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| Teen male behavior | 11/20/2009 |
Q: My son is 14, and I am concerned about his behavior around other male figures. I have two older ...
A: What you seem to be saying is that you are concerned that your son may be gay. At this point I ...
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| Looking for help | 11/19/2009 |
Q: Generally my 13 year old son is a good boy, he spent his time with family, visiting his grand and ...
A: Moving your son to a different school might help him to start over. However, I would not be in ...
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| Looking for help | 11/18/2009 |
Q: Generally my 13 year old son is a good boy, he spent his time with family, visiting his grand and ...
A: You certainly want your child to be successful at school and I understand you want to apply measures ...
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| What does this tell you about a duel US/German national living in Germany | 11/18/2009 |
Q: What does this tell you about a duel US/German national living in Germany? He has a little girl ...
A: This tells me that this man is willing to spend money on lawyers and on finding ways to avoid paying ...
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| What does this tell you about an American mother? | 11/18/2009 |
Q: What does this tell you about an American mother? She moved in with the father of her baby daughter ...
A: You say that many American mothers tell the father of their child that if they want to avoid child ...
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| drained by 14yr old daughter | 11/16/2009 |
Q: we have a 14yr old lovely daughter who is making us so sad, she is the oldest of three and has a ...
A: I'm sure your daughter is probably normal and going through a difficult period in her life. Fourteen ...
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| What does this tell you about an American mother? | 11/16/2009 |
Q: What does this tell you about an American mother? She moved in with the father of her baby daughter ...
A: I suppose it tells a lot about both the mother and father if all the facts are correct. If she moved ...
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| Why would an American father do this | 11/16/2009 |
Q: Why would an American father do this? An American man and this Japanese national wife visit Japan ...
A: I'm sure both the mother and father believe their country to have the best and most just laws. Will ...
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| Why would an American father do this | 11/14/2009 |
Q: Why would an American father do this? An American man and this Japanese national wife visit Japan ...
A: I suppose the American father did this because he is angry at his wife and wants to punish her. ...
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| When and how do you call it quits? | 11/14/2009 |
Q: My 17 yr old son is violent and verbally abusive, he does what he wants when he wants and no ...
A: Sometimes you just have to admit there's nothing you can to do to help a child. That seems to be ...
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| What does this tell you about a man? | 11/14/2009 |
Q: What does this tell you about a man? What does this tell you about a man? He fled back to his ...
A: Just because someone doesn't like the system in family courts in the USA is not a sufficient reason ...
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| What my dad should be | 11/14/2009 |
Q: I come from a divorced family. Tonight my dad and I (I'm 16) got into an argument. I felt as if he ...
A: I don't know what you should expect of your father. What do YOU expect of him? I think most ...
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| Custody awarded | 11/12/2009 |
Q: My husband is fighting for custody for his 14 year old daughter. The life style she is living is so ...
A: I'm happy to hear that you are nervous about this. You should be. What I mean by this is that I ...
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| My teen saughter wasnts to live with her father | 11/11/2009 |
Q: My 15 year old daughter wants to go live with her father full time. He has already convinced her 17 ...
A: These become difficult situations. Almost all children of divorce want to go live with the ...
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| rude behaviour | 11/10/2009 |
Q: My daughter is graduated two years and back and she is lazy. She keeps nagging me and my wife on ...
A: Many adolescents upon graduating from school are unable to seemingly find themselves. These young ...
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| daughter and half-brothers | 11/8/2009 |
Q: My 17 year old daughter began communicating with her half brothers several months ago after their ...
A: You've offered compromises. You must set the boundares for what you can accept and what you can't. ...
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| Mother issue | 11/7/2009 |
Q: Ok I have finally decided to ask for advice about my mom. Ok first of all I never ...
A: I'm sorry to hear that things are so difficult for you with your mother. You may be right that she ...
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| Please Help | 11/6/2009 |
Q: My 17 year old daughter made a friend with a girl over the summer. My husband (her stepdad) and I ...
A: Sure, we'd like all of our adolescents to see their education as their first priority. However, it ...
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| What does this tell you about a man he is 35 years old at the time of her birth? | 11/5/2009 |
Q: What does this tell you about a man he is 35 years old at the time of her birth? He has a daughter ...
A: It says that he probably enjoys being a father to his daughter. He likes the freedom he has. And as ...
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| 16 year old sons rebellious attitude | 11/5/2009 |
Q: I have a 16 year old son who is driving me crazy. He does very well at school (he gets all a's and ...
A: Your son may be driving you crazy, but I don't think he's real happy about himself either. And while ...
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| Problem with 12 year old step-daughter | 11/3/2009 |
Q: My partner and his ex-wife went through a very nasty and protracted divorce. My partner went for ...
A: There's obviously no doubt that you're right. Your partner's daughter needs a father to provide ...
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| 12yr old | 11/1/2009 |
Q: My wife and I are currently having trouble with our 12yr old daughter. Well she is my step daughter. ...
A: You're welcome. She may be a girl that you and your wife may have to monitor regularly (weekly!# ...
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| What does this tell about a man | 11/1/2009 |
Q: What does this tell about a man? A man who had a surgery so he can never get women pregnant and he ...
A: This says that this man does not want any long-term relationships with women. He wants to have a ...
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| Would this man be a good man | 11/1/2009 |
Q: What does this tell you about a man? He has five children with five different women and he does not ...
A: There are all sorts of ways of measuring whether a man is a good man. The way he treats his children ...
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| What does this tell you about a man | 10/31/2009 |
Q: What does this tell you about a man? He has five children with five different women and he does not ...
A: The only things this description suggests is that this man doesn't really like commitments and ...
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| 12yr old | 10/31/2009 |
Q: My wife and I are currently having trouble with our 12yr old daughter. Well she is my step daughter. ...
A: At her age, stress may come from physical changes related to adolescence, peer relationships, ...
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| 12yr old | 10/31/2009 |
Q: My wife and I are currently having trouble with our 12yr old daughter. Well she is my step daughter. ...
A: You are probably right about being too pushy with her. My advice to most stepparents is to work on ...
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| Lying, personal finace mess! | 10/27/2009 |
Q: Two weeks after my son turned eighteen he moved out on his own with no financial income.We let him ...
A: You don't do anything. His grandparents are taking responsibility for him. If they choose to bail ...
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| If a single man wants to adopt a child in the USA, would it be difficult for him to fine a healthy child | 10/27/2009 |
Q: If a single man wants to adopt a child in the USA, would it be difficult for him to fine a healthy ...
A: I don't know how easy it would be to arrange a private adoption without going through an adoption ...
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| Parenting Help needed | 10/23/2009 |
Q: My name is Dan and live in Colorado. My son is 14 and lives in KC with his mother. A brief history ...
A: I suspect that some damage was done during the years you and his mother were in conflict. His being ...
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| Please Help | 10/22/2009 |
Q: We as parents are well and truly at the end with our 15 year old. We have got to the point that we ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about how much of a nightmare it is to live with your son. As to the missing ...
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| 11 year old son who lies | 10/21/2009 |
Q: I have an 11 year-old son who lies constantly, but mostly about school. His teacher this year said ...
A: Yes, it can be frustrating when you have a child who lies. However, it is learned behavior and ...
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| Lying | 10/21/2009 |
Q: My 14 year old son was supposed to join track. He was sick on & off for the first 2 weeks of school, ...
A: I don't think lying is hereditary. I believe it is learned behavior. Adolescents often lie because ...
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| Why is this the case with both parrents, and the child is happy in Japan | 10/20/2009 |
Q: Why would a Japanees mother keep her child in Japan when a US court orders her child to return to ...
A: Why do people who were once in love become bitter and angery toward each other after they break up? ...
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| 12 year old tearful to leave the house | 10/20/2009 |
Q: My 12 year old daughter had her birthday about 3 weeks ago. Ever since she has been upset whenever ...
A: Becoming an adolescent is a difficult time of adjustment for many children. Often children entering ...
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| I think someone needs help and I don't know what to do. | 10/19/2009 |
Q: I have a bad feeling that this girl I know may be being emotionally abused by her parents. This girl ...
A: It sounds like you are a good friend to her and you want to help her. Certainly, talking to an abuse ...
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| Why is this the case with both parrents, and the child is happy in Japan | 10/18/2009 |
Q: Why would a Japanees mother keep her child in Japan when a US court orders her child to return to ...
A: Again, my guess is that the parents are very angry and bitter toward each other and are willing to ...
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| How would a little girl feel toward her father when she is told this | 10/18/2009 |
Q: How would a little girl feel toward her father when she is told this? She was told that if her ...
A: A little girl's reaction to learning about such a prenuptial agreement would very likely be colored ...
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| Why is this the case with both parrents, and the child is happy in Japan | 10/18/2009 |
Q: Why would a Japanees mother keep her child in Japan when a US court orders her child to return to ...
A: A Japanese mother may prefer to raise her child in Japan despite a court order to return the child ...
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| mother/son | 10/18/2009 |
Q: I have three children. Two boys, 23,16 and 1 girl, 12. I divorced their father 7 years ago. My ...
A: Based on what you've written to me, I don't know why your sons are alienated from you. However, I ...
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| How old would a child need be to recognize that the dolphin is friendly in the Ocean to humans | 10/14/2009 |
Q: If a child is drowning or in danger in the Ocean and there is a bottlenose dolphin is near by, how ...
A: The answer depends on a number of factors. First, just talking about the cognitive abilities of a ...
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| Dating father of out of control teen boy | 10/14/2009 |
Q: For the past year, I've been seriously dating a wonderful man, Tony, who I actually have known since ...
A: So, you're feeling that if somehow you were a better person or more adequate as a person that Tony ...
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| Angry 18 year old son.... | 10/13/2009 |
Q: I have been dealing with my sons behavior for the last 3 years, it seems he has been on spiral ...
A: Sorry to hear about all of the problems you've had with your son. I understand you don't want to ...
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| My teen is asking difficult questions. | 10/13/2009 |
Q: Violet is 13, and when she got back from school yesterday, she asked me why she doesn't have ...
A: She's been thinking about this! The key to this series of questions concerns love -- and love for ...
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| My teen is asking difficult questions. | 10/12/2009 |
Q: Violet is 13, and when she got back from school yesterday, she asked me why she doesn't have ...
A: It's always a good idea when young teens are asking questions about sensitive areas to answer the ...
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| lieing to get out of work | 10/12/2009 |
Q: My son is 15. He has a problem lying. My husband and I are trying to understand why. sometimes it ...
A: I think you generally have a pretty good understanding of why he lies. No need to spend time trying ...
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| my mother is going crazy. i dont know why? | 10/12/2009 |
Q: i hate my mother. she is completely over protecting, she tries to make every decision for me and im ...
A: Your mother might be overprotective. She may be overly concerned about keeping you safe. However, ...
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| What does this tell you about an 18 year old mother | 10/11/2009 |
Q: What does this tell you about an 18 year old mother? She got pregnant with him at a party and he is ...
A: Your question has to do with what we can determine about this young mother based on the facts you ...
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| boys 13 and 10 | 10/10/2009 |
Q: James. I have 2 sons aged 13 and 10 and both are very much like chalk and cheese, always bickering ...
A: It is not easy raising children, particularly as they are entering the teenage years. Nor is it easy ...
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| help | 10/9/2009 |
Q: i ave a 14 year old daughter who is getting worse every month , average tennager she is cheeky . but ...
A: Your daughter does need help and you did the right thing by taking her to counseling before. ...
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| Would a ten year old be able to comprehend the following | 10/8/2009 |
Q: Would a ten year old be able to comprehend the following http://international-divorce.com ...
A: I'm sure most 10-year-olds would be completely lost in such discussions or instruction. A ...
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| How would a adult women feel when she hears this | 10/8/2009 |
Q: How would an adult woman feel toward her father who abandoned her when she is a baby? Her father ...
A: I suspect that most adult women, having contact with a father who abandoned them, and hearing that ...
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| 8 yr spoiled boy | 10/7/2009 |
Q: I am a parent to a smart, caring, friendly, loving boy. He is provided well for. WII, dirt bike, ...
A: As to your major question of should you have him removed from the home for a week, I would say that ...
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| 11 year old son | 10/7/2009 |
Q: I have an 11 year old son who I can't handle being around. He is moody and leaves everything at his ...
A: Eleven year olds are just starting adolescence and they may act somewhat strangely -- and they are ...
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| Dating father of out of control teen boy | 10/5/2009 |
Q: For the past year, I've been seriously dating a wonderful man, Tony, who I actually have known since ...
A: It sounds like Tony is really mad at you and he is using excuses to avoid confronting his real anger ...
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| Punishment does not fit the crime | 10/2/2009 |
Q: I have a 13-year old daughter, straight A student, rarely gets into any trouble and is an all around ...
A: The only way you are a pushover is by allowing your boyfriend to co-parent. This would not be ...
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| 19 Year Old Son Not Motivated | 9/30/2009 |
Q: I have a 19 year old son living at home. He graduated from high school in 2008, but didn't sign up ...
A: I would say if you can work with him at home then you have a chance to provide some supervision and ...
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| 16 year old daughter with attitude | 9/30/2009 |
Q: I have a wonderful 16 year old daughter who has resently become defiant and disrespectful to her ...
A: Many children have a sense of entitlement. Often this comes about because we gave them so much as ...
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| 13 yr old twins that are disrespectful | 9/29/2009 |
Q: I'am having a very difficult time with with my two daughters as far as direspect,poor language, ...
A: I think what you are experiencing is related to them being adolescents. As teenagers strive for ...
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| Dating father of out of control teen boy | 9/29/2009 |
Q: For the past year, I've been seriously dating a wonderful man, Tony, who I actually have known since ...
A: Tony may have some unrealistic and, perhaps, inappropriate expectations for you in regards to his ...
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| Can you tell if a woman has this psychological profile | 9/27/2009 |
Q: Can you tell if a woman has this psychological profile if you have a private investigator that can ...
A: Of course, anyone can lie when being tested. But most personality tests are constructed to tell if a ...
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| husband obsessed with "checking up" on teen daughter | 9/25/2009 |
Q: I need some help here! My husband and I have been married for almost 10 years, and I have a 16 1/2 ...
A: Of course, one should have a healthy skepticism when it comes to teenagers and their behaviors. On ...
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| 13 yr. old boy with very aggressive behavior and total disrespect | 9/24/2009 |
Q: My son has been arrested two times in the past 2 yrs. Once for battery and the other for aggravated ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about your son's problems. I'm glad to hear that he is seeing a counselor and is ...
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| 19 year old step-daughter who will not listen ! | 9/23/2009 |
Q: Ok so my step daughter is 19 she recently moved in with us after we found out she was hooked on pain ...
A: I'm sure you may be seen as the "bad guy" in her life for a long time. And, obviously, her mother ...
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| My Daughter Refuses Contact With Me | 9/22/2009 |
Q: I can totally relate to this subject. I'm the mom of five. I have 4 grown sons and my youngest is my ...
A: Many times following a divorce, children become alienated from one of their parents. Often, it is ...
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| Step-daughter's Stealing | 9/21/2009 |
Q: From the beginning of my relationship with her mother, my 19 year old step-daughter has never ...
A: Contrary to what would be intuitive reasoning, adolescents have much more difficulty accepting ...
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| our son - 16 yrs | 9/20/2009 |
Q: Dan from AllExpert recommended us to contact you. Our 16 yr old son is a Jr. in high school. Prior ...
A: My guess is that given your son's success prior to high school and his apparent motivation to do ...
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| Can you tell if a woman has this psychological profile | 9/20/2009 |
Q: Can you tell if a woman has this psychological profile if you have a private investigator that can ...
A: There are various adult personality tests that are widely used to assess an individual's personality ...
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| ideological differences | 9/19/2009 |
Q: i had a friend.we met initially 3 yrs ago.we used to meet each other in a club.we became great pals ...
A: If you told your parents about him, would they allow you to keep in touch with him if they knew the ...
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| Trades | 9/17/2009 |
Q: James My son graduated from high school last year and since then he has been working as a delivery ...
A: There are a great many job and career options that might fall in the broad category of trades that ...
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| My 14 year old son lies, sneaks, seems to not care about anything and is now skipping school | 9/17/2009 |
Q: I have a 14 year old son who is a freshman in high school this year. He has had a long time history ...
A: Since you indicate that your son has a long history of sneaking around and lying, I'm not sure ...
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| 14 Year old aggressive behaviour | 9/17/2009 |
Q: I have a 14 year old boy and he is currently showing major behavioural problems. He is aggressive, ...
A: I'm sure you have been very frustrated with trying to help your son. What makes it more frustrating ...
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| Angermangment and Schooling | 9/17/2009 |
Q: I am 23 years old and my girlfriend(20) is dealing with a very complex and hard situation within her ...
A: Certainly you and his family have a right to be concerned about this boy. He does have serious ...
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| ideological differences | 9/16/2009 |
Q: i had a friend.we met initially 3 yrs ago.we used to meet each other in a club.we became great pals ...
A: It sounds like you have a real dilemma. You can't really tell your parents about the relationship ...
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| Please Help my son!!! | 9/16/2009 |
Q: I have a son who’s turning 13 yrs in a few months.Had him when I was 19 I am 32 now. I have been a ...
A: Perhaps you can let him know that if there was any way you could have him back living with you ...
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| 6th year old granddaughter | 9/16/2009 |
Q: My 6 year old granddaughter is in the 1st grade and exibitiing a behavior issue of wetting her ...
A: Since this is a new problem and hasn't been going on that long, I would guess it has something to do ...
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| Problem with 15 yr old | 9/15/2009 |
Q: I really need some advice on my ex- husbands soon to be step daughter. I am very worried for my ...
A: Are you asking what rights you have? Or that the girl's mother and future stepfather have? If ...
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| Can you tell if a woman has this psychological profile | 9/15/2009 |
Q: Can you tell if a woman has this psychological profile if you have a private investigator that can ...
A: I suppose you could get a fairly good idea of what kind of personality profile a woman had if you ...
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| stealing | 9/15/2009 |
Q: I have a 8 year old nephew who steals money... Usually it would just have been sweets and little ...
A: While scoldings, reprimands, and punishments should be administered after he is caught stealing, ...
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| How can you tell if a women is materialistic | 9/15/2009 |
Q: How can you tell if a women is materialistic? Materialistic describes a person who is markedly more ...
A: I think this is fairly easy. See how she runs her life and what's important to her. What are her ...
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| Totally at a loss | 9/13/2009 |
Q: We have a wonderful 16 year old daughter, junior in high school. She is taking 4 AP classes this ...
A: It sounds to me like you have a happy, well-adjusted daughter who is not obsessed with academic ...
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| 18 yr old son with no ambition | 9/12/2009 |
Q: plz help me!My son is 18 has graduated but thats all. Doesn't have a job or drivers license, shows ...
A: I'm afraid you are going to have to take some drastic steps to get him going. He has a comfortable ...
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| daughter is violent | 9/12/2009 |
Q: I took my daughter to only 3 therapy sessions "just recently as I can't cope anymore" with ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the difficulties you are having with your 15-year-old daughter. ...
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| 12 yr old friend urinating in public | 9/12/2009 |
Q: My daughter has a friend who is also 12 years old. This friend often does things that are impulsive ...
A: Peer pressure can work both ways. Obviously, your daughter is a kind, compassionate girl who wants ...
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| 16 year old juvenile on probation | 9/11/2009 |
Q: My husband's son lives with us. He has recently returned from Juvenile Boot Camp due to two ...
A: Often when teenagers are on probation to a juvenile court, part of the probation order is that they ...
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| 6 year olds fighting | 9/10/2009 |
Q: My family and I are going camping next weekend with some friends and their children. On the camping ...
A: I would suggest that you talk to your daughter and ask her what she could do to make sure the ...
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| 14 yo girl | 9/10/2009 |
Q: My husband and i adopted a newborn 14 years ago. After about a year , the marriage eneded when I ...
A: It is difficult to predict if a teenager who wants to live with the other parent will come back or ...
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| Daughter joined to the hip with boyfriend | 9/9/2009 |
Q: I have asked you a question before and I greatly appreciate the advice you've given. My 15 year old ...
A: I don't think you should be concerned about being too strict. You've allowed her to have a boyfriend ...
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| 12 yr old friend urinating in public | 9/8/2009 |
Q: My daughter has a friend who is also 12 years old. This friend often does things that are impulsive ...
A: Although you label this 12-year-old girl as a preteen, I think she's a teen -- and probably has been ...
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| My son's manipulative girlfriend | 9/7/2009 |
Q: Windell, I am a single mother have and one son, 19 years old. Our relationship has been good and ...
A: If you are paying for his education, then I would suggest that you start by telling him he has one ...
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| If you have sex with American women how can you tell if she will | 9/7/2009 |
Q: If you have sex with American women how can you tell if she will? The same thing that will happen ...
A: The problem with psychological evaluations, coming right out and asking a question, using drugs or a ...
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| If you have sex with American women how can you tell if she will | 9/6/2009 |
Q: If you have sex with American women how can you tell if she will? The same thing that will happen ...
A: There's no way to predict the answers to your questions if you don't know the woman very well. One ...
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| 21yr old son who is lazy | 9/4/2009 |
Q: I have a 21 yr old son from my first marriage. When his mother and I divorced, I got full custody ...
A: Yes, I agree with you. Maybe having to shift for himself will help him to mature and to look at ...
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| 13 yr old gets her way due to lack of parenting | 9/4/2009 |
Q: My fiancee & I are 39 yrs old. He has a half sister w/mother in jail, father who is 62 yrs ...
A: It really isn't your responsibility to parent this young teen. However, no one else is taking the ...
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| miserable time parenting my 13 year old daughter | 9/4/2009 |
Q: Windell: You've helped me once before and I value and greatly appreciate your opinion and really ...
A: It sounds like you have a delightful daughter and that you should enjoy your relationship with her. ...
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| My 13 year old is out of control | 9/3/2009 |
Q: My 13 year old son learned what porn was this summer. He had watched it all summer without my ...
A: Your son seems to have emotional problems and it is a good thing that he is seeing a therapist. You ...
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| behavioral issues | 9/2/2009 |
Q: My son is 9 years old and is having anger/behavior issues. We have moved last year and now my ...
A: I'm a bit confused about when your son is disrespectful and defiant and when he's an angel. If he's ...
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| Chatting in Class & Lack of Effort or Self Motivation | 9/2/2009 |
Q: My 12 year old son is starting to get into trouble in class (primary school, Australia) due to ...
A: Your son is obviously a very social and out-going boy, who enjoys talking to others. He is not doing ...
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| 10 year old Granddaughter | 9/1/2009 |
Q: My daughter and I are seeking suggestions on what methods of discipline are generally most effective ...
A: Discipline for a child of any age and for a child of any kind of temperament should be a number of ...
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| 18 yr. old daughter | 9/1/2009 |
Q: My step-daughter recently returned home after not seeing us (my husband and I) for 3 years. We are ...
A: I agree that there are various good reasons why a curfew is important. While it is difficult to ...
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| BI POLAR TEEN | 9/1/2009 |
Q: WHAT CAN MY SISTER DO TO GET HELP FOR A 15YR OLD WHO HAS BEEN DAGNOSED AS BI POLAR AND HAS NOW BEGUN ...
A: Your niece does need mental health services. And there are plenty of ways to locate professional ...
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| how to deal with a obsessed teen | 8/31/2009 |
Q: Last year I got a job working with teens. It's been great so far but I'm a little worried a teenage ...
A: When you work with people, particularly in certain kinds of mental health settings or clinics, you ...
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| My daughter won' seek help for depression | 8/31/2009 |
Q: I have twin 18 year olds. I am writing about my daughter. She threatened suicide again today when I ...
A: I think it is very difficult for parents to help bring about insight in their young adult children. ...
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| Please Help my son!!! | 8/27/2009 |
Q: I have a son who’s turning 13 yrs in a few months.Had him when I was 19 I am 32 now. I have been ...
A: F., It seems like you don't have much choice. You know what your son needs and you are able to ...
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| 21yr old son who is lazy | 8/27/2009 |
Q: I have a 21 yr old son from my first marriage. When his mother and I divorced, I got full custody ...
A: There's nothing like poverty and desperation to help young adults realize they can't depend on ...
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| "baby" brother | 8/27/2009 |
Q: My brother just turned 23, lives at home, no job, no car, no ambition and no respect. It's tearing ...
A: It's very nice of you to want to help your brother and your parents. I suspect, however, that the ...
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| troubled teens | 8/26/2009 |
Q: I am a 25 yo married female, my husband is 12 years older than I am, and we have a 2 yo girl and a 4 ...
A: It does sound like the boys you have taken in are very troubled. Given their past with abuse and ...
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| teenage / parent attachment | 8/26/2009 |
Q: I am trying to understand my stepsons (age 16) relationship with his father. He is very one on one ...
A: There are two possibilities for why your stepson is so attached to his father. The first ...
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| 18 year old daughter extremely moody | 8/25/2009 |
Q: i wonder if you can help or advise me please. i have an 18 year old daughter that is extremely ...
A: Your daughter does sound like she is depressed and unhappy. Of course, there could be many reasons ...
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| 18 year old daughter extremely moody | 8/23/2009 |
Q: i wonder if you can help or advise me please. i have an 18 year old daughter that is extremely ...
A: It's hard to say, based on the information you've given me, whether your daughter is acting like a ...
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| 17 yr old daughter | 8/23/2009 |
Q: I need some advice on how to handle my daughter's COMPLETE lack of intellectual curiosity. She is a ...
A: Not everybody is an intellectual. But I'm sure this is frustrating for you since you and your ...
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| Losing control over a young adults life | 8/21/2009 |
Q: This issue deals with a young adult, recently a teen, but there do not seem to be any categories ...
A: It sounds like you and your husband have done so much to help her and make sure she is getting an ...
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| 9 yr old son says he is depressed and hates his life | 8/17/2009 |
Q: My 9 yr old son admitted to me today that at times he hates his life so much that he thought about ...
A: Your son might be very melodramatic, however, he might also be depressed and suicidal. It's not ...
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| 19 year old | 8/16/2009 |
Q: My daughter just turned 19, we have just found out see is seeing a 35 year old man. It has just came ...
A: You probably have no rights to stop this relationship. In most states, by the age of 18, children ...
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| Sisters | 8/14/2009 |
Q: Well hello. I'm only 18 years old but I feel as if I am raising my 16 year own sister. Even though I ...
A: It's often not easy raising a 16-year-old. It's really very difficult if you are an older sibling ...
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| motivate | 8/13/2009 |
Q: my 16 year old son made the high school soccer team the last two years except this year. He did not ...
A: I'm sorry to hear that your son did not make varsity. I'm sure he is very disappointed and sad. My ...
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| My 16year old is abusive | 8/12/2009 |
Q: My Husband has had relationship issues for the last year with my daughter. My daughter refused to ...
A: I don't think the answer is for him to leave. It might ease some tensions immediately, but it's not ...
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| Son's manipulative girlfriend | 8/12/2009 |
Q: My son is 26 years old. My husband and I live in Pennsylvania; our son lives in Florida in our ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the problems between you and your son, and between you and his girlfriend ...
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| 18 year old son does not show any respect for us | 8/8/2009 |
Q: My son turned 18 in May this year. For the last two years we have had a lot of bad behavior from ...
A: I don't agree that you should kick him out at this time. However, I do believe that there must be ...
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| sexuality | 8/5/2009 |
Q: I have a 7 year old that we have some concerned about. She has been 'humping' things since she was ...
A: Many physicians and mental health professionals immediately jump to the conclusion that a child must ...
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| Asked Son to Move Out | 8/5/2009 |
Q: Our son graduated from high school this June and and through his senior year got into a great deal ...
A: The fact that after being accepted in to college he chooses not to go suggests that he is not ...
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| What does this tell you about a mother | 7/30/2009 |
Q: What does this tell you about a mother? What do most American man say about this? She has a little ...
A: Yes, it is very likely the father would be mad, or at least confused, as to why they were not ...
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| Help | 7/27/2009 |
Q: I have a problems that is really hard for me. I am 14 and I am a swimmer. Swimmers shave their legs ...
A: Now that she knows you shave your legs, she may need some time to adjust to it. It is likely she may ...
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| Are my parents correct? | 7/27/2009 |
Q: I am not a parent who needs help with their child, rather a child who needs help with their parents. ...
A: Whether I agree with you or your parents is probably not all that important. I think you have a ...
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| What does this tell you about a mother | 7/26/2009 |
Q: What does this tell you about a mother? What do most American man say about this? She has a little ...
A: If a father is suddenly informed he has a young adult daughter, he might be shocked and surprised. ...
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| Teen Driving | 7/26/2009 |
Q: While away for 4 days, I left my 17 year old son (almost 18) at home, supervised by my mother. Upon ...
A: I tend to support your handling of this. What you wanted to do was protect your son and his friends. ...
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| Do believe that this is the truth yes or no | 7/25/2009 |
Q: The majority of American men at least 4 out of 5 married men (80%) are trapped in a miserable ...
A: No. I don't believe this. I'd have to see some research before I would consider these statistics you ...
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| What does this tell you about a man | 7/25/2009 |
Q: What does this tell you about a man? He is informed that he has a baby daughter in the USA. Because ...
A: All this tells me about this man is that he willing to respect the mother's wishes not to see his ...
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| What does this tell you about a mother | 7/25/2009 |
Q: What does this tell you about a mother? What do most American man say about this? She has a little ...
A: What this says about this mother is that she believes she can do a better job alone of raising her ...
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| Effective punishment for a 12 year old boy with ADHD, ODD and Bipolar Disorder | 7/24/2009 |
Q: My 12 year old son is having a real difficult time. Honestly, the past 12 years have been real ...
A: I'm sure you are right when you say the last 12 years has been difficult. Your son has multiple ...
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| My Daughter is mad because i wont let her date | 7/24/2009 |
Q: my daughter is 15 and likes this 17 year old boy and they go to church together but i told her that ...
A: I fully support your decision to not allow her to date a 17-year-old boy, although I may not agree ...
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| Can you determine if a sociological exam if a woman is raised that way, Yes or No | 7/22/2009 |
Q: Can you determine if a sociological exam if a woman is raised that way, Yes or No? Do you think ...
A: I'm not sure what you're asking. And I don't I agree with the statistics you cited. That is, I ...
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| Arrested Development | 7/21/2009 |
Q: My sister is 22 years old. She has been in 4 separate colleges, (my parents have paid for them all, ...
A: You have a right to be concerned about your sister and your parents. Your sister has poor social ...
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| Why is this the case | 7/12/2009 |
Q: Why is it in many cases when an US born child is retrained in violation of US custody order in the ...
A: The expectation in America is that both parents will be part of the child's life -- no matter when a ...
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| Why is this the case | 7/12/2009 |
Q: Why is it in many cases when an US born child is retrained in violation of US custody order in the ...
A: I'm afraid that when there are custody disputes many Americans seek to use courts to punish. Our ...
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| Teenage daughter's cell phone use | 7/10/2009 |
Q: My had a boyfriend that was too old for her back in Oct of 2008. She was 14 and he was almost 18. We ...
A: If you get angry every time you get tricked or deceived by a teenager, you're going to be angry all ...
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| What would many mothers do in this case | 7/8/2009 |
Q: Would many American mothers still visit there daughter who was illegally retained in Germany under ...
A: I think many American mothers would still try to maintain a relationship with their daughter despite ...
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| Help with adult son | 7/8/2009 |
Q: Please help. My son is 25, but acting 17. He has a good career, but did not stay in college. I feel ...
A: Every family needs that one person to keep the family together. However, if someone repeatedly ...
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| How would a little girl feel toward her parents | 7/7/2009 |
Q: How would a little girl feel toward her parents? She is told by her father, that he paid her mother ...
A: Depending on the personality and temperament of this girl, she may resent both her mother and ...
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| my son | 7/7/2009 |
Q: My son is 6 , and had a sleep over i walked into the bedroom and they were under the blankets i ...
A: I'm sure your son was playing. It is very normal for young children to explore each other's body and ...
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| Son smoking pot | 7/7/2009 |
Q: My 16 year old is occasionally (few times a month) smoking pot. He is very honest and talks with me ...
A: You may not be able to stop him from smoking marijuana. Since he is talking to you about his ...
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| Help with adult son | 7/6/2009 |
Q: Please help. My son is 25, but acting 17. He has a good career, but did not stay in college. I feel ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the pain caused by your sons. When your children are adults, even when they ...
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| 13yo grandson | 7/4/2009 |
Q: My 29yo daughter died suddenly 2yrs ago leaving three sons 11, 8 and 2yrs. I am very bonded w/ each ...
A: I like your perspective on this situation and on your 13-year-old grandson. He was 11 when his ...
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| How does this effect a normal child | 7/3/2009 |
Q: A Spanish Citizen, Maria Jose Carrascosa married her American husband in Spain in 1999. The next ...
A: Of course, parents, grandparents, and other relatives frequently are able to alienate a child from ...
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| facing divorce | 7/3/2009 |
Q: I don't even know where to begin. First let me say that this is my 3rd marriage. The first ended ...
A: It seems to me that you might be overly involved in your stepson's life. While I can appreciate that ...
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| How does this effect a normal child | 7/2/2009 |
Q: A Spanish Citizen, Maria Jose Carrascosa married her American husband in Spain in 1999. The next ...
A: If a child is deprived of both her mother and father, of course, she's going to suffer. She may be ...
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| 12 year old girl | 7/1/2009 |
Q: Would a 12 year old French girl the only survivor of the airplane Flight IY626 near the Comoros ...
A: There are many factors that are likely to be involved in what she can remember and what details she ...
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| How do supervised visitations work for children | 6/30/2009 |
Q: How do supervised visitations work for children? A father has supervised visitation of his daughter ...
A: Usually a court or an agency orders that one parent have supervised visitation. The supervision is ...
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| Teenage virtual relationships, crushes | 6/29/2009 |
Q: I hope you can help me. My grandson who lives with me is almost 16 years old and he is really ...
A: Because of the wonders of technology, boys and girls are meeting and developing relationships when ...
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| 9 year old boy has an all day tantrum | 6/28/2009 |
Q: We are having allot of trouble with our 9 year old son. We have a 7 year old girl and 4 year old ...
A: Of course, I don't know if you are inconsistent with him or if there is another reason for the ...
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| mental | 6/26/2009 |
Q: is there any name for when a teen (or anyone) tries to make anything and everything mean the ...
A: I suspect that what you're referring to is an adolescent who likes to have fun with adults ...
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| single mom raising teen boy | 6/18/2009 |
Q: I am having a hard time denying him what he wants even when it is a hardship on me. I would do ...
A: As a parent who raised two teens of my own and a stepson, I wouldn't think twice about this. My ...
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| MY problem | 6/17/2009 |
Q: Hey! I am a swimmer/biker and we have to shave our legs because 1. You go faster when you are ...
A: I hope your mother wouldn't freak out if she knew you shaved your legs. However, do all swimmers ...
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| 16 YOA daughter/18 YOA boyfriend | 6/17/2009 |
Q: My daughter has been in this relationship for 2 years. She will be a senior this coming school year ...
A: You're right. It's not a good idea to try to break them up. It will perhaps make things worse. And ...
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| 14 years old lying to get what she want | 6/16/2009 |
Q: my daughter keeps lying, to stay out with friends. she makes every excuses(buses are late, lots of ...
A: This situation with your daughter is only partly about lying. The real problem is the freedom and ...
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| discliplining step daugher | 6/16/2009 |
Q: Wife and I going on 5 years marriage and I have 12 year old step daughter. She is suddenly getting ...
A: As many childen move into adolescence they become more sassy and even defiant. This may be ...
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| Teenage daughter lying about mother | 6/16/2009 |
Q: My 17-year-old daughter consistently tells her friends lies about me (I monitor her emails and ...
A: I suspect your daughter may know you monitor her emails and this could be one reason why she's ...
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| 23 year old, having issues with parents | 6/16/2009 |
Q: my name is Natalie and I am a 23 year old college graduate. My boyfriend of 6 years has just been ...
A: Yes, we all owe our parents love and respect. We do not owe them to the extent that we will never ...
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| Sexually Curious | 6/15/2009 |
Q: I have 4 children. my oldest is 19 and the youngest is 19 months. The focus of this discussion ...
A: I would suggest that you continue to be open and honest with your children. If you overreact or if ...
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| angry 17 yr. old son | 6/15/2009 |
Q: My husband are continuing to have difficulties with our 17 yr. old son and his anger. The problems ...
A: All teenagers, especially males, say they won't go to a therapist. But if you went as a family, he'd ...
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| Is my 15 yr old too far gone for us to help? Is it time for outside help? | 6/15/2009 |
Q: In about March of this year my 15 yr old daughter became interested in an 18 yr old senior in her ...
A: I think there is reason to be concerned. Many early-maturing girls get caught up in relationships ...
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| Conduct of a Forensic Threapist in a reunification case in | 6/14/2009 |
Q: I am a mother that has been seperated from her son for 11.5 yrs ( he is 16.5 )and currently have a ...
A: A lot may depend on the judge. If the judge tends to be sympathetic toward people or towards ...
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| stealing and lying repetitively | 6/14/2009 |
Q: I read your answer to another mom about her 8 year old daughter lying and stealing and found your ...
A: Eleven-year-olds are not known to be particularly self-confident. And most young adolescent boys ...
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| 13 year old son | 6/14/2009 |
Q: i recently let my thirteen year old son have a facebook account. In the last three weeks he has ...
A: I tend to think that at least a portion of the present generation is more sexualized. Some kids are ...
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| 19 year old son | 6/14/2009 |
Q: My 19 year old son started univerisity as a sophmore from accumulated AP credit and entrance exams. ...
A: How can we not be worried about our children? Of course, you are going to worry about him. ...
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| I don't know who my son is anymore | 6/14/2009 |
Q: My son is 18 years old and one of 3 children. My eldest daughter is 30 (step sister to my son)and ...
A: I would agree with you; it sounds like you are being used by him. You have requested he help out ...
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| angry 17 yr. old son | 6/13/2009 |
Q: My husband are continuing to have difficulties with our 17 yr. old son and his anger. The problems ...
A: It sounds like maybe your husband has his own anger issues. But I think part of the problem is ...
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| Conduct of a Forensic Threapist in a reunification case in "question". | 6/12/2009 |
Q: I am a mother that has been seperated from her son for 11.5 yrs ( he is 16.5 )and currently have a ...
A: Are you stuck with this forensic psychologist? Is he the only one who can bring about reunification? ...
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| stealing and lying repetitively | 6/12/2009 |
Q: I read your answer to another mom about her 8 year old daughter lying and stealing and found your ...
A: The problem isn't how he expresses himself. The problem is stealing. Being able to explain why he ...
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| 18 y/o daughter still living at home | 6/12/2009 |
Q: I have an 18 y/o daughter who still lives at home while attending a local college. It was agreed ...
A: Having a messy teenager can be disruptive to the whole family. However, your basic agreement with ...
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| 13 year old son | 6/11/2009 |
Q: i recently let my thirteen year old son have a facebook account. In the last three weeks he has ...
A: You allowed your son to have a privilege (a Facebook account), which he did not use properly. And ...
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| pressing charges | 6/11/2009 |
Q: My names Jessica, and right now im going through something hard.. my brother almost went to jail for ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the crisis you and your family are going through. I'm not a lawyer and I ...
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| 16 yr. old daughter | 6/10/2009 |
Q: my 16 yr old daughter uses her cell phone in ways i feel are unsafe and unhealthy. there are text ...
A: When our teenagers are doing inappropriate things, we have an obligation to do something about it. ...
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| Son smoking pot | 6/9/2009 |
Q: My 16 year old is occasionally (few times a month) smoking pot. He is very honest and talks with me ...
A: If I understand the situation, your husband took the computer qaway until he pasees a drug test and ...
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| out of control 16 daughter , single mom needs help | 6/7/2009 |
Q: my daughter is 16 years old and is totally out off control she breaks furniture lamps anything in ...
A: I would not suggest you kick her out, because you are still legally responsible for her. In most ...
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| Why is this case? | 6/6/2009 |
Q: Why is this case? If I had to pick a teacher in that school to marry I would pick her, why? I used ...
A: You can find a female appealing at any age. It doesn't mean you're going to do anything about it, ...
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| Unsocial teenage son | 6/5/2009 |
Q: My son is 17 soon to be 18years old. He is a good boy, straight A student and planning to go to ...
A: Which ever he chooses, to stay at home or live on campus, doesn't have to be the final decdision. If ...
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| HELP teen son wants to grow up FAST!!! | 6/5/2009 |
Q: Mr. Windell, I am a 35 year old mother of a 15 year old son (he will be 16 in early September). ...
A: First, you have raised a son who is indepdendent and knows what he wants and what he doesn't want. ...
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| Unsocial teenage son | 6/4/2009 |
Q: My son is 17 soon to be 18years old. He is a good boy, straight A student and planning to go to ...
A: Congratulations on raising a bright and successful son. I understand your concern, but I also see ...
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| Can you anwer these questions for me | 6/2/2009 |
Q: Children who live with a lone mother are more likely to suffer from psychiatric disorders, ...
A: I don't think the research has been refined enough to take into consideration all of the ...
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| overprotective parents scaring me and the guy im seeing | 5/29/2009 |
Q: I have crazy overprotective asian parents. they recently found out i am seeing someone who is 18 ...
A: Instead of just defying your parents, you may want to consider what you can do to win them over and ...
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| overprotective parents scare me and the guy im seeing. | 5/29/2009 |
Q: I have crazy overprotective asian parents. they recently found out i am seeing someone who is 18 ...
A: I don't think there is a legal risk to your boyfriend. First, he would have to do something illegal. ...
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| Could my 9 year old son be depressed? | 5/28/2009 |
Q: My 9-year-old son has changed quite a bit in this past year. We've had one significant family change ...
A: Nine-year-olds typically can experience wide or unpredictable mood swings. They can go from being ...
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| my 14 year old lacks any motivation | 5/27/2009 |
Q: I have a very bright 14 year old boy. He started Jr high in all AP classes he is suppose to Graduate ...
A: It is very frustrating when you have a bright teenager who just does not seem motivated to do as ...
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| Controlling Anger in teenager | 5/27/2009 |
Q: I have a 13 year old son, who cries for small issues. If I do not agree to buy certain things, he ...
A: I think you're raising three issues in your question, so let me try to explain and clarify what I ...
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| What would most American woman do in this case | 5/25/2009 |
Q: What would most American woman do in this case? The American woman has the following options and ...
A: Again, I can't say what most American women would do. Some would see this as a good deal and accept ...
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| please help me wiht my son | 5/20/2009 |
Q: I am a mother of a 17 year old boy who has been diagnosed with persuasive developmental disorder ...
A: I don't know about California laws, as I live in Michigan. However, I believe it's federal law. I ...
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| 15 yr. old son Disrespectful @home and school | 5/19/2009 |
Q: I NEED HELP WITH MY 15 YEAR OLD SON. I GET NUMEROUS CALLS FROM THE SCHOOL HE ATTENDS I DO MEET WITH ...
A: Sorry for the delay in responding to your email. You didn't say when the problems with your son ...
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| Stole a hand gun and sold it | 5/18/2009 |
Q: me and my friend went out stealing stuff out of cars one night and he fount a hand gun in a glove ...
A: How long you get may depend on how you act in court in front of the judge, whether you take ...
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| please help me wiht my son | 5/18/2009 |
Q: I am a mother of a 17 year old boy who has been diagnosed with persuasive developmental disorder ...
A: Your school district should be providing you with community resources. Your son needs special ...
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| Stole a hand gun and sold it | 5/15/2009 |
Q: me and my friend went out stealing stuff out of cars one night and he fount a hand gun in a glove ...
A: I'm sorry that you're in this situation. However, it's not going to go any better for you if you ...
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| Are those women less likely to divorce American man | 5/14/2009 |
Q: Are those women less likely to divorce American man? Are those usually happy marriages on the woman ...
A: My intuition says you are probably right; that conservative, bright, religious women who opt for a ...
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| Why is this case? | 5/13/2009 |
Q: Why is this case? Only about 1 out of 5 men are happy with there marriage. This is not likely ...
A: You're asking me questions that I don't feel I'm an expert on. I don't consider myself a marriage or ...
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| 19 year old son | 5/11/2009 |
Q: I have had problems with my son since he was 15. It started with smoking and then turned to pot and ...
A: It sounds like there is some progress. He is working, saving some part of his money, and apparently ...
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| My 15 yr old daughter and 17 year old boyfriend | 5/11/2009 |
Q: My daughter has been dating her 16 now 17 year old boyfriend for almost a year. Outside of general ...
A: I know you only want what's best for your daughter. And you want to protect her from a relationship ...
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| Teens & bad relationships | 5/9/2009 |
Q: I have a 16 year old daughter who has been in an unhealthy relationship for almost 2 years now. They ...
A: Your daughter indeed has been -- and continues to be -- in an unhealthy relationship. My guess is ...
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| blended families | 5/9/2009 |
Q: I have an 11 year old step son who was abandoned by his mother when he was 2(i believe). She calls ...
A: Certainly I think you and his father need to know more about her life and her ability (not to ...
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| Unruly Teenager | 5/9/2009 |
Q: My 16 year old son is out of control. He thinks he can do whatever he wants whenever he wants. I ...
A: I don't know about the laws in your states, but in most states, a 16-year-old is still a minor and ...
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| Obsessive relationship/rebellion | 5/7/2009 |
Q: My 18 year old daughter was a good student, fairly good kid, if she pulled anything out of line ...
A: I would suggest you avoid arguments, because these will not be productive. Instead, if there is a ...
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| Is this man a pedophile or not. Yes or No? | 5/6/2009 |
Q: Is this man a pedophile or not. Yes or No? What do you think of 18 year old women that has a ...
A: In general, I think from a psychological standpoint that a pedophile is someone who has sexual urges ...
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| Child abandoned in a police station | 5/5/2009 |
Q: What would social services do when they found a child as old as ten years old abandoned in a police ...
A: I assume that social services would place the child in foster care and the parents would be charged ...
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| Obsessive relationship/rebellion | 5/4/2009 |
Q: My 18 year old daughter was a good student, fairly good kid, if she pulled anything out of line ...
A: Like many young adults, she is obsessed with a love relationship and is neglecting other parts of ...
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| 15 year old son | 5/4/2009 |
Q: My son is doing bad in school and is lying. We drug tested him so it isn't drugs. We have taken ...
A: You haven't give me any background information, so I'm going to assume that prior to this school ...
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| School | 5/1/2009 |
Q: Im not a parent but rather asking for help about my dad. You see he really overreacts to many things ...
A: I'm sorry to hear that you're afraid to face your father. However, your best bet is to initiate a ...
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| Would a judge take a child away from her mother if she does not want the father around | 4/30/2009 |
Q: Would a judge take a child away from her mother if she does not want the father around and the ...
A: If the father knows it is his child, and if the father wants to be involved in the child's life, ...
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| Would social service normally recommend to the court, that the father can’t see his daughter again | 4/30/2009 |
Q: Would social service normally recommend to the court, that the father can’t see his daughter again? ...
A: If a social service agency or child protective agency thought the child was being abused by her ...
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| Lying | 4/28/2009 |
Q: Our 16 year old daughter is a well-rounded, well respected Junior in high school with a 3.8 gpa. ...
A: I agree both with you and your pastor. She is a good girl and could be doing far worse things. On ...
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| my 12 year old daughter | 4/26/2009 |
Q: Help please. i feel my 12 year old daughter is out of control. I have had lots of probs with sophie, ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the stress you have related to trying to raise Sophie. She obviouasly has ...
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| Urgent help needed - Difficult 19 year old daughter | 4/25/2009 |
Q: My daughter has always been a great child until she turned 17. She was at 6th form studying a ...
A: As you continue to put pressure on her to contribute at home, I expect she will spend less time at ...
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| Why is this case in Belgium? | 4/24/2009 |
Q: Why is this case? American man gets Belgium women pregnant in Belgium. The mother is very thankful ...
A: I can't say what most American want. However, I'm sure that most of them want to be treated fairly. ...
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| Why is this case? | 4/23/2009 |
Q: If an American woman goes to court for chills support and visitations the American way, the fathers ...
A: Sadly you are right. Some lawyers wouyld advise that. And some fathers would do that -- with or ...
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| Why is this case in Belgium? | 4/23/2009 |
Q: Why is this case in America not Belgium? Why is this case? Belgium man will usually not walk away ...
A: Again, I can't account for the difference between Belgium fathers and American fathers except to say ...
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| Feeling like giving up on 16 year old son | 4/22/2009 |
Q: I apologize in advance for the length of my story but as you know with delinquent teens the stories ...
A: I can appreciate how disturbing your son's behavior is for you. You've tried everything you know how ...
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| My son is throwing away options for a great future. | 4/21/2009 |
Q: Windell, I have read your replies in the past and completely respect your opinion and believe you ...
A: Like many kids his age, your son sees himself as an independent adult who can make his own decisions ...
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| Unsocial teenage daughter | 4/20/2009 |
Q: I have a 17 year old daughter who rarely leaves the house. I believe she has a few friends but she ...
A: Of course, there is something wrong, but it doesn't mean she is abnormal in any way. That is, she ...
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| how to help better my 8 yr. old son's behavior | 4/18/2009 |
Q: Windell, I have an 8 yr. old boy who is displaying very loud, disrespectful behavior. I had been ...
A: Your son sounds like a normal eight-year-old child. What are eights all about? They are active, ...
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| help,teenage son in trouble with law and wont do anything I ask. | 4/17/2009 |
Q: I Am absolutely desperate for some advice.I am a single parent.I have a 14yr old son who is very ...
A: I'm sorry to hear how stressful life is trying to raise a teenager and not having much support to do ...
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| Repeated stealing | 4/17/2009 |
Q: My 16yr old daughter has stolen from me... again. Her response was 'it's just a bag Mum... get over ...
A: I know it is very disappointing and maddening when our teenagers steal from us. You indicate that ...
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| Anger Management for teen | 4/16/2009 |
Q: I have a 16 year old teenage son with anger issues. He is in counseling and has expressed interest ...
A: You mean, aside from the one I teach for Oakland County Circuit Court? The classes I teach for ...
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| sexual curiosity in 6 yr old boy | 4/16/2009 |
Q: I am wondering if it is appropriate and/or helpful to show my 6yr old boy photos or illustrations of ...
A: I think it might be appropriate to show your son photos of different penises. I like the fact that ...
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| My wonderful 16 yo daughter | 4/15/2009 |
Q: My daughter is a straight-A student, responsible, funny and a really good person. I like to think ...
A: I'm not sure what you did was wrong or ill-advised. I might have done the same thing with my ...
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| Daughter lacks control | 4/15/2009 |
Q: I have a 16 year old daughter who has ADD. She has been on medication for a few years and for the ...
A: Since you've noticed that this behavior is more likely to happen when her controls are not as ...
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| HELP with two spoiled brats | 4/13/2009 |
Q: please offer some advice. I'm dating a wonderful man and living in the home for over a year. He has ...
A: It's not a matter of whether you'd be wrong to bail out of the situation. It's just whether this ...
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| my six yr olds behaviour issues | 4/11/2009 |
Q: I am facing problems with my 6 year old daughter’s behavior particularly when it comes to studying ...
A: The reward and takens system seems to be working well. That suggests to me that she really does want ...
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| HELP with two spoiled brats | 4/10/2009 |
Q: please offer some advice. I'm dating a wonderful man and living in the home for over a year. He has ...
A: This is a difficult situation because your boyfriend is perhaps going to have to make some tough ...
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| Out of control 16 year old daughter | 4/8/2009 |
Q: I have a beautiful daughter that just turned 16 two weeks ago. I have always had to handle her with ...
A: Okay, so she's been oppositional and defiant for a long time and has made you walk on eggshells ...
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| My child's friends | 4/8/2009 |
Q: Should I be concerned that my 15 year old child hangs out with people who are nine to eleven years ...
A: Fifteen year olds are at an awkward age. Many are in the 9th grade at school and this seems to be an ...
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| Teenage daughter | 4/7/2009 |
Q: I wrote earlier regarding my 2 daughter's and how they are handling my divorce from their father. ...
A: Sorry to hear about the problems with your daughter. I think, given the problems she's having, that ...
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| 15 year old daughter, | 4/7/2009 |
Q: Windell. I have a 15 year old daughter, 10 year old daughter (w/Type 1 Diabetes) and 5 year old ...
A: You may all need to go to an experienced family therapist. Your daughter does have too much control ...
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| Losing hope for daughter | 4/7/2009 |
Q: I don't know what to do anymore with my daughter. She will be 13 in a few weeks and has always been ...
A: Let me remind you that your daughter is only 12. This means that not only does she have a number of ...
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| step parenting | 4/6/2009 |
Q: I have been dating a wonderful man for two years and we wish to move forward in our relationship. I ...
A: I think I tend to agree with you. You do have to pick your battles. You can't take a strong stand on ...
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| 20 year old unmotivated son | 4/5/2009 |
Q: Our son seems unmotivated. We have a 20 year old son who struggled through grade and high school. He ...
A: You might make an appointment for the whole family with a family therapist. Use your best ...
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| Bad Parenting?? | 4/5/2009 |
Q: I am a 17 year old twin, with a 22 year old sister who is rarely allowed to drive, despite having ...
A: No what you are experiencing is not normal -- or appropriate -- parenting of teenagers. While your ...
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| my six yr olds behaviour issues | 4/5/2009 |
Q: I am facing problems with my 6 year old daughter’s behavior particularly when it comes to studying ...
A: What you have tried with your daughter to make her a better student has not worked. Therefore, you ...
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| 14yr old | 4/5/2009 |
Q: My 14year old son wants to buy his 14year old girlfriend expensive perfume for her birthday..46euro. ...
A: I understand your concerns. You and I might both agree that he is too young to be buying a ...
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| 20 year old unmotivated son | 4/3/2009 |
Q: Our son seems unmotivated. We have a 20 year old son who struggled through grade and high school. He ...
A: I don't know why your son has struggled so much throughout school, but it would be important for you ...
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| teen driving | 4/2/2009 |
Q: My 16 year old new driver accidentally hit our fence while backing out of the driveway. She was ...
A: I think you are asking an excellent question. Should you stick with a prearranged punishment when it ...
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| Should a men regret making a havening sex | 4/2/2009 |
Q: Should a men regret making a havening sex with a mother, if this created a little girl? The mother ...
A: If the man was aware of what he was doing when he had sex with the woman, and if he was aware that ...
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| daughter hates my boyfriend, saw us having sex | 4/1/2009 |
Q: When my daughter was 10 she saw my then boyfriend and I having sex. She is now 15, and I am with a ...
A: Since she is now 15, I think you can have a frank discussion with her about sex and about her ...
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| 11 year old daughter | 3/30/2009 |
Q: I hope you can help me with this one. I have a great 11 year old daughter that is sweet, creative, ...
A: It sounds like you handled the discussion very well. The problem with her going back to porno sites ...
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| problem teen soon to be 18 | 3/30/2009 |
Q: I have a son that will be 18 y/o in 9 days. He has been 'out of control' for two years. Won't ...
A: If he has been arrested for possession of marijuana, this will mean he has to deal with the courts ...
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| children and sexuality | 3/30/2009 |
Q: I have a situation that we aren't sure how to handle. I have a 6 year old daughter who often plays ...
A: These kinds of situations don't indicate much of anything except for normal childhood curiosity with ...
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| 7 year old son | 3/26/2009 |
Q: My question is regarding my 7 year old son. My son is a smart kid, but seems to be rebellious. In ...
A: Is it that he is not being responsible or is it that he is easily distracted and loses focus? Since ...
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| Teenage Brother Problem | 3/24/2009 |
Q: Hope all is fine. My 18 year old brother (has diabetes Type I since he was 12)has been causing my ...
A: What your brother is doing is very common for older teenage boys. They get involved with their ...
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| marijuana use, | 3/24/2009 |
Q: My friends son has moved back into their home. He took a semester off of school for "personal ...
A: Does your friend feel like he is to blame for his son's behavior? Does he feel like he can't stand ...
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| my twelve year old daughter is running our household | 3/22/2009 |
Q: Ever since our twelve year old daughter started middle school this year, she has grown up so quickly ...
A: Sorry to hear about the difficulties with your daughter. I think a good place to start would be to ...
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| 14 year old son with 16 year old girlfriend | 3/21/2009 |
Q: My 14 year old son has a girlfriend that just turned 16. They can only see each other when we take ...
A: I'm not sure why you decided to try to break up their relationship. Is it because she is 16? Because ...
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| Becoming a step parent | 3/21/2009 |
Q: I fell in love with a woman who has a 13 year old son who does not like me at all. He has his own ...
A: My point of view is that stepparewnts should make this clear before marriage that they will not be ...
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| Wht is this the case | 3/21/2009 |
Q: Why would a six year old girl hate her mother for not allowing her to live with her father that live ...
A: I can't really answer these questions. Different people react differently to situations. You may ...
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| Wht is this the case | 3/20/2009 |
Q: Why would a German father take his US born daughter to his native country Germany and get a court ...
A: You're asking a lot of questions here, but let me respond in general. Five-year-olds want to please ...
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| Teen affection | 3/20/2009 |
Q: I have 3 children; 27 yrs old, 25 yrs old and 15 yrs old. My 15yr old (boy) has a 15 yr old ...
A: I'm on your side on this one. If your 15-year-old son and his girlfriend are not pawing each other ...
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| Becoming a step parent | 3/19/2009 |
Q: I fell in love with a woman who has a 13 year old son who does not like me at all. He has his own ...
A: It's very seldom that you find a child, particularly a teenage child, excited about a stepparent ...
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| Can't make my stepson happy... | 3/18/2009 |
Q: My stepson about to be 11 years old and I have a 5 year old daughter. I come from a big city and my ...
A: I don't always have a good answer for how you get other family members to see a therapist. One way, ...
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| How to get my teen to move out | 3/18/2009 |
Q: I have a 17 year old daughter who is making my life miserable! She got kicked out of school for ...
A: Having a teenager move out on their own should be done in stages. The first stage is to tell her ...
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| Can't make my stepson happy... | 3/17/2009 |
Q: My stepson about to be 11 years old and I have a 5 year old daughter. I come from a big city and my ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the problems with your stepson. I think your original idea (let your husband ...
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| Teenage Daughter | 3/13/2009 |
Q: My daughter is a sophomore in high school. She's always, and continues to be, a sweet and loving ...
A: Of course you're hurt. And the impulse is to yell and ground her for life. But that won't change ...
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| 14 year old boy behavior | 3/10/2009 |
Q: I'm concerned my son does well grade wise, yet his science teacher says that his behavior interferes ...
A: Your son does well in his grades at school, right? Is it only his Science teacher who says he talks ...
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| Would a little girl be mad at her mother for bring her in the world, and never having a father | 3/7/2009 |
Q: Would a little girl be mad at her mother for bring her in the world, and never having a father? She ...
A: The best way, it would seem to me, would be to be completely honest with the child. Keep her ...
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| My brother and neice | 3/6/2009 |
Q: My name is Carly, and I am writing to you because my family, yet again, is falling apart. Sadly, so ...
A: It seems that none of you have a good relationship with your brother. Thus, this limits your ...
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| Would a little girl be mad at her mother for bring her in the world, and never having a father | 3/5/2009 |
Q: Would a little girl be mad at her mother for bring her in the world, and never having a father? She ...
A: I suppose it's possible that some children might be angry with a parent for bringing them into the ...
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| TEEN HELP | 3/5/2009 |
Q: I'AM A MOTHER OF 1 DAUGHER AND 3 SONS. SO FAR EVERYTHING IS NOT GOING SO WELL WITH MY DAUGHTER ...
A: You didn't say how old your daughter is, so I'm going to assume she is 15 or 16. There's no way of ...
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| What would most American man do | 3/3/2009 |
Q: What should a man do when the mother of his baby daughter wants’ to have a parenting plan (with the ...
A: It certainly depends on the father, but some men might like this arrangement. However, others, ...
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| 19 year old son | 3/2/2009 |
Q: My son will be 19 this month. He is not tranisitoning well! He was a great child (captain of his ...
A: Given your son's psychological problems, it doesn't sound like a good idea to just send him out on ...
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| teenage son | 3/2/2009 |
Q: I have a son who will be 16 this month. He basically has one friend. If you ask him he says he has ...
A: Well, as you point out, you should be cautious about doing anything if he isn't asking for help or ...
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| What would most American man do | 3/1/2009 |
Q: What should a man do when the mother of his baby daughter wants’ to have a parenting plan (with the ...
A: It depends on what the father wants. I take it he objects to the mother wanting the girl to spend ...
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| What should a mother do | 3/1/2009 |
Q: What should a mother do when the father of her daughter still rubes her breast at age 10 or even 14 ...
A: The mother should tell the father that it IS different from a hug or a kiss. She should tell him ...
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| How does this affect a little girl in her up bringing? | 2/28/2009 |
Q: What should a mother do when her daughter 10 or even 16 years old still sleeps with her daddy in the ...
A: Girls shouldn't sleep with their fathers after about age four or five. And it doesn't matter whether ...
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| How does this affect a little girl in her up bringing? | 2/28/2009 |
Q: What should a mother do when her daughter 10 or even 16 years old still sleeps with her daddy in the ...
A: Most adolescent girls are generally going to begin feeling very uncomfortable sleeping with their ...
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| Why is this the case | 2/26/2009 |
Q: Foreign women are more submissive than American women. They were raised to think that the man is the ...
A: I'm married to that kind of American woman and our marriage is great. I'm not miserable and I want ...
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| 13 year old | 2/25/2009 |
Q: My daughter is almost 13. She is very immature for her age, has an IEP for school and unfortunately ...
A: It seems that yelling hasn't worked. So, it may be time for a new approach. If you want her to be ...
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| How would a little girl feel toward there mother if there father is an Anonymous Sperm Donor? | 2/25/2009 |
Q: How would a little girl feel toward there mother if there father is an Anonymous Sperm Donor? She ...
A: I don't really know the answer to this. Since I've had little experience with children who were ...
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| Why is this the case | 2/25/2009 |
Q: Foreign women are more submissive than American women. They were raised to think that the man is the ...
A: Are you asking why American women are different than women from other countries? And are you asking ...
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| introverted 13-yr-old boy | 2/24/2009 |
Q: I need advice and suggestions for my 13-yr-old son who is very shy and has very poor social skills. ...
A: I think the little tasks you give him are good. But he may need more of these, particularly at ...
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| Out of control 12 year old. | 2/23/2009 |
Q: I am 21 years old and from as far back as i can remember my 12 year old sister has been out of ...
A: Certainly, as you have identified, the problem is as much with your grandmother and mother as with ...
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| 19 y/o teen causing havoc | 2/22/2009 |
Q: Windell, We have a 19 y/o daughter that has led us through nchallenging times since she was little. ...
A: Some young adults need to learn the hard way. I think you've done what you could. You've only ...
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| Angry Teenage Son | 2/22/2009 |
Q: I am writing for advice about my 14 year old teenage son. Since Christmas he has become increasing ...
A: Your son's behavior cannot be chalked up as "normal teenage behavior." His anger is too violent and ...
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| Teen Daughter Upset By Our Sex-Life | 2/20/2009 |
Q: My husband and I were married 4 years ago and have a healthy sex life. We also have a 15 year old ...
A: Teenagers frequently are disturbed by the sex lives of their parents. Because of their own growing ...
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| How would this child react | 2/19/2009 |
Q: How would a little girl react when she has a permanent tattoo on her foot? Her parents make her get ...
A: If she's always had it and can't remember getting the tattoo, she might not feel anything. She just ...
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| 13 y.o. boy: homework and internet porn | 2/19/2009 |
Q: our 13 year old son has a laptop which he uses in his bedroom to do his homework, talk online with ...
A: Yes, the adolescent years do bring new challenges for parents. You always have to be ready to take ...
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| Hit by son | 2/19/2009 |
Q: I thought I had good respectful children. Now, I am not sure and I am confused. Last night ...
A: Yes, things did get out of hand! You're asking some important questions: Should I communicate with ...
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| 7-15 - when will something go right? | 2/17/2009 |
Q: Long version. Ever since my daughter was 7, she has been pushing me - refusing to eat healthy ...
A: Your daughter has some serious problems which require professional help. You didn't mention that she ...
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| 14 yr old | 2/16/2009 |
Q: Our 14 yr old son is not doing his work at school unless we constantly confront. Where is the ...
A: Many children and teens have no intrinsic motivation to do school work or strive for excellence. To ...
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| 18 year old son's controlling friend who is also his ex girlfriend | 2/16/2009 |
Q: My 18 year old son dated a girl for almost a year before she broke up with him in 4/08. Since then ...
A: Good for you. When you use this approach, it takes a great burden off of you as parent. And it ...
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| My Parents? | 2/16/2009 |
Q: i'm 15 years old and a sophmore in highschool. I recently broke my parents' trust by sneaking out to ...
A: Yes, I agree your parents are very strict and very protective. Maybe overly protective and strict. ...
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| 17 year old daughter | 2/14/2009 |
Q: Can I evict my 17 year old daughter? She totally disrespects me and I cannot take any more of her ...
A: You may be able to evict your daughter, however, it depends on the juvenile laws in your state. For ...
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| Would this child complain | 2/14/2009 |
Q: Would this child complain in she has to live in Germany and has a very good father who takes good ...
A: She might not be mad or resentful toward her father. However, if she reconnects with her mother, she ...
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| 14 y.o. son failing high school, doesn't care | 2/13/2009 |
Q: Mr. Windell, My son is 14 years old & failing the 9th grade. He attends an all-boys private school. ...
A: The fact is your son may not know why he is struggling in school. There are, however, lots of ...
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| teens son wants to stay with his grandparents | 2/12/2009 |
Q: My question is my 17 year old son, is asking to stay with grandparents for awhile. I don't know if ...
A: Like many adolescents your son has problems with his parents and with his identity. I don't know if ...
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| Would this child complain | 2/12/2009 |
Q: Would this child complain in she has to live in Germany and has a very good father who takes good ...
A: This girl may believe her father and may fear being taken away by her mother. Thus, she may not have ...
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| 18 year old son's controlling friend who is also his ex girlfriend | 2/6/2009 |
Q: My 18 year old son dated a girl for almost a year before she broke up with him in 4/08. Since then ...
A: Your son has to learn to keep his big heart in check, especially when being kind to others is ...
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| 15 yo with slipping grades | 2/6/2009 |
Q: My 15 yo daughter is getting c's on average. She just came home with report card and she failed 3 ...
A: There's a lot more to this that both you -- and I -- ought to know. For instance, what is she ...
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| Problems with my 12 year old | 2/4/2009 |
Q: Help... I have a soon to be 12 year old who has been having a lot of issues. It started with ...
A: I'm surprised that she doesn't already have a therapist, particularly as a follow up to her ...
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| How long will this take? | 2/3/2009 |
Q: What should a mother if her six year old daughter wants to live with her father and is very presided ...
A: A six-year-old girl may want to live with her father, but it's not her decision. The decision has to ...
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| How long will this take? | 2/3/2009 |
Q: How long will this take? If a 10 year old girl is placed in the custody of a singel man who she does ...
A: I don't know if every social services agency would allow a single man to adopt a girl. Some might; ...
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| 20 year old daughter afraid of independence | 2/2/2009 |
Q: Our daughter is 20. She is a great young woman who was recently diagnosed bipolar. She is getting ...
A: I don't know that it is generally true that most young people are afraid to move out on their own. ...
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| Drinking | 2/2/2009 |
Q: I'm 16 years and I have a question. I really didn't want to talk about this with my mom. I have a ...
A: I think you have to reach out to David and let him know you still want to be his friend. I would ...
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| A 12 year old with crazy tantrums | 1/31/2009 |
Q: I have a 12 year old step son that has a tantrum every day that can last hours....it could be over ...
A: I may have more questions than recommendations at this point. However, I'd like to know some more ...
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| 19 year old brother is a MONSTER! | 1/30/2009 |
Q: Okay, My mom divorced my brothers dad when he was about 7. Shortly there after my mom lost ...
A: I don't know how old you are, but there's perhaps nothing you can do. However, your mother and ...
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| Would a 19 year old girls still want to see her father? She has never seen her father before. | 1/30/2009 |
Q: Would a 19 year old girls still want to see her father? Would a 19 year old girls still want to see ...
A: Some girls would want to see their father and some might not. But I expect that she has thought a ...
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| 14yr old VERY troubled son | 1/29/2009 |
Q: My family and I need help! My son is 14, he has been diagnosed with ODD, CD w/issues of anger and ...
A: I assume your son is under the jurisdiction of the county juvenile court at present. If he is, you ...
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| I need help with almost 19 year old daughter | 1/29/2009 |
Q: I have no Idea where to go and am hoping and praying that you can guide me. I will try and keep this ...
A: I'm glad to hear you're taking some tangible steps to let her function independently. Now, If I ...
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| uncooperative, self centered daughter | 1/29/2009 |
Q: My 11 yr old daughter is extremely disorganized (mentally/physically), uncooperative and self ...
A: You probably should find another therapist for her. However, going yourself and gaining support and ...
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| How long will this take | 1/28/2009 |
Q: If a ten year old daughter has to see her father, he is a complete stranger to her ? If a ten year ...
A: It might apply even if the girl seems not to be looking forward to meeting him. If she indicated she ...
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| What would happen in this case | 1/28/2009 |
Q: What would happen if a mother refuses to take her new born child home from the hospital? When she ...
A: I'm sure social services would go about trying to make the best decision and find the best place for ...
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| I need help with almost 19 year old daughter | 1/27/2009 |
Q: I have no Idea where to go and am hoping and praying that you can guide me. I will try and keep this ...
A: I'm sorry to hear that you are experiencing so much stress in you life related to your daughter, ...
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| uncooperative, self centered daughter | 1/26/2009 |
Q: My 11 yr old daughter is extremely disorganized (mentally/physically), uncooperative and self ...
A: Your daughter does sound like a very difficult child. And I agree you need help with her. You said ...
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| Is this posibel | 1/25/2009 |
Q: If a father/mother can not care of a child and the other parents involved, can that parent voluntary ...
A: You should check with the juvenile court in your county. There is likely to be a foster care ...
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| What would happen in this case | 1/25/2009 |
Q: What would happen if a mother refuses to take her new born child home from the hospital? When she ...
A: It might not be a crime, but it might be considered as indications that the mother does not want to ...
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| What would social services do in this case | 1/25/2009 |
Q: What would social services do if a father takes nude pictures of his daughter still a child not a ...
A: How does social services learn about this if he's not showing the pictures to anyone? The problem ...
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| How long will this take | 1/25/2009 |
Q: If a ten year old daughter has to see her father, he is a complete stranger to her ? If a ten year ...
A: No one can say how long it would take. So much depends on the father and on the child. If the ...
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| How would this child still love and trust her father in this case | 1/25/2009 |
Q: If a little girl lives with her father and she has never know her mother, how old would she before ...
A: Some adolescent girls would accept that they cannot contact their mother until age 18; others might ...
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| Would it still be difficult for a birth mother to become good friends with her 10 year old daughter? | 1/25/2009 |
Q: Would it still be difficult for a birth mother to become good friends with her 10 year old daughter? ...
A: If both parents are cooperating and they get along well enough, one way would be for them to meet ...
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| Problems with my mom | 1/25/2009 |
Q: I'm almost 27 years old and I still live at home with my single mother. My mother doesn't work and ...
A: I'm glad to hear you are standing up to her. I recognize that it is difficult to leave, but just ...
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| 6 year old lying | 1/25/2009 |
Q: We are a blended family. My 6 year old step-daughter is at our house about 45% of the time with my ...
A: Many children about your daughter's age lie. Often it is to avoid trouble. Sometimes it's because ...
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| Would a little girl complain when she is told by her father? | 1/24/2009 |
Q: Would a little girl complain when she is told by her father, that her birth mother could not care ...
A: A 10-year-old might be very curious as to why her mother abandoned her. I don't suggest at this ...
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| Would it still be difficult for a birth mother to become good friends with her 10 year old daughter? | 1/24/2009 |
Q: Would it still be difficult for a birth mother to become good friends with her 10 year old daughter? ...
A: It might not be difficult at all for a mother to enter a 10-year- old's life. It depends on how they ...
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| How would this child still love and trust her father in this case | 1/24/2009 |
Q: If a little girl lives with her father and she has never know her mother, how old would she before ...
A: She may believe whatever her father tells her, until she finds out more. This may be a complicated ...
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| Problems with my mom | 1/23/2009 |
Q: I'm almost 27 years old and I still live at home with my single mother. My mother doesn't work and ...
A: Don't be sorry that I usually don't get the kind of question you're asking. I agree that it is ...
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| Husband can't deal with our teen son | 1/23/2009 |
Q: My husband and I have 2 boys - 12 and 14. The 14 (almost 15) year old is the issue. He does very ...
A: I agree that your husband needs some help in learning how to relate to and deal with teenagers. Your ...
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| girl seems obsessed with my 13 year old son | 1/23/2009 |
Q: Our 13 year old son's 14 year old girlfriend has begun to show, what we would consider, obsessive ...
A: So what's wrong with being strict, overprotective parents? As a matter of fact, when it comes to ...
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| How would this child still love and trust her father in this case | 1/23/2009 |
Q: If a little girl lives with her father and she has never know her mother, how old would she before ...
A: Children will ask about their missing parent as early as age three or four. They may be given an ...
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| Teen away on school nights? | 1/22/2009 |
Q: My 14-year-old daughter wants to spend several nights a week (during school) at her best friend's ...
A: , I think you should tell her that her first priority is school and that her school work and grades ...
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| Disrespectful 10yo | 1/22/2009 |
Q: My 10 year old son has just started acting disrespectful. He refuses to do his homework and lies ...
A: Okay, so it seems he has always had school problems. In effect, he has not found school enjoyable or ...
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| My 13 year old brother | 1/22/2009 |
Q: He is 13 in the 8th grade and everything is wrong. He failing almost all his classes, he has no ...
A: I can't say exactly why your brother struggles in school. However, I venture two guesses. One is ...
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| Disrespectful 10yo | 1/21/2009 |
Q: My 10 year old son has just started acting disrespectful. He refuses to do his homework and lies ...
A: Did the problems with schoolwork just begin? Were there any problems with school work before ...
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| Challenging 7year old | 1/21/2009 |
Q: I have two girls: a 7year old and a 4year old, and a 2.5yr old nephew under my care. The bad ...
A: Yes, your daughter is challenging. And such children try the patience of their parents (and ...
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| Problems with my mom | 1/20/2009 |
Q: I'm almost 27 years old and I still live at home with my single mother. My mother doesn't work and ...
A: My first question is: Why are you still living at home with your mother? And my secondWhy don't you ...
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| What effect does the following have on a little girl? | 1/20/2009 |
Q: What effect does the following have on a little girl? She is living with her father. She is scared ...
A: There are, of course, lots of reasons why a father might turn his child against the other parent. ...
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| 13 YR OLD SHOWED AGGRESSION/NEEDS MOTIVATION | 1/19/2009 |
Q: My son is 13 years old. We became a blended family nearly five years ago and my husband has since ...
A: Many young adolescents, about your son's age, show a decline at school, and in fact are often quite ...
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| teenage-relationship with boy's | 1/19/2009 |
Q: my daughter is 14 she has a boyfriend but she never share her problems and things with me.she belive ...
A: This is all normal behavior. Certainly, though, you have to hope your daughter does nothing really ...
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| teenage-relationship with boy's | 1/18/2009 |
Q: my daughter is 14 she has a boyfriend but she never share her problems and things with me.she belive ...
A: There are things you can do. While you may not be able to get her to be open with you about some ...
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| Treating teen depression by self-medicating with marijuana | 1/18/2009 |
Q: Am I doing the right thing? or what should I be doing? I have 4 children living at home with my wife ...
A: Your son should have weekly sessiions with a therapist. And the therapist and the prescribing ...
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| Teen sex | 1/17/2009 |
Q: My son who just turned 17 yesterday, had a girl in his room last night. He cam home from the movie ...
A: I don't think the consequence will necessarily accomplish your goal. The consequence only lets him ...
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| Teen sex | 1/17/2009 |
Q: My son who just turned 17 yesterday, had a girl in his room last night. He cam home from the movie ...
A: The positive is that you have taught him well about safe sex; at least he's using condoms. However, ...
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| What to do with 21year old Daughter | 1/16/2009 |
Q: My eldest daughter is 21. When she was 17 she left home as she didn't get on with her stepfather. ...
A: I think you've described your daughter very well. And I think you know her pretty well, too. Here's ...
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| Problems with 16 yr old son & a girl. | 1/15/2009 |
Q: My son is 16 and has always been immature for his age. He is involved in NJROTC activites after ...
A: It's not easy for boys who are in love for the first time. Particularly when that girl with whom ...
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| question on discpline | 1/15/2009 |
Q: My son has just been diagnosed with ADHD which I am just reading up on. He has been a real challenge ...
A: Locking your teenager out when he comes home late is an approach that is likely to lead to more ...
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| teenage son | 1/14/2009 |
Q: Our son is 15 years old (16 in March). He has had a normal upbringing. We are a family of 4, ...
A: It sounds like he is going through the same kind of teenage turmoil that a lot of middle teens ...
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| teens and homework | 1/13/2009 |
Q: my son is 13 and in grade 9. the problem I have is that he doesn't like homework. when push comes to ...
A: There are a couple of reasons why your son may not be doing schoolwork or why he's not handing it ...
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| ear piercing girls | 1/11/2009 |
Q: Would a ten year old girl be willing to get her ear cartilage pierced when her father suggested it ...
A: Girls may be willing to put up with all sorts of things in order to please a father. She may be ...
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| duaghter of 23 with grandon age 5 live with mom at home | 1/11/2009 |
Q: I am at a dead end road with my situation. My daughter is lazy and will not do much. She sleeps ...
A: I'm sure you got into this situation because you wanted to have your grandson in a safe and stable ...
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| Can small children still recognize parents they have not seen in years | 1/10/2009 |
Q: Would a six year and seven year old girl German born German/US national that has not seen her mother ...
A: I'm sure after not seeing a parent for a couple of years, that children of six and seven would still ...
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| What would a child do in this case | 1/9/2009 |
Q: What would a 10 year old girl do when her father took her away from her mother during a child ...
A: I can't really answer your questions. Some girls might rebel and try to escape; others might not. ...
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| What would a normal child do | 1/9/2009 |
Q: Would a 10 year old girl be comfortable to sleeping with her father in the same bed with his arms ...
A: Many children at age 10 would feel comfortable sleeping with their father if this was the usual ...
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| I hope that this is not a stupid question. | 1/9/2009 |
Q: When a 7 year old girl Reigh Boss was kidnapped by her father Clark Rockefeller, many say that the ...
A: There are probably lots of situations related to abduction and becoming close to a parent that I ...
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| Is this a dumb question | 1/8/2009 |
Q: What would a 10/12 year old girl do if her father made it clear that he wants her to have several ...
A: Yes, those are potential issues. First, some girls would go along with suggestions by a parent in ...
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| my 6-year old is traumatized!!! | 1/8/2009 |
Q: My daughter has recently told my husband and i asome things that have put us in an unusual ...
A: Before you take her to a therapist, do some interviewing of potential therapists. Explain briefly ...
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| Is this a dumb question | 1/8/2009 |
Q: What would a 10/12 year old girl do if her father made it clear that he wants her to have several ...
A: Well, that depends on the girl. Many girls would be thrilled. Others might be less than thrilled ...
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| I hope that this is not a stupid question. | 1/7/2009 |
Q: When a 7 year old girl Reigh Boss was kidnapped by her father Clark Rockefeller, many say that the ...
A: Children, even as old as 7 or 8 or older, may not be aware that they have been kidnapped. If they ...
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| What is the best way for a mother to handel this? | 1/7/2009 |
Q: What is the best way for a mother to do when the father of her daughter either does not wish to ...
A: There's lots of ways of being a good mother. And while you might start out thinking that you would ...
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| I have a 20 year old living at home - what boundaries do I set? | 1/7/2009 |
Q: I have a son who will be 20 next month. We also have a 17 year old daughter who is very ...
A: Although you would like to set limits with your son, it's not going to work unless you and his ...
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| What is the best way for a mother to handel this? | 1/7/2009 |
Q: What is the best way for a mother to do when the father of her daughter either does not wish to ...
A: You seem to be giving a lot of good information here, although there was a question in the ...
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| How would this child feel | 1/6/2009 |
Q: How would a little girl feel when her parents are divorcing and she has to spend one weak with her ...
A: If the parents live in the same house and get along with each other, there should be no negative ...
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| How old must she be in order to understand this? | 1/6/2009 |
Q: How would a little girl feel if she is told that she has no legal mother? Her father is the only ...
A: It also depends on the child's cognitive abilities. However, it is important she be told the truth ...
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| my 6-year old is traumatized!!! | 1/6/2009 |
Q: My daughter has recently told my husband and i asome things that have put us in an unusual ...
A: Maybe your daughter is too upset at this point about the situation. If she's talking about it all ...
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| How would this child feel | 1/6/2009 |
Q: How would a little girl feel when her parents are divorcing and she has to spend one weak with her ...
A: If that is the arrangement, one week with the mother and one week with the father, then a child will ...
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| How old must she be in order to understand this? | 1/6/2009 |
Q: How would a little girl feel if she is told that she has no legal mother? Her father is the only ...
A: A girl, by the age of 4 or 5 years of age, may begin to ask questions about her mother. When she ...
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| How would this case be handeld | 1/5/2009 |
Q: What would social services do when they find a child that only speaks Dutch and they can only ...
A: Social services would probably find someone who could speak Dutch, or they would probably find ...
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| How does social services handle this. | 1/5/2009 |
Q: What should a mother do if her 12 year old daughter got pregnant? She does not want abortion and ...
A: An adoption agency or the juvenile court can better answer your questions than I can. If the baby ...
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| Would a child understand this | 1/5/2009 |
Q: Can a mother still be a good mother that as soon as she got pregnant, she moves out of state and ...
A: I don't know if you would find a lot of cases in family court where you have similar circumstances. ...
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| Can you answer these question, for me? | 1/5/2009 |
Q: Would it be difficult for her man to talk his step daughter in to marring him? He has a very good ...
A: You're asking a question that no one can answer with any kind of certainty. It all depends on the ...
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| Can you answer these question, for me? | 1/5/2009 |
Q: Would it be difficult for her man to talk his step daughter in to marring him? He has a very good ...
A: Many states prohibit marriage between a man and his stepdaughter. Michigan is one of those states. ...
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| What should this father do | 1/5/2009 |
Q: What should a father do when he is looking for his kidnapped daughter (She was a baby at the time). ...
A: I think the biological father should work with the adopting agency and the adopted parents to try to ...
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| Would a child understand this | 1/5/2009 |
Q: Can a mother still be a good mother that as soon as she got pregnant, she moves out of state and ...
A: While that may sound reasonable to you or I, it doesn't mean that a child will want to wait until ...
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| How does social services handle this. | 1/5/2009 |
Q: What should a mother do if her 12 year old daughter got pregnant? She does not want abortion and ...
A: It may depend on the state you live in and the laws in your state. But I don't think a 12-year-old ...
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| Would a child understand this | 1/4/2009 |
Q: Can a mother still be a good mother that as soon as she got pregnant, she moves out of state and ...
A: I can't say that this would necessarily be bad to keep a father from knowing he has a child. And, ...
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| How does social services handle this. | 1/4/2009 |
Q: What should a mother do if her 12 year old daughter got pregnant? She does not want abortion and ...
A: Do you want to raise this baby for your daughter? If you don't, then you need to work with child ...
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| What is the best bay to handal this | 1/4/2009 |
Q: What should a mother do if her 12 year old daughters got several real tattoos on her body and got ...
A: The problem is between you and your co-parent. This is not a matter to take anyone to court or to ...
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| What should a mother do in this case | 1/4/2009 |
Q: What should a mother do if her 18 year old daughter got pregnant with your husband her step/adoptive ...
A: What you should do depends on how you feel about the situation. You indicate that this is not a ...
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| Can't get my 18 year old to get a job | 1/4/2009 |
Q: My son was 17 when he graduated and started his first year at college. Within two months (just ...
A: No, you can't make him get a job and work, just as you can't make him stop playing video gameas or ...
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| Defiant 16 year old son | 1/2/2009 |
Q: My son has been defiant for two years now. He will be 17 in May. He mostly calls and checks in but ...
A: Now that you've given me more information, I have to say that your son sounds like a fairly normal ...
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| 16 year old boy having no friends and overly emotional with anger issues | 1/1/2009 |
Q: How can I help my sixteen year old son become less emotional? He has had trouble making and keeping ...
A: As I indicated, sometimes it is very hard for a parent to help a teen change. And for the very ...
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| Defiant 16 year old son | 1/1/2009 |
Q: My son has been defiant for two years now. He will be 17 in May. He mostly calls and checks in but ...
A: It sounds like you've only given consequences in the past that you couldn't enforce. If you continue ...
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| 16 year old boy having no friends and overly emotional with anger issues | 1/1/2009 |
Q: How can I help my sixteen year old son become less emotional? He has had trouble making and keeping ...
A: The first things I'd like to know are: Does your son want to get better at making friends? Does your ...
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| teen dating | 12/23/2008 |
Q: I have a 14 yr. old..soon to be 15..dating a boy that we are not crazy about at all. The boy has ...
A: Great. So, it sounds like things are getting better. Having positive activities -- a job and ...
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| teen dating | 12/22/2008 |
Q: I have a 14 yr. old..soon to be 15..dating a boy that we are not crazy about at all. The boy has ...
A: No, you do not give in! That is not an option. She needs very strict supervision. You may need ...
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| Teen w/ODD, major depressive disorder, and Anxiety | 12/22/2008 |
Q: I have a 16 yr old daughter who has been diagnosed with major depressive disorder, anxiety disorder ...
A: Since the police arrested your daughter and filed a report, what's going to happen next? That ...
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| honesty/xmas | 12/21/2008 |
Q: We have been lied to by our teens. With Christmas 4 days away, do we still give them gifts? One (13) ...
A: I think I would deal with their behavior as a separate issue from Christmas gifts. You may already ...
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| Parenting Question | 12/21/2008 |
Q: My 'tween-aged son got in to a scuffle in the boys bathroom at school on Thursday. According to the ...
A: The "diagnosis" and "treatment recommendation" by the teacher should be discarded. She is making ...
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| Sexual Curiosity | 12/19/2008 |
Q: My daughter is twelve and has just entered into Jr. High and right before that started her period ...
A: She is far too young to be involved in a sexual relationship with a boy. At this point, you can ...
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| Teenage daughter kicked out | 12/16/2008 |
Q: My 17 (18 in Feb.) year old daughter is very nasty to me most of the time and verbally abusive to me ...
A: There are a lot of "maybes" in all the advice you're getting. The fact is that we can't predict ...
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| 14 year old son lying and sneaking around | 12/15/2008 |
Q: I have a 14 year old son who just started high school. A very sexually precocious girl in our ...
A: I agree that parents have to set and enforce limits. However, in this case, he only intended to ...
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| Not sure what to do. | 12/15/2008 |
Q: I have a 12 year old son and a 4 year old son. my 12 year old is having anger problems and gets ...
A: I need to ask some questions first. For instance, you say he gets angry when disciplined; but what ...
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| My 14 y/o having sex. | 12/14/2008 |
Q: I have a daughter that is 14 y.o. She has been seeing this boy for a year now, and it has not been ...
A: Teenagers usually have sex at the home of one of the families. Adults may be in the home, but if ...
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| teen stealing | 12/13/2008 |
Q: I recently went to put allowence into my sons wallet as I somentimes do, and found a plastic bag ...
A: You don't have to get to the truth! You know the truth. The truth is that he was stealing from you. ...
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| Problem with Teenage School Performance | 12/12/2008 |
Q: Earlier this year my husband and I assumed primary custody of his now 14-year old son because he was ...
A: You and your husband should give yourself a lot of credit for the success you've brought about with ...
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| adult son that lies and steals from us | 12/10/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have two adult sons. Our oldest is 27 and our youngest is 24. For the last five ...
A: Your son obviously has a pattern of using others and manipulating others. Here, again, he is trying ...
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| 6 year old and friendship | 12/10/2008 |
Q: we have 6 and a half year old daughter. Her problem is friendship at school since last week. Her ...
A: I like the way you handled this as you talked about your own experiences with friends and how you ...
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| disruptive teen refuses counseling, meds | 12/9/2008 |
Q: My 17-yr-old daughter has not been diagnosed w/ ODD, but all the hallmarks are there: ...
A: Yes, it does sound like oppositional defiant disorder. Even the refusing to go to see a therapist is ...
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| unmotivated, dont know what to do. | 12/9/2008 |
Q: Hey i'm a 15 year old student in Canada, i have been unmotivated for the past 3 years, and have ...
A: When you get the prescription for Stratera, make sure you take it as prescribed. I'd suggest you ...
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| unmotivated, dont know what to do. | 12/9/2008 |
Q: Hey i'm a 15 year old student in Canada, i have been unmotivated for the past 3 years, and have ...
A: Hey, you were motivated enough to email me; that's a step in the right direction. Lots of middle ...
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| relationship between parent and child with mental health issues, now wants to live with father | 12/9/2008 |
Q: I have always loved my daughter and made her the center of my world and made sure I think of her ...
A: Many teenagers want to leave the parent who has taken care of them to see what it's like to live ...
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| divorced mother with teenage daughters | 12/9/2008 |
Q: Well I am not sure where to begin I will try to be brief. I have been divorced for about a year and ...
A: It sounds to me like part of the problem is your co-parent's anger and hostility toward you, as well ...
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| teenage lying | 12/8/2008 |
Q: I have a 14 yr old daughter who has ADHD ever since 3rd grade we have tried medicines and nothing ...
A: I don't know what you expect to see. But if she's been properly diagnosed with ADHD, then she has ...
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| 11 yo child with antisocial and violent behaviour | 12/8/2008 |
Q: My son has always been difficult and never shows any type of remorse. He was able to even tell to my ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the problems your son has. Since he is not in therapy now, I would suggest ...
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| My 14 y/o having sex. | 12/7/2008 |
Q: I have a daughter that is 14 y.o. She has been seeing this boy for a year now, and it has not been ...
A: You're at a loss as to what to do, but your very wise daughter already told you. She needs to be ...
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| 24 year old son who won't grow up. | 12/4/2008 |
Q: Windell, Would you be able to direct me to a tough love group in Genesee or Oakland County, ...
A: I'm not aware of any tough love groups operating in our area, but there could be some I don't know ...
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| setting phone limits | 12/4/2008 |
Q: I have a soon to be 13 year old daughter who has the same boyfriend now for over a year. Although I ...
A: You are NOT being unreasonable or overprotective. She is only 13 and she has shown by her behavior ...
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| Defiant teen | 12/3/2008 |
Q: our 16 year old daughter has had many problems that began around age 12. In 5th grade she forged a ...
A: I'm sorry that you are having these on-going bad experiences with your daughter. I'm sure it does ...
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| Lying, personal finace mess! | 12/2/2008 |
Q: Two weeks after my son turned eighteen he moved out on his own with no financial income.We let him ...
A: Your husband's parents are old enough to figure out a lot of this on their own. They will likely ...
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| 21 year old | 12/2/2008 |
Q: Our oldest daughter is 21 years old. She has been in a relationship, for two years, with a 27 year ...
A: I'm sorry for the heartache you are experiencing with your daughter. It is not uncommon, of course, ...
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| My 18 yr old walked out | 12/1/2008 |
Q: I'm a devoted mom of two wonderful young men, ages 21 and another who just turned 18. We're a very ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about your sadness and upset over your son. Obviously you love your son very much ...
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| Really learning | 12/1/2008 |
Q: Windell, Thank you for taking my question. I've been divorced 10+ yrs, a goood divorce. My ...
A: A reward system can help some people put forth a greater effort. However, there are also some who ...
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| My daughter and my husband got into an argument ending badly! | 11/30/2008 |
Q: I have an seventeen year old daughter, twin eleven year old daughters. My husband adopted my eldest ...
A: Yep! Sounds like she's still mad. He may have an old-fashioned way of disciplining her, but he's ...
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| 12 year old boy: another detention, another disruptive behavior in class... | 11/30/2008 |
Q: really need a practical advice here:) my 12 year old son (an only child) has been on and off ...
A: You say so much of this better than I could. You have a great deal of insight into the situation, ...
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| My daughter and my husband got into an argument ending badly! | 11/30/2008 |
Q: I have an seventeen year old daughter, twin eleven year old daughters. My husband adopted my eldest ...
A: Your daughter was mad and said something she shouldn't have said. She may not have really meant it. ...
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| 12 year old boy: another detention, another disruptive behavior in class... | 11/28/2008 |
Q: really need a practical advice here:) my 12 year old son (an only child) has been on and off ...
A: I have a number of thoughts about your son and his disruptive behavior. The first is to wonder why ...
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| Discipling teenager | 11/28/2008 |
Q: I am very to glad to have read the answers you have given to Tony. I am a mother who is hitting her ...
A: I'm glad to hear that you're trying to learn more positive ways of trying to motivate your son to do ...
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| 13 year old daughter | 11/26/2008 |
Q: Our daughter is controlling our lives. She is very high-energy and has to be "entertained' 24 ...
A: It sounds like you tried to meet your daughter's demands in the past and her demands keep growing. ...
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| Sons sexual fantasy question | 11/25/2008 |
Q: My son is 14 years old and has been wanting to have "the talk" for several months. We had a talk a ...
A: I think it is normal for teens to have sexual fantasies about a parent, especially if that parent is ...
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| problems with anger and hitting from my daycare child | 11/25/2008 |
Q: I have a 4 yr old boy in my daycare. He has recentley started hitting myself when i am trying to ...
A: It sounds like all the options you have used involve removal or punishment. I like to think of ...
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| 9 year old "hates" herself | 11/24/2008 |
Q: I'm the mother of three children, aged 11, 9 and 7, the middle one is my only daughter. Lately, ...
A: It's fairly common for children around the ages of 8 and 9 to say some really outrageous things when ...
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| My 16 year old has no respect for authority | 11/23/2008 |
Q: My daughter is 16 and is out of control. She yells at my younger children to the point that they ...
A: If you were a somewhat rebellious teen yourself, you might use this in talking to your daughter. It ...
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| What should mother do | 11/23/2008 |
Q: What should mother do if her 10 year old daughter wants to get her ears pierced so she will have ...
A: Is it really the mother's decision as to how much time this girl spends with her father? If there is ...
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| What should mother do | 11/20/2008 |
Q: What should mother do if her 10 year old daughter wants to get her ears pierced so she will have ...
A: My advice to the mother is that she should refuse to give her permission and she should refuse to be ...
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| My 16 year old has no respect for authority | 11/19/2008 |
Q: My daughter is 16 and is out of control. She yells at my younger children to the point that they ...
A: Like many middle teenagers, your daughter has a lot of things going on in her life and in her mind. ...
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| 19 years old son | 11/19/2008 |
Q: I have one daughter 22 years old and a son 19 year old, soon will be 20. Both living with us (my ...
A: My experience is that sometimes kids just don't listen to the voice of wisdom their parents provide ...
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| unmotivated teen | 11/17/2008 |
Q: My 14 year old son is a gifted/LD however his marks are terrible, he is failing math and french. He ...
A: Kids with LD and ADHD often are poorly motivated. One reason can be depression and another may be ...
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| Teenage Boy | 11/16/2008 |
Q: My son is 13-1/2. He now has a girlfriend. My son has become her whole world. He speaks as if his ...
A: I don't think you can do this. When a young teen is "in love," you can't stop him from being in ...
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| My 13 year old daughter and dicipline/hitting | 11/14/2008 |
Q: Windell, Last week my 13 year old daughter came home with a hickey on her neck; she did not mean for ...
A: I agree with what you're saying. And I also think I understand what you and her father are feeing ...
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| 16 year old daughter | 11/14/2008 |
Q: My 16 year old daughter has always been a very loving and caring child. Especially with family ...
A: She is a missing person as long as you have not given her permission to be away from home -- even if ...
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| 16 year old daughter | 11/13/2008 |
Q: My 16 year old daughter has always been a very loving and caring child. Especially with family ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the heartache your daughter has caused you. Of course, I can't say why she ...
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| Is this normal | 11/12/2008 |
Q: What would be the best option for a mother to take A or B? A Do you rather have a child/teenage ...
A: If the child were 10 or 12, I'd probably put my foot down and say she couldn't have a tattoo until ...
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| 19 yr old son dating 25 yr old woman | 11/11/2008 |
Q: My 19 yr old son is now dating a 25 yr old asst mgr at his new job. He is not in college at the ...
A: I agree with you. He hasn't shown that he is capable of handling living in an apartment and being ...
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| 15/16 Year Old Teenager | 11/10/2008 |
Q: Subject Don't understand 15/16 year-old daughter QuestionI have a soon-to-be sixteen year-old ...
A: I'm sorry to hear your daughter has lost interest in this business venture. There could be several ...
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| Unmotivated Yet Caring Teen | 11/9/2008 |
Q: Our 16 year old wants to play video games day and night nothing else. If we allow it he will game ...
A: It sounds like your son has many fine qualities. Yet, he is only passionate about video games. And I ...
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| Is this normal | 11/9/2008 |
Q: What would be the best option for a mother to take A or B? A Do you rather have a child/teenage ...
A: I understand you are making a rational, persuasive argument for allowing a teenage girl to get a ...
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| 19 yr old son dating 25 yr old woman | 11/8/2008 |
Q: My 19 yr old son is now dating a 25 yr old asst mgr at his new job. He is not in college at the ...
A: Stay out of it unless he is asking for your help and advice. Of course, he may not be making a wise ...
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| parenting teens involved in destructive behaviors | 11/8/2008 |
Q: My daughter is in her late teens and tells us that she is in love. She tells her friends that the ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the distress you are caused by your daughter's unfortunate relationship with ...
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| Dad's house rules vs. Mom's house rules | 11/8/2008 |
Q: My husband and I are married 3.5 years with six children between us. His three boys (15,11,8)live ...
A: You might see if there is a program in your area for high-conflict post-divorce couples to help them ...
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| 18 yr old needs a job | 11/7/2008 |
Q: My oldest son just turned 18 and graduated high school last year. He is going to community college ...
A: It seems like your son doesn't need a lot to survive and he's got a comfortable life, so why should ...
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| Dad's house rules vs. Mom's house rules | 11/5/2008 |
Q: My husband and I are married 3.5 years with six children between us. His three boys (15,11,8)live ...
A: There's only one effective way of dealing with this, and that is that mom and dad start ...
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| 13 yr old grandson | 11/5/2008 |
Q: Our son died in 2004 and we are raising his 2 sons 10, and 13. Their mom lives in Boston, so there ...
A: If he isn't a kid, what is he? An adult? I don't think so! Based on what you've told me here, I'd ...
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| My 19 year old son | 11/4/2008 |
Q: I have a 19 year old son who is being treated for social anxiety. He didn't have any friends and was ...
A: You say your son is being treated, but who is treating him? Is it just with medication, or is there ...
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| Did I do the right thing? | 11/4/2008 |
Q: I am the proud mother of two beautiful teenage girls. My problem is that my 15 y/o daughter has a ...
A: Since your daughter is 15 and they do not attend school together, you may be able to enforce their ...
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| 17/18 year old daughter moved out | 11/3/2008 |
Q: She's 17/ 18 in 9 days but moved out 10 weeks ago with 22 year old boyfriend to his moms house. He ...
A: Your daughter is desperately trying to make things right with her boyfriend. Call her an enabler, ...
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| 14 yr old with 17 yr old boyfriend | 11/1/2008 |
Q: "My 14 yr old daughter told me a few days ago that she agreed to "go with" a 17 yr old. She kept ...
A: I think telling her she could not date him was the right decision. Obviously, you can't stop them ...
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| 13 year old and marijuana use | 10/30/2008 |
Q: I found marijuana in my 13 year old daughter's room. She admitted it was hers and admitted to ...
A: The worst thing might be to catastrophize this situation and blow it out of proportion. The simple ...
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| homework not getting done at 17 | 10/30/2008 |
Q: My daughter is 17 will be 18 in August. She is not motivated to do any homework. We have talked to ...
A: Apparently, your daughter is not able to make arrangements for help on her own. I don't know the ...
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| moving out | 10/30/2008 |
Q: i have reason to believe that i am responsible enough and mature enough to move out.im sixteen so ...
A: Of course, some people your age do make it. But it's very difficult -- mostly financially. I ...
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| Disrespectful Child | 10/29/2008 |
Q: My 10-year old son is very disrespectful and rude. He was 2 when his dad and I divorced and his ...
A: I apologize for the delay in responding to your question. Your son could be angry about a lot of ...
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| Teenage Blackmail | 10/28/2008 |
Q: My 18 year old son is out of control. He wants me to divorce his mother immediately. He threatens ...
A: Don't assume that your life will be ruined. Many good people have had accusations made against them ...
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| masturbating teen | 10/28/2008 |
Q: I walked out of my bedroom to find my 7yr.old daughter doing her shcool work on the floor and my ...
A: You haven't given me much information about what you've done previously when you've caught him doing ...
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| Teenage Blackmail | 10/28/2008 |
Q: My 18 year old son is out of control. He wants me to divorce his mother immediately. He threatens ...
A: It's no fun to be dealing with a blackmailer. You always live with the risk that the demands will ...
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| I might be pregnant? | 10/28/2008 |
Q: Okay.. I'm exactly 17 years old, my birthday is on October the 18th, 1991. And I have a couple ...
A: The age of majority in Kentucky is 18. This means that when you turn 18 you are for all intents and ...
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| I might be pregnant? | 10/27/2008 |
Q: Okay.. I'm exactly 17 years old, my birthday is on October the 18th, 1991. And I have a couple ...
A: Much depends on where you live. I assume you live in the U.S., but in which state? Different states ...
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| teenage daughter | 10/24/2008 |
Q: My main problem is that my husband and daughter are constantly at each other about boys and what she ...
A: I'm sorry to hear that you and your husband do not see things the same way when it comes to raising ...
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| daughter moving out | 10/24/2008 |
Q: Our 18yr old daughter moved out about 7weeks ago...in with her boyfriend and his parents. She is ...
A: It is distressing when a teenager moves out suddenly and is making what appear to be poor decisions. ...
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| Teen's bad habits | 10/23/2008 |
Q: My 15 year old son recently moved in qith me. He had been living with mom since he was 3 years old ...
A: I can understand your concerns. First, you want to change the habits your son has developed, but you ...
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| daughter | 10/21/2008 |
Q: my daughter is 20yrs old and in her 3rd year in college,lives at home works 3-4 day a week at the ...
A: It's painful to have a once-close child moving away and being closer to people you can't agree with. ...
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| Help for 18 yr old High School Drop-Out! | 10/21/2008 |
Q: I really need some advice in dealing with my 18 yr old High School Drop-out Son! My ex-husband and ...
A: You have tried hanging in there with him, but he seems determined to fail on his own. It's admirable ...
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| moving out | 10/21/2008 |
Q: ìm 16 years old and for about 8 months now i've been feeling im ready to move out. I have defineatly ...
A: You sound pretty mature for your age. And, in fact, you may be ready to move out on your own. Some ...
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| 15-yr-old gun thief | 10/20/2008 |
Q: My 15-yr-old nephew recently stole a handgun (!) from an uncle. He claims he just found it lying ...
A: Yes, stealing a gun is a serious problem. However, don't let everyone blow it too far out of ...
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| 18 yr. old daughter | 10/17/2008 |
Q: I have an 18 yr old daughter who just turned 18 this past August. Every since she turned 18, she ...
A: You can have a discussion with her and tell her she's right, when she turned 18 she gained more ...
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| school behavioral issues | 10/16/2008 |
Q: I am a widowed mother of two boys, 12 and 6 yrs of age. I have been a widow for 3.5 years. The ...
A: Before having him evaluated to rule ADHD in or out, why not try having him set some goals for ...
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| Facing Consequences of Actions/Decision | 10/15/2008 |
Q: Our 17 year old son is currently on probation until his 18th birthday for something he did two years ...
A: The first advice I would give you is to keep your anger under control whehn trying to deal with him. ...
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| Moving a Teenager to New School | 10/14/2008 |
Q: My husband and I bought a lot last year and plan to build our "dream home" there. It is not in a ...
A: It's really exciting to be in a position to be able to have that dream home. However, as you're ...
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| teen drug use | 10/10/2008 |
Q: I have four sons, (19, 18, 16, 10). They are all very good children, overall. The two oldest are ...
A: I suggest that you meet with the three oldest boys and tell them that having marijuana in your home ...
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| Handling aggressive outbursts in a 10 year old | 10/10/2008 |
Q: I would appreciate any advice as I'm feeling like I'm running out of ideas when it comes to handling ...
A: It seems like your daughter has some serious anger issues. If she's hitting and kicking you, that is ...
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| 16 year old daughter moved to live with dad | 10/9/2008 |
Q: How do I live with the or accept the guilt I feel since my daughter moved out. I am 41 the divorced ...
A: I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling guilty and sad about your daughter moving back to live with ...
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| Teenage son / friends we don't like | 10/8/2008 |
Q: My son is 15 and just started highchool. He is well liked by a lot of different "groups" of kids. ...
A: Teenagers who are 15 and freshman in high school are at a vulnerable age. They're dealing with a lot ...
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| Father son problems? | 10/7/2008 |
Q: Ok am not a parent,not even close. But i got this friend and he's a twin but i've just found out ...
A: It's nice that you are concerned about your friend and his situation in his home. I don't know a ...
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| 13 year old son | 10/4/2008 |
Q: I am so embarrassed to ask this question but I have to. My 13 year old son was diagnosed with ADHD ...
A: Teens lie for different reasons -- and about different things. Most of them lie to peers, though, to ...
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| my daughter | 10/2/2008 |
Q: ANSWER: Hello Molly, No, I don't think a 13-year-old girl ought to be having sex because there are ...
A: If she's a daddy's girl, her father has a better chance of influencing her behavior. Does he see the ...
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| how to work with a 15 yo who is lying too much | 10/1/2008 |
Q: My 15 yo has turned into a secretive child who lies to us. We thought it was at first just her ...
A: Yes, I would agree that her lies do constitute a serious breach of trust. But many teenagers do get ...
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| My Daughter's Potential Sexual Activity | 10/1/2008 |
Q: I recently found my Daughter's myspace profile up and available on my computer. Upon deciding to ...
A: What kids write on the Internet is not always consistent with their real behavior. The fact that her ...
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| Help 14 yr old son making bad choice after bad choice | 10/1/2008 |
Q: Please help me. My son is making bad choice after bad choice. He is a great kid always has been. It ...
A: Why do teenagers make bad choices? Because they tend to be impulsive, they often are not good at ...
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| 18 year old son is in toxic/manipulating relationship | 9/30/2008 |
Q: I'm sorry this is so long and complicated. My son,David, attended a very small school with 25 in ...
A: I know this relationship your son is in is upsetting to you. And you desperately want to do ...
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| how to work with a 15 yo who is lying too much | 9/29/2008 |
Q: My 15 yo has turned into a secretive child who lies to us. We thought it was at first just her ...
A: There are different ways to talk to teenagers. Some of those ways are successful -- and some are ...
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| my daughter | 9/29/2008 |
Q: Hi im a mom to 3 girls kate-15yrold molly-13 and zara 14yrold molly is the main problem shes got ...
A: No, I don't think a 13-year-old girl ought to be having sex because there are serious risks ...
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| expectations of 19 yr. old son who lives at home | 9/28/2008 |
Q: Background: My sons' father died when he was 10. I remarried when he was 14. He has an older ...
A: It sounds like it's time for another confrontation. I think you and your husband need to schedule a ...
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| 16 yr old son thinks he's the boss! | 9/27/2008 |
Q: I am having a problem (or twenty) with my 16 yr old son. He seems to thingk the world revolves ...
A: There may be lots of reasons why he is the way he is. If he wants to go to therapy to deal with ...
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| 14yr old daughter | 9/26/2008 |
Q: She has had poor sleep habits ever since she started kindergarten. Lately though the problem we are ...
A: I fully support your approach to this situation. She shouldn't profit from her theft, and she should ...
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| 14 year old with add/ rebellious with father with father | 9/25/2008 |
Q: how can i stop getting caught between a son who is open and honest with me but pretty much hates his ...
A: It's not easy to maintain a relationship with both sides and not be drawn into the battle. Each side ...
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| teenager stealing and lieing | 9/23/2008 |
Q: My son changed schools over a year ago and problems have been constant since then. He is 15 and ...
A: You didn't mention how involved his father is in his life; nor if the two of you co-parent by ...
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| caught 16 yr old son smoking pot. | 9/23/2008 |
Q: My youngest son just turned 16 a week ago. And I have since learned that the day after getting his ...
A: You are probably right that it was typical teenage behavior in which he tried out smoking pot. I ...
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| Mom wont allow me to borrow car for business | 9/21/2008 |
Q: I just graduated from college in may...ive been looking for a job but the economy is not the ...
A: Sorry you're having trouble getting a job so you can be more independent. I don't have any magical ...
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| Is Tough Love the answer?? | 9/19/2008 |
Q: (Hello James, Sorry this is so long-please answer) We have 2 Son's ages 14 & 18 1/2. We are having a ...
A: Let me ask you some questions: Is it fair how he's treating you? Is it fair that he is has a sense ...
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| My Daughter (11 years old) | 9/18/2008 |
Q: My daughter who is 11 is having a herd time either being responsible about studying or just too ...
A: , I think you need to more fully understand why your daughter may be having difficulties at school. ...
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| my 15 year old son | 9/18/2008 |
Q: my son is 15 he is no the football team and baseball team at his school he was always happy go ...
A: I'm sorry to hear that your son had a bad reaction to smoking marijuana this summer. It seems that ...
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| teenager | 9/17/2008 |
Q: My teenage daughter is 16 and seems to be obsessed with her boyfriend. I think that they have had ...
A: I think you're right to be concerned. Your daughter's obsessive and controlling behavior with her ...
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| 18 y/o pot smoker won't work | 9/17/2008 |
Q: I need some help with my 18 y/o, He graduated from high school last year and wanted to take a year ...
A: I think a bit of tough love is called for, also. In effect, then, you give him a choice. Either he ...
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| daughter | 9/17/2008 |
Q: i have a 13 yr old daughter with a ex girlfriend,my daughter had a fight or dissagrement,with her ...
A: I apologize for the lateness of this response. If your daughter was 16 or 17, it would be a ...
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| 19 yr old son unreliable and hurtful | 9/15/2008 |
Q: James, I read several of your Q&A and went through entire list of subject headings. I'm certain that ...
A: Sorry for the delay in responding to your email. Lots of co-parents or in-laws, following a ...
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| My 4.5 year old is becoming very sexual | 9/14/2008 |
Q: My almost 5 year old is really concerning me. He keeps touching my little 2 year old girls private ...
A: I would be concerned as to where he learned about oral sex. There are so many possibilities these ...
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| My 16 year old son | 9/11/2008 |
Q: My 16 year old son and his girlfriend want to spend every free moment together, mostly at our ...
A: I can understand that you'd like to see them engaged in other activities aside from hanging out in ...
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| Self steem | 9/10/2008 |
Q: My daughter is almost 14 years old. She has told me that she has self esteem issues and I want to ...
A: I think every teenager has self-esteem issues. It comes with being an adolescent and going through ...
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| Our 19 year old son | 9/10/2008 |
Q: Our son flunked out of college after his first year. He is now at home, doing nothing. He is ...
A: I would suggest that you give him 30 days to choose and carry out one of four options: 1. Enroll ...
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| 14 year old custody. | 9/10/2008 |
Q: My 14 year old daughter stayed with her father for the summer and decided she wanted to live with ...
A: I think you do have to get the courts involved. Even if you allow (or agree) to her father having ...
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| Good parenting | 9/8/2008 |
Q: Ca) and i have seen nothing but bad parenting. What are some characteristics of good parenting? What ...
A: There are lots of examples of bad parenting around. "Bad" parents are often those parents who ...
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| re:concerned about my 3 year old son's behavior | 9/6/2008 |
Q: I recently wrote you the question "concerned about my 3 year old son's behavior." I am sorry to ...
A: I'm not an expert on Dabrowski's theory, but it may have some merit. I tend to believe that all ...
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| 12-Year-Old Son Is Ignored by Kids his Age | 9/4/2008 |
Q: My son will be 12 in a month. He's a big built boy and somewhat overweight. I don't know if that ...
A: Not every child is out-going, gregarious, and popular with others. You can help him with ...
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| rage in a 15 year old boy | 9/3/2008 |
Q: I have 2 boys - 15 and 11. Both boys have been rather aggressive in their manner of speaking for a ...
A: You're asking some great questions. I think many parents of adolescents have many of the same ...
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| my smart mouth son | 9/2/2008 |
Q: My son 13, blames me for my divorce. His father was physically abusive but somehow I still am at ...
A: I'm sorry that your son is so disrespectful toward you. I know it hurts because you know you deserve ...
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| Please help with suggestions for limits allowance.... | 9/2/2008 |
Q: Help with suggestions to set limits boundries chores and allowance including privildges for a 13 ...
A: In general, parents should know where teens, especially young teens, are, what they are doing, and ...
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| home alone | 8/30/2008 |
Q: my granddaughter,of whom i have guardianship,will soon turn 12 yrs. old. she is left on her own most ...
A: Most states don't have a law stating a precise age when a child can't be left home alone. Nor do ...
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| Teen Lying | 8/29/2008 |
Q: We have a 15 yr. old daughter, which I recently adopted as her mother is no longer a part of her ...
A: I think your approach must be a two-part approach. One part is that she needs to be in therapy to ...
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| scary teen behavior | 8/27/2008 |
Q: I have a 14 stepdaughter which over the last year or so has displayed some outrageous behavior. She ...
A: Often earlier problems surface during the adolescent years. Your stepdaughter has a number of ...
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| teenage daughter | 8/26/2008 |
Q: I have a wonderful 16 year-old daughter. She went to the same school from K3 through 10th grade. Her ...
A: I understand that you wanted her to have a better education. However, teenagers are developing ...
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| Sucking Off Multiple Boys | 8/24/2008 |
Q: I'm a 42 year old single mother and I'm concerned about my 16 year old daughter. My daughter's told ...
A: Is what your daughter doing common among teenage girls? I would say it is not. It is, of course, ...
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| overprotective parents | 8/23/2008 |
Q: I'm 16 years old, and I am not allowed to ride a bicycle on a street. I run with my high school ...
A: Are your parents being unreasonable? Probably to some degree they are. But I know as a parent that ...
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| 'This is not my son' | 8/23/2008 |
Q: Begining in January 2008 I began to notice my son at that time 15 yrs. 3 months; having a problem ...
A: It is not unusual for middle teenagers to do all the things you describe. Adolescence is a difficult ...
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| child get following option. | 8/21/2008 |
Q: Would most elementary school age children resent/hate her father when she is told by her Dutch ...
A: Raising a child when the co-parents live in different countries is very difficult. However, the ...
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| 16 yr old-needs help but how? | 8/20/2008 |
Q: Short version - Will's mom was in prison, dad was a junkie, so when he was born my mom (his aunt) ...
A: It is nice of you to want to help Will and to honor your mother's request to try to take care of him ...
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| 13 Year old boy | 8/19/2008 |
Q: My son who is 13 y.o. and has basically been a good kid, has made some comments that are disturbing ...
A: Since he has been diagnosed as ADD or ADHD, he may have some impulsive traits that lead him to do or ...
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| Step son | 8/19/2008 |
Q: I have an 18 year old step son that is extremely lazy. He has no ambition or drive to do anything. ...
A: Sorry for the delay in responding to you, but I've been out of town. Lots of parents complain about ...
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| 13 Year old boy | 8/18/2008 |
Q: My son who is 13 y.o. and has basically been a good kid, has made some comments that are disturbing ...
A: You describe him as a sweet boy with no behavior problems. But that doesn't mean that he, like the ...
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| 18 yr old step-daughter | 8/14/2008 |
Q: I hope you can shed some light on this issue. First I need to give you a little history on the ...
A: The further information is helpful. I understand you didn't kick her out. You have tried to be a ...
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| Really bad lying | 8/13/2008 |
Q: I really do not know what to do anymore, everything we do just doesn't seem to work, we get ...
A: First of all, let's put things in perspective. All children lie; all children even tell big lies at ...
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| 18 yr old step-daughter | 8/12/2008 |
Q: I hope you can shed some light on this issue. First I need to give you a little history on the ...
A: Sorry to hear about all the turmoil with your stepdaughter. It's a very tough position to be a ...
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| Lying, personal finace mess! | 8/11/2008 |
Q: Two weeks after my son turned eighteen he moved out on his own with no financial income.We let him ...
A: As much as you might like to save his grandparents, they put themselves in this one. And they are ...
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| How to handle teen son's overt disobedience/disrespect of Mom's authority | 8/11/2008 |
Q: At times, my 15 year-old son exhibits very disrespectful behavior/speech towards me, arguing and ...
A: That's always a concern, because younger children may view an older sibling as getting away with ...
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| 18 yr old son | 8/10/2008 |
Q: My 18 year old son has become very distant, he spends a lot of time with his father (we've been ...
A: I hear this frequently from parents of middle to older teens. In most instances, there's really ...
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| 12 yr old not concentrating | 8/8/2008 |
Q: I have a question for my nephew who is being brought up in a joint family(with grandparents).His ...
A: It's not always easy to help young teens improve their concentration on school work. Often they have ...
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| Naked mama | 8/7/2008 |
Q: My mother walks around the house naked constantly. I have asked her to please not do it where i can ...
A: Wanting to be naked could be a sign of various things; but it could also just be her preference in ...
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| How to handle teen son's overt disobedience/disrespect of Mom's authority | 8/7/2008 |
Q: At times, my 15 year-old son exhibits very disrespectful behavior/speech towards me, arguing and ...
A: The first thing is that maybe you need to revise your expectations for your son. Many 15 and ...
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| 18 still in highschool and forced out of my home | 8/5/2008 |
Q: she has done this 2 times before this time it was at the advice of the police whom i called when i ...
A: It probably depends more on what state you live in. But, I'm fairly sure that most states set age 18 ...
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| PLEASE HELP ME | 8/5/2008 |
Q: My soon to be stepson is the laziest person I have ever encountered. He dropped out of school at 16 ...
A: We're not talking about laziness here. We're talking depression and maybe a mental illness. It's ...
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| teenage daughter heading down the wrong path | 8/3/2008 |
Q: What should I do now? I have a sixteen year old daughter. Seven months ago, she got a job at a local ...
A: Sorry for the delay in responding. It looks like things are rapidly moving toward your daughter ...
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| Childish Stepfather and Teenager | 8/2/2008 |
Q: I have a soon to be 16 year old whose biological father terminated rights, but I allowed him to ...
A: There are two issues here -- that may or may not be related. One is the arguments between your ...
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| Ughhh | 8/2/2008 |
Q: Okay, so I am an 18 year old girl. I will be a sophomore in college. I didn't do that well my first ...
A: I'm sorry to hear that you're so angry with your mother. It was obviously disappointing for you to ...
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| Joey | 7/30/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been together for over 20 years. We both adored our son since we were told I ...
A: It seems clear that whatever goals and ambitions your son has they don't match yours for him. Which ...
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| parenting time | 7/29/2008 |
Q: I've asked questions of you months ago...I have another. My stepdaughter wants to do competition ...
A: There are various ways of maintaining a relationship when you don't have actual face-to-face ...
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| my parents over protect me WAY to much! | 7/25/2008 |
Q: I am getting so sick of my parents overprotecting me. I am 15 years old. Today they wouldn't let me ...
A: I'm sorry to hear that you feel that your mother is too overprotective. I know that can be very ...
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| Wants to live with Dad | 7/25/2008 |
Q: My 13 yr old daughter has been with me all her life. Her father and I divorced when she was 4. Up ...
A: You can't make decisions regarding teenagers based on whether they will like you or not. Chances are ...
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| sexually active teen | 7/23/2008 |
Q: Windell, I have contacted you in the past with respect to problems with my son, well today I have ...
A: I think you've got a good handle on the basic situation. I'm glad to hear that your daughter shared ...
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| 15 year old son rejected by Dad and new Step Mom | 7/20/2008 |
Q: My 15 year old very normal son has basically been rejected by his dad ever since remarrying last ...
A: You seem to have a good sense about how to deal with children. So I'm sure your judgment is probably ...
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| Antagonistic Teen | 7/13/2008 |
Q: This has been going on for years but now it is much worse. I am not strong enough for this constant ...
A: Here is a tough program for a difficult teen. It will also be tough for you because it requires you ...
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| Antagonistic Teen | 7/12/2008 |
Q: This has been going on for years but now it is much worse. I am not strong enough for this constant ...
A: It may not be too late. However, if you want to change your son, both you and your husband have to ...
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| my 14/o sex offender son | 7/10/2008 |
Q: When my son was 12 he played "truth or dare" with an 8y/o boy he was left for hours on end with ...
A: What I don't understand is why your son's probation is going to be revoked. Did he do something ...
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| 16 yr old stealing our money | 7/9/2008 |
Q: we have a 16 yr old daughter. she is a very nice, good, normal teenager. we have just discovered ...
A: I have no idea what Dr. Phil would do. However, while I think you ought to impose restrictions on ...
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| Sexual Curiousity in children | 7/8/2008 |
Q: The other day I caught my neice (age 11) and my son (age 7 1/2) under the covers behind a barracaded ...
A: Although there are lots of possibilities, the chances are that your niece has sexual urges (remember ...
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| 15 year old-No Motivation | 7/8/2008 |
Q: I have a 15 year old son, who has no motivation at all, for anything. Even to go out with his ...
A: Some teens may be this unmotivated. It doesn't necessarily mean they are depressed or have a ...
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| 16 year old lying and stealing | 7/8/2008 |
Q: Our 16 year old daughter has been stealing and nothing I do has made her stop. She has absolutely ...
A: You may be right that your daughter's acting out behavior is motivated to getting attention from her ...
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| 16 yr old stealing our money | 7/8/2008 |
Q: we have a 16 yr old daughter. she is a very nice, good, normal teenager. we have just discovered ...
A: Is stealing from you normal or abnormal? It probably happens enough that it is among common ...
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| caught red handed | 7/7/2008 |
Q: I'm 17. Last night, around 12a.m. I was ready for bed, when I heard noises coming from my parents' ...
A: Most teenagers tend to view their parents as non-sexual individuals. They're your mother and father, ...
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| My son | 7/5/2008 |
Q: My son is 18 and will be attending college in the fall. I have been a single parent to my two boys ...
A: The only way you should address it is within yourself. That is, you need to accept that older teens ...
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| last name (under 18) | 7/4/2008 |
Q: im 15 and my girlfriend is 16 do i hafe to have a parent sign for me to have my baby to have my last ...
A: I don't think the decision has anything to do with you or your parents. I think it is pretty much up ...
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| Lying, personal finace mess! | 7/3/2008 |
Q: Two weeks after my son turned eighteen he moved out on his own with no financial income.We let him ...
A: I think you've done what is perhaps best for him in the long run. You took him back in, but when he ...
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| Abusive Teenager | 7/2/2008 |
Q: I am the step mother of tow teenage boys. Their mother passed away last year in June. The oldest boy ...
A: I'm a bit confused. Is it your husband who believes grounding and working in the garden is ...
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| 19 yr old daughter - addiction | 7/1/2008 |
Q: I have been struggling for the past 18 months with a daughter who has an substance abuse problem, ...
A: I can understand how you might be both angry and frustrated because your daughter is not able to ...
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| teen songwriter | 6/30/2008 |
Q: i have a daughter, shes 14.. way too young to be doing this. she plays guitar... she used to play ...
A: I know what you found was disturbing to you. But you're going about things in the wrong way. You ...
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| legal obligation | 6/29/2008 |
Q: I have a sixteen year old daughter that knows more than you and I put together. She was caught for ...
A: I don't know what the laws are in Texas, however, I think you are obligated to report her as a ...
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| Spanking | 6/29/2008 |
Q: My question is what is your view on spanking? Do you think it is ever acceptable? My partner and I ...
A: During my 40 years as a psychologist, parent, parent trainer, and parenting "expert," I have spent a ...
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| a jealous 12 year old | 6/28/2008 |
Q: I have a 12 year old daughter, she has been very argumentive lately and she treats everyone like ...
A: I'm sure it wasn't a lack of attention from you. So, I don't believe you caused this or did anything ...
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| 19 year old | 6/28/2008 |
Q: My 19 year old son was caught stealing from his employer. He signed a confession, apologized, was ...
A: This clause is a protection for the employer and for your son. What I think it means is that they ...
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| Helping my teenage niece | 6/27/2008 |
Q: My niece is 15 going on 16 and has been living with me for the past year. Her father has been out of ...
A: What is difficult in your situation with your niece is to figure out what would have been happening ...
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| Incredibly private 15 y/o boy | 6/27/2008 |
Q: To start off and give a mini background: My son is an excellent student, very personable with a ...
A: Middle teenagers who spend a lot of time in their rooms are usually going through a rather normal ...
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| Daughter versus Mom, what about Dad | 6/27/2008 |
Q: My wife and I are adoptive parents of a wonderful 12 year old daughter. She's lived with us since ...
A: I'm glad to hear that you have a close relationship with your daughter. I think in the long-run this ...
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| High School Choices | 6/26/2008 |
Q: Our 14 yr old daughter is entering high school this Fall. Originally we had enrolled in the high ...
A: It sounds like your daughter would get a good education with plenty of educational opportunities at ...
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| I think my daughter is a pathological liar | 6/25/2008 |
Q: I have (2) daughters, (1) 21 years old, the other 14. My 21 yr old could not have been a better ...
A: Your daughter does have a serious problem with lying. It is pathological in that it affects many ...
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| Overprotective parents/Stress/Depression | 6/20/2008 |
Q: Over the last past year, it has been a very stressful time for me. Several months ago, I had a ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the difficulties you've encountered. You've had some bad experiences, but ...
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| my 12 year old | 6/20/2008 |
Q: We have 3 children at home a 12yr old son a 4 yr old daughter and a 2 your old little boy. My 12 yr ...
A: What you're describing with your 12-year-old is very normal. Most kids his age and older resent ...
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| siblings that hate eachother | 6/18/2008 |
Q: I am a single parent for 6 years now of a 14 year old girl and a 12 year old boy. My 14 year old ...
A: Siblings don't have to like each other, but they do have to be at least moderately respectful to one ...
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| My 22 yr old son wont move out | 6/17/2008 |
Q: I have a son that is 22 yrs old does not work and uses drugs. He met this 25 yr old girl online and ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about all the stress in your life. You may not be able to do anything about your ...
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| Is it curiousity or a serious concern | 6/17/2008 |
Q: Dr. Windell, Hello. I have two children that are almost 4 years old and a 2 1/2 years old. My 4 ...
A: His behavior is certainly within what is considered normal behavior. Apparently, his penis is ...
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| Need help with unruly 17 yo step daughter | 6/14/2008 |
Q: We live in Michigan. My step daughter is turning 17 in a few weeks and we've had physical custody ...
A: In Michigan it is pretty much her decision -- unless she's under the jurisdiction of a court and ...
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| Need help with unruly 17 yo step daughter | 6/11/2008 |
Q: We live in Michigan. My step daughter is turning 17 in a few weeks and we've had physical custody ...
A: I don't think you have much choice. You can do one of three things: 1. Allow (and indeed encourage) ...
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| confronting my teen | 6/5/2008 |
Q: You were right,things are a little better at home,not like it always is but a little better, we,re ...
A: I would suggest that you try to find those golden opportunities to ask additional questions. Those ...
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| defiant grandchild | 6/4/2008 |
Q: Windell, My granddaughter is 15 and has flunked all her classes and is now in a special program ...
A: Your granddaughter is perhaps beyond community help. However, I think there is a Youth Assistance ...
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| Parenting a teenager (13 years old) | 6/3/2008 |
Q: Our son is giving us lots of reasons to feel very anxious and worried for him. Last week we got a ...
A: There is no magic I can give you. However, I can offer some suggestions. 1.) If you believe the ...
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| Teen Runaway | 6/2/2008 |
Q: My 16 year old son has run away. I know he is local because he showed up for his work on Saturday. ...
A: I agree this is something of a dilemma for you. However, you do not want a troubled 16-year-old ...
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| step mother and my children | 6/2/2008 |
Q: Ok this is a long story, probably one that you havent heard before, but I would like some advice ...
A: I hope it does work out for Julia to live with her mother. You certainly should know by the end of ...
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| confronting my teen | 6/1/2008 |
Q: i did a terrible thing.first i want to thank you for the advice u gave me,i thought about it and ...
A: Okay, it feels bad right now. And it perhaps did not turn out the way you wanted it to, but it ...
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| teenage addiction to internet game/ADD | 5/31/2008 |
Q: Dr. Windell, My son is soon to be 19 years old, he has been away to his first year of college and ...
A: Often when teens with ADHD get into their late teen years, they believe they can deal with their ...
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| Sneaky 17 yr old cousin | 5/30/2008 |
Q: Last summer my cousin, “Si”, asked to come live with my husband, my son, and I. She is in with the ...
A: It's nice that you asnd Si have a close relationship, but I think you find yourself in the classic ...
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| confronting my teen | 5/30/2008 |
Q: my daughter is 17. A good kid,knows about sex, morals and selfrespect,we do allow her to go out and ...
A: Sorry to hear that you're so upset about your daughter and her sexuality. Let me just say, first, ...
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| Help me with my 7yr old son | 5/28/2008 |
Q: My son will be seven in three days, about a year ago a friend was watching him and she caught him ...
A: Yes, I agree that that crosses the line beyond normal childhood curiosity. It suggests that he has ...
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| loss of parents | 5/28/2008 |
Q: I am adopted for one and I have lost a lot over the past years. My parents gave me up and I ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the turmoil in your life. Since you are almost 18, you are almost an adult ...
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| Recently kicked out 16 almost 17 yr old daughter | 5/26/2008 |
Q: For the past 15 months, our lives have been a living hell. My daughter used to be every mom's ...
A: It sounds like your daughter found a place to stay and plans to continue staying there. Since it is ...
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| daughter doing her share | 5/26/2008 |
Q: My wife and I agree on 90% of things, but she has always "allowed" our now 19 year old daughter ...
A: Does your daughter go to college? Is she employed at all? If she's neither employed nor going to ...
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| Blended families with romeo and juliet issue | 5/25/2008 |
Q: I am in a blended family. I have 3 kids 17,13 and 9 yrs old all boys from previous marriage. My ...
A: This is not an uncommon situation. Put opposite sex adolescents together in the same house and ...
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| troubled 13-year-old son | 5/24/2008 |
Q: My son has had a year of getting into trouble that seems to start with very impulsive (and poor) ...
A: It's certainly not unusual for young teens to get caught up in misbehavior with the wrong peers. He ...
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| Rude Behavior by 24-year old daughter | 5/23/2008 |
Q: My daughter is 24 years old and has just completed her degree (Doctor of Pharmacy). She is very ...
A: Your daughter is an adult. It's no longer up to you to help her overcome her emotional problems. If ...
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| ODD | 5/23/2008 |
Q: I had worked in the mental health field for some time and had never heard of odd. In my quest to ...
A: I think all teens have some qualities of Oppositional Defiant Disorder. If they didn't, they ...
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| step mother and my children | 5/22/2008 |
Q: Ok this is a long story, probably one that you havent heard before, but I would like some advice ...
A: I agree with you that this is not a simple question. If you believe that it is important that Julia ...
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| disrespectful 12 year old daughter | 5/22/2008 |
Q: I have a 12 year daughter and a 3 year old son. It seems that my 12 yr old is jealous of my 3 yr old ...
A: Part of what you're experiencing is her being an adolescent with all the hormonal, physical, and ...
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| Teen Daughter in Drug Rehab Wants to Live with Father | 5/21/2008 |
Q: I have full custody of a daughter who recently turned 15. Prior to entering high school (9th grade) ...
A: You expect your teenager to love you because you set and try to enforce rules, put limits on her, ...
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| Recently kicked out 16 almost 17 yr old daughter | 5/21/2008 |
Q: For the past 15 months, our lives have been a living hell. My daughter used to be every mom's ...
A: I don't necessarily think that kicking her out was the wrong thing to do. However, there are some ...
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| Troubled relationship with 19 y/o daughter | 5/21/2008 |
Q: Windell. I am in a roller coaster ride with my 19 y/o daughter. I've been separated from her dad ...
A: I would suggest you drop the "nice" approach. I think what this signals to your daughter is that you ...
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| 14-year old daugher | 5/20/2008 |
Q: My 14-year-old daughter is completely stuck on "not wanting to be alone anymore." In other words, ...
A: I think you should stick to your position. That position is, as I understand it, that you don't ...
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| Messy room | 5/20/2008 |
Q: My son is 21 years old, move out for two months with roomates and did not work, and now is back ...
A: I think you should sit down with him and have a discussioon about him living at home. You can say ...
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| Teenaged daughter | 5/20/2008 |
Q: I am a working single mother raising two daughters.I write to you in regards my elder daughter, ...
A: Sorry this email is later than I wanted it to be. However, I would say you don't mention what you ...
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| Lying/Stealing/Etc. & moving to a new place | 5/19/2008 |
Q: My step-son is 16. Over the past 3 years he has repeatedly been caught ordering pay-per-view porn ...
A: Ordinarily, I would say yes it is is very disruptive to move a teen to a different school midway ...
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| 19 year old son smoking pot failing college | 5/19/2008 |
Q: Our 19 year old son is a drug user. He stopped using Xanax that he was buying off his drug buddies ...
A: It's always a bit scary when a child threatens suicide. While it's likely related to his anger and ...
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| Troubling Times with my Daughter | 5/18/2008 |
Q: Wendell, I am not one to reach out to strangers but as you hear from many I am sure, I am ...
A: I don't think things are so bad between you and your youngest daughter. Okay, so they're not what ...
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| 11 year old son - getting in trouble, lying and stealing from me | 5/14/2008 |
Q: I just read a similar question on this site so I know I'm not alone, but there are some differences. ...
A: Why is your son doing these things? Mainly because he's a teenager and he has lots of things going ...
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| Lying/Stealing | 5/13/2008 |
Q: We have three adopted children in our home. The oldest, 14, has been with us for four years. Her dx ...
A: Sometimes consequences should be used, but not necessarily always. Always try to have the ...
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| Lying/Stealing | 5/12/2008 |
Q: We have three adopted children in our home. The oldest, 14, has been with us for four years. Her dx ...
A: Given her background and her disorder, she does not have a developed conscience. Thus, she doesn't ...
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| Unruly teens in Group | 5/12/2008 |
Q: They are fine when praying or when reading the Bible, but us soon as we try to discuss the ...
A: I think what you're experiencing is the problem of absence of structure. That is, when you are ...
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| 20 year old | 5/12/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend's 20 year old son has come to live with us after being fired from his job and ...
A: No problem. One of the things that I've found over the years is that parents don't have a corner on ...
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| 20 year old | 5/11/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend's 20 year old son has come to live with us after being fired from his job and ...
A: Sure, you have some right to know what's going on in your home. However, you also have to live with ...
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| 20 year old | 5/10/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend's 20 year old son has come to live with us after being fired from his job and ...
A: I'm afraid that since you are not the mother or even the stepmother, that you are setting yourself ...
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| 11 year old boy lying and stealing | 5/8/2008 |
Q: My son is 11, the last year we've had a few problems, but most recently he stole $140 from my purse ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about your concerns with your son. You didn't tell me about any of the other ...
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| Getting along better with 14 y.o. son | 5/7/2008 |
Q: Lately I think that every time my son hears me call his name it is to criticize or remind him of a ...
A: I think you're asking some important questions here about issues that many parents of teens face. ...
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| 17 yr old behavior | 5/7/2008 |
Q: My 17 yr old daughter will be graduating from hs in 4 weeks. She has been accepted into a PT ...
A: Your daughter needs very close supervision. Since she has been lying, you cannot trust her at this ...
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| My 15 year old son | 5/6/2008 |
Q: First, My name is Rebecca Figone, and I am the mother of 4 children. My oldest children were born ...
A: This sounds like a situation where Tyler's threats have to be taken very seriously. He certainly ...
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| Teen Daughter : decipline problems | 5/6/2008 |
Q: My 17 year old daughter seems to me to be getting more amore disrespectful to both me and her ...
A: You are not asking too much. Of course, just because what you're asking for is reasonable, doesn't ...
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| futher advise...another incident troubling | 5/4/2008 |
Q: James, thank you for the excellent feedback! Today, I had warned myh dtr in the am, that she was ...
A: Yes, the books I mentioned are good for teens. And yes, we all feel very emotional and angry when a ...
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| 17 yr old behavior | 5/4/2008 |
Q: My 17 yr old daughter will be graduating from hs in 4 weeks. She has been accepted into a PT ...
A: It seems to be that you make half-hearted attempts at setting limits, but she is obviously in need ...
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| 8 years old girl | 5/4/2008 |
Q: I have a 8 years old girl and I don't remember a lifetime period in her life ( a certain age) when ...
A: What can you do specifically without having her see a specialist or a therapist? I would say that ...
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| futher advise...another incident troubling | 5/4/2008 |
Q: James, thank you for the excellent feedback! Today, I had warned myh dtr in the am, that she was ...
A: Good for you that you're going to the gym. You need your strength to deal with your daughter! Don't ...
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| young teen boy hassling girls | 5/3/2008 |
Q: My 12 yr old son is emotionally young [auditory learning disabilities making his verbal and reading ...
A: I think you have a good grasp of the situation with your son. He is physically mature, but he is ...
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| futher advise...another incident troubling | 5/3/2008 |
Q: James, thank you for the excellent feedback! Today, I had warned myh dtr in the am, that she was ...
A: I'm not sure whether you should have called the police. But I am sure you should not have given into ...
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| Help! Seventeen year old daughter not attending school | 5/2/2008 |
Q: My daughter has been diagnosed with OCD. She is not medicated or in therapy because she refuses. I ...
A: It's no longer a matter of whether she refuses therapy or not. She has a simple choice: Either she ...
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| 19 yr. old son | 4/29/2008 |
Q: I have a 19 yr.old (step son) that goes to college (part-time 12 hours a week) works part-time ...
A: It seems that you and his father have some fundamental disagreements about what a 19-year-old should ...
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| Re-unification | 4/28/2008 |
Q: I have two teenage daughters who have refused to see their dad since he left over a year ago. Dad ...
A: I haven't heard of reunification therapy quite characterized this way, but it makes some sense. The ...
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| daughter and boyfriend | 4/25/2008 |
Q: My 15 year old daughter is getting too serious with this 17 year old boy and I'm not sure what to ...
A: It's very normal for people (including adults!) to be so crazy in love that nothing else exists ...
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| troubled teen | 4/24/2008 |
Q: my stepson is 16 in july2008 august2007 he made his own decision to live with his father who lives ...
A: I'm sorry to say that it appears your stepson is headed for involvement in the juvenile justice ...
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| Handling my almost 16 year old daughter | 4/24/2008 |
Q: I am wondering if I am over-reacting in this situation. My teenaged daughter called me this ...
A: It’s very common for us parents to get very angry with her teenagers. Why do we get so angry? ...
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| Afraid of loosing my 16 yr old daughter | 4/23/2008 |
Q: My 16 yr old daughter has had problems since she was 11 yrs old. At that time I was a single mom and ...
A: I'm not sure I agree with either her doctor or your husband. Your daughter seems to have a lot of ...
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| Teenage son and divorce | 4/22/2008 |
Q: I am at a loss. My 13 year-old son is asking to go live with his father for a few months. We went ...
A: As I've told other parents, teens wanting to live with their non-custodial parent is fairly common. ...
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| Punishment too late? | 4/21/2008 |
Q: I just found out that my 14yr. old son was dishonest about his paper route he didn't deliver all his ...
A: I don't know that this is about punishment. You punished him before and the same problems have ...
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| 19 1/2 year old son does drugs in our house,etc | 4/21/2008 |
Q: Our 19 1/2 year old son barely graduated from HS--his intention for years was to go to college and ...
A: You could consult the police, but they will want to know if you are filing a complaint based on ...
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| Challenging 19 year old living at home | 4/20/2008 |
Q: I am having some difficulties with my 19 year old son. I adopted him at the age of 10, while I was ...
A: Since your son is 19, he is old enough to make a decision to move out. However, it is likely he ...
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| Help with my lying teen | 4/18/2008 |
Q: My teen is consistently lying and trying to turn one family member against the other. She's been ...
A: I'm not opposed to residential treatment. I'm not even opposed to residential treatment that ...
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| 18 year old son | 4/18/2008 |
Q: My son has been directionless for years, has been on antidepressants for about 4 years, currently ...
A: It seems to me that your son needs to find the right therapist for himself. You have already paid ...
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| Help....I think we have lost | 4/18/2008 |
Q: I have a 17 year old step daughter whom I have helped raise along with her father since she was 4 ...
A: Your stepdaughter has an addiction problem and needs help with that. I would suggest that you get ...
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| 19 Year old son | 4/17/2008 |
Q: i have a 19 year old son who dropped out of school in twelve grade and after that he enrolled into ...
A: I would suggest you give him some choices. Since he apparently is not taking responsibility for his ...
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| 16 year old boy on fast road to nowhere | 4/16/2008 |
Q: I am writing about my 16 year old son, I will give him credit for the fact he does know right from ...
A: Your son may have ADHD. Generally, medication can help to control the impulses and short attention ...
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| Help with my lying teen | 4/16/2008 |
Q: My teen is consistently lying and trying to turn one family member against the other. She's been ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the difficulties you've had with your daughter. Although you didn't tell me ...
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| 18 year old stepdaughter | 4/16/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now, five of those years we lived together. ...
A: I don't think you are cold and heartless. I think you can see that this young lady, as long as she ...
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| 24 year old guy dating a 16 year old girl | 4/14/2008 |
Q: my daughter has been talking to this guy that is 24 and has a 5 year old daughter. this guy is no ...
A: There is a considerable age difference, not to mention a considerable experience difference, between ...
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| 16 yr old daughter wants to move away with her dad | 4/13/2008 |
Q: I have been divorced for 5 years. I am remarried and live in NJ My x was physically and verbally ...
A: It must seem like your daughter is rejecting you. And I know it does hurt when our adolescents say ...
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| male teen not respecting house rules with girls | 4/11/2008 |
Q: I am 42 years old and have two step sons the age 17 and 19 and one son the age of 10. My husband ...
A: I don't think your problem is with your stepson so much as it is with your husband. I understand ...
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| teenager/sex/boyfriend | 4/8/2008 |
Q: We just learned that our 16 yr old daughter has had sex with her 18 yr old boyfiend. They have only ...
A: Which of us has a good head on our shoulders when we're in love? Yes, you can send a strong message ...
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| 18 Year Old Son - Unruly, going downhill | 4/8/2008 |
Q: My son turned 18 in February and graduates in May. He has always had this insatiable personality, ...
A: Your son sounds like he's headed for more encounters with the law. The situation in which you're ...
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| my 12 yr old daughter | 4/7/2008 |
Q: 6 months ago I moved in with my boyfriend that my daughter loved, now she says he's mean,too strick, ...
A: You didn't mention if your boyfriend plays a parenting role in your family. However, if he does, the ...
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| 17 year old son | 4/6/2008 |
Q: What can you I do for my son who will be 18 in 3 months. He doesn't want to work. All he wants to do ...
A: Although he doesn't live with you, I hope that you and his mother share a concern for him and that ...
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| 19 year old Grandson | 4/6/2008 |
Q: My grandson has been a problem with school since first grade. He was always taking off, since he ...
A: I don't know if he was diagnosed as ADHD at any point, but he sure sounds like he could have ...
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| Teenage dtr, disrespect, anger, no focus, partying ... | 4/5/2008 |
Q: I am struggling with several things regarding my 16yr old dtr.She can be very disrespectful towards ...
A: You don't need a counselor or therapist for your daughter as much as you need to take control and be ...
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| My 18 year old daughter | 4/4/2008 |
Q: My 18 year old daughter has been dating her bofreind for over a year, i have not laid down the ...
A: Having a close relationship with your child can be great. But you have to draw the line between ...
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| 16 year old skipping classes | 4/3/2008 |
Q: She is now 16 will be 17 in August Changes started 2nd half of last year. New friends, skipping ...
A: It sounds like your daughter is caught up in the social life and has found it easier -- and more ...
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| CHANGE | 4/3/2008 |
Q: I was wondering would you please tell me: what does it mean by when your parents say "we didn't ...
A: It generally means that they caught you doing something that they feel is wrong. Since they don't ...
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| teenage boy viewing pron | 4/1/2008 |
Q: I have a teen age boy who is 14 yrs old. Recently I discovered when my mom got her cable bill that ...
A: Teenagers need lots of talks about sexuality. Adolescents these days have access to pornography in ...
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| 16 yr old daughter | 3/31/2008 |
Q: My daughter is sixteen and will be turning seventeen in August. She currently resides with her ...
A: The age of majority in Missouri is 18. However, in most states the year between 17 and 18 is a grey ...
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| problem with our 18 ys son | 3/28/2008 |
Q: because of our family search for respected life and freedom, this is the situation of our family. we ...
A: Yes, you have a unique family situation. But you seem to have good judgment about what needs to be ...
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| 14 ear old daughter IN LOVE with a student dropout | 3/27/2008 |
Q: M name is Tony and I am a PROUD father of a REALLY BEAUTIFUL baby girl that is about to turn 15 ...
A: Since your daughter is only 14, you still have a lot to say about what she can and can't do. For one ...
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| my son | 3/26/2008 |
Q: Windell, thank you for your time. I am a mother to a 17 year old boy and 15 year old girl. my ...
A: To your son's credit, he is pulling good grades, has a job, and (aside from the hotel incident) has ...
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| Husband/Wife relationship and Parenting | 3/26/2008 |
Q: My wife and I have been married for over 5 yrs now and together much longer than that.We both have ...
A: I can see how this would contribute to tensions and disagreements in a marriage. You said you've ...
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| activities outside of school | 3/25/2008 |
Q: I have a nephew that is now 13 almost 14. He continues to struggle in school. However, his parents ...
A: I'm going to give you an "it depends" answer. That is, in general, what you are suggesting is true: ...
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| Teenage son moving out | 3/25/2008 |
Q: We have a teenage son 18 years of age. He gradauted from high school and is working a full time ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about this situation. I know you love your son and only want the best for him. ...
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| 13 year old boy very disrespectful | 3/25/2008 |
Q: I am the stepdad of a 13 year old boy. The mom, is having a heck of a time with her son. He is ...
A: Yes, there is plenty a parent can do these days to bring about better discipline. However, there ...
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| Nearly 15 year old daughter/appropriate expectations on behavior with boys | 3/23/2008 |
Q: I picked my daughter, who will be 15 in May, up from the mall and brought her and her 3 guy friends ...
A: I'm pleased to hear about the progress that has been made in your relationship with Alyssa. While ...
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| curiosity or more? | 3/22/2008 |
Q: My 13 year old daughter just informed me that when she was 5 her now 20 year old brother, 12 years ...
A: Is curiosity about bodies normal? Do young teens wonder about the human body (particular the bodies ...
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| Teenage Daughter Problem | 3/20/2008 |
Q: Our daughter is 16 years old today. Up until October 2007, she had a lot of friends at school - ...
A: Sit down with your daughter and tell her what you found on the Internet and then pull together what ...
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| My 17 year old's behaviour | 3/19/2008 |
Q: My son is 17 years and is about to finish his high school. In fact his final exams are just 45 days ...
A: If you give in to his demands, you are setting yourself up for future problems. So, here's what I ...
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| 12yo boy probs with females, accountability and group behaviour | 3/18/2008 |
Q: greetings from a cold and grey England (certainly living up to its stereotypical image today!). I ...
A: Greetings from cold and grey Michigan. Our weather isn't that dissimilar from yours at this point. ...
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| 14 year old son | 3/17/2008 |
Q: My son's friends are excluding him from activities. There is a group of about 7 boys who have been ...
A: Help him to figure out some solutions to the problem. It's not your problem to solve, it's his. I ...
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| My 17 year old son ran away 4 days ago | 3/15/2008 |
Q: My 17 year old son ran away 4 days ago. He was suppose to be going to stay with his father for the ...
A: I don't know what state you live in, but in many states when a child turns 17 they are no longer ...
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| Parenting issues with 19yo living at home | 3/13/2008 |
Q: We have a 19yo daughter who lives at home, attends college nearly full time and works 20-30 hours a ...
A: If you don't know how to talk about sex with a 19-year-old, then it would suggest to me that you ...
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| Vacationing with boyfriend | 3/11/2008 |
Q: My daughter is 21 years old living at home, junior in college, working part time and a very good ...
A: I assume that you and her father have been very good parents and have taught her a lot of important ...
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| Teen and parents with learning disabilities | 3/11/2008 |
Q: My teenage nephew is very unmotivated towards school. The main problem is that his parent has ...
A: Many children and teens are unmotivated to work hard to succeed in school. Sometimes this is because ...
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| 13 yr old son stealing | 3/10/2008 |
Q: my 13 yr old son had been caught stealing from his younger brother. I didsciplined him by making ...
A: What you're saying is that there have now been two stealing incidents, right? The first time you ...
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| Teenage Son | 3/6/2008 |
Q: Our son has always been a great kid and he still is; but since he graduated, he has been a ...
A: I think it's time to tell him that he only has two real choices: Follow a few basic rules (curfew, ...
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| 18 yr old...how do I know? | 3/4/2008 |
Q: Our 18yr old son has been smoking pot on and off for 18 months. He was caught with dope and a pipe ...
A: I'm sorry to hear that your son has such serious problems. Since he was in rehab and they did not ...
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| my 10 year old daughter | 3/2/2008 |
Q: my daughter though sweet when she wants to be is very moody. She is never happy and we don't ...
A: I need some more information. If you can answer the following questions, it will help me to know ...
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| 17 y/o out of YDC that will not follow house rules | 2/28/2008 |
Q: I have a 17 y/o stepson who aged out of a youth detention center a little over a month ago and is ...
A: I don't know where you live, but in most states in the U.S., young people are considered adults at ...
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| teenager help | 2/28/2008 |
Q: i have a 15 yr old boy who has always had issues in school all testing states he doesn't need help ...
A: If by discipline you mean punishment, I don't think any "discipline" will work. You need to think ...
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| My 18 year old son | 2/28/2008 |
Q: Here it is: how do I handle my 18 year old son who seems to be rebelling against everything I tell ...
A: Like a lot of teens, particularly older ones, they need to separate a bit and become independent, ...
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| paying legal expenses for young adult | 2/28/2008 |
Q: My 20 year old son was arrested after he punched another young man who was harassing his girlfriend. ...
A: I'm on your side in this one. You don't want to believe that when ever he is in trouble his parents ...
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| 18 y/o doesn't like work | 2/26/2008 |
Q: I'm at my wits end. I have 3 children - 22,18,and 16. I had to tell my 22 y/o son that he couldn't ...
A: I realize you are torn about what to do. You love your son and you want to help him. However, he is ...
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| Troubled Teen | 2/26/2008 |
Q: I have an 18 year old son who is a Senior in high school. In the past year he has started to act ...
A: I'm not sure there is much you can do to help him at this point. My guess is that he is going to be ...
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| How to work through finding out my 15 yr old just lost her Virginity | 2/26/2008 |
Q: I was having a sit down talk with my 15 yr old daughter about rules and feelings and she ended up ...
A: Talking to his parents is a tough call. However, if they are having sex regularly, then you might ...
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| chicken or egg situation | 2/25/2008 |
Q: I have a 13-year old son, who is very sociable, intelligent and mentally mature for his age (he can ...
A: I think all parents understand the importance of education for their children. However, like so many ...
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| Defiant twelve year old male | 2/23/2008 |
Q: Windell, I work part time for a behavior health agency and am a Therapeutic Support Services ...
A: It sounds like you're doing a good job with your clients. I certainly believe in that approach of ...
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| How to work through finding out my 15 yr old just lost her Virginity | 2/22/2008 |
Q: I was having a sit down talk with my 15 yr old daughter about rules and feelings and she ended up ...
A: Obviously, even when you you do your best to monitor your child, they may still find a way to have ...
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| Can't seem to talk to my 18 yr.old son who can affectively listen | 2/21/2008 |
Q: I feel so helpless! We have an 18 yr.old son who happens to be an only child. He's always been ...
A: I think your son has been running things for a long time. However, as long as he was doing what you ...
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| 18 y/o doesn't like work | 2/21/2008 |
Q: I'm at my wits end. I have 3 children - 22,18,and 16. I had to tell my 22 y/o son that he couldn't ...
A: I'm sorry to hear that your teenagers provide so much stress for you. It seems to me as I read your ...
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| Asperger teen hits puberty | 2/20/2008 |
Q: How can I persuade my son to co-operate and respect us more? I have 3 children and am a relatively ...
A: I don't think you persuade any teenager to be more cooperative with you or more respectful toward ...
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| Dysfunctional Family Issues | 2/20/2008 |
Q: my name is Hannah and I am 13 years old. I live in Idaho and for years now I've been having trouble ...
A: I'm not sure which problem you want to eradicate. Do you want to stop the fights and arguments with ...
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| 17-yo daughter lies, won't follow rules, got kicked out of Diversion program | 2/18/2008 |
Q: I am about ready to be the one drinking. A little bit of history, she is my niece, but my husband ...
A: That's what I thought. Diversion programs are a way for kids to avoid a court hearing and having a ...
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| 19 year old son in trouble | 2/17/2008 |
Q: I have a 19 year old son who started going downhill when his father left when he was 9. I had him ...
A: If he has a court hearing, then you might talk with a probation officer (if one has been assigned to ...
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| 17-yo daughter lies, won't follow rules, got kicked out of Diversion program | 2/14/2008 |
Q: I am about ready to be the one drinking. A little bit of history, she is my niece, but my husband ...
A: I would like a little bit more information before I offer some suggestions. For instance, you say ...
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| 11 year old son | 2/12/2008 |
Q: let me give you a brief history. my 11 year old son is kind, sensitive, smart, lazy at home, lacks ...
A: These days adolescence starts about age 10 or 11, so it's not unusual that he is lazy, thinking of ...
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| My 14 year old daughters attitude | 2/11/2008 |
Q: I don't feel I have a bad relationship with my daughter. We get along for the most part. She's a ...
A: It's often hard to know whether trying to have conversations with teenagers about issues is ...
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| My spiteful 12 year old daughter | 2/9/2008 |
Q: I am beginning to have problems with my 12 year old daughter. She has always been a straight A ...
A: I'm sorry about the problems with your daughter. My guess is that your daughter is depressed. And ...
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| 12 yr. old deceased mother, father in prison, | 2/8/2008 |
Q: My mother-in-law is taking care of her nephew. He is headed down the same path that is his father is ...
A: This young man has had a rough life, and he's missed out on advantages that other children have had. ...
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| what to do with 18 yr old smoking and dealing | 2/7/2008 |
Q: HELP! My husband and I are at our wits ends trying to figure out what to do about our 18 yr old that ...
A: I hope there has been a change. How can you get someone to go to rehab? Well, you can't force an ...
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| 19-year old son | 2/7/2008 |
Q: I don't know what to do ... my 19-year old son is using and selling pot ... I verified on his ...
A: It's often difficult to have conversations with teenagers for various reasons. But one reason is ...
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| Dealing with Teen with ODD. | 2/7/2008 |
Q: My daughter has ODD- And now shes 18. Shes was in aprogram with counceling, drug testing etc. Its ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the stress your daughter's behavior is causing you. If I understand the ...
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| Moving out of state w/ a 13 y/o girl | 2/6/2008 |
Q: I am a married parent to a 13 y/o girl. Her stepfather and I have been discussing moving back to my ...
A: I'm sure the frequent moves have been distressing to her because she's not been able to feel secure ...
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| My 18 year old son | 2/6/2008 |
Q: I have just found out that my son, who is 18, has been having a friend call in absences to his ...
A: I don't know that punishments are the answer with an 18-year-old young man. A better approach might ...
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| Communicating with teens | 2/6/2008 |
Q: I am a single mom with a thirteen year old son-Brian's dad passed away when he was four-when Brian's ...
A: Many Moms (and a few dads, too) get upset when their teenager begins to pull away from them. But ...
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| pre-teen son | 2/6/2008 |
Q: I am a 40 yr old mom with a twelve year old son turning thirteen this year. I've been a single mom ...
A: You've probably done an excellent job of raising Blake by yourself. However, that won't stop him ...
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| what to do with 18 yr old smoking and dealing | 2/5/2008 |
Q: HELP! My husband and I are at our wits ends trying to figure out what to do about our 18 yr old that ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about your heartache related to your son. However, things have gone beyond his ...
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| teen lying | 2/5/2008 |
Q: I have a 14 year old daughter ( only child) who routinely lies to her freinds to make herself seem ...
A: Are there any other signs of low self-esteem? Has any one of her friends ever told you she has made ...
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| 16 year old son, with mild ADHD | 2/4/2008 |
Q: Our son is adopted. I have mild ADHD, and we found he had mild ADHD when he was 14. Right now, at ...
A: This is neither mind reading nor is it what every teen goes through. We know it's not genetic. So, ...
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| teen lying | 2/2/2008 |
Q: I have a 14 year old daughter ( only child) who routinely lies to her freinds to make herself seem ...
A: Despite all of her positive qualities, my guess is that your daughter does not feel good about ...
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| She is way to young | 2/2/2008 |
Q: I had previously asked a question with Dan on the allexperts site and he referred me to you for some ...
A: I'm sure you didn't do anything to lead her on. But it is fairly common for younger girls to have ...
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| 3 kids and 2 major issues | 2/1/2008 |
Q: I am a mother of a six year old and a three year old. They are both girls and have behaved ...
A: Taking on some one else's teenager is not an easy task. In fact, raising teenagers -- even if they ...
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| Deviant Behavior | 1/29/2008 |
Q: For the past 6 months my son has been lying and stealing. Despite trying to stop it it has gotten ...
A: This is not "normal" behavior; this is deviant. Your son may not know why he's doing these things; ...
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| discipline 10 year old | 1/28/2008 |
Q: I am a single mother of 3 children since May 2006. My eldest daughter (10) has changed best friends ...
A: Children and young teens often go through various phases when they are trying out new behaviors and ...
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| 19-year old son | 1/28/2008 |
Q: I don't know what to do ... my 19-year old son is using and selling pot ... I verified on his ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the disappointment you must feel about the behavior of your son. Since he ...
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| Asperger's kid | 1/25/2008 |
Q: Our son is 12 years old. He has Asperger's syndrome. I don't know if that has anything to do with ...
A: Before I offer any advice, please answer a few questions for me: 1. Who diagnosed him with ...
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| correct punishment for an eleven year old | 1/23/2008 |
Q: I have an eleven year old son who is driving me up the wall. He is doing better in school this year ...
A: Is the school concerned about his behavior on the bus? Does he have consequences from the school for ...
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| My 14 year old Daughter wants to live with her father | 1/22/2008 |
Q: My 14 yr old daughter now wants to live with her father. She states that she has not had much time ...
A: These are always difficult decisions. However, it is not uncommon for teenagers to ask to live with ...
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| First boyfriend drama | 1/19/2008 |
Q: An 11-year-old boy from my daughter's class likes her. She likes him back. They don't call/e-mail ...
A: It doesn't seem that things are quite as simple in boy-girl relationships as they once were. And ...
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| 13 yr old daughter very disrespectful | 1/18/2008 |
Q: I am writing to you regarding my 13 (almost 14) year old daughter. Up until about 1 1/2 years ago, ...
A: Welcome to adolescence. Or, at least, the middle-adolescence-type oppositional behavior. For the ...
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| 15 yr. old son | 1/17/2008 |
Q: My 9th grade son is failing most of his classes. He starts out excited about the new semister and a ...
A: I think you need to learn more about your son. He has so many good qualities that he should be ...
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| Lack of Motivation in Son | 1/16/2008 |
Q: Our son, is a wonderful 12 year old. All of his teachers agree with us that is a bright engaging ...
A: You didn't say whether you think he has a learning disability. Do you think he has one? If you think ...
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| 12 year old son defiant and abusive | 1/15/2008 |
Q: My 12 1/2 year old son, Richard, has become increasingly defiant and verbally abusive towards me and ...
A: A consistent program would be one in which the important adults in Richard's life all work together ...
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| 16 year old son | 1/14/2008 |
Q: I am a divorced mother of a 16 year old boy and almost 13 year old girl. Last night, my son was at ...
A: It certainly seems that your son's father and your son's girlfriend's parents are more lenient in ...
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| 14 year old son | 1/11/2008 |
Q: My middle son, a freshman in high school, has always been a bright student, but never applied ...
A: Obviously, the current system isn't working well because you don't get immediate feedback from ...
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| teen acting out | 1/11/2008 |
Q: I have a 14 yr old son. who has been the ideal child. straight A student, affectionate, loving. ...
A: Teenagers can cause you considerable stress! They can positively make you crazy at times. Middle ...
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| Teenage Son Can't Make Friends | 1/10/2008 |
Q: My 16-year-old son has always had difficulty making friends. He is otherwise a good but not ...
A: Lots of teenagers aren't real adept at making and keeping friends. He does need some help, and it ...
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| My 18 year Old | 1/10/2008 |
Q: Finished high school and started collage but has always done just the minimum of what was needed. We ...
A: I can understand why you'd be so angry at your son, and why you are hurt by his deception. ...
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| 18 year old son | 1/9/2008 |
Q: My son just turned 18 Nov 2007. He didn't graduate because of his english. He took english again ...
A: Why is he failing English a second time? Does he need a tutor? But even if he graduates, what ...
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| DISRESPECTFUL BROTHER | 1/6/2008 |
Q: My mother has tried all she can to work things out with my adopted 17yrs old brother. Over the past ...
A: I think the process for releasing a child from adoption is to go back to the adoption agency and ask ...
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| 16 year old son | 1/4/2008 |
Q: I had my son when I was 16 years old and now he is 16 years old. I just found out that he is ...
A: Getting started sometimes is difficult, but there are a lot of opportunities in day-to-day life to ...
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| what to do with a troubled child | 1/4/2008 |
Q: my 16 y/o adopted nephew has been living with my family for one year. He was in an abusive/alcoholic ...
A: Since you do not have legal custody, you're not obligated to keep him. I'm assuming that his aunt ...
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| My 15 Yr Old Teen Step-Daughter | 1/2/2008 |
Q: My 15 yr old teen step-daughter (my wife's daughter) wants to live with her birth Father which is 11 ...
A: Just because her father gets a lawyer and petitions the court for a change of physical custody ...
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| 16 year old son | 1/2/2008 |
Q: I had my son when I was 16 years old and now he is 16 years old. I just found out that he is ...
A: Typically, we are not ready for our children to grow up. But they do it anyway, and then we are ...
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| My 15 Yr Old Teen Step-Daughter | 1/2/2008 |
Q: My 15 yr old teen step-daughter (my wife's daughter) wants to live with her birth Father which is 11 ...
A: Is she that unhappy with you? I wonder if her unhappiness isn't just an excuse for wanting to live ...
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| Independence for young adult? | 12/31/2007 |
Q: My son is 20 1/2. After hs graduation, he moved to another part of the state to live w/his father ...
A: I sense that you're not quite sure what you want for your son. Is your goal to help him take more ...
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| Estranged Daughter | 12/29/2007 |
Q: My 18 y/o daughter has been in foster care and estranged from me since the age of 15. Our story is ...
A: I'm sorry for the turmoil your family has suffered because of the accusations of your daughter. ...
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| parents | 12/29/2007 |
Q: Windell, I need hep with my mother. She is overprotective towards me, and is affecting my social ...
A: Yes, your mother is taking this to the extreme. It really does interfere with your social life. ...
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| Defiant to the Max | 12/28/2007 |
Q: My almost 17 year old daughter is normally a joy. But over this past year- wow. She has no license ...
A: Sorry to hear about the problems caused by your daughter. First, I agree. She has no business ...
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| 15yr old boy, bad grades, girlfriend | 12/27/2007 |
Q: My 15yr old boy is a great and gifted kid. In G.A.T.E. and honnors all his life. With on occasional ...
A: I don't see any point in not letting him see her sometimes during school breaks when there isn't ...
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| 13 y/o behavior | 12/26/2007 |
Q: My 13 year old daughter who was a happy, well behaved kid until 3 months ago has began causing a lot ...
A: Sorry to hear things have been so rough in the last year or so. I'm sure that the changes and the ...
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| 15yr old boy, bad grades, girlfriend | 12/25/2007 |
Q: My 15yr old boy is a great and gifted kid. In G.A.T.E. and honnors all his life. With on occasional ...
A: If you can figure out how to stop teenage boys from thinking about girls and being more interested ...
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| 11 year old son hurt his 8 year old brother | 12/21/2007 |
Q: My 11 year old son and 8 year old son were wrestling why my wife's mother was watching them. My 11 ...
A: First. let me pose some questions: 1. Your 11-year-old usually doesn't hurt other children (except ...
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| Blended Families & Discipline | 12/20/2007 |
Q: Mr. Windell, 6 years ago, my boyfriend and I blended our families together after dating for 1 yr. ...
A: You are raising some important issues. These are issues that concern every stepparent and every ...
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| Mother/daughter relationship | 12/19/2007 |
Q: Just wanted to tell you that my daughter, who was in the verbally abusive relationship, is back in ...
A: Glad to hear your daughter is back in therapy. And that she thinks it is helping. Did your daughter ...
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| Teenage Boy - Addictive Relationship, Sex | 12/17/2007 |
Q: My now 16 year old son starting date a girl (his first real girlfriend) one year older than he from ...
A: These are very difficult situations for parents because there is almost never a clearcut way of ...
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| 17 year old daughter | 12/15/2007 |
Q: Our 17 year old daughter started sneaking out last summer. She was caught with her dads car. She ...
A: Sorry to hear about the problems with your daughter. Over all, she seems like a nice, responsible ...
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| 19 year old daughter | 12/13/2007 |
Q: My 19 yr old daughter wants to hang out with losers and she is becoming just as lazy. She is not ...
A: It is difficult sometimes to like your older teenager. They may not reflect your most treasured ...
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| Aggressive Son | 12/11/2007 |
Q: My son is 19 and he has a child. He is living with the child's mother and recently they have become ...
A: I'm so sorry for the pain your son is causing you. If you do anything, you might write him a ...
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| 16-year-old son with homicidal thoughts | 12/11/2007 |
Q: My son says he's had homicidal thoughts, which scare him, since about age 8. About three months ago ...
A: It's impossible to know if your plan is reasonable or not. It certainly sounds like he may have a ...
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| My Brother | 12/9/2007 |
Q: I have a 16 year old brother that is troubled. He is angry at home, Distant from family contact, Has ...
A: Often with troubled teens, it seems that nothing you do or say helps. As a brother, maybe the best ...
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| my sons | 12/8/2007 |
Q: howdy. im a 34 year old father of 2 teenage children and i just cant seem to understand them. i mean ...
A: You sound like you realize that your approach to parenting hasn't worked out so well, and you're ...
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| Aggressive Son | 12/8/2007 |
Q: My son is 19 and he has a child. He is living with the child's mother and recently they have become ...
A: If you and your son are talking to each other at this point, you probably need to ask him if he's ...
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| teenager going to jail | 12/6/2007 |
Q: My son (16 years old) has runaway several times. This last time he was caught by police and ...
A: There are always other options when it comes to juveniles. You haven't indicated any charges against ...
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| 11year old is pre teen | 12/6/2007 |
Q: My son is in in school detention for rudeness to teachers and students this has been escalating for ...
A: These days many children enter puberty as early as age 10. So the likelihood is that he is an ...
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| Aggressive Son | 12/5/2007 |
Q: My son is 19 and he has a child. He is living with the child's mother and recently they have become ...
A: If your son doesn't know "what that was all about," then he lacks insight into understanding others. ...
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| teenage sex | 12/5/2007 |
Q: Please help. I found my 13 year old daughter and my 15 year old stepson having sex last night. We ...
A: This kind of situation can certainly be upsetting. But I think you do have to keep things in ...
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| My daughter lies and steals | 12/3/2007 |
Q: I am having some serious problems with my daughter, who is almost 12 years old. I have read ...
A: Since you have tried so many approaches over a long period of time, it's difficult to think of ...
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| My 19 year old son who is flailing away........ | 11/29/2007 |
Q: I do not know what to do, my son will not go to college (says he isn't ready after signing up for 4 ...
A: Here are some therapists who may be able to help your son: 1. Steve O’Neill Davis Counseling ...
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| inheriting a troubled teen | 11/28/2007 |
Q: I was the victim of an international abduction. When my ex wife walked out 8 years ago she took our ...
A: I think you've made the right decision, first of all, by contacting a family counselor on your base. ...
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| angry teenage son | 11/26/2007 |
Q: Windell, I am writing you as you are local (we live in Marin) and thought you might be able to help ...
A: I'm afraid I'm not in your area. I live in Michigan; I believe you're in California. The situation ...
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| 11 Year Old Girl Will Not Apologize | 11/25/2007 |
Q: Last night my 11 year old daughter and her cousin were playing. He accidently jumped on her face ...
A: Sorry to take so long to respond, but I've been overwhelmed with questions lately. I think a lot of ...
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| at 18, not the daughter I raised. No ethics; a trainwreck | 11/24/2007 |
Q: My 18 year old daughter is very popular, pretty and used to be a loving person. At 15, she became ...
A: I'd be glad to work with you (via email) to try to figure out what is what. Being ADHD, obviously, ...
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| 19 Yr Old Step Son to Be | 11/23/2007 |
Q: The issue we are face with is our 19 1/2 year old son uses drugs, will not look for work, and steals ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about all of the problems with your stepson (to be). However, at this point, I ...
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| almost 13 year old driving me crazy | 11/19/2007 |
Q: My daughter just entered junior high. She is getting bad grades, and doesn't care about anything ...
A: The problem with most "stronger ways" to get through to kids is that a lot of times they have ...
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| almost 13 year old driving me crazy | 11/18/2007 |
Q: My daughter just entered junior high. She is getting bad grades, and doesn't care about anything ...
A: Okay, what's the biggest concern for most teens? Right -- figuring out who they are and how they ...
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| How to deal with lies | 11/15/2007 |
Q: I have a 15 year old daughter who just started high school and is behaving totally out of character. ...
A: The freshman year in high school, which tends to coincide with ages 14 or 15, is often a time of ...
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| My 12 year old daughter is falling fast | 11/14/2007 |
Q: My daughter is 12 years old, we recently moved from an urbanized area to a more suburban type of ...
A: No, I don't suggest taking away what she has known and what is comfortable for her. Some kids take a ...
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| My 12 year old daughter is falling fast | 11/13/2007 |
Q: My daughter is 12 years old, we recently moved from an urbanized area to a more suburban type of ...
A: It usually very difficult for adolescents to be uprooted and leave what they've become comfortable ...
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| 20 year old son | 11/12/2007 |
Q: my son is 20. He does not work or go to school. Has no desire to do much of anything but hang our ...
A: I'm sure your son loves his life style. Who wouldn't want to be taken care of without having any ...
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| 11 year old lying and very self centered | 11/12/2007 |
Q: I am the oldest of a large family of 7 girls spread out over 23 years. I am familiar with kids ...
A: Many children seem to experience drastic changes at adolescence. Today, in our society, for all ...
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| teen lying/bad decisions | 11/12/2007 |
Q: Mr. Windell, I guess my real question is does my daughter need to go back to a counselor or step up ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the problems your daughter is having. You're asking an important question. ...
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| help me with my 13 yr od | 11/11/2007 |
Q: I am a 34yr old single parent of 3. I have a 15,13,and 9yr old. However the problem child is my 13 ...
A: I don't think punishment is the answer in this situation. Generally, I've found over several decades ...
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| Having problems with my 17 and half year old | 11/11/2007 |
Q: I am having problems with my 17 and half year old. For the last couple of years he has had a bad ...
A: I suspect you live outside of the United States (Australia, maybe?). And I don't know the laws in ...
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| Teen estrangement | 11/6/2007 |
Q: My oldest son, now 20, has not interacted with me or his family on my side for 20 months. He has ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the estrangement from your sons. But I hope if your co-parent is actively ...
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| Tweenage daughter | 11/6/2007 |
Q: I feel like my daughter is spiraling out of control!! She turned eleven in August, and she has never ...
A: For all intents and purposes, your daughter is an adolescent. And as you know, girls can be ...
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| puberty & a downsydrome | 11/2/2007 |
Q: I have a complicated problem with my daughter who is a 15 year old and is a mild case of "down ...
A: Because your daughter is a special needs child, your discussions with her need to be more direct and ...
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| Lazy, unaspiring teens, and more. | 11/1/2007 |
Q: Have 18 yr old daughter that has a 5 mo old of her own now. Got pregnant at 16, I arranged for an ...
A: So, how long are you willing to provide the easy life for them both? Until they are 25? Thirty? At ...
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| 18-year old smoking pot | 10/31/2007 |
Q: I read a response you gave to a parent of a 16-year old who had smoked pot 5 times. You advised ...
A: Yep, there are a lot of complicated situations with teens. But I agree with you. You can't control ...
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| Teen dating older guy | 10/31/2007 |
Q: I hope to get some advice. My 15 year old daughter is seeing a 19 year old high school drop out, ...
A: You have tried being nice and talking reasonably about the situation. And maybe she is right that ...
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| Out of Control Anger | 10/30/2007 |
Q: My 15 yr old son is a twin.His twin sister is deaf,blind,&has cerebral palsy.They were born 4.5 ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the aggression and violence of your son. However, when he is being ...
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| Appropriate Punishment for 11 yr old Daugher | 10/30/2007 |
Q: I am a single mom to an 11 yr old girl. For the most part she is great. However, she has always had ...
A: In my experience, children often lie to try to avoid punishment. This can definitely be the case if ...
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| 18-year old smoking pot | 10/29/2007 |
Q: I read a response you gave to a parent of a 16-year old who had smoked pot 5 times. You advised ...
A: I'm assuming that smoking pot in front of your son means he is smoking in your home, right? ...
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| 17 year old is staying out all night | 10/29/2007 |
Q: Background - family of four, relatively stable, Christian family. 17 old has some issues with ...
A: A lot of 17-year-olds think they're grown up enough to set their own rules and to do such things as ...
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| intervention in group therapy | 10/28/2007 |
Q: I wish to ask you, could you suggest an appropriate intervention to me, i have a group of ten ...
A: How brave of you to work with a group of teenagers. The first thing I'd say is that ten teens in a ...
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| 14 year old daughter and online friend groups | 10/27/2007 |
Q: Me again, with a new challenge from my 14 year old daughter. One rule in my house is NO MY SPACE. ...
A: I think the consequences you have listed are appropriate. She has broken a rule and there should be ...
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| manipulative 13-yr old son | 10/26/2007 |
Q: My 13-year old son is a master manipulator. My son simply refuses to do what is expected of him; ...
A: Usually when a kid is manipulative you have to guess that there is a problem with consistency ...
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| teenager lying/stealing | 10/25/2007 |
Q: I have a 13 year old son that I am raising on my own(with the exception a my live in boyfriend of 5 ...
A: You help teenagers understand that actions are wrong by telling them they are wrong. And you need to ...
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| My son's poor behaviour | 10/24/2007 |
Q: I would really appreciate your advice regarding my 11 year old son's behaviour. He behaves pretty ...
A: Your son seems to have a number of behavior problems which are obviously a great concern to you. I ...
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| Teen Age Trouble | 10/24/2007 |
Q: My son is in 10th Std - the final year in school - and needs to concentrate on his studies as a ...
A: I think hiding the remote on an older child is not going to solve the problem. He'll just spend more ...
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| 12 year old daughter makes bad decisions | 10/23/2007 |
Q: I have a 12 year old daughter that has repetitively made bad decisions. She's been getting bad ...
A: I'm not sure just what she needs. But I think we both need more information. For instance, you've ...
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| manipulative 13-yr old son | 10/23/2007 |
Q: My 13-year old son is a master manipulator. My son simply refuses to do what is expected of him; ...
A: I'm sorry to hear that life with your teen is so frustrating. If he behaves somewhat better for ...
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| Recent Teenage Son Defiance | 10/23/2007 |
Q: I’m sure you get this type of scenario all the time, but as I spanned through all the previous ...
A: It could be that he resents not having you all to himself. Or it could be that this is a reaction to ...
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| My Teenage Son | 10/22/2007 |
Q: My 14 year old son just recently found a box of Trojans Condems, and he has been experimenting with ...
A: This is a great opportunity to talk to your son about sexuality. It's what some people might refer ...
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| 13 year old acting out stepson | 10/22/2007 |
Q: Where do I start? I don't know what else to do about this situation. Me and my Husband just got ...
A: The short-term diversion program is only a steppingstone on the way to other programs. The boy's ...
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| lazy college student | 10/22/2007 |
Q: I tried hard to raise my children to be respectful responsible citizens. I have a son 16 and ...
A: Sorry to hear about the problems with your two teens. The good news is your son is respectful and ...
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| 15 year old girl that hates her family | 10/20/2007 |
Q: I need your help, I have three children, my oldest is a 15 year old girl. I just don't understand ...
A: I don't think you are doing anything wrong. The problem is basically in your daughter. Some children ...
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| HELP SO MUCH DISRESPECT | 10/19/2007 |
Q: my daughter is driving me crazy her attitude sucks big time. I am so down this am again we got into ...
A: No parents like the disrespect they often get from their children. It leads us to feel like a ...
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| forbidding my16.5 yr old daughter from boyfriend | 10/18/2007 |
Q: My 16.5 yeard old daughter has been dating a boy 2 years older than she is on and off for a year. ...
A: Of course, you know the risks of doing either. If you try to keep them apart, they are angry with ...
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| Boisterous street teens assembling in middle of street! | 10/18/2007 |
Q: Greetings. I live in a cul-de-sac where a neighbor's teen daughter has a bunch of friends who ...
A: I don't suggest negative reinforcement because that can lead to them responding with more defiance ...
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| Daughter's Friend is Hitting Her | 10/18/2007 |
Q: My daughter is 8 years old and her friend, our neighbor, is 6. They see eachother often (we carpool ...
A: I think what you have suggested to her is the best approach. But how to convince her of that? I ...
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| 16 year old son | 10/16/2007 |
Q: We have two children, a 16 year old son and a 14 year old daughter. Two years ago our son started ...
A: If you don't know where ghe is and who he's with, you have to file a missing person's report with ...
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| 13 year old acting out stepson | 10/16/2007 |
Q: Where do I start? I don't know what else to do about this situation. Me and my Husband just got ...
A: It's always very difficult for a stepparent when a teenager is acting out. In this case, this boy ...
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| Controlling, Manipulative girlfriend | 10/15/2007 |
Q: My son turned 18 in July and is a senior in high school this year. We have always had a fairly good ...
A: Your son is 18, and in some states that makes him an adult in many ways. Which means you cannot ...
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| Appropriate Punishment/Consequence | 10/15/2007 |
Q: I currently have 2 daughters living at home (1 step-daughter and my daughter). They are 16 and 17, ...
A: The most important thing in punishment is that you are angry and let them know. Next, there has to ...
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| 16 year old son doing poorly in school | 10/14/2007 |
Q: My son is bringing home mostly C's and D's since beginning high school. Prior to that time, he was ...
A: I would suggest that you contact Bernard Gaulier, Ph.D., a psychologist in this area. He will do a ...
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| MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS | 10/13/2007 |
Q: I was wondering would you please tell me why some parents concerned about what everybody else does ...
A: The answer is really pretty simple. There are two basic reasons why parents get concerned about ...
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| Advice for single parent mom on how to raise and discipline 15 year old son | 10/13/2007 |
Q: My son started out to be a tremendous kid and still is but he somehow has gotten off the beaten ...
A: It seems that when his father died, it triggered something in him that he obviously is not handling ...
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| 16 year old son doing poorly in school | 10/13/2007 |
Q: My son is bringing home mostly C's and D's since beginning high school. Prior to that time, he was ...
A: It sounds like your son may be a bit overwhelmed in the new school. It may be tougher than he ...
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| MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS | 10/11/2007 |
Q: I was wondering would you please tell me why some parents concerned about what everybody else does ...
A: You're going to have to help me out here. I'm not sure what you are asking. Are you asking why ...
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| 16 yr old brother acting out | 10/10/2007 |
Q: My brother has been acting out in the past year. It seemed to have started when he got his ...
A: It is certainly caring of you to want to help your brother and your family. I think it is ...
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| DESPERATELY TRYING with 15 year old son | 10/9/2007 |
Q: My son is 15. He was 3rd grade (it had been mentioned in Kindergarten. He was put on Adderal. For 6 ...
A: Sorry to hear about all the problems with your son. Even though you've tried it before, your son ...
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| my 13 yr old son | 10/7/2007 |
Q: My son failed the 7th grade last year. But took summer school English course to pass to 8th grade. ...
A: I think the biggest question here is: What's going on with his school work? If he has the ...
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| Should I throw my son out for smoking pot? | 10/6/2007 |
Q: When my son was 17 I suspected he was using pot. I found mj, a pot pipe, and visine in his truck. He ...
A: My suggestion is you stop giving him the use of your car and money, but you allow him to remain in ...
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| 14 yr old daughter....need advice | 10/6/2007 |
Q: I will try to keep this as short as possible but it's quite a complicated dilemma that I'm in.. ...
A: Do I think the punishment is too severe? Yes, I do. It's almost a set-up for violating the ...
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| Attraction to my homosexual best friend. | 10/5/2007 |
Q: I asked Dan a question and he recommended me to you. My question was about how I have very strong ...
A: It is disappointing to find the person you consider the right person for you only to discover they ...
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| Consequences for poor/failing grades | 10/4/2007 |
Q: Our son is fifteen and we recently moved to a new school district. At his previous school, his ...
A: Since his grades have been declining at both schools, and since there are teachers who believe he is ...
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| Sexual drive in eight year old boy | 10/4/2007 |
Q: My eight year old son is showing signs of a developing sexual drive. This started when he was about ...
A: The sexual drive is not unusual. All children have sexual feelings and curiosity about sex and ...
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| My 13 year old son crys | 10/4/2007 |
Q: Ever since 1st grade my son would cry in school about things like his name not being written ...
A: Sounds like your son has some perfectionistic tendencies. These lead him to be frustrated, and he ...
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| lying in a 9 yr old boy | 10/3/2007 |
Q: my son has started lying and I don't know what to do. It mainly seems to be centered around him ...
A: What you're doing is the right approach. When you explain that lying is wrong, then explain in the ...
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| Child Sexual Behavior | 10/2/2007 |
Q: Windell, I am very concerned as I received a call from a detective from the city's police ...
A: I'm glad my previous response offered you a measure of relief. Is it common among psychotherapists ...
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| my step-son's behavior | 10/1/2007 |
Q: My step-son is 12 years old. My husband and I got custody of him and his two brothers two years ago ...
A: If your stepson spent much of his life with a mother who consistently lied, it is likely that he ...
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| Child Sexual Behavior | 9/30/2007 |
Q: Windell, I am very concerned as I received a call from a detective from the city's police ...
A: It may surprise you but children can think of these things on their own and they don't have to have ...
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| My 12 year old son steals from me | 9/30/2007 |
Q: My son steals my credit card and uses it to buy apple itunes on line. i have spoken to him before ...
A: You probably didn't create his stealing habits. Children who are adopted after one year sometimes ...
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| My 7 yr old has troubles controlling his anger | 9/25/2007 |
Q: I was referred to submit my concerns to you, can you please help? I'm so close to giving up. I ...
A: You've given me a little bit of information about your son, but I need more in order to give you ...
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| Quiet studious son can't seem to say the right thing | 9/24/2007 |
Q: I have an ongoing problem with my son and my husband. I left my first husband through domestic ...
A: As you suggest at the end of your email, the problem is perhaps as much between you and your husband ...
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| Out of Control Teenager | 9/22/2007 |
Q: Parents need help with teenage 14 year old daughter. Parents are together after 2 year separation. ...
A: It seems like there's a lot going on in your family. I think you have to take one problem at a ...
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| Relationships with my daughters/ family | 9/21/2007 |
Q: please help: I have 2 daughters (and a 7 year old son), aged 18 & 19. They are now both in ...
A: This sounds like a very complex situation. However, your daughters are old enough that they can soon ...
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| 17 year old obsessed with girlfriend | 9/18/2007 |
Q: Our 17 year old son has had a behavior transformation in the negative since he began dating his 18 ...
A: Yes, you run the risk of increasing the obsession. But if you don't put limits on him, you run the ...
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| 17 yr old suddenly defiant | 9/17/2007 |
Q: I have a barely 17 year old son that once he began dating his first girlfriend about 8 months ago ...
A: I think you're right to put limits on him, because he has shown that he is not capable of putting ...
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| Curfews | 9/13/2007 |
Q: So what do you think a reasonable curfew would be for our 19 year old daughter (going on 20 in ...
A: A reasonable curfew for a young adult college student is whatever time you both can work out that is ...
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| 17 year old son--when to let go | 9/12/2007 |
Q: Good Morning. We have a son who is 17 years old (we also have a 14 yr old son and an 8 & a 9 year ...
A: It's good to hear that your son is going to school fulltime and will graduate this year. I think ...
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| Phone limits for 14 year old daughter | 9/10/2007 |
Q: My 14 year old daughter would happily spend all day and night on the phone if allowed. She would ...
A: No, I don't think you're being too square. Your daughter is 14 years old. This kind of talk is ...
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| My Daughter's Behavior - Mom is like a girlfriend | 9/6/2007 |
Q: I have several issues, each causing me much grief. First, I have two daughters, one 15 and the ...
A: Maybe the only alternatives you have are (1.) an intervention with family memebers, or (2.) going to ...
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| My Daughter's Behavior - Mom is like a girlfriend | 9/4/2007 |
Q: I have several issues, each causing me much grief. First, I have two daughters, one 15 and the ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about all the problems in your family. I see four very serious issues. One is ...
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| Parenting 13 year old identical twin boys | 9/2/2007 |
Q: How do I help my boys get along better? They pick on each other and I have one son that makes fun ...
A: Here are some suggestions for helping your boys get along better besides just telling them to stop ...
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| Help with our 19 year old son!!!!! PLEASE | 9/1/2007 |
Q: I have been married to my husband for the last 13 years. I have a son from a previous relationship ...
A: Even if your son is not prepared to live on his own, he is doing just that. And even if he comes ...
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| meeting dad after 17 years | 8/30/2007 |
Q: I am really at a loss on how to cope with our present situtation. My 17 year old son has deceided ...
A: I can see that there are at least three issues here which concern you. One is that your son seems ...
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| 8 year old steels | 8/29/2007 |
Q: My son went on a bike ride yesterday and stopped a the gasstation. He went in put some gum in his ...
A: I agree with your handling of it. Taking him back to the station, asking him to apologize and make ...
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| Son 19 direction Unknown | 8/28/2007 |
Q: I have read some of your responses and I have a similar situation with our 19 yr old son. It took ...
A: You are, of course, right. You and your husband need to get a consistent direction. And seeing a ...
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| dramatic and crying teenage son | 8/27/2007 |
Q: How should we handle our son that is overly dramatic about everything from homework to football ...
A: You didn't say how old your son is, so I'm going to guess that he's about 15 years old. I think ...
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| Relational aggression | 8/27/2007 |
Q: Any advice on how I can help my 13 year old daughter from being bullied at school. She's in 8th ...
A: It's a rough time for girls between the 7th and 9th grades. There's a lot of bullying that goes on. ...
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| Should we hit our child? | 8/26/2007 |
Q: What is your opinion on hitting/spanking your child? Do you think that there can be any cases where ...
A: I support your point of view basically. Hitting a 13-year-old doesn't reinforce the idea that she ...
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| How involved should I be in my daughter's relationship with her boyfriend? | 8/25/2007 |
Q: My 14 year old daughter is on the phone all day long with her 16 year old boyfriend. They see each ...
A: Like it or not, you are very involved. Especially since you drive them and can listen to their ...
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| my 12 year old daughter | 8/21/2007 |
Q: Dan (another psychiatry expert) recommended you to me - he asked that I let you know. My question is ...
A: You've got that right! Parenting is the most difficult, time-consuming, thankless, and -- at the ...
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| HELP | 8/21/2007 |
Q: My son will be 18 in 3 months. Since he was 13 it has been a roller coaster ride. In trouble with ...
A: I can't answer the question as to why your son is like this. But many older teens seem stuck and ...
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| 12 year old daughter | 8/20/2007 |
Q: My daughter is 12. She does well in school. She is fairly quick witted. She has no close friends, ...
A: It's great that you and your daughter are close enough to talk about the things that are upsetting ...
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| Overprotective parent. | 8/20/2007 |
Q: My name is James, I'm 18 years old, and i have an over protective parent. I grew up in a single ...
A: Many parents are overprotective. Often there are understandable reasons for their ...
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| 19 Year Old Son | 8/19/2007 |
Q: Our 19 year old son had a bad drug issue which started in May of last year. He barely made it out ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the extensive problems you've had with your son. And I'm also sorry to hear ...
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| 18 year old son | 8/18/2007 |
Q: Here it goes... I have an 18 year old son who feels intitiled to have me buy him a car, get him an ...
A: I don't remember anything in the Constitution about teenagers being guaranteed an automobile or an ...
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| pregnant 19 year old | 8/15/2007 |
Q: My 19 year old daughter is three months pregnant and insisting on keeping and raising this baby. ...
A: This is a real dilemma. You can't send an immature, irresponsible girl who is pregnant out on the ...
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| Problems with my mother | 8/13/2007 |
Q: I was advised by another expert on the site to ask you my question, my question is that I'm 16 in ...
A: I'm sorry to hear that you and your mother have such difficulty getting along. You are old enough ...
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| Step parenting? | 8/12/2007 |
Q: I am a step mother to a 16 year old son. I also have a 10 year son that lives with me and my ...
A: I think you have grasped the idea that part of the problem is the inability of your husband and his ...
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| Hello!! | 8/11/2007 |
Q: i am Shivani.I have a friend,whose name is Manila. She is deciving me.She had started doing jealousy ...
A: It sounds like you are a nice person who tries to be a good friend. However, your friend is hurting ...
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| 17 yr old Moved out and now pregnant | 8/10/2007 |
Q: Please guide me! To be as short as possible.. My 17 yr old daughter has recently moved out of our ...
A: If your daughter is really Bipolar, it may be very difficult to understand her and why says and does ...
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| 13 Yr old stepson and his mother | 8/8/2007 |
Q: I have a 13 year old stepson who I've been with for nearly the past 10 years. His Mom and I have ...
A: As you indicate, this is a rough situation. Often parents who tend to be somewhat wimpy and are not ...
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| 13 Yr old stepson and his mother | 8/8/2007 |
Q: I have a 13 year old stepson who I've been with for nearly the past 10 years. His Mom and I have ...
A: I answered this question several days ago, but it appears my answer was not sent to you. So I will ...
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| adult child | 8/5/2007 |
Q: My husband and I divorced when my son was 5. He got the standard every other weekend visits and ...
A: I'm sorry to say that mothers often get blamed for lots of things by kids (and sometimes their ...
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| Teenage sister and my husband | 8/4/2007 |
Q: My circumstances are a little different. I have a 16 year old teenage sister living with me due to ...
A: There is nothing particularly abnormal about reading someone else's diary. Obviously, if he was ...
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| 17 year old wants to move out | 8/2/2007 |
Q: I have a 17 year old son who wants to move out of the house. Behind our backs he actually rented an ...
A: I agree it is important that your son stay in school and finish his education. Dropping out of ...
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| niece stealing from me | 7/28/2007 |
Q: I have a neice by marriage. I discovered one morning that she ahd been in my room and taken some ...
A: You didn't give me the girl's age or how often you see her or how often she comes to your house. ...
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| 8 year old daughter's emotional rollercoaster | 7/27/2007 |
Q: When do girls start hormonal changes? I swear my 8 year old sometimes is having PMS! She will be ...
A: Many experts on adolescence believe pubertal changes begin about age 10. This, in effect, means it ...
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| my son is lonely | 7/27/2007 |
Q: We are totally in despair. Our 14 years son hardly has any friends. Since his primary school he ...
A: Like many teenagers, your son is conflicted about his lack of social skills. He apparently uses ...
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| 16 yr old son with out of the blue rages | 7/23/2007 |
Q: My son has always had temper tantrums. Thought he had outgrown them. Now he is getting needs ...
A: Children who are prone to temper tantrums do not necessarily outgrow them. And because the middle ...
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| Am I a horrible stepmom? | 7/19/2007 |
Q: My stepdaughter is almost 13 I have been in her life since she was 8. She is with me a lot as her ...
A: Sorry to hear about the problems with your stepdaughter. However, it is not uncommon for ...
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| Lying 13 year old | 7/18/2007 |
Q: I have a 13 year old daughter who has a huge problem with lying. She has "told stories" since she ...
A: I'm sorry the lying has continued for so long and has seemingly become worse. My guess is that she ...
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| Rude 11 year old daughter | 7/15/2007 |
Q: My husband of 25 years and I are the parents of an 11 y/o daughter who is generally pretty good, but ...
A: Teenagers often develop a smart aleck attitude (yes, I'm afraid at age 11 she is an adolescent!). ...
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| difficult 20yr old | 7/13/2007 |
Q: My 20 yr old son stopped studying and has let go of all the opportunities we give him these last ...
A: Yes, it is more complicated. You are suggesting that he has a receptive and expressive disorder. Has ...
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| Sexual curiosity - school aged children | 7/9/2007 |
Q: My husband and I are at a loss with how to handle a situation where our son has been caught with two ...
A: Most children have questions about sexuality. And one way children learn about sexuality and each ...
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| how long do i ground my 13 year old darughter | 7/7/2007 |
Q: my daughter is 13 years old and she is normally such a good child and listens most of the time. but ...
A: In a word, yes. It is far too harsh. And I'll tell you why. Your daughter is a good kid. She did ...
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| violent stepson | 7/6/2007 |
Q: We are a blended family with 7 children 6 are teens and 1 preschooler, we've been living together ...
A: You didn't say how old this boy is. Nor did you say if you have discussed this with your partner. I ...
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| 19 year old | 7/6/2007 |
Q: I have a 19 year old daughter that lives at home and just finished her first year of college. There ...
A: Our children are always presenting new challenges, aren't they? I think we need to look at the ...
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| paranoia | 7/5/2007 |
Q: I'm Ant and I'm a 15 year old girl. For ages now i have been having these crazy paranoid delusions ...
A: I wouldn't suggest you tell them about the paranoid thinking. That might scare them too much, and ...
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| Parenting 2 boys, 16 and 19 unsuccessfully and how to deal with disappointments | 7/5/2007 |
Q: I am at wits end!!! I have a very bright and athletic son that could of gotten many scholarships ...
A: Sometimes are kids don't live up to our expectations and it is embarrassing to us. There's no good ...
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| DO WHAT AS I SAY 3 | 7/3/2007 |
Q: A long time ago my dad always told me to get all my important things done first then I'll have time ...
A: Your father may like to be in control. And he may feel that his way of doing things is the right ...
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| Teenager changing High Schools | 7/2/2007 |
Q: My daughter, Mallory, is 16 years old. Her mother and I have been divorced for 9 years. Mallory ...
A: I can understand why you would you prefer her to change high schools. That's a lot of driving every ...
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| paranoia | 6/30/2007 |
Q: I'm Ant and I'm a 15 year old girl. For ages now i have been having these crazy paranoid delusions ...
A: Sorry to take so long to respond, but I've been on vacation. I'm glad that you had the courage to ...
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| 12 year old daughter | 6/28/2007 |
Q: I have a beautiful 12 year old daughter that I just found out that she has done some sexual things ...
A: Yes, of course, this would be a concern. More than the fact that there was sexual behavior involved ...
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| Lazy 17 year old son | 6/27/2007 |
Q: I wonder if you can help me. Our 17 year old son, an only child, is extremely lazy, and will not ...
A: Quite so. Everything you say is true. But you are not obligated to support a child who is wasting ...
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| 16 yr old daughter going down wrong road | 6/27/2007 |
Q: I have a very complicated situation..so I will try not to be to long. My daughter has everything ...
A: I think a therapist who knows your daughter ought to make this kind of decision. However, let me add ...
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| My 15 year old daughter | 6/26/2007 |
Q: I have been divorced for 4 years after 21 years of marriage. I have 3 children, two daughters ...
A: I know a little about about Parental Alienation Syndrome, since I wrote about it in one of my latest ...
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| DO WHAT AS I SAY 2 | 6/25/2007 |
Q: A long time ago my dad always told me to get all my important things done first then I'll have time ...
A: I can't tell you why your father says one thing and does another. Different people act this way for ...
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| My stepson is lying | 6/25/2007 |
Q: Windell, and thanks for your time. After years of persistence we finally got custody of my 15 ...
A: You have taken on a very difficult situation. You deserve a lot of credit in trying to help this ...
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| 10 YR OLD | 6/22/2007 |
Q: my husband and I were always close to our then only grandchild. We were truckers for 6 yrs till ...
A: I'm assuming that her mother has been a bit lax in setting limits and enforcing limits with the ...
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| My stepson is lying | 6/19/2007 |
Q: Windell, and thanks for your time. After years of persistence we finally got custody of my 15 ...
A: B, Somehow I don't think I got your full message or question. Nonetheless, I think I understand ...
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| DO WHAT AS I SAY | 6/19/2007 |
Q: A long time ago my dad always told me to get all my important things done first then I'll have time ...
A: It's funny that parents don't always practice what they preach. Unfortunately, that is ...
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| 16 year old son smoking pot7 | 6/19/2007 |
Q: I have a 16 year old son that has started to experiment with marijuana. I think that it is part of ...
A: If you believe smoking pot is bad for kids, then by all means make this very clear to your son. And ...
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| 24 year old can't make ends met | 6/19/2007 |
Q: My son is 24 and has two children.He doesn't make enough money to cover his bills or buy groceries. ...
A: I know you don't want the grandchildren to suffer. But when people bail him out, he is not making ...
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| coping as a co parent | 6/18/2007 |
Q: I am in a same sex relationship with a woman who has 2 children, aged 8 and 12 (boy and girl). We ...
A: Smashing windows and insane yelling seems a bit extreme for an adolescent dealing with her mother's ...
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| mom needs help for rebellious 16 yr old son | 6/13/2007 |
Q: Briefly, my son's behavior changed radically about 2 years ago, with no apparent direct cause. He ...
A: It sounds like your son has some serious problems. It's good he is working with a therapist. And it ...
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| Depression | 6/10/2007 |
Q: .. There is really no way to explain this with just a couple of sentences. Sorry it's so long: My ...
A: I know this is worrisome for you. However, you are not his therapist. Get him to a good psychiatrist ...
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| Teenage soon to be stepdaughters | 6/9/2007 |
Q: I am a single father with 3 kids, My fiance has three girls. Her oldest one was real violent towards ...
A: Your fiance is right. It's very normal for stepchildren to ignore, resent and be hostile to a ...
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| teenage son claims to be bi | 6/9/2007 |
Q: Hey James, My son is an immature 16 yr old. He's always felt like a misfit at school (he has ...
A: Like most teenagers, your son is trying on different roles and identities to figure out who he is. ...
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| 17 yr old daughter | 6/5/2007 |
Q: i found the site searching the web. heres the problem: i have been married to a wonderful man almost ...
A: Yes, I know. It is difficult. And kids can just break your heart sometimes. But the court did a good ...
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| 15 year old - total disrespect and threats | 6/4/2007 |
Q: My stepson was on my friends list in on online friend's group, he added me, but the bonus was, I ...
A: I agree. He does need to be in therapy. In fact, I think family therapy is needed. But that may be ...
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| 19 year old living at home - does as she pleases | 6/4/2007 |
Q: My 19 year old has begun spending the night with a guy she met only a few weeks ago and hardly comes ...
A: No, your expectations are not unreasonable.It doesn't mean she will live up to them, but they are ...
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| 16 year old daughter with health issues | 6/3/2007 |
Q: Our 16 year old daughter is the youngest of 3 children (23 year old brother and 22 year old sister). ...
A: She obviously needs to be in treatment -- either inpatient or outpatient. Although it seems that an ...
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| sexual behavior in my child | 5/31/2007 |
Q: I have 2 boys one is 6 and the other 8. Me and my husband work very hard to provide for our family. ...
A: It's easy for people to glibly say a child is acting up because they aren't getting enough ...
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| troubled 17-year-old | 5/30/2007 |
Q: For the past 18 months or so my son, who just turned 17, has been getting into increasing amounts ...
A: There is a lot of pressure on you in this situation. And that's not quite fair. This young man has ...
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| 15 yr old gdaughter | 5/29/2007 |
Q: My 15 yr old gdaughter is living with her stepmother and her father. She was 9 when she starting ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the problems your 15-year-old granddaughter is experiencing. It's tough for ...
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| Adolescent returning home in summertime | 5/28/2007 |
Q: I have been dating the father of 2 grown men, twin boys ages 23, and 1 of them is married to a 20yr ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about this very uncomfortable situation. How do you deal with it? Perhaps best by ...
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| 15 year old girl - out of control | 5/28/2007 |
Q: My daughter has gone through a radical change in the past 3 months. She has gone from a nice girl, ...
A: With this kind of radical change in a short period of time, she needs to be seeing a therapist who ...
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| Step-son dating | 5/25/2007 |
Q: Ok...First some background info. ... My step-son has been living with my husband and I since 8th ...
A: Of course you're not wrong. The biggest problem, as you are well aware, is that you do not get your ...
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| Teen paying own insurance and gas | 5/25/2007 |
Q: I have a daughter who is almost 17 years old. She was given a car and we paid to have it registered ...
A: I'm afraid there's no right or wrong answers here. You will find everyone has a somewhat different ...
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| 18 year old driving me out of my house | 5/23/2007 |
Q: I am living in total chaos right now and not sure what to do. I am in a blended family for the last ...
A: Taking on the parenting responsibilities of a stepchild is a very dangerous thing. Stepchildren ...
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| internet chating addiction | 5/20/2007 |
Q: I have a 12 year old daughter, whom I've always been proud of. She is in AP (Advance Prep) classes, ...
A: I can see you were trying to help her by allowing her to play an online game. But this has not quite ...
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| Forbidding my daughter from seeing her boyfriend | 5/18/2007 |
Q: I have a beautiful 15.5 year old daughter who has been dating the same boy for almost 3 years(he is ...
A: I think that you would have a tough time of it trying to break them up at this point. You have ...
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| 15 year old rude and disrespectful ran away | 5/16/2007 |
Q: My 15 year old (will be 16 in September) has gotten out of control. He is rude and disrespectful to ...
A: I'd say things have gone far enough. He should be going every week to the therapist. And if he ...
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| 17 year old | 5/16/2007 |
Q: My 17 year old grandson has runaway to his friends. His mom and stepdad were transferred out of ...
A: Sometimes no matter how hard we try we can't quite provide the control, supervision and family life ...
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| help | 5/11/2007 |
Q: I am a man living in caracas and I am an alcoholic`s son I was a teen I never had friends. The ...
A: I think most of us parents would like to teach our children how to avoid mistakes in life. But ...
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| Troubled Teen | 5/11/2007 |
Q: My son is 18 now and has been in trouble for the majority of his teenage years. He was expelled from ...
A: I think you're moving in the right direction. It's obvious he doesn't learn from family members ...
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| can't stop lieing | 5/10/2007 |
Q: I'M A LESBIAN IN A 11 YEAR RELATIONSHIP.MY PARTNERS DAUGHTER HAS BEEN IN MY LIFE SINCE AGE 16 ...
A: You haven't mentioned how you are trying to handle this 13-year-old who lies and needs attention. ...
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| Terrible problems with one of the twins | 5/6/2007 |
Q: I have 16 yr. old Fraternal twin boys. Boy B is happy, outgoing, has lots of friends, everything ...
A: It sounds like you understand your son very well. And you see what the potential problems are for ...
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| 15-year-old | 5/1/2007 |
Q: My 15-year-old daughter has been "losing" important things such as school work, her iPod, books with ...
A: You may be right. And you may be suggesting that your daughter needs to see a psychotherapist. That ...
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| 15-year-old "loses" things; blames stepmom | 4/30/2007 |
Q: My 15-year-old daughter has been "losing" important things such as school work, her iPod, books with ...
A: It sounds like it is difficult for your daughter to accept your girlfriend. So, rather than directly ...
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| Seriouse problem with my 13 year old | 4/30/2007 |
Q: My 13 year old has a boyfriend. We do no let her date but we did recently let her go to a family ...
A: I think rather than forbidding her to have a boyfriend, which is another one of those tangled ...
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| Seriouse problem with my 13 year old | 4/30/2007 |
Q: My 13 year old has a boyfriend. We do no let her date but we did recently let her go to a family ...
A: If she felt guilty, then you know she has learned well from you and from her religion. Should you ...
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| Daughter having sex | 4/29/2007 |
Q: My daughter, who is almost 15, has been seeing an 18 year old. They have been friends since the ...
A: You cannot be intimidated by her threats. She might or might not plan to hurt herself if you take ...
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| undisciplined 15 year old | 4/29/2007 |
Q: I have a 15 year old son who is out of control. He's very disrespectful to me and his dad. He ran ...
A: It sounds like your son has a number of problems at this point and he needs help. Certainly, as ...
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| answer right away | 4/27/2007 |
Q: i am a 15-year old girl and i like to wear revealing clothing. i feel that it empowers me and shows ...
A: Yep, parents often get upset about their daughters wearing revealing clothing. Most parents feel ...
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| angry/withdrawn teen | 4/24/2007 |
Q: My son is 17 yrs. old and I don't know how to reach him. He is completely withdrawn from the family ...
A: Yes, it's frustrating to live with a more withdrawn teenager. It's hard to know what they are ...
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| 14yr old behavioral problem | 4/23/2007 |
Q: Since turning 14 a month ago my son has developed dramatic mood swings and rages. He is defiant and ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the problems your son is experiencing. These mood swings and rages came ...
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| Daughter having sex | 4/23/2007 |
Q: My daughter, who is almost 15, has been seeing an 18 year old. They have been friends since the ...
A: Okay, yes, maybe you made a mistake by allowing her to date a boy three years older than herself. ...
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| trust and my 11 year old | 4/23/2007 |
Q: my 11 year old is "in love" with a filthy mouthed boy that happens to live across the street. We ...
A: Trusting our kids means that we know what we can trust. There is all sorts of trust. You perhaps ...
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| Psychology | 4/17/2007 |
Q: Ok because of what happened at VT with the shooting, I have to ask you for your comments. How can we ...
A: That's one of the questions we tossed around yesterday in my criminal justice classes at Wayne State ...
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| Troubled Teen | 4/14/2007 |
Q: My sister, Violet, got married at 18, had a daughter at 19, and another at 21. They are now 15 and ...
A: I don't think moving will help these young ladies start over. It would be nice if with a new man in ...
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| teen daughter's boyfriend is a thief | 4/13/2007 |
Q: I have a lovely, wonderful 15-year-old daughter who has been in love with a now 16-year-old boy ...
A: Setting a trap for him or trying to prove to your daughter that he is a flawed person is likely to ...
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| Lying 13 year old grandaughter | 4/12/2007 |
Q: I am emailing you this questions I have a 13 year old granddaughter that i have been raising since ...
A: You certainly deserve kudos for taking on the responsibility of raising your granddaughter. ...
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| Almost 16 year old son | 4/12/2007 |
Q: I am the mother of an almost 16-year-old son. He is smart and funny but he is about to wear his ...
A: You make it seem like it's your fault that he has a short, violent temper and that he is making poor ...
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| My parents | 4/11/2007 |
Q: Hey, First of all I really appreciate you taking the time to try to help me out with my situation. ...
A: You sound like a very responsible young man. The fact that you emailed me for advice means that you ...
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| disrespectful stepson | 4/9/2007 |
Q: I have two stepsons one is 8 and the other is 11. The 11 year old has had a history of defiants. ...
A: It sounds like your 11-year-old stepson has grown up with inconsistent discipline. Now he is out of ...
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| daughter | 4/8/2007 |
Q: my daughther and her cousin cut the screen on her bedroom window last night to sneak out to go to ...
A: I would suggest a simple grounding. She's not allowed to leave the house, except to go to school, ...
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| Granddaughter | 4/7/2007 |
Q: My granddaughter has been so defiant over the last 12 months my daughter is becoming ill with the ...
A: If your daughter and her teenager live in the U.S., there is plenty your daughter can do. In fact, ...
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| sneeking out | 4/4/2007 |
Q: I recently found the screen bent on the outside of my 13 yr. old sons window. The screen has never ...
A: The right way to handle this is to confront him and tell him what you've found and what you suspect. ...
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| Future Stepdaughter Moving In | 4/4/2007 |
Q: Story - my daughter is seriously dating a guy who had a daughter when he was 18 years old. He is ...
A: There is no doubt that this may totally alter their summer -- and perhaps their relationship. ...
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| 14 year old and prank | 4/3/2007 |
Q: My 14 year old daughter was involved in a prank. She was sleeping over at a friends house,they snuck ...
A: The punishment you have selected sounds fine. There is, of course, the danger of too much ...
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| angry teen | 4/2/2007 |
Q: I have a 19 yr old son Ronny who has always been a very strong, serious and independant kid. We dont ...
A: Yes, I understand what you mean. Ideally, one would like him to have all great qualities. But most ...
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| angry teen | 4/1/2007 |
Q: I have a 19 yr old son Ronny who has always been a very strong, serious and independant kid. We dont ...
A: I don't know if Ronny has a huge ego. But he does have a sensitive one. The first thing I would ...
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| 11 yr old troubles | 3/29/2007 |
Q: we have an 11 yr old boy. He's our first so we don't have any experience w/pre-teens. He came home ...
A: I hate to tell you this, but your son is not a preteen. He's a teenager. These days most experts ...
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| Purchase of possible stolen ipod | 3/22/2007 |
Q: My 13 year old son came home from school today with a used ipod that he bought from some student for ...
A: You are certainly right. Selling an item cheap certainly raises suspicions that the item was stolen. ...
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| Project | 3/14/2007 |
Q: What do you think are basic principles parents should follow to have successful teenagers?
A: Is this for a class project or are you really interested in this as a parent or potential parent? ...
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| tween in middle school | 3/12/2007 |
Q: I do have a follow up regarding my daughter's comments that she doesn't think she is attractive. ...
A: There are many reasons why young adolescents (and 11-year-olds are adolescents these days!) don't ...
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| Teen girl and dating | 3/9/2007 |
Q: My daughter is 16, and she has been "going out" with a boy since 8th grade. To the best of my ...
A: This is one of the tougher areas of raising a teenager. You can try to forbid a relationship and ...
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| net frnd | 3/4/2007 |
Q: your answer was very good.it really helped me. one thing though,is having net friends something bad ...
A: Having net friends is not bad. It's actually fun sometimes. But keep this in perspective, too. Some ...
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| Teenager wants to quit club | 3/1/2007 |
Q: I have an exchange student that joined the high school drama club and now wants to quit the club 2 ...
A: I think you have to respond to an exchange student the same way you should respond to your own ...
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| net frnd | 2/27/2007 |
Q: Sir Ted Bill recommended that i should post this question to you.i'd be really grateful if you could ...
A: It's easy to become dependent on a friend; we've all had this happen. It sounds like you've had ...
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| 19-year-old daughter | 2/19/2007 |
Q: I had 18 wonderful years with my daughter. Her fauther and I divorced when she was a toddler due to ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the estranged relationship with your daughter. I'm going to assume that you ...
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| School | 2/10/2007 |
Q: ..........My wonderful 17 year old daughter, who's a junior in high school and wise beyond her ...
A: I think I tend to side with you. Your daughter sounds very responsible and does what she's supposed ...
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| 11 year old boy | 2/9/2007 |
Q: My son hid his report card for two days and told me he didn't get it from school. Then I found it ...
A: It sounds like adolescence to me! Adolescence starts at about age 10 these days. And teenagers are ...
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| Teens with younger parents | 2/9/2007 |
Q: If a teen grew up with younger parents (i.e. who both grew up in the '80's), how might that effect ...
A: You're raising an interesting question. I don't know there is a lot of research on this question -- ...
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| Teenage son | 1/29/2007 |
Q: My son is 14. He has always been active in all sorts of activities. Within the last 6 months ...
A: I think you're right. It is all a part of him trying to find himself. It doesn't mean it's any ...
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| teenage son cell phone use | 1/29/2007 |
Q: Just to clarify, what started my husband threatening juvenile court was because of one incident ...
A: Just a follow-up regarding the juvenile court. I've worked in a juvenile court for close to 30 years ...
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| teenage son cell phone use | 1/26/2007 |
Q: I have a 14 year old son and I got him a cell phone a few months ago. He is on it constantly, all ...
A: You have to involve his father in the problem. Somehow. You might have to help your husband see ...
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| Aggressive behavior | 1/25/2007 |
Q: I have a 15 year old son. His mother and I divorced when he was young, but he has always been a ...
A: I'm sorry to hear that things have gotten so bad in your family. I don't think you need to call the ...
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| Whos right? | 1/24/2007 |
Q: Hey, my name is Jen I'm 17 years old, I have 2 sisters one Janelle 14 and the other Brittney 17. ...
A: You are probably right. Certainly you feel like you're being treated as a second-class citizen in ...
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| Can you be 15 and a nymphomaniac? | 1/10/2007 |
Q: My step-daughter has a friend that has been caught having sex with a 40 year old man, and just ...
A: I don't think putting a label (such as nymphomaniac) on this girl will help in any way. Suffice it ...
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| Concerned about a 14 yr old | 1/3/2007 |
Q: yet rather some advice on a problem that my friend Ana is having with her daughter; below I am ...
A: Cutting and self-mutilating behavior in teenage girls is rather common. It usually happens when they ...
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| is emancipation too much? | 12/21/2006 |
Q: I am 17 and a senior in high school. I went through a really hard break up early in the year, and ...
A: I'm sorry to hear that living at your house is so stressful. Since you will be 18 in a few months ...
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| My almost 13 son | 12/21/2006 |
Q: In the past 2 years my son has become very angry. He has always had trouble in school but never with ...
A: For many children, the on-set of adolescence and middle school coincides with lingering problems, ...
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| lovesick teen | 12/18/2006 |
Q: have been talking to dan over in 'dealing with crushes' and he refered me to you! My husband and ...
A: It's flattering to have someone look up to you and respect you, but that can turn into a crush. ...
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| my 13 yr daughter cuts her arms to make her self feel better | 12/15/2006 |
Q: I have a 13 yr old daughter that about 3 yrs ago she was cutting herarm superficially, she went to a ...
A: The behavior you are describing is called self-mutilating behavior and is not indicative of any ...
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| Lying and stealing | 12/15/2006 |
Q: I have an 11 year old daughter who is very disrespectful,manipulative, contantly lies,and steals. ...
A: Has your daughter ever been given a comprehensive assessment by a child psychologist? If not, ...
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| parents | 12/12/2006 |
Q: (just to let you know before i tell you my story, i was sent here by Dan from Teen Advice... i first ...
A: I'm sorry to hear that you're so upset with your father and the behavior you discovered. My ...
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| 19 yr. old son thinks he should have what ever he wants | 12/11/2006 |
Q: OK I know it's his mother and my fault. He is 19 and in his second year of college. his grades are ...
A: Yes, if you've built in an expectation that he gets whatever he wants, then... It's a bit late now ...
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| 18 year old son is psycho | 12/10/2006 |
Q: I have a try everything to get him out the house for along time... about one year ago. His father ...
A: It's not fair for you to have to live this way. I think you have to go to the prosecuting attorney ...
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| Troubled 18 year old | 12/10/2006 |
Q: I've searched and found no one quite like mine. He just turned 18. He is smart, but lazy. He is ...
A: Whether you bail him out or not, he will have had a short experience in jail. I would hope that this ...
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| Bad Boyfriend | 12/6/2006 |
Q: Our daughter is 14 yrs. old and has a boy that she likes that is soon to be 17. This boy has ...
A: Yes, it sounds like you've done everything you can do. The final step of removing her from the ...
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| Reunification Therapy | 12/5/2006 |
Q: Can you tell me if there is a "typical" parent-teenager refunication therapy plan? My daughter is 14 ...
A: I think every therapist might have a slightly different approach to reunification therapy. However, ...
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| Teenage affection/hugging | 12/3/2006 |
Q: My daughter is 16 years old and feels she must hug all of her guy friends (a lot). The problem we ...
A: Of course, you are right. But your affectionate daughter is not ready to take your advice or ...
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| lazy teen? | 12/2/2006 |
Q: I have a 14 y/o daughter who this saturday am woke up @ 1pm in the morning. the first thing she did ...
A: Obviously, your daughter is not a morning person! I get a picture of what things are like at home, ...
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| My 16 yr old son wont go to school. | 11/29/2006 |
Q: I have been fighting with my son for 2 yrs now ,about him going to school.My ex his father has been ...
A: In order to deal with this problem, you and your co-parent have to work together. It sounds like ...
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| Our 13 year old son | 11/29/2006 |
Q: I am very discouraged with my 13 year old son. On the one hand, he is a fun loving individual who ...
A: His exceptional behavior at home suggests to me that there is a problem at school (beyond the ...
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| Teen wants to runaway from dad to me | 11/28/2006 |
Q: I gave my ex physical custody of my two children during a difficult time in my life three years ago. ...
A: I see why you would be concerned for your son. I don't know whether he is ready to crash and burn, ...
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| My 5 year old daughter & sexuality | 11/26/2006 |
Q: I have searched and searched to find someone who could possibly give me advice, so before I start ...
A: Lots of young children engage in this kind of bodily exploration and interest in the genitals of ...
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| Question about fairness | 11/19/2006 |
Q: here's what happened. A couple of years ago, I bought my (now 16 year old) son a cell phone, and I ...
A: I think you handled it in a wonderfully even-handed way. You didn't forbid him from buying an Xbox, ...
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| teens and peer pressure | 11/15/2006 |
Q: One more question. Is it really peer pressure that motivates teens to pick up dangerous habits or ...
A: Peer pressure is often overrated. It may lead to teens trying new or different behaviors, but ...
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| My Teenage Son and Peer Pressure | 11/15/2006 |
Q: My son just started high school this year. In the past he always seemed to not mind it and has ...
A: No, it's not all about peer pressure. First, he has to be attracted to friends who don't care about ...
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| lying and stealing son | 11/15/2006 |
Q: My son is 16 and was diagnosed about 2 years ago as bipolar. My problem is that he is direspectful, ...
A: Often when teens are stealing at home it means they are unhappy about something at home. But ...
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| Focusing | 11/15/2006 |
Q: What can I do to help my 6 year old grandson stay focused in school
A: The short answer is: perhaps nothing. However, when dealing with this kind of problem it's ...
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| 16yr old son smoking & drinking | 11/15/2006 |
Q: I am a single parent of 3 my oldest has a different father who has never been involved since he was ...
A: There are reasons teens use cigarettes, alcohol and drugs. It usually has most to do with his peer ...
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| my brothers 2 | 11/14/2006 |
Q: He feels things very deeply but tries to keep it coverd up when hes upset - he is very popular at ...
A: Nope. No solution to stopping raging hormones. I think you are insightful, however, in pointing out ...
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| My Brothers | 11/12/2006 |
Q: Our parents died in car accident three months ago and me and my wife decided we would look after my ...
A: If you don't know where you stand with your brothers, think of them. That is, they must be very ...
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| 12yr old boy and motivation | 11/11/2006 |
Q: My son is 12 and not doing well in school. He is lazy and unmotivated. I can not find one thing to ...
A: It sounds like you've tried really hard to motivate your son. You've also tried a variety of ...
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| 18 y/o son | 11/6/2006 |
Q: My 18 year old son is away at an expensive university, accepted not by his grades but community ...
A: I think you can give your son some very clear options. The options (I think) are these: 1. He can ...
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| unmotivated son | 10/29/2006 |
Q: My son is 17 and has always been unmotivated. He is a good kid, with lots of friends. He has never ...
A: There are many people -- both young and older -- who are not highly motivated with a strong drive to ...
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| 11 year old is always mean and lies | 10/24/2006 |
Q: My 11 year old daughter has diagnosed ADD. We tried medication, but she developed tics and had to ...
A: Eleven is a difficult age for many children. However, I realize that she has had difficulties for ...
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| Troubling behaviors from our teen son | 10/23/2006 |
Q: Our son, age 14 (15 next month) is currently in the 9th grade and is not doing as well as we hoped ...
A: You deserve a lot of credit for adopting children and raising them in a good home. There is no easy ...
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| My out of control Teenager | 10/18/2006 |
Q: My 14 year old daughter is out of control. She is disrespectful to me, doesn't follow the rules and ...
A: It sounds like your daughter controls things in your home. That has to change or you're going to be ...
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| Parents' workshop | 10/17/2006 |
Q: Windell, We are a group of Mexican psychology students and we will hold a parents’ workshop (six ...
A: It sounds like a workable format. I certainly think all of the ideas you are using are, indeed, ...
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| Lying and stealing | 10/8/2006 |
Q: I am at the end of my ropes with my 14 year old daughter who steals and then will not admit the ...
A: I'm sure being an adolescent is part of the problem. However, the amount of stealing she is doing ...
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| Arguing with my teen-age son | 10/6/2006 |
Q: My son is 13 in a months time..The problem i have with my son is that he does not have any respect ...
A: I think your son has some typical problems of adolescence (such as identy concerns), which have been ...
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| Is my son's sexual fantasy normal? | 10/5/2006 |
Q: My son is 14 and a freshman in high school. He is very immature and has just barely started puberty. ...
A: I think there is a wide ramge of fantasies that are "normal." My guess is that the idea of ...
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| messed up 19-year-old son | 10/5/2006 |
Q: My son just turned 19. When he was in the 11th grade he went through a time of being bullied to the ...
A: Basically, he's not in jail because you paid for an attorney and allow him to live at home. He ...
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| Teen moved out | 10/4/2006 |
Q: My 18 yr-old son is repeating grade 12. He graduated last year from a very exclusive private school ...
A: Your son wants to be a grownup but doesn't know how to handle his life responsibly. Living at his ...
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| What do I do? | 10/3/2006 |
Q: What do I do with my step children? Markus is 9 years old and he is so lazy.He wets the bed almost ...
A: You didn't say whether the boys live with you full time. I'm assuming they do. They sound like very ...
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| Out of control teen | 10/3/2006 |
Q: I have a 13 year old daughter who over the last year and a half has turned into someone I do not ...
A: Many parents of teenagers feel they are at the breaking point. This is frequently the case between ...
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| Behavior problems | 10/3/2006 |
Q: This is an email my daughter recieved from my grand daughters teacher (she is 4yrs old in ...
A: Your granddaughter is a young kindergarten student at age 4. She is perhaps more immature than many ...
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| lying and stealing | 10/2/2006 |
Q: I am a psychologist and am continually baffled by the behavior of my 12 year old daughter. We ...
A: Sorry to hear about the behavior problems you have with your daughter. Frequently, children who ...
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| 17yr olds lifestyle | 9/30/2006 |
Q: My 17 yr old son is a senior in high school. Until about the age of 15, he was a perfect child, ...
A: Your son has a serious adjustment problem which is putting his immediate future in jeopardy. With ...
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| advise on 20 year old son | 9/29/2006 |
Q: Where to start. Our son is 20 year old. We adopted him at 5 days old. Most of his life he has never ...
A: Sorry for the delay in responding. At age 20, your son has every right to make decisions about ...
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| a clingy eight years old | 9/27/2006 |
Q: My eight year suddenly become very clingy to both myself and my husband. I do not know what bring ...
A: I think the problem is that your daughter is eight! Eight-year-olds have their own set of issues. ...
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| my child lies about almost everything | 9/26/2006 |
Q: Mr. Windell, Below is the answer you gave me, just in case you needed refreshed. :-) She is 10 ...
A: Aside from going to a family therapist to explore the problem and other approaches that might be ...
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| jealousy between wife and daughter | 9/22/2006 |
Q: I married my wife 6 years ago, and adopted my daughter (wifes daughter from previous ralationship) ...
A: You and your wife have some differences of opinion about how to be supportive to each other when ...
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| 9 yr old son throws temper tantrums | 9/15/2006 |
Q: I am concerned about my 9 year old son. He is the second child of four boys. Ages are 11,9,5 and 4. ...
A: I think your approach is basically a sound one. I would suggest another component. That is, add ...
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| 19 years old -- now what?? | 9/3/2006 |
Q: Short and simple......I've got a great 19 year old son who is very responsible. He's worked since he ...
A: It's interesting how our children become more like us as they get older, right? You have a bright ...
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| Angry Teens | 8/25/2006 |
Q: I'm dealing with an angry 15 yr old that continually uses violence, harsh words, swearing, threats ...
A: If she's still seeing a therapist, I think you need to be talking to that therapist about what to ...
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| My 8 yr old daughter is lying and stealing | 8/19/2006 |
Q: I am a 24 year old single mom with an 8 year old daughter, she is very bright and well mannered. I ...
A: Stealing and lying present problems that frustrate parents. Often parents want their children to ...
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| At a Loss! | 8/15/2006 |
Q: Our 15 yr. old son has always been a handful, but lately has gotten out of hand. He is ADHD, but ...
A: You do have an obligation to report him to the police as a runaway. As to your reponsibility of he ...
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| MY TEENAGER IS OUT OF CONTROL | 8/5/2006 |
Q: I HAVE A 15 YRS OLD SON HE HAS GOTTEN IN TROUBLE A LOT HERE LATLEY HE STOLE A BIKE BROKE WINDOWS ON ...
A: I understand why you are frustrated and looking for help. However, I need more information in order ...
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| Teen rejects moving | 8/2/2006 |
Q: I'm a recently divorced mother of 3, their ages are 25, 23, and 15. This 15 y/o is driving me nuts. ...
A: It sounds like your daughter's world has become unstable and she's become quite unstable herself. ...
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| My 15 Year Old Son Change, Lack of Motivation | 7/30/2006 |
Q: I will begin by saying that over the past two years, my husband and I have tried just about ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about your concerns about your son. You mentioned that he was in rehab, but you ...
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| Moving Children | 7/27/2006 |
Q: My wife and I want to move to Florida and in fact purchased a home there last year in anticipation ...
A: Middle school and high school are times when friendships and social relationships for children are ...
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| 20 year old Son | 7/25/2006 |
Q: My son is 20 years old. He lives between the homes of myself and my ex-husband. He is employed ...
A: I would suggest that you and your co-parent together confront him and lay the problem out. In ...
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| My daughter and her choices | 7/25/2006 |
Q: I have a 16 year old beyond beautiful daughter to where men of all ages turn their heads as she ...
A: It's not at all unusual for 16-year-old teens to get surly, disrespectful, and unpleasant with their ...
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| Behavior | 7/24/2006 |
Q: my 9 year old daughter is becoming a pathalogical lyer and a thief. I have grounded her, taken away ...
A: Lying and stealing is one thing. Pathological lying and compulsive stealing is quite another. So, I ...
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| Twin Teen boys driving us to distraction! | 7/24/2006 |
Q: We have a pair of 15 year old twin boys who, when they are not home, are well behaved and perceived ...
A: Your twins are going through the adolescnt slob phase. Many parents of middle teens complain ...
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| kids hitting | 7/18/2006 |
Q: I have three kids all boys ages 6, 10, 12, they all fight which i see is normal but its all the ...
A: It would be nice if there were an easy answer to getting sibling fighting under control, but there ...
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| Teenage Boy Behavior | 7/13/2006 |
Q: I have an adult daughter, 23 years, and I raised her on my own. I just married for the first time ...
A: Some teenage boys are very sensitive and cry easily. Others are very tough and withdrawn. Your ...
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| Teen Parenting Dilemma | 7/13/2006 |
Q: An answer to youri parent two teenagers, one is mine biologically and the other is my husband's ...
A: It's very important that you and your husband agree about certain rules in your family. If you ...
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| What is normal behavior for boys ??? | 7/12/2006 |
Q: This boy has behavior problems and takes medication for some- and everytime he and my son are ...
A: Obviously, this other boy has a strong influence on your son. This is not unusual. Most kids get ...
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| Teenage daughter/dating/sneaking out | 7/12/2006 |
Q: I have a 15 year old teenage daughter who will be a sophmore this year. We had never had serious ...
A: Well, you've got a tough situation here. But I think it can be straightened out. You and your ...
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| overprotective parents. | 7/11/2006 |
Q: I am a 15 year old straight A student, and I am finally getting to the point of pushing myself away. ...
A: You sound like a very perceptive young lady. One of your perceptions is that your parents are ...
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| teenage blackmail | 7/9/2006 |
Q: my son is 16 in december. I have been after child support for 8 years but his father has always ...
A: So, what are you teaching your son if you give into this kind of blackmail? I suspect there are all ...
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| What is a normal behavior ... | 7/7/2006 |
Q: I am writing because I am lost in so many he said she said and so many different opinions... The ...
A: Is it normal for teenage girls to dress in provocative ways? Yes, it is normal. That is, a lot of ...
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| 20 year old son | 7/6/2006 |
Q: My son is 20 years old. He has been in trouble a couple of times in the last 3 years, he still has ...
A: Sorry for the delay in responding. I've been out of town. I hope you didn't bail him out. Your ...
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| What to Do With Noncompliant 19 Yr. Old son | 7/4/2006 |
Q: A week ago we gave our son Greg the choice live by our rules or find somewhere else to live. He took ...
A: It's always painful when a child (no matter what age) seems to be throwing away his opportunities. ...
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| bad parenting? | 7/4/2006 |
Q: dont worry about the delay. i just dont think grounding a very logical way to discipline your ...
A: I think parents have basically about five choices when disciplining teens. 1. To ignore ...
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| Teenager that moved in with dad | 7/4/2006 |
Q: I have a 17 year old son that always lived with me since he was 2. The past year he has changed. ...
A: Since I raised two kids through adolescence and now live with my 17-year-old stepson, I think I ...
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| son having problems with friends | 7/2/2006 |
Q: Hoping you can help me. My son is 14 and entering high school. He has always had a large circle of ...
A: As you and I know, adolescence is often difficult because of the problems we encounter in peer ...
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| My teen and money | 7/1/2006 |
Q: I have a 17 year daughter and she absulutly does not know how to value money or anything else. She ...
A: Why should she value money. In her house it it always there for her. You need to stop paying for ...
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| Teenage boys and sleepovers | 6/30/2006 |
Q: I have a 16-year-old son who is pretty responsible and well-behaved other than butting heads with ...
A: I vote for going along with your gut instinct -- and your own experience as a teen! If you feel ...
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| troubled 12 yr. old | 6/30/2006 |
Q: My sons problems began about a year after my 3rd child was born. Until age 5 or 6 he was the ...
A: Sorry to hear about the frustrations you experience with your child. The fact that he's seeing a ...
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| bad parenting? | 6/30/2006 |
Q: My name is Josh.im 17 years old. on June 1st this year, i got arrested because me and my friend got ...
A: Sorry for the long delay in responding, but I've been on vacation. I think it's important to ...
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| My 12-year-old daughter is out of control | 6/29/2006 |
Q: I have a 12-year-old daughter and lately she has been yelling at me, thinking she can do what she ...
A: Yes, many girls (and boys) grow up a bit faster these days. But, I think that was always true. ...
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| Young adult problems | 6/24/2006 |
Q: My dauhter is 18 years old and I don't know what is right and what is wrong, Do I let her do ...
A: No question about it. It is difficult to be the parent of a young adult. The best approach is to ...
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| 16 yr old daughter's escalating behavior | 6/21/2006 |
Q: My daughter is a wonderful child most of the time. But since November, she has made several bad ...
A: Some teenagers learn more slowly than others. But, since she has a lot of positive qualities, you ...
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| Teen dating/sex | 6/11/2006 |
Q: My daughter is 17, 5 months away from turning 18. She has always been an honor student, just took ...
A: Since your daughter is planning to go to college, chances are she is not going to marry the ...
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| 17 Yr. old Son Doesn't listen? Care? | 6/8/2006 |
Q: My 17 year old son has only one thing he cares about-his Honda Civic. Everything else takes a back ...
A: I would suggest that the first intervention is to take away his car. Driving as a teenager is a ...
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| skipping school | 6/3/2006 |
Q: What is a reasonable punishment for a 16 year old boy who skipped school for the first time? His ...
A: Taking away his driving privilreges sounds like a reasonable consequence for skipping school for the ...
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| Teens and Relationships | 5/25/2006 |
Q: Windell, My daughter is 17 and ready to graduate from high school. During her Jr. year, she was ...
A: I'm sorry to hear your daughter has become fixated on this relationship and is missing out on ...
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| Chrissy! | 5/25/2006 |
Q: OMG the weirdest thing just happened to me. and I mean weird. Lastg week I had this really weird ...
A: It may have been God. Or your intuition or something else. But the fact that things happened twice ...
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| teenage daughter | 5/24/2006 |
Q: Windell I am a divorce parent with an 18 year old daughter. I guess I should start briefly from the ...
A: Sorry for the delay in responding. Your daughter seems to have some serious problems, but since she ...
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| Diciplineing a 16 year old boy | 5/16/2006 |
Q: James, My husband mom kicked her son out and he is now staying with us. I wouldnt have a problem ...
A: This 16-year-old who is living with you has some very serious problems. I don't think discipline is ...
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| 19 year old son | 5/16/2006 |
Q: Our son is 19 years old, soon to be 20. He is an only child and we have enjoyed a wonderful life ...
A: It seems to me that the biggest concern here should be his drinking. All (or most all) of his ...
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| Teen Parenting | 5/6/2006 |
Q: My 13 year old daughter is a competitive gymnast. Is it appropriate to take away gymnastics ...
A: It might be, but it depends. It depends on whether it will be detrimental to her as an athete if ...
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| What to do? | 5/5/2006 |
Q: I do not agree with any of you that think spanking doesn't work. For one, what are you suppose to do ...
A: If you are getting great results doing what you're doing, then keep doing it. It's not easy being ...
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| At a loss with 15 year old son | 5/4/2006 |
Q: James, My son has been on probation this time for 5 months (given 6), he was also given community ...
A: You said in your first email that he can't get it together and do the right things. Yet, he is ...
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| At a loss with 15 year old son | 5/2/2006 |
Q: I could write a book on the frustrations and anxiety that my son has caused me, but currently I am ...
A: I need a little more information: 1. How long has he been on probation? 2. What did the court ...
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| ANGRY SON | 5/1/2006 |
Q: I am a single mother. my 13 1/2 son seems to be very angry. Most of the time he is respectful of ...
A: I have a couple of suggestions. One, contact the Ohio Psychological Association. They probably have ...
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| ANGRY SON | 5/1/2006 |
Q: I am a single mother. my 13 1/2 son seems to be very angry. Most of the time he is respectful of ...
A: It's not easy to be a single mother raising children. Especially when one of your children is a boy. ...
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| Teenage Son - Girlfriend has him "trapped" | 4/29/2006 |
Q: My 16-year old son is a wonderful and talented kid. I've never had any problems with him - until he ...
A: As you are well aware, trying to break up a teenager who is "in love" is risky business. Anytime ...
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| Teenage son on way to Texas Youth Commission | 4/27/2006 |
Q: This is a receipt for a question you recently asked at allexperts.com of Pastor Don Carpenter . You ...
A: If your son is seeing a therapist, skilled in working with teens, and if he is seeing a ...
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| Teen boy and sex | 4/25/2006 |
Q: My 16-year old son is having sex with his girlfriend of 4 months, whom he "loves". We've registered ...
A: You have indicated your disapproval and I assume you supervise him pretty well at your house. ...
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| 20 year old son | 4/11/2006 |
Q: My older of two sons just turned 20 years old. He graduated from high school number two in his ...
A: I would suggest, since he is making life miserable for everyone, that you give him a deadine. The ...
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| Way too overprotective or non trusting parents? | 4/6/2006 |
Q: I'm only allowed to have friends sleepover at my house, but I'm not allowed to go over to their ...
A: It sounds like they really want to protect you. That may be comforting for them, to think they have ...
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| Teenage sex | 4/5/2006 |
Q: My husband came home early from work today and caught our teenage daughter (16) and her boyfriend ...
A: These are difficult issues for parents. Research shows that teenagers' first sexual encounters are ...
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| Way too overprotective or non trusting parents? | 4/3/2006 |
Q: I suppose, but the first step is them letting me having both boys and girls in our house. I'm not ...
A: There aren't a lot of parents that I know who allow their kids to date at age 14. However, ...
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| daughter and boyfriends | 4/1/2006 |
Q: I have a 15 yearold daughter and i was wondering how do i deal with all her boyfriends heres the ...
A: I can see that one problem is that she doesn't really wan to hear you give her advice. This is very ...
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| Way too overprotective or non trusting parents? | 3/31/2006 |
Q: I am a 14 (turing 15 in Aug.) year old girl in 9th grade. Like all teens, we start to have an ...
A: You sound pretty smart. You understand the situation; that is, you understand that your parents are ...
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| estranged teen | 3/30/2006 |
Q: our daughter is 18, living nearby while working as a live in nanny. in the last 12 months every ...
A: I know it's very difficult to love our kids when they are living differently than the way we raised ...
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| daughter and boyfriends | 3/28/2006 |
Q: I have a 15 yearold daughter and i was wondering how do i deal with all her boyfriends heres the ...
A: There are still some things I don't know, although you told me a lot about your daughter. For one ...
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| what should we say to our son? | 3/26/2006 |
Q: My husband and I are concerned and don't know how to approach this problem. Just recently I came ...
A: I think you should approach this problem by having his father talk to your son. Is it normal? ...
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| A college bound 17 year old | 3/17/2006 |
Q: Mr. Windell, I have a 17 year old daughter that will be graduating in May of this year. For all of ...
A: How are you? I'm a Wayne State University undergrad and currently teach there. However, as I look ...
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| how do I handle my 16 yr old who has depression? | 3/9/2006 |
Q: I have a son whose girlfriend of 2 yrs. recently broke up with him. He has been in a funk, anyway, ...
A: I think you understand that it does take time. The biggest, most pressing issues often don't get ...
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| Overprotective Parents | 3/8/2006 |
Q: Dan recommened me to you so I hope you can help :) I'm in a bit of a sticky situation. I recently ...
A: So, if I understand this, you're dating but you're not allowed to date and if your dad finds out, ...
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| My reaction to teenager | 2/28/2006 |
Q: I am the mother of a 15 year old teen female. I was a rebellious teen myself and remember all the ...
A: Just because she doesn't trust you, doesn't mean you have to feel like the world's worst mom. What ...
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| My reaction to teenager | 2/28/2006 |
Q: I am the mother of a 15 year old teen female. I was a rebellious teen myself and remember all the ...
A: The issue is not her privacy. This is not about her rights under the Fourth Amendment. This is about ...
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| Bullies | 2/14/2006 |
Q: I hope you can give me a little advice. My 13 year old son just came home from school (grade 7) and ...
A: I think you should stay out of it -- up to a point. I don't think you should, for instance, contact ...
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| Pre-Teen School Problems | 1/14/2006 |
Q: I am married and my husband has a 12 yr old son that we have every other weekend & 2 nights/week. He ...
A: I don't think there is a quick fix that I can recommend here. I don't know how long this problem has ...
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| "unGROUNDING" | 1/5/2006 |
Q: My daughter has been grounded (for the first time in her life) since an incident on Dec 28. This ...
A: No matter what you do you can not guarantee your child won't do the same thing again. However, your ...
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| Teens and telephone time | 1/1/2006 |
Q: We are having a problem with our daughter and the telephone. She is 12, almost 13, and has a ...
A: No, I don't think you are beig over protective? It is important to set limits for children. I don't ...
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| Moody 11 year old girl | 12/27/2005 |
Q: Our Daugher will be 12 in August. She has been on Zoloft for 3 years for anxiety... I, Dad, have ...
A: In a book I wrote several years ago called "Children Who Say No When You Want Them to Say Yes," I ...
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| teens | 12/13/2005 |
Q: sir, THANKS , YOU ANSWERED BEAUTIFULLY. HOW YOU PROPOSE WE SHOULD INTRODUCE SEX EDUCATION ON OUR ...
A: While you may not have talked openly or explicitly about sexuality with your son, you have given him ...
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| teens | 12/10/2005 |
Q: sir, i have son 13 years old , an indian grown with Indian culture. how should i ensure that i grow ...
A: I think one of the best things you are doing all ready for your son is having a stable and loving ...
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| Discipline Problems with Daughters | 12/7/2005 |
Q: I read your article and response to the woman who is having problems with her ex-husband and their ...
A: These are difficult problems -- and there are no easy solutions. As far as discipline goes, ...
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| appropriate discipline for 16 year old son | 12/4/2005 |
Q: Our son took my car out for a ride while we were out for a dinner. He does not have his license or ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about your son's behavior and the damage to your car. As for an appropriate ...
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| Smoking Mothers and ADD/ADHD | 12/1/2005 |
Q: I was just wondering how you came up with the conclusion that smoking while pregnant and at ...
A: I'm not sure what you read about my associating smoking by mothers and ADHD. However, I think I've ...
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| Discipline problems with daughters | 11/30/2005 |
Q: I am a divorced 36 year old woman of 4 children. Two boys ages 15 & 4 and two girls, 11 and 10. I ...
A: I don't know what is available in Monroe. I only know about Oakland County. The problem with most ...
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| Discipline problems with daughters | 11/27/2005 |
Q: I am a divorced 36 year old woman of 4 children. Two boys ages 15 & 4 and two girls, 11 and 10. I ...
A: I agree this is a very difficult situation for you. And it's difficult for your children, especially ...
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| aggression | 11/21/2005 |
Q: my son is almost 14 in year 8 he has been mucking and clowning around in class lately which is ...
A: Self-esteem and self-image as well as peer relationships are all so important to young people at ...
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| Is Son ADHD or on Drugs, Need major imput... | 11/16/2005 |
Q: My son is 18 and living with dad in Fl. I am in NY. His father and I divorced over 5 yrs ago. My ...
A: Of course there is much I don't know about your son and his background as he was growing up. ...
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| Are all kids lazy and irresponsible???? | 11/9/2005 |
Q: I have a GREAT 12 yo son. He's really awesome. He's sweet and adorable and caring and a GREAT ...
A: Wow! Take a few deep breaths. Relax. Your situation sounds like our house! My 16-year-old stepson ...
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| Problems with son | 10/27/2005 |
Q: I regularly do not do this but my family is going through a crisis right now and I could really use ...
A: I'm sure you are very frustrated and concerned at this point. In part, it sounds like a somewhat ...
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| 16 year old son needs HELP | 9/18/2005 |
Q: I am looking for some advice. My son is 16 (almost) and was diagnosed at age 6 with severe ADHD, ...
A: Living with a difficult teenager can be very trying and it can strain a marriage. Scheduling a ...
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| problems with son | 9/4/2005 |
Q: my son 16 has problems socially and lacks self confidence in himself.he had minor bullying problems ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the problems you're having with your son. Even more importantly, I'm sorry ...
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| parent communication with teachers | 7/13/2005 |
Q: I am a high school teacher in Montgomery County, Pennsylvania. I am also a writer. Presently, I am ...
A: I'd be glad to help out. I don't think I can do this in one communication and it might be helpful if ...
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| teenage obsession | 6/20/2005 |
Q: I have a 17 yr old daughter who is currently pregnant. My concern is that she is to overly obsessed ...
A: Helping a young person see things in a different way is always a problem of major league dimensions. ...
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| 5 year old boy - sexual curiosity? | 5/4/2005 |
Q: Good day Mr. Windell, I am currently going through a situation of which I have no experience and am ...
A: I'm going to assume a few things. First, I assume your child has not been sexually or physically ...
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| 4 yr old withh severe aggression | 4/14/2005 |
Q: help please i am at my wits end my 4 yr old boy has really bad aggression problems getting worse ...
A: I don't know where you're going wrong, but when the misbehavor is only happening in one particular ...
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| confused ..... | 4/7/2005 |
Q: !!! I am a mother of 9 month old son. Since this is his growing age he is most of the times ...
A: You are right. Your son is growing and developing. And this is true of him not only physically but ...
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| teenage daughter acting out and depressed | 4/5/2005 |
Q: I'm writing in reference to my 14 y/o daughter. She's been breaking household rules, sneaking out at ...
A: There are reasons why your daughter has developed these problems, although they might not be real ...
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| Punishment to fit the crime | 3/29/2005 |
Q: We were able to get the rest of the story last night. Seems there were several others involved and ...
A: You're welcome. The good thing about providing consequences is that your daughter will say to ...
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| Trade school | 3/24/2005 |
Q: My 15-year old daughter wants to go to trade school for cosmetology. I would rather she graduate ...
A: I can tell you some pros and cons for trade school based on my experience. I'm not sure if there is ...
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| Our Adult Son | 3/17/2005 |
Q: and thank you for listening. My husband and I have been married for 25 years and have a 27 year old ...
A: Obviously you care a great deal about your son and only want the best for him. I think, though, ...
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| Parenting and parents | 3/15/2005 |
Q: Excellent! Thank you very much. Sorry again to be such a bother. May I ask just a little more=) ...
A: You need to get as far away from your father as possible. But, if they did sue you for ...
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| Parenting and parents | 3/15/2005 |
Q: Very sorry to bother you, but I am needing some "insight" and maybe a little help. I am 24, ...
A: Yes, it does sound like your father is controlling. And he does not appear to understand how his ...
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| Cell phone charges | 3/13/2005 |
Q: Two years ago when my daughter started high school I bought her a cell phone. It was clearly ...
A: Your instincts are right. She did not live up to the agreement and no matter how convenient it is ...
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| parental supervision | 3/3/2005 |
Q: I'm the parent of a 13-yr-old boy. I don't feel comfortable allowing him to go to a friend's house ...
A: Congratulations on being a concerned mother. If you don't feel confortable allowing your child to ...
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| Defiant 12-year old. | 3/3/2005 |
Q: My 12-year old daughter is in 7th grade, she refuses to go to school (she has missed quite a few ...
A: I need more information from you about your daughter. For instance, when you say "this" has been ...
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| Intentional teen pregnancy. | 2/28/2005 |
Q: I found out yesterday that my 19 year old daughter is 2 months pregnant. I was also a teenage ...
A: I understand that this is a distressing situation for you because of your own experiences as a teen. ...
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| teenage boy | 2/23/2005 |
Q: I am a mother of 3 boys, 19, 15 and 4. I am have a question about my 15 year old. I have caught in ...
A: I don't know that family counseling is going to accomplish what you want it to. I do think parents, ...
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| Toddler potty problems | 2/17/2005 |
Q: My son is three and has been potty trained for some time, however, over the past couple of months he ...
A: Problems with potty training are very much normal at age three. Although this may not apply to ...
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| 6 year old son | 2/4/2005 |
Q: My son is having problems with fighting at school as well as focusing on tasks, listening and not ...
A: You say you had your son tested for ADHD, who tested him? Was it a school psychologist or a private ...
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| My daughter's behavior | 2/4/2005 |
Q: I am running out of ideas for hor how to help my 16 year old daughter. She has been a high need ...
A: I'm sorry to hear about the history of problems with your daughter. She is probably not mentally ...
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| Behavior issues in my 6 year old. | 2/3/2005 |
Q: My daughter has been having a lot of problems lately at school and at home. She talks back to the ...
A: Asking a child of any age why they misbehave is very unlikely to provide you with any useful ...
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| THREE KIDS AND GOING CRAZY | 1/31/2005 |
Q: I have three kids (13, 11 and 6). While they can be great, they are often selfish. I feel I'm going ...
A: I think as a parent we can get overwhelmed when everyone (including ourselves) expects us to solve ...
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| Behavior problem at School only | 1/27/2005 |
Q: I have a 5 year old son, who is very good at home. He is actually a very good child here, but it is ...
A: Sorry for the delay in responding. Since he is good at home, it would lead me to suspect that the ...
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| MY 9 YR OLD | 1/11/2005 |
Q: my son does not want to do anything . i have to tell everyday to brush his teeth, wash and does not ...
A: I need a little more information before I can give you some suggestions. 1. How long has your son ...
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| 14 yr old son looking at males | 1/5/2005 |
Q: This is really hard for me to ask about, but here goes. I have recently discovered that my 14 yr old ...
A: Congratulations on having the courage to ask the question. Often, the hardest part is starting to ...
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| When consequences are not respected | 12/30/2004 |
Q: My husband and I are firm believers in rules. We've been trying to teach this to my almost 18 ...
A: , Yes, you don't have control of your son. You apparently did have control as long as he felt ...
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| Alternatives to grounding | 12/7/2004 |
Q: My daughter is 16 years old, and hasn't had any problems until just recently. She has gotten ...
A: With teenagers, there are basically three approaches to consequences. Those approaches are: 1. ...
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| do I trust my son? | 11/8/2004 |
Q: I think that is where I am at the real question is....Can my 14 year old son have his girlfriend in ...
A: Raising teens isn't easy, is it? Five reasons for not allowing a boy to have a girlfriend in his ...
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| 14 YR Old Daughter | 10/29/2004 |
Q: my daughter is in 9th grade, her 1st High School year. I just got married. It has always just been ...
A: I'm sorry I'm late in responding to your question, but I didn't get it. Anyway, I can sympathize ...
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| I feel so uneducated | 10/11/2004 |
Q: I am not only a parent but a foster parent. I have many hours of training to take care of ...
A: You seem to have too much experience as a parent to be an inadequate parent, so let's rule that out. ...
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| How do I get close to my son again? | 10/1/2004 |
Q: My 17-year-old son has his first love. He is naturally out quite often with her. The problem, ...
A: Throughout adolescence teenagers tend to be pulling away. We just see it more clearly when there are ...
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| Skipping School | 9/27/2004 |
Q: My son is 15 and a honor roll student. Last week he decided it would be fun to skip a couple ...
A: I'm definitely on your side on this one. I think you should forgive him, but not sign the excused ...
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| lazy 20 year old | 9/12/2004 |
Q: Hey Jim.................. This is a tough one. Our 20 year old, EJ, lives with us at home. He did ...
A: Not having faced this personally with my children (thank God), I can't tell you what I would have ...
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| homework | 9/12/2004 |
Q: .................. I'm loooking for your opinion on how involved we should become on our 14 year ...
A: Dozens of research studies say that involved parents are more likely to produce successful students. ...
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| Teenager lacks follow through | 8/25/2004 |
Q: My husband and I would like our 14 year old son to become involved in sports, or some other form of ...
A: I can understand your concern regarding your 14-year-old son. Loyalty and attachment to a group is ...
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| Thanks for advice on 18 yo son | 8/11/2004 |
Q: First, thank you for your prompt reply, for not judging us as parents, and for not suggesting we ...
A: That's the scary part about kicking a kid out; they may not have any place to go. However, usually ...
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| 18 yo son thinks world is a joke | 8/10/2004 |
Q: My son was thrown out of the house last week, and I don't know what to do now. We're a middle-class ...
A: I can see that you've tried many things to help your son be successful. However, he's not taken ...
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| I have a 14 year old daughter... | 8/10/2004 |
Q: I have a 14 year old daughter who is involved with a 14 year old boy, who in our eyes is controlling ...
A: The difficulty in these kinds of situations is that nearly any sensible move you make as a parent is ...
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| 16 year old accused of stealing from employer | 8/6/2004 |
Q: ------------------------- Hello James, Yes, it must have been problems with the site. I only ...
A: It certainly sounds like you're handling this really well. The most important thing is placing the ...
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| teens and first jobs | 8/4/2004 |
Q: My son is 15 and I have tried everything to motivate him into getting a job but he refuses to leave ...
A: Generally, many teenagers are unmotivated to get a job unless there is a reason to do so. That is, ...
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| 16 year old accused of stealing from employer | 8/2/2004 |
Q: We've been having trouble with our 16 year old for some time. Actually we started have big problems ...
A: I've been trying to send you a response for two days, but All.Experts.com was not working properly. ...
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| Daughter | 7/30/2004 |
Q: I'm Dad, and my 14-year-old daughter is on an emotional roller coaster. One minute she wants to ...
A: Welcome to the wonderful, exciting world of parenting teenagers! Seriously, middle teenagers, ...
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| My partners 14 yr old daughter | 7/7/2004 |
Q: "My partner moved 350 miles to be with me and left 2 children. Kelly aged 14 and Gemma aged 10. The ...
A: Sorry to hear about the problem Keith is having with Kelly. It certainly sounds like he did the ...
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| Teen son needs help | 6/19/2004 |
Q: James -- Can you give me some examples that my son can work towards that would help him "earn" back ...
A: There are various ways your son can show he is trustworthy. Even if he is lying, his behavior is ...
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| Teen son needs help | 6/17/2004 |
Q: We've been having "issues" with our son for about six months now. He used to be the model child, ...
A: There's nothing like a teenager to make you start doubting yourself! But hang in there. There's ...
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| Moving/Changing Schools | 6/17/2004 |
Q: I have two teenagers (almost 13 & almost 16). We just moved and the kids are upset and sad. They ...
A: Sorry for the delay in responding. I was out of town for a couple of days. Teenagers, more so ...
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| i have a problem i always... | 6/5/2004 |
Q: i have a problem i always fight with my parents and its realy getting me down. im an only child so i ...
A: I'm sorry to hear that you're so troubled by the arguments with your parents and by your own ...
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| Teen Acting Out? | 5/30/2004 |
Q: Mr. Windell. We have chatted with our son (after having let him spend one night "away from it ...
A: It's not unusual for boys (and men) to go through a crisis rather quickly and then to bury ...
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| Teen Acting Out? | 5/30/2004 |
Q: Help! My 17-year old son has started behaving in a way that we are not familiar with at all. He ...
A: It sounds like you raised your children well and that things have been going well until recently. ...
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| my 13 year old son | 5/29/2004 |
Q: My son who is 13 lately doesn't want to be a part of the family. He spends most of hist time in his ...
A: While it is not unusual for some 13-year-olds to act more like 15 and 16-year-olds, it would seem ...
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| Son working & going to school full-time, living at home | 5/25/2004 |
Q: My 20yo son works a full-time third shift job, and goes to tech school full-time. I am very proud ...
A: It sounds like you've been a very attentive and considerate parent over the years. And, of course, ...
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| Attention to Teen | 5/15/2004 |
| Q: I have a 16 yo Son, who I beleive is on the edge. We are dealing wit |
