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| Subject | Date Asked |
| 12-year-old Grandson going to be incarcerated | 10/29/2011 |
| Q: My grandson, who lives about 500 miles from where I live, has had problems at school and other ... A: Actually, you may rest easy, as this sounds as if he is FINALLY getting the kind of help he really ... | |
| step daughter in trouble | 9/28/2011 |
| Q: I was with my ex for four years, we split a couple months back, her oldest daughter is 17 and is ... A: I'm thankful you care enough about this girl to want her cared for, but I doubt you are the best ... | |
| Overprotective Parents | 8/22/2011 |
| Q: My name is Chloe and I'm turning 16 in three weeks. My problem is that my dad is very judgmental and ... A: I am very sorry your father is so controlling. Parents who are this way usually have issues with ... | |
| MY TEENAGE SON WANTS TO LIVE WITH ME AND HIS MOTHER WILL NOT ALLOW | 6/14/2011 |
| Q: I have a 14 year old son, who will be 15 this November. Currently, My son, his mother and I reside ... A: Instead of writing to me, you need to get a custody lawyer as soon as possible. No "expert" would ... | |
| Teenage daughter | 6/10/2011 |
| Q: My daughter is currently 17. She has decided that we need not to be in her life that she does not ... A: Marcie- At seventeen, children, particularly girls, think they are completely grown up and able to ... | |
| teenagers & step parents | 6/7/2011 |
| Q: I have been married for 5 years, my husband is 10 years older than I am, & my daughter (from a ... A: It has taken me a long time to figure out how to tell you this without infuriating you, Lyn. I guess ... | |
| 15 year old granddaughter | 4/29/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I are raising our teen age granddaughter. We have had her since she was 8. Lots of ... A: Sorry, Grandma, but you need to step up to the plate here. By ignoring her back-talk, you have given ... | |
| My Older brother, please help. | 4/9/2011 |
| Q: Okay, so I'm 15 years old and my brother is 19. We fight a lot, but its not regular verbal fights, ... A: Since your brother is technically an adult, there is little left for your parents but to kick him ... | |
| Teen Son | 3/25/2011 |
| Q: My son turned 15 three months ago. two months ago, his girlfriend, who only turned 15 one and a half ... A: Fiona- Your son is no longer a 15 year-old student. He is a father. He recognizes his ... | |
| Daughter's Dilemma | 3/12/2011 |
| Q: Help! I need advice on how to handle my daughter's situation. She is 18 years old, lives at home ... A: If Charlie Sheen's antics of late haven't been enough to tune her in, I doubt anyone can convince ... | |
| Unwanted? | 3/11/2011 |
| Q: I have emotional problems at home. My parents have no concern for me AT ALL, and only give their ... A: None of this is your fault. Your are being physically (slapping and hair pulling) and emotionally ... | |
| I caught him in the act....Twice! | 2/19/2011 |
| Q: I live quite a distance away from any town. As such, my usual shopping trip takes an average of four ... A: Ah! You're in Australia. That didn't come through in your first letter, and explains the distances ... | |
| I caught him in the act....Twice! | 2/18/2011 |
| Q: I live quite a distance away from any town. As such, my usual shopping trip takes an average of four ... A: Cheryl, dear, your priorities seem a bit topsy-turvy. Getting a girl pregnant would be monumentally ... | |
| son | 2/12/2011 |
| Q: I wanto to ask you ,my son is almoust 17, he bought him a car, we told him he have to be home at ... A: Hmmm, well it sounds as if he's just reached that stage where they realize they are going to be ... | |
| son | 2/12/2011 |
| Q: I wanto to ask you ,my son is almoust 17, he bought him a car, we told him he have to be home at ... A: Even if he bought his own car, you are still his parents, with the responsibility to see that he ... | |
| moving out | 2/12/2011 |
| Q: I was wondering that if i turn 18 before i finish school can i get married and move out without my ... A: Sarah- Are you the same Sarah who recently contacted me? Please don't get married at 18. Your ... | |
| teen mom | 2/4/2011 |
| Q: I am 17 years of age and i just had a baby a month ago. I want to know do i have the right to move ... A: OK, then. You didn't tell me the father was in the picture. This is a whole different matter. You ... | |
| teen mom | 2/3/2011 |
| Q: I am 17 years of age and i just had a baby a month ago. I want to know do i have the right to move ... A: You are only 17, and technically a child under your mothers care, so, yes, you will get into ... | |
| guilt regret | 1/25/2011 |
| Q: i had a accident few years ago in which i lost my left eye..i was 16 back then..before the accident ... A: This one is EASY. It helped me so much, and others, that I recommend it for ANYONE suffering the ... | |
| help with teen som | 12/31/2010 |
| Q: I have a 16 yr old with ODD and he has had some very disappointing and trust abusing issues with ... A: I'm checking my sources to see the best option for your son. Will let you know asap. Hello, Sue- ... | |
| My sons dating | 7/4/2010 |
| Q: My son who will be 17 in 2 weeks wants to see his girlfiend everyday 8 to 10 hours or more each day. ... A: Yes, Laura, you are right. This is w a y too much time together at that age, though if they are ... | |
| boyfriend | 6/29/2010 |
| Q: My 16 year old daughter has her first boyfriend and she is in love. He is also in love with her. ... A: 1) Yes. I'd also point out that she and her husband can't "give permission" for their son to smoke ... | |
| boyfriend | 6/29/2010 |
| Q: My 16 year old daughter has her first boyfriend and she is in love. He is also in love with her. ... A: I'm actually quite relieved to hear this explanation. No kid that age understands consequences until ... | |
| boyfriend | 6/28/2010 |
| Q: My 16 year old daughter has her first boyfriend and she is in love. He is also in love with her. ... A: You are doing ABSOLUTELY the best thing for both of them by allowing them to be close and loving ... | |
| My 6 year old... | 6/7/2010 |
| Q: my 6 year old daughter got in trouble for pushing a boy right before school let out this year. I ... A: What has she been exposed to lately that wasn't an issue before? Has she ever seen a man treat you ... | |
| REPEATED RULE BREAKING | 6/4/2010 |
| Q: My husband & I are a blended family consisting of, in addition to he and I, 4 daughters--his 9 & 11 ... A: If an 11 year-old is wearing make-up, she is under the mistaken belief that it makes her look older. ... | |
| Son's behaviour in school is of concern | 5/30/2010 |
| Q: I'm 45, my wife's 43, and our son is 14. On Tuesday we got a phone call off our son's school ... A: Honestly, I think I'm being played again, which is most upsetting. I have a life, and I do this as a ... | |
| My husband is being a bad influence on my son with his ostentatious behavior | 5/17/2010 |
| Q: I'm 40, my husband's 41, and we have 2 children - a 16-year-old son and a 22-year-old daughter. My ... A: My computer tells me you are in Germany, so I don't see how you can live in Ohio. If this is an ... | |
| My son is sexting and I don't know how to deal with it! | 5/14/2010 |
| Q: This problem concerns me a lot, and I apologise for the length of this. Basic background - I'm a ... A: The council may not do anything about it, but publicly exposing this man as a pedophile might ... | |
| Follow-up to "Son keeps doing a disappearing act"... | 5/13/2010 |
| Q: Kjirstin, thank you for your reply. As regards my son and this girl, they are not in a sexual ... A: Claire, Well, now it's easy. Praise him for his good sense -particularly regarding his waiting for ... | |
| Son keeps doing a disappearing act... | 5/12/2010 |
| Q: I'm 47, and I'm from Ontario in Canada, my husband is 49. He's also from Ontario but his family are ... A: Do you have rules in place specifying that your son can't go across the border without permission? ... | |
| For his 16th he wants to eat at every fast food place in the area | 5/11/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 46-year-old mother-of-one from United Kingdom. In three weeks time my 15-year-old son will ... A: Firstly, I must apologise for not answering you in a timely manner. Your question never arrived in ... | |
| My dad wants me to have a sex-change and I don't... | 5/11/2010 |
| Q: I'm 16, and recently my dad has been pressurising me to have a sex-change. He's been ranting on and ... A: Yes. Your father is a huge bully. Try to ignore him, or call his bluff. Say, "Sure, Dad, let's go do ... | |
| 16 yo son being "pimped" by his mother | 5/10/2010 |
| Q: Recently my son told me that he'd seen strange women coming round to our house offering my ... A: This is a horrible crime and a pox upon humanity, to say nothing about the permanent emotional ... | |
| 13 year old sexting... | 5/9/2010 |
| Q: I have a 13 year old daughter, whom I recently caught texting some boys. Upon further investigation ... A: This is a sensitive and difficult subject, and a tough one for me to answer. There are clear-cut ... | |
| past question | 3/30/2010 |
| Q: my name is Jill a while back I was looking for answers to a problem I was having when I found out my ... A: It sounds like my advice didn't help you. I'm so sorry to hear about your dear daughter. Society ... | |
| Boys in the bedroom | 3/28/2010 |
| Q: My daughter is 18 and a senior in HS. She has a 19 year old very polite boyfriend. Since she ... A: I happen to agree with her step-father. When she moves away, she can make her own choices, but ... | |
| soon to be age 13 daughter | 3/2/2010 |
| Q: .. i need to talk to someone about my daughter. she will be 13 in april.she is in the 6th ... A: Reading this letter transported me instantly back to fifth grade, when the same things happened to ... | |
| My run away Teen..... | 3/2/2010 |
| Q: I am 33 and currently living at my home with my partner with whom I am engaged to. I have three ... A: I'm so sorry you have to go through these difficulties right now. It's the pits! I am, however, very ... | |
| stealing out of control | 2/24/2010 |
| Q: t know if he never takes this serious but the stealing continued i sent him to job corps he just got ... A: Your son is 19 years old, and technically an adult. There is nothing you can do at all now, except ... | |
| 12 year old son | 2/24/2010 |
| Q: Boy, I sure know where you are coming from! Came from the same kind of household and made the same ... A: Sharon- You found me, and it's just as easy to find the sort of group your son needs to feel some ... | |
| stealing | 2/23/2010 |
| Q: I work within a youth group setting amongst girls aged 8-11years, average attendance 22. On several ... A: Nearly everyone is born with a moral compass telling us right from wrong. One out of every 25, ... | |
| My parental rights | 2/22/2010 |
| Q: My name is Brittany I'm from Tacoma, Washington and I'm 17 years old. i have a question about my ... A: Brittany, I'm not certain of the laws in Washington State. You will probably need to call the ... | |
| 20 Year Old Living at Home Pot Smoker | 2/7/2010 |
| Q: We live in a small suburb south of Chicago. Our 20 year old is living at home, has a part time job, ... A: Cecelia, This is a tough one, and one I understand well, as I had ADD my entire life, and didn't ... | |
| Pregnant Daughter & Daughters ExBoyfriend relationship | 2/2/2010 |
| Q: My Daughter has been in a relationship for the last 6 months. The relationship ended when her ... A: You didn't mention your daughter's age, so I am assuming she is over eighteen. This is very ... | |
| My 13 yr old daughter | 12/15/2009 |
| Q: My 13 yr old daughter briana started to become hard to handle at about 11 ,she became very very ... A: After reading the first third of your letter, I was really hoping Briana had a good relationship ... | |
| My daughter got an F in Social Studies | 12/12/2009 |
| Q: Every day I ask my daughter if she has any homework, and she usually says no, so I let her go play ... A: Grounding is so overused by so many parents, and what does it actually have to do with your ... | |
| sexually active child | 12/2/2009 |
| Q: it has been just the two of us for most of her life and I felt that she and I had an pretty open ... A: Oh, Jill, my heart hurts reading your story. You do the best you can, and somehow, something this ... | |
| Reply, to answer | 11/23/2009 |
| Q: Kjirstin, thank you for previous responses, but I still looking for more answers, my son not so bad ... A: So, you and your wife have decided that your son, who is already getting fairly high marks in ... | |
| Advice | 11/19/2009 |
| Q: Please let me know how to handle 13 year old boy who wakes most of the time in a bad mood, do not ... A: You are describing the typical 13 year-old boy now residing in many homes in the USA. At 13, boys ... | |
| i need help with my 15 year old brother | 11/19/2009 |
| Q: 7,and 2. i have a 15 year old brother 'mark' who has just moved in with me 6 months ago. we have ... A: I know the feeling well, as I was in exactly the same place with my younger brother once, when he ... | |
| My teen is asking difficult questions. | 10/12/2009 |
| Q: Violet is 13, and when she got back from school yesterday, she asked me why she doesn't have ... A: This is a tough one. It's actually amazing this conversation has been delayed so long! Is it ... | |
| Processing Issues with my 14 yr.old Son | 9/18/2009 |
| Q: Just to give you a little backround..my son has always been in the public school system and has ... A: Terri- I know what you're going through, and I truly sympathize. It's one of the main reasons I do ... | |
| my 15 yr old daughter | 9/14/2009 |
| Q: My 3 children live with their father 200 miles away from me. I raised them by myself for the most ... A: Girls of fifteen are nowhere near ready for a one-on-one romantic relationship, but since the ... | |
| Problem with 17 year boy | 9/8/2009 |
| Q: We are from India. My 17 yrs boy is very good in academics. He did excellent in his class 10(ICSE) ... A: 1) If you are satisfied at his two days of remorse for his bad behavior, so be it. 2) Perhaps it ... | |
| Problem with 17 year boy | 9/7/2009 |
| Q: We are from India. My 17 yrs boy is very good in academics. He did excellent in his class 10(ICSE) ... A: No matter where you live in the world, the issues are the same, and at surprisingly the same ages. ... | |
| 19 year old step son- | 9/5/2009 |
| Q: How can I get this kid on the right track? He lives with his Dad and I. We go to bed after my ... A: As his step-parent, YOU can do nothing. His father MUST step up to the plate. He is the only person ... | |
| homeless teen | 9/3/2009 |
| Q: My daughter has just found out her boyfriend is being kicked out his home. He is 18, with a GED and ... A: This is a disaster waiting to happen, but I applaud your big heart. Why was he kicked out? You may ... | |
| a teens lost virginity | 7/25/2009 |
| Q: my younger cousin at home has just lost her virginity at the age of 17 and she only confides in me ... A: It is good of you to take an interest in your cousin, and I'm sure she trusts you, or she would not ... | |
| My 14 yr old has lost respect for stepfather | 7/22/2009 |
| Q: My question is I just recently separated from my husband of 9 1/2 yrs. I have been doing alot of ... A: Everyone makes mistakes, and you are right that we all need to learn how to forgive and forget, but ... | |
| I made it | 6/17/2009 |
| Q: Okay I got your responce and it won't let me open it!!!!!!maZie ANSWER: I will cut and paste your ... A: Oh, sweet, sweet Maize. I wish I could hold you like you were small, snuggle you in your favorite ... | |
| Sorry! Sometimes this site has issues... | 6/16/2009 |
| Q: Okay I got your responce and it won't let me open it!!!!!!maZie A: I will cut and paste your question and my answer here, in case this works better. Please try again. ... | |
| help | 6/16/2009 |
| Q: Iam 14 and live in NM,and need help advice or whatever, hope you can.my mom is a addict and never ... A: Mazie, It's really hard to leave someone you love, especially when you know that it is only the ... | |
| I'm resending this, as the site has had some issues. Hope you can open it. | 6/15/2009 |
| Q: son of 15 likes to hang with parents is this normal? A: Fifteen is an age of change. While at 14 a boy is often critical of his parents, especially his ... | |
| dating an older man | 6/9/2009 |
| Q: I'm a seventeen year old female and for the past 6 months have been dating a man who is 12 years ... A: Sorry, Mikaela, I'm with your mom 100% -though not talking is a bit much; I suspect since she can't ... | |
| Temper tantrum | 6/8/2009 |
| Q: I am a mother of 2 boys. My youngest boy is 9 years old, and for the past few months he has been ... A: Lynn- Ouch! This is behavior is usually outgrown by age five at the latest. Boys of nine have a ... | |
| teenage twin sons - problems | 6/8/2009 |
| Q: My situation is complex and I am sorry if it sounds rambling. I will outline in below and since ... A: Franceska, Yes, you have now won the prize for the longest, most rambling letter ever written to ... | |
| 14 year old daughter wants to go live with her father | 6/7/2009 |
| Q: She is 14years old we are a blended family of 7 years my current husband her step, have another son ... A: I am soooooo proud of your efforts not to stand in her way. You know she must do this, and, from ... | |
| stay on | 5/18/2009 |
| Q: keep smoking its good for ye A: The USA has been poisoning people with tobacco since the late 1700's. With all of the indisputable ... | |
| caught my parents in the act | 5/6/2009 |
| Q: am 22 years old boy, 2-3 years back i caught my parents making love in their bed room.. since then ... A: Chintan, I am so sorry you did not contact me sooner. Your suffering could have been eliminated a ... | |
| 18 year old girl depressed after failed relationship. | 5/5/2009 |
| Q: My sister needs some advice. Her 18 year old daughter is emotionally distraught over breaking up ... A: I was exactly like her at that age, and younger. Yes, she could be suicidal. I was. Let her take a ... | |
| Bad Parenting?? | 4/21/2009 |
| Q: I am a 17 year old twin, with a 22 year old sister who is rarely allowed to drive, despite having ... A: Why do I think your siblings think her treatment is normal? Or Why you are afraid of her reaction. ... | |
| 20 year old, my parents wont let go | 4/20/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 20 year old girl going to a local university, living at home, and not working because I get ... A: Yes, it is important if you want to maintain healthy family ties, which I'm certain you do, but no ... | |
| 20 year old, my parents wont let go | 4/20/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 20 year old girl going to a local university, living at home, and not working because I get ... A: Since you are still living at home, you owe your family certain courtesies, such as telling them ... | |
| Unhealthy Friendship? | 4/19/2009 |
| Q: My 18 year old daughter is doing well in many ways - academically excelling, active in ... A: I think you already know that this "unhealthy friendship" may be a Lesbian predator. All of the ... | |
| Teenager Daughters | 4/14/2009 |
| Q: I am a single mom of 3 daughters. My older daughters are 13 and 15. My oldest daughter is currently ... A: Your daughters are way past your control, and you are right in recognizing you can't punish them ... | |
| Parent with Marijuana Use | 4/6/2009 |
| Q: My 14 year old daughter lives with her father. She has been wanting to move with me for over a year ... A: Call your idiot ex and tell him to get rid of the trash or he will find himself in jail where he ... | |
| Suspended 4th time this year | 4/6/2009 |
| Q: after 2 months of his 2nd year as a freshman, my teenage son's principal called to tell us he looked ... A: Since you chose to ignore the first signs, passing off 'hardcore' as wrestling instead of porn, and ... | |
| Bad Parenting?? | 4/5/2009 |
| Q: I am a 17 year old twin, with a 22 year old sister who is rarely allowed to drive, despite having ... A: Many teens are faced with this type of parenting, but no, it is neither normal nor right. It shows ... | |
| my 16 year old daughter | 3/30/2009 |
| Q: My daughter has been with her boyfriend now for about 6 months. He gets into some trouble at school ... A: This is a really difficult one, and I'm wondering if you could get together with his mother and have ... | |
| 14 year old with processing disorder | 3/26/2009 |
| Q: My son has a processing disorder, he was diagnosed last year or the year before. He can receive ... A: Deb- If you can afford it, a laptop is a great idea (maybe you can also get insurance for loss?) ... | |
| 14 year old with processing disorder | 3/13/2009 |
| Q: My son has a processing disorder, he was diagnosed last year or the year before. He can receive ... A: OMGosh!!! Your son sounds just like me! And I'm 55 years old! Maybe I don't have ADD, but a ... | |
| Homeschooled and Grounded | 3/9/2009 |
| Q: I am a 17 home schooler. I have been grounded for the last month because I failed to turn in my ... A: I'm very glad to hear someone writing to this site has parents who care enough about them to set ... | |
| 16 yr old daughter | 3/8/2009 |
| Q: How do I motivate my 16 yr old daughter? she really could care less about getting her drivers ... A: Children have trouble following rules not given by their biological parents, therefore, you and your ... | |
| My brother lies a lot. | 3/8/2009 |
| Q: My brother lies a lot. My mom is not okay about but whatever she does he is not stopping. My dad ... A: Your brother needs to go to a psychologist or a child psychiatrist right away. This sort of behavior ... | |
| 16 yr old daughter | 3/6/2009 |
| Q: How do I motivate my 16 yr old daughter? she really could care less about getting her drivers ... A: You're the father, right? Have you made any house rules? Have you taught her what you expect since ... | |
| a pregnant teen, and in MAJOR need of assistance! | 3/3/2009 |
| Q: I am a girl, age 14 soon to be 15, and have been sneaking off and dating a 19 year old after my mom ... A: Hopefully, Nikki, by now you will have started your period and will be better able to access your ... | |
| Verbal abuse | 3/2/2009 |
| Q: I believe that my teenage daughter's boyfriend is seriously verbally abused by his father. I don't ... A: Verbal abusive is longer lasting and more destructive than physical abuse. I think your idea of ... | |
| Teen Daughter Sex and Maybe Harm to self. | 2/28/2009 |
| Q: My daughter is 17 will be 18 in one month. We have always talked about how sex is not something to ... A: I am sorry for your disappointment and problems, but you need to pull together right now. You have ... | |
| Sneaking out to see a girl | 2/28/2009 |
| Q: Last November my friend brought me over to his buddy's house, where I met his daughter Madison. I am ... A: John- Anyone who "encourages sexual activity" for a girl of fourteen is a complete moron. You ... | |
| Sneaking out to see a girl | 2/27/2009 |
| Q: Last November my friend brought me over to his buddy's house, where I met his daughter Madison. I am ... A: There are a lot more people to be afraid about here than her father, I'll tell you that for sure. ... | |
| there is no getting through to my parents | 2/25/2009 |
| Q: they saw me making out with my girlfriend, i told them that i do not want to have sex and that it ... A: OK, Kenny, you are smarter than most people, and you know God, so why are you making out? Go ... | |
| Teen Stepdaughter | 2/24/2009 |
| Q: I have a 16 yr old teen step-daughter. She wants to live with her Dad very badly. He's not a very ... A: Your wife needs to put herself in her daughters place and answer, knowing what she knows, if she ... | |
| sister stress | 2/24/2009 |
| Q: am 26yrs old& have an 18 yr old sister that i takecare of.she helps look after my son when am at ... A: If she is living with you, YOU make the rules, and she follows them, or she is out on her backside. ... | |
| teen sex. | 2/22/2009 |
| Q: My daughter has just come out and told me that she has been having sex. i had no reaction other than ... A: I feel for you both. You, because you thought she was learning what you wanted to teach her, and ... | |
| 18 Year Old Daughter | 2/20/2009 |
| Q: My daughter is an 18 year old freshman in college. She is introverted but sociable- she had a good ... A: My daughter didn't have her first kiss until she was 22. She was very driven in her career, and was ... | |
| there is no getting through to my parents | 2/18/2009 |
| Q: they saw me making out with my girlfriend, i told them that i do not want to have sex and that it ... A: Kenny, how old are you, and how old is your girlfriend? If you don't think about sex when you are ... | |
| my 11 yr old daughter staying out late???? | 2/14/2009 |
| Q: I HAVE 6 CHILDREN AND MY OLDEST WHICH IS 11 IS A PRETTY GOOD KID SHE DOESNT TALK BACK AND DOES ... A: Rebecca- An eleven-year-old girl has no business prowling the streets at night even in a good ... | |
| 19 year old dating wrong boy | 2/14/2009 |
| Q: My 19 year old is in first year of college, dating a 18 boy who dropped out of high school (he can't ... A: First of all, stop fighting about the relationship. Just drop it. Next, cut off the money. All of ... | |
| teen daughter and sex | 2/9/2009 |
| Q: I live in Canada. I am the step mom of a 17 y.o girl in her last year of high school. I have been ... A: If it were my step child, I would give evidence to a judge and gain full custody. It is obvious her ... | |
| 15yo son | 2/9/2009 |
| Q: i caught my 15yo son peeping on me when i'm showering or changing my clothes in my room, but it's ... A: This one is very difficult, and I cannot stress enough your need for professional help. If you can't ... | |
| 7 year old son | 2/4/2009 |
| Q: My son, who is 8 now, just informed me last night that when he was 7, while lying in bed with his ... A: What you MOST need to do is thank your son for being wise enough to share this very private moment ... | |
| How to handle my teenage Brother ? | 2/1/2009 |
| Q: . my name is Anna am 19 years old i have 2 brothers one is 22 and the other is 15...my older brother ... A: You need to hold a family counsel with ALL of you at the same table. There must be SOME time when ... | |
| teen pregnacy | 1/29/2009 |
| Q: my girlfriend is 15 and thinks shes pregnant and wants to get a blood test done to be sure. Can she ... A: You can buy a urine test kit at the dollar store, and nobody will ever know. Blood tests must be ... | |
| Question. | 1/28/2009 |
| Q: Okay but what if I was molested or raped when I was little,does that mean that I am not a virgin? ... A: It may not have been your parents. Did you ever consider that possibility? What is wrong with you ... | |
| 13 yr old daughter wants out of her mothers custody to live in her fathers home | 1/28/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together since 2001 and were married in 2004. I have three daughters from ... A: This is the sort of problem only legal counsel can solve. You need to hire a good family practice ... | |
| Question. | 1/28/2009 |
| Q: Okay but what if I was molested or raped when I was little,does that mean that I am not a virgin? ... A: There are many and varied symptoms of molestation. I suggest you type, "symptoms child molestation" ... | |
| Question. | 1/28/2009 |
| Q: Okay but what if I was molested or raped when I was little,does that mean that I am not a virgin? A: A rape is not your fault, ever. As far as God and the law go, you are still a virgin after a rape, ... | |
| Virginity? | 1/26/2009 |
| Q: If I was to finger myself and break the hymen then I am no longer a virgin? I wanted to stay a ... A: Will you PLEASE call your psychiatrist? If you are suicidal, I cannot help you. You have never been ... | |
| Virginity? | 1/26/2009 |
| Q: If I was to finger myself and break the hymen then I am no longer a virgin? I wanted to stay a ... A: If you follow all the steps of repentance, and forsake what you have been doing, you will be ... | |
| Virginity? | 1/26/2009 |
| Q: If I was to finger myself and break the hymen then I am no longer a virgin? I wanted to stay a ... A: You STILL don't seem to get it, CGLLR. It is your INTENT that makes you a virgin. If your fingers ... | |
| Purging. | 1/25/2009 |
| Q: So is purging really bad? ANSWER: Absolutely. Look it up online. Some girls who are too lazy to ... A: Different religions have different perceptions, but after years of seeing people with problems, I ... | |
| Purging. | 1/24/2009 |
| Q: So is purging really bad? ANSWER: Absolutely. Look it up online. Some girls who are too lazy to ... A: Your physical virginity remains intact as long as your hymen is intact. Your spiritual and ... | |
| MOTHER! | 1/23/2009 |
| Q: SO i am 15, almost 16 and my mother is absolutly set on me not being able to date. Many of my ... A: One day you will get down on your knees to thank your Heavenly Father that you had a mother with ... | |
| Purging. | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: So is purging really bad? A: Absolutely. Look it up online. Some girls who are too lazy to diet and exercise seem to think it's ... | |
| Molestation. | 1/20/2009 |
| Q: Well my mom is nice though.I don't want to think that they did something to me and if they did it ... A: CGLLR- Were you able to talk to your school guidance counselor or other adult about what can be ... | |
| Molestation. | 1/20/2009 |
| Q: Well my mom is nice though.I don't want to think that they did something to me and if they did it ... A: It is a very difficult addiction to break, but you are young, and intelligent enough to figure out ... | |
| Molestation. | 1/20/2009 |
| Q: Well my mom is nice though.I don't want to think that they did something to me and if they did it ... A: Don't worry. I can't turn them in. I don't even know your name or the state where you live. Blame ... | |
| Am I straight or not? | 1/19/2009 |
| Q: I'm 13.I'm a girl.I don't know if I am attracted to girls.I couldn't really imagine being in a ... A: Yes. From your very first letter to me I thought you had probably been molested. Why? Because ... | |
| Am I straight or not? | 1/19/2009 |
| Q: I'm 13.I'm a girl.I don't know if I am attracted to girls.I couldn't really imagine being in a ... A: I know you're smart. I can tell from your writing. Believe me, a lot of 18 year-olds and even a few ... | |
| Am I straight or not? | 1/19/2009 |
| Q: I'm 13.I'm a girl.I don't know if I am attracted to girls.I couldn't really imagine being in a ... A: Congratulations. You are a normal, hormonal 13 year-old girl. Movies, TV, and advertisers have ... | |
| parental/teen nudity at home | 1/18/2009 |
| Q: I've read some responses to this question, but I wish to get more specific. My teenage daughter ... A: Since you didn't ask this question of me directly, it has just been sitting here, and I don't know ... | |
| teen sex | 1/17/2009 |
| Q: I recently found out my daughter was having sex. She then realized she regretted it, and is always ... A: First you must determine how "gloomy" is gloomy? If she is sinking into a state of depression, you ... | |
| teenage boys | 1/11/2009 |
| Q: I am hoping you can help me with this situation. I am a mother to four wonderful boys. (16,12,8,and ... A: Amanda- Since this was in the pool and not addressed to me directly, I didn't see the question ... | |
| dealing with my 11 year old | 1/5/2009 |
| Q: My 11 year old son is very disrespectful to me. My wife and I have different methods of ... A: Where 11 year-old boys are concerned, you and your wife MUST be on the same page. It is critical to ... | |
| emotional terrorism | 1/5/2009 |
| Q: I am sixteen years old, and ever since I was around eight maybe, my mother and me have never seemed ... A: I wish there was a law for emotional terrorism, Chelsea. What I really wish is that I could write ... | |
| 15-year old daughter lying about parents | 1/3/2009 |
| Q: ok, where to start... I chose you because of your compassionate, yet biblical answers to others. I ... A: My heart goes out to you in your struggles, and I will add your family to my prayers. You are right. ... | |
| honesty/xmas | 12/21/2008 |
| Q: We have been lied to by our teens. With Christmas 4 days away, do we still give them gifts? One (13) ... A: John-- This is a tough one, and I don't quite know what to answer. Do your children feel loved? ... | |
| troubled teen | 12/4/2008 |
| Q: My daughter who turned 18 in August was doing fine until the beginning of her senior year (2007). ... A: Stephanie. I don't often know what happens, and I always wonder. Since you were on your own at 18, ... | |
| 17 vs 14 | 12/2/2008 |
| Q: My friend who is 17 is thinking about dating a 14 yr old boy and is not interested in sexual ... A: NO 14 year-old boy is ready for a serious relationship. She could permanently damage him, leave him ... | |
| What should mother do if her 10 year old will get her ears pierced with her father | 11/23/2008 |
| Q: What should mother do if her 10 year old daughter wants to get her ears pierced so she will have ... A: Once again, Ma'am-- IF he is giving you a chance to VETO it, PLEASE have the guts to stand up for ... | |
| What should mother do if her 10 year old daughter will get her ears pierced with her father | 11/23/2008 |
| Q: What should mother do if her 10 year old daughter wants to get her ears pierced so she will have ... A: Ma'am, I have answered this question for you several times, and you have chosen to ignore my advise. ... | |
| What should a mother do if her little girl wants to sleep with her father? | 11/23/2008 |
| Q: What should a mother do if her little girl even when she is 10 or 14 years or 16 old wants to sleep ... A: After the age of five, a child of the opposite sex must NEVER, EVER sleep in the same bed with her ... | |
| 18 year old daughter wont even talk to me after moving out during her Senior year in High School | 11/23/2008 |
| Q: My daughter turned 18 and 5 days later without a job and still in high school moved to a persons ... A: This is really bad, Buffie, and I don't know what to advise. She is 18, and technically an adult in ... | |
| 19 yr old living at home | 11/18/2008 |
| Q: This might be long. We have a 19 yr old son who graduated last June. He is not sure what he wants ... A: This is a typical behavior pattern of someone who regularly uses pot, so I wouldn't be so certain he ... | |
| My mom. | 11/13/2008 |
| Q: My name is Kathleen and I am 15. I'm sexually active and want to get the HPV vaccine. The only ... A: Kathleen, TV, music and movies give teens today the wrong idea about relationships. Girlfriends who ... | |
| My 18 year old daughter | 11/12/2008 |
| Q: I have a daughter who I have raised alone for 18 years. Her father is an alcoholic and has not been ... A: I know it's awful. I went through it myself. I married the creep, but was thankfully shown the light ... | |
| My 18 year old daughter | 11/11/2008 |
| Q: I have a daughter who I have raised alone for 18 years. Her father is an alcoholic and has not been ... A: Susan-- Children, particularly girls, have a distorted sense of reality regarding their fathers. ... | |
| Is this normal | 11/9/2008 |
| Q: What would be the best option for a mother to take A or B? A Do you rather have a child/teenage girl ... A: Children WANT to be told what to do; that way, they can tell their friends, "Yeah, I really WANTED ... | |
| Is this normal | 11/9/2008 |
| Q: What would be the best option for a mother to take A or B? A Do you rather have a child/teenage girl ... A: Absolutely not. In my opinion, which is all I have, if you take part in any way, it is the same as ... | |
| Is this normal | 11/9/2008 |
| Q: What would be the best option for a mother to take A or B? A Do you rather have a child/teenage girl ... A: I see you have come to me for a second opinion, David, and I'm curious. If you are actually David ... | |
| MY SON HAS STOLEN AGAIN.... | 10/17/2008 |
| Q: Well just got a phone call from his taekwondo instructor and it seems that my son decided to steal ... A: Deb- I'm very glad to hear you are holding him accountable for his actions, and insisting upon ... | |
| my teenage is out of control | 10/15/2008 |
| Q: My son just turned 13 but he's getting suspened from school for the five years. He assaulted a ... A: Okay, good. You still have a chance. You and your husband MUST present a united front. Decide ... | |
| GRADES | 10/8/2008 |
| Q: Oh, I am lost! My daughter will not be consistent in her school work or grades. I have taken ... A: Remembering is a cognitive function signaling to me that something may be wrong with her medically. ... | |
| 3 difficult teens | 9/30/2008 |
| Q: I have a 20 year old son, who for the past two years hasn't;t been able to hold onto a job. Right ... A: Your 20 year-old has been an adult for two years. You own him nothing. Kick him out. It's the only ... | |
| Daughter confusing me | 9/23/2008 |
| Q: My 15 year old has brought up the topic of lesbianism several times. She was approached by an older ... A: I am sorry to hear about your older child, and hope he/she will have a speedy and complete recovery. ... | |
| defacs | 9/6/2008 |
| Q: what does defacs look for when they come into your home?i have had a couple restricted threatening ... A: You need to google DEFACS to discover the answer to this question. I did, and it seems to be the ... | |
| my granddaughter | 8/30/2008 |
| Q: my granddaughter,whom i'm gaurdian to,will soon turn 12 yrs old. she's often on her own for ... A: Joan- I've answered questions like this before, if you will just search my past files, but, long ... | |
| Twenty year old daughter - a train wreck | 8/25/2008 |
| Q: My adopted twenty year old daughter has been a mess since turning that magic age of eighteen. Prior ... A: You are absolutely right. You must stop ALL financial support for her. (If you can keep her medical ... | |
| Sucking Off Multiple Boys | 8/24/2008 |
| Q: I'm a 42 year old single mother and I'm concerned about my 16 year old daughter. My daughter's told ... A: This is about as sick and wrong as life can get. I really don't know what to tell you, Leslie. By ... | |
| I AM 15 AND DATING A 17 YEAR OLD. BUT HE WILL BE 18 SOON. | 8/21/2008 |
| Q: I AM DATING A 17 YEAR OLD BUT HE WILL BE 18 SOON. WILL WE HAVE TO STOP SEEING EACH OTHER WHEN HE ... A: Natalie, if you have to ask, you are OBVIOUSLY too young to be dating. If you mean dating in the ... | |
| Out of Control 18 year old | 8/10/2008 |
| Q: My cousin "J" is 18 years old. He lives at home, just graduated highschool and doesn't have a job. ... A: They are too late to get him help. That needed to happen before he became an adult, when the state ... | |
| 16 year old daughter | 8/8/2008 |
| Q: My 16 year old daughter is stealing cigarettes from my wife and I. This is not the first time that ... A: Good. Thanks for the clarification. The only trouble may be in getting your daughter to mind her ... | |
| 16 year old daughter | 8/8/2008 |
| Q: My 16 year old daughter is stealing cigarettes from my wife and I. This is not the first time that ... A: Did you ever talk to your ex-wife or daughter about the reasons she was dropped on your doorstep? ... | |
| Mom's nuts | 8/2/2008 |
| Q: Okay, so I am an 18 year old girl. I will be a sophomore in college. I didn't do that well my first ... A: No family is untouched by dysfunction, so you can at least know that both you and your mother are ... | |
| Age difference | 7/9/2008 |
| Q: I am a sophomore in high school and I have had a crush on this girl who lives in my neighborhood. ... A: Excuse me, Adam? Are you seriously thinking that a one year age difference would mean someone would ... | |
| 17 year old daughter | 7/7/2008 |
| Q: My daughter who is 17 comes from divorced parents, whom both remarried ... A: Kay- Crohn's Disease and Depression are not easy illnesses to have when you are this age, and yes, ... | |
| caught red handed | 7/7/2008 |
| Q: I'm 17. Last night, around 12a.m. I was ready for bed, when I heard noises coming from my parents' ... A: Melody- First of all, your parents should have locked their door. We have a 17 year-old son ... | |
| my boyfriend | 7/5/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend has been on punishment for almost a month he is able to go outside and play basketball ... A: Aija- If it's any consolation at all, sometimes these friends remain in our lives as good friends ... | |
| my boyfriend | 7/4/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend has been on punishment for almost a month he is able to go outside and play basketball ... A: I took an hour and a half to answer your question, and then lightning struck a transformer outside, ... | |
| 14 yr. old boy sneaks out to girls house | 7/3/2008 |
| Q: I have been raising children for 33 years. I raised my step daughter since she was 2,she is now ... A: I applaud everything you have done, and express sorrow over the loss of your son. I, too, lost a ... | |
| 19 yr old son & marijuana | 6/28/2008 |
| Q: My son started smoking marijuana in about the 11th grade I believe. He is now 19, we barely got ... A: Of course he won't listen to you. You're old. You can't understand. Besides, you're no longer ... | |
| 16 year old son | 6/25/2008 |
| Q: My son is 16 yrs. old.What can I do to motivate my son to be more active over the summer. I wanted ... A: Your question is one 80% of parents of teen boys are asking every day while they tear out their own ... | |
| parenting | 5/31/2008 |
| Q: ...I was wondering if you knew or how to find out what the minimun age that a child can be left ... A: Shannon-- It's refreshing to know caring parents still exist in this country. Where I live in the ... | |
| daughter and boyfriend | 5/30/2008 |
| Q: My daughter has had a boyfriend for four months. All they have done in the last two months is fight ... A: Tammy-- I don't know if anything I can say will help you, but I can hope. No girl this young is ... | |
| my teen daughter | 4/28/2008 |
| Q: My daughter is now 17. She started talking to this boy that i have known his family for my whole ... A: Angie- Technically, if she lives in the USA she is still a minor child and under your control. You ... | |
| baby | 4/25/2008 |
| Q: my two year old daughter try to put her hands in private area and sometimes she do this without me ... A: Neenu-- A child of two will often do this because it feels good, particularly if they are being ... | |
| teen school choice | 4/17/2008 |
| Q: Can I force my teen to go to a school of my choice? My teen is a "troubled teen" who has had many ... A: Many parents, in their rush to ensure their offspring like them, forget to teach these children from ... | |
| teen school choice | 4/16/2008 |
| Q: Can I force my teen to go to a school of my choice? My teen is a "troubled teen" who has had many ... A: I'm really surprised with your great understanding of these programs that you are not already well ... | |
| My Boyfriend and I | 4/5/2008 |
| Q: Once emancipated where can he go? He works 2 jobs and we know he will get emancipated but i don't ... A: You haven't given me much to go on, since I've never had a question from you before, Ashley, but ... | |
| CHANGE | 4/3/2008 |
| Q: I was wondering would you please tell me: what does it mean by when your parents say "we didn't ... A: Cameron- Chances are you are not the oldest child. Parents usually teach their children what they ... | |
| teen stealing | 3/29/2008 |
| Q: I have a daughter that is 18 and still in high school. She will graduate in June. She has had a ... A: Tammy-- Well, let's see...if she were a juvenile, you could send her to juvenile hall, where she ... | |
| Teen pregancy (questions) | 3/17/2008 |
| Q: My name is Ronnie and as you can tell by the title I have questions about teen pregnancy. First let ... A: I don't know if I can help, but I will try my best. My first is a question to you, and I want you ... | |
| teen daughter | 3/11/2008 |
| Q: My 14 year old daughter has for months been asking to live with her dad full-time (versus part-time ... A: Dina- Your child is at risk if she is doing these things. If your husband is allowing her to do it, ... | |
| consequenses | 3/10/2008 |
| Q: http://en.allexperts.com/q/Parenting-Teens-863/2008/1/15-year-old-son-2.htm read conclusion and ... A: Money? Are you seriously saying this issue is over money? If you have a child who breaks things, ... | |
| consequenses | 3/10/2008 |
| Q: http://en.allexperts.com/q/Parenting-Teens-863/2008/1/15-year-old-son-2.htm read conclusion and ... A: You can't back down. You have to hold your ground and be firm. If he harms you or destroys anything ... | |
| boys and reading | 2/26/2008 |
| Q: Hey! i have an 11 year old stepson that has difficulty with homework and behavior at school. my ... A: Does your husband order him to read, or does he pull out a book of his own and join him on the ... | |
| Dave's games | 2/23/2008 |
| Q: Kjirstin, I just finished reading your answer to Noah dated 8/26/07 I am the Dave of ... A: Dave- Your games are terrific, and bring back a sense of self, interacting physically with others ... | |
| lesbian stepmother | 2/22/2008 |
| Q: me and my partner have been together for 6 years and my daughter 13 - adores her - but just the past ... A: Christine. I hope I can, if not help, at least be of some comfort. Thirteen is an awful age. One ... | |
| What to do when you've had enough. | 2/20/2008 |
| Q: my name is Hannah and I am 13 years old. I live in Idaho and for years now I've been having trouble ... A: Isn't it simply amazing how brilliant one is at the tender age of thirteen? How you have the ... | |
| Teen daughter and Her Boyfriend | 2/13/2008 |
| Q: Lately, I am having trouble dealing with my daughter. All she seems to care about is her boyfriend. ... A: Stephanie. I'm glad to see you have a supportive, intelligent husband. (Anyone who agrees with me is ... | |
| Teen daughter and Her Boyfriend | 2/12/2008 |
| Q: Lately, I am having trouble dealing with my daughter. All she seems to care about is her boyfriend. ... A: Do you remember being sixteen? Life was just what we'd acted out with our Barbie dolls when we were ... | |
| Pressing Charges? | 2/8/2008 |
| Q: I am currently 17 years of age, and I live with my dad and step-mom. I have a male friend over at my ... A: Press charges? For what? Speaking with his little girl? Holding her hand? The court system is ... | |
| 19yr old stay at home college student | 2/4/2008 |
| Q: I have a 19 year old daughter attending her first year of college this year. The college she ... A: Teri- This is a very convenient arrangement for your daughter, and she needs to appreciate your ... | |
| Teenage Son | 1/28/2008 |
| Q: I have a 17 year old - which for the most part is a good kid. However, he has such a nasty attitude ... A: In this "job" I have chosen for myself, I see an endless parade of spoiled, nasty children with ... | |
| 19-year old son | 1/22/2008 |
| Q: I have a 19-year old and I am a single mom. He attended one year of college after high school and ... A: In cases of divorce where the mother becomes the custodial parent, the oldest son usually becomes ... | |
| 15 YO Daughter | 1/22/2008 |
| Q: I have a somewhat withdrawn, Intelligent daughter with a filth-mouth. She posts hideous, disturbing ... A: Actions are much louder than words. Your daughter may have anger issues and poor self esteem. Close ... | |
| My 15 year old son | 1/6/2008 |
| Q: My 15 year old son and I have had a wonderful relationship until presently. He has begun back ... A: Karen- Well, let's see...the easy answer to that question is on page 73 of "How to Raise 15 ... | |
| i want to have a baby | 12/7/2007 |
| Q: im 14 and i want to have a baby. i am adopted. my birth parents were my age when they had me. i know ... A: Virginia, I'm sure your therapist knew you were sincere, because you are probably not the only case ... | |
| i want to have a baby | 12/6/2007 |
| Q: im 14 and i want to have a baby. i am adopted. my birth parents were my age when they had me. i know ... A: Most girls your age feel the very same way; it's why they make caring babysitters, and, later, ... | |
| 16 yr old daughter smoking pot at the house | 12/5/2007 |
| Q: I have a 16 yr old daughter whom I busted smoking pot in my house today while going home for lunch. ... A: I know. I've never been that harsh with anyone. As soon as I hit the send button I thought better of ... | |
| 19-year old son | 12/4/2007 |
| Q: I have a 19-year old and I am a single mom. He attended one year of college after high school and ... A: A time out? A time out for a 19 year old man? Can you hear yourself? You tell him you are his ... | |
| 16 yr old daughter smoking pot at the house | 12/4/2007 |
| Q: I have a 16 yr old daughter whom I busted smoking pot in my house today while going home for lunch. ... A: Why are you making excuses and feeling guilty, Michelle? She is sixteen years old and in YOUR care. ... | |
| 13 year old daughter refuses to visit her dad | 12/4/2007 |
| Q: I have been separated for 3 1/2 years. My ex lives with his girlfriend of the same time frame. ... A: So, after 3 1/2 years you are still not divorced, only separated? Why? Hmmmmmm. This would be ... | |
| 19-year old son | 12/3/2007 |
| Q: I have a 19-year old and I am a single mom. He attended one year of college after high school and ... A: You know, it's very interesting. This is my second letter today on virtually the same topic. Boys ... | |
| im not a parent, but i need help. | 11/28/2007 |
| Q: Ok, so to start off I'm 17 going to be 18 in April, my boyfriend is 18. My mom is starting to have a ... A: It's hard for me to 'read between the lines' on letters that are only a paragraph or two long. I ... | |
| im not a parent, but i need help. | 11/27/2007 |
| Q: Ok, so to start off I'm 17 going to be 18 in April, my boyfriend is 18. My mom is starting to have a ... A: I help more teens than their parents, so no worries. ;) I've thought about your question all day, ... | |
| my 9 year old son | 11/26/2007 |
| Q: my child gives me problems when it comes to doing homework. we try and try to talk to him and help ... A: Well, in the first place, you're doing everything the opposite of what you need to do to get a ... | |
| teen pregnancy in georgia | 11/26/2007 |
| Q: ok my friend is trying to get out of her house and her and her b/f think that the ony way she can do ... A: Mandy- You didn't say how old your friend is, but I can tell she is obviously under the age of 21 ... | |
| 5 year old boy unaccatpable behaviour | 11/22/2007 |
| Q: HELP.....My 5 1/2 year old son started a behavior when he was about 4 years old lifting up his shirt ... A: Sorry, Carole, but he needs intervention with a professional as soon as possible. A psychiatrist ... | |
| Irresponsible 19 yr old | 11/11/2007 |
| Q: My son graduated in June of this year and his plan was to leave for the Air Force on 13 November. ... A: It sounds as if he does not want to join the Air Force and is using weight as an excuse, and even ... | |
| Divorced,dead beat dad manipulates son to go live with him | 11/10/2007 |
| Q: My ex husband was not a part of our lives for years until my son was an awesome sports athlete. He ... A: Yes. Forgive them both and move on with your own life. Your son is 18 and in our society, this ... | |
| Teen parental rights | 11/9/2007 |
| Q: My name is Jenn and I have a question for my brother. He is 17 (he will be 18 1 month before the ... A: Every area has different laws. I get questions from all around the world, but assuming you are in ... | |
| Teen parental rights | 11/9/2007 |
| Q: My name is Jenn and I have a question for my brother. He is 17 (he will be 18 1 month before the ... A: Does marriage enter into this scenario at all? Does he have an income? Will he finish college? I ... | |
| brother causing havoc | 10/23/2007 |
| Q: Im 21 am working and am only home at the weekends as r my 2 sisters , my father died three years ago ... A: Children bond most with their same-sex parent, and losing his father at the age of eleven would have ... | |
| My Teenage Son | 10/22/2007 |
| Q: My 14 year old son just recently found a box of Trojans Condems, and he has been experimenting with ... A: Kevin- You know, this is one of the problems for the age in which we live. In our day, this would ... | |
| Partenting Adolescents | 10/17/2007 |
| Q: I have a rather unusual question that I will like to have your comments on if possible. If a ... A: You bet, Kenneth, and thanks for asking. I enjoy challenging questions. Actually, this sort of ... | |
| Partenting Adolescents | 10/17/2007 |
| Q: I have a rather unusual question that I will like to have your comments on if possible. If a ... A: Kenneth- There are absolutely severe psychological problems, to say nothing of the position in ... | |
| MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS 2 | 10/12/2007 |
| Q: I was wondering would you please tell me why some parents concerned about what everybody else does ... A: Well, Dad's usually work all day and miss out on a lot of the things going on at home. They need to ... | |
| MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS | 10/11/2007 |
| Q: I was wondering would you please tell me why some parents concerned about what everybody else does ... A: You asked an interesting question, Cameron, and I'm happy to answer it for you. In the first ... | |
| help! | 10/4/2007 |
| Q: i am 15 years old and have recently found out that i was pregnant. the father and i want to move in ... A: So, what you are saying is that your prospective husband has graduated from college, has a full-time ... | |
| lifestyle change | 10/3/2007 |
| Q: i have 2 children who have grown up in a inviroment with an alcoholic father and abuse i've moved ... A: My dear, sweet, wonderful Misty. I wish I could give you a HUGE hug and the biggest thank-you ... | |
| Help!! With GCSE - How to act as a rebellious teenager. | 10/2/2007 |
| Q: I am in my last year of school, and have to do a devised play about domestic abuse / death / ... A: This is interesting...I have a daughter who is an actor, so I'm used to this...unfortunately for ... | |
| Teen Drinking and Punishment | 8/31/2007 |
| Q: My 15 yr. old son decided to experiment with alcohol along with 3 of his best friends, got drunk and ... A: Barbara-- So, is it your contention that going to the hospital was enough of a lesson, and he will ... | |
| possesions | 8/26/2007 |
| Q: my parents took away my 2 gameboy SPs and my DS,all for no reason.I am a model student,I'm ... A: Well, Noah, you will just have to ask them. There is no way for me to know the answer to that ... | |
| possesions | 8/25/2007 |
| Q: my parents took away my 2 gameboy SPs and my DS,all for no reason.I am a model student,I'm ... A: Noah- If there was really 'no reason' then I suspect they did it to help you. Many boys today ... | |
| My oldest son | 8/16/2007 |
| Q: Where do I begin...... My oldest son just barely graduated from High School. Just barely. He was ... A: The good news is, he's still going to church. What made him angry? Do you have any idea? Were you ... | |
| teen sometimes disrespectful to siblings | 8/15/2007 |
| Q: I am a mother of 3 children. boy 8, girl 12, boy 15. I also was brought up in an alcoholic family, ... A: A boy of fifteen needs space when he can get it, and also time with the man in his life. I would ... | |
| Overwight son is not ready to listen anything! | 8/12/2007 |
| Q: Please help me out with this problem. I am 47 years old mother of two sons aged 22 and 14.my big ... A: Not to worry, Mom. You are doing a good job, and trying to do what is best. The thing about boys ... | |
| i dont understand | 7/28/2007 |
| Q: i am 15 and i dont understand my mom. i have never done anything bad or illegal and i do respect my ... A: Huey; thanks for writing. Sorry I'm late to answer, I've been at a conference all day and must ... | |
| 12-year old son | 7/19/2007 |
| Q: I recently separated from my husband (April 2007) and have a 12-year old son. My husband was not my ... A: It is completely normal for your son to act this way, even if your husband were still in the ... | |
| Teen daughters | 7/15/2007 |
| Q: I have six children. my oldest two were not disrespectful or rude to me at all. They did as they ... A: Sheila-- I sympathize with you, dear. I had much the same thing happen in my own life. I have a ... | |
| my daughter lies and steals | 7/4/2007 |
| Q: i have a thirteen year old daughter who i brought up as a single parent, and only recently about 5 ... A: This is a pickle. Immediate action must be taken for her sake as well as your own. The two of ... | |
| DO WHAT AS I SAY 3 | 6/25/2007 |
| Q: A long time ago my dad always told me to get all my important things done first then I'll have time ... A: Many people have their own ways of doing things, even simple things, like the way towels are folded ... | |
| DO WHAT AS I SAY 2 | 6/23/2007 |
| Q: A long time ago my dad always told me to get all my important things done first then I'll have time ... A: Cameron- This kind of question is about the same one as last time. We parents expect instant ... | |
| DO WHAT AS I SAY | 6/19/2007 |
| Q: A long time ago my dad always told me to get all my important things done first then I'll have time ... A: Oh, Cameron, I'm a prime example of that one myself! I try to do that, and teach my children to, ... | |
| Sexually active teen | 6/16/2007 |
| Q: Here's another one...I just found out she's having sex at 16..boyfriend is 15. Besides keeping them ... A: This is a tough one. Once children become sexually active, it is nearly impossible to go back up ... | |
| Clingy Teenager | 6/9/2007 |
| Q: My wife and I are concerned about our 14 year old son. He's very affectionate with us, but we think ... A: Richard, I'm curious about how many other children you have raised, and if you would be asking me ... | |
| possessions | 4/12/2007 |
| Q: This may be too broad, and if it is, please let me know. What rights do parents have in regards to ... A: First off, the scenario (and thanks for filling me in on it). If you had been my son, I would first ... | |
| possessions | 4/11/2007 |
| Q: This may be too broad, and if it is, please let me know. What rights do parents have in regards to ... A: The fast and easy answer is that until you are 18, your parents are in charge of absolutely ... | |
| 12 year old son turned girl crazy | 1/5/2007 |
| Q: My son will be 12 this month. He has historically been on the quiet side and less than a social ... A: This is a new one for me, as my boys were all just the opposite. In fact, my 17 year-old son still ... | |
| Concerned about a 14 yr old | 1/3/2007 |
| Q: yet rather some advice on a problem that my friend Ana is having with her daughter; below I am ... A: Everyone needs people in their lives with a sincere interest in helping. You were right to ask for ... | |
| Brother/Son | 10/16/2006 |
| Q: I’m writing on behalf of my mother and father, who are at a loss with how to deal with my younger ... A: It is a good first step, though I live in far-off America, I can still tell you to start at: ... | |
| lies | 10/3/2006 |
| Q: My 17 year old daughter will not stop fibbing. She can look at us right in the face and lie. She can ... A: This is one of the toughest things to combat. I know, because from the time I could talk until I ... | |
| 15 yr. Old Troubled Teenage Girl | 9/17/2006 |
| Q: My question is: What should I do? Now let me explain my situation. My fiance' and I live ... A: She needs attention neither you nor her mother can give. She will have a lifetime of problems ... | |
| what kind of advice expert works with a conman | 5/19/2006 |
| Q: Followup To Question - I noticed someone else made you aware of bjhickmans involvement with a ... A: You know, some big scam just happened here where I live. I forget the name of it, but a lot of ... | |
| what kind of advice expert works with a conman | 5/19/2006 |
| Q: I noticed someone else made you aware of bjhickmans involvement with a highly illegal scam. I ... A: I am not the Webmaster. I am just one of the many advice experts here. Anyone who wants to ... | |
| rock music and teen dysfunction | 5/10/2006 |
| Q: Is the rock music that teenagers listen to responsible for teenage dysfunction in the way that it ... A: Actually, the short answer is, "no." Cognitive deficits exist in humans until sometime between the ... | |
| BJ HICKMAN | 4/11/2006 |
| Q: I find it appalling that one of your "experts" has taken a position with the POPN LIFE CO which was ... A: Personally, I find it a sad commentary on life in American and the right of free speech being ... | |
| Pregnancy | 2/13/2006 |
| Q: I had my last period on January 8, and I was suppose to have one in February on the 4th, the only ... A: Okay, Tiffany-- Lots of factors can influence your period: stress, an increase in physical activity ... | |
| Pregnancy | 2/13/2006 |
| Q: I had my last period on January 8, and I was suppose to have one in February on the 4th, the only ... A: Tiffany-- Most pregnancy tests now avalible can detect a pregnany within two weeks of gestation. ... | |
| Parenting kids at different ages | 2/9/2006 |
| Q: I have a son who is 14 and a son who is 9. They are both in different development stages. This is ... A: I'm so glad to hear you are married (it helps your boys soooo much!) and that you all have dinner ... | |
| Parenting kids at different ages | 2/8/2006 |
| Q: I have a son who is 14 and a son who is 9. They are both in different development stages. This is ... A: This is a sticky one. I know, I had my children two and two, with the second two coming seven years ... | |
| Teen phone time | 1/1/2006 |
| Q: We are having a problem with our daughter and the telephone. She is 12, almost 13, and has a ... A: Cell phones are all the rage now, and for some reason, we have all been sucked into thinking they ... | |
| Teen sleeping at friends on New Years Eve. | 12/29/2005 |
| Q: I have a seventeen year old daughter that is very head strong. She is influenced by her friends, ... A: Kelly's mother is doing something illegal. You should turn her in to the authorities. Parents who ... | |
| Are all kids lazy and irresponsible???? | 11/9/2005 |
| Q: I have a GREAT 12 yo son. He's really awesome. He's sweet and adorable and caring and a GREAT ... A: Well, a couple of things... First off, I hate to break it to you, but the People to People trip is ... | |
| Problems with son | 10/27/2005 |
| Q: I regularly do not do this but my family is going through a crisis right now and I could really use ... A: I'm sorry I have taken so long to answer you, but I have been checking with parents of others who ... | |
| Spanking | 10/3/2005 |
| Q: I live overseas, and this question was written by one of my friends as a terrible joke. I do ... A: Apology accepted, Steve, and I do hope you can convince Joe that people like me volunteer our time; ... | |
| perspective on relationships | 9/25/2005 |
| Q: First of all I love the way your name is spelled. I am currently seeking my teaching degree and ... A: I like it too; it's the old Swedish spelling. Since I have been both a parent and a teacher, I feel ... | |
| Trade school | 3/24/2005 |
| Q: My 15-year old daughter wants to go to trade school for cosmetology. I would rather she graduate ... A: Actually, I REALLY AM an expert on this question! Thanks for asking. My daughter knew what she ... | |
| Infant penis | 3/20/2005 |
| Q: I have an 18 month old son and normally his penis is a little blue.His doctor said it was normal but ... A: This is not my area of expertise, but as a Mother of five children, four of whom were boys, this ... | |
| Im sorry I think I posted... | 2/15/2005 |
| Q: Im sorry I think I posted to the wrong expert. So sorry A: Brenda, it's okay! My teens were also four-year-olds! Have a great day, and always remember, ... | |
| Childs behaviour | 2/15/2005 |
| Q: I guess it is better to just get to the point. I have a four year old daughter who I feel I have ... A: Brenda, you are so intelligent to recognize this behavior is damaging to her. Wanting to get help ... | |
| Teenage Couplings | 11/12/2004 |
| Q: Followup To Question -Hi, My girlfriend and I live together with her 15-year-old daughter whom now ... A: It sounds like you're all on the right track, there. I'll rest easy knowing you are able to talk ... | |
| girlfriends in the bedroom???? | 11/8/2004 |
| Q: My 14year old son and I have never really argued before and it is driving me nuts thinking I sound ... A: My internet has been down since 11/02/04 so I didn't get your letter until this minute! I'm so ... | |
| Teenage Couplings | 9/29/2004 |
| Q: Followup To Question - Hi, My girlfriend and I live together with her 15-year-old daughter whom ... A: again, Reid-- So sorry it has taken me so long to respond. My email and internet (DSL connection) ... | |
| Teenage Couplings | 9/28/2004 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I live together with her 15-year-old daughter whom now has a boyfriend. ... A: Ah, yes, my horse is more than a little high, but did I say anything you didn't already know? I do ... | |
| Teenage Couplings | 9/27/2004 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I live together with her 15-year-old daughter whom now has a boyfriend. ... A: Well, Reid, it's pretty difficult for a fifteen-year-old-girl to respect a man who has been shacking ... | |
| Teen son, needs help. | 6/17/2004 |
| Q: We've been having "issues" with our son for about six months now. He used to be the model child, ... A: Your son seems to be expressing himself, and from his actions, like that of a fifteen-year-old boy. ... | |
| i have a problem i always... | 6/5/2004 |
| Q: i have a problem i always fight with my parents and its realy getting me down. im an only child so i ... A: You sound like every other 16 year old girl in the world; don't worry. Sixteen is probably the most ... | |
| Family/stepfamily abuse and other problems | 4/3/2004 |
| Q: You were close I am fifteen and will be sixteen this year on September 9th. You were right about my ... A: You know, you really do write well. I can't say that about most kids your age. Many adults can't ... | |
| Family/stepfamily abuse and other problems | 3/29/2004 |
| Q: this is victoria again I am so sorry that I havn't written sooner, but my computer was giving me ... A: We plan to have a great time! You know, I still don't know how old you are, but it sounds like you ... | |
| Family/stepfamily abuse and other problems | 3/18/2004 |
| Q: ------------------------- Hello, Thank you so much for replying to my question. I would love to ... A: Telling the counselor how you truly feel was exactly right. I have found that the truth ALWAYS ... | |
| Family/stepfamily abuse and other problems | 3/16/2004 |
| Q: In my situation my mother and her "fiance" have been living together for a long time, and he has ... A: Victoria-- Your mother can't help you. You must help yourself and your brother. Nobody has a right ... | |
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