2011
  Q: This is regarding my brother. My mom feels like she cant do anything more with him, his been very ...
  A: It doesn't sound like your mother has the ability to handle your brother. However, since he is ...
Disrespectful and disobedient 17 year old girl6/13/2011
  Q: I have been dealing with my 17 year old daughter over the past 6 months wanting to hang out with the ...
  A: No, I don't think it is too harsh. It might be a good idea to tie in the privileges and benefits she ...
iam disturbed6/9/2011
  Q: iam neelam from india... this is regarding my son and me.. my son is 8 years old and iam 30.i dont ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear that you get so upset and angry with your son. I suspect that you did not grow up ...
How should a child feel to American women?6/7/2011
  Q: How should a child feel to American women? She is born in the USA to a Italian father and Italian ...
  A: If this girl has grown up with the strong message that American women are only interested in money ...
Why could this cause6/6/2011
  Q: Why could this cause Victoria Solenne Innes to hate her American father and the United States when ...
  A: I assume she would have positive feelings toward her mother because she lives with her maternal ...
What does this tell you about a man?6/6/2011
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? He is a citizen from the USA and Saudi Arabia and so are his ...
  A: Without knowing this man,it just sounds like a person who needs to be in control. He may not trust ...
Alienated 16 year old with defiance6/5/2011
  Q: My daughter, 16, is a victim of child alienation. I am the alienated parent. She called to reach ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear that you are the victim of parental alienation. While this can be very difficult ...
Would a little girl like her American father if he handles her like6/3/2011
  Q: Would a little girl like her American father if he handles her like personal property/chattel and ...
  A: Whether it is child abuse or not is another argument. However, would a girl like her father to do ...
Why would a American women find this offensive?6/3/2011
  Q: Why would a American women find this offensive? A European man tells her that Tiger woods married a ...
  A: Some people might agree with you. Some people might not. It is important to be a good father, but ...
Why could this cause6/3/2011
  Q: Why could this cause Victoria Solenne Innes to hate her American father and the United States when ...
  A: If a child has been deprived of one or both parents, she may develop resentment or hatred, but it is ...
What does this tell you about an American man?6/2/2011
  Q: What does this tell you about an American man? He had sex with a Japanese women in Japan and has a ...
  A: It sounds like you are saying that it is a man's right to father children without ever having to ...
Why would a American women have a very negative view of a American man who does this?6/2/2011
  Q: Why would a American women have a very negative view of a American man who does this? I also had an ...
  A: When you say that most American women raised by a foreign-born mother turn out in certain ways, I ...
parents6/2/2011
  Q: I'm thirteen, and I'm tired of my parents making stupid rules that are keeping me from enjoying my ...
  A: Many young people about your age begin to resent the rules imposed by their parents as well as the ...
Sexual behavior6/1/2011
  Q: I am step mom with a dilema. My partner has custody of his 6 year old daughter and I have been with ...
  A: , I'm not sure I understand about her visiting regularly with a "male family member." Who is the ...
Teenage Daughter5/31/2011
  Q: My daughter is currently 17. She has decided that we need not to be in her life that she does not ...
  A: Your daughter is going through a stressful time and it can be said that she is in a particularly ...
Why would many American man have children with a Italian women5/31/2011
  Q: Why would many American man have children with a Italian women, if he knows that if they break up it ...
  A: People get divorced in every country. And in every country, people must come up with parenting plans ...
Would a little girl like her American father if he handles her like5/30/2011
  Q: Would a little girl like her American father if he handles her like personal property/chattel and ...
  A: Even if children are handled badly, they may still like or even love that parent who is not being so ...
I want my 16 year old son to move out5/28/2011
  Q: He is abusive and intimidating toward me. He gets suspended from school for his rudeness and anger ...
  A: It certainly sounds like you have a teenage son who is out of control. And I can understand how you ...
Why would a American women find this offensive?5/26/2011
  Q: Why would a American women find this offensive? A European man tells her that Tiger woods married a ...
  A: I think the argument using Tiger Woods and his Swedish wife falls apart when he is paying her ...
Why would a American women have a very negative view of a American man who does this?5/25/2011
  Q: Why would a American women have a very negative view of a American man who does this? I also had an ...
  A: If an American woman has a negative view of an American man who will only marry non-American women, ...
What does this tell you about an American man?5/25/2011
  Q: What does this tell you about an American man? He had sex with a Japanese women in Japan and has a ...
  A: What kind of man plans his sexual encounters around whether he would have to pay child support? And ...
Why would a American mother be upset if her daughter is raised properly under Italian rules?5/25/2011
  Q: Why would a American mother be upset if her daughter is raised properly under Italian rules? She ...
  A: Every country and culture produces people with some unique characteristics. Asian children may be ...
Help - someone flipped a switch and my 13 year old daughter has changed5/18/2011
  Q: I am a mother of 4. Two of my children are actually my step daughters, although I have raised them ...
  A: I think you ought to be concerned. Given that she is a girl who is a risk-taker, she is capable of ...
Aggressive brother5/17/2011
  Q: I am 16 years old and I need advice about how to deal with my 12 year old brother who has been ...
  A: It's nice of you to want to help your brother and your family. Unfortunately, your brother has some ...
threatening behaviour5/16/2011
  Q: We have an 18 year old adopted son (we also have 3 older 'birth' daughters who have now left home) ...
  A: You're welcome. These are tough decisions, but he needs to deal with the old problems in his life. ...
Why do American man think this fair?5/15/2011
  Q: Why do American man think this fair? A Japanese women is guilty of parental abduction under US law ...
  A: I suppose many people of different national origins believe the laws in their country ought to be ...
Authoritarian parenting?5/15/2011
  Q: my name is Taylor, and I am 17 years old. I believe I am very mature for my age, regarding past ...
  A: You seem like a level-headed girl, who wants the best for her boyfriend. Your boyfriend's parents ...
threatening behaviour5/13/2011
  Q: We have an 18 year old adopted son (we also have 3 older 'birth' daughters who have now left home) ...
  A: It can be very difficult living with an older child (adopted or not) who has serious problems. You ...
What does this tell you about a mother?5/6/2011
  Q: What does this tell you about a mother? When her daughter is a baby, her husband moves out of the ...
  A: Just because a young child wants something or likes something (or someone) doesn't mean that making ...
What does this tell you about a mother?5/5/2011
  Q: What does this tell you about a mother? When her daughter is a baby, her husband moves out of the ...
  A: This tells me that this woman is more concerned about pleasing the man who is leaving her than ...
how do I get better?5/4/2011
  Q: My son is 13 years old, today we got into an yelling match over an "F" in wood shop, a detention and ...
  A: Raising kids isn't easy. It certainly isn't easy when they are teenagers. And probably every parent ...
Teen Son w/ ADHD, Bipolar II and OCD5/2/2011
  Q: I have a 15 year old son, who has had identified behavioral/mood disorders since he was barely 3 ...
  A: Sorry to hear that you have such a serious problem with your son. I would suggest a couple of ...
12 yr old girl....beyond out of control4/27/2011
  Q: It is hard for me to even admit how bad things are with my 12 yr old daughter. She is out of control ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear about the difficulties you're having with your daughter. I agree with you that she ...
Why is it that a strong women, submissive women like Michael Obama4/24/2011
  Q: Why is it that a strong women, submissive women like Michael Obama has a better relationship with ...
  A: Are there any studies that show that American women are not "strong, submissive" types? Is there any ...
Over protective parents4/23/2011
  Q: I am having a lot of trouble with over protective parents. I am having a lot of trouble convincing ...
  A: I hope my previous advice helps. But don't expect any magical transitions in your parents. However, ...
healthy vs. unhealthy sex drive4/21/2011
  Q: me and my girlfriend were wondering what is a healthy sex drive. she says that everytime when we are ...
  A: The sex drives of individuals varies markedly. That may mean that there are differences between ...
Over protective parents4/14/2011
  Q: I am having a lot of trouble with over protective parents. I am having a lot of trouble convincing ...
  A: I think it is wise to try to have rational discussions about your issues with your parents. ...
Over protective parents4/13/2011
  Q: I am having a lot of trouble with over protective parents. I am having a lot of trouble convincing ...
  A: Many parents have difficulty forgetting things that have happened in the past. This may be true in ...
16 yr old daughter w/ 18 yr old boyfriend4/5/2011
  Q: I am going through a difficult time with my daughter, she turned 16 this year and her boyfriend ...
  A: You are facing a dilemma and a problem that millions of other parents have faced over the centuries. ...
15 yr girl, abusive4/4/2011
  Q: My daughter whom has always been more challenging her whole life, has recently become more volitile, ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear about the distress your daughter is causing you. It certainly sounds like she has ...
13 year old daughter4/2/2011
  Q: we need your advice on how we could discipline our 13 year old daughter when nothing seems to work ...
  A: Since you didn't give a lot of information about your daughter or your family, I'll respond based on ...
Teen Son3/25/2011
  Q: My son turned 15 three months ago. two months ago, his girlfriend, who only turned 15 one and a half ...
  A: Your son seems somewhat withdrawn, but he is still involved in a lot of things. And he is able to ...
Disrespect3/22/2011
  Q: I am a father of a 16 year old teen. To start her mother and I were divorced for 5 years and have in ...
  A: If you didn't talk to her for two years, then, of course, she had issues. She may have thought that ...
Teen can't get to school3/22/2011
  Q: My 16 yr old daughter has been missing the bus more and more frequently to the point now we ground ...
  A: Maybe she does have a sleep disorder. But maybe there are other factors involved. Such as ...
Disrespect3/21/2011
  Q: I am a father of a 16 year old teen. To start her mother and I were divorced for 5 years and have in ...
  A: I think I need more information before I start giving you advice. For instance, I'd like to know ...
stealing and lying3/18/2011
  Q: my daughter is 11 years old, I am 29, I am getting married in 3weeks, this morning, my fiance caught ...
  A: One more thing: If you think of a "normal" family as a biological father, a biological mother, and ...
stealing and lying3/18/2011
  Q: my daughter is 11 years old, I am 29, I am getting married in 3weeks, this morning, my fiance caught ...
  A: It's always easier for someone who isn't a parent to give advice to someone who is a parent. ...
Unsocial and struggling.3/17/2011
  Q: Foremost, I understand this isn't the correct site for this, I guess. It's for giving tips to ...
  A: Volunteering your time to help others is an excellent idea. I'm sure there are many places you could ...
Unsocial and struggling.3/16/2011
  Q: Foremost, I understand this isn't the correct site for this, I guess. It's for giving tips to ...
  A: I usually communicate with parents, but sometimes teenagers contact me as well. You express ...
Mood Disorder NOS/LD3/14/2011
  Q: Windell, I just read a question from someone written to you on 2/?/2010 in regards to this issue. ...
  A: If your son is only mildly cognitively impaired, I think therapy is still an option. I assume that ...
17 year old son and POT3/14/2011
  Q: Our son was an international adoption at 14 mo. Small, frail, typical for the area he came from. ...
  A: Your son does have serious problems which are escalating. He may have psychological as well as ...
stealing and lying3/14/2011
  Q: my daughter is 11 years old, I am 29, I am getting married in 3weeks, this morning, my fiance caught ...
  A: You did not mention in your email how long this behavior has been going on. That would be important ...
Daughters dilemma3/12/2011
  Q: Help! I need advice on how to handle my daughter's situation. She is 18 years old, lives at home ...
  A: I'm sure you see all the dangers in this, just as I do. However, since she is in love, she ...
18 year old violent nephew3/11/2011
  Q: My nephew is 18 years old, the captain of his swim team, an A student and has some of the best ...
  A: This sounds like a serious situation that continues to get worse. Perhaps the only thing you can do ...
Secrative Son3/10/2011
  Q: I have a 15 year old son who is an only child. He has good grades, he always does his chores, he ...
  A: Many teenagers are withdrawn and secretive. This can be part of the age as teens are concerned about ...
12-year-old Stealing Bikes with New "Friends"3/7/2011
  Q: My 12-year-old son has in the last month tried to steal at least two bikes. Twice, some poor kid's ...
  A: His stealing or attempting to steal two bikes, texting about it, and showing declines at school do ...
brother against brother3/7/2011
  Q: my 18yr.old son has had anger problems sense he was 10. we have taken him to family doctors, UBH ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear about the anger and assaultive behavior of your son. It certainly takes away from ...
What does this tell you about an 18-year-old woman?3/6/2011
  Q: What does this tell you about an 18-year-old woman? She is a very submissive woman. She will live ...
  A: A sacrifice is when you give up what you want to do in order to do what others want you to do. If ...
Why is it that most Europeans like me only feel conformable in3/4/2011
  Q: Why is it that most Europeans like me only feel conformable in dealing with Americans that do not ...
  A: I'm not sure I agree with your assertions here. I don't think that law enforcement officers are best ...
Why would most American women who are US Diplomats and every woman3/4/2011
  Q: Why would most American women who are US Diplomats and every woman that works at certain expensive ...
  A: Maybe it is related to how they are raised. Many Americans are not raised to be diplomatic, although ...
Husband and son fighting3/3/2011
  Q: My husband and son have been fighting for years. My son is 19 now and is taking his sophmore year of ...
  A: It sounds like you have tried to be a peace-keeper for years. It's a very difficult role to play. ...
mixed family3/2/2011
  Q: how do i help my otherwise amazing (good girl, great in school, thoughtful, sweet) daughter not ...
  A: You didn't tell me how old your daughter is. I will assume, though, that she is between 13 and 15, ...
Agressive 6 year old3/2/2011
  Q: My son has been showing signs of aggression with his peers at school. He was having problems at a ...
  A: While children of various ages may understand their aggressive behavior is wrong, and while they can ...
Why is this the case?3/2/2011
  Q: Why is this the case? Why is it that a US born and raised women with a Italian mother and American ...
  A: People generally reflect the attitudes, behavior, and values that were prevalent in their families ...
Why would it be more difficult for an American to integrate in3/1/2011
  Q: Why would it be more difficult for an American to integrate in American society, if she only speaks ...
  A: I suppose the answer is that parents have a certain amount of influence in the training of children. ...
my teenage son.2/28/2011
  Q: I have a 15 yr old son who has learning differculties & behaviour problems. He is nearly always ...
  A: You didn't say how long he has been angry and displaying behavior problems, but I'm guessing it's ...
Why American women hate American man who do the following?2/27/2011
  Q: He married an Italian woman. His US born daughter who lives in the USA, is raised European, she act ...
  A: I don't know what most American man would expect. As long as the Italian mother and American father ...
15 years old and drugs2/26/2011
  Q: After reading my sons texts in his phone, I have found out that there is a big party tonight and he ...
  A: When dealing with your adolescent, it's best to be straightforward and honest. For example, in this ...
12 yr old doesn't care2/18/2011
  Q: My 12 yr old stepdaughter came to live with us about 5 weeks ago because she would not stay out of ...
  A: It certainly sounds like your stepdaughter has serious behavior problems. It may be oppositional ...
5 year old son..2/18/2011
  Q: I got a call today from daycare that my 5 year old son grabbed the privates of a little girl in his ...
  A: It sounds like a serious overreaction on the part of daycare. But that is fairly typical these days. ...
delusional demons2/13/2011
  Q: i need help i see demons in y house and hear them tlk to me in my head ive tld my mom but sahe ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear that your mother doesn't take you seriously. But I'm glad that you are concerned ...
TANTRUMS2/7/2011
  Q: My son is 14 years old and he refuses to go back to school(grade 9).I am a single parent with no ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear about the problems caused by your son. I don't know if you have compulsory ...
Grandson's behavior2/6/2011
  Q: I have a 14-yr-old grandson that has decided he is through with school so he doesn't go, he has ...
  A: I don't meet with people because I'm retired from counseling and therapy. The best I can do is to ...
Grandson's behavior2/3/2011
  Q: I have a 14-yr-old grandson that has decided he is through with school so he doesn't go, he has ...
  A: You seem to have a very good grasp of why your grandson is the way he is. It took your son almost 14 ...
self-esteem 13 year old2/2/2011
  Q: My husband and I have 3 children and our youngest daughter is Heather. She is 13 years old and ...
  A: Just because she has self-esteem issues doesn't necessarily mean she needs to see a therapist. If ...
self-esteem 13 year old2/2/2011
  Q: My husband and I have 3 children and our youngest daughter is Heather. She is 13 years old and ...
  A: Lots of teenaged girls and boys have self-esteem issues. It sort of goes with the territory of being ...
Single mom engaged, and is affecting the daughter2/1/2011
  Q: First of all, I am a teen. I know I shouldn't be here, but there are no other sites that I found but ...
  A: It's much easier for young children to accept their mother getting married than it is teenagers. The ...
What does this tell you about a father?1/30/2011
  Q: What does this tell you about a father? His daughter sleeps with him in the same with the same bed ...
  A: Teenagers may want a lot of things; just because they want something doesn't mean it is good for ...
What does this tell you about a father?1/30/2011
  Q: What does this tell you about a father? His daughter sleeps with him in the same with the same bed ...
  A: I don't know how old this girl is, but if she is older than five or six, then I would suggest that ...
Fighting1/28/2011
  Q: I have a question relating to finding a punishment for the crime. My son was suspended for 2 days ...
  A: Not every mistake or "bad" behavior requires a punishment. You talked to him about it and I'm sure ...
Why would an American woman who is born in the 1980’s with Indian parents have a different mentality than most Americans?1/28/2011
  Q: Why would an American woman who is born in the 1980’s with Indian parents have a different mentality ...
  A: She may want to marry an Indian man because it is part of the family tradition. Or, it could be that ...
Why would a ten year old girl, like it when her baby sitter a man were to1/27/2011
  Q: Why would a ten year old girl, like it when her baby sitter a man were to rube in the same spot ...
  A: My only questions are these: If he is interested in touching a female, why doesn't he touch an adult ...
What does this tell you about a women1/25/2011
  Q: One of my coworkers has a daughter with a divorce lawyer. The only reason why he had sex with her, ...
  A: The bottom line is that you can't always tell in advance who is likely to keep their word after a ...
What does this tell you about a man?1/25/2011
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? The only reason why he had sex many times with three sisters ...
  A: Children may consider a parent great, but keep in mind that children only have one mother and one ...
Why would an American woman who is born in the 1980’s with Indian parents have a different mentality than most Americans?1/25/2011
  Q: Why would an American woman who is born in the 1980’s with Indian parents have a different mentality ...
  A: It's not always easy to do this in the U.S., but if a person retains ties to their original culture ...
16 year old son1/24/2011
  Q: I have a 16 year old son. He is an A student. He is quiet,avoids social situations. When he was a ...
  A: It certainly seems like your son is troubled by some things in his life. His misbehavior, for the ...
When did most Americans become aware of the American child support laws?1/22/2011
  Q: When did most Americans become aware of the American child support laws? When did the general ...
  A: I think most adults, especially those who were getting a divorce or knew someone who got a divorce, ...
Why would a ten year old girl, like it when her baby sitter a man were to1/22/2011
  Q: Why would a ten year old girl, like it when her baby sitter a man were to rube in the same spot ...
  A: It would seem that the girl is used to affection being expressed in this way. However, it leads to ...
14.5 yr old daughter and 15.5 yr old boyfriend1/22/2011
  Q: My 14 1/2 yr old daughter is "dating" a 15 1/2 yr old boy that she goes to high school with. They ...
  A: Since teens in love are not always likely to listen to reason, "getting through to her" may not be ...
How would a American little girl feel toward her mother?1/21/2011
  Q: How would a American little girl feel toward her mother? How would this mother feel when she hears ...
  A: At age 10 or younger, she might focus on the information that her mother is a good mother. That ...
I'm a student doing a article for my newspaper1/21/2011
  Q: i wanted to know why kids or teenagers sneaking out? Are there specific reasons?
  A: I'd be happy to try to answer this question and contribute to your article. Many teens sneak out of ...
Melissa1/15/2011
  Q: Hey. You might not remember me but it's Melissa. I'm 24 and am a leader in an acting program in case ...
  A: I'm so sorry to hear about your sister. When there is stress in your life (coming from family events ...
Violent and angry1/14/2011
  Q: I have a 14 yr old who was diagnosed at the age of 6. I have been going to therapy for 8 yrs and ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear that your son is making life so difficult for you and your family. He is out of ...
How does mentality influence human behavior?1/12/2011
  Q: men·tal·i·ty/menˈtalitē/Noun 1. The characteristic attitude of mind or way of thinking of ...
  A: One's attitudes and outlooks on life will certainly influence behavior. An individual's attitudes or ...
Family probs.1/11/2011
  Q: my name is Megan and I am 14. My dad just got over cancer last year, my brother was born with cancer ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear there are so many problems in your family. Teenagers have enough problems just ...
Why would a man be upset when he looses custody of his 10-year-old1/8/2011
  Q: Why would a man be upset when he looses custody of his 10-year-old daughter to her South African ...
  A: I would think that the man would be upset because he believed he was capable of raising his children ...
What does this tell you about a father?1/7/2011
  Q: What does this tell you about a father? He rubes his daughter on some very interment body parts all ...
  A: A lawyer, who knows something about child abuse laws and child protective services' investigations, ...
Teenage relationship1/7/2011
  Q: I have a 16 year-old son who is in a relationship with a 15 year-old girl. They are very serious, ...
  A: Usually when parents try to intervene in a romantic relationship, their child does not appreciate ...
What does this tell you about a man?1/7/2011
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? He has a daughter with an unwed mother an American ...
  A: I'm not sure what this tells me about this man. It may say that he wanted to be a father without the ...
What does this tell you about a father?1/7/2011
  Q: What does this tell you about a father? He rubes his daughter on some very interment body parts all ...
  A: What a child likes and what a spouse or co-parent approves of is not the deciding factor in child ...
Why are there some American man that would allow his Italian ex1/2/2011
  Q: Why are there some American man that would allow his Italian ex wife to move back to Italy and take ...
  A: I find it hard to accept that 90 percent of all the women in America are unsuitable as companions ...
Why is it that the children of Michael Obama and Barack Obama are very we behaved?12/31/2010
  Q: Why is it that the children of Michael Obama and Barack Obama are very we behaved?
  A: Assuming your basic proposition is true (that the Obama's children are well-behaved), then the ...
Teen Boy and Friends12/30/2010
  Q: My son has some very good friends. His friends are always (welcome) at our house where we provide ...
  A: I'm sure both you and your son are disappointed by this. Your question is how you can teach your ...
What does this tell you about a man?12/30/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? He has 16 children with five unwed different mothers that live ...
  A: That's a good question. Indeed, why would these women accept this kind of arrangement? Perhaps ...
What does this tell you about a man?12/30/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? He has a daughter in a one-night stand. He files a paternity ...
  A: A man might want to be in control because being in control gives him a sense of security. He might ...
restrictive parents12/29/2010
  Q: I am 16 years old and my parents are really restrictive of what I can do. They quiz me about every ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear that you feel like your parents are so restrictive. Often parents are restrictive ...
Do you think this is true in the United States, yes or no, Why?12/28/2010
  Q: Dating, love and feminism: do men prefer submissive women? * October 29th, 2009 7:31 am PT ...
  A: There is too much here to say that one agrees or disagrees. It's an opinion essay bolstered with ...
what to do when nothing works12/28/2010
  Q: I have a ten year old stepdaughter who is very defiant. A year before we got together she was takin ...
  A: Your stepdaughter very likely has serious psychological problems related to living in an abusive ...
What does this tell you about a unwed mother?12/28/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a unwed mother? The only reason why she does not make the father of ...
  A: This says that this woman likes things the way they are and doesn't want to cause problems or upset ...
What does this tell you about a man?12/28/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? He has a daughter in a one-night stand. He files a paternity ...
  A: Many people, both male and female, have a need to be in control. This can be related to their ...
Why would a little girl or even a teenage girl12/28/2010
  Q: Why would a little girl or even a teenage girl be willing to spend most of her free time (more than ...
  A: Yes, what you're saying is all perfectly rational. However, many teens do not act in such a ...
Why are there some American man that would allow his Italian ex12/27/2010
  Q: Why are there some American man that would allow his Italian ex wife to move back to Italy and take ...
  A: Some men would do anything to avoid child support. Some men, because of their background or ...
What does this tell you about a woman?12/25/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a woman? The only reason she has five children is because her husband ...
  A: This tells me that this woman will do whatever her husband wants regardless of her own desires and ...
What would a mother do when her 15-year-old daughter comes12/25/2010
  Q: What would a mother do when her 15-year-old daughter comes back from a trip in Mexico and she got a ...
  A: Well, that would depend on the mother. Some mothers might be angry. Others might be accepting. The ...
How would most American mother react when they are told that12/25/2010
  Q: How would most American mother react when they are told that her US born daughter is not more ...
  A: I don't know how most American mothers would react on learning this about her daughter. Some might ...
Why would a little girl or even a teenage girl12/25/2010
  Q: Why would a little girl or even a teenage girl be willing to spend most of her free time (more than ...
  A: This girl may be willing to do exactly as her father wants because she is passive and easy-going. ...
Can a man still form good relationship with women12/25/2010
  Q: Can a man still form good relationship with women, if he hates Australian and American women, but ...
  A: A man can have friendships with many women. It doesn't mean that all relationships are intimate ...
Why do American find it offensive, that I will only go out with a12/21/2010
  Q: Why do American find it offensive, that I will only go out with a American women that is in the same ...
  A: Some American women might be offended if you choose not to date them because they might feel they ...
Why would a American man with a Swedish mother12/20/2010
  Q: Why would a American man with a Swedish mother only want to marry or have sex with Scandinavian ...
  A: There are lots of reasons why adult children follow their parent's advice. They may be dependent, ...
Why would a American man with a Swedish mother12/18/2010
  Q: Why would a American man with a Swedish mother only want to marry or have sex with Scandinavian ...
  A: Perhaps many men want women who resemble their mother. And it may be his respect for his mother that ...
What does this tell you about a mother?12/18/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a mother? The only reason why she gave custody of her three year old ...
  A: As I have said before, I don't believe that it is a hallmark of good parenting to do what a child ...
20 year old daughter with 11/2 year old son12/16/2010
  Q: We need help... my daughter is 20 years old and has a 11/2 year old son. She got pregnant one month ...
  A: You are caught in a bind that many parents of young adults are caught in. That is, you don't really ...
Anna (2)12/13/2010
  Q: Hey I recently asked you a question about a 14 year old girl Anna. Thank you for your advice I will ...
  A: Nope. I didn't say that. Not exactly, anyway. You can have high expectations and you can have ...
Anna (2)12/13/2010
  Q: Hey I recently asked you a question about a 14 year old girl Anna. Thank you for your advice I will ...
  A: It sounds like you've been under a lot of stress lately. Sometimes I find that people running ...
Why would a mother allow her daughter to live with her12/8/2010
  Q: Why would a mother allow her daughter to live with her daddy if the mother knows that that is what ...
  A: I'm sure there are instances when mothers have given up custody of their children because they ...
A 9 year with a challenging character12/8/2010
  Q: My son is 9 years old. I don't know how to understand his behavior. He is intelligent and can get ...
  A: There could be many explanations of your son's behavior. The possible explanations could range from ...
How would an American women feel when she sees a European12/6/2010
  Q: How would an American women feel when she sees a European man, and she want to go out with him ...
  A: Every woman, no matter what country she is from, wants to feel special and unique. She would like to ...
How can I maintain peace in my household?12/6/2010
  Q: I am a divorced parent of 3 children, ages 16, 15 and 10. My 10 year old has been diagnosed with ...
  A: Instead of playing referee with your daughter and younger son, why not try being mediator? That is, ...
Anna (2)12/6/2010
  Q: Hey I recently asked you a question about a 14 year old girl Anna. Thank you for your advice I will ...
  A: I think you can see that trying to take a "tough" approach and being threatening and punitive does ...
Why would a mother allow her daughter to live with her12/5/2010
  Q: Why would a mother allow her daughter to live with her daddy if the mother knows that that is what ...
  A: I would say that what a child wants is not what is important here. How can a three-year-old know ...
Troubled 18 year-old12/4/2010
  Q: I have a very different sort of situation. I was previously married (over 10 years ago). This ...
  A: It's really very kind and generous of you to care about your stepson so much. It sounds like he is ...
How would an American women feel when she sees a European12/3/2010
  Q: How would an American women feel when she sees a European man, and she want to go out with him ...
  A: I can only guess how an American woman in this circumstance would feel. She may feel like she is ...
Why would a American mother be upset if she loses custody12/3/2010
  Q: Why would a American mother be upset if she loses custody of her daughter a baby to the father? ...
  A: Many parents -- both male and female -- would feel very upset if they lost custody of a child. Many ...
Why would a mother allow her daughter to live with her12/3/2010
  Q: Why would a mother allow her daughter to live with her daddy if the mother knows that that is what ...
  A: In order to be a good parent, you have to make choices and decisions. You do not leave decisions up ...
Why would a woman stay married to her husband?12/3/2010
  Q: Why would a woman stay married to her husband? She is married and there is a parenting dispute with ...
  A: If your question is why this woman stays married to her husband, I would suspect that there are ...
Why would an American woman from a group of women12/3/2010
  Q: Why would an American woman from a group of women understand that she is the only one that a ...
  A: It may be difficult to explain this to other women without being critical of them. She would need to ...
Difficult 14 year old girl.12/2/2010
  Q: I am 24 and my name is Melissa. I run a youth group acting program with other woman about my age. ...
  A: This girl is perhaps what we might call oppositional defiant. Perhaps she even has an Oppositional ...
How can I maintain peace in my household?12/2/2010
  Q: I am a divorced parent of 3 children, ages 16, 15 and 10. My 10 year old has been diagnosed with ...
  A: Often teenagers about the age of your son begin to act very independent. at this age they are ...
stealing and lieing12/2/2010
  Q: my 8 year old daughter has been lieing and stealing for about a year but now it is all day at school ...
  A: I need more information about your daughter's lying and stealing before I can give you advice. ...
What does this tell you about women?11/30/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about women? She has a daughter that is born but is not planed. She is a ...
  A: I think this says that this woman values a peaceful relationship with the father of her child more ...
Why would a 18 year old Thailand girl have sex with the man11/26/2010
  Q: Why would a 18 year old Thailand girl have sex with the man that has been her primarily care giver ...
  A: I believe it is very likely immoral and certainly unethical because an older person in a position of ...
Why would a American women find it offensive when I told11/26/2010
  Q: Why would a American women find it offensive when I told her, do you think that is it fair that ...
  A: An American woman might well find this offensive for several reasons. One, you're condemning all ...
19 year old daughter11/26/2010
  Q: We have two daughters. The oldest will be graduating from a good college this spring. The youngest ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear about the problems with your daughter. You have seemingly given her every ...
Why is it that a US born child that is born to American11/25/2010
  Q: Why is it that a US born child that is born to American father and a European mother is a European ...
  A: If Europeans judge children on the basis of their behavior and the submissiveness of girls, then if ...
Why would a mother still want the father who abducted his son prosecuted to the11/25/2010
  Q: Why would a mother still want the father who abducted his son prosecuted to the full extend of the ...
  A: It is possible that child support and child custody laws do contribute to parental abductions. ...
Why would a 18 year old Thailand girl have sex with the man11/23/2010
  Q: Why would a 18 year old Thailand girl have sex with the man that has been her primarily care giver ...
  A: The girl may have sex with her care giver because she loves and wants to please him; and maybe ...
Motivating our 20 year old11/22/2010
  Q: My 20 year old step son has very little motivation toward getting on with his life. He struggled ...
  A: Apparently your stepson does better when he has a great deal of structure in his life. He does not ...
How would a little girl feel toward her father?11/20/2010
  Q: How would a little girl feel toward her father? She knows that her father only has time to see her ...
  A: This could be the case because she may not like the idea of the father she loves and has respected ...
opening up issues11/17/2010
  Q: my son is now 18 and he seems to be happy and acts all tough. i am worried for him though. he has no ...
  A: Since he is not working and has no social life, it seems evident that he has some significant social ...
Why would a mother still want the father who abducted his son prosecuted to the11/16/2010
  Q: Why would a mother still want the father who abducted his son prosecuted to the full extend of the ...
  A: I would think that this woman bears a lot of anger and resentment for having her son taken away from ...
What does this tell you about a woman?11/16/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a woman? The only reason why she has five children with her husband ...
  A: This suggests that this woman is less concerned about what she wants and more concerned about what ...
What would a man do?11/16/2010
  Q: What would a man do? He finds out that his wife is having a affair with a different man. He wife ...
  A: Certainly, different men will handle this in different ways. Some men may want a divorce; some may ...
How would a little girl feel toward her father and her mother?11/16/2010
  Q: How would a little girl feel toward her father and her mother? She is told that she was born in a ...
  A: If this is a little girl, I'm sure the only thing she cares about is that her parents treat her in a ...
How would a little girl feel toward her father?11/16/2010
  Q: How would a little girl feel toward her father? She knows that her father only has time to see her ...
  A: If this is indeed a little girl, while she may have knowledge of some of his activities, it may be ...
My niece with ADHD11/12/2010
  Q: I am 43 years old and my 17 year old niece Emily comes over a lot. I love her to death but she has ...
  A: I can appreciate that you feel like your niece should be punished when she is sarcastic or talks ...
Sociopath11/12/2010
  Q: My 21 year-old step-daughter is a sociopath. She has systematically burned every bridge she has ever ...
  A: Your stepdaughter appears to have very serious problems. Whether she qualifies as a psychopath or ...
How does it affect a little girl who never has contact with other children11/11/2010
  Q: How does it affect a little girl who never has contact with other people except her father? Her ...
  A: Not having the opportunity to play with other children may result in opposition from children. Not ...
Why is it that a European I am very liked by the Canadians11/11/2010
  Q: Why is it that a European I am very liked by the Canadians in Ontario, but those people made it ...
  A: Why is it so difficult for most Americans to continue to live with their parents into their adult ...
Would an American woman complain that her daughter behaves like an Italian not an American?11/11/2010
  Q: Would an American woman complain that her daughter behaves like an Italian not an American? Her ...
  A: You might be right that Italian mothers are better mothers than are mothers in other countries, such ...
How does it affect a little girl who never has contact with other children11/11/2010
  Q: How does it affect a little girl who never has contact with other children, but has contact with a ...
  A: She will be pereceived by others as older and more mature because she will likely be compliant with ...
What does this tell you about a Belgium mother?11/11/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a Belgium mother? She was living with her boyfriend they have to ...
  A: It would suggest that she wants her children to have a relationship with their biological father. ...
Why is it when you cross a border the culture of the people11/11/2010
  Q: Why is it when you cross a border the culture of the people and the lifestyle changes drastically as ...
  A: People in different geographical regions develop their own culture. Even if people in different ...
What does this tell you about a Belgium mother?11/11/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a Belgium mother? She was living with her boyfriend they have a child ...
  A: Sure. Anything is possible. However, many women being told that their partner didn't love them and ...
8 and 9 year old boys11/10/2010
  Q: I am the mother of two boys, ages 8 and 9. They are 6 days short of a year apart. I will start ...
  A: I apologize for the delay in responding to you. Sometimes I get overwhelmed with the number of ...
Would an American mother intervene that her husband raises11/10/2010
  Q: Would an American mother intervene that her husband raises her daughter to be a strong submissive ...
  A: I don't know that many American mothers object to their children being raised by their European ...
overprotective parents11/9/2010
  Q: I'm 17 and am struggling with my overprotective parents. My parents and I have a very good ...
  A: I don't think you have much choice but to wait until you graduate from high school and then go to ...
How would an 18-year-old girl feel toward her father?11/9/2010
  Q: How would an 18-year-old girl feel toward her father? When she was eight years old, her father made ...
  A: Just as the tattoo has faded, so undoubtedly has her memory of getting the tattoo. Even if she ...
Why is it that many Americans find it offensive that I said11/9/2010
  Q: Why is it that many Americans find it offensive that I said with the exception of Barrack Obama, ...
  A: I'm sure some Americans would find that offensive because they don't like to be criticized. The ...
14-year old boy -- behavior11/8/2010
  Q: My 14-year old step son (9th grade) is not a behavior problem in the sense that he is bullying, ...
  A: A part of adolescence is being caught up with emotions, self-centered concerns, physical and ...
14 year old daughter11/8/2010
  Q: My 14 year old daughter has been defiant angry and mean for 2 years now. She was in counseling ...
  A: I'm generally not in favor of sending teens off to a boarding school to solve what are essentially ...
Why do Americans think that is fair that if a mother does11/8/2010
  Q: Why do Americans think that is fair that if a mother does not want to obey US child custody laws she ...
  A: I don't know whether Americans think it is fair for a mother who does want to obey child custody ...
How does it affect a little girl who never has contact with other children11/7/2010
  Q: How does it affect a little girl who never has contact with other children, but has contact with a ...
  A: This will be a girl who will appear older than her age and she will be perceived as very mature. ...
out of control teen11/6/2010
  Q: my 15 year old son is being incorigable and WILL not listen to rules... He recently ran away from ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear that you're having so much trouble with your son. The Oakland County Juvenile ...
What does this tell you about a US citizen who moved to his11/5/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a US citizen who moved to his parents native country Greece (same town ...
  A: This tells me this man likes the way he was raised and wants his daughters raised the same way. He ...
Why is it that a strong women submissive women like Michael11/5/2010
  Q: Why is it that a strong women submissive women like Michael Obama, has a better relation ship with ...
  A: I don't know if it is true that strong, submissive women have better relationships with their ...
Why would an Italian teenage girl want her Italian father11/5/2010
  Q: Why would an Italian teenage girl want her Italian father to rub her breast the same way he rubs her ...
  A: There may be various reasons for a teenage girl to want her father to touch her breasts. However, ...
Teenage stepson11/2/2010
  Q: My husband and I have been married for five years. He has a 20 year old daughter and an 18 year old ...
  A: You didn't cause this situation, but it is best you do withdraw from playing any parental role. The ...
Paranoya/Nightmares10/31/2010
  Q: I'm Alias. I'm 17 years old. I've been having problems, mental...problems. When I try to go to sleep ...
  A: What's "normal" about nightmares. Nightmares can come in all sorts of ways. They usually are ...
Paranoya/Nightmares10/29/2010
  Q: I'm Alias. I'm 17 years old. I've been having problems, mental...problems. When I try to go to sleep ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear that you're experiencing frightening thoughts and nightmares. It is not unusual ...
My 15 year old son is cutting10/27/2010
  Q: My 15 yr. old son cut himself for the first time the day after school ended for this past summer ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear about the difficulties your son is having. However, his suicidal attempts or ...
teen sex10/26/2010
  Q: My daughter turns 16 in a month. She has been dating another 15 yr old boy for over a year and a ...
  A: It sounds like you have been an outstanding mother who has prepared her daughter for dealing with ...
sleeping over her boyfriends house10/23/2010
  Q: My 17.5 year old likes to sleep over her boyfriends house. she has been doing it when she's made ...
  A: I don't know that it's a matter of her wanting to sleep at home. I think it's more a matter of you ...
13 year old boy trouble with friends10/21/2010
  Q: My son seemed to be a"popular" kid both with his friends at school and in our religious community. ...
  A: Since your son seems to be upset by his lack of friends, that suggests he may be willing to do ...
teenage son10/19/2010
  Q: I have a 15 year old son (my youngest)who has no friends which has pretty much been the case for a ...
  A: Since your son is not complaining about a lack of friends, this is more your issue than his. There ...
adult sibling living with parents is having problems10/19/2010
  Q: My sister is 20 years old and living at home with mom and Dad. (I am 35 year old sis)Parents are ...
  A: I think it is a good idea for the whole family to confront her. And, of course, she is going to get ...
Help to manage 6 year old anger10/18/2010
  Q: We are a family with three children. Isabella (8 yrs), Archie (6) and Freddie (4). Since returning ...
  A: It is not uncommon for six-year-olds to have some problems with anger, frustration, and a negative ...
Why would French customs at the airport be easier with a American if10/18/2010
  Q: Why would French customs at the airport be easier with a American if he speaks French instead of ...
  A: I would think that this would be true in almost any customs situation. If the traveler speaks the ...
Why is it that a man whose mother is a strong women10/17/2010
  Q: Why is it that a man whose mother is a strong women, submissive women and used to be a school ...
  A: It's common with men and common with women. That is, many women want to marry someone like their ...
14 year old son's behavior10/13/2010
  Q: My son has been labeled as "gifted" since the 3rd grade. He had been doing fairly well in school ...
  A: I don't think you can just say that your son is a typical teenager. I think there is more going on. ...
17 year old out of control10/13/2010
  Q: Our teen meets the criteria for a troubled teen (lying,uncomunicative,drugs,truancy etc) we've tried ...
  A: I don't know what state you live in and what the laws regarding juveniles are where you live. In ...
How would a ten-year-old girl react when a man10/12/2010
  Q: How would a ten-year-old girl react when a man who is very good with children gives her a hug and ...
  A: Some children like to be touched by others; some do not like to be touched by others. It's often a ...
What does this tell you about a 20-year-old girl?10/8/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a 20-year-old girl? She is planing on having more children with him ...
  A: This man may not have done anything illegal, but I still think it is a questionable ethical ...
What does this tell you about a man?10/8/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? He is in his 30’s and had sex with a 16-year-old girl that ...
  A: No this wouldn't surprise, but I still think it is admirable. However, I also believe that a ...
How would a ten-year-old girl react when a man10/8/2010
  Q: How would a ten-year-old girl react when a man who is very good with children gives her a hug and ...
  A: Some children might be very needy and want physical touching by others. If she is a more compliant ...
How would a 15-year-old girl react10/8/2010
  Q: How would a 15-year-old girl react, when her Japanese mother takes her to Japan on vacation and ...
  A: Her willingness to accept the situation will depend on a number of factors. Those factors include ...
Problems with son 19y/o10/8/2010
  Q: I have known my son has been using pot since he was 17 y/o. I have been trying to deal with the ...
  A: Sorry to hear about all the problems with your son. There is one major issue that has to be ...
teen son wants to live with dad10/6/2010
  Q: I am a single parent of a 14 yr old daughter and 17 yr old son. My issue is with him....this past ...
  A: I didn't want to give the impression that 17-year-olds are mature enough to make the right ...
teen son wants to live with dad10/6/2010
  Q: I am a single parent of a 14 yr old daughter and 17 yr old son. My issue is with him....this past ...
  A: Your son is 17-years old and is ready to make more of his own decisions in life. Because he wants to ...
What does this tell you about a man?10/5/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? He is in his 30’s and had sex with a 16-year-old girl that ...
  A: This man might have been interested in obeying the letter of the law. It doesn't mean that that ...
What would social services do10/5/2010
  Q: What would social services do, when a 15 year old girls is engaged to a man in his 30’s but she plan ...
  A: I don't know what social services would do. However, if there is no evidence of a sexual ...
How would a 15-year-old girl react10/5/2010
  Q: How would a 15-year-old girl react, when her Japanese mother takes her to Japan on vacation and ...
  A: A 15-year-old child might be very angry about this situation. Many 15-year-olds think a lot of what ...
14 year old Son and ADD/school issues9/29/2010
  Q: I have a 14 year old son that has struggled with ADD. He was diagnosed when he was 8 years old. He ...
  A: If your son was adequately and competently diagnosed with ADHD when he was 8, then he still has ...
Does a single father have the ability to raise a little girl9/28/2010
  Q: Does a single father have the ability to raise a little girl to be a strong submissive woman under ...
  A: Fathers have all the same abilities to nurture, love, and care for children as do mothers. How well ...
disrespectful step daughter9/28/2010
  Q: My question is how do my husband and I discipline our daughter (his biological my step daughter)? ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear that your stepdaughter has been borrowing and stealing from you for such a long ...
Twin Teen Boys Losing Confidence...9/27/2010
  Q: I am the mother of twin 14 year old boys. I have enjoyed every minute of being their mother until ...
  A: Many adolescents experience difficulties in various areas of their lives during the early to ...
Why is it that a child that is born to a Italian mother9/26/2010
  Q: Why is it that a child that is born to a Italian mother in the United States can walk the streets in ...
  A: Yes, it surprises me and I don't believe it. I doubt that many federal prosecutors or federal judges ...
What does this tell you about a man?9/25/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? He took a gun and shot the mother of his daughter to dead and ...
  A: Many men feel they should have control of the raising of their children. And they like having ...
Why is it that a child that is born to a Italian mother9/25/2010
  Q: Why is it that a child that is born to a Italian mother in the United States can walk the streets in ...
  A: I don't know that most Americans care if their children could integrate into the Italian culture or ...
Why is it that Strong Submissive women have a better9/25/2010
  Q: Why is it that Strong Submissive women have a better relationship with their children than most ...
  A: The questions you ask are based on premises that may or may not be true. I don't know that strong, ...
My 18 year old son9/25/2010
  Q: I was writing in regards to my son, who is 18 and will be 19 this next month) that lives at home ...
  A: Your son has some serious problems and is not taking responsibility for his life or his future. He ...
Does a single father have the ability to raise a little girl9/25/2010
  Q: Does a single father have the ability to raise a little girl to be a strong submissive woman under ...
  A: Do fathers have the ability to raise children on their own? The answer is yes. Does a father have ...
Why is it that when I have called the police for a series altercation9/24/2010
  Q: Why is it that when I have called the police for a series altercation with a civilian they told me ...
  A: As it turns out, a good way of relating to children is by showing them respect and treating them ...
Why would Eddy Murphy not seek a relationship with his daughter Angel?9/24/2010
  Q: Eddy Murphy began dating former Spice Girl Melanie Brown, who became pregnant and stated that the ...
  A: I don't have any idea why Eddie Murphy wouldn't want a relationship with his daughter. Since I don't ...
Estranged from my my childeren and want fix it.9/21/2010
  Q: I'm writing you because I just don't know where to go or how to handle a long running problem that ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear that you are alienated from your children. Of course, there are various reasons ...
Why is it that the employees at T-Mobile USA have the9/15/2010
  Q: Why is it that the employees at T-Mobile USA have the European business mentality not the American ...
  A: Maybe many European companies have learned that employee satisfaction and customer satisfaction are ...
Why is it that 9/10’s of child custody battles in the United States is purely about money (child support)?9/15/2010
  Q: Why is it that 9/10’s of child custody battles in the United States is purely about money (child ...
  A: I don't know if 90 percent of all child custody battles are about money. But I think many of them ...
Why would tiger wood allow his ex wife to move back to Sweden and take her US born children with her?9/15/2010
  Q: Why would tiger wood allow his ex wife to move back to Sweden and take her US born children with ...
  A: I don't know all the details of their divorce agreement and custody agreement, but I suspect he ...
How does a child react to the fact that her mother has several permanent tattoos on her body?9/12/2010
  Q: How does a child react to the fact that her mother has several permanent tattoos on her body? ...
  A: I think the answer to this depends on the personality of the child. Obviously, having tattoos is ...
teenage masterbation9/12/2010
  Q: I'm a baby boomer, Christian, etc., and understand for a l3 yr. old, this is normal. My concern is ...
  A: You're right; teenage boys do masturbate. However, others in the family can expect that he will ...
What would a mother do when her baby daughter9/12/2010
  Q: What would a mother do when her baby daughter comes back to her after some time-sharing with the ...
  A: Since it was the other parent's sole decision, some mothers would remove the earrings. However, ...
What do you think of this as a American9/12/2010
  Q: American Women and Marriage: a Sacred Vow (Why I Will NEVER Marry an American Woman) The idea of ...
  A: No, it doesn't surprise me. Some American women may agree, based on their experiences and ...
How would it effect a child that she no contact with any9/11/2010
  Q: How would it effect a child that she no contact with any other children, but only has contact with ...
  A: It is typical for first children or the only child in the family to spend most or all of their time ...
Why would a American mother still want to have the Saudi9/9/2010
  Q: Why would a American mother still want to have the Saudi Arabia father arrested for taking her four ...
  A: Losing a daughter through abduction to another country can be very painful to a parent. Therefore, ...
How does a child react to the fact that her mother has several permanent tattoos on her body?9/9/2010
  Q: How does a child react to the fact that her mother has several permanent tattoos on her body?
  A: Depending on the age of the child, there can be various reactions. A young child may assume that ...
How would a child feel toward her father?9/9/2010
  Q: How would a child feel toward her father? She knows that the only reason she is alive is because in ...
  A: I don't how this child would feel about her father. How she feels about him is likely to depend on a ...
What does this tell you about a man?9/8/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? He only wants to have a relationship with an American woman ...
  A: If you mean are European men more likely to have these kinds of standards, I would guess yes. But I ...
Would an 11-year-old girl be willing to marry the man who9/5/2010
  Q: Would an 11-year-old girl be willing to marry the man who has been her primary care gives for the ...
  A: I don't think it is legal in any state in the U.S. for a man older than 16 to have sex with a child ...
daughter in jail9/4/2010
  Q: Up until 2 years ago our 23 yr old daughter was (we thought) doing great. Living on her own, working ...
  A: You are right to be concerned. Heroin addicts need serious help to overcome their addiction, and, ...
What does this tell you about an 18-year-old girl?9/3/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about an 18-year-old girl? She will live with her biological father for the ...
  A: This may suggest that this young lady is very loving and devoted to her father. But it may also ...
Would an 11-year-old girl be willing to marry the man who9/3/2010
  Q: Would an 11-year-old girl be willing to marry the man who has been her primary care gives for the ...
  A: I'm sure lots of 11-year-olds might want to remain close or even marry their primary care giver. ...
What would an American man do when his wife is mentally8/31/2010
  Q: What would an American man do when his wife is mentally ill, but she will never leave her husband ...
  A: Different men would handle this in different ways. Some American men may feel a sense of loyalty to ...
Would a mother normally raise her daughter the same way she is raised, yes or no? Why?8/31/2010
  Q: Would a mother normally raise her daughter the same way she is raised, yes or no? Why?
  A: Parents do not necessarily raise their children the same way they are raised. One reason for this is ...
lying/stealing8/30/2010
  Q: Windell, We have a 12 year old daughter who won't stop lying (even about the smallest things) and ...
  A: Since your daughter's stealing apparently has been going on for several years, it is an established ...
Why is it that an American mother who raises her daughter to8/28/2010
  Q: Why is it that an American mother who raises her daughter to the same high standards that Michel ...
  A: It's my experience that most American women are able to agree on a parenting plan with their ...
My Daughter Lies to Her Friends8/27/2010
  Q: My 15 year old daughter has always had an issue with lying, especially to avoid getting into ...
  A: Of course you are concerned about her lying. And her lying may lead to her losing friends. But you ...
Why is it that American man only care about there parental rights8/26/2010
  Q: Why is it that American man only care about there parental rights, but most European man are more ...
  A: I think it is hard to like anyone who is involved in a nasty child custody battle. Being involved in ...
Could this be the reason why the world hates8/25/2010
  Q: It is in the nature of American culture that makes Americans "stick out" it is generally very hard ...
  A: I'm sure if Americans are disliked in other countries, there are perhaps a myriad of reasons. I'm ...
What does this tell you about a teenage girl?8/25/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a teenage girl? She still sleeps in the same bed as her father almost ...
  A: Adolescence is a time when children learn to relate to their peers and develop friendships outside ...
My 9 yr old son is stealing and lying8/25/2010
  Q: The drama with my family started 4 years ago. My ex-husband accused my current husband of hitting ...
  A: The psychology behind your son's lying and stealing may be simple; or it may not be. However, ...
What does this tell you about a man?8/24/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? He wrote down on paper on how a Japanese woman can abduct her ...
  A: The child's father will not be his friend because he provided information that allowed his child's ...
How would a little girl feel toward her father?8/23/2010
  Q: How would a little girl feel toward her father? She was a result of a one-night stand, but became ...
  A: How she feels about her father will depend on how she felt about moving from her mother's house to ...
Why is this the case?8/23/2010
  Q: When I worked at Ride Aid, I saw a video from corporate that says that if the employees are not ...
  A: Many businesses recognize the importance of good relationships between supervisors and employees. If ...
What does this tell you about a mother?8/23/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a unwed mother? The only reason why she gave custody of her baby ...
  A: No, it doesn't surprise me that many American women expect child support from the father of their ...
What does this tell you about an man?8/23/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? When his baby daughter is taken from Denmark to the United ...
  A: Depending on the age of the daughter, I'm sure it would be relatively easy to convince a child that ...
Why is this the case?8/21/2010
  Q: When I worked at Ride Aid, I saw a video from corporate that says that if the employees are not ...
  A: While money and an adequate salary are important to people, satisfaction with various aspects of the ...
Does it surprise you that because of this man do not think8/21/2010
  Q: Does it surprise you that because of this man do not think it is worth investing in a family with ...
  A: The fact is that when men get equal or nearly equal parenting time, there is usually no problem with ...
What does this tell you about an man?8/21/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? When his baby daughter is taken from Denmark to the United ...
  A: Why would several Danish mothers tell her mother was unfit? Otherwise, I don't know what his ...
What does this tell you about a man?8/20/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? He wrote down on paper on how a Japanese woman can abduct her ...
  A: It tells me that this man has just barely avoided being charged with a crime. Since prosecutor's ...
What does this tell you about a man?8/20/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? He was asked by the FBI to help locate a mother who has ...
  A: I think this tells me that this man has certain feelings and believes about parental abduction and ...
Father/son relationship8/20/2010
  Q: My husband has retired a year ago, and is now home full time. My 16 year old son is clashing ...
  A: It is not necessarily normal for fathers and sons to have hostile relationships. It is common, but ...
How to set a better influence for my younger brother?8/19/2010
  Q: Mr. Windell, I am an 18-year-old college freshman with two younger brothers, aged 16 and 13. For ...
  A: I'm sure your parents must be very proud of you to see you maturing and beginning to take ...
12 year old with severe temper tantrums8/17/2010
  Q: HELP! Our daughter will be 12 next week and every time we ask her to do something that she doesn't ...
  A: I think you are right about not giving in to her tantrums and the importance of her having chores ...
Why is it that FBI agents whose primary job8/16/2010
  Q: Why is it that FBI agents whose primary job, is to give press conferences to the public, are more ...
  A: The FBI has long been concerned with maintaining good public relations. And, FBI personnel who deal ...
What does this tell you about a man?8/16/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? The only reason why he had sex with particular Canadian women ...
  A: That sounds like really skewed thinking: A family is only worth investing in if you don't have to ...
What does this tell you about an American man?8/16/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about an American man? He has a daughter in Thailand. When she was a baby, ...
  A: This tells me that this man is not very sophisticated when it comes to understanding people. He ...
Would an American man regret having sex with a Japanese woman?8/16/2010
  Q: Would an American man regret having sex with a Japanese woman? Because he did not use a condom, he ...
  A: It depends on the man. He may want to have a relationship with his daughter. Or he may feel guilty ...
What does this tell you about a Canadian mother?8/14/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a Canadian mother? She leaves her husband because he is a danger to ...
  A: This tells me that this woman needed to get away from the father of her child in order to protect ...
Teen dating8/13/2010
  Q: My 17 year old daughter has moved out of our home and is now living with her boyfriend and his ...
  A: These are difficult situations when parents don't accept the person their child loves. It is ...
How can an American understand the following8/12/2010
  Q: How can an American understand the following (he told me that he is not suppressed to hear that, and ...
  A: I don't know that many Americans can understand this. And, I suspect, many Americans don't care ...
Is this correct yes or no in the United States8/7/2010
  Q: A possible side effect from a capitalistic economy such as the United States, the child support ...
  A: The court system in this country has always been adversarial. And there have always been nasty court ...
Teen daughter stealing from family8/6/2010
  Q: Mr. Windell, I am looking for a counselor/support group in Oakland County that specializes in ...
  A: If she agrees to get help or if she agrees to go with you to a counselor/therapist. I would ...
Does a child suffer from a divorce8/3/2010
  Q: Does a child suffer from a divorce, if she sees her daddy almost every day and her mother is very ...
  A: In the kind of situation you describe, the child may not suffer from the divorce. It is not divorce ...
What does this tell you about an American man?8/3/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about an American man? The only reason why he had sex with a Brazilian woman ...
  A: I suppose this says that there is something curious about a man who has sex with women based on the ...
reconstructed family8/2/2010
  Q: I have an 11 year old and a 7 year old which live with me full time as a result of a divorce. I ...
  A: It's refreshing to hear from someone who is thinking about the effect of introducing a partner into ...
Is this correct yes or no in the United States8/2/2010
  Q: A possible side effect from a capitalistic economy such as the United States, the child support ...
  A: I don't see the child support laws or system dictated so much by a capitalist economy as by a court ...
Why do American women think it is fair that7/31/2010
  Q: Why do American women think it is fair that if a man does not want to pay child support, he must go ...
  A: You're right. Some American women would prefer a man leave the country or be arrested for not paying ...
Do you think this is correct7/31/2010
  Q: Through my company, I haven lucky to have had the opportunity to live in different corners of the ...
  A: Do I think this is correct? I think it is very difficult -- and dangerous -- to stereotype people. ...
Why would a mother who has a daughter in a one night stand to allow her to see her father every week7/31/2010
  Q: Why would a mother who has a daughter in a one night stand to allow her to see her father every ...
  A: I would say that this mother is smart enough to realize by allowing the father of her child in her ...
What would happen if social services in informed that a 10-year-old girl got a permanent tattoo on her body?7/31/2010
  Q: What would happen if social services in informed that a 10-year-old girl got a permanent tattoo on ...
  A: If social services gets a report, they would have to investigate. Since it is illegal, they would ...
Why would an American man say that if a Japanese woman illegally retains his US born daughter7/31/2010
  Q: Why would an American man say that if a Japanese woman illegally retains his US born daughter in ...
  A: This is about parents' rights. The laws may not be good laws, nor are they necessarily in the ...
my daughter's boyfriend7/31/2010
  Q: My daughter is 16 years old and ling with me, her mom. Her dad and i are going through a divorce ...
  A: I sympathize with you and I share your concern about your daughter's relationship with this boy. ...
What does this tell you about a man?7/31/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? The only reason why he likes his boss an American woman is ...
  A: Many men are resentful if they have a female boss because they somehow believe that it is demeaning ...
Why would a father tell a mother that he would only finically7/30/2010
  Q: Why would a father tell a mother that he would only finically support his daughter if the mother is ...
  A: If one is looking at this situation from a purely economic or business-like point of view, then one ...
I need help with my teenage daughter7/30/2010
  Q: my name is Kari I am a mother of three I live in minnesota...My two oldest daughters are with the ...
  A: Your daughter needs lots of supervision and limits set for her. In addition, there must be ...
Teenage son and girlfriend7/27/2010
  Q: Our 16 yr old son has his first real girlfriend and has been dating her for the last 9 months. We ...
  A: There is almost nothing you can do that isn't going to alienate him from you. Of course, I ...
aggressive 6 yr old7/27/2010
  Q: Our 6 yr old is quite aggressive at times and seems to only care about himself. He knows the ...
  A: I'm sure there's no doubt that your son knows right from wrong and that he knows he is not supposed ...
Disrespectful Teen7/26/2010
  Q: I have been dating a guy for three years now who has two teenage sons. His oldest,who is 16, over ...
  A: It is not uncommon for middle teenagers, like your boyfriend's 16-year-old, to have issues with ...
Why is this the case?7/25/2010
  Q: 21 Reasons Why the World Hates America By GeneralEtrius Posted September 7, 2009 4:05:05 PM This is ...
  A: I'm sure many Americans would find this article offensive because they see America as always being ...
Why would a father tell a mother that he would only finically7/25/2010
  Q: Why would a father tell a mother that he would only finically support his daughter if the mother is ...
  A: I think he is self-centered because he thinks that he is the better parent and that it would be ...
What TV shows can I record to show people in Europe, how American women behave?7/21/2010
  Q: What TV shows can I record to show people in Europe, how American women behave? It has to be ...
  A: I'm not aware of any TV show that would serve as a fair and accurate depiction of how American women ...
Obsessed with girlfirend7/20/2010
  Q: We have a teenage grandchild, 16 1/2 years old. At this time he is in foster care with us, due to ...
  A: It is not unusual for teenagers to be obsessed with a new love. Of course, there's nothing much ...
Why would a 13-year-old girl have romantic feeling toward, a man in his late 20’s?7/20/2010
  Q: Why would a 13-year-old girl have romantic feeling toward, a man in his late 20’s? Why would that ...
  A: Adolescents often have crushes and romantic feelings toward older males. This frequently happens ...
Why is it when I toughed a child when I was volunteering some the mother complained7/20/2010
  Q: Why would a mother file false sexual abuse charges against a co-worker of mine, when he worked a ...
  A: It is standard procedure in schools that when an employee is accused of some sort of misconduct with ...
Why is it when I toughed a child when I was volunteering some the mother complained7/20/2010
  Q: Why is it when I toughed a child when I was volunteering some the mother complained? But since two ...
  A: In matters of child abuse or inappropriate touching, a mother might be inclined to believe a witness ...
Why would a little girl be comfortable sleep sleeping in the same bed as her father with his arms cuddled around her every night?7/19/2010
  Q: Why would a little girl be comfortable sleep sleeping in the same bed as her father with his arms ...
  A: It's up to the adult to set boundaries, not the child. Because there are various factors related to ...
Why is it that because I lost a job due to internal politics (about five years ago)7/19/2010
  Q: Why is it that because I lost a job due to internal politics (about five years ago), only my ex boss ...
  A: I'm not sure which question here is one I can really answer. I don't think I have enough background ...
Why do American man think this a disturbing ruling and only care about their parental rights under US law7/18/2010
  Q: Tuesday, July 13, 2010 A Momentous and Disturbing Ruling in Europe on the Hague Abduction Convention ...
  A: Maybe many Americans still believe that the world revolves around the United States and that our ...
Why would a child be willing to live with her father, just to please her daddy7/17/2010
  Q: Why would a child be willing to live with her father, just to please her daddy (She knows that is ...
  A: Again, children want to please their parents. But even if a child found it uncomfortable to sleep ...
Why would a Belgium national say that I will not pay child support for my German daughter unless a Belgium court say so7/17/2010
  Q: Why would a Belgium national say that I will not pay child support for my German daughter unless a ...
  A: I think the error in the argument is that if you don't have full custody you have no rights. ...
What does this tell you about a man.7/16/2010
  Q: Because the mother of his daughter is not wiling to give him custody and makes him pay child support ...
  A: I don't know if the American system is better or worse than most other countries' systems. In my ...
Why would a Honduras grand mother take her US born granddaughter back to Honduras, with out her American fathers consent7/16/2010
  Q: Why would a Honduras grand mother take her US born granddaughter back to Honduras, with out her ...
  A: I don't know why a particular Honduras grandmother would take her granddaughter back to Honduras ...
Why do American man think this a disturbing ruling and only care about their parental rights under US law7/15/2010
  Q: Tuesday, July 13, 2010 A Momentous and Disturbing Ruling in Europe on the Hague Abduction Convention ...
  A: I don't know that American men think this is a disturbing ruling. I doubt that very many men even ...
Why would a Belgium national say that I will not pay child support for my German daughter unless a Belgium court say so7/15/2010
  Q: Why would a Belgium national say that I will not pay child support for my German daughter unless a ...
  A: You do not have to pay child support for being a man. You are usually ordered to pay child support ...
Why is this the case with Canadian customs7/14/2010
  Q: Why is it when I asked Canadian customs if I were to enter Canada with a passport of my native ...
  A: They will make life difficult for you because they are human and because they can. Young people who ...
18 yr old son - OUT OF CONTROL7/14/2010
  Q: My son turned 18 on June 17th and since he has this idea from somewhere that he can do anything. He ...
  A: Yes, I'm sure this is a very upsetting situation for you. But it is not uncommon for adolescents who ...
Why is hitting children good?7/14/2010
  Q: do you think hitting children is a good idea? Please answer; give me answers for both good or bad ...
  A: I do not think hitting children is good. The reasons why hitting children is not good or ...
Why would an American father more likely to pay child support7/13/2010
  Q: Why would an American father more likely to pay child support, and voluntary give custody to the ...
  A: If an American father was happy with the custody and parenting time arrangement, then he would be ...
Why is this the case7/13/2010
  Q: Russian spies: children face trauma, psychologists warn Fate of families remains uncertain as ...
  A: Children who experience disruption in their lives will be affected by that disruption. If they can ...
What does this tell you about a man.7/13/2010
  Q: Because the mother of his daughter is not wiling to give him custody and makes him pay child support ...
  A: Some people need to feel in control. Not having custody and being ordered by a court to make regular ...
Why would a child be willing to live with her father, just to please her daddy7/13/2010
  Q: Why would a child be willing to live with her father, just to please her daddy (She knows that is ...
  A: Most children who have loving, affectionate parents try to please their parents by doing what they ...
Dealing with 14 year old son7/12/2010
  Q: My 14 year old son is very quiet and only likes a small circle of friends. Every summer we spend 6 ...
  A: Like many teenagers, your son may not have serious social skills problems, but he feels comfortable ...
How would a mother feel when her husband takes her ten-year-old7/12/2010
  Q: How would a mother feel when her husband takes her ten-year-old daughter in a divorce and does not ...
  A: I'm sure most mothers would feel very angry if they had their child taken away from them. But, I ...
Why is this the case with Canadian customs7/12/2010
  Q: Why is it when I asked Canadian customs if I were to enter Canada with a passport of my native ...
  A: Since you were polite and respectful, as well as honest, with Canadian customs, then they had no ...
Why is this very effective in Germany durring World War two7/11/2010
  Q: During world war two in Germany, British spies in Germany were told in training that, in Germany ...
  A: I suspect this was effective during World War II because people in Germany had certain stereotypes ...
What does this tell you about a man.7/11/2010
  Q: Because the mother of his daughter is not wiling to give him custody and makes him pay child support ...
  A: What this tells me about this man is that he doesn't care how his child might be affected by him ...
Why is this the case7/10/2010
  Q: Russian spies: children face trauma, psychologists warn Fate of families remains uncertain as ...
  A: Children of spies who have had a stable upbringing may be very upset when the life they've known is ...
What does this tell you about a 15-year-old girl?7/9/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a 15-year-old girl? She still sleeps in the same bed as daddy with ...
  A: It may be common in some parts of the world, but not many. Most cultures find that being overly ...
Would a child complain that her daddy takes her to Mexico when7/9/2010
  Q: Would a child complain that her daddy takes her to Mexico when she will have her name and date of ...
  A: Some children would feel resentment, but if it was done at any early age, they might just accept ...
What do you think of this website?7/9/2010
  Q: What do you think of this website? I have made some changes to this. ...
  A: Your website has a point of view. And that point of view is very clear. Is it accurate? I think it ...
Trouble with 13 year old son7/9/2010
  Q: I have a 13 year old son from a previous marriage. He is a bright, confident, engaging boy with ...
  A: You describe your son in such positive and glowing ways, except when it comes to school work and ...
Sexual abuse allegations.7/8/2010
  Q: My brother is being accused of sexually abusing his daughter. After hearing both sides I strongly ...
  A: Of course, your brother's daughter could have made up the sexual abuse allegations. Teenagers ...
Daughter7/8/2010
  Q: lost it on Friday night and hit me and left. The next morning she came back, but since I did not ...
  A: Sounds like things went too far for both of you. It seems like you will both want to make up and ...
out control teen daughter7/8/2010
  Q: i have a 15 yr old daughter that is out of control and has an awful mouth. Doesn't show any respect ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear that things have gotten to this state. I'm sure it is pretty miserable both for ...
Is this normal?7/7/2010
  Q: Whenever I mess up something, I am afraid to tell my parents. Is this normal? I have no problems ...
  A: Yes and yes. It's normal for kids to feel apprehensive about telling their parents about making a ...
Possibly Dogmatic Parents7/7/2010
  Q: I was wanting to ask you guys a question or two. My parents are generally decent people, but when I ...
  A: What you're describing is probably fairly normal in a good many families. But not all. Some parents ...
Parenting a 13 year old son & an 8 year old daughter7/7/2010
  Q: A mother to two children with my son as 13 years and daughter as 8 years, I require your guidance on ...
  A: There may be many reasons why adolescents are not always kind and pleasant to their younger ...
How can reading a lot educational in books and on the internet (non fiction) be very productive7/6/2010
  Q: How can reading a lot educational in books and on the internet (non fiction) be very productive, ...
  A: Is your question more like this: Is it productive for a young adult to read a lot every day? Of ...
What does this tell you about a 15-year-old girl?7/6/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a 15-year-old girl? She still sleeps in the same bed as daddy with ...
  A: This tells me that this girl has been very close to her father. However, it says more about the ...
my mothers curse on me.7/6/2010
  Q: I am an 18 year old boy,i was attached to my mother in my early days.But as i grow up i am ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear that you and your mother are having serious conflicts. But that is to be expected ...
How would a child feel toward her parents when she is told this?7/6/2010
  Q: How would a child feel toward her parents when she is told this? Her mother tells her that the only ...
  A: I can't say that I know why this man feels the way he does and why he believes what he believes. I'm ...
Uncontrollable anger7/6/2010
  Q: Our six year old suddenly has problems controlling himself. He's defiant, argumentative and can be ...
  A: Of course, there may be factors in your son's background that could account for his suddenly violent ...
Would a child complain that her daddy takes her to Mexico when7/5/2010
  Q: Would a child complain that her daddy takes her to Mexico when she will have her name and date of ...
  A: Some children would think that getting a tattoo of any sort is special and makes them feel more ...
Same Sex Experimentation7/5/2010
  Q: My 13 year old step-son doesn't know it but I saw him when he was laying on the bed nude with his ...
  A: I would say that this is a good thing to keep to yourself. I don't see much good that can come from ...
teen dating7/5/2010
  Q: How many times a week should my 17 year old son be able to see his girlfriend. He feel everyday, all ...
  A: There are no "established" guidelines for how much time teenagers should spend together. And ...
What does this tell you about a man?7/5/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? He takes his baby daughter born (less then four years old) in ...
  A: He places religion and religious upbringing over attachments. He has uprooted his daughter from her ...
How would a child feel toward her parents when she is told this?7/4/2010
  Q: How would a child feel toward her parents when she is told this? Her mother tells her that the only ...
  A: I suppose this tells me that the father is a logical man who may be less concerned with feelings and ...
my 17 year old son7/4/2010
  Q: My son just turned 17 in April of 2010 he has been seeing this girl who is 18 for about 7 months ...
  A: You're right. You probably can't stop them from seeing each other or having sex. And you have no ...
Confused 15 year old daughter7/4/2010
  Q: I have a 21 and a 15 year old daughter, married for 24 years. My older daughter went through an ...
  A: It may work to change schools, but sometimes it doesn't. That is, adolescents with adjustment ...
Why would filing criminal chargers cause conflict with the Egyptian family?7/3/2010
  Q: Reunited after 12 long years apart Matt Bradley, Foreign Correspondent * Last Updated: June ...
  A: Children don't stop thinking of the parent who is absent in their lives. There may always be a ...
How would a ten-year-old girl feel toward her parents?7/3/2010
  Q: How would a ten-year-old girl feel toward her parents? Her father’s lawyer tells her that in ...
  A: Young children don't care about divorce decrees and legal documents. They do care about their ...
Uncontrollable anger7/3/2010
  Q: Our six year old suddenly has problems controlling himself. He's defiant, argumentative and can be ...
  A: Typically, this sort of out-of-control behavior is seen in toddlers -- not often in six-year-olds. ...
How would a child feel toward her parents when she is told this?7/2/2010
  Q: How would a child feel toward her parents when she is told this? Her mother tells her that the only ...
  A: The child's reactions to all of this will depend on the child's age and her relationships with her ...
How would a child feel toward her mother and father when she sees this letter that her father gave her mother trough her mothers lawyer?7/2/2010
  Q: How would a child feel toward her mother and father when she sees this letter that her father gave ...
  A: It depends on how old the child is. If she is a young child, she won't be able to see the ...
Would a little girl complain7/2/2010
  Q: Would a little girl complain, that her daddy got her ears pierced when she is less than one week old ...
  A: A child who is very independent and wants to do things on her own may complain or may resent the ...
My daughter7/2/2010
  Q: I have a 18 year old daughter that is going through a identity crisis. She left home for three days ...
  A: You may be right about her having an identity crisis. But what is involved in an identity crisis for ...
15 year old girl7/2/2010
  Q: In order to understand my problem I need to give you a little background...I was married for 13 ...
  A: It is important that you maintain a relationship with her, although under the circumstances this ...
My daughter6/30/2010
  Q: I have a 18 year old daughter that is going through a identity crisis. She left home for three days ...
  A: Adolescent girls frequently run away from home when they are emotionally upset. However, the only ...
15 year old girl6/30/2010
  Q: In order to understand my problem I need to give you a little background...I was married for 13 ...
  A: Your daughter has some problems in her relationships with males. Some of this is probably due to her ...
Why would a man say that if a mother takes her US born children6/30/2010
  Q: Why would a man say that if a mother takes her US born children under the age of 18 back to her ...
  A: This has to do with a battle between parents and they are overlooking what is best for their child. ...
How would a ten-year-old girl feel toward her parents?6/30/2010
  Q: How would a ten-year-old girl feel toward her parents? Her father’s lawyer tells her that in ...
  A: The girl at age 10 may not be able to sort all this out. She will recognize that her mother has ...
Why would filing criminal chargers cause conflict with the Egyptian family?6/29/2010
  Q: Reunited after 12 long years apart Matt Bradley, Foreign Correspondent * Last Updated: June ...
  A: I don't know why the father would take the child back to his native country -- except to make it ...
Teenage Siblings6/29/2010
  Q: My husband and I are going to marriage counseling. I have 2 teenage daughters from a previous ...
  A: So, as it turns out, it has little to do with them being selfish or self-centered, but more with ...
Teenage Siblings6/29/2010
  Q: My husband and I are going to marriage counseling. I have 2 teenage daughters from a previous ...
  A: I think it is a good idea that children help out with running the household because everyone should ...
Why would filing criminal chargers cause conflict with the Egyptian family?6/26/2010
  Q: Reunited after 12 long years apart Matt Bradley, Foreign Correspondent * Last Updated: June ...
  A: The mother apparently realizes that filing criminal charges after gaining visitation rights would, ...
Puberty and curiosity6/26/2010
  Q: My son is 11 about to be 12 and started puberty right before his 11th birthday. My son has always ...
  A: Your son's curiosity and behavior seems quite normal. Even his behavior with his younger sister is ...
15 year old son6/24/2010
  Q: We're concerned with our 15 year old son's sexual curiosity. We've discovered several pairs of ...
  A: None of the behaviors you mentioned are particularly unusual for adolescent boys. They may have ...
Why would a man only finically support his baby daughter6/24/2010
  Q: Why would a man only finically support his baby daughter in the United States if the mother is ...
  A: I suppose it has to do with the need men may have to be independent and not "tied down" to 18 years ...
Can a single father who is good with children still raise his daughter6/23/2010
  Q: Can a single father who is good with children still raise his daughter in the United States to be ...
  A: I'm sure a single father can have an influence on the kind of person his daughter will be. However, ...
Why would a man only finically support his baby daughter6/22/2010
  Q: Why would a man only finically support his baby daughter in the United States if the mother is ...
  A: Perhaps he doesn't like being forced to support his child. Or perhaps he doesn't like the lack of ...
What would a little girl think of her father when her mothers makes her see him every weekend6/22/2010
  Q: What would a little girl think of her father when her mothers makes her see him every weekend, and ...
  A: The girl may enjoy seeing her father or she may enjoy being around the other children. She could ...
unfair parenting ?6/20/2010
  Q: I'm 18 years old, and just graduated from high school. My mom is very strict and didn't let me go to ...
  A: Like a lot of parents, your mother remembers what kinds of situations teens can get involved in and ...
Why would people more likely believe things that they see in writing6/18/2010
  Q: Why would people more likely believe things that they see in writing, than is if a person who tries ...
  A: Many people do tend to believe what they see in writing. I think this is part of human nature. ...
Why would a child feel more secure if she and her mother are6/18/2010
  Q: Why would a child feel more secure if she and her mother are taken hostage and are held as ransom if ...
  A: Young children will always feel more secure if they are being held by a parent whom they love.They ...
20 year old daughter6/18/2010
  Q: I have a daughter who has been a straight A stundent most of her acedemic career. Now, all of a ...
  A: There may not be anything wrong with your daughter. A lot of kids go through this in the middle teen ...
Why is it that with very Strong Women, Submissive Women6/18/2010
  Q: Why is it that with very Strong Women, Submissive Women and are raised the same way as Michelle ...
  A: I think, to put things in perspective, it's well to look at the number of teens who come into the ...
How would a child feel to her father?6/18/2010
  Q: How would a child feel to her father? She was told that she was born in a one-night stand in Belgium ...
  A: A lot depends on the age of the child and her experiences with her parents. If all goes well when ...
troubled adopted son 186/18/2010
  Q: I asked a previous Expert how to help our son who is having severe withdrawal from our family. He ...
  A: Michael seems like a very fine young man who has overcome a great deal in his life already, but, of ...
troubled adopted son 186/14/2010
  Q: I asked a previous Expert how to help our son who is having severe withdrawal from our family. He ...
  A: As I understand the situation, you adopted your son when he was 13 and he had mental illness at the ...
Why is it that with very Strong Women, Submissive Women6/12/2010
  Q: Why is it that with very Strong Women, Submissive Women and are raised the same way as Michelle ...
  A: I don't know if I go along with your major premise here. That is, I'm not sure I agree that European ...
Why are the Americans in Massachusetts is more European than the Americans Michigan?6/11/2010
  Q: Why are the Americans in Massachusetts is more European than the Americans Michigan? That is the ...
  A: You seem to be suggesting that the type of people who can integrate into European society come from ...
Why are the Americans in Massachusetts is more European than the Americans Michigan?6/11/2010
  Q: Why are the Americans in Massachusetts is more European than the Americans Michigan? That is the ...
  A: I don't know the answer to this. Most states have a variety of social classes, and I suspect that ...
Why would an American man complain?6/11/2010
  Q: Why would an American man complain? His US born daughter was taken to Bahrain with out her American ...
  A: Filing criminal charges may be a way for a parent, who feels his child has been abducted and moved ...
Why would an American man complain?6/7/2010
  Q: Why would an American man complain? His US born daughter was taken to Bahrain with out her American ...
  A: Based on American laws and customs, it is a crime for a mother to take a child to another country ...
Why is this the case?6/7/2010
  Q: If child told that her father was trying to take her away from her mother, then I would expect that ...
  A: Young children are not going to be able to really understand the complexities and nuances of ...
Would an American man be more likely to allow his Belgium wife to move with her US born daughter to Belgium?6/7/2010
  Q: Would an American man be more likely to allow his Belgium wife to move with her US born daughter to ...
  A: There are a lot of possibilities, but how often would a father be able to visit his child if they ...
Are children of highly educated parents more likely to be highly educated them selves?6/7/2010
  Q: Are children of highly educated parents more likely to be highly educated them selves? Are highly ...
  A: Children of highly educated parents are likely to value education, particularly if education was ...
Would an American man be more likely to allow his Belgium wife to move with her US born daughter to Belgium?6/5/2010
  Q: Would an American man be more likely to allow his Belgium wife to move with her US born daughter to ...
  A: I suspect it would be an unusual American father who would allow his wife to move with their child ...
Why would this be the case6/5/2010
  Q: Why would a 10-year-old child hate her American father because he filed application to have her ...
  A: A 10-year-old girl is likely to believe what she has heard many times at home from her mother. She ...
What do you think about this6/3/2010
  Q: American women can't compete with foreign women! Are foreign women really better than ...
  A: I'm sure there are many men who would agree with this. And I'm sure there are other men who would ...
Sexual curiosity or abnormal behavior6/3/2010
  Q: I am just concerned about my 8 year old son's recent behavior. Let me just give you a little bit of ...
  A: I don't think this situation calls for getting your son in treatment. I suspect he would handle ...
Would it surprise you, why6/3/2010
  Q: Would it surprise you that a mother who has a 50/50 custody arrangement with the father of her ...
  A: Those men -- those who get a lower paying job, stop working, or hide assets to avoid paying child ...
under 18 overnights with boyfriend.6/3/2010
  Q: I know someone who works at a school as an educator. She feels it is ok to allow her 17 year old ...
  A: While I might not agree with what this person is doing, it reflects more of a parenting style or ...
Why would this be the case6/2/2010
  Q: Why would a 10-year-old child hate her American father because he filed application to have her ...
  A: I always question what the child has been told and what she believes. The parent who was left behind ...
my brother and his friend were touching6/2/2010
  Q: I don't know where to start exactly.my brother is 17 and his friend who is also 17 came today in ...
  A: These kinds of situations are tough ones for parents (and sisters). I think your father should talk ...
co-parenting a 16 yr.6/2/2010
  Q: I am co-parenting a 16 yr old girl with my ex. she currently lives at his house. Her choice. I am ...
  A: Arguing with your co-parent or disagreeing with him in front of her is not likely to help your ...
I Just Dunno....6/2/2010
  Q: Windell, I was directed by Dan (on this site) that I should direct my question to you. So (I ...
  A: I can see why you turned to this website to ask for advice; it just doesn't seem like there is an ...
Does this explain why?6/2/2010
  Q: Children of divorce: 25 years later Smartmarriages © cmfce at his.com Sun Sep 17 15:28:33 EDT 2000 ...
  A: The research and studies suggest that conflicted divorces, in particular, seem to have the most ...
Teenager refusing to move6/1/2010
  Q: I will try to make this brief, but this is a very complicated situation. My brother moved with his ...
  A: I think it is very admirable of you to want to help your nephew. It sounds like he needs a stable ...
my brother and his friend were touching5/31/2010
  Q: I don't know where to start exactly.my brother is 17 and his friend who is also 17 came today in ...
  A: I'm sorry that this incident has caused so much shock and turmoil in your family. It is not ...
BULLYING....STILL!5/31/2010
  Q: I have three kids 18, 16 and 11. My 18 year old was picked on at school for as long as I can ...
  A: I don't think you caused others to bully your son, so it's not very productive or useful to blame ...
How would a child feel, because the only reason she is alive5/31/2010
  Q: How would a child feel, because the only reason she is alive today is because her daddy is not ...
  A: That depends on the child. It might depend on her age; for instance, is she old enough to understand ...
What does this tell you about a father?5/30/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a father? His daughter had her ears pierced seven times by her ...
  A: I would have to know a lot more about the father in order to say much about him. Since it is much ...
Would a little girl be willing to see her daddy every weekend?5/30/2010
  Q: Would a little girl be willing to see her daddy every weekend, just to please her daddy, because he ...
  A: If she's a real little girl, she won't see her daddy just to please him. She has to enjoy seeing ...
Why is this the case?5/30/2010
  Q: Why can it be emotionally damaging on the child if the abducting parent is prosecuted and perhaps ...
  A: When I said that things may not change much when the child becomes 18, I meant that her attitude may ...
What does this tell you about an American mother?5/29/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about an American mother? The only reason why she gave sole custody of her ...
  A: This mother believed that it would be better to give up custody of her daughter and she believed ...
Does this surprise you, yes or no?5/28/2010
  Q: The reason why American man like foreign-born women is because most are Strong Submissive women, and ...
  A: It does not surprise me that a good interpersonal relationship at home leads to less stress at work. ...
My son's behavior at home5/27/2010
  Q: My son is a good student, ending now high school with college acceptance and everything apparently ...
  A: There is no doubt your son is gifted. After all, he has been able to manipulate you to make sure he ...
Why is this the case?5/27/2010
  Q: Why is this the case? My neighbor’s son went from a private catholic school to a public high school ...
  A: Perhaps not. I think public schools in America are often very lax when it comes to discipline. And ...
Daughter still cutting herself5/27/2010
  Q: My 17 year old daughter has a history of self injury going back 4 years. She had one year where she ...
  A: Self-mutilation is a serious problem and reflects other adjustment problems. I would suggest that if ...
Why would both girls hate their mother and never want to see their mother ever again and back there father 100 percent?5/27/2010
  Q: Why would both girls hate their mother and never want to see their mother ever again and back there ...
  A: The father has presented himself to his daughters as self-sacrificing and interested only in their ...
Why is this the case?5/26/2010
  Q: Why can it be emotionally damaging on the child if the abducting parent is prosecuted and perhaps ...
  A: Things may not change much just because a child becomes 18 and legally can see which ever parent she ...
Why would a child tell the judge that she does not want to see her America father, just to please her European mother?5/26/2010
  Q: Why would a child tell the judge that she does not want to see her America father, just to please ...
  A: I don't think it makes much difference how old a child is, they still will try to please the parent ...
Why would a child tell the judge that she does not want to see her America father, just to please her European mother?5/26/2010
  Q: Why would a child tell the judge that she does not want to see her America father, just to please ...
  A: Children always try to please their parents when there is love and affection between parent and ...
Why would a mother tell the father if you do not want to pay child support you should either go to jail or go to Brazil5/24/2010
  Q: Why would a mother tell the father if you do not want to pay child support you should either go to ...
  A: But maybe things work the other way around. That is, while it might be suggested that child support ...
Why is this the case?5/24/2010
  Q: Why is this the case? My neighbor’s son went from a private catholic school to a public high school ...
  A: The cultures are different in the U.S. as opposed to Sicily or Belgium. People typically like other ...
Why would it be normal that this child does not want any contact with her American father?5/24/2010
  Q: Why would it be normal that this child does not want any contact with her American father? Why ...
  A: Change and transitions are upsetting to children. So, if a child heard that her father was planning ...
Why is this the case?5/23/2010
  Q: Men are more likely to kidnap their children when the mother is being uncooperative and trying to ...
  A: I think that is true that men are more likely to kidnap their children when there is conflict and a ...
Why is this the case?5/22/2010
  Q: Why can it be emotionally damaging on the child if the abducting parent is prosecuted and perhaps ...
  A: The whole experience can be emotionally damaging to the child because of several factors. The first ...
Why would it be normal that this child does not want any contact with her American father?5/22/2010
  Q: Why would it be normal that this child does not want any contact with her American father? Why ...
  A: Children do form their own opinions about events. However, even if her mother did nothing she ...
Why would it be normal that this child does not want any contact with her American father?5/22/2010
  Q: Why would it be normal that this child does not want any contact with her American father? Why ...
  A: Despite all of the time and effort the father went to have contact with his daughter, the daughter ...
Why is this the case?5/19/2010
  Q: Why is this the case? My neighbor’s son went from a private catholic school to a public high school ...
  A: I suppose in some sense real Americans are represented by students in public schools. But real ...
Why would a mother tell the father if you do not want to pay child support you should either go to jail or go to Brazil5/16/2010
  Q: Why would a mother tell the father if you do not want to pay child support you should either go to ...
  A: A mother may tell a father to pay child support or leave the country because she is angry and ...
11 yr old headed for trouble5/13/2010
  Q: I don't know where to start. I will refer to him as my nephew. His parents never were married and ...
  A: Obviously this boy had a poor start in life with inadequate parents and a difficult home life. He, ...
Why would a father still want the Swiss mother who took his US born daughter back to Switzerland in the 1970’s?5/13/2010
  Q: Why would a father still want the Swiss mother who took his US born daughter back to Switzerland in ...
  A: I would guess that the daughter wants her father to forgive her mother so there is peace and harmony ...
What does this tell you about a mother?5/13/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a mother? The only reason why she gave permanent custody of her baby ...
  A: I would suspect these countries have similar child support laws because they have laws and customs ...
Why is this the case?5/13/2010
  Q: Millions of divorced or separated fathers have declined to fight for custody because they did not ...
  A: When couples cannot reach amiable agreements related to custody, parenting time, or child support, ...
Why would a father still want the Swiss mother who took his US born daughter back to Switzerland in the 1970’s?5/11/2010
  Q: Why would a father still want the Swiss mother who took his US born daughter back to Switzerland in ...
  A: I suspect the father says that the mother should have done something different in order to justify ...
Concerned w/ 13yo Stepdaughter5/11/2010
  Q: Around two years ago I met my current girlfriend. We fell in love quickly despite the fact that she ...
  A: What you are experiencing as a stepfather is rather common. That is, you are facing resistance and ...
Why are American man more likely to allow mother5/10/2010
  Q: Why are American man more likely to allow mother to move with there children out of state or even to ...
  A: Okay, so many people believe that strong women must be submissive in love relationships. Maybe so. ...
Why would a father still want the Swiss mother who took his US born daughter back to Switzerland in the 1970’s?5/9/2010
  Q: Why would a father still want the Swiss mother who took his US born daughter back to Switzerland in ...
  A: People do get upset when their child is taken by the other parent to another state or another ...
Son's eating habits concern me...5/8/2010
  Q: Recently when tidying the house I was astonished by the stench from my 15 y/o son's room - there ...
  A: This isn't about eating McDonald's food. It's about hoarding food which isn't being eaten. It is a ...
Son posting his personal details on Internet5/8/2010
  Q: I got a phone call on Thursday informing me that my 16 yo son had misused the school computers by ...
  A: We're dealing with a new generation of kids who have different ideas about what is proper and what ...
Does this subscribe the majority of American women today, yes or no5/8/2010
  Q: Does this subscribe the majority of American women today, yes or no? I know that not all American ...
  A: I don't know that I'm any more qualified than you or anyone other man to say what a majority of ...
What does this tell you about a mother?5/7/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a mother? She stays with her husband that has sex with many different ...
  A: What this tells me about this mother is that she is willing to tolerate this kind of relationship. ...
How can a mother determine if her three-year-old daughter wants to live with her daddy or her mother5/7/2010
  Q: How can a mother determine if her three-year-old daughter wants to live with her daddy or her ...
  A: It depends on the child and the maturity of the child, but I would say that children of ages 15 and ...
Son's drug addiction (but to prescribed drugs)5/6/2010
  Q: Recently I discovered that two bottles of Night Nurse were empty in our house; I thought this was ...
  A: This is a concern and despite your son's adjustment in other areas of his life, obviously -- as he ...
Why would many mothers in Europe allow a father to see his daughter that was a result of a one night stand5/6/2010
  Q: Why would many mothers in Europe allow a father to see his daughter that was a result of a one night ...
  A: Children benefit in several ways from mothers and fathers working together and supporting each other ...
What does this tell you about the man who has set up this website?5/5/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about the man who has set up this website? He has no children, has never ...
  A: Just because he doesn't like American women doesn't mean he couldn't be a good husband and a good ...
Why would an American mother do this when her husband is the better parent?5/4/2010
  Q: Why would many Europeans like my father go back to Europe, when a mother does this, because he does ...
  A: The nice thing about the U.S. and most western nations is that they are democratic with lots of ...
Why are American man more likely to allow mother5/4/2010
  Q: Why are American man more likely to allow mother to move with there children out of state or even to ...
  A: It's not my experience with American men that they approve or allow the mother of their children to ...
Why would many mothers in Europe allow a father to see his daughter that was a result of a one night stand5/4/2010
  Q: Why would many mothers in Europe allow a father to see his daughter that was a result of a one night ...
  A: If it is true that most mothers in Europe allow their children to see their fathers even if those ...
Why would an American mother do this when her husband is the better parent?5/4/2010
  Q: Why would many Europeans like my father go back to Europe, when a mother does this, because he does ...
  A: Many American women are concerned about getting child support. Many women think they should decide ...
Why is this the case?5/3/2010
  Q: The US Department of State say that filing parental abduction charges against the Japanese mother, ...
  A: These situations are more complicated than they often appear. It is very likely that she knows more ...
Why is this the case?5/3/2010
  Q: Why would an American mother say that this is a very mean thing to do to a mother? The mother says ...
  A: There are many reasons why one parent may hate another. A reason could be related to how the other ...
What does this tell you about a smuggler5/3/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a smuggler, who smuggles drugs and or people from Mexico to the United ...
  A: A person who makes a living by smuggling had best be a good driver or he will always arouse ...
Why would many Americans have trouble understanding me, because I only speak proper English5/3/2010
  Q: Why would many Americans have trouble understanding me, because I only speak proper English, the ...
  A: Most Americans, it seems to me, do not speak proper English. There is so much slang and so many ...
Why is this the case?5/2/2010
  Q: Why would an American mother say that this is a very mean thing to do to a mother? The mother says ...
  A: Many mothers believe that only mothers are competent and adequate parents. Of course, that's ...
Why is this the case?5/2/2010
  Q: The US Department of State say that filing parental abduction charges against the Japanese mother, ...
  A: I agree that often when people try to solve interpersonal problems through the criminal justice ...
sex play between 6 year old son and 4 and 3 year old cousins4/29/2010
  Q: my 6 yr old son and his 3 and 4 year old female cousins were found engaging in sexual play by the ...
  A: You obviously have a much better perspective on the sexual curiosity of young children than your ...
What does this tell you about a mother?4/28/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a mother? She knows that the father of her baby daughter only had sex ...
  A: This tells me that this woman is willing to share custody and co-parenting duties. The mother and ...
Are American women less likely to divorce a European who is a good father?4/28/2010
  Q: Are American women less likely to divorce a European who is a good father? The mother was told by ...
  A: I have no idea if there is any research about American women and divorce, related to the ancestry or ...
* year old son stealing and lying4/27/2010
  Q: My son is 8 years old. He is a very bright little boy and does well in school especially math. At a ...
  A: Yes, it is acting out. It may be related to past or present events and circumstances in his life, ...
Why would a American man be more likely to allow his ex wife4/26/2010
  Q: Why would a American man be more likely to allow his ex wife (a Spanish national) to move Spain with ...
  A: I don't know if an American man is more -- or less -- likely to allow the mother of his child to ...
Why would parents in international child custody dispute still be fighting like cats and dogs when4/26/2010
  Q: Why would parents in international child custody dispute still be fighting like cats and dogs when ...
  A: Parents can engage in an on-going, conflicted, and bitter relationship for years or even decades. ...
17 year old son with no friends4/26/2010
  Q: We adopted our son when he was 8 after he was removed from his parents who all but abandoned him. ...
  A: Your son seems to be functioning quite well. He has overcome neglect and abandonment of the past to ...
What does this tell you about an unwed British mother?4/25/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about an unwed British mother? She has two daughters with her boyfriends ...
  A: I think this says that this British woman is a good person and is less interested in child support ...
My daughter's friend's dad4/23/2010
  Q: My 14-year-old daughter recently started hanging out with a group of girls almost every day after ...
  A: Yes, I agree you made the right decision. Getting all the information helps -- both you and your ...
My daughter's friend's dad4/22/2010
  Q: My 14-year-old daughter recently started hanging out with a group of girls almost every day after ...
  A: You are doing the right thing by being protective of your daughter. I always recommend that parents ...
Why is this the case with the American father & daughter4/21/2010
  Q: A daughter (US citizen) now an adult wants to return to the US, but can’t as long as there is an ...
  A: As you indicate, the young woman can return to the U.S., but apparently her mother cannot. However, ...
Why is this the case with American women4/21/2010
  Q: Only marry foreign women. "Now you understand why US men prefer foreign born women: THEY TREAT US ...
  A: Yes, different cultures raise girls differently. I still think a "good marriage" comes about when ...
Why is this the case with American women4/18/2010
  Q: Only marry foreign women. "Now you understand why US men prefer foreign born women: THEY TREAT US ...
  A: Assuming your premise to be true, then the question is: why are most American women different from ...
Why is this the case with American women4/17/2010
  Q: Only marry foreign women. "Now you understand why US men prefer foreign born women: THEY TREAT US ...
  A: A lot of men must feel this same way. However, I believe it is very dangerous to stereotype all ...
What does this tell you about a man who has five children with four different women if all five were planed by him but not necessary by the mothers4/16/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man who has five children with four different women if all five were ...
  A: I don't know if the countries you named are the only countries in the world with nasty divorces. But ...
Why are there many,American women that want a man to pay 18 years of court ordered child support, and still try and prevent him from seeing his children4/15/2010
  Q: Why are there many,American women that want a man to pay 18 years of court ordered child support, ...
  A: Just as there are many women who are bitter, angry, and resentful after a divorce, there are many ...
What does this tell you about a man4/15/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? He has two daughters that live with him as a result of a ...
  A: Everyone has the right to their opinion and their point of view. If he dislikes American women, that ...
living arrangements4/15/2010
  Q: I need to decide if I should rent my ex-husbands house from him. These are my issues. I have 2 ...
  A: I assume you know the answer to this question -- at least in part. There is no doubt that living ...
What to does this tell you about a man?4/14/2010
  Q: What to does this tell you about a man? He has six children with three unwed mothers. All three ...
  A: All this tells me is that this man likes to have relationships with several women and that he wants ...
What does this tell you about a man who has five children with four different women if all five were planed by him but not necessary by the mothers4/14/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man who has five children with four different women if all five were ...
  A: Maybe this man is staging a so-called "marriage strike." Or maybe he likes short-term relationships ...
What does this tell you about a man?4/14/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? He has a son, but regrets having him, because his wife had ...
  A: I wonder if this man is looking at his role in what may have led his wife to leave him and take his ...
approach to counsel son4/14/2010
  Q: My son is 19 and studying engineering, staying in a hostel. He is very intelligent and did well in ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear that your son is having a difficult time adjusting to the freedom of college. Many ...
What does this tell you about a man4/13/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? He has two daughters that live with him as a result of a ...
  A: Being aware of divorce laws, child custody policies, and child support laws is a good thing. Basing ...
What does this tell you about a man4/11/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? He has two daughters that live with him as a result of a ...
  A: This man probably has serious problems with relationships, especially with women. He may use what he ...
How can a mother determine if her two or three year old daughter wants to live with her father or her mother4/10/2010
  Q: How can a mother determine if her two or three year old daughter wants to live with her father or ...
  A: It doesn't matter what a young child wants. A young child's wants and desires are likely to change ...
Would a mother follow her brothers adive by consulting international divorce lawyer4/10/2010
  Q: What should a mother do, when her husband want to move to California, from Michigan, and her brother ...
  A: It's always important to be well informed. And with the fairly high divorce rate, it is certainly ...
What does this tell you about a murderer4/9/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a murderer? Police find a dead body, & the medical examiner ...
  A: I don't know what factors criminal profilers may take into consideration, but I would guess that the ...
Would two halve sister, same father, different mothers, bond the same as two sisters who have the same mother & father4/8/2010
  Q: Would two halve sister, same father, different mothers, bond the same as two sisters who have the ...
  A: That is certainly possible given the circumstances you mention. However, biological siblings don't ...
What does this tell you about a ten-year-old girl?4/8/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a ten-year-old girl? She is an expert on American family law, child ...
  A: It tells me that she is a very bright 10-year-old and she knows international law. I suppose having ...
13 Year Old Son Playing Truth or Dare with 10 year old niece4/8/2010
  Q: I am a single mother of one 13 year old son. My son's father has not been in his life at all since ...
  A: You and your sister are going to view things differently. She seems unlikely to come around to your ...
7yo hitting himself4/7/2010
  Q: We just received a note from my 7 yo's teacher that he got very upset in school when he thought a ...
  A: It sounds like your son has a strong sense of what is right and what is wrong. Many children about ...
A 13 yo boy that lies and steals!4/6/2010
  Q: Have you been on this website for a long time. I believe you helped me out with a problem I had ...
  A: I don't think the answer is to keep adding negative consequences. Of course, with teens, it's often ...
13 Year Old Son Playing Truth or Dare with 10 year old niece4/6/2010
  Q: I am a single mother of one 13 year old son. My son's father has not been in his life at all since ...
  A: What your son did is neither sick nor unusual. It is not much different than a younger child playing ...
Lies4/5/2010
  Q: How to deal with lies ? What can be done to help a 14 years old understand that lies kill trust .. ...
  A: You seem to be on the right track in terms of helping a teenager learn the negative effect of lying. ...
5-year old and cousin sexual instrest4/2/2010
  Q: My five year old nephew was caught licking the privates of his 4 year-old cousin who is also a boy. ...
  A: This incident you described probably falls in the area of normal childhood body and sexual ...
11 almost 12 yr. old daughter4/1/2010
  Q: I am the mother of an 11 year old little girl. I became engaged a year ago and about 6 months ago ...
  A: I don't know if it is a good idea or a bad idea for your daughter to live with her father for the ...
What does this tell you about a child3/31/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a child? She is born in the United States to American mother and a ...
  A: While both parents (if they are involved in a child's life) will have some influence on a child, ...
toddler wakes me up to nurse at night3/30/2010
  Q: My 28 month old daughter still nurses throughout the day but continues to wake me up throughout the ...
  A: I'm glad to hear my previous advice worked out for you. There is a simple answer to this question. ...
overprotective mom3/30/2010
  Q: I am a 14 year old girl, in the 9th grade. My parents are divorced and I live with my mom. She never ...
  A: Sorry to hear that you feel like you can't do anything. Parents are generally very protective of ...
What would social services do when they discover that a 10-year-old girl has a permanent tattoo on her body3/27/2010
  Q: What would social services do when they discover that a 10-year-old girl has a permanent tattoo on ...
  A: That's a good question. I have no idea as to whether social services or Child Protective Services ...
Why is this the case with man3/27/2010
  Q: Tough child support laws may deter single men from becoming fathers, study finds Steven Goldsmith ...
  A: This article clearly indicates that Sweden and the U.S. are different countries with different ...
overprotective parents3/27/2010
  Q: My parents are very overprotective. They don't let me sleepover, go to parties that are at night, or ...
  A: Maybe your parents are somewhat overprotective. But there are far more parents who don't protect ...
Would a man be a raciest, yes or no3/25/2010
  Q: Would a man be a raciest, who he only wants to marry a woman or have children with a woman who is ...
  A: There are many things which are normal. Being a racist means having hatred and a feeling of ...
Why do man consider their children there personal property, until they are 183/25/2010
  Q: Why do man consider their children there personal property, until they are 18, and would still want ...
  A: This young woman may still love her mother and may not want to see her prosecuted or hurt. She may ...
Juvenile diabetic with suspected border personality disorder3/25/2010
  Q: I am a concerned parent to a non-compliant diabetic who is 14 years old. He was diagnosed with ADHD, ...
  A: It is common for middle teens to think that they can get along without taking their medication. ...
Would a man be a raciest, yes or no3/25/2010
  Q: Would a man be a raciest, who he only wants to marry a woman or have children with a woman who is ...
  A: In a strict sense, I don't think this makes his man a racist. It depends on his attitude about ...
What does this tell you about a mother3/25/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a mother? She has two small children with her husband. Her husband ...
  A: This tends to suggest that this woman really wants what's best for her children and is willing to ...
Why is this the case with man3/25/2010
  Q: Tough child support laws may deter single men from becoming fathers, study finds Steven Goldsmith ...
  A: It doesn't seem to matter -- either in Sweden or the U.S. -- what the divorce rate is. People still ...
Would this child have trouble forming relationships with man later in life, yes or no3/24/2010
  Q: Would this child have trouble forming relationships with man later in life, yes or no? She has a ...
  A: It doesn't matter much what the circumstances are that keep men out of her life. Somehow the girl ...
Should we move to change her friends and behavior?3/24/2010
  Q: My Daughter is 16 years old and started cutting class and tardy several times a week after knowing ...
  A: Very rarely do adolescents wish to move to a new area and new school when they are in the middle of ...
Why do man consider their children there personal property, until they are 183/24/2010
  Q: Why do man consider their children there personal property, until they are 18, and would still want ...
  A: This is a case in which there were obviously serious problems between the mother and father before ...
Teen relationship issue3/22/2010
  Q: I'm wondering how much time is healthy for a 16 year old boy to spend with his girlfriend on a daily ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear about your son and his suicide attempt. Since he is in the hospital, I assume ...
How would a child feel toward her father3/22/2010
  Q: How would a child feel toward her father? She was told that she was born in a one-night stand with ...
  A: If this child has a good relationship with both her mother and father and feels loved by both of ...
overprotective parents3/22/2010
  Q: My parents are very overprotective. They don't let me sleepover, go to parties that are at night, or ...
  A: I'm sure you are a very responsible girl. You get excellent grades and I'm sure you would not do ...
Would this child have trouble forming relationships with man later in life, yes or no3/21/2010
  Q: Would this child have trouble forming relationships with man later in life, yes or no? She has a ...
  A: Girls need positive role models of both genders in their life. If a girl has a father or grandfather ...
Why is this the case with man3/21/2010
  Q: Tough child support laws may deter single men from becoming fathers, study finds Steven Goldsmith ...
  A: This is an interesting finding. Of course, it's a correlational study and in no way definitive, but ...
What does this tell you about3/21/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about American women? What does this about a father who plays this game ...
  A: There are different customs and different laws in different countries. However, just because he is ...
12 year old hates my new husband3/21/2010
  Q: my 12 year old hates my new husband. She states it is too soon for me to be remarried. Her father ...
  A: Many stepchildren have difficulty accepting their stepparents. There are a variety of reasons for ...
What does this tell you about3/19/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about American women? What does this about a father who plays this game ...
  A: What does this say about a father? It says that he does not accept responsibility for paying to ...
Why would a American women complain3/19/2010
  Q: Why would a American women complain? She had sex with her boyfriend, and got pregnant. As soon as ...
  A: I suspect most people tend to see the customs and laws of their own country as fair and right. Most ...
What would happen when a 16-year-old pregnant girl is placed in foster care or youth detention center after she gives birth to her baby3/18/2010
  Q: What would happen when a 16-year-old pregnant girl is placed in foster care or youth detention ...
  A: Whether she is just in protective care or is a delinquent, I don't think there is any legal standing ...
How can a mother turn her daughter a small child against her biological father3/17/2010
  Q: How can a mother turn her daughter a small child against her biological father so she will hate her ...
  A: There is something called parental alienation syndrome. Parents intentionally turn their child ...
Why would an American man consider this the same as stealing personal property, from the US to Germany3/17/2010
  Q: Why would an American man consider this the same as stealing personal property, from the US to ...
  A: Maybe he really feels this way. If he wants to see his father in Germany, then that ought to be ...
What would happen when a 16-year-old pregnant girl is placed in foster care or youth detention center after she gives birth to her baby3/17/2010
  Q: What would happen when a 16-year-old pregnant girl is placed in foster care or youth detention ...
  A: There is a difference between foster care placement and placement in a youth detention center. If ...
Why would an American man consider this the same as stealing personal property, from the US to Germany3/16/2010
  Q: Why would an American man consider this the same as stealing personal property, from the US to ...
  A: I'm sure that all children want their fathers to treat them with respect. Whether a boy who says ...
Why would an American man consider this the same as stealing personal property, from the US to Germany3/15/2010
  Q: Why would an American man consider this the same as stealing personal property, from the US to ...
  A: I'm sure many American men would consider that this is unfair to them and their child. I don't know ...
Why would many American women think that this is wrong3/15/2010
  Q: Why would many American women think that this is wrong? A man has a little girl with local women in ...
  A: That's not what all American mothers care about. And not all mothers in the U.S. are just concerned ...
Why would many American women think that this is wrong3/14/2010
  Q: Why would many American women think that this is wrong? A man has a little girl with local women in ...
  A: Perhaps in this country mothers are preoccupied with receiving child support. And it may be that ...
Why would many American women think that this is wrong3/13/2010
  Q: Why would many American women think that this is wrong? A man has a little girl with local women in ...
  A: Many American women might think this is wrong because they are looking for a committed relationship ...
son's behavior3/12/2010
  Q: My nine year son is disrespecting his teachers (adults at school). When the teacher tells him to do ...
  A: I think you are likely on the right track with your last sentence. That is, perhaps instead of just ...
16-year old son and slothfulness3/9/2010
  Q: I have a 16 year old son who will not pick up after himself. His boxers and clothes are on his ...
  A: It sounds exactly like my son and my stepson when they were the same age! It was totally ...
20 years old son atitude3/8/2010
  Q: My son is 20 years old left a prestigious school came home and stayed about 2 months in his room and ...
  A: Your son has problems for which he should receive professional help. He is very bright and ...
Why is this the case3/6/2010
  Q: Why is this the case? More than 90 percent of man in the US & Germany pay child support on time if ...
  A: When there are disputes between the mother and father, and when men feel like they don't have ...
Why would a man take his baby daughter like a piece of personal property?3/6/2010
  Q: Why would a man take his baby daughter like a piece of personal property from the US with out her ...
  A: It may reflect that this man is sold on the Japanese culture and the traditional Japanese ways of ...
Why would a man take his baby daughter like a piece of personal property?3/3/2010
  Q: Why would a man take his baby daughter like a piece of personal property from the US with out her ...
  A: One reason a man would do this is because he looks at the child as his possession and he is more ...
What should an American mother do in this case?3/2/2010
  Q: What should an American mother do in this case? She has a mother in a one night stand, and want her ...
  A: It sounds like working out an out-of-court settlement is the best bet. If the father has a good ...
Would a ten-year-old girl be able to understand this if both parrents try and explian this to her3/2/2010
  Q: Would a ten-year-old girl be able to understand US child custody laws, international child custody ...
  A: Some children might complain; others might not. If a child enjoyed learning new subjects, they my ...
brothers fist fighting3/2/2010
  Q: Is it normal for my teenage sons (15 and 16) to get so angry that they punch, throw chairs at each ...
  A: Okay, so they basically like each other; they just have squabbles at times, which sometimes go too ...
unification3/2/2010
  Q: Do you know anything about unification therapy and how the process works? It is not court ordered ...
  A: Perhaps you won't find a counselor in your area who can help. But at least you can continue to use ...
How would a child feel when her mother & school teacher tells her this3/1/2010
  Q: How would a child feel when her mother tells her, that she is not planed and will not reveal her ...
  A: I don't think it makes a child feel good to be told she wasn't wanted and was an accident. Being ...
6 year old bad behavior2/28/2010
  Q: Help my six year old has started hitting other kids in school. He has had bad behavior in school ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling so guilty over your son's behavior at school. His behavior ...
Would a ten-year-old girl be able to understand this if both parrents try and explian this to her2/28/2010
  Q: Would a ten-year-old girl be able to understand US child custody laws, international child custody ...
  A: Maybe a very bright 10-year-old could understand some of the divorce and custody laws, but I'm sure ...
How would a ten-year-old girl feel toward her parents2/27/2010
  Q: How would a ten-year-old girl feel toward her parents? She was born in the United States and has ...
  A: A 10-year-old girl may tend to feel resentment at one or both parents because she's been denied ...
Why would American man be upset at this2/27/2010
  Q: Why would American man be upset at this? The mother an American citizen gave birth to a daughter in ...
  A: An American man might be upset because he wants to know about his child and be involved in his ...
brothers fist fighting2/27/2010
  Q: Is it normal for my teenage sons (15 and 16) to get so angry that they punch, throw chairs at each ...
  A: You didn't indicate how long your sons have been physically fighting with each other. Nor did you ...
What does this tell you about this mother and this father2/27/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about this mother and this father? She has two small daughters with a man ...
  A: Both the man and the woman may be thinking about what will be best for the children. While sad, ...
How would a 10-year-old girl feel toward her parents?2/27/2010
  Q: How would a 10-year-old girl feel toward her parents? Her mother is divorcing her father in exchange ...
  A: A young child should not be put in the position of deciding whether to see one of her parents or ...
Michael my son2/27/2010
  Q: Ever since he lost his father and even before we have had so much trouble trying to help this kid. ...
  A: You haven't told me much about your son. But from what little you shared, I'm guessing that he has ...
How would a little girl feel that the father of her half sister would, not see her or spend time with her?2/27/2010
  Q: How would a little girl feel that the father of her half sister would, not see her or spend time ...
  A: This really depends on who she identifies as her father. If the person she sees as her father ...
adolescent mood disorder NOS / conduct disorder2/26/2010
  Q: My son is 14. Since the age of 2 we knew there was something "wrong." He would get up in the middle ...
  A: It certainly sounds like your son has seen lots of therapists, has been given several diagnoses, has ...
teen kids2/26/2010
  Q: I have a 15yr old son who was always a good boy who kept to himself. He never missbehaved and loved ...
  A: You have a lot more power and influence than you think. But you're not using it effectively. You're ...
What does this tell you about American women2/26/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about American women? She has sex with a German man and has a daughter. ...
  A: It sounds like this woman is very reasonable and retains a positive relationship with the father of ...
What does this tell you about a man2/26/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a European father? He went back to Europe to avoid paying child ...
  A: The man perhaps would have been generous in many ways. And perhaps the woman was not thinking of ...
relocating my 14 year old daughter2/26/2010
  Q: i moved out of a city to a quite little town .nice apt good schools my daughter hates it and wants ...
  A: Did you really think that a 14-year-old would readily give up her friends, her school, and the life ...
How would a 10-year-old girl feel toward her parents?2/26/2010
  Q: How would a 10-year-old girl feel toward her parents? Her mother is divorcing her father in exchange ...
  A: If this girl loves both parents, she may be unhappy because there will be a divorce and she will ...
Teenage son with manipulative girlfriend2/25/2010
  Q: Our son is 15 years old and has been dating the same girl for approximately a year now. Since he ...
  A: It's clear that this relationship is not a healthy one for your son. He seems to see this, ...
How would a little girl feel that the father of her half sister would, not see her or spend time with her?2/23/2010
  Q: How would a little girl feel that the father of her half sister would, not see her or spend time ...
  A: That girl, seeing her half-sister enjoying a good relationship with her father, is likely to feel ...
What does this tell you about a man?2/22/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? Has two daughters with two different women that live with him. ...
  A: This tells me this man wanted children. And he wanted children more than he wanted relationships ...
Why is this the case with the United States2/19/2010
  Q: Why is it very common that father’s flea the United States, to avoid paying child support, for ...
  A: As I've indicated, Europeans who want to avoid the child support laws in the US may choose not to ...
13 yr old daughter2/18/2010
  Q: I am at my wits ends. My 13 yr old daughter started grade 8 this past yr and is rebelling against ...
  A: Young adolescents often have various issues that have an impact on their lives, both in school and ...
Step Children and Discipline2/17/2010
  Q: wow! Last March my 4 stepchildren came to live with us (ages now 15.7, 14, 12 and 8). My husband and ...
  A: Forget trying to discipline her. That's not your job. It's her father's job. But, to go back to the ...
What does this tell you about a mother2/16/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a mother? She knows that the only reason why this man had sex with ...
  A: It may say that this mother has accepted the reasons for the sexual relationship and is not angry ...
What does this tell you about a mother2/16/2010
  Q: Why would a women tell this to the father of her daughter, he won\'t obey the laws of the United ...
  A: She would say this because she is angry about not having her expectations met for receiving child ...
20 year old who acts 13 .. don't know what to do2/16/2010
  Q: My 20 (almost 21 year old) niece moved in with me in Oct because of family issues. Both her parents ...
  A: You didn't tell me what her experiences were for the past 7 years after her parents died and before ...
Why is this the case with the United States2/16/2010
  Q: Why is it very common that father’s flea the United States, to avoid paying child support, for ...
  A: It may be a better system in Europe and other countries. However, in the US the approach to many ...
What does this tell you about a man2/16/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? He has three children with three different mothers and has ...
  A: This suggests that this man doesn't want legal commitments (such as marriage) to the women he has ...
Why would an American mother have her ex husband2/16/2010
  Q: Why would an American mother have her ex husband arrested for not paying child support, if he ever ...
  A: Mothers who expect child support can be very vindictive about not receiving support. Our laws tend ...
teenage attitude problem2/16/2010
  Q: as a mother of 17 year old boy I am desperately looking for help.He cannot organize,manage time and ...
  A: I know it's very difficult to live with an adolescent who has the kinds of problems you describe. ...
lying2/12/2010
  Q: We are at our wits ends as to how to correct our 8 year old daughter's habitual lying. If I had to ...
  A: Children of various ages lie, but most don't do it habitually. However, a child with ADHD may lie ...
Father not disciplining 15 year old Daughter2/11/2010
  Q: My partner and I have been together for 3 years, we have a house together. I have 3 boys aged 6, 9 ...
  A: Then you may have to go on your own. While it won't be as effective as the two of you going ...
How to help my 13 year old daughter2/10/2010
  Q: We withdrew my daughter from her school that she had been going to all her life because she got ...
  A: Punishment is NOT the answer. Your daughter already has been punished by having to leave her ...
Father not disciplining 15 year old Daughter2/9/2010
  Q: My partner and I have been together for 3 years, we have a house together. I have 3 boys aged 6, 9 ...
  A: Blending families is not easy. One of the things that makes bringing two families together is that ...
Teen hates high school2/9/2010
  Q: My son is currently a 15 year old freshman in high school and he hates it. He does not hate the ...
  A: It is fairly common for 15-year-old freshman to have peer relationship and identity problems. These ...
13 yr old son2/9/2010
  Q: I just found out my son smoke marijuana for the first time. Luckily I did find out. I'm struggling ...
  A: Teens will try marijuana -- and other things. And even if you've talked to them about drugs (or ...
Son in this cult and it's worrying me...2/9/2010
  Q: I came home from work one night and found my 17-year-old son with a group of five or six other guys ...
  A: It may seem a bit strange or odd, but he could be a member of a far worse cult. I suspect that if ...
Son's worries... causing us extreme worry too!2/9/2010
  Q: I am a 45-year-old woman with a 16-year-old son and 19-year-old daughter, I've been married for 22 ...
  A: Just because he says it's not a sexual identity/sexuality issue, doesn't mean that is so. He is only ...
Why are there American women that would rather have $15.00 in child support2/7/2010
  Q: Why are there American women that would rather have $15.00 in child support that is court ordered ...
  A: When it comes to why people do certain things after having a child with a person and then the ...
What does this tell you about a man2/7/2010
  Q: The father says that that unborn child has no right to live, if the mother is not willing to give ...
  A: I think this information is valuable to know for people involved in cross-cultural or cross-country ...
How would a little girl feel when she is told that2/7/2010
  Q: How would a little girl feel when she is told that her father a naturalized US citizen, went back to ...
  A: I think that if this man wants to live in Spain and does not want to deal with American courts, then ...
How to help without enabling bad behavior2/6/2010
  Q: My son 19yr old son quit drinking 1yr ago after several life consequences made him hit rock bottom. ...
  A: At this point there is no reason to believe your son can sustain any change. Therefore, I think he ...
How would a little girl feel when she is told that2/5/2010
  Q: How would a little girl feel when she is told that her father a naturalized US citizen, went back to ...
  A: I think the simple answer is that in America women have certain expectations of men who father a ...
8 year old lying2/5/2010
  Q: My 8 year old is lying to everyone. She recently had to write an autobiography for class, and made ...
  A: Since you asked for my opinion, here it is. Let it go. When children are eight and in elementary ...
How do I bring up important topics I found in my daughter's journal.2/5/2010
  Q: I went through a divorce about two years ago, separated for over 3. I have 3 kids, 17, 14, 12. My ...
  A: If you're in family counseling, it might be brought up in a counseling session with you, your ...
8 year old lying2/4/2010
  Q: My 8 year old is lying to everyone. She recently had to write an autobiography for class, and made ...
  A: Let's face facts: Almost everybody lies. And so do children. Much of the time children lie to avoid ...
What does this tell you about a man2/3/2010
  Q: The father says that that unborn child has no right to live, if the mother is not willing to give ...
  A: I think what this says is that this man presumes there will be disagreements about his role in the ...
What does this tell you about a mother2/3/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a mother? She killed her ex husband the father of her daughter in the ...
  A: This tells me that this woman had a very limited idea of what her options were. She, perhaps like a ...
8 year old lying2/3/2010
  Q: My 8 year old is lying to everyone. She recently had to write an autobiography for class, and made ...
  A: I'd like to know more about other lies she's told or stories she's made up. When she says she ...
Son thinks he's fat... and other issues2/1/2010
  Q: Last Saturday, our 16 yr old son said to us he had something important to tell us. We asked him what ...
  A: This isn't really about him being fat. And the issue isn't going to go away just because a doctor ...
What does this tell you about a man?1/31/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? He has no children and has never been married. This man has a ...
  A: Of course, no one wants to have to contend with a court when that court is biased against him. ...
What does this tell you about a man?1/30/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? He has no children and has never been married. This man has a ...
  A: It tells me that the man wants to do things on his terms and does not agree with the laws of certain ...
Mum1/29/2010
  Q: I'm not entirely sure this is a problem.. more of a confused thing i guess. My parents split when ...
  A: What I'm suggesting is not that you go around asking people to be your mum. However, if there is an ...
Embarrassing photos around school1/28/2010
  Q: My little sister is 17 and is very concerned about fitting in at school and being accepted. ...
  A: Obviously this incident has been embarrassing for your sister. And she sounds like a very sensitive ...
My son's crisp addiction... worrying me1/27/2010
  Q: Recently when cleaning the family home, I was stunned by what I found in my 16-year-old son's room - ...
  A: Your son seems to have many fine qualities. Obviously, being temporarily addicted to crisps is not ...
15 yr old son forced to walk around school in underwear due to bullies1/27/2010
  Q: On Monday I received a phone call off the school principal informing me that my 16-year-old son had ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear that your son is the victim of malicious bullying at school. Often school ...
Mum1/27/2010
  Q: I'm not entirely sure this is a problem.. more of a confused thing i guess. My parents split when ...
  A: This is an important -- and common -- problem. However, I think you're looking at it in a way that's ...
15 yr old son stealing in school...1/27/2010
  Q: I got a phone call off my 15-year-old son's headmaster last week saying that he'd been stealing off ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear about your son stealing at school and the anxiety this is causing you and his ...
How do I tell my 16 yr old son his father is not his biological father?1/25/2010
  Q: I'm 42, and divorced, with a 16-year-old son and 15-year-old son. I divorced my husband back in ...
  A: I usually advocate telling a child about their biological parents as soon as possible. The longer ...
Parents say I have no motivation/ambition1/23/2010
  Q: For some time now my parents have been getting after me about not being motivated to do anything. I ...
  A: Parents love motivated teenagers. But most parents of teens I know think their teens ought to be ...
My 12yrs...1/22/2010
  Q: I'm utterly lost when it comes to my 12yrs old daughter, who might I add will be 13 in afew short ...
  A: Ask around for the names of therapists who work with children and adolescents. Your pediatrician may ...
Parents and dating1/22/2010
  Q: Windell, My name is Renee and I'm fifteen years old. I was referred to you from teen dating expert ...
  A: Whenever you're in a standoff with parents, it's probably a good strategy to seek a compromise. As ...
tv in teenagers room1/21/2010
  Q: My 14 yr old has a tv in his room on which he plays video games and watches television. We set ...
  A: When teenagers abuse privileges, then those privileges must be curtailed. Having a computer or a TV ...
My 12yrs...1/19/2010
  Q: I'm utterly lost when it comes to my 12yrs old daughter, who might I add will be 13 in afew short ...
  A: It might not be a bad idea to take her to a therapist skilled in working with impulsive teens. It ...
What does this tell you about a man1/17/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? An American women wants to have sex with him and he says no ...
  A: Yes, there are horror stories from family courts and there are men who end up losing time with their ...
What does this tell you about a man1/17/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? An American women wants to have sex with him and he says no ...
  A: It tells me that the man is concerned about the consequences of fathering a child. This is a ...
How can I improve my son's behavior?1/16/2010
  Q: My son is nearly 15 years old and is very unappreciative of the lifestyle my husband and I have been ...
  A: There are many teens who develop a rebellious attitude about school. Often, I think, there are a ...
help with blended family1/14/2010
  Q: been together for about five years, she has a daughter 16 and a son 13, I have a daughter 22 that is ...
  A: Discipline can become a serious issue in blended families. Inevitably, parents come from different ...
Why is this case1/14/2010
  Q: 2001 panel of the Survey of Income and Program Participation (SIPP) to examine whether the strength ...
  A: Population growth is a complex issue (as are most issues in the world). There's been a declining ...
granddaughter defient1/14/2010
  Q: . mr.J. Windell My granddaughter has been lying, sneaking out at night, engaging in inappropriate ...
  A: I agree both this girl and her father need to be in therapy. The main reason for therapy is that the ...
what do i do1/13/2010
  Q: Hello I have a 15 yr old boy that is adhd/odd and i am telling you i am at witts end I can not ...
  A: I know it's tough dealing with a teen who is impulsive, has a short attention span, and may also be ...
Discipline - Therapy1/13/2010
  Q: I don't know where to begin. My 15 year old sophomore daughter has been struggling with a couple of ...
  A: I think you should be concerned about her being punished all the time. If you think that, you can be ...
granddaughter defient1/11/2010
  Q: . mr.J. Windell My granddaughter has been lying, sneaking out at night, engaging in inappropriate ...
  A: I agree with you. This is a family in crisis. We have a 15-year-old with behavior problems and a ...
What does this tell you about a mother1/9/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a mother? She has never married, and has four children with the same ...
  A: Yes, I think she could maintain a good relationship with the children. As they become teens and ...
What does this tell you about a mother1/9/2010
  Q: What does this tell you about a mother? She has never married, and has four children with the same ...
  A: It tells me she's not really interested in the parenting part of being a mother. She can spend short ...
Defiant Teenager1/7/2010
  Q: My daughter is 16 1/2 and is very defiant towards household rules and basically doing anything to ...
  A: Rarely does changing schools help, unless the teen suggests it or agrees they need to find new ...
Defiant Teenager1/6/2010
  Q: My daughter is 16 1/2 and is very defiant towards household rules and basically doing anything to ...
  A: Since you kicked her out, I think you have to live with the consequences -- at least in the short ...
step parenting teenage daughters1/6/2010
  Q: We are writing our question to you together to avoid getting a one-sided opinion. We are recently ...
  A: I really appreciate the fact that you are writing this together. That shows a strength in your ...
teenage friendship1/5/2010
  Q: We are a family of 5 with a 16 year old teenage son. He is the middle child with 2 sisters. He is ...
  A: Many middle teen boys (and a good many girls) are socially awkward. However, girls, generally, ...
What would 18 year old women try and find her mother’s relative’s, yes or no1/4/2010
  Q: What would 18 year old women do? Would she try and find her mother’s relative’s grand parents, ...
  A: I would say that if she has expressed an interest in learning more about her mother's side of her ...
What would 18 year old women do1/4/2010
  Q: What would 18 year old women do? What would 18 year old women do? She was told by her father that ...
  A: As long as she has no reason to question what her father told her, she may very well believe him. ...
What would 18 year old women do1/4/2010
  Q: What would 18 year old women do? Would she try and find her mother in Japan, and find out the truth ...
  A: Some 18-year-olds and young adults would want to know more about their other parent. They would try ...
Is this what man expet of women (there wife) in general1/1/2010
  Q: Italian man expect women (there wife) to take care of there husband the same way mother’s take care ...
  A: Is yourDo all men expect to be taken care of and any woman who does not take care of them they will ...
Further to my previous question....Son hates Father1/1/2010
  Q: old Son that refuses communication with his Father,(my Husband). I totally agree that counselling is ...
  A: Of course, it's possible that your son will wake up and change. The odds of that, though, are likely ...
Son's disrespect for Father12/29/2009
  Q: For the last year-and-a half my just turned, 17 year old Son has refused any communication at all ...
  A: This is a situation that not only causes considerable tension in the family but also places you in ...
Would a little girl be willing to see her uncle (mother’s brother) every week just to make him happy12/27/2009
  Q: Would a little girl be willing to see her uncle (mother’s brother) every week just to make him ...
  A: I don't think a girl would see an uncle just to make him happy until she was much older and could ...
Why is this case with children?12/27/2009
  Q: Why is this case with children? You’re not doing your child any favors by keeping her from seeing ...
  A: If both parents are happy with the arrangement and are not fighting with each other about it, then ...
Do you think that this child will know the truth in the next few days yes or no12/27/2009
  Q: Do you think that this child will know the truth in the next few days yes or no? This is all over ...
  A: I don't think she should be encouraged to learn all the "facts" in the case until she is interested. ...
Why is this case with children?12/27/2009
  Q: Why is this case with children? You’re not doing your child any favors by keeping her from seeing ...
  A: I would say that is likely that she will love him. As long as she is not aware of the conflict ...
Why is this case with children?12/27/2009
  Q: Why is this case with children? You’re not doing your child any favors by keeping her from seeing ...
  A: That's right; children don't see it the same way as their parents do. Children want their parents to ...
Do you think that this child will know the truth in the next few days yes or no12/24/2009
  Q: Do you think that this child will know the truth in the next few days yes or no? This is all over ...
  A: Parents who are denied access to a child will often say they will never see their child again. This ...
Do you think that this child will know the truth in the next few days yes or no12/24/2009
  Q: Do you think that this child will know the truth in the next few days yes or no? This is all over ...
  A: There are two such cases going on right now (one involving a boy who had been taken to Brazil by his ...
netbook appropriate gift?12/23/2009
  Q: Is a netbook an appropriate Christmas gift for preteen girls?
  A: It depends. While all children need to learn to be proficient at using computers, whether a preteen ...
diffiult son12/22/2009
  Q: My third son (I have four) is now 21. At school his teachers noticed there was something a bit ...
  A: I would agree that your son is a bit different than your other children. I don't think putting ...
How would a child feel toward her father and her mother12/22/2009
  Q: How would a child feel toward her father and her mother? She is ten year old now. Her parents got ...
  A: How this child feels about her mother and father would depend on what she remembers and what she's ...
18 yr old son12/21/2009
  Q: what is wrong with him? He only thinks of himself. he does whatever he want to everyone elses stuff, ...
  A: Your son is a teenager. Need I say more! However, he is immature. Many teenagers are more like your ...
How would this child feel toward her mother12/19/2009
  Q: How would a child feel toward her mother when she is told that because her father refuses to pay ...
  A: This child may feel anger and resentment toward her mother. She may also feel the same things toward ...
Dating European women over American women12/19/2009
  Q: Dating European women over American women There is a culture difference between American and ...
  A: I don't think it requires much interviewing skill in order to determine what a woman expects of ...
Isolated Teen Boy12/19/2009
  Q: My son, 14, is a good student but has no social life. This concerns us as we believe friends are ...
  A: Of course, peer relationships and friendships are important in healthy development. But is he ...
Corporal punishment in public schools12/17/2009
  Q: What sort of psychological effects does corporal punishment have on a student? How effective is it ...
  A: Coporal punishment has the effect of making children feel degraded and more hostile and angry. While ...
Son may be addicted to marijuana12/16/2009
  Q: Our son is 18 years old. We recently withdrew him from college during the first semester. He ...
  A: There's no maybe about it. He is addicted to marijuana. And just because he says it's a joke to go ...
Stealing and Lying12/16/2009
  Q: My daughter is 10 years old and she is an impulsive liar. She has now escalated to lying. She stole ...
  A: Sorry to hear that your daughter is so frustrating for you. Since your daughter has been diagnosed ...
Fear of being corrected/shouted at12/16/2009
  Q: my name is Valerie and I am 20 years of age. My mom is a plain housewife. Before we used to have ...
  A: You're not going to change your mother. But you can change how you react to your mother. To begin, ...
ADHD12/15/2009
  Q: Why is it that Boys are more likely to have ADHD from mothers who smoked while pregnant than girls?
  A: I've never seen any research that shows that this is true, although it may be true. Boys may be ...
What does this tell about a man12/14/2009
  Q: How would you feel of this as an American? American mother has a baby daughter with a man from ...
  A: How do I feel about this? I feel sad for the daughter. In this situation you have a father who only ...
stealing and hording12/13/2009
  Q: My two daughters are 11 and 14. 14 has always complained that 11 takes her things. One day I ...
  A: I'm sure your daughter has no explanation for stealing or hoarding, or for failing to hand in ...
Teen son and behaviorial issues12/12/2009
  Q: We have a wonderful 17 year old son. until the past year, he has kept his grades up, he is active ...
  A: Your son is probably going through an adolescent adjustment period where he perhaps feels adrift in ...
Teen Smoking Pot12/11/2009
  Q: I have a similar situation as the previous post. My son is 13 years old. From 6-11 he was involved ...
  A: I suspect your son is reacting to his entrance into adolescence along with his reacting to the ...
Why is this the case with man12/3/2009
  Q: Why is it that if mothers interfere with a father’s relation ship with his daughter/son about 40 ...
  A: It doesn't matter how a co-parent acts or behaves. Usually conflict comes about because one person ...
Deliberately unsupportive?12/2/2009
  Q: You got recommended to me to help with this. I'm 16 and so is my new-ish boyfriend. This is my ...
  A: We know generally why parents try to put roadblocks in the way of their kids -- especially their ...
Why is this the case with children11/30/2009
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? What does this tell you about a man? He has a daughter that has ...
  A: If the child has lived with her father since she was a toddler, then this is all she remembers and ...
Why is this the case with man11/30/2009
  Q: Why is it that if mothers interfere with a father’s relation ship with his daughter/son about 40 ...
  A: It is probably the case that when there is conflict between co-parents that one way father can fight ...
age matters11/30/2009
  Q: Dating.....I'm an old fashioned mother of a 16 yr old daughter in 11th grade, she hasn't been in a ...
  A: I am all in favor of fairly strict controls on children and teens. And, for the most part, I am ...
teen daughter and "dating"11/30/2009
  Q: I'm a single mom of 4 teens. They are all very different, and my question if about my 13 year old ...
  A: You have a lot going on in your family. Fortunately, there is a therapist involved. I hope that you ...
Out of control 17 yr. old!!!11/30/2009
  Q: What are my options dealing with an out of control 17 year old in Michigan? Can I legally kick him ...
  A: In Michigan, minors become adults at age 17. Which is why he was released from juvenile probation. ...
open to some advice11/29/2009
  Q: Our son will be 20 years old in 2 weeks. He has graduated from high school and completed one year ...
  A: I support your telling him he has to move out and get a job. He has had several months of being ...
Frustrated step-mom on the verge of divorce11/24/2009
  Q: A quick history...I'm 33 years old and my husband and I have been married for 13 years...when we met ...
  A: Nothing you are feeling is unusual or wrong? Your feelings are your feelings. And why do you feel ...
parenting a 14 year old boy with ADHD,ODD,Bi-Polar11/24/2009
  Q: My son is 14 and he has ADHD,ODD,Bi-Polar, I have had several therapist and case managers and ...
  A: If you're just looking for residential treatment facilities, all you have to do is put "residential ...
Seeking Counseling Services11/23/2009
  Q: My ex-wife and I have a problem with a smart and talented 20 year-old who is on a self destructive ...
  A: Searches on the Internet will turn up many counseling services, clinics, and clinicians. But the ...
13 year old son11/23/2009
  Q: James, thank you for the previous responses. Please advise me on how to control and if necessary ...
  A: I think what you are asking is: How can we take a boy who is uninterested in academics and school ...
13-year-old boy's actions11/23/2009
  Q: My fiancee's son turned 13 in May. I am concerned about his behavior toward his mother: Whenever he ...
  A: If you consider the background here, you'll see that your fiancee has encouraged a lot of closeness ...
What does this tell you about a mother11/22/2009
  Q: What does this tell you about a mother? She has a little girl in a failed relationship and was not ...
  A: This tells me that this woman is very tolerant and truly believes, perhaps, that money is the root ...
parenting a 14 year old boy with ADHD,ODD,Bi-Polar11/21/2009
  Q: My son is 14 and he has ADHD,ODD,Bi-Polar, I have had several therapist and case managers and ...
  A: I know it is difficult and you seem to have him in a very good school. Your constant supervision of ...
Would this child live in a broken home yes or no11/21/2009
  Q: Would this child live in a broken home yes or no, because her parents do no live tougher? She lives ...
  A: children should not be told they live in a broken home. Homes (and families) are not broken if the ...
How old would a child have to be in order to understand the concept of a DNA test11/21/2009
  Q: How old would a child have to be in order to understand the concept of a DNA test? She was told ...
  A: A child as young as seven or eight could understand the concept of a test to show who was the ...
Teen male behavior11/20/2009
  Q: My son is 14, and I am concerned about his behavior around other male figures. I have two older ...
  A: What you seem to be saying is that you are concerned that your son may be gay. At this point I ...
Looking for help11/19/2009
  Q: Generally my 13 year old son is a good boy, he spent his time with family, visiting his grand and ...
  A: Moving your son to a different school might help him to start over. However, I would not be in ...
Looking for help11/18/2009
  Q: Generally my 13 year old son is a good boy, he spent his time with family, visiting his grand and ...
  A: You certainly want your child to be successful at school and I understand you want to apply measures ...
What does this tell you about a duel US/German national living in Germany11/18/2009
  Q: What does this tell you about a duel US/German national living in Germany? He has a little girl ...
  A: This tells me that this man is willing to spend money on lawyers and on finding ways to avoid paying ...
What does this tell you about an American mother?11/18/2009
  Q: What does this tell you about an American mother? She moved in with the father of her baby daughter ...
  A: You say that many American mothers tell the father of their child that if they want to avoid child ...
drained by 14yr old daughter11/16/2009
  Q: we have a 14yr old lovely daughter who is making us so sad, she is the oldest of three and has a ...
  A: I'm sure your daughter is probably normal and going through a difficult period in her life. Fourteen ...
What does this tell you about an American mother?11/16/2009
  Q: What does this tell you about an American mother? She moved in with the father of her baby daughter ...
  A: I suppose it tells a lot about both the mother and father if all the facts are correct. If she moved ...
Why would an American father do this11/16/2009
  Q: Why would an American father do this? An American man and this Japanese national wife visit Japan ...
  A: I'm sure both the mother and father believe their country to have the best and most just laws. Will ...
Why would an American father do this11/14/2009
  Q: Why would an American father do this? An American man and this Japanese national wife visit Japan ...
  A: I suppose the American father did this because he is angry at his wife and wants to punish her. ...
When and how do you call it quits?11/14/2009
  Q: My 17 yr old son is violent and verbally abusive, he does what he wants when he wants and no ...
  A: Sometimes you just have to admit there's nothing you can to do to help a child. That seems to be ...
What does this tell you about a man?11/14/2009
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? What does this tell you about a man? He fled back to his ...
  A: Just because someone doesn't like the system in family courts in the USA is not a sufficient reason ...
What my dad should be11/14/2009
  Q: I come from a divorced family. Tonight my dad and I (I'm 16) got into an argument. I felt as if he ...
  A: I don't know what you should expect of your father. What do YOU expect of him? I think most ...
Custody awarded11/12/2009
  Q: My husband is fighting for custody for his 14 year old daughter. The life style she is living is so ...
  A: I'm happy to hear that you are nervous about this. You should be. What I mean by this is that I ...
My teen saughter wasnts to live with her father11/11/2009
  Q: My 15 year old daughter wants to go live with her father full time. He has already convinced her 17 ...
  A: These become difficult situations. Almost all children of divorce want to go live with the ...
rude behaviour11/10/2009
  Q: My daughter is graduated two years and back and she is lazy. She keeps nagging me and my wife on ...
  A: Many adolescents upon graduating from school are unable to seemingly find themselves. These young ...
daughter and half-brothers11/8/2009
  Q: My 17 year old daughter began communicating with her half brothers several months ago after their ...
  A: You've offered compromises. You must set the boundares for what you can accept and what you can't. ...
Mother issue11/7/2009
  Q: Ok I have finally decided to ask for advice about my mom. Ok first of all I never ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear that things are so difficult for you with your mother. You may be right that she ...
Please Help11/6/2009
  Q: My 17 year old daughter made a friend with a girl over the summer. My husband (her stepdad) and I ...
  A: Sure, we'd like all of our adolescents to see their education as their first priority. However, it ...
What does this tell you about a man he is 35 years old at the time of her birth?11/5/2009
  Q: What does this tell you about a man he is 35 years old at the time of her birth? He has a daughter ...
  A: It says that he probably enjoys being a father to his daughter. He likes the freedom he has. And as ...
16 year old sons rebellious attitude11/5/2009
  Q: I have a 16 year old son who is driving me crazy. He does very well at school (he gets all a's and ...
  A: Your son may be driving you crazy, but I don't think he's real happy about himself either. And while ...
Problem with 12 year old step-daughter11/3/2009
  Q: My partner and his ex-wife went through a very nasty and protracted divorce. My partner went for ...
  A: There's obviously no doubt that you're right. Your partner's daughter needs a father to provide ...
12yr old11/1/2009
  Q: My wife and I are currently having trouble with our 12yr old daughter. Well she is my step daughter. ...
  A: You're welcome. She may be a girl that you and your wife may have to monitor regularly (weekly!# ...
What does this tell about a man11/1/2009
  Q: What does this tell about a man? A man who had a surgery so he can never get women pregnant and he ...
  A: This says that this man does not want any long-term relationships with women. He wants to have a ...
Would this man be a good man11/1/2009
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? He has five children with five different women and he does not ...
  A: There are all sorts of ways of measuring whether a man is a good man. The way he treats his children ...
What does this tell you about a man10/31/2009
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? He has five children with five different women and he does not ...
  A: The only things this description suggests is that this man doesn't really like commitments and ...
12yr old10/31/2009
  Q: My wife and I are currently having trouble with our 12yr old daughter. Well she is my step daughter. ...
  A: At her age, stress may come from physical changes related to adolescence, peer relationships, ...
12yr old10/31/2009
  Q: My wife and I are currently having trouble with our 12yr old daughter. Well she is my step daughter. ...
  A: You are probably right about being too pushy with her. My advice to most stepparents is to work on ...
Lying, personal finace mess!10/27/2009
  Q: Two weeks after my son turned eighteen he moved out on his own with no financial income.We let him ...
  A: You don't do anything. His grandparents are taking responsibility for him. If they choose to bail ...
If a single man wants to adopt a child in the USA, would it be difficult for him to fine a healthy child10/27/2009
  Q: If a single man wants to adopt a child in the USA, would it be difficult for him to fine a healthy ...
  A: I don't know how easy it would be to arrange a private adoption without going through an adoption ...
Parenting Help needed10/23/2009
  Q: My name is Dan and live in Colorado. My son is 14 and lives in KC with his mother. A brief history ...
  A: I suspect that some damage was done during the years you and his mother were in conflict. His being ...
Please Help10/22/2009
  Q: We as parents are well and truly at the end with our 15 year old. We have got to the point that we ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear about how much of a nightmare it is to live with your son. As to the missing ...
11 year old son who lies10/21/2009
  Q: I have an 11 year-old son who lies constantly, but mostly about school. His teacher this year said ...
  A: Yes, it can be frustrating when you have a child who lies. However, it is learned behavior and ...
Lying10/21/2009
  Q: My 14 year old son was supposed to join track. He was sick on & off for the first 2 weeks of school, ...
  A: I don't think lying is hereditary. I believe it is learned behavior. Adolescents often lie because ...
Why is this the case with both parrents, and the child is happy in Japan10/20/2009
  Q: Why would a Japanees mother keep her child in Japan when a US court orders her child to return to ...
  A: Why do people who were once in love become bitter and angery toward each other after they break up? ...
12 year old tearful to leave the house10/20/2009
  Q: My 12 year old daughter had her birthday about 3 weeks ago. Ever since she has been upset whenever ...
  A: Becoming an adolescent is a difficult time of adjustment for many children. Often children entering ...
I think someone needs help and I don't know what to do.10/19/2009
  Q: I have a bad feeling that this girl I know may be being emotionally abused by her parents. This girl ...
  A: It sounds like you are a good friend to her and you want to help her. Certainly, talking to an abuse ...
Why is this the case with both parrents, and the child is happy in Japan10/18/2009
  Q: Why would a Japanees mother keep her child in Japan when a US court orders her child to return to ...
  A: Again, my guess is that the parents are very angry and bitter toward each other and are willing to ...
How would a little girl feel toward her father when she is told this10/18/2009
  Q: How would a little girl feel toward her father when she is told this? She was told that if her ...
  A: A little girl's reaction to learning about such a prenuptial agreement would very likely be colored ...
Why is this the case with both parrents, and the child is happy in Japan10/18/2009
  Q: Why would a Japanees mother keep her child in Japan when a US court orders her child to return to ...
  A: A Japanese mother may prefer to raise her child in Japan despite a court order to return the child ...
mother/son10/18/2009
  Q: I have three children. Two boys, 23,16 and 1 girl, 12. I divorced their father 7 years ago. My ...
  A: Based on what you've written to me, I don't know why your sons are alienated from you. However, I ...
How old would a child need be to recognize that the dolphin is friendly in the Ocean to humans10/14/2009
  Q: If a child is drowning or in danger in the Ocean and there is a bottlenose dolphin is near by, how ...
  A: The answer depends on a number of factors. First, just talking about the cognitive abilities of a ...
Dating father of out of control teen boy10/14/2009
  Q: For the past year, I've been seriously dating a wonderful man, Tony, who I actually have known since ...
  A: So, you're feeling that if somehow you were a better person or more adequate as a person that Tony ...
Angry 18 year old son....10/13/2009
  Q: I have been dealing with my sons behavior for the last 3 years, it seems he has been on spiral ...
  A: Sorry to hear about all of the problems you've had with your son. I understand you don't want to ...
My teen is asking difficult questions.10/13/2009
  Q: Violet is 13, and when she got back from school yesterday, she asked me why she doesn't have ...
  A: She's been thinking about this! The key to this series of questions concerns love -- and love for ...
My teen is asking difficult questions.10/12/2009
  Q: Violet is 13, and when she got back from school yesterday, she asked me why she doesn't have ...
  A: It's always a good idea when young teens are asking questions about sensitive areas to answer the ...
lieing to get out of work10/12/2009
  Q: My son is 15. He has a problem lying. My husband and I are trying to understand why. sometimes it ...
  A: I think you generally have a pretty good understanding of why he lies. No need to spend time trying ...
my mother is going crazy. i dont know why?10/12/2009
  Q: i hate my mother. she is completely over protecting, she tries to make every decision for me and im ...
  A: Your mother might be overprotective. She may be overly concerned about keeping you safe. However, ...
What does this tell you about an 18 year old mother10/11/2009
  Q: What does this tell you about an 18 year old mother? She got pregnant with him at a party and he is ...
  A: Your question has to do with what we can determine about this young mother based on the facts you ...
boys 13 and 1010/10/2009
  Q: James. I have 2 sons aged 13 and 10 and both are very much like chalk and cheese, always bickering ...
  A: It is not easy raising children, particularly as they are entering the teenage years. Nor is it easy ...
help10/9/2009
  Q: i ave a 14 year old daughter who is getting worse every month , average tennager she is cheeky . but ...
  A: Your daughter does need help and you did the right thing by taking her to counseling before. ...
Would a ten year old be able to comprehend the following10/8/2009
  Q: Would a ten year old be able to comprehend the following http://international-divorce.com ...
  A: I'm sure most 10-year-olds would be completely lost in such discussions or instruction. A ...
How would a adult women feel when she hears this10/8/2009
  Q: How would an adult woman feel toward her father who abandoned her when she is a baby? Her father ...
  A: I suspect that most adult women, having contact with a father who abandoned them, and hearing that ...
8 yr spoiled boy10/7/2009
  Q: I am a parent to a smart, caring, friendly, loving boy. He is provided well for. WII, dirt bike, ...
  A: As to your major question of should you have him removed from the home for a week, I would say that ...
11 year old son10/7/2009
  Q: I have an 11 year old son who I can't handle being around. He is moody and leaves everything at his ...
  A: Eleven year olds are just starting adolescence and they may act somewhat strangely -- and they are ...
Dating father of out of control teen boy10/5/2009
  Q: For the past year, I've been seriously dating a wonderful man, Tony, who I actually have known since ...
  A: It sounds like Tony is really mad at you and he is using excuses to avoid confronting his real anger ...
Punishment does not fit the crime10/2/2009
  Q: I have a 13-year old daughter, straight A student, rarely gets into any trouble and is an all around ...
  A: The only way you are a pushover is by allowing your boyfriend to co-parent. This would not be ...
19 Year Old Son Not Motivated9/30/2009
  Q: I have a 19 year old son living at home. He graduated from high school in 2008, but didn't sign up ...
  A: I would say if you can work with him at home then you have a chance to provide some supervision and ...
16 year old daughter with attitude9/30/2009
  Q: I have a wonderful 16 year old daughter who has resently become defiant and disrespectful to her ...
  A: Many children have a sense of entitlement. Often this comes about because we gave them so much as ...
13 yr old twins that are disrespectful9/29/2009
  Q: I'am having a very difficult time with with my two daughters as far as direspect,poor language, ...
  A: I think what you are experiencing is related to them being adolescents. As teenagers strive for ...
Dating father of out of control teen boy9/29/2009
  Q: For the past year, I've been seriously dating a wonderful man, Tony, who I actually have known since ...
  A: Tony may have some unrealistic and, perhaps, inappropriate expectations for you in regards to his ...
Can you tell if a woman has this psychological profile9/27/2009
  Q: Can you tell if a woman has this psychological profile if you have a private investigator that can ...
  A: Of course, anyone can lie when being tested. But most personality tests are constructed to tell if a ...
husband obsessed with "checking up" on teen daughter9/25/2009
  Q: I need some help here! My husband and I have been married for almost 10 years, and I have a 16 1/2 ...
  A: Of course, one should have a healthy skepticism when it comes to teenagers and their behaviors. On ...
13 yr. old boy with very aggressive behavior and total disrespect9/24/2009
  Q: My son has been arrested two times in the past 2 yrs. Once for battery and the other for aggravated ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear about your son's problems. I'm glad to hear that he is seeing a counselor and is ...
19 year old step-daughter who will not listen !9/23/2009
  Q: Ok so my step daughter is 19 she recently moved in with us after we found out she was hooked on pain ...
  A: I'm sure you may be seen as the "bad guy" in her life for a long time. And, obviously, her mother ...
My Daughter Refuses Contact With Me9/22/2009
  Q: I can totally relate to this subject. I'm the mom of five. I have 4 grown sons and my youngest is my ...
  A: Many times following a divorce, children become alienated from one of their parents. Often, it is ...
Step-daughter's Stealing9/21/2009
  Q: From the beginning of my relationship with her mother, my 19 year old step-daughter has never ...
  A: Contrary to what would be intuitive reasoning, adolescents have much more difficulty accepting ...
our son - 16 yrs9/20/2009
  Q: Dan from AllExpert recommended us to contact you. Our 16 yr old son is a Jr. in high school. Prior ...
  A: My guess is that given your son's success prior to high school and his apparent motivation to do ...
Can you tell if a woman has this psychological profile9/20/2009
  Q: Can you tell if a woman has this psychological profile if you have a private investigator that can ...
  A: There are various adult personality tests that are widely used to assess an individual's personality ...
ideological differences9/19/2009
  Q: i had a friend.we met initially 3 yrs ago.we used to meet each other in a club.we became great pals ...
  A: If you told your parents about him, would they allow you to keep in touch with him if they knew the ...
Trades9/17/2009
  Q: James My son graduated from high school last year and since then he has been working as a delivery ...
  A: There are a great many job and career options that might fall in the broad category of trades that ...
My 14 year old son lies, sneaks, seems to not care about anything and is now skipping school9/17/2009
  Q: I have a 14 year old son who is a freshman in high school this year. He has had a long time history ...
  A: Since you indicate that your son has a long history of sneaking around and lying, I'm not sure ...
14 Year old aggressive behaviour9/17/2009
  Q: I have a 14 year old boy and he is currently showing major behavioural problems. He is aggressive, ...
  A: I'm sure you have been very frustrated with trying to help your son. What makes it more frustrating ...
Angermangment and Schooling9/17/2009
  Q: I am 23 years old and my girlfriend(20) is dealing with a very complex and hard situation within her ...
  A: Certainly you and his family have a right to be concerned about this boy. He does have serious ...
ideological differences9/16/2009
  Q: i had a friend.we met initially 3 yrs ago.we used to meet each other in a club.we became great pals ...
  A: It sounds like you have a real dilemma. You can't really tell your parents about the relationship ...
Please Help my son!!!9/16/2009
  Q: I have a son who’s turning 13 yrs in a few months.Had him when I was 19 I am 32 now. I have been a ...
  A: Perhaps you can let him know that if there was any way you could have him back living with you ...
6th year old granddaughter9/16/2009
  Q: My 6 year old granddaughter is in the 1st grade and exibitiing a behavior issue of wetting her ...
  A: Since this is a new problem and hasn't been going on that long, I would guess it has something to do ...
Problem with 15 yr old9/15/2009
  Q: I really need some advice on my ex- husbands soon to be step daughter. I am very worried for my ...
  A: Are you asking what rights you have? Or that the girl's mother and future stepfather have? If ...
Can you tell if a woman has this psychological profile9/15/2009
  Q: Can you tell if a woman has this psychological profile if you have a private investigator that can ...
  A: I suppose you could get a fairly good idea of what kind of personality profile a woman had if you ...
stealing9/15/2009
  Q: I have a 8 year old nephew who steals money... Usually it would just have been sweets and little ...
  A: While scoldings, reprimands, and punishments should be administered after he is caught stealing, ...
How can you tell if a women is materialistic9/15/2009
  Q: How can you tell if a women is materialistic? Materialistic describes a person who is markedly more ...
  A: I think this is fairly easy. See how she runs her life and what's important to her. What are her ...
Totally at a loss9/13/2009
  Q: We have a wonderful 16 year old daughter, junior in high school. She is taking 4 AP classes this ...
  A: It sounds to me like you have a happy, well-adjusted daughter who is not obsessed with academic ...
18 yr old son with no ambition9/12/2009
  Q: plz help me!My son is 18 has graduated but thats all. Doesn't have a job or drivers license, shows ...
  A: I'm afraid you are going to have to take some drastic steps to get him going. He has a comfortable ...
daughter is violent9/12/2009
  Q: I took my daughter to only 3 therapy sessions "just recently as I can't cope anymore" with ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear about the difficulties you are having with your 15-year-old daughter. ...
12 yr old friend urinating in public9/12/2009
  Q: My daughter has a friend who is also 12 years old. This friend often does things that are impulsive ...
  A: Peer pressure can work both ways. Obviously, your daughter is a kind, compassionate girl who wants ...
16 year old juvenile on probation9/11/2009
  Q: My husband's son lives with us. He has recently returned from Juvenile Boot Camp due to two ...
  A: Often when teenagers are on probation to a juvenile court, part of the probation order is that they ...
6 year olds fighting9/10/2009
  Q: My family and I are going camping next weekend with some friends and their children. On the camping ...
  A: I would suggest that you talk to your daughter and ask her what she could do to make sure the ...
14 yo girl9/10/2009
  Q: My husband and i adopted a newborn 14 years ago. After about a year , the marriage eneded when I ...
  A: It is difficult to predict if a teenager who wants to live with the other parent will come back or ...
Daughter joined to the hip with boyfriend9/9/2009
  Q: I have asked you a question before and I greatly appreciate the advice you've given. My 15 year old ...
  A: I don't think you should be concerned about being too strict. You've allowed her to have a boyfriend ...
12 yr old friend urinating in public9/8/2009
  Q: My daughter has a friend who is also 12 years old. This friend often does things that are impulsive ...
  A: Although you label this 12-year-old girl as a preteen, I think she's a teen -- and probably has been ...
My son's manipulative girlfriend9/7/2009
  Q: Windell, I am a single mother have and one son, 19 years old. Our relationship has been good and ...
  A: If you are paying for his education, then I would suggest that you start by telling him he has one ...
If you have sex with American women how can you tell if she will9/7/2009
  Q: If you have sex with American women how can you tell if she will? The same thing that will happen ...
  A: The problem with psychological evaluations, coming right out and asking a question, using drugs or a ...
If you have sex with American women how can you tell if she will9/6/2009
  Q: If you have sex with American women how can you tell if she will? The same thing that will happen ...
  A: There's no way to predict the answers to your questions if you don't know the woman very well. One ...
21yr old son who is lazy9/4/2009
  Q: I have a 21 yr old son from my first marriage. When his mother and I divorced, I got full custody ...
  A: Yes, I agree with you. Maybe having to shift for himself will help him to mature and to look at ...
13 yr old gets her way due to lack of parenting9/4/2009
  Q: My fiancee & I are 39 yrs old. He has a half sister w/mother in jail, father who is 62 yrs ...
  A: It really isn't your responsibility to parent this young teen. However, no one else is taking the ...
miserable time parenting my 13 year old daughter9/4/2009
  Q: Windell: You've helped me once before and I value and greatly appreciate your opinion and really ...
  A: It sounds like you have a delightful daughter and that you should enjoy your relationship with her. ...
My 13 year old is out of control9/3/2009
  Q: My 13 year old son learned what porn was this summer. He had watched it all summer without my ...
  A: Your son seems to have emotional problems and it is a good thing that he is seeing a therapist. You ...
behavioral issues9/2/2009
  Q: My son is 9 years old and is having anger/behavior issues. We have moved last year and now my ...
  A: I'm a bit confused about when your son is disrespectful and defiant and when he's an angel. If he's ...
Chatting in Class & Lack of Effort or Self Motivation9/2/2009
  Q: My 12 year old son is starting to get into trouble in class (primary school, Australia) due to ...
  A: Your son is obviously a very social and out-going boy, who enjoys talking to others. He is not doing ...
10 year old Granddaughter9/1/2009
  Q: My daughter and I are seeking suggestions on what methods of discipline are generally most effective ...
  A: Discipline for a child of any age and for a child of any kind of temperament should be a number of ...
18 yr. old daughter9/1/2009
  Q: My step-daughter recently returned home after not seeing us (my husband and I) for 3 years. We are ...
  A: I agree that there are various good reasons why a curfew is important. While it is difficult to ...
BI POLAR TEEN9/1/2009
  Q: WHAT CAN MY SISTER DO TO GET HELP FOR A 15YR OLD WHO HAS BEEN DAGNOSED AS BI POLAR AND HAS NOW BEGUN ...
  A: Your niece does need mental health services. And there are plenty of ways to locate professional ...
how to deal with a obsessed teen8/31/2009
  Q: Last year I got a job working with teens. It's been great so far but I'm a little worried a teenage ...
  A: When you work with people, particularly in certain kinds of mental health settings or clinics, you ...
My daughter won' seek help for depression8/31/2009
  Q: I have twin 18 year olds. I am writing about my daughter. She threatened suicide again today when I ...
  A: I think it is very difficult for parents to help bring about insight in their young adult children. ...
Please Help my son!!!8/27/2009
  Q: I have a son who’s turning 13 yrs in a few months.Had him when I was 19 I am 32 now. I have been ...
  A: F., It seems like you don't have much choice. You know what your son needs and you are able to ...
21yr old son who is lazy8/27/2009
  Q: I have a 21 yr old son from my first marriage. When his mother and I divorced, I got full custody ...
  A: There's nothing like poverty and desperation to help young adults realize they can't depend on ...
"baby" brother8/27/2009
  Q: My brother just turned 23, lives at home, no job, no car, no ambition and no respect. It's tearing ...
  A: It's very nice of you to want to help your brother and your parents. I suspect, however, that the ...
troubled teens8/26/2009
  Q: I am a 25 yo married female, my husband is 12 years older than I am, and we have a 2 yo girl and a 4 ...
  A: It does sound like the boys you have taken in are very troubled. Given their past with abuse and ...
teenage / parent attachment8/26/2009
  Q: I am trying to understand my stepsons (age 16) relationship with his father. He is very one on one ...
  A: There are two possibilities for why your stepson is so attached to his father. The first ...
18 year old daughter extremely moody8/25/2009
  Q: i wonder if you can help or advise me please. i have an 18 year old daughter that is extremely ...
  A: Your daughter does sound like she is depressed and unhappy. Of course, there could be many reasons ...
18 year old daughter extremely moody8/23/2009
  Q: i wonder if you can help or advise me please. i have an 18 year old daughter that is extremely ...
  A: It's hard to say, based on the information you've given me, whether your daughter is acting like a ...
17 yr old daughter8/23/2009
  Q: I need some advice on how to handle my daughter's COMPLETE lack of intellectual curiosity. She is a ...
  A: Not everybody is an intellectual. But I'm sure this is frustrating for you since you and your ...
Losing control over a young adults life8/21/2009
  Q: This issue deals with a young adult, recently a teen, but there do not seem to be any categories ...
  A: It sounds like you and your husband have done so much to help her and make sure she is getting an ...
9 yr old son says he is depressed and hates his life8/17/2009
  Q: My 9 yr old son admitted to me today that at times he hates his life so much that he thought about ...
  A: Your son might be very melodramatic, however, he might also be depressed and suicidal. It's not ...
19 year old8/16/2009
  Q: My daughter just turned 19, we have just found out see is seeing a 35 year old man. It has just came ...
  A: You probably have no rights to stop this relationship. In most states, by the age of 18, children ...
Sisters8/14/2009
  Q: Well hello. I'm only 18 years old but I feel as if I am raising my 16 year own sister. Even though I ...
  A: It's often not easy raising a 16-year-old. It's really very difficult if you are an older sibling ...
motivate8/13/2009
  Q: my 16 year old son made the high school soccer team the last two years except this year. He did not ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear that your son did not make varsity. I'm sure he is very disappointed and sad. My ...
My 16year old is abusive8/12/2009
  Q: My Husband has had relationship issues for the last year with my daughter. My daughter refused to ...
  A: I don't think the answer is for him to leave. It might ease some tensions immediately, but it's not ...
Son's manipulative girlfriend8/12/2009
  Q: My son is 26 years old. My husband and I live in Pennsylvania; our son lives in Florida in our ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear about the problems between you and your son, and between you and his girlfriend ...
18 year old son does not show any respect for us8/8/2009
  Q: My son turned 18 in May this year. For the last two years we have had a lot of bad behavior from ...
  A: I don't agree that you should kick him out at this time. However, I do believe that there must be ...
sexuality8/5/2009
  Q: I have a 7 year old that we have some concerned about. She has been 'humping' things since she was ...
  A: Many physicians and mental health professionals immediately jump to the conclusion that a child must ...
Asked Son to Move Out8/5/2009
  Q: Our son graduated from high school this June and and through his senior year got into a great deal ...
  A: The fact that after being accepted in to college he chooses not to go suggests that he is not ...
What does this tell you about a mother7/30/2009
  Q: What does this tell you about a mother? What do most American man say about this? She has a little ...
  A: Yes, it is very likely the father would be mad, or at least confused, as to why they were not ...
Help7/27/2009
  Q: I have a problems that is really hard for me. I am 14 and I am a swimmer. Swimmers shave their legs ...
  A: Now that she knows you shave your legs, she may need some time to adjust to it. It is likely she may ...
Are my parents correct?7/27/2009
  Q: I am not a parent who needs help with their child, rather a child who needs help with their parents. ...
  A: Whether I agree with you or your parents is probably not all that important. I think you have a ...
What does this tell you about a mother7/26/2009
  Q: What does this tell you about a mother? What do most American man say about this? She has a little ...
  A: If a father is suddenly informed he has a young adult daughter, he might be shocked and surprised. ...
Teen Driving7/26/2009
  Q: While away for 4 days, I left my 17 year old son (almost 18) at home, supervised by my mother. Upon ...
  A: I tend to support your handling of this. What you wanted to do was protect your son and his friends. ...
Do believe that this is the truth yes or no7/25/2009
  Q: The majority of American men at least 4 out of 5 married men (80%) are trapped in a miserable ...
  A: No. I don't believe this. I'd have to see some research before I would consider these statistics you ...
What does this tell you about a man7/25/2009
  Q: What does this tell you about a man? He is informed that he has a baby daughter in the USA. Because ...
  A: All this tells me about this man is that he willing to respect the mother's wishes not to see his ...
What does this tell you about a mother7/25/2009
  Q: What does this tell you about a mother? What do most American man say about this? She has a little ...
  A: What this says about this mother is that she believes she can do a better job alone of raising her ...
Effective punishment for a 12 year old boy with ADHD, ODD and Bipolar Disorder7/24/2009
  Q: My 12 year old son is having a real difficult time. Honestly, the past 12 years have been real ...
  A: I'm sure you are right when you say the last 12 years has been difficult. Your son has multiple ...
My Daughter is mad because i wont let her date7/24/2009
  Q: my daughter is 15 and likes this 17 year old boy and they go to church together but i told her that ...
  A: I fully support your decision to not allow her to date a 17-year-old boy, although I may not agree ...
Can you determine if a sociological exam if a woman is raised that way, Yes or No7/22/2009
  Q: Can you determine if a sociological exam if a woman is raised that way, Yes or No? Do you think ...
  A: I'm not sure what you're asking. And I don't I agree with the statistics you cited. That is, I ...
Arrested Development7/21/2009
  Q: My sister is 22 years old. She has been in 4 separate colleges, (my parents have paid for them all, ...
  A: You have a right to be concerned about your sister and your parents. Your sister has poor social ...
Why is this the case7/12/2009
  Q: Why is it in many cases when an US born child is retrained in violation of US custody order in the ...
  A: The expectation in America is that both parents will be part of the child's life -- no matter when a ...
Why is this the case7/12/2009
  Q: Why is it in many cases when an US born child is retrained in violation of US custody order in the ...
  A: I'm afraid that when there are custody disputes many Americans seek to use courts to punish. Our ...
Teenage daughter's cell phone use7/10/2009
  Q: My had a boyfriend that was too old for her back in Oct of 2008. She was 14 and he was almost 18. We ...
  A: If you get angry every time you get tricked or deceived by a teenager, you're going to be angry all ...
What would many mothers do in this case7/8/2009
  Q: Would many American mothers still visit there daughter who was illegally retained in Germany under ...
  A: I think many American mothers would still try to maintain a relationship with their daughter despite ...
Help with adult son7/8/2009
  Q: Please help. My son is 25, but acting 17. He has a good career, but did not stay in college. I feel ...
  A: Every family needs that one person to keep the family together. However, if someone repeatedly ...
How would a little girl feel toward her parents7/7/2009
  Q: How would a little girl feel toward her parents? She is told by her father, that he paid her mother ...
  A: Depending on the personality and temperament of this girl, she may resent both her mother and ...
my son7/7/2009
  Q: My son is 6 , and had a sleep over i walked into the bedroom and they were under the blankets i ...
  A: I'm sure your son was playing. It is very normal for young children to explore each other's body and ...
Son smoking pot7/7/2009
  Q: My 16 year old is occasionally (few times a month) smoking pot. He is very honest and talks with me ...
  A: You may not be able to stop him from smoking marijuana. Since he is talking to you about his ...
Help with adult son7/6/2009
  Q: Please help. My son is 25, but acting 17. He has a good career, but did not stay in college. I feel ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear about the pain caused by your sons. When your children are adults, even when they ...
13yo grandson7/4/2009
  Q: My 29yo daughter died suddenly 2yrs ago leaving three sons 11, 8 and 2yrs. I am very bonded w/ each ...
  A: I like your perspective on this situation and on your 13-year-old grandson. He was 11 when his ...
How does this effect a normal child7/3/2009
  Q: A Spanish Citizen, Maria Jose Carrascosa married her American husband in Spain in 1999. The next ...
  A: Of course, parents, grandparents, and other relatives frequently are able to alienate a child from ...
facing divorce7/3/2009
  Q: I don't even know where to begin. First let me say that this is my 3rd marriage. The first ended ...
  A: It seems to me that you might be overly involved in your stepson's life. While I can appreciate that ...
How does this effect a normal child7/2/2009
  Q: A Spanish Citizen, Maria Jose Carrascosa married her American husband in Spain in 1999. The next ...
  A: If a child is deprived of both her mother and father, of course, she's going to suffer. She may be ...
12 year old girl7/1/2009
  Q: Would a 12 year old French girl the only survivor of the airplane Flight IY626 near the Comoros ...
  A: There are many factors that are likely to be involved in what she can remember and what details she ...
How do supervised visitations work for children6/30/2009
  Q: How do supervised visitations work for children? A father has supervised visitation of his daughter ...
  A: Usually a court or an agency orders that one parent have supervised visitation. The supervision is ...
Teenage virtual relationships, crushes6/29/2009
  Q: I hope you can help me. My grandson who lives with me is almost 16 years old and he is really ...
  A: Because of the wonders of technology, boys and girls are meeting and developing relationships when ...
9 year old boy has an all day tantrum6/28/2009
  Q: We are having allot of trouble with our 9 year old son. We have a 7 year old girl and 4 year old ...
  A: Of course, I don't know if you are inconsistent with him or if there is another reason for the ...
mental6/26/2009
  Q: is there any name for when a teen (or anyone) tries to make anything and everything mean the ...
  A: I suspect that what you're referring to is an adolescent who likes to have fun with adults ...
single mom raising teen boy6/18/2009
  Q: I am having a hard time denying him what he wants even when it is a hardship on me. I would do ...
  A: As a parent who raised two teens of my own and a stepson, I wouldn't think twice about this. My ...
MY problem6/17/2009
  Q: Hey! I am a swimmer/biker and we have to shave our legs because 1. You go faster when you are ...
  A: I hope your mother wouldn't freak out if she knew you shaved your legs. However, do all swimmers ...
16 YOA daughter/18 YOA boyfriend6/17/2009
  Q: My daughter has been in this relationship for 2 years. She will be a senior this coming school year ...
  A: You're right. It's not a good idea to try to break them up. It will perhaps make things worse. And ...
14 years old lying to get what she want6/16/2009
  Q: my daughter keeps lying, to stay out with friends. she makes every excuses(buses are late, lots of ...
  A: This situation with your daughter is only partly about lying. The real problem is the freedom and ...
discliplining step daugher6/16/2009
  Q: Wife and I going on 5 years marriage and I have 12 year old step daughter. She is suddenly getting ...
  A: As many childen move into adolescence they become more sassy and even defiant. This may be ...
Teenage daughter lying about mother6/16/2009
  Q: My 17-year-old daughter consistently tells her friends lies about me (I monitor her emails and ...
  A: I suspect your daughter may know you monitor her emails and this could be one reason why she's ...
23 year old, having issues with parents6/16/2009
  Q: my name is Natalie and I am a 23 year old college graduate. My boyfriend of 6 years has just been ...
  A: Yes, we all owe our parents love and respect. We do not owe them to the extent that we will never ...
Sexually Curious6/15/2009
  Q: I have 4 children. my oldest is 19 and the youngest is 19 months. The focus of this discussion ...
  A: I would suggest that you continue to be open and honest with your children. If you overreact or if ...
angry 17 yr. old son6/15/2009
  Q: My husband are continuing to have difficulties with our 17 yr. old son and his anger. The problems ...
  A: All teenagers, especially males, say they won't go to a therapist. But if you went as a family, he'd ...
Is my 15 yr old too far gone for us to help? Is it time for outside help?6/15/2009
  Q: In about March of this year my 15 yr old daughter became interested in an 18 yr old senior in her ...
  A: I think there is reason to be concerned. Many early-maturing girls get caught up in relationships ...
Conduct of a Forensic Threapist in a reunification case in6/14/2009
  Q: I am a mother that has been seperated from her son for 11.5 yrs ( he is 16.5 )and currently have a ...
  A: A lot may depend on the judge. If the judge tends to be sympathetic toward people or towards ...
stealing and lying repetitively6/14/2009
  Q: I read your answer to another mom about her 8 year old daughter lying and stealing and found your ...
  A: Eleven-year-olds are not known to be particularly self-confident. And most young adolescent boys ...
13 year old son6/14/2009
  Q: i recently let my thirteen year old son have a facebook account. In the last three weeks he has ...
  A: I tend to think that at least a portion of the present generation is more sexualized. Some kids are ...
19 year old son6/14/2009
  Q: My 19 year old son started univerisity as a sophmore from accumulated AP credit and entrance exams. ...
  A: How can we not be worried about our children? Of course, you are going to worry about him. ...
I don't know who my son is anymore6/14/2009
  Q: My son is 18 years old and one of 3 children. My eldest daughter is 30 (step sister to my son)and ...
  A: I would agree with you; it sounds like you are being used by him. You have requested he help out ...
angry 17 yr. old son6/13/2009
  Q: My husband are continuing to have difficulties with our 17 yr. old son and his anger. The problems ...
  A: It sounds like maybe your husband has his own anger issues. But I think part of the problem is ...
Conduct of a Forensic Threapist in a reunification case in "question".6/12/2009
  Q: I am a mother that has been seperated from her son for 11.5 yrs ( he is 16.5 )and currently have a ...
  A: Are you stuck with this forensic psychologist? Is he the only one who can bring about reunification? ...
stealing and lying repetitively6/12/2009
  Q: I read your answer to another mom about her 8 year old daughter lying and stealing and found your ...
  A: The problem isn't how he expresses himself. The problem is stealing. Being able to explain why he ...
18 y/o daughter still living at home6/12/2009
  Q: I have an 18 y/o daughter who still lives at home while attending a local college. It was agreed ...
  A: Having a messy teenager can be disruptive to the whole family. However, your basic agreement with ...
13 year old son6/11/2009
  Q: i recently let my thirteen year old son have a facebook account. In the last three weeks he has ...
  A: You allowed your son to have a privilege (a Facebook account), which he did not use properly. And ...
pressing charges6/11/2009
  Q: My names Jessica, and right now im going through something hard.. my brother almost went to jail for ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear about the crisis you and your family are going through. I'm not a lawyer and I ...
16 yr. old daughter6/10/2009
  Q: my 16 yr old daughter uses her cell phone in ways i feel are unsafe and unhealthy. there are text ...
  A: When our teenagers are doing inappropriate things, we have an obligation to do something about it. ...
Son smoking pot6/9/2009
  Q: My 16 year old is occasionally (few times a month) smoking pot. He is very honest and talks with me ...
  A: If I understand the situation, your husband took the computer qaway until he pasees a drug test and ...
out of control 16 daughter , single mom needs help6/7/2009
  Q: my daughter is 16 years old and is totally out off control she breaks furniture lamps anything in ...
  A: I would not suggest you kick her out, because you are still legally responsible for her. In most ...
Why is this case?6/6/2009
  Q: Why is this case? If I had to pick a teacher in that school to marry I would pick her, why? I used ...
  A: You can find a female appealing at any age. It doesn't mean you're going to do anything about it, ...
Unsocial teenage son6/5/2009
  Q: My son is 17 soon to be 18years old. He is a good boy, straight A student and planning to go to ...
  A: Which ever he chooses, to stay at home or live on campus, doesn't have to be the final decdision. If ...
HELP teen son wants to grow up FAST!!!6/5/2009
  Q: Mr. Windell, I am a 35 year old mother of a 15 year old son (he will be 16 in early September). ...
  A: First, you have raised a son who is indepdendent and knows what he wants and what he doesn't want. ...
Unsocial teenage son6/4/2009
  Q: My son is 17 soon to be 18years old. He is a good boy, straight A student and planning to go to ...
  A: Congratulations on raising a bright and successful son. I understand your concern, but I also see ...
Can you anwer these questions for me6/2/2009
  Q: Children who live with a lone mother are more likely to suffer from psychiatric disorders, ...
  A: I don't think the research has been refined enough to take into consideration all of the ...
overprotective parents scaring me and the guy im seeing5/29/2009
  Q: I have crazy overprotective asian parents. they recently found out i am seeing someone who is 18 ...
  A: Instead of just defying your parents, you may want to consider what you can do to win them over and ...
overprotective parents scare me and the guy im seeing.5/29/2009
  Q: I have crazy overprotective asian parents. they recently found out i am seeing someone who is 18 ...
  A: I don't think there is a legal risk to your boyfriend. First, he would have to do something illegal. ...
Could my 9 year old son be depressed?5/28/2009
  Q: My 9-year-old son has changed quite a bit in this past year. We've had one significant family change ...
  A: Nine-year-olds typically can experience wide or unpredictable mood swings. They can go from being ...
my 14 year old lacks any motivation5/27/2009
  Q: I have a very bright 14 year old boy. He started Jr high in all AP classes he is suppose to Graduate ...
  A: It is very frustrating when you have a bright teenager who just does not seem motivated to do as ...
Controlling Anger in teenager5/27/2009
  Q: I have a 13 year old son, who cries for small issues. If I do not agree to buy certain things, he ...
  A: I think you're raising three issues in your question, so let me try to explain and clarify what I ...
What would most American woman do in this case5/25/2009
  Q: What would most American woman do in this case? The American woman has the following options and ...
  A: Again, I can't say what most American women would do. Some would see this as a good deal and accept ...
please help me wiht my son5/20/2009
  Q: I am a mother of a 17 year old boy who has been diagnosed with persuasive developmental disorder ...
  A: I don't know about California laws, as I live in Michigan. However, I believe it's federal law. I ...
15 yr. old son Disrespectful @home and school5/19/2009
  Q: I NEED HELP WITH MY 15 YEAR OLD SON. I GET NUMEROUS CALLS FROM THE SCHOOL HE ATTENDS I DO MEET WITH ...
  A: Sorry for the delay in responding to your email. You didn't say when the problems with your son ...
Stole a hand gun and sold it5/18/2009
  Q: me and my friend went out stealing stuff out of cars one night and he fount a hand gun in a glove ...
  A: How long you get may depend on how you act in court in front of the judge, whether you take ...
please help me wiht my son5/18/2009
  Q: I am a mother of a 17 year old boy who has been diagnosed with persuasive developmental disorder ...
  A: Your school district should be providing you with community resources. Your son needs special ...
Stole a hand gun and sold it5/15/2009
  Q: me and my friend went out stealing stuff out of cars one night and he fount a hand gun in a glove ...
  A: I'm sorry that you're in this situation. However, it's not going to go any better for you if you ...
Are those women less likely to divorce American man5/14/2009
  Q: Are those women less likely to divorce American man? Are those usually happy marriages on the woman ...
  A: My intuition says you are probably right; that conservative, bright, religious women who opt for a ...
Why is this case?5/13/2009
  Q: Why is this case? Only about 1 out of 5 men are happy with there marriage. This is not likely ...
  A: You're asking me questions that I don't feel I'm an expert on. I don't consider myself a marriage or ...
19 year old son5/11/2009
  Q: I have had problems with my son since he was 15. It started with smoking and then turned to pot and ...
  A: It sounds like there is some progress. He is working, saving some part of his money, and apparently ...
My 15 yr old daughter and 17 year old boyfriend5/11/2009
  Q: My daughter has been dating her 16 now 17 year old boyfriend for almost a year. Outside of general ...
  A: I know you only want what's best for your daughter. And you want to protect her from a relationship ...
Teens & bad relationships5/9/2009
  Q: I have a 16 year old daughter who has been in an unhealthy relationship for almost 2 years now. They ...
  A: Your daughter indeed has been -- and continues to be -- in an unhealthy relationship. My guess is ...
blended families5/9/2009
  Q: I have an 11 year old step son who was abandoned by his mother when he was 2(i believe). She calls ...
  A: Certainly I think you and his father need to know more about her life and her ability (not to ...
Unruly Teenager5/9/2009
  Q: My 16 year old son is out of control. He thinks he can do whatever he wants whenever he wants. I ...
  A: I don't know about the laws in your states, but in most states, a 16-year-old is still a minor and ...
Obsessive relationship/rebellion5/7/2009
  Q: My 18 year old daughter was a good student, fairly good kid, if she pulled anything out of line ...
  A: I would suggest you avoid arguments, because these will not be productive. Instead, if there is a ...
Is this man a pedophile or not. Yes or No?5/6/2009
  Q: Is this man a pedophile or not. Yes or No? What do you think of 18 year old women that has a ...
  A: In general, I think from a psychological standpoint that a pedophile is someone who has sexual urges ...
Child abandoned in a police station5/5/2009
  Q: What would social services do when they found a child as old as ten years old abandoned in a police ...
  A: I assume that social services would place the child in foster care and the parents would be charged ...
Obsessive relationship/rebellion5/4/2009
  Q: My 18 year old daughter was a good student, fairly good kid, if she pulled anything out of line ...
  A: Like many young adults, she is obsessed with a love relationship and is neglecting other parts of ...
15 year old son5/4/2009
  Q: My son is doing bad in school and is lying. We drug tested him so it isn't drugs. We have taken ...
  A: You haven't give me any background information, so I'm going to assume that prior to this school ...
School5/1/2009
  Q: Im not a parent but rather asking for help about my dad. You see he really overreacts to many things ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear that you're afraid to face your father. However, your best bet is to initiate a ...
Would a judge take a child away from her mother if she does not want the father around4/30/2009
  Q: Would a judge take a child away from her mother if she does not want the father around and the ...
  A: If the father knows it is his child, and if the father wants to be involved in the child's life, ...
Would social service normally recommend to the court, that the father can’t see his daughter again4/30/2009
  Q: Would social service normally recommend to the court, that the father can’t see his daughter again? ...
  A: If a social service agency or child protective agency thought the child was being abused by her ...
Lying4/28/2009
  Q: Our 16 year old daughter is a well-rounded, well respected Junior in high school with a 3.8 gpa. ...
  A: I agree both with you and your pastor. She is a good girl and could be doing far worse things. On ...
my 12 year old daughter4/26/2009
  Q: Help please. i feel my 12 year old daughter is out of control. I have had lots of probs with sophie, ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear about the stress you have related to trying to raise Sophie. She obviouasly has ...
Urgent help needed - Difficult 19 year old daughter4/25/2009
  Q: My daughter has always been a great child until she turned 17. She was at 6th form studying a ...
  A: As you continue to put pressure on her to contribute at home, I expect she will spend less time at ...
Why is this case in Belgium?4/24/2009
  Q: Why is this case? American man gets Belgium women pregnant in Belgium. The mother is very thankful ...
  A: I can't say what most American want. However, I'm sure that most of them want to be treated fairly. ...
Why is this case?4/23/2009
  Q: If an American woman goes to court for chills support and visitations the American way, the fathers ...
  A: Sadly you are right. Some lawyers wouyld advise that. And some fathers would do that -- with or ...
Why is this case in Belgium?4/23/2009
  Q: Why is this case in America not Belgium? Why is this case? Belgium man will usually not walk away ...
  A: Again, I can't account for the difference between Belgium fathers and American fathers except to say ...
Feeling like giving up on 16 year old son4/22/2009
  Q: I apologize in advance for the length of my story but as you know with delinquent teens the stories ...
  A: I can appreciate how disturbing your son's behavior is for you. You've tried everything you know how ...
My son is throwing away options for a great future.4/21/2009
  Q: Windell, I have read your replies in the past and completely respect your opinion and believe you ...
  A: Like many kids his age, your son sees himself as an independent adult who can make his own decisions ...
Unsocial teenage daughter4/20/2009
  Q: I have a 17 year old daughter who rarely leaves the house. I believe she has a few friends but she ...
  A: Of course, there is something wrong, but it doesn't mean she is abnormal in any way. That is, she ...
how to help better my 8 yr. old son's behavior4/18/2009
  Q: Windell, I have an 8 yr. old boy who is displaying very loud, disrespectful behavior. I had been ...
  A: Your son sounds like a normal eight-year-old child. What are eights all about? They are active, ...
help,teenage son in trouble with law and wont do anything I ask.4/17/2009
  Q: I Am absolutely desperate for some advice.I am a single parent.I have a 14yr old son who is very ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear how stressful life is trying to raise a teenager and not having much support to do ...
Repeated stealing4/17/2009
  Q: My 16yr old daughter has stolen from me... again. Her response was 'it's just a bag Mum... get over ...
  A: I know it is very disappointing and maddening when our teenagers steal from us. You indicate that ...
Anger Management for teen4/16/2009
  Q: I have a 16 year old teenage son with anger issues. He is in counseling and has expressed interest ...
  A: You mean, aside from the one I teach for Oakland County Circuit Court? The classes I teach for ...
sexual curiosity in 6 yr old boy4/16/2009
  Q: I am wondering if it is appropriate and/or helpful to show my 6yr old boy photos or illustrations of ...
  A: I think it might be appropriate to show your son photos of different penises. I like the fact that ...
My wonderful 16 yo daughter4/15/2009
  Q: My daughter is a straight-A student, responsible, funny and a really good person. I like to think ...
  A: I'm not sure what you did was wrong or ill-advised. I might have done the same thing with my ...
Daughter lacks control4/15/2009
  Q: I have a 16 year old daughter who has ADD. She has been on medication for a few years and for the ...
  A: Since you've noticed that this behavior is more likely to happen when her controls are not as ...
HELP with two spoiled brats4/13/2009
  Q: please offer some advice. I'm dating a wonderful man and living in the home for over a year. He has ...
  A: It's not a matter of whether you'd be wrong to bail out of the situation. It's just whether this ...
my six yr olds behaviour issues4/11/2009
  Q: I am facing problems with my 6 year old daughter’s behavior particularly when it comes to studying ...
  A: The reward and takens system seems to be working well. That suggests to me that she really does want ...
HELP with two spoiled brats4/10/2009
  Q: please offer some advice. I'm dating a wonderful man and living in the home for over a year. He has ...
  A: This is a difficult situation because your boyfriend is perhaps going to have to make some tough ...
Out of control 16 year old daughter4/8/2009
  Q: I have a beautiful daughter that just turned 16 two weeks ago. I have always had to handle her with ...
  A: Okay, so she's been oppositional and defiant for a long time and has made you walk on eggshells ...
My child's friends4/8/2009
  Q: Should I be concerned that my 15 year old child hangs out with people who are nine to eleven years ...
  A: Fifteen year olds are at an awkward age. Many are in the 9th grade at school and this seems to be an ...
Teenage daughter4/7/2009
  Q: I wrote earlier regarding my 2 daughter's and how they are handling my divorce from their father. ...
  A: Sorry to hear about the problems with your daughter. I think, given the problems she's having, that ...
15 year old daughter,4/7/2009
  Q: Windell. I have a 15 year old daughter, 10 year old daughter (w/Type 1 Diabetes) and 5 year old ...
  A: You may all need to go to an experienced family therapist. Your daughter does have too much control ...
Losing hope for daughter4/7/2009
  Q: I don't know what to do anymore with my daughter. She will be 13 in a few weeks and has always been ...
  A: Let me remind you that your daughter is only 12. This means that not only does she have a number of ...
step parenting4/6/2009
  Q: I have been dating a wonderful man for two years and we wish to move forward in our relationship. I ...
  A: I think I tend to agree with you. You do have to pick your battles. You can't take a strong stand on ...
20 year old unmotivated son4/5/2009
  Q: Our son seems unmotivated. We have a 20 year old son who struggled through grade and high school. He ...
  A: You might make an appointment for the whole family with a family therapist. Use your best ...
Bad Parenting??4/5/2009
  Q: I am a 17 year old twin, with a 22 year old sister who is rarely allowed to drive, despite having ...
  A: No what you are experiencing is not normal -- or appropriate -- parenting of teenagers. While your ...
my six yr olds behaviour issues4/5/2009
  Q: I am facing problems with my 6 year old daughter’s behavior particularly when it comes to studying ...
  A: What you have tried with your daughter to make her a better student has not worked. Therefore, you ...
14yr old4/5/2009
  Q: My 14year old son wants to buy his 14year old girlfriend expensive perfume for her birthday..46euro. ...
  A: I understand your concerns. You and I might both agree that he is too young to be buying a ...
20 year old unmotivated son4/3/2009
  Q: Our son seems unmotivated. We have a 20 year old son who struggled through grade and high school. He ...
  A: I don't know why your son has struggled so much throughout school, but it would be important for you ...
teen driving4/2/2009
  Q: My 16 year old new driver accidentally hit our fence while backing out of the driveway. She was ...
  A: I think you are asking an excellent question. Should you stick with a prearranged punishment when it ...
Should a men regret making a havening sex4/2/2009
  Q: Should a men regret making a havening sex with a mother, if this created a little girl? The mother ...
  A: If the man was aware of what he was doing when he had sex with the woman, and if he was aware that ...
daughter hates my boyfriend, saw us having sex4/1/2009
  Q: When my daughter was 10 she saw my then boyfriend and I having sex. She is now 15, and I am with a ...
  A: Since she is now 15, I think you can have a frank discussion with her about sex and about her ...
11 year old daughter3/30/2009
  Q: I hope you can help me with this one. I have a great 11 year old daughter that is sweet, creative, ...
  A: It sounds like you handled the discussion very well. The problem with her going back to porno sites ...
problem teen soon to be 183/30/2009
  Q: I have a son that will be 18 y/o in 9 days. He has been 'out of control' for two years. Won't ...
  A: If he has been arrested for possession of marijuana, this will mean he has to deal with the courts ...
children and sexuality3/30/2009
  Q: I have a situation that we aren't sure how to handle. I have a 6 year old daughter who often plays ...
  A: These kinds of situations don't indicate much of anything except for normal childhood curiosity with ...
7 year old son3/26/2009
  Q: My question is regarding my 7 year old son. My son is a smart kid, but seems to be rebellious. In ...
  A: Is it that he is not being responsible or is it that he is easily distracted and loses focus? Since ...
Teenage Brother Problem3/24/2009
  Q: Hope all is fine. My 18 year old brother (has diabetes Type I since he was 12)has been causing my ...
  A: What your brother is doing is very common for older teenage boys. They get involved with their ...
marijuana use,3/24/2009
  Q: My friends son has moved back into their home. He took a semester off of school for "personal ...
  A: Does your friend feel like he is to blame for his son's behavior? Does he feel like he can't stand ...
my twelve year old daughter is running our household3/22/2009
  Q: Ever since our twelve year old daughter started middle school this year, she has grown up so quickly ...
  A: Sorry to hear about the difficulties with your daughter. I think a good place to start would be to ...
14 year old son with 16 year old girlfriend3/21/2009
  Q: My 14 year old son has a girlfriend that just turned 16. They can only see each other when we take ...
  A: I'm not sure why you decided to try to break up their relationship. Is it because she is 16? Because ...
Becoming a step parent3/21/2009
  Q: I fell in love with a woman who has a 13 year old son who does not like me at all. He has his own ...
  A: My point of view is that stepparewnts should make this clear before marriage that they will not be ...
Wht is this the case3/21/2009
  Q: Why would a six year old girl hate her mother for not allowing her to live with her father that live ...
  A: I can't really answer these questions. Different people react differently to situations. You may ...
Wht is this the case3/20/2009
  Q: Why would a German father take his US born daughter to his native country Germany and get a court ...
  A: You're asking a lot of questions here, but let me respond in general. Five-year-olds want to please ...
Teen affection3/20/2009
  Q: I have 3 children; 27 yrs old, 25 yrs old and 15 yrs old. My 15yr old (boy) has a 15 yr old ...
  A: I'm on your side on this one. If your 15-year-old son and his girlfriend are not pawing each other ...
Becoming a step parent3/19/2009
  Q: I fell in love with a woman who has a 13 year old son who does not like me at all. He has his own ...
  A: It's very seldom that you find a child, particularly a teenage child, excited about a stepparent ...
Can't make my stepson happy...3/18/2009
  Q: My stepson about to be 11 years old and I have a 5 year old daughter. I come from a big city and my ...
  A: I don't always have a good answer for how you get other family members to see a therapist. One way, ...
How to get my teen to move out3/18/2009
  Q: I have a 17 year old daughter who is making my life miserable! She got kicked out of school for ...
  A: Having a teenager move out on their own should be done in stages. The first stage is to tell her ...
Can't make my stepson happy...3/17/2009
  Q: My stepson about to be 11 years old and I have a 5 year old daughter. I come from a big city and my ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear about the problems with your stepson. I think your original idea (let your husband ...
Teenage Daughter3/13/2009
  Q: My daughter is a sophomore in high school. She's always, and continues to be, a sweet and loving ...
  A: Of course you're hurt. And the impulse is to yell and ground her for life. But that won't change ...
14 year old boy behavior3/10/2009
  Q: I'm concerned my son does well grade wise, yet his science teacher says that his behavior interferes ...
  A: Your son does well in his grades at school, right? Is it only his Science teacher who says he talks ...
Would a little girl be mad at her mother for bring her in the world, and never having a father3/7/2009
  Q: Would a little girl be mad at her mother for bring her in the world, and never having a father? She ...
  A: The best way, it would seem to me, would be to be completely honest with the child. Keep her ...
My brother and neice3/6/2009
  Q: My name is Carly, and I am writing to you because my family, yet again, is falling apart. Sadly, so ...
  A: It seems that none of you have a good relationship with your brother. Thus, this limits your ...
Would a little girl be mad at her mother for bring her in the world, and never having a father3/5/2009
  Q: Would a little girl be mad at her mother for bring her in the world, and never having a father? She ...
  A: I suppose it's possible that some children might be angry with a parent for bringing them into the ...
TEEN HELP3/5/2009
  Q: I'AM A MOTHER OF 1 DAUGHER AND 3 SONS. SO FAR EVERYTHING IS NOT GOING SO WELL WITH MY DAUGHTER ...
  A: You didn't say how old your daughter is, so I'm going to assume she is 15 or 16. There's no way of ...
What would most American man do3/3/2009
  Q: What should a man do when the mother of his baby daughter wants’ to have a parenting plan (with the ...
  A: It certainly depends on the father, but some men might like this arrangement. However, others, ...
19 year old son3/2/2009
  Q: My son will be 19 this month. He is not tranisitoning well! He was a great child (captain of his ...
  A: Given your son's psychological problems, it doesn't sound like a good idea to just send him out on ...
teenage son3/2/2009
  Q: I have a son who will be 16 this month. He basically has one friend. If you ask him he says he has ...
  A: Well, as you point out, you should be cautious about doing anything if he isn't asking for help or ...
What would most American man do3/1/2009
  Q: What should a man do when the mother of his baby daughter wants’ to have a parenting plan (with the ...
  A: It depends on what the father wants. I take it he objects to the mother wanting the girl to spend ...
What should a mother do3/1/2009
  Q: What should a mother do when the father of her daughter still rubes her breast at age 10 or even 14 ...
  A: The mother should tell the father that it IS different from a hug or a kiss. She should tell him ...
How does this affect a little girl in her up bringing?2/28/2009
  Q: What should a mother do when her daughter 10 or even 16 years old still sleeps with her daddy in the ...
  A: Girls shouldn't sleep with their fathers after about age four or five. And it doesn't matter whether ...
How does this affect a little girl in her up bringing?2/28/2009
  Q: What should a mother do when her daughter 10 or even 16 years old still sleeps with her daddy in the ...
  A: Most adolescent girls are generally going to begin feeling very uncomfortable sleeping with their ...
Why is this the case2/26/2009
  Q: Foreign women are more submissive than American women. They were raised to think that the man is the ...
  A: I'm married to that kind of American woman and our marriage is great. I'm not miserable and I want ...
13 year old2/25/2009
  Q: My daughter is almost 13. She is very immature for her age, has an IEP for school and unfortunately ...
  A: It seems that yelling hasn't worked. So, it may be time for a new approach. If you want her to be ...
How would a little girl feel toward there mother if there father is an Anonymous Sperm Donor?2/25/2009
  Q: How would a little girl feel toward there mother if there father is an Anonymous Sperm Donor? She ...
  A: I don't really know the answer to this. Since I've had little experience with children who were ...
Why is this the case2/25/2009
  Q: Foreign women are more submissive than American women. They were raised to think that the man is the ...
  A: Are you asking why American women are different than women from other countries? And are you asking ...
introverted 13-yr-old boy2/24/2009
  Q: I need advice and suggestions for my 13-yr-old son who is very shy and has very poor social skills. ...
  A: I think the little tasks you give him are good. But he may need more of these, particularly at ...
Out of control 12 year old.2/23/2009
  Q: I am 21 years old and from as far back as i can remember my 12 year old sister has been out of ...
  A: Certainly, as you have identified, the problem is as much with your grandmother and mother as with ...
19 y/o teen causing havoc2/22/2009
  Q: Windell, We have a 19 y/o daughter that has led us through nchallenging times since she was little. ...
  A: Some young adults need to learn the hard way. I think you've done what you could. You've only ...
Angry Teenage Son2/22/2009
  Q: I am writing for advice about my 14 year old teenage son. Since Christmas he has become increasing ...
  A: Your son's behavior cannot be chalked up as "normal teenage behavior." His anger is too violent and ...
Teen Daughter Upset By Our Sex-Life2/20/2009
  Q: My husband and I were married 4 years ago and have a healthy sex life. We also have a 15 year old ...
  A: Teenagers frequently are disturbed by the sex lives of their parents. Because of their own growing ...
How would this child react2/19/2009
  Q: How would a little girl react when she has a permanent tattoo on her foot? Her parents make her get ...
  A: If she's always had it and can't remember getting the tattoo, she might not feel anything. She just ...
13 y.o. boy: homework and internet porn2/19/2009
  Q: our 13 year old son has a laptop which he uses in his bedroom to do his homework, talk online with ...
  A: Yes, the adolescent years do bring new challenges for parents. You always have to be ready to take ...
Hit by son2/19/2009
  Q: I thought I had good respectful children. Now, I am not sure and I am confused. Last night ...
  A: Yes, things did get out of hand! You're asking some important questions: Should I communicate with ...
7-15 - when will something go right?2/17/2009
  Q: Long version. Ever since my daughter was 7, she has been pushing me - refusing to eat healthy ...
  A: Your daughter has some serious problems which require professional help. You didn't mention that she ...
14 yr old2/16/2009
  Q: Our 14 yr old son is not doing his work at school unless we constantly confront. Where is the ...
  A: Many children and teens have no intrinsic motivation to do school work or strive for excellence. To ...
18 year old son's controlling friend who is also his ex girlfriend2/16/2009
  Q: My 18 year old son dated a girl for almost a year before she broke up with him in 4/08. Since then ...
  A: Good for you. When you use this approach, it takes a great burden off of you as parent. And it ...
My Parents?2/16/2009
  Q: i'm 15 years old and a sophmore in highschool. I recently broke my parents' trust by sneaking out to ...
  A: Yes, I agree your parents are very strict and very protective. Maybe overly protective and strict. ...
17 year old daughter2/14/2009
  Q: Can I evict my 17 year old daughter? She totally disrespects me and I cannot take any more of her ...
  A: You may be able to evict your daughter, however, it depends on the juvenile laws in your state. For ...
Would this child complain2/14/2009
  Q: Would this child complain in she has to live in Germany and has a very good father who takes good ...
  A: She might not be mad or resentful toward her father. However, if she reconnects with her mother, she ...
14 y.o. son failing high school, doesn't care2/13/2009
  Q: Mr. Windell, My son is 14 years old & failing the 9th grade. He attends an all-boys private school. ...
  A: The fact is your son may not know why he is struggling in school. There are, however, lots of ...
teens son wants to stay with his grandparents2/12/2009
  Q: My question is my 17 year old son, is asking to stay with grandparents for awhile. I don't know if ...
  A: Like many adolescents your son has problems with his parents and with his identity. I don't know if ...
Would this child complain2/12/2009
  Q: Would this child complain in she has to live in Germany and has a very good father who takes good ...
  A: This girl may believe her father and may fear being taken away by her mother. Thus, she may not have ...
18 year old son's controlling friend who is also his ex girlfriend2/6/2009
  Q: My 18 year old son dated a girl for almost a year before she broke up with him in 4/08. Since then ...
  A: Your son has to learn to keep his big heart in check, especially when being kind to others is ...
15 yo with slipping grades2/6/2009
  Q: My 15 yo daughter is getting c's on average. She just came home with report card and she failed 3 ...
  A: There's a lot more to this that both you -- and I -- ought to know. For instance, what is she ...
Problems with my 12 year old2/4/2009
  Q: Help... I have a soon to be 12 year old who has been having a lot of issues. It started with ...
  A: I'm surprised that she doesn't already have a therapist, particularly as a follow up to her ...
How long will this take?2/3/2009
  Q: What should a mother if her six year old daughter wants to live with her father and is very presided ...
  A: A six-year-old girl may want to live with her father, but it's not her decision. The decision has to ...
How long will this take?2/3/2009
  Q: How long will this take? If a 10 year old girl is placed in the custody of a singel man who she does ...
  A: I don't know if every social services agency would allow a single man to adopt a girl. Some might; ...
20 year old daughter afraid of independence2/2/2009
  Q: Our daughter is 20. She is a great young woman who was recently diagnosed bipolar. She is getting ...
  A: I don't know that it is generally true that most young people are afraid to move out on their own. ...
Drinking2/2/2009
  Q: I'm 16 years and I have a question. I really didn't want to talk about this with my mom. I have a ...
  A: I think you have to reach out to David and let him know you still want to be his friend. I would ...
A 12 year old with crazy tantrums1/31/2009
  Q: I have a 12 year old step son that has a tantrum every day that can last hours....it could be over ...
  A: I may have more questions than recommendations at this point. However, I'd like to know some more ...
19 year old brother is a MONSTER!1/30/2009
  Q: Okay, My mom divorced my brothers dad when he was about 7. Shortly there after my mom lost ...
  A: I don't know how old you are, but there's perhaps nothing you can do. However, your mother and ...
Would a 19 year old girls still want to see her father? She has never seen her father before.1/30/2009
  Q: Would a 19 year old girls still want to see her father? Would a 19 year old girls still want to see ...
  A: Some girls would want to see their father and some might not. But I expect that she has thought a ...
14yr old VERY troubled son1/29/2009
  Q: My family and I need help! My son is 14, he has been diagnosed with ODD, CD w/issues of anger and ...
  A: I assume your son is under the jurisdiction of the county juvenile court at present. If he is, you ...
I need help with almost 19 year old daughter1/29/2009
  Q: I have no Idea where to go and am hoping and praying that you can guide me. I will try and keep this ...
  A: I'm glad to hear you're taking some tangible steps to let her function independently. Now, If I ...
uncooperative, self centered daughter1/29/2009
  Q: My 11 yr old daughter is extremely disorganized (mentally/physically), uncooperative and self ...
  A: You probably should find another therapist for her. However, going yourself and gaining support and ...
How long will this take1/28/2009
  Q: If a ten year old daughter has to see her father, he is a complete stranger to her ? If a ten year ...
  A: It might apply even if the girl seems not to be looking forward to meeting him. If she indicated she ...
What would happen in this case1/28/2009
  Q: What would happen if a mother refuses to take her new born child home from the hospital? When she ...
  A: I'm sure social services would go about trying to make the best decision and find the best place for ...
I need help with almost 19 year old daughter1/27/2009
  Q: I have no Idea where to go and am hoping and praying that you can guide me. I will try and keep this ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear that you are experiencing so much stress in you life related to your daughter, ...
uncooperative, self centered daughter1/26/2009
  Q: My 11 yr old daughter is extremely disorganized (mentally/physically), uncooperative and self ...
  A: Your daughter does sound like a very difficult child. And I agree you need help with her. You said ...
Is this posibel1/25/2009
  Q: If a father/mother can not care of a child and the other parents involved, can that parent voluntary ...
  A: You should check with the juvenile court in your county. There is likely to be a foster care ...
What would happen in this case1/25/2009
  Q: What would happen if a mother refuses to take her new born child home from the hospital? When she ...
  A: It might not be a crime, but it might be considered as indications that the mother does not want to ...
What would social services do in this case1/25/2009
  Q: What would social services do if a father takes nude pictures of his daughter still a child not a ...
  A: How does social services learn about this if he's not showing the pictures to anyone? The problem ...
How long will this take1/25/2009
  Q: If a ten year old daughter has to see her father, he is a complete stranger to her ? If a ten year ...
  A: No one can say how long it would take. So much depends on the father and on the child. If the ...
How would this child still love and trust her father in this case1/25/2009
  Q: If a little girl lives with her father and she has never know her mother, how old would she before ...
  A: Some adolescent girls would accept that they cannot contact their mother until age 18; others might ...
Would it still be difficult for a birth mother to become good friends with her 10 year old daughter?1/25/2009
  Q: Would it still be difficult for a birth mother to become good friends with her 10 year old daughter? ...
  A: If both parents are cooperating and they get along well enough, one way would be for them to meet ...
Problems with my mom1/25/2009
  Q: I'm almost 27 years old and I still live at home with my single mother. My mother doesn't work and ...
  A: I'm glad to hear you are standing up to her. I recognize that it is difficult to leave, but just ...
6 year old lying1/25/2009
  Q: We are a blended family. My 6 year old step-daughter is at our house about 45% of the time with my ...
  A: Many children about your daughter's age lie. Often it is to avoid trouble. Sometimes it's because ...
Would a little girl complain when she is told by her father?1/24/2009
  Q: Would a little girl complain when she is told by her father, that her birth mother could not care ...
  A: A 10-year-old might be very curious as to why her mother abandoned her. I don't suggest at this ...
Would it still be difficult for a birth mother to become good friends with her 10 year old daughter?1/24/2009
  Q: Would it still be difficult for a birth mother to become good friends with her 10 year old daughter? ...
  A: It might not be difficult at all for a mother to enter a 10-year- old's life. It depends on how they ...
How would this child still love and trust her father in this case1/24/2009
  Q: If a little girl lives with her father and she has never know her mother, how old would she before ...
  A: She may believe whatever her father tells her, until she finds out more. This may be a complicated ...
Problems with my mom1/23/2009
  Q: I'm almost 27 years old and I still live at home with my single mother. My mother doesn't work and ...
  A: Don't be sorry that I usually don't get the kind of question you're asking. I agree that it is ...
Husband can't deal with our teen son1/23/2009
  Q: My husband and I have 2 boys - 12 and 14. The 14 (almost 15) year old is the issue. He does very ...
  A: I agree that your husband needs some help in learning how to relate to and deal with teenagers. Your ...
girl seems obsessed with my 13 year old son1/23/2009
  Q: Our 13 year old son's 14 year old girlfriend has begun to show, what we would consider, obsessive ...
  A: So what's wrong with being strict, overprotective parents? As a matter of fact, when it comes to ...
How would this child still love and trust her father in this case1/23/2009
  Q: If a little girl lives with her father and she has never know her mother, how old would she before ...
  A: Children will ask about their missing parent as early as age three or four. They may be given an ...
Teen away on school nights?1/22/2009
  Q: My 14-year-old daughter wants to spend several nights a week (during school) at her best friend's ...
  A: , I think you should tell her that her first priority is school and that her school work and grades ...
Disrespectful 10yo1/22/2009
  Q: My 10 year old son has just started acting disrespectful. He refuses to do his homework and lies ...
  A: Okay, so it seems he has always had school problems. In effect, he has not found school enjoyable or ...
My 13 year old brother1/22/2009
  Q: He is 13 in the 8th grade and everything is wrong. He failing almost all his classes, he has no ...
  A: I can't say exactly why your brother struggles in school. However, I venture two guesses. One is ...
Disrespectful 10yo1/21/2009
  Q: My 10 year old son has just started acting disrespectful. He refuses to do his homework and lies ...
  A: Did the problems with schoolwork just begin? Were there any problems with school work before ...
Challenging 7year old1/21/2009
  Q: I have two girls: a 7year old and a 4year old, and a 2.5yr old nephew under my care. The bad ...
  A: Yes, your daughter is challenging. And such children try the patience of their parents (and ...
Problems with my mom1/20/2009
  Q: I'm almost 27 years old and I still live at home with my single mother. My mother doesn't work and ...
  A: My first question is: Why are you still living at home with your mother? And my secondWhy don't you ...
What effect does the following have on a little girl?1/20/2009
  Q: What effect does the following have on a little girl? She is living with her father. She is scared ...
  A: There are, of course, lots of reasons why a father might turn his child against the other parent. ...
13 YR OLD SHOWED AGGRESSION/NEEDS MOTIVATION1/19/2009
  Q: My son is 13 years old. We became a blended family nearly five years ago and my husband has since ...
  A: Many young adolescents, about your son's age, show a decline at school, and in fact are often quite ...
teenage-relationship with boy's1/19/2009
  Q: my daughter is 14 she has a boyfriend but she never share her problems and things with me.she belive ...
  A: This is all normal behavior. Certainly, though, you have to hope your daughter does nothing really ...
teenage-relationship with boy's1/18/2009
  Q: my daughter is 14 she has a boyfriend but she never share her problems and things with me.she belive ...
  A: There are things you can do. While you may not be able to get her to be open with you about some ...
Treating teen depression by self-medicating with marijuana1/18/2009
  Q: Am I doing the right thing? or what should I be doing? I have 4 children living at home with my wife ...
  A: Your son should have weekly sessiions with a therapist. And the therapist and the prescribing ...
Teen sex1/17/2009
  Q: My son who just turned 17 yesterday, had a girl in his room last night. He cam home from the movie ...
  A: I don't think the consequence will necessarily accomplish your goal. The consequence only lets him ...
Teen sex1/17/2009
  Q: My son who just turned 17 yesterday, had a girl in his room last night. He cam home from the movie ...
  A: The positive is that you have taught him well about safe sex; at least he's using condoms. However, ...
What to do with 21year old Daughter1/16/2009
  Q: My eldest daughter is 21. When she was 17 she left home as she didn't get on with her stepfather. ...
  A: I think you've described your daughter very well. And I think you know her pretty well, too. Here's ...
Problems with 16 yr old son & a girl.1/15/2009
  Q: My son is 16 and has always been immature for his age. He is involved in NJROTC activites after ...
  A: It's not easy for boys who are in love for the first time. Particularly when that girl with whom ...
question on discpline1/15/2009
  Q: My son has just been diagnosed with ADHD which I am just reading up on. He has been a real challenge ...
  A: Locking your teenager out when he comes home late is an approach that is likely to lead to more ...
teenage son1/14/2009
  Q: Our son is 15 years old (16 in March). He has had a normal upbringing. We are a family of 4, ...
  A: It sounds like he is going through the same kind of teenage turmoil that a lot of middle teens ...
teens and homework1/13/2009
  Q: my son is 13 and in grade 9. the problem I have is that he doesn't like homework. when push comes to ...
  A: There are a couple of reasons why your son may not be doing schoolwork or why he's not handing it ...
ear piercing girls1/11/2009
  Q: Would a ten year old girl be willing to get her ear cartilage pierced when her father suggested it ...
  A: Girls may be willing to put up with all sorts of things in order to please a father. She may be ...
duaghter of 23 with grandon age 5 live with mom at home1/11/2009
  Q: I am at a dead end road with my situation. My daughter is lazy and will not do much. She sleeps ...
  A: I'm sure you got into this situation because you wanted to have your grandson in a safe and stable ...
Can small children still recognize parents they have not seen in years1/10/2009
  Q: Would a six year and seven year old girl German born German/US national that has not seen her mother ...
  A: I'm sure after not seeing a parent for a couple of years, that children of six and seven would still ...
What would a child do in this case1/9/2009
  Q: What would a 10 year old girl do when her father took her away from her mother during a child ...
  A: I can't really answer your questions. Some girls might rebel and try to escape; others might not. ...
What would a normal child do1/9/2009
  Q: Would a 10 year old girl be comfortable to sleeping with her father in the same bed with his arms ...
  A: Many children at age 10 would feel comfortable sleeping with their father if this was the usual ...
I hope that this is not a stupid question.1/9/2009
  Q: When a 7 year old girl Reigh Boss was kidnapped by her father Clark Rockefeller, many say that the ...
  A: There are probably lots of situations related to abduction and becoming close to a parent that I ...
Is this a dumb question1/8/2009
  Q: What would a 10/12 year old girl do if her father made it clear that he wants her to have several ...
  A: Yes, those are potential issues. First, some girls would go along with suggestions by a parent in ...
my 6-year old is traumatized!!!1/8/2009
  Q: My daughter has recently told my husband and i asome things that have put us in an unusual ...
  A: Before you take her to a therapist, do some interviewing of potential therapists. Explain briefly ...
Is this a dumb question1/8/2009
  Q: What would a 10/12 year old girl do if her father made it clear that he wants her to have several ...
  A: Well, that depends on the girl. Many girls would be thrilled. Others might be less than thrilled ...
I hope that this is not a stupid question.1/7/2009
  Q: When a 7 year old girl Reigh Boss was kidnapped by her father Clark Rockefeller, many say that the ...
  A: Children, even as old as 7 or 8 or older, may not be aware that they have been kidnapped. If they ...
What is the best way for a mother to handel this?1/7/2009
  Q: What is the best way for a mother to do when the father of her daughter either does not wish to ...
  A: There's lots of ways of being a good mother. And while you might start out thinking that you would ...
I have a 20 year old living at home - what boundaries do I set?1/7/2009
  Q: I have a son who will be 20 next month. We also have a 17 year old daughter who is very ...
  A: Although you would like to set limits with your son, it's not going to work unless you and his ...
What is the best way for a mother to handel this?1/7/2009
  Q: What is the best way for a mother to do when the father of her daughter either does not wish to ...
  A: You seem to be giving a lot of good information here, although there was a question in the ...
How would this child feel1/6/2009
  Q: How would a little girl feel when her parents are divorcing and she has to spend one weak with her ...
  A: If the parents live in the same house and get along with each other, there should be no negative ...
How old must she be in order to understand this?1/6/2009
  Q: How would a little girl feel if she is told that she has no legal mother? Her father is the only ...
  A: It also depends on the child's cognitive abilities. However, it is important she be told the truth ...
my 6-year old is traumatized!!!1/6/2009
  Q: My daughter has recently told my husband and i asome things that have put us in an unusual ...
  A: Maybe your daughter is too upset at this point about the situation. If she's talking about it all ...
How would this child feel1/6/2009
  Q: How would a little girl feel when her parents are divorcing and she has to spend one weak with her ...
  A: If that is the arrangement, one week with the mother and one week with the father, then a child will ...
How old must she be in order to understand this?1/6/2009
  Q: How would a little girl feel if she is told that she has no legal mother? Her father is the only ...
  A: A girl, by the age of 4 or 5 years of age, may begin to ask questions about her mother. When she ...
How would this case be handeld1/5/2009
  Q: What would social services do when they find a child that only speaks Dutch and they can only ...
  A: Social services would probably find someone who could speak Dutch, or they would probably find ...
How does social services handle this.1/5/2009
  Q: What should a mother do if her 12 year old daughter got pregnant? She does not want abortion and ...
  A: An adoption agency or the juvenile court can better answer your questions than I can. If the baby ...
Would a child understand this1/5/2009
  Q: Can a mother still be a good mother that as soon as she got pregnant, she moves out of state and ...
  A: I don't know if you would find a lot of cases in family court where you have similar circumstances. ...
Can you answer these question, for me?1/5/2009
  Q: Would it be difficult for her man to talk his step daughter in to marring him? He has a very good ...
  A: You're asking a question that no one can answer with any kind of certainty. It all depends on the ...
Can you answer these question, for me?1/5/2009
  Q: Would it be difficult for her man to talk his step daughter in to marring him? He has a very good ...
  A: Many states prohibit marriage between a man and his stepdaughter. Michigan is one of those states. ...
What should this father do1/5/2009
  Q: What should a father do when he is looking for his kidnapped daughter (She was a baby at the time). ...
  A: I think the biological father should work with the adopting agency and the adopted parents to try to ...
Would a child understand this1/5/2009
  Q: Can a mother still be a good mother that as soon as she got pregnant, she moves out of state and ...
  A: While that may sound reasonable to you or I, it doesn't mean that a child will want to wait until ...
How does social services handle this.1/5/2009
  Q: What should a mother do if her 12 year old daughter got pregnant? She does not want abortion and ...
  A: It may depend on the state you live in and the laws in your state. But I don't think a 12-year-old ...
Would a child understand this1/4/2009
  Q: Can a mother still be a good mother that as soon as she got pregnant, she moves out of state and ...
  A: I can't say that this would necessarily be bad to keep a father from knowing he has a child. And, ...
How does social services handle this.1/4/2009
  Q: What should a mother do if her 12 year old daughter got pregnant? She does not want abortion and ...
  A: Do you want to raise this baby for your daughter? If you don't, then you need to work with child ...
What is the best bay to handal this1/4/2009
  Q: What should a mother do if her 12 year old daughters got several real tattoos on her body and got ...
  A: The problem is between you and your co-parent. This is not a matter to take anyone to court or to ...
What should a mother do in this case1/4/2009
  Q: What should a mother do if her 18 year old daughter got pregnant with your husband her step/adoptive ...
  A: What you should do depends on how you feel about the situation. You indicate that this is not a ...
Can't get my 18 year old to get a job1/4/2009
  Q: My son was 17 when he graduated and started his first year at college. Within two months (just ...
  A: No, you can't make him get a job and work, just as you can't make him stop playing video gameas or ...
Defiant 16 year old son1/2/2009
  Q: My son has been defiant for two years now. He will be 17 in May. He mostly calls and checks in but ...
  A: Now that you've given me more information, I have to say that your son sounds like a fairly normal ...
16 year old boy having no friends and overly emotional with anger issues1/1/2009
  Q: How can I help my sixteen year old son become less emotional? He has had trouble making and keeping ...
  A: As I indicated, sometimes it is very hard for a parent to help a teen change. And for the very ...
Defiant 16 year old son1/1/2009
  Q: My son has been defiant for two years now. He will be 17 in May. He mostly calls and checks in but ...
  A: It sounds like you've only given consequences in the past that you couldn't enforce. If you continue ...
16 year old boy having no friends and overly emotional with anger issues1/1/2009
  Q: How can I help my sixteen year old son become less emotional? He has had trouble making and keeping ...
  A: The first things I'd like to know are: Does your son want to get better at making friends? Does your ...
teen dating12/23/2008
  Q: I have a 14 yr. old..soon to be 15..dating a boy that we are not crazy about at all. The boy has ...
  A: Great. So, it sounds like things are getting better. Having positive activities -- a job and ...
teen dating12/22/2008
  Q: I have a 14 yr. old..soon to be 15..dating a boy that we are not crazy about at all. The boy has ...
  A: No, you do not give in! That is not an option. She needs very strict supervision. You may need ...
Teen w/ODD, major depressive disorder, and Anxiety12/22/2008
  Q: I have a 16 yr old daughter who has been diagnosed with major depressive disorder, anxiety disorder ...
  A: Since the police arrested your daughter and filed a report, what's going to happen next? That ...
honesty/xmas12/21/2008
  Q: We have been lied to by our teens. With Christmas 4 days away, do we still give them gifts? One (13) ...
  A: I think I would deal with their behavior as a separate issue from Christmas gifts. You may already ...
Parenting Question12/21/2008
  Q: My 'tween-aged son got in to a scuffle in the boys bathroom at school on Thursday. According to the ...
  A: The "diagnosis" and "treatment recommendation" by the teacher should be discarded. She is making ...
Sexual Curiosity12/19/2008
  Q: My daughter is twelve and has just entered into Jr. High and right before that started her period ...
  A: She is far too young to be involved in a sexual relationship with a boy. At this point, you can ...
Teenage daughter kicked out12/16/2008
  Q: My 17 (18 in Feb.) year old daughter is very nasty to me most of the time and verbally abusive to me ...
  A: There are a lot of "maybes" in all the advice you're getting. The fact is that we can't predict ...
14 year old son lying and sneaking around12/15/2008
  Q: I have a 14 year old son who just started high school. A very sexually precocious girl in our ...
  A: I agree that parents have to set and enforce limits. However, in this case, he only intended to ...
Not sure what to do.12/15/2008
  Q: I have a 12 year old son and a 4 year old son. my 12 year old is having anger problems and gets ...
  A: I need to ask some questions first. For instance, you say he gets angry when disciplined; but what ...
My 14 y/o having sex.12/14/2008
  Q: I have a daughter that is 14 y.o. She has been seeing this boy for a year now, and it has not been ...
  A: Teenagers usually have sex at the home of one of the families. Adults may be in the home, but if ...
teen stealing12/13/2008
  Q: I recently went to put allowence into my sons wallet as I somentimes do, and found a plastic bag ...
  A: You don't have to get to the truth! You know the truth. The truth is that he was stealing from you. ...
Problem with Teenage School Performance12/12/2008
  Q: Earlier this year my husband and I assumed primary custody of his now 14-year old son because he was ...
  A: You and your husband should give yourself a lot of credit for the success you've brought about with ...
adult son that lies and steals from us12/10/2008
  Q: My husband and I have two adult sons. Our oldest is 27 and our youngest is 24. For the last five ...
  A: Your son obviously has a pattern of using others and manipulating others. Here, again, he is trying ...
6 year old and friendship12/10/2008
  Q: we have 6 and a half year old daughter. Her problem is friendship at school since last week. Her ...
  A: I like the way you handled this as you talked about your own experiences with friends and how you ...
disruptive teen refuses counseling, meds12/9/2008
  Q: My 17-yr-old daughter has not been diagnosed w/ ODD, but all the hallmarks are there: ...
  A: Yes, it does sound like oppositional defiant disorder. Even the refusing to go to see a therapist is ...
unmotivated, dont know what to do.12/9/2008
  Q: Hey i'm a 15 year old student in Canada, i have been unmotivated for the past 3 years, and have ...
  A: When you get the prescription for Stratera, make sure you take it as prescribed. I'd suggest you ...
unmotivated, dont know what to do.12/9/2008
  Q: Hey i'm a 15 year old student in Canada, i have been unmotivated for the past 3 years, and have ...
  A: Hey, you were motivated enough to email me; that's a step in the right direction. Lots of middle ...
relationship between parent and child with mental health issues, now wants to live with father12/9/2008
  Q: I have always loved my daughter and made her the center of my world and made sure I think of her ...
  A: Many teenagers want to leave the parent who has taken care of them to see what it's like to live ...
divorced mother with teenage daughters12/9/2008
  Q: Well I am not sure where to begin I will try to be brief. I have been divorced for about a year and ...
  A: It sounds to me like part of the problem is your co-parent's anger and hostility toward you, as well ...
teenage lying12/8/2008
  Q: I have a 14 yr old daughter who has ADHD ever since 3rd grade we have tried medicines and nothing ...
  A: I don't know what you expect to see. But if she's been properly diagnosed with ADHD, then she has ...
11 yo child with antisocial and violent behaviour12/8/2008
  Q: My son has always been difficult and never shows any type of remorse. He was able to even tell to my ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear about the problems your son has. Since he is not in therapy now, I would suggest ...
My 14 y/o having sex.12/7/2008
  Q: I have a daughter that is 14 y.o. She has been seeing this boy for a year now, and it has not been ...
  A: You're at a loss as to what to do, but your very wise daughter already told you. She needs to be ...
24 year old son who won't grow up.12/4/2008
  Q: Windell, Would you be able to direct me to a tough love group in Genesee or Oakland County, ...
  A: I'm not aware of any tough love groups operating in our area, but there could be some I don't know ...
setting phone limits12/4/2008
  Q: I have a soon to be 13 year old daughter who has the same boyfriend now for over a year. Although I ...
  A: You are NOT being unreasonable or overprotective. She is only 13 and she has shown by her behavior ...
Defiant teen12/3/2008
  Q: our 16 year old daughter has had many problems that began around age 12. In 5th grade she forged a ...
  A: I'm sorry that you are having these on-going bad experiences with your daughter. I'm sure it does ...
Lying, personal finace mess!12/2/2008
  Q: Two weeks after my son turned eighteen he moved out on his own with no financial income.We let him ...
  A: Your husband's parents are old enough to figure out a lot of this on their own. They will likely ...
21 year old12/2/2008
  Q: Our oldest daughter is 21 years old. She has been in a relationship, for two years, with a 27 year ...
  A: I'm sorry for the heartache you are experiencing with your daughter. It is not uncommon, of course, ...
My 18 yr old walked out12/1/2008
  Q: I'm a devoted mom of two wonderful young men, ages 21 and another who just turned 18. We're a very ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear about your sadness and upset over your son. Obviously you love your son very much ...
Really learning12/1/2008
  Q: Windell, Thank you for taking my question. I've been divorced 10+ yrs, a goood divorce. My ...
  A: A reward system can help some people put forth a greater effort. However, there are also some who ...
My daughter and my husband got into an argument ending badly!11/30/2008
  Q: I have an seventeen year old daughter, twin eleven year old daughters. My husband adopted my eldest ...
  A: Yep! Sounds like she's still mad. He may have an old-fashioned way of disciplining her, but he's ...
12 year old boy: another detention, another disruptive behavior in class...11/30/2008
  Q: really need a practical advice here:) my 12 year old son (an only child) has been on and off ...
  A: You say so much of this better than I could. You have a great deal of insight into the situation, ...
My daughter and my husband got into an argument ending badly!11/30/2008
  Q: I have an seventeen year old daughter, twin eleven year old daughters. My husband adopted my eldest ...
  A: Your daughter was mad and said something she shouldn't have said. She may not have really meant it. ...
12 year old boy: another detention, another disruptive behavior in class...11/28/2008
  Q: really need a practical advice here:) my 12 year old son (an only child) has been on and off ...
  A: I have a number of thoughts about your son and his disruptive behavior. The first is to wonder why ...
Discipling teenager11/28/2008
  Q: I am very to glad to have read the answers you have given to Tony. I am a mother who is hitting her ...
  A: I'm glad to hear that you're trying to learn more positive ways of trying to motivate your son to do ...
13 year old daughter11/26/2008
  Q: Our daughter is controlling our lives. She is very high-energy and has to be "entertained' 24 ...
  A: It sounds like you tried to meet your daughter's demands in the past and her demands keep growing. ...
Sons sexual fantasy question11/25/2008
  Q: My son is 14 years old and has been wanting to have "the talk" for several months. We had a talk a ...
  A: I think it is normal for teens to have sexual fantasies about a parent, especially if that parent is ...
problems with anger and hitting from my daycare child11/25/2008
  Q: I have a 4 yr old boy in my daycare. He has recentley started hitting myself when i am trying to ...
  A: It sounds like all the options you have used involve removal or punishment. I like to think of ...
9 year old "hates" herself11/24/2008
  Q: I'm the mother of three children, aged 11, 9 and 7, the middle one is my only daughter. Lately, ...
  A: It's fairly common for children around the ages of 8 and 9 to say some really outrageous things when ...
My 16 year old has no respect for authority11/23/2008
  Q: My daughter is 16 and is out of control. She yells at my younger children to the point that they ...
  A: If you were a somewhat rebellious teen yourself, you might use this in talking to your daughter. It ...
What should mother do11/23/2008
  Q: What should mother do if her 10 year old daughter wants to get her ears pierced so she will have ...
  A: Is it really the mother's decision as to how much time this girl spends with her father? If there is ...
What should mother do11/20/2008
  Q: What should mother do if her 10 year old daughter wants to get her ears pierced so she will have ...
  A: My advice to the mother is that she should refuse to give her permission and she should refuse to be ...
My 16 year old has no respect for authority11/19/2008
  Q: My daughter is 16 and is out of control. She yells at my younger children to the point that they ...
  A: Like many middle teenagers, your daughter has a lot of things going on in her life and in her mind. ...
19 years old son11/19/2008
  Q: I have one daughter 22 years old and a son 19 year old, soon will be 20. Both living with us (my ...
  A: My experience is that sometimes kids just don't listen to the voice of wisdom their parents provide ...
unmotivated teen11/17/2008
  Q: My 14 year old son is a gifted/LD however his marks are terrible, he is failing math and french. He ...
  A: Kids with LD and ADHD often are poorly motivated. One reason can be depression and another may be ...
Teenage Boy11/16/2008
  Q: My son is 13-1/2. He now has a girlfriend. My son has become her whole world. He speaks as if his ...
  A: I don't think you can do this. When a young teen is "in love," you can't stop him from being in ...
My 13 year old daughter and dicipline/hitting11/14/2008
  Q: Windell, Last week my 13 year old daughter came home with a hickey on her neck; she did not mean for ...
  A: I agree with what you're saying. And I also think I understand what you and her father are feeing ...
16 year old daughter11/14/2008
  Q: My 16 year old daughter has always been a very loving and caring child. Especially with family ...
  A: She is a missing person as long as you have not given her permission to be away from home -- even if ...
16 year old daughter11/13/2008
  Q: My 16 year old daughter has always been a very loving and caring child. Especially with family ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear about the heartache your daughter has caused you. Of course, I can't say why she ...
Is this normal11/12/2008
  Q: What would be the best option for a mother to take A or B? A Do you rather have a child/teenage ...
  A: If the child were 10 or 12, I'd probably put my foot down and say she couldn't have a tattoo until ...
19 yr old son dating 25 yr old woman11/11/2008
  Q: My 19 yr old son is now dating a 25 yr old asst mgr at his new job. He is not in college at the ...
  A: I agree with you. He hasn't shown that he is capable of handling living in an apartment and being ...
15/16 Year Old Teenager11/10/2008
  Q: Subject Don't understand 15/16 year-old daughter QuestionI have a soon-to-be sixteen year-old ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear your daughter has lost interest in this business venture. There could be several ...
Unmotivated Yet Caring Teen11/9/2008
  Q: Our 16 year old wants to play video games day and night nothing else. If we allow it he will game ...
  A: It sounds like your son has many fine qualities. Yet, he is only passionate about video games. And I ...
Is this normal11/9/2008
  Q: What would be the best option for a mother to take A or B? A Do you rather have a child/teenage ...
  A: I understand you are making a rational, persuasive argument for allowing a teenage girl to get a ...
19 yr old son dating 25 yr old woman11/8/2008
  Q: My 19 yr old son is now dating a 25 yr old asst mgr at his new job. He is not in college at the ...
  A: Stay out of it unless he is asking for your help and advice. Of course, he may not be making a wise ...
parenting teens involved in destructive behaviors11/8/2008
  Q: My daughter is in her late teens and tells us that she is in love. She tells her friends that the ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear about the distress you are caused by your daughter's unfortunate relationship with ...
Dad's house rules vs. Mom's house rules11/8/2008
  Q: My husband and I are married 3.5 years with six children between us. His three boys (15,11,8)live ...
  A: You might see if there is a program in your area for high-conflict post-divorce couples to help them ...
18 yr old needs a job11/7/2008
  Q: My oldest son just turned 18 and graduated high school last year. He is going to community college ...
  A: It seems like your son doesn't need a lot to survive and he's got a comfortable life, so why should ...
Dad's house rules vs. Mom's house rules11/5/2008
  Q: My husband and I are married 3.5 years with six children between us. His three boys (15,11,8)live ...
  A: There's only one effective way of dealing with this, and that is that mom and dad start ...
13 yr old grandson11/5/2008
  Q: Our son died in 2004 and we are raising his 2 sons 10, and 13. Their mom lives in Boston, so there ...
  A: If he isn't a kid, what is he? An adult? I don't think so! Based on what you've told me here, I'd ...
My 19 year old son11/4/2008
  Q: I have a 19 year old son who is being treated for social anxiety. He didn't have any friends and was ...
  A: You say your son is being treated, but who is treating him? Is it just with medication, or is there ...
Did I do the right thing?11/4/2008
  Q: I am the proud mother of two beautiful teenage girls. My problem is that my 15 y/o daughter has a ...
  A: Since your daughter is 15 and they do not attend school together, you may be able to enforce their ...
17/18 year old daughter moved out11/3/2008
  Q: She's 17/ 18 in 9 days but moved out 10 weeks ago with 22 year old boyfriend to his moms house. He ...
  A: Your daughter is desperately trying to make things right with her boyfriend. Call her an enabler, ...
14 yr old with 17 yr old boyfriend11/1/2008
  Q: "My 14 yr old daughter told me a few days ago that she agreed to "go with" a 17 yr old. She kept ...
  A: I think telling her she could not date him was the right decision. Obviously, you can't stop them ...
13 year old and marijuana use10/30/2008
  Q: I found marijuana in my 13 year old daughter's room. She admitted it was hers and admitted to ...
  A: The worst thing might be to catastrophize this situation and blow it out of proportion. The simple ...
homework not getting done at 1710/30/2008
  Q: My daughter is 17 will be 18 in August. She is not motivated to do any homework. We have talked to ...
  A: Apparently, your daughter is not able to make arrangements for help on her own. I don't know the ...
moving out10/30/2008
  Q: i have reason to believe that i am responsible enough and mature enough to move out.im sixteen so ...
  A: Of course, some people your age do make it. But it's very difficult -- mostly financially. I ...
Disrespectful Child10/29/2008
  Q: My 10-year old son is very disrespectful and rude. He was 2 when his dad and I divorced and his ...
  A: I apologize for the delay in responding to your question. Your son could be angry about a lot of ...
Teenage Blackmail10/28/2008
  Q: My 18 year old son is out of control. He wants me to divorce his mother immediately. He threatens ...
  A: Don't assume that your life will be ruined. Many good people have had accusations made against them ...
masturbating teen10/28/2008
  Q: I walked out of my bedroom to find my 7yr.old daughter doing her shcool work on the floor and my ...
  A: You haven't given me much information about what you've done previously when you've caught him doing ...
Teenage Blackmail10/28/2008
  Q: My 18 year old son is out of control. He wants me to divorce his mother immediately. He threatens ...
  A: It's no fun to be dealing with a blackmailer. You always live with the risk that the demands will ...
I might be pregnant?10/28/2008
  Q: Okay.. I'm exactly 17 years old, my birthday is on October the 18th, 1991. And I have a couple ...
  A: The age of majority in Kentucky is 18. This means that when you turn 18 you are for all intents and ...
I might be pregnant?10/27/2008
  Q: Okay.. I'm exactly 17 years old, my birthday is on October the 18th, 1991. And I have a couple ...
  A: Much depends on where you live. I assume you live in the U.S., but in which state? Different states ...
teenage daughter10/24/2008
  Q: My main problem is that my husband and daughter are constantly at each other about boys and what she ...
  A: I'm sorry to hear that you and your husband do not see things the same way when it comes to raising ...
daughter moving out10/24/2008
  Q: Our 18yr old daughter moved out about 7weeks ago...in with her boyfriend and his parents. She is ...
  A: It is distressing when a teenager moves out suddenly and is making what appear to be poor decisions. ...
Teen's bad habits10/23/2008
  Q: My 15 year old son recently moved in qith me. He had been living with mom since he was 3 years old ...
  A: I can understand your concerns. First, you want to change the habits your son has developed, but you ...
daughter10/21/2008
  Q: my daughter is 20yrs old and in her 3rd year in college,lives at home works 3-4 day a week at the ...
  A: It's painful to have a once-close child moving away and being closer to people you can't agree with. ...
Help for 18 yr old High School Drop-Out!10/21/2008
  Q: I really need some advice in dealing with my 18 yr old High School Drop-out Son! My ex-husband and ...
  A: You have tried hanging in there with him, but he seems determined to fail on his own. It's admirable ...
moving out10/21/2008
  Q: ìm 16 years old and for about 8 months now i've been feeling im ready to move out. I have defineatly ...
  A: You sound pretty mature for your age. And, in fact, you may be ready to move out on your own. Some ...
15-yr-old gun thief10/20/2008
  Q: My 15-yr-old nephew recently stole a handgun (!) from an uncle. He claims he just found it lying ...
  A: Yes, stealing a gun is a serious problem. However, don't let everyone blow it too far out of ...
18 yr. old daughter10/17/2008
  Q: I have an 18 yr old daughter who just turned 18 this past August. Every since she turned 18, she ...
  A: You can have a discussion with her and tell her she's right, when she turned 18 she gained more ...
school behavioral issues10/16/2008
  Q: I am a widowed mother of two boys, 12 and 6 yrs of age. I have been a widow for 3.5 years. The ...
  A: Before having him evaluated to rule ADHD in or out, why not try having him set some goals for ...
Facing Consequences of Actions/Decision10/15/2008
  Q: Our 17 year old son is currently on probation until his 18th birthday for something he did two years ...
  A: The first advice I would give you is to keep your anger under control whehn trying to deal with him. ...
Moving a Teenager to New School10/14/2008
  Q: My husband and I bought a lot last year and plan to build our "dream home" there. It is not in a ...
  A: It's really exciting to be in a position to be able to have that dream home. Ho