Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers/Is it cruel to send a baby to a nursery?


May I ask this question?
I have a one-year-old baby. Due to our jobs, we may have to send him to a nursery soon from early morning to 6pm.
Is it cruel and bad for the child?
My first son only went to the nursery when he was three. I still donít know if that made him better or worse.
However, I feel that sending a one-year-old baby to a nursery is bad.
What do you think?
My sincere thanks,


I worked in a daycare center for several years.  They accepted children as young as 6 weeks old.  I didn't see where it hurt the children any more or less to be there starting young than when they were older.  Perhaps a little less separation anxiety as they got older because they were more used to the routine than the older children being dropped off for the first time and getting upset realizing the parent would leave for a while.  I would ask about the credentials of the center, as well as speak to the staff a couple times before your baby goes to the nursery.  Ask if you could sit in for a while and watch the routine and how they deal with the babies.  Most daycares would be more than willing to let you do that for your own comfort, as well as that of your child.  When I worked in a daycare, I would encourage the parent to spend a little while, when they had the time, especially if there seemed to be separation anxiety, and get the child involved in activities before slipping out quietly when they felt comfortable.


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Melissa Payne


I can answer questions about children from newborn (including preemie) to school age. I can also try to provide emotional support for people who have had a stillborn child. I am a part-time working, stay-at=home, online college attending Mom who has a very hectic schedule and love it. I also have my own blog -, which includes a very affordable email recipe subscription, shirts supporting my site (all proceeds from shirt sales go into my children's savings accounts, so please be generous) and - coming soon - some of my hand crocheted items (pillows and stuffed animals).


I have 7 children - 2 daughters born November 2004, November 2005, a son born September 2008, a son born in September 2010, a son born February 2013, a son born October 2014 and a son born February 2016. My daughter born in 2005 was a preemie (3 months early) and I also had a daughter stillborn in 2006 and a miscarriage of a daughter in 2009.

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I have a diploma in Child Day Care and an Associate Degree in Teacher Aide. I have worked in the Day Care field, as well as having my own children.

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