AboutHolly Cihla Expertise I am a mother of two girls, ages 2 years and 8 years. I have worked with children of varying abilities and ages for over sixteen years and am currently teaching junior high special education. I can answer questions on infant feedings, sleeping habits, play, developmental milestones and behavior and issues with school age children that include school, learning, behavior and home issues. I can also help you with wheat and gluten allergy diets as my youngest has a wheat allergy.
I CANNOT answer medical diagnosis questions, or things of that nature. If it is a medical issue, or you are just not sure, I always suggest checking in with a pediatrician.
Experience Experience in the area: I am a mother of a 2 year old daughter and an 8 year old daughter. I have worked with children of all ages for the last sixteen years in various forms. I have worked in the day care setting, as a nanny, at summer camps, and as a liason for families with children that have neuromuscular disease. I am currently a special education teacher that specializes in learning disabilities and minor behavior disorders. Organizations: I am a member of Kappa Delta Pi. I volunteer with the Children's Miracle Network and Children's Hospital. Education/Credentials: I have a bachelor's degree in special education and have been trained in the PBIS Behavior Method (Positive Behavior Intervention Strategies).
Expert: Holly Cihla Date: 6/29/2008 Subject: my 4year old boys aggresive behavior
Question fadi is my beloved son and admired by every one my parents adore him and so does he. which is something i enjoy as they balance up every thing. i never leave him. he was v sensetive and out of the blue he became impolite, look me back in the eye and v rude. i cant stand seeing his bad manners. we ve always been so close and lovely together.
he has a 2year old younger brother. fadi doesnt allow his brother to play with him, though the baby always smiles to him to join the play. ive started to yell and sometimes spank, i hate myself for that and say ill calm him down but he never gives me the chance. idont want to turn up hating him, he is v sensetive.
i just hope this is a phase in his growing up and will end.
i read some of your answers and feel u can guide me out.
Answer Noha-
Thank you for the question. I think you might be right on it being a stage. He could be testing his limits and boundaries to see if things are still the same and if he can get away with anything new. I think if you keep yourself calm and don't get pulled into his attitude he should mellow out. I would simply tell him that his tone of voice or attitude is not acceptable and have him serve a time out for four minutes. Once he comes out of time out he is to apologize for his behavior. Keep things predictable (consequence wise) and he should roll around. As far as playing with the younger sibling, I can't advise there. Sometimes he needs to have his own private play time and not have to worry about sharing with the 2 year old brother. What I do when my oldest wants to play by herself is to put a baby gate in her doorway so her younger sister cannot bother her. I do feel that they need their own private time. Any other time you could encourage him to play by asking him to show the younger sibling something new to do. My girls play play-doh and crayons together, and when she's feeling generous, my oldest will allow the younger to play with her ponies or dolls together.
I say give it some time, be consistent and he should roll around. I hope this was helpful. If not, or if you've other questions, please feel free to write back or to contact another volunteer on this site. I wish you the best.
