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About Melissa Payne
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Expertise
I can answer questions about children from newborn (including preemie) to preschool. I can also try to provide emotional support for people who have had a stillborn child. I am a stay at home Mom right now and also work from home selling Avon.

Experience
I have 3 children - 2 daughters born November 2004, November 2005 and a son born September 2008. My daughter born in 2005 was a preemie (3 months early) and I also had a daughter stillborn in 2006.

Organizations
I am a lifetime member of Business Professionals of America.

Education/Credentials
I have a diploma in Child Day Care and an Associate Degree in Teacher Aide. I have worked in the Day Care field, as well as having my own children.

   

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Questions Answered By Expert  Melissa Payne 
In Category  Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers

SubjectDate Asked

My 3 yr old son11/24/2009
  Q: I don not know what to do anymore my 3 yr old is none stop bad does everything that you tell him not ...
  A: Miranda, Don't let it discourage you. He is just starting to really feel his sense of self and ...
2 year old doesn't want Daddy11/18/2009
  Q: My husband and I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter. We recently (3 weeks ago) lost a baby (at 26 ...
  A: First off, I'm so sorry for your loss. I can honestly say I know what you are going through. I lost ...
11 1/2 month old baby crying at night.11/17/2009
  Q: I have an 11 1/2 month old baby who ever since stoping breast feeding about 2 weeks ago and ...
  A: Could be the milk. How are her poops? Normal or constipated? Regular color or clay color? If those ...
co-sleeping11/10/2009
  Q: My husband and I have two girls, a 4 yr. old and a 3 yr. old who throw major tantrums if my husband ...
  A: This is a hard situation to fix. Our girls are 4 and 5 and by morning, they are in bed with us, ...
Toddlers Interview ideas10/29/2009
  Q: Please, I have to design an interview example that I could use with a 5 years old child’s parents. ...
  A: You have a good idea of what you want to ask listed in your question. Write out a list of what you ...
Pottytraining.10/27/2009
  Q: I have 2 daughters they are 13 months apart. They are 5 and 4. The older one Nicole was easily ...
  A: I like the way you are handling thbings with them. My daughters are about a year apart and I went ...
help children share ideas10/26/2009
  Q: Please, Sally is one of the older children in the children service centre and likes to assist in ...
  A: Emma, The best way to address this issue with Sally is to have her write out the rules of the game, ...
excursion suitable for children10/24/2009
  Q: Please, I would like to know about excursion suitable for children in the Children’s service Centre. ...
  A: Emma - it sounds like you are trying to write a business plan for a child care center you are ...
childcare centre10/23/2009
  Q: Natalie and Richard, parents of Eleni have been invited to attend as a part of their orientation in ...
  A: The main safety issues in a childcare center relate to the environment the children are in...is it ...
Sleeping10/22/2009
  Q: For the past week my 19 month old daughter hasn't sleep through the night. She wake up about 2 am ...
  A: For one thing, if she is trying to potty train (has she been on the potty at all or shown any ...
childcare centre10/21/2009
  Q: As a carers how can I meet the emotional and social needs of infants aged between 6 and 12 months ...
  A: For children in that age range, the most basic emotional needs they have are to be loved, feel that ...
Toddler not listening and eating10/21/2009
  Q: I have a 19 month old Toddler girl. She was a healthy baby and is a healthy toddler. The problem ...
  A: The eating is just a phase, don't worry too much about that. Keep trying to introduce some more ...
childcare centre10/20/2009
  Q: Natalie and Richard, parents of Eleni decided on a childcare centre for Eleni as they had been using ...
  A: Having worked in childcare, I've seen children cry for 10 minutes when the parents leave, some that ...
Children asking difficult questions about absent family members.10/12/2009
  Q: My little boy is nearly 5, and when he got back from playgroup yesterday, he asked me where 'daddy's ...
  A: Try simple and honest...explain that Daddy's Mom & Dad weren't always nice and that because they ...
Disciplining preeschool child10/9/2009
  Q: My 4 year old son almost always does the opposite of what he is told to do and never stops when he ...
  A: I would suggest perhaps a child psychologist simply for some guidance with his behavior overall, ...
follow-up to previous question10/8/2009
  Q: Here is the original question and answer. "Subject: Personality Change" Hello there, My son ...
  A: Some of the upset may be related to the conversation about death, given the whole "gone and never ...
infant/toddler sleeping problems9/30/2009
  Q: I have a 21 month old who I just recently stopped nursing 4 weeks ago. He still is having difficulty ...
  A: Perhaps skipping the nap, unless he gets into a really bad mood, could help. Yes, he may be a ...
sleeping arrangements9/27/2009
  Q: in dec. 08, my ex met a man, and moved into his mobile home with my 11 month old daughter. they were ...
  A: Given that I was in a situation where my husband and I had to have our oldest daughter in a room ...
Social Interactions9/25/2009
  Q: I have a 14 month old daughter, I am a SAHM. I worry because I do not have any close friends or ...
  A: I wouldn't necessarily worry too much given her age. Some play time with other children is great ...
bad sleeping9/24/2009
  Q: My 20 month old daughter is having trouble staying asleep at night. I have tried the teething ...
  A: There is a treatment called Melatonin which is a natural sleep herb. Try discussing this with your ...
toddler won't sleep9/19/2009
  Q: My 18 month year old is not sleeping well at all. Putting him down at night takes forever and we've ...
  A: Try either a night light or playing some soft music (either classical, jazz, or some of the sleep ...
sleeping9/17/2009
  Q: My son is 3 years old . Ever since we purchased him a toddler bed he has not slept through the ...
  A: He may not be getting into a deep enough sleep. Try talking to the pediatrician to see if they can ...
Does my 3 1/2 year old daughter have a problem?9/16/2009
  Q: A few people that are around my daughter a lot seem to think she has a problem. Her attention span ...
  A: similar, yes. my almost 5 yr old hates to get dirty but played with her poop (painting the walls and ...
behaviour problem of my 3 yr old daughter9/15/2009
  Q: I have a bright 3 yr old daughter who's has just started going to pre-school.today her teacher ...
  A: If this is her first time in this setting, she's going to try to test her limits. Advise the ...
18 month baby doesn't eat her dinner and makes up 3 times at night to be fed. How to let her eat?9/14/2009
  Q: I have twin daughters and they are 18 month old. Both don't like to eat. One of them is extreme. I ...
  A: I would cut back on the fluids. You're allowing her to fill up on fluids to the point where she has ...
sleep9/11/2009
  Q: My son is 29 months old. He has never been one to sleep through the night. He usually awakened at ...
  A: One thing I've done with my kids is to leave a night light in their room and leave a radio softly ...
sleeping patterns9/10/2009
  Q: I've been searching for some advice on my youngest child's sleeping habits. I've even talked with ...
  A: My oldest went through the same thing. She finally sort of outgrew it on her own (my husband and I ...
Daughter not playing with other kids of her age9/10/2009
  Q: My daughter is 2.5 years now. She is the only child we have. She started picking up things early as ...
  A: I would not worry too much. It may be that she is just becomming aware of herself. It may prove ...
My 2 1/2 year old9/7/2009
  Q: I have a two and 1/2 year old he s not like any child i have ever been around. He is non stop in to ...
  A: I would suggest having him see a child psychologist, perhaps someone that deals in anger management. ...
RAGE IN 3 YR OLDS9/5/2009
  Q: MY SON IS 3 YRS OLD. ONE MINUTE HE IS LOVING AND ADORABLE AND THE NEXT HE IF OFF THE CHARTS IN A ...
  A: Some children that are smarter than their age are just bored. Give him a few more activities or let ...
Phobia in 3 yr old girl9/2/2009
  Q: My 3 yr old girl locked her self in a room by mistake, We had to break the handle of the door to ...
  A: Given her age, I would consider significantly limiting what is seen on tv to cartoons and other age ...
Two year old who does not sleep9/1/2009
  Q: Melissa, I have a two year old who doesn't sleep. Not just some times not just doesn't want to but ...
  A: I can imagine that you could use some good sleep too! My 3rd child, my only son, is 11 mo old and ...
Not eating much food8/30/2009
  Q: you are a mother and know how frustrating it can be when your child will not eat. My son was never ...
  A: Ruth, Don't panic over his not eating. My oldest daughter is the same way. There are times she ...
Phobia in 3 yr old girl8/30/2009
  Q: My 3 yr old girl locked her self in a room by mistake, We had to break the handle of the door to ...
  A: The best advice that I can give you is to teach her how to use the locks. Lock yourself in the room ...
three year old son8/29/2009
  Q: I have a three year old son who was born 4 weeks early. I was 18 when I had him, and he had sleep ...
  A: First of all - you are not failing as a Mommy. Spanking a child is a part of raising them. The ...
Big Bad Toddler8/26/2009
  Q: My daughter is 14 months old. She has had quite a bit of medical issues shortly after she was born ...
  A: The screaming and crying when not attached to you is a result of being held so much. This will take ...
toddler started waking in the night screaming!8/26/2009
  Q: my toddler started to wake in the night recently.She always is a good sleeper and would sleep 12 hrs ...
  A: She may be having nightmares. Have there been any new experiences or something she could have seen ...
5 month old8/25/2009
  Q: My daughter has recently turned 5 months old. She generally is happy to smile at most people she ...
  A: At 5 months old, if she's that interested in her toys, I give her credit - I wish my 11 mo old son ...
Strange beaviour with penis8/24/2009
  Q: I have a to year old boy which lately has been a little bit anxious about his penis, and I fear that ...
  A: Although I've never encountered this particular problem having worked in daycare with boys of that ...
2-year old behavior - masturbation8/22/2009
  Q: My 33-month-old son masturbates when he is alone. Let me tell you a little background about him. He ...
  A: Although I am aware that almost all children go through a stage similar to masturbation, which is a ...
Child wont Sleep8/21/2009
  Q: My daughter is 21 months old and wont go to sleep by herself. She ends up falling asleep on the ...
  A: Try leaving a night light and a radio playing softly, either jazz or classical, to keep her company. ...
sleep8/21/2009
  Q: my 2 and 3 yr olds are a nightmare at bedtime i can be up and down the stairs for 3 hours tryin to ...
  A: I can sympathize with you. I went through it with my children at those ages also (my daughters will ...
3 1/2 yr boy bad behavior8/21/2009
  Q: My son went to a home daycare when he turned 1 where he was with about 10 - 15 kids. The owner ...
  A: It's possible, but given his long-term activity level, he may be hyperactive (try asking his doctor ...
sleepless nights8/21/2009
  Q: My son in now 16 months old and is still not sleeping through the night. He wakes up as if to be in ...
  A: Try having him sleep tested...talk to the pediatrician about this. The diagnosis could be something ...
Playing with others8/20/2009
  Q: I am a stay at home mom and my 16 month old son is always with me and I'm starting to think that ...
  A: For one thing, I give you credit for raising such a loving child!! If the worst he is doing is ...
My 3 year old daughters behaviour8/20/2009
  Q: Can you please help me??? My 3 year old daughter Alina is a great girl!!! She’s very smart and ...
  A: Having a strong willed child is both a blessing and a curse...I know, my oldest daughter (will be 5 ...
Eye Contact8/20/2009
  Q: My daughter just turned 5 and will start Kindergarten next month. I have always noticed her lack of ...
  A: If she were younger, I would say to watch for autism, however given her age, this could pretty much ...
Behavior8/19/2009
  Q: Heya, i have been trying to get advice of the internet from alot of people but no one seems to be ...
  A: For one thing, don't allow the nagging...it leads to more backtalking as they get older. If you are ...
sleepless nights8/16/2009
  Q: My son in now 16 months old and is still not sleeping through the night. He wakes up as if to be in ...
  A: Try a nightlight or some soft calming music playing in his room through the night. This may help ...
heeellllpppp8/5/2009
  Q: okay i have an 8 months baby girl ava and a 18 months baby brooke also emme how is jut turned 4 and ...
  A: For one thing, make sure that you have a little time for you now and then - it will help your ...
my 3 year old7/29/2009
  Q: i have a 3 year old son named CJ. his father passed away when i was 7 months pregnant. i am a ...
  A: I don't really believe that it's something to be overly concerned about. It may not tie into your ...
Hands in Pants7/29/2009
  Q: My grand-daughter has been putting her hands in her pants both front and back, she too was preemie ...
  A: First off, my condolences in the loss of your daughter. Preemies are a little harder to figure out, ...
Potty training problem7/28/2009
  Q: My daughter will be three in October we started gradually potty training when she was two she now ...
  A: It may be an attention problem or, if there has been a recent change in her routine, it may tie into ...
3 Year Old son7/24/2009
  Q: I have a son who turned three in March. We recently changed baby sitters after almost 2 years, ...
  A: Some children don't deal with changes well. The fit is simply his way of expressing his displeasure ...
toddler and appropriateness7/20/2009
  Q: Is it appropriate to wear just underwear around a 13 month old?
  A: It depends on your level of comfort around your own child...personally, I wear at LEAST underwear ...
Leaving the bottle+Toilet training7/13/2009
  Q: I am a working mom of a 19+months old baby girl.I have a full time nanny at home for her.She will be ...
  A: First of all, talk to her teachers at the school. The majority of teachers should be willing to ...
my son is about to turn three7/12/2009
  Q: I was wondering if you can help me answer a question about how to help my son to used the potty. ...
  A: My daughters were the opposite - they were willing to poop on the potty, but not pee. Has he been ...
4 year old sleep habits7/9/2009
  Q: My 4 year old daughter used to sleep until an average of 8 am everyday, with a full nap as well. ...
  A: My oldest used to sleep until 9 am with a 9 pm bedtime and no nap...now, with the same bedtime and ...
Toddler prefers dad7/8/2009
  Q: My husband and I are in the middle of a divorce (very cooperative with one another)and separated ...
  A: Couple of ideas: Considering Aidan is already in the bathroom with you while you are trying to ...
17 month old with lack of eye contact7/8/2009
  Q: I have a 17 month old that is developing normally in every way except he doesn't make eye contact. ...
  A: Don't panic quite yet. Although the lack of eye contact is a common autism symptom, I don't believe ...
Toddler prefers dad7/2/2009
  Q: My husband and I are in the middle of a divorce (very cooperative with one another)and separated ...
  A: Given that Dad lives with his parents, it may be a classic case of spoiling happening there (don't ...
toddler6/22/2009
  Q: I have a 2 1/2 year old boy. He is a great child most of the time but he is always getting into ...
  A: Don't feel bad, my daughters are 4 1/2 and 3 1/2 and still do it. The main thing is consistency. ...
my toddler6/16/2009
  Q: My 2 years and 10 month old toddler,is a good kid, and he listens to me sometimes,but doesn't know ...
  A: I raise my voice quite a bit, too. Don't feel bad - you're not alone. When you are in public with ...
sexual be4ahvior for a 4 year old boy6/9/2009
  Q: my 4 year old son has recently been touching his anus and then smelling his finger is this normal or ...
  A: This is a stage that children go through, although he may have picked it up from someone at the ...
4 year-old playing in vagina6/9/2009
  Q: I recently had my 4 year-old female god-child (who still pacifies herself by sucking on two of her ...
  A: My 3 yr old is going through a similar thing...she keeps shoving her hand down her pants (and is the ...
2yr old birthday party6/7/2009
  Q: My daughter wants a good sized bash for her 2 yr old. Mostly relatives aunts(2), uncles(5), ...
  A: The fact that she is looking at relatives only, I wouldn't worry about the guest list. I can ...
infant ideal weight and height6/7/2009
  Q: pls what is the ideal weight and height of a 7.5 month old baby? how can i improve my baby"s weight?
  A: Weight should be somewhere around 15 lbs. As for height, I don't believe in what the doctors list ...
Chewing obsession5/31/2009
  Q: I work at a in home daycare and we have a three year old boy. He very rarely eats and when he does ...
  A: Although I have no personal experience in this field in particular, I will attempt to give you some ...
eating issues5/22/2009
  Q: We always give him purreed food.Whenever we try to introduce a mashed food into his diet He just ...
  A: I'm curious to know what his doctor has said about the problems he is having. Have you discussed ...
development5/21/2009
  Q: my daughter is a sweetheart and very active,but she's not picking up her color or her letters,when ...
  A: Don't panic. She may just be one of those kids that doesn't like to let you know exactly how smart ...
My almost four year old son5/19/2009
  Q: So I am a single mother of a almost four year old son and he is having the most uncommon emotional ...
  A: Some of this behavior may have to do with how long you and Dad have been separated. If it was ...
Sleepless nites5/15/2009
  Q: My baby girl (3 months) seems very agitated at night-time. She is feeding well but wakes 5-6 times ...
  A: Believe me, as a parent, the hardest thing we ever do is watch our children cry, especially when ...
Sleepless nites5/14/2009
  Q: My baby girl (3 months) seems very agitated at night-time. She is feeding well but wakes 5-6 times ...
  A: The one unfortunate thing with babies is that they set their own schedules - usually one that ...
my son wont sleep5/11/2009
  Q: he is very active nd energetic ,when its time to go to bed its not difficult but he wakes up about ...
  A: First off, let me say I give you credit for having a child that will stay in their room when they ...
Baby Acting Out4/28/2009
  Q: My 8 month old baby is screaming and hitting people when she does not get what she wants how should ...
  A: This is usually a stage children go through when they get a little bit older, however you may have a ...
ear piercing doctors4/26/2009
  Q: I want to get my 3 month old daughters ears pierced by want to find a doctor. My pediatrician does ...
  A: I've never heard of a doctor doing ear piercing. Both of my daughters had their ears pierced at a ...
my 3 year old cries and lot while going to school4/23/2009
  Q: My 3 year son has taken admission in nursery and have started going to school as i am working i ...
  A: Was this time change at the same school or did he transfer to a new school? This might account for ...
Teething4/21/2009
  Q: She already has her moulers coming in. It seems like on day shes screaming and crying and the next ...
  A: My 7 mo old son is teething, too, so I know exactly what you are going through. I wish I could give ...
my 4 year old stepson is peeing everywhere4/17/2009
  Q: My stepson has had a real problem peeing anywhere he can. I have been in his life for 3 years and I ...
  A: I take it from your comment about seeing the problem "until he started going to school" that he ...
Three year old troubles4/13/2009
  Q: My name is Gina and I have a three year old son. This is my first child and I had him at the age of ...
  A: Although he is entering this stage a little early, it is normal. He is, more or less, doing it to ...
Granddaughter dont want to leave my home with her father4/12/2009
  Q: why would a 3 year old girl start screamng and crying when she is told that her dad is coming to get ...
  A: I will apologize for throwing so many questions at you to consider in regards to an answer, but ...
peeing4/11/2009
  Q: i pee my pants and i am 23 i have been to many doctors and they say it is fine what should i do?
  A: This is significantly out of the Infant/Toddler/Preschool range. Also, you did not explain what ...

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