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I have a question about my 10 year old daughter. When I was organizing her clothes in her drawers I came across a journal that she mainly does doodles in, well to my surprise she was drawing anatomical parts of females and males, however the labeling worried me (ass, titties etc.) The next page had a drawing of a man and woman having sex and was labeled "people having sex" , two following pages were "naked man" "naked woman" and the last was of a naked woman with defined makeup titled "naked hooker". She has a younger brother and cousins who are toddlers so she has seen boys privates, but the concern mainly came from the drawing of the figures having intercourse and the "hooker." We do not allow shows like that watched in our household. She does go to a public school and can be exposed to certain terms, I am just curious of if this is abnormal or normal curiousity .

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Hello Abby,
I wouldn't say her interest and curiosity are abnormal.
But having said that, I would say that she has obviously been exposed to more than just terms used at school. She has either seen adults engaged in intercourse, or has viewed images (in photos, movies, or on the Internet). She has learned what a hooker is and what a hooker does. So, I would say that the fact that she is being exposed to adult sexuality is a bit disturbing.
I think you need to find out more about where she is learning about sexuality. Does she watch things unsupervised on cable or view sexually-oriented websites on the Internet at someone else's house? Is there an adult (or older person) who is exposing her to these things? I think you need to do some probing with her to find out. Then, you can decide what you should do.
If you have any further questions or learn more about this situation, please feel free to get back to me.
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James Windell

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I can answer questions related to normal child development, disturbed behavior and how to provide appropriate guidance and discipline.

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I've been a clinical psychologist in a juvenile court, worked in school settings, been a child psychotherapist in a private psychiatric clinic and consulted with schools, courts, hospitals and daycare centers.

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American Psychological Association
Michigan Psychological Association

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I have been a columnist with the Oakland Press (Oakland County, MI) for 21 years writing a weekly column called Coping With Kids, which is also published weekly in the Staten Island Advance. I have been a mental health columnist with the Detroit Free Press and a columnist for Working Mother Magazine. In addition, I have published articles in professional journals. I have published 16 books, among them are "8 Weeks to a Well-Behaved Child" (IDG Books), "Discipline: A Sourcebook of 50 Failsafe Techniques for Parents" (IDG Books); "Children Who Say No When You Want Them to Say Yes" (IDG Books), "What You Need to Know About Ritalin" (Bantam Books) "6 Steps to an Emotionally Intelligent Teenagers" (John Wiley & Sons), "The Fatherstyle Advantage" (Stewart, Tabori & Chang) and "Defusing High Conflict Divorce" (Impact Publishers). My latest parenting book (2012) is "The Everything Child Psychology and Development Book." Articles about my work with parents has appeared in the New York Times, the Chicago Sun Times, the Detroit News and the Detroit Free Press. My website at Jimwindell.com includes more information about me, my books and includes many columns I've written.

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B.A. in Psychology from Wayne State University
M.A. in Clinical Psychology from Oakland University

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Best Educational Program by Juvenile and Family Court Judges Association (National award for the development of a parent training program for parents of delinquent teenagers. Beth Clark Service Award from the Michigan Psychological Association.

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