Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers/bathing problem



I am full time working mother  of a 3 years old boy. I generally leave house at around 9/9:30 am and come home around 6: 30 to 7:00 pm. He stays in a day care. His father takes him to the creche and also returns him home. We actually are happy people and happy family.  But very buisy. I generally make my baby ready for the day care. He starts creating problems and  gives tremendously resists the bathing. It is sometimes so much severe that I had to take him to the creche without bathing him. After my return he never leaves me for second. He needs me for sleeping. We actually co-sleep. But he remains awake untill I came and sleep with him. It is very troublesome because I didn't get any time to go to toilet or else. Can you please help?

Hello Sohini,

It sounds like the first problem is your son resisting his bath in the morning.

I wondered if bathing always bothered him from birth, or has that problem only started recently? If it started when he was younger, what part of the bath do you think bothers him? The water, the soap, disliking his skin being touched or rubbed, getting his hair wet? If you could answer these questions that would help.

Also, what is your routine in the morning and how does bathing fit into the routine?

I understand you are a busy family, but it will be important for you to answer these questions so I can know what to recommend.

Let's deal with the bathing issue first, then we can go on to talk about his sleeping problem.

Email me back with answers to my questions. I promise I will reply quickly.


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I've been a clinical psychologist in a juvenile court, worked in school settings, been a child psychotherapist in a private psychiatric clinic and consulted with schools, courts, hospitals and daycare centers.

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I have been a columnist with the Oakland Press (Oakland County, MI) for 21 years writing a weekly column called Coping With Kids, which is also published weekly in the Staten Island Advance. I have been a mental health columnist with the Detroit Free Press and a columnist for Working Mother Magazine. In addition, I have published articles in professional journals. I have published 16 books, among them are "8 Weeks to a Well-Behaved Child" (IDG Books), "Discipline: A Sourcebook of 50 Failsafe Techniques for Parents" (IDG Books); "Children Who Say No When You Want Them to Say Yes" (IDG Books), "What You Need to Know About Ritalin" (Bantam Books) "6 Steps to an Emotionally Intelligent Teenagers" (John Wiley & Sons), "The Fatherstyle Advantage" (Stewart, Tabori & Chang) and "Defusing High Conflict Divorce" (Impact Publishers). My latest parenting book (2012) is "The Everything Child Psychology and Development Book." Articles about my work with parents has appeared in the New York Times, the Chicago Sun Times, the Detroit News and the Detroit Free Press. My website at includes more information about me, my books and includes many columns I've written.

B.A. in Psychology from Wayne State University
M.A. in Clinical Psychology from Oakland University

Awards and Honors
Best Educational Program by Juvenile and Family Court Judges Association (National award for the development of a parent training program for parents of delinquent teenagers. Beth Clark Service Award from the Michigan Psychological Association.

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