AboutJames Windell Expertise I can answer questions related to normal child development, disturbed behavior and how to provide appropriate guidance and discipline.
Experience I've been a clinical psychologist in a juvenile court, worked in school settings, been a child psychotherapist in a private psychiatric clinic and consulted with schools, courts, hospitals and daycare centers.
Organizations American Psychological Association
Michigan Psychological Association
Publications I have been a columnist with the Oakland Press (Oakland County, MI) for 21 years writing a weekly column called Coping With Kids, which is also published weekly in the Staten Island Advance. I have been a mental health columnist with the Detroit Free Press and a columnist for Working Mother Magazine. In addition, I have published articles in professional journals. I have published 12 books, among them are "8 Weeks to a Well-Behaved Child" (IDG Books), "Discipline: A Sourcebook of 50 Failsafe Techniques for Parents" (IDG Books); "Children Who Say No When You Want Them to Say Yes" (IDG Books), "What You Need to Know About Ritalin" (Bantam Books) and "6 Steps to an Emotionally Intelligent Teenagers" (John Wiley & Sons). My latest two books, both published in 2006 are "The Fatherstyle Advantage" (Stewart, Tabori & Chang) and "Defusing High Conflict Divorce" (Impact Publishers). Articles about my work with parents has appeared in the New York Times, the Chicago Sun Times, the Detroit News and the Detroit Free Press.
My website at Jameswindell.com includes more information about me, my books and includes many columns I've written.
Education/Credentials B.A. in Psychology from Wayne State University
M.A. in Clinical Psychology from Oakland University
Awards and Honors Best Educational Program by Juvenile and Family Court Judges Association (National award for the development of a parent training program for parents of delinquent teenagers. Beth Clark Service Award from the Michigan Psychological Association.
Question hi there. thank you for your time. i have a question in regards to my
children. i have a 4 year old, a 2 year old and a 5 month old. my son, i feel is
a good boy, but is always nervous to try something new and he's always
yelling at his sister (probably b/c he hears me yelling). it takes me about 3-4
times to tell him to do something or to stop doing something. he doesn't
listen very well. i've tried time out, but it doesn't phase him. now my 2 year
old wakes up grumpy, no joke, every single day. she's always screaming and
crying and carrying on. i've gone into the room and asked, but of course she
can't explain she just wants to go in the living room and watch barney. she's
always crying after you tell her nicely to do something or to stop doing
something. is there an underlying psychological issue going on here?
Answer Hello Maryann,
I need some more information before I can adequately answer your questions.
First, tell me how old each child is (you gave me the ages of your children, but didn't say who was who). Is your son who is yelling at his sister and won't comply with you the 4-year-old?
Second, tell me more about how you go about asking your children or telling them to do something? What kind of words do you use? How loud is your voice? Also, you say you do some yelling, but how much? Are you yelling at your two-year-old? When did her crying start?
Get back to me with answers and I'll give you some suggestions.
Best,
James Windell
