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About M Kay Keller
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Questions concerning Infants & Toddlers & the developmental stages that they are in and referral information when necessary. It doesn`t matter what the psychological or emotional behavior they are exhibiting. What matters is that you ask the questions & search out solutions!

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Experience
I have worked with Infants & Toddlers of teen parents, single parents, parents, alternative caregivers & grandparents raising grandparents. I was trained as an Infant Massage Instructor and in the Nurturing Parenting Education program. I have raised three children of my own successfully and am very actively involved with my grandchildren. I have knowledge of breastfeeding, developmental play, intuitive parenting, appropriate boundaries and rule setting with toddlers, potty training, and developmental stages.

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Social Service Workers License, National Council on Family Relations, Nurturing Parenting Educator, Infant Massage Instructor

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Loving Touch - Why Babies Need Massaged. International Attachment Parenting Journal

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Education: A.A., B.S. Honors, (Psychology & Sociology), S.S.W., Masters, & PhD (Doctoral Student) Child and Family Studies (specialty bonding & attachment). AllFamilySolutions.com

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International Who's Who of Professionals & Departmental Honors in Psychology

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Parents, caregivers, grand-parents raising grand-children, foster & adoptive parents, single parents & teen parents, relative care and all who were caring for infant & toddlers!

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Questions Answered By Expert M Kay Keller
In Category Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers

Subject	Date Asked

2 1/2 yr old without pacifier	11/7/2009
Q: I have a 2 1/2 yr old who only had his pacifier at nap and bedtime. He threw away the binkis one day ... A: My favorite question to parents is "How is this working for you?" Try a nuturing bedtime routine. ...
anxiety in toddlers	11/5/2009
Q: i am a mother of three and have come upon an unusual problem with my 15 month old son. When it was ... A: I never advise medication and not being a medical doctor would not interfere with what anyone else ...
bedtime battle	11/3/2009
Q: My wife and are in disagreement with how to put are 2 year old to sleep. I believe he should go to ... A: I raised two boys and a daughter myself. My sons are now 31 and 25 and I can assure you I do not go ...
My son only wants his dad	11/2/2009
Q: I have a little boy who is 23 months old. I first started working part time when he was six months ... A: First of all let's seperate these two issues. There is the issue of your son showing preference for ...
frequent urination	11/1/2009
Q: i wanted to know why my child who is successfully pottie trained is now urinating so frequently. She ... A: There isn't much information here. She maybe regressing as something in her daily routine has ...
My toddler doesnt sleep during night	10/31/2009
Q: My toddler has this problem since day 1, he does not sleep well at night, usually toddlers at his ... A: Get a regular bedtime routine. I have posted numerous suggestions here for bedtime routines. Start ...
Frightened behavior	10/31/2009
Q: I have a 7 week old daughter who is exhibiting strange behavior. She was born 2 weeks early and is ... A: I have no idea. However ask your doctor and if there is nothing physically wrong then try infant ...
Twins and sleep problems	10/28/2009
Q: I have three children. A set of twins girls who only just turned two and an older daughter who is ... A: I don't think you will like my answer. However, my job is not to tell you what you want to hear. I ...
My toddler doesnt sleep during night	10/27/2009
Q: My toddler has this problem since day 1, he does not sleep well at night, usually toddlers at his ... A: First take him to his doctor and see if everything is okay physically. Then make sure to have a ...
cereal	10/27/2009
Q: My grandson is 3 months old, and he is always hungry, is it to early to put some cereal in his ... A: Okay. Please remember this information was not available to me. It helps if more information is ...
How to deal with	10/27/2009
Q: There is plenty of info on how to deal with tantrums, but I feel like when a child is sick (or ... A: I would not give in when a child throws a tantrum regardless of whether or not they are sick. ...
I need help with my almost three year old	10/26/2009
Q: He is a really good boy but I am really concern on how good mother I am. I am a young and single ... A: Being a good mom is not about how your child behaves. If you start this cycle he will be running ...
anxiety in toddlers	10/26/2009
Q: i am a mother of three and have come upon an unusual problem with my 15 month old son. When it was ... A: Does he have any problem with balance or walking. I could be something along the lines of motion ...
Sleeping apart+Bottle as comfort	10/25/2009
Q: My 2 yrs old daughter was sleeping apart in the cot since 4 months but now recently she was sick for ... A: She is fine. She will not always want to sleep with you and she will not always want the bottle. I ...
I HAVE THE WORSE 2 YEAR OLD IN THE WORLD !!!! AND HE IS CHILD # 3	10/25/2009
Q: Ok, my son turned 2 in september 2009. He does not speak full sentences AT ALL. He has the ... A: First of all no child behaves in a way that does not get them what they want. So his behavior is ...
cereal	10/23/2009
Q: My grandson is 3 months old, and he is always hungry, is it to early to put some cereal in his ... A: Unless you are raising your grandchild. I suggest you ask his mother. This is not a decision that I ...
PRE-SCHOOLER JUST STARTED HAVING PROBLEMES GOING TO SCHOOL!	10/22/2009
Q: I hope you can help me!! My 4 1/2 year old Daughter just started to have problems with going to ... A: The good news is that your daughter is attached to you and misses you. The bad news is that it ...
How to deal with "bad" behavior while toddler sick, tired.	10/21/2009
Q: There is plenty of info on how to deal with tantrums, but I feel like when a child is sick (or ... A: First of all when she throws tantrums you feel guilty? Why do you feel guilty for her behavior? You ...
how to convince the child	10/21/2009
Q: I am a mother of 7 year old boy. I am very affectionate to him, right from his birth, only I take ... A: I can understand your concern. For him to be 7 and think it is okay to hit a baby is not a good ...
meet the emotional and social needs of infants	10/20/2009
Q: As a carers how can I meet the emotional and social needs of infants aged between 6 and 12 months ... A: Meeting the emotional needs of infants and toddlers is fairly easy. They need to be recognized when ...
Custody sharing effect on infant	10/19/2009
Q: I was recently attacked by my husband while I was breastfeeding and reported the incident to the ... A: Nancy, You need to get support NOW. First of all make sure your lawyer understand how domestic ...
disrespectful 3 year old	10/16/2009
Q: My 3 year old just started sleeping in his own room. Last night he woke up 4:30 and wanted me to ... A: Your son is lucky to have such a parent who want the best for him. In lieu of what your follow up ...
Attachment to mother	10/10/2009
Q: We have a one year old daughter. Both of us have been home with her (my wife works from home and I ... A: Attachment is a great thing for a child. It means she is healthy. Children often show preferences ...
water??	10/8/2009
Q: i have a 2 month old grandson, he is healthy, but his mother insists on giving him water in his ... A: Really? Will water hurt a baby? Formula has never been the perfect food only breastmilk. However, ...
3 1/2 year old doesnt sleep	10/7/2009
Q: I have a 3 1/2 year old girl. Ever since she was 6 months old she hasn't slept through a night. I ... A: There are many prior posts on this site about bedtime routines. Try infant massage! Who doesn't ...
Breaking habits	10/6/2009
Q: I have a daughter that will be two in December. I have allowed a few issues to become troublesome ... A: Your daughter isn't even two yet. How troublesome can these two habits be. I strongly suggest you ...
Out of hand 3 year old	10/1/2009
Q: I have a 3 year old son and a 16 month old. My 3 year old is a very good boy a majority of the time. ... A: First of all he is not in some terrible stage. He is competing and probably is reacting to not being ...
Separation Anxiety??	10/1/2009
Q: Kay, I have identical twin girls who just turned 3. Recently, we have had 2 big changes in our ... A: Separation anxiety is common and more so when a child's routine has changed. You mention two very ...
4 year old	9/30/2009
Q: how do i get my 4 year old to listen to her teacher? when we are at home i put together lessons for ... A: First of all she is FOUR yeas old. If her teacher sounds like she is a "troubled child" then maybe ...
Anxiety after using the bathroom	9/28/2009
Q: my daughter is 4 years old and just recently thinks that after she pees she is dripping, even when ... A: Well this is a new one on me. I have two suggestions. 1. Let go. She will eventually have to pee. ...
sleep problems	9/27/2009
Q: My daughter is nearly 23 months and about 10 days ago her sleep patterns suddenly changed and I am ... A: I think you answered your own question here. Stop making her take naps and even if she is a little ...
Advice about sleeping...?	9/20/2009
Q: I'm hoping you might be able to give me some advice on this subject... I have a 4-week-old son. ... A: The good news is your baby enjoys co-sleeping. He enjoys it alot. He is letting you know in no ...
toddler won't sleep	9/19/2009
Q: My 18 month year old is not sleeping well at all. Putting him down at night takes forever and we've ... A: My heavens you have my sympathy and my condolences. You have your hands full and you all need sleep! ...
little boys	9/17/2009
Q: My 4 year old boy was potty trained well nd for about 4 months he was doing very well, til lately ... A: Have you had him to the doctor? Could he be experiencing an infection of some sort? Children are no ...
Does my 3 1/2 year old daughter have a problem?	9/16/2009
Q: A few people that are around my daughter a lot seem to think she has a problem. Her attention span ... A: The good news is this situation can be turned around. The bad news is, your daughter is in control ...
Separation Anxiety in my 3 Year Old	9/14/2009
Q: I have been working since before my 3 year old was born, however, I was laid off from Jan. of this ... A: I am glad you wrote me. There are two very separate issues going on here. The first of course is ...
13-month old	8/18/2009
Q: My 13-month old seems to have no separation anxiety, but I feel like this might be a bad thing. I ... A: His reaction is similar to separation anxiety. He is expressing it by "punishing" you for leaving. ...
21 month old hitting	8/17/2009
Q: i am a working mom of a 21 months old daughter.she is a very sweet child but seems she has a ... A: There are some great books out there. One of my favorites is one that explains "hands are not for ...
Twin Toddlers bedtim	6/11/2009
Q: I have twin toddlers 2 and half year old girls. We cannot get them to bed. We have tried moving ... A: I can imagine how trying these experiences are for both of you! First, it is easy when children ...
5 year old scared of everything	6/11/2009
Q: I have 5 year old twins. One of them, Morgan, is extremely afraid of lots of things. This has been ... A: With this additional information I would encourage you to seek an assessment and evaluation from ...
5 year old scared of everything	6/10/2009
Q: I have 5 year old twins. One of them, Morgan, is extremely afraid of lots of things. This has been ... A: I am sorry you are so frustrated I am sure it must be hard to see her so upset. The first ...
attention span	6/9/2009
Q: I am a 32 year old mother of two. My son, aged 9 months, is a very active and responsive child. He ... A: Just because you son is not showing an interest right now at the age of 9 months in books does not ...
Night awakening and juice drinking	6/8/2009
Q: My daughter is 15 months old and is still waking up in the middle of the night for a sippy full of ... A: She is waking up in the middle of the night thirsty because she is small. Often we don't realize a ...
15 month old not talking	6/8/2009
Q: My 15 month old son has yet to say anything. He makes sounds that sound like "ma ma" and "da da" but ... A: While all children develop at their own pace, you sound worried. I think you should consult your ...
baby's odd behavior	6/7/2009
Q: My 7 month old grandson has been hitting himself in the face (mostly in the mouth)for months now. ... A: There could be many reasons...the one that sticks out in my mind is he is trying to tell you ...
Toddler removing diaper at bedtime	6/5/2009
Q: A friend has a 2yr.old who has started to remove her pajama bottoms and diaper after she puts her in ... A: If you friend is in need of assistance why did she not write herself? Just curious. Well children do ...
6 month old	6/2/2009
Q: My amazing sleeping 6 month old has decided to go from sleeping through the night and napping ... A: Where he was already sleeping through the night and had established a sleeping pattern I have to ask ...
child support	6/2/2009
Q: My girfriend is US resident,she doesnt live in the US no more,now she lives in Mexico, she had a ... A: I am not a attorney and cannot give legal advice. However, I can tell you that children under the ...
questionable abuse of 2 yo boy	5/29/2009
Q: I have custody of my 2yo grandson (since 1/09). His parents have every other weekend unsupervised ... A: I am so sorry you are hurting so badly. This is a heartbreaking situation. First, remind yourself ...
speech in almost 2 boy	5/25/2009
Q: My son is 23 months, a very happy, receptive and social boy with a 5 yr old sister. He seems to have ... A: All children do develop differently and I can tell from your question that you are still concerned. ...
3 yr old closer to grandmom than mom	5/18/2009
Q: My son is 3 yrs old, and and I am working full time since he was 6 months. My mil looks after him ... A: I think you son is lucky to have so many people in his life who love him. I think you need to get ...
stubborn 3 yr old	5/14/2009
Q: I have a 3 year old daughter who is very stubborn. She is my 3rd child and we also have a 4th ... A: This 3 year old has alot to deal with due to all the labels attached to her. First of all get rid of ...
Should I worry about toddler's sudden shyness?	5/5/2009
Q: This may just be a totally normal development stage, but I figure it's worth asking about... My ... A: While it is true that all children go through stages and can change on a dime....I would wonder if ...
Almost 15 months, but not talking	5/4/2009
Q: My son is almost 15 months old and he can only say "Mama" and "Dadda". He can occaisionally repeat ... A: All children have their own timeline for learning to talk. However, I suggest using sign language to ...
Shyness/Screaming	5/1/2009
Q: I have a 28 month old son. Lately he has become shy, which is fine, since I know that he has come ... A: His inconsolable screaming is worrying you for a reason. What is going on with him? Has something ...
I want to be a father	4/28/2009
Q: I'm a 14 year old boy and want to have a baby him really good with children lots of people say I am, ... A: Having a baby isn't about what you want. You are not ready to be a dad. If you were ready to be a ...
5 year old cries at church	4/21/2009
Q: I have a five year old daughter who is sometimes sensitive. We went through a period where she was ... A: I found your question languishing in the question pool so whomever you posted to must have gone on ...
choking	2/5/2009
Q: Last year while on vacation my son supposidly choked on a piece of spaghetti. When we were coming ... A: Have you asked him what is going on? Often we miss the obvious by not communicating with our ...
afraid of dad	2/3/2009
Q: My daughter is 8 months old and my boyfriend works from 7 to 5 monday through Friday, my daughter ... A: I suggest adjusting her bedtime so that he can spend more time with her. Then I suggest that this ...
Help with my 3 year old	2/3/2009
Q: My daughter just turned 3 at the end of December. Her father and I got divorced in November, I'm not ... A: Sounds like your daughter is having some anxiety around separation from you during the day. I ...
my 2 year old is scared of the dark	2/1/2009
Q: my daughter has just turned 2 years old and im wondering what to do as she is getting scared of the ... A: She is 2 years old. She could be scared of the shadows. She doesn't have the mental capacity yet to ...
Am i spoiling my 7mo old?	1/26/2009
Q: My friends and family say i'm spoiling my 7mo old. One example of why they are saying this is ... A: First, fire your friends and family. Tell them to be supportive or to be quiet. You are doing just ...
Sleeping between Dad & Mom's House	1/25/2009
Q: My granddaughter is 4 months old and she comes to my house every other weekend. We are having a ... A: Children do need routines they don't need schedules...she can't tell time. She won't have a concept ...
head shaking and staring at hand	1/24/2009
Q: I have an 11 month old granddaughter that was born with a severe/profound hearing loss. Needless to ... A: I have seen children without hearing loss do the same thing. I think you are worrying too much. Let ...
toddlers	1/23/2009
Q: my ex left me when our twins were seven months old. immediately he moved into his sister's basement ... A: An order can be changed if the judge deems a good reason to do so. I would suggest having your girls ...
Over emotional 4 year old	1/22/2009
Q: I am a 35 year old mom of a beautiful 4 year old girl. I am a nursing student and my husband works ... A: You won't like my answer. You won't like it because I know as parents we often have hard choices to ...
my 2 year and 8 mo. old child	1/21/2009
Q: i have a 2 year and 8 month old daughter and just this few days, she suddenly changed behavior. She ... A: I suggest lots of massage and nurturing to make her feel safe again. In the future don't let her ...
Toddler too close to Grandma?	1/17/2009
Q: My relative is visiting us with her 4 yr old grandson. Her daughter and 2 children are living with ... A: As long as the child is comfortable with this relationship it is fine. What would not be fine is if ...
This is a mental question.	1/17/2009
Q: Call me sick or whatever but you're not coming from my point of view.I was looking at this little ... A: You need to stop worrying about all the bad things that could happen and you need to see a therapist ...
3 year old	1/16/2009
Q: My 3 year old granddaughter will not toilet train. THis alone may not raise a question, but she also ... A: I have several thoughts. First of all the doctor has recommended an evaluation which means the ...
Toddler making himself sick	1/15/2009
Q: My 2 year old is very verble and has a good understanding of whats what. He has been going to ... A: Well he is 2 years old. Many children have seperation anxiety at times and maybe this is his time. ...
teaching selfdefence	1/15/2009
Q: my daughter is 19 months old. She is nice and adorable. Her cousine hits her and she does not defend ... A: You won't like my answer. The best way children learn good behavior or to take care of themselves is ...
why does my 3 year old son behave this way	1/14/2009
Q: hi my 3 year old son has been acting very strange from the age of 4months old he used to stiffen ... A: You said you took him to a speech therapist only you didn't say what they speech therapist said ...
18month old Toddler does not have 20-Word vocab	1/13/2009
Q: When I seem to think that i'm over-reacting about this, i'm just being a concerned parent. I live ... A: I understand being concerned about your child. She is however only 18 months old. The research ...
terrible twos	1/13/2009
Q: I am the mother of 4 children.All are different so I find myself unable to pull from past ... A: I don't think Allie is your problem. I think you are totally overwhelmed. Do you have any help? You ...
18 month old grandson	1/12/2009
Q: I have raised three boys, and am now grandmother to a 18 month old boy. Since I am of French decent ... A: Just remove his toys when he becomes rough...then when he calms down bring them back and show him ...
My 4yr old aggressiveness	1/12/2009
Q: I have a four year old girl. This few month, I have notice a lot of change on her attitude, and ... A: It sounds like your 4 year old is having a hard time finding her words to appropriately express ...
behavorioal changes	1/12/2009
Q: my 2 year old grand-daughter lives in our home . just recently she has started screaming and crying ... A: Two year olds often act out because they are changing. However if you are concerned that she has ...
My four year olds syptoms...	1/9/2009
Q: I have a wonderful family of four children ranging in age from 13 to 1, and my question today is ... A: Well first of all I hate to go there with what is happening at the sitters but the reality of life ...
Baby Sleeping Problem	1/9/2009
Q: I have an 11 and a half month old boy, who up until recently, was a very good sleeper. I shared a ... A: I am not a proponent of crib sleeping so I don't know if my answer will help you. I just don't have ...
My 3 yr old's bheavior around other kids	1/8/2009
Q: I've noticed that my 3 year old daughter is kind of sensitive when she's around other children. ... A: I apologize for taking so long to answer your question. Your question is important to me. I had an ...
stubern behaveur	1/7/2009
Q: my son is a year and a half and i used to hit him on the hand when he did something unaccepted and ... A: It sounds like you are both stubborn. He must get it from somewhere. Stop forcing the eating issue. ...
Self Abusive Temper Tantrums	1/7/2009
Q: I am the aunt of a 28 month old. Her parents separated when she was about age 1, and she sees her ... A: I apologize for taking so long to answer your question, these questions are important to me. I had ...
5 yr old talks about death & suicide	1/7/2009
Q: my brother was killed in a car accident when his son, my nephew, was only 6 months old. Our family ... A: I apologize for taking so long to answer you. I had an emergency and was offline for a few days. ...
hitting	1/6/2009
Q: My 4year old son gets mad and hits me, throw things at me or spits on me. I usually give him a time ... A: I apologize it has taken me so long in writing back to you. I had an emergency and fell behind on my ...
3 yr old dwindling choice of food	1/5/2009
Q: I have a two daughters (5 1/2 yr old and a 15 month old) who are wonderful eaters. My son ate well ... A: Children will eat what is offered. If you don't want him eating these unhealthy foods STOP BUYING ...
13 month old with sever attachment issues	1/4/2009
Q: my son is 13 months old and has attachment issues to me. and only me. It started when he was around ... A: Your 13 month old is not having attachment issues. He is having separation anxiety issues which is ...
hitting	1/3/2009
Q: my son is a year and a half and i used to hit him on the hand when he did something unaccepted and ... A: Well first of all I hope you are not still hitting him. Next you will have to accept that he learned ...
2 year old with sleep issues	1/2/2009
Q: Kay, I have 2 year old daughter who is great. However, she doesn't sleep. We will put her to bed at ... A: Yes I do have some ideas. I think she needs a bedtime routine. A routine is not the same thing as a ...
CONSTANT CRYING	12/31/2008
Q: how is everyone? I have read several different answers on the subject of toddlers who constantly cry ... A: The things you mention that you say are not working (don't do them if they are not working) seem ...
CONSTANT CRYING	12/28/2008
Q: how is everyone? I have read several different answers on the subject of toddlers who constantly cry ... A: It sounds to me like she is having to compete for attention too much in her home environment. You ...
Toddler Acting Out	12/18/2008
Q: My husband and I have custody of our 10 month old granddaughter, we have had complete legal and ... A: It certainly sounds like she has a reaction to her parents visiting her. While it is kind of you to ...
Pre schooler weeing in bedroom	12/18/2008
Q: My nearly 4 year old son has just begun to wee in his bedroom., We have been through alot due to his ... A: It is normal for children to act out by not peeing or pooping when and where they should. Sometimes ...
Inappropriate Touching???	12/16/2008
Q: Recently my boy in my daughter's playgroup has been initiating "doctor play" at our weekly ... A: While it is normal for children to explore each other, what is not normal is the way parents are ...
overnight visitation for a newborn	12/16/2008
Q: i am about to have a baby in about 3 weeks and my husband and i are seperated. He is very involved ... A: Your husband and you need to know this is not about who is the better parent this is all about the ...
Toddler not eating	12/13/2008
Q: My son was colic as an infant and we gave him alimentum after trying bf, and 5 other milks. I ... A: I am sorry you are both going through this. You need a specialist and if your doctor is not ...
toddler aggression with babies	12/12/2008
Q: "My 21 month old son is VERY aggressive with all babies. As soon as he sees a baby, he charges them, ... A: Okay what part of this makes sense to you. First of all you know he does this when he sees a baby ...
anxiety and sleep issues	11/28/2008
Q: I have two children who sleep in rooms beside each other and between the two of them, we are not ... A: You have alot on your plate and that is an understatement. Let's deal first with the 2 year old. I ...
toddler touching others	11/27/2008
Q: I have a 5 yr old nephew who is currently in preschool. He has no siblings and currently lives with ... A: What is causing this behavior is a lack of boundaries. He is 5 years old and you don't think his ...
my child repeats himself	11/26/2008
Q: i have a 3 yr old son...he ofter repeats himself...he is very smart...know his numbers..and can ... A: Children learn by repetition. It is why they can hear the same story over and over again and again. ...
This is a mental question.	11/26/2008
Q: Call me sick or whatever but you're not coming from my point of view.I was looking at this little ... A: I can hear your pain and terror at what is going on in your mind. I believe you can be helped. Do ...
Sleep Problem	11/25/2008
Q: I am writing you in hope that you can help me. I have an 11 month old baby. He is born in USA and a ... A: You moved from the USA to Italy. He has had a drastic time change to deal with and his whole entire ...
Social Interaction	11/25/2008
Q: Ms. Keller, My son is 3 years old, and has recently started day care after having private, in home ... A: I suggest play dates. Get to know the other parents on a one on one basis. Then set up a play date ...
3yr old toddler-habits	11/23/2008
Q: I have a three year old boy who is potty trained. About a month ago he started a bad habit. My ... A: Of course boys pee all over the place. The reason it is called potty training is because great ...
3 1/2 yr old grandson	11/20/2008
Q: I have a 3 1/2 yr old grandson who i have been very involved with from the very beginning. I love ... A: I can hear that you are hurt and frustrated. However, this is a 3 and 1/2 year old little boy. It is ...
Toddler tantrums after surgery	11/17/2008
Q: My 25 month old daughter just had her tonsils and adnoids taken out. That evening in the hospital ... A: I understand from adults that having tonsils out was one of the most painful experiences they every ...
My so-angry but so-sweet 2 1/2 yr. old boy	11/16/2008
Q: I am searching for some answers to my son's wild behaviors. He is just shy of 28 months. For the ... A: I am very concerned for several different reasons. First of all I am not convinced that no one has ...
baby sleep	11/16/2008
Q: My daughter is 5 months old and developing very nicely and gaining weight very nicely thank god. She ... A: There is an easy answer to this question. She is 5 months old and she is breastfed. Breastfed babies ...
my 3 year old nephew	11/14/2008
Q: I am writing concerning my 3 yoa nephew. I am concerned about some new behaviors he is exhibiting ... A: You say he moved and he is attending a new daycare. Of course he is acting out he has had a major ...
bitting	11/11/2008
Q: I have a two and a half year old and a ten month old, my two year old daughter continues to bite her ... A: I would suggest you get some books that help her deal with her anger. There are books with feeling ...
Concerns re 6 six year old grandson	11/11/2008
Q: About a month ago, my six year old grandson began acting out. He stole a few small toys from ... A: I can understand your concerns. I would be wondering the same. You mention he is seeing a school ...
naps and appetite	11/3/2008
Q: My daughter is 22 months old and here recently she has had a decrease in appetite and I don't know ... A: There could be several answers. She maybe getting her two year old molars in the back of her mouth. ...
finger sucking	11/2/2008
Q: My baby is 9 weeks old and starting sucking her finegers. She will sleep 4-5 hrs at night but then ... A: It can be very hard sometimes to read a baby's cries. I highly recommend getting a video which shows ...
3 year old behavior	11/1/2008
Q: My 3 year old daughter shows some odd behavior at times. I think she has a form of OCD (like I do ... A: Mary: OCD is more about repetitive behaviors. For instance like washing hands over and over and ...
4 year old son	10/30/2008
Q: My 4 year old son throws tantrums @ preschool if he doesn't get what he want.. The kids at school ... A: I can hear your frustration and anxiety. Are you sure it is something you are or are not doing? I ...
8 month old who hits	10/29/2008
Q: My eight month 2 week old son hits when your holding him. He will hit for face your chest! When he's ... A: (Don't ever leave your last name on the Internet, it isn't safe). Your 8 month old is just using ...
toddlers touching eachother	10/27/2008
Q: recently I've noticed that when my daughter plays with her boy cousin they start to touch each ... A: It is not uncommon for children to explore each other sexually. What is important/critical is how ...
Aggresive and abusive toddler	10/26/2008
Q: Desperatly seeking answers, I have now a 3 year old and a 13 month old. The trouble started when I ... A: I can hear how much you wanted and love your children. No you are not a bad mum. You do however ...
crying 4 year old	10/25/2008
Q: My daughter cries a lot for no reason. I try not to yell at her but it really upsets me because i am ... A: How is yelling at her working? Does she still cry? I suspect so. As you are the adult, stop yelling ...
shared custody of an infant	10/24/2008
Q: !! I read your article pertaining to "sean" and infant custody & I am desperate for your help! I ... A: Get an attorney now! Check out the articles and recommendations from Attachmentparenting.org and ...
Terrible twos	10/24/2008
Q: My almost two and a half year old son repeatedly tells me he doesn't like me, and tells me to go ... A: You may not like my answer. You are the parent. Is this about your need to be liked by your child? ...
3 yr old will not eat	10/23/2008
Q: I have a 3 yr old son who eats nothing but sweets and chips...I try to feed him other things but he ... A: I am surprised. A child who eats nothing but sweets and chips has been given the choice of eating ...
"Effects of not having your biological father present through preschool years."	10/22/2008
Q: Something my mother finally confirmed at age 21, my father was not my biological father. I was ... A: If your asking my personal opinion here it is. Of course to one extent or another it has an impact. ...
Potty Training	10/22/2008
Q: I have read your answers on potty training, and I am still going to ask my question because my ... A: I have answered this question so many times that I have nothing new to offer you that I have not ...
temper tantrams	10/21/2008
Q: my grandaughter is 15mos old,she has recently started having tantrams. she'll fling herself ... A: It is a stage and she will outgrow it. First of all IGNORE her. Do not try and talk her out of her ...
7 month old	10/20/2008
Q: How do I wean my baby off the pacifier? He is extremely attached to it, and needs it solely for ... A: I don't have too many suggestions for you. My babies all sucked their thumbs and slept with me so I ...
sleeping through the night	10/16/2008
Q: I am a first time mom and have been blessed with what most would call a "good" baby. Levi has been ... A: Sounds like a growth spurt coming on. You have been blessed and maybe a bit spoiled by your baby. ...
2 month old feeding pattern	10/16/2008
Q: my son is around 2 months old. I breastfeed him. He breastfeeds for hardly 10 or 15 minutes and ... A: If he is gaining weight, sleeping and not crying then he is probably fine. Your milk supply will ...
7 month old slamming her head on floor	10/15/2008
Q: I have a 7 month old baby, who for the most part is very very good. She is sitting, crawling, even ... A: I think she could hurt herself too. I think that when you know she does this that maybe putting her ...
2 years old daughter Behavior Issue	10/12/2008
Q: I have a two year and 2 Months old daughter has few behavioral Issues 1) Throw things when angry ... A: Sounds like you have a normal 2 year old. I would focus on reading her books about good behaviors. ...
6 month old leaving our house for good	10/12/2008
Q: I'm sorry if this is so long but I've gone through all the other questions and nothing relates to my ... A: I am so sorry you and the baby are going through so much. No the SW does not always know what they ...
shared custody	10/8/2008
Q: I have a one month old daughter with my ex-girlfriend. We would like to set up a shared custody ... A: I understand what you want. What I am saying is what you want right now is not as important as what ...
shared custody	10/7/2008
Q: I have a one month old daughter with my ex-girlfriend. We would like to set up a shared custody ... A: You may not like my answer. It is not in the best interest of any infant or toddler to have ...
3 1/2 year old behavior at school	10/7/2008
Q: I have a 3 1/2 year old son (he'll be 4 in Feb)who has just recently been acting up at school. They ... A: I have a couple of suggestions for you. He sounds frustrated and angry. Maybe he doesn't do well ...
4year son	10/6/2008
Q: My 4yr. old has not been diagnosed with a learning disability but we noticed he do not response to ... A: All children develop at their own pace. Those developmental milestones are based on a measure of ...
joint custody	10/5/2008
Q: The mother of my 18 mo.old and I share custody of our son. He is with me at my home for 3-4 days ... A: If you both as his parents are working things out in an adult manner by talking through things and ...
Potty training 3yr old	10/3/2008
Q: My son is almost 3 1/2 and still refuses to potty train. I have tried everything. He know when he ... A: This is not what you want to hear. Boys often take longer than girls to train. Throw out the ...
i am a single mother to a very aggressive 3year old boy(does not listen at all)	9/29/2008
Q: Help! He screams, fights me and others, cusses, throws things, but the hardest one for me is he runs ... A: He is 3 years old, totally out of control and what you are doing is not working. I strongly ...
Adopting 21 month old seperation anxiety child	9/29/2008
Q: My husband and I are adopting a little girl, our cousin who has been in foster care since she was ... A: It sounds to me like you are doing a wonderful job. I hear your concern about leaving her and you ...
Potty Training	9/27/2008
Q: My daughter became potty trained about when she was about three years old. Now at 3 1/2 she is ... A: Sometimes little ones just regress. There is no magic cure. Just ignore it and outwait her. It is ...
Should I stop the pre-k class?	9/25/2008
Q: Jana is 2.5 years old. I am a dentist but stopped working since I had Jana. We live in egypt and I ... A: We are talking about a 2.5 year old here. Stop letting others tell you what is best for your child. ...
trouble with naps...	9/22/2008
Q: My little guy is now 9 weeks old. He has always been a good sleeper at night, but REALLY struggles ... A: Kudos to you as you are already doing alot right. Now I have two more suggestions for you which may ...
4-year old sons sleep issues	9/21/2008
Q: I have 3 children, 13-year old daughter, 4 year-old son, and 2-month old son. The youngest doesn't ... A: I can imagine how sleep deprived you all must be getting. You do however know what is wrong as you ...
1 year old, night waking	9/18/2008
Q: I have a 14 month old who I am fostering(he is also my great nephew)he's been here 6 months. He is ... A: I have an easy solution. Stop letting him cry. Pick him up and either rock him to sleep or let him ...
10 month old - change in sleep habits	9/18/2008
Q: My 10-month old has always been a fantastic sleeper (both nap time and night time). He takes the ... A: No getting him back up doesn't change the routine that you put him down in the first place. He had ...
10 month old - change in sleep habits	9/17/2008
Q: My 10-month old has always been a fantastic sleeper (both nap time and night time). He takes the ... A: I just want to scream when I read these postings! :) LOL This 10 month old has no sense of time and ...
My step- son	9/16/2008
Q: My step-son is 3 yrs. old and recently his mother filed for temporary full custody because she ... A: My advice to you is to step aside and let these two parents work this out. STAY out of the line of ...
4 week old sleep	9/16/2008
Q: My 4 week old daughter, is generally very content. I breastfeed her every 3 hours, and try to get ... A: First of all you are trying to schedule her life. She is 4 weeks old and she has no sense of time ...
Baby always wanting to be carried	9/15/2008
Q: I am here again.My daughter is now 9.5mths old, she is teething and also started crawling.Just to ... A: I do grant one follow up question per customer however repeats are not accepted. I would prefer you ...
Separation Anxiety	9/14/2008
Q: I have a 13 month old boy who has always been clingy and whiny. He only wants me or my mom who ... A: Treating separation anxiety with more separation would cure what exactly? I suggest getting down ...
help	9/12/2008
Q: I'm the mother of 2 my daughter 8 and my son 3 my daughter was much different then my son who is out ... A: Where has he learned that hitting will get him what he wants? Does someone hit him when he doesn't ...
3yr old boy who has teritorial issues	9/12/2008
Q: I have a 3 yr old boy who just started school. He is my only child. I was just asked to stay in ... A: Okay first of all this is not about YOU. You need to stop the crying and beating up on yourself. ...
4 year old son	9/12/2008
Q: I am at a loss. My son is turning 4 next week and he has issues with not being able to keep his ... A: There are lots of children's books about appropriate behaviors. I highly recommend reading those on ...
Dealing with my son's fears	9/11/2008
Q: I have a 5 year old. He is a very loving child, he loves to play with his sister (3 yrs) but he is ... A: I am sure you are very worried about your son. I would act upon this worry and get him screened by a ...
Extreme Tiredness	9/10/2008
Q: I have a 14 month old toddler and she seems to do nothing but sleep. She'll go to bed at 8:30, sleep ... A: Although each child is different and what is normal is defined on a total population of children at ...
Toddler issues adjusting to daycare	9/9/2008
Q: I recently started my 2 1/2 year old at a daycare two days a week. He screams and cries when I ... A: Feel free to peruse through previously answered questions in case I forget something. This is a ...
12 month old screaming	9/8/2008
Q: I have tried taking my 12 month old to his daycare. 3 out of the 4 days she has called me to pick ... A: Feel free to peruse through previously answered questions in case I forget something. This is a ...
3 yr.old dealing with the Death of her father.	9/7/2008
Q: My niece has recently lost her husband to Cancer. They have a 3 year old daughter who adored her ... A: They don't really understand at this age. Remember they have a hard time knowing the difference ...
14-month old biting	9/7/2008
Q: I'd like to first thank you for taking the time to read my question. I have a 14 month old girl who ... A: Biting is always a challenge for parents. I strongly encourage you to run to the book store. There ...
hitting	9/6/2008
Q: My 18 month likes to hit. He also will push other babies heads down if there crawling. It makes me ... A: There are great children's books which teach children socially appropriate behaviors and even more ...
Holding in BMs	9/5/2008
Q: My almost 4 year old periodically holds in her BMs. We went through a severe phase when she was ... A: Steph: You may not like my answer and actually you provided it yourself. "She is a VERY stubborn ...
How much is too much?	9/4/2008
Q: I have a 21-month-old son who is very independent. However, his grandma believes that he is so ... A: Your finding this hurtful concerns me. He is not hear to make you feel good. You are the parent. ...
Try to teach a 2 year old to chew	9/4/2008
Q: Ok i have tried to show him to chew while i have food in my mouth and food in his mouth, but by the ... A: You need to sit the mom down and make her show you how she feeds him. Don't allow her to say no. If ...
Toddler sleeping all night	9/4/2008
Q: I have 18 month old twins and am having trouble with getting one of them to sleep all night. They ... A: Well sometimes them sleeping with you can be a quick solution. However, if you are not inclined to ...
How much is too much?	9/3/2008
Q: I have a 21-month-old son who is very independent. However, his grandma believes that he is so ... A: Well you are both right. It is important to hold a baby alot. However he is 21 months old. If he ...
when to say no-no	9/2/2008
Q: I have 6 month old twin boys and I was wondering when to start saying no-no ? They are just ... A: Good questions. I avoid saying no as much as possible because that is usually all children hear ...
THREATENED VIOLENCE AGAINST 3 YR OLD	9/1/2008
Q: A 4 yr old boy in my granddaughter's class told her he was going to get a knife and kill her 3 yr ... A: I am not an expert in the area of school administration. However, this is how I would handle ...
5 year old with temper and anger issues	8/31/2008
Q: My wife and I have a daughter, 9, a son, 7, and a son, 5. The 5 year old is very angry, has a bad ... A: You are not going to appreciate my response. I am continuously surprised when parents write me and ...
grandsons speech	8/29/2008
Q: My grandson is your typical 2 year old, in to everything and learning the limits. His speech is ok ... A: Children love to make sounds and hear the sounds they make. He could just be enjoying his own ...
speech delay in toddler	8/29/2008
Q: My granddaughter will be 3 yrs old in Oct. She is not speaking in sentences and the very short ... A: It is well researched that children who are read to on a consistent basis do develop with large ...
16 month old doesn't want to nap anymore	8/27/2008
Q: My 16 month old son doesn't seem to want to nap anymore. He has been sleeping through the night from ... A: Well what your doing has worked in the past however it is obviously not working for either of you ...
Daughter scratching herself	8/27/2008
Q: My 19-month-old daughter scratches the top of her rear end (near her lower back) on the right side ... A: No I don't I am not a medical doctor. I would ask your doctor. I also would think about whether or ...
14 month old son pottying	8/27/2008
Q: i have been wondering whether or not to start potty training my 14 month old son. Whenever he has to ... A: Please do trust your instincts as they are very good. YES a child who shows this much interest and ...
grandson	8/26/2008
Q: I have had guardianship of my grandson for over a year now. The maternal side of the family has ... A: Trust your instincts. It sounds to me like you already know what you would be comfortable with and ...
hugh separation anxiety with Daycare	8/22/2008
Q: My daughter is 2.5. She has been going to the same daycare lady for a year, 3 days a week and still ... A: The upside of separation anxiety is she is truly attached to her caregivers. This is preferable to a ...
My two year old Daughter	8/22/2008
Q: My daughter, as a baby was so relaxed and gentle but now that she is almost two she is not nice, ... A: You will never have the same child back because she has had unpleasant experiences and she is older. ...
8.5 months old doesnt want to sit on high chair	8/21/2008
Q: Hi!! Kay, my daughter used to sit very nicely on the high chair and eat.But since abt 15 days she ... A: First of all you cannot MAKE a child do anything. She sounds like she has developed a fear of her ...
My 2 year old daughter is always upset and crying when her wish is not done...	8/20/2008
Q: I am a Filipina married to a Korean and my daughter was born in Philippines. We moved here in Korea ... A: I am sorry you are so frustrated. I think you daughter is getting the worst of it. I am always ...
Baby can't sleep without Bottle	8/18/2008
Q: I have 18 Month Old Daughter named Lana. My Wife and I have been trying to get Lana off the bottle ... A: Sounds like the bottle is more about her comfort. If you are determined to get her off then try ...
My 9 month old	8/18/2008
Q: I have a question and I am hoping you can help me out! I am a stay at home mom of a 9 month old, and ... A: I am so sorry you and your little one are having such a rough time! Do peruse through all of my ...
teething	8/17/2008
Q: is this normal or are they even teeth can there be anything else wrong? A: I am not a dentist. You need to get him in so a doctor/dentist can look at his gums and see what if ...
Change in behaviour 13 mth boy	8/14/2008
Q: I have a beautiful baby boy who is a joy and very easy. In the last few weeks he has begun to change ... A: Let's begin with his showing a preference for his dad. Infants and toddlers often begin to show ...
Childminding problems	8/11/2008
Q: Our 19 month old girl hates going to the child minder. She started going at 12 months and loved it. ... A: I am not sure what you mean by a childminder. I think you are speaking of a sitter? If you child ...
restless sleep	8/9/2008
Q: I have an 18 month old son that has always been rocked to sleep then put in his crib. He has slept ... A: He sounds like he needs a good consistent bedtime routine. Look through the prior listings, there ...
sleep deprived	8/7/2008
Q: My 6.5 month old wakes up every hour during the night. I put him to sleep around 8:30pm and he will ... A: Have you tried a night massage? If not check out my prior postings about bedtime routines. Also, ask ...
4 YR, OLD OUT OF CONTROL	8/7/2008
Q: I recently visited my three grandchildren who live out of state. 4 yr old grandson, 18 mos old ... A: First of all he is four years old and he has not one but two siblings under the age of 2. He sounds ...
talking	8/5/2008
Q: i am concerned about my 18 month old she does say some words and on occasion whole sentences but the ... A: Anytime you are concerned of course you should talk to the doctor. All children develop at different ...
5 yr old does not mind and won't go to bed	8/1/2008
Q: my 40 yr old divorced son and my 5 yr old grandchild are coming for 2 weeks to visit. This childs ... A: You will not like my answer. This, “I can not stand to have this child here." Is your problem. ...
Nursery	7/30/2008
Q: My 15 month old son eats really well, so im told, at nursery with a spoon and fork but will not ... A: I am hoping you have the small children size spoons and forks? You can even get the ones which have ...
baby does not turn sideways	7/30/2008
Q: Hi! Kelly my daughter is now 8 months old but she does not turn to her sides.She lifts her neck and ... A: What does her doctor say? If you doctor says she is okay then stop worrying. All children progress ...
Normal?	7/29/2008
Q: My son is 32 months old and is intellectually very advanced for his age. He is also full of energy ... A: Not the silent treatment if you are angry at him. Not engaging with him has a different feeling to a ...
Infant temper tantrum	7/28/2008
Q: My 9 month old daughter recently started to throw a temper tantrum at naptimes, but is still going ... A: For whatever reason she doesn't want that afternoon nap. It maybe that 2 naps a day is too much for ...
Normal?	7/27/2008
Q: My son is 32 months old and is intellectually very advanced for his age. He is also full of energy ... A: You may not like my answer however I am not here to tell you what you want to hear. 1st. You said ...
3 Year Old Behavior Problems	7/23/2008
Q: My son just turned 3 years old and is a very bright little boy. However the problem lies with his ... A: Sounds to me like grandma and grandpa could use an updated parenting course. They have him and they ...
3 year old daughter distant form her dad	7/22/2008
Q: My 3 year old daughter is more closer to me(mom) than her dad. We both work full time and she is at ... A: You may not like my answer. The problem is not how to get your daughter close to your husband. That ...
strategies	7/16/2008
Q: i would like to know some strategies to use for when an infant is hitting another infant in the ... A: You are asking these three questions about infants? Not toddlers? An infant can only do these things ...
Sleeping problems	7/16/2008
Q: I have a daughter who is about to turn 2 years old and she has been changing as far as her sleeping ... A: I found your question in the question pool. This means someone else was not available to answer your ...
Difficult In-Home Daycare to Preschool Transition	7/14/2008
Q: I have two daughters, the oldest is 3yrs 7mos, the youngest will be two next month. Since four ... A: This may offend you however, this is a very long description of what is happening with your girls ...
Hitting and loving	7/13/2008
Q: My Toddler is 2yrs 4 months and a very strong willed added on top of the T 2's. Anyway Im ... A: Well there are probably many reasons she could be acting this way. My first reaction is to find out ...
3 1/2 grandson is acting out	7/12/2008
Q: My 3 1/2 grandson has started kicking and pinching his mom and today he urinated on the floor twice ... A: There maybe several reasons he is acting out. Some of which you have already mentioned. The most ...
2 and a half yr old sleep problem	7/9/2008
Q: I have a 1 yr old girl and a 2 and a half yr old boy. We r australian but have moved to spain 2 ... A: As you can tell I am not Evelyn. I found your question in the question pool which means someone else ...
my toddler "humps"	7/9/2008
Q: I am a mother of a 3yr old daughter, and she has been doing this "humping" thing for about 2 yrs. I ... A: Your child humps because she likes to and it feels good to her. I know it is disconcerting to you ...
2 years still sleeping with Mom and Dad	7/8/2008
Q: My daughter has been sleeping with us since the day she was born. When she was about 1 and a half we ... A: Well parenting can be a challenge especially when we don't get the results we want fast enough. ...
Toddler with compulsive jumping	7/8/2008
Q: My daughter, Jenna, is almost four years old now and is jumping all the time it seems. It started ... A: It could be an ocd but unless she is harming herself or someone else, it appears to be ...
Gassy baby	7/4/2008
Q: My baby is gassy and she passes motion once in 2 days. She is 2.5 months old and not a pre mature ... A: Ashwini: First you are concern so there is a concern. Check with your pediatrician to make sure ...
Toddler sleep	7/3/2008
Q: My daughter who is 2.5yrs comes home from nursery about 6pm. I give her dinner at 6.30 and then its ... A: Generally speaking when children are having a hard time getting to bed it is all about too much ...
2 yr old granddaughter	7/2/2008
Q: My concern is my son was incarcerated 2 months ago and his daughter's mom has been telling her that ... A: No one has to say anything to her for her to be afraid her mother will leave her. After all dad is ...
Daughter afraid of her aunt	6/29/2008
Q: My daughter is completely terrified of my sister-in-law and I don't know what to do. Anytime she ... A: You stated, "She doesn't see my sister-in-law a lot," it could be stranger anxiety. Regardless she ...
my aggresive todler	6/29/2008
Q: My cousin moved away last week and her 3-year-old toddler Zoey has been living with us for about 7 ... A: I am not sure what message slapping a child or otherwise responding in a negative manner to the ...
granddaughter's bowel movements	6/25/2008
Q: My granddaughter is 2.9 yr. old, she has been using the toilet for months now. However, she refuses ... A: Make sure she is getting plenty of water and juice to loosen her stools and then let her be. There ...
worried Gran	6/23/2008
Q: PLEASE help. I have been looking after my grandson since he was six months old. Everything went ... A: I know this is hard on you as you probably feel rejected. I don't think that is what is happening in ...
Excessive Screaming... and does not socialise	6/22/2008
Q: I have a 2 yr. old daughter of late she has been screaming a lot...u don't do a thing that she wants ... A: She is 2 and 2 year olds often have separation anxiety to deal with which means they want to spend ...
Bottle of milk	6/20/2008
Q: I moved from my country when my son was 18 months. As this is a huge challenge for us, I didn't try ... A: Here is my hint. Leave him alone and he will give it up eventually. How many children do you see ...
Disciplining a 1.5 year-old infant	6/19/2008
Q: Was the following disciplining of a 1.5 year-old infant appropriate? ... A: Punishment is never effective. I think time out has the same underlying motivation that spanking ...
3 yr. olds behavior problems	6/17/2008
Q: My grandson will be 3 in about 6 weeks. He is incredibly disagreeable and defiant almost always ... A: You are describing patterns of extreme holding. He wants everything to be his and it is most likely ...
My pinching 5 year old	6/16/2008
Q: My daughter is 5 and constantly pinches other kids. I think she is doing this to get their ... A: It sounds like she knows why she is pinching other children. I strongly encourage you to find her ...
3 year old fell and refuses to walk	6/15/2008
Q: My almost 3 year old daughter fell down a week ago while running down the hallway in our home. She ... A: I am not a medical professional. Your doctor is your best source of advice. However, when my ...
Potty Training 3 year old	6/13/2008
Q: my daughter is almost 3 1/2. We have been potty training since she was about 2. I wasn't really ... A: Don't apologize if you will read past posting by other parents you will find comfort that you are ...
grandchilds upsetting behavior	6/10/2008
Q: my 2.5 year old granddaughter has lived in our home since birth but for a couple of breif times when ... A: First of all children masturbating is not uncommon. Children often self soothe in this manner. It is ...
my 4 year old	6/7/2008
Q: I have a 4 yr. we have been together since he was 2 1/2. he goes back and forth us and his mom for a ... A: I am confused you have a 4 year old who has been with you since he was 2 1/2? Is this your stepson? ...
OCD in a 2 year old	6/7/2008
Q: My grandson obsesses about car keys with the keyless entry device attached. That is all he seems to ... A: He doesn't sound obsessed. He is focused. His style of learning about objects is to focus upon them ...
Infant sleeping habits	6/5/2008
Q: I am the mother of 7 months old baby. My baby could not sleep for more than two hours. He sleeps at ... A: Manjulika It is normal for any child to want to be with their mother all the time. It is just ...
urination	6/5/2008
Q: My 2 1/2 year old daughter is potty trained and uses the bathroom before bed (8 pm) but does not pee ... A: If you think she is holding it too long. Then simply suggest she go sooner. Give her some rewards or ...
Infant sleeping habits	6/1/2008
Q: I am the mother of 7 months old baby. My baby could not sleep for more than two hours. He sleeps at ... A: The best way to get a baby to sleep more is to develop consistent bedtime routines. Start by reading ...
The infamous	5/28/2008
Q: My daughter will be 21 months next week, she has been showing signs of intrest toward the toilet. ... A: It sounds like she is off to a great start. Maybe your expectations are too high for a beginner. ...
bizzarre behavior	5/23/2008
Q: i had a phone conversation with a friend who's son plays with a very mean toddler. she listed some ... A: Not all cases but many times this can be an indication of someone abusing the child. I would do more ...
keeping my toddler happy and my baby safe	5/22/2008
Q: I have a 21 month old daughter and a 7 month old son who just learned to crawl. My daughter as been ... A: You have your hands full and your work cut out for you. Try and include your almost 2 year old in ...
possible disability signs	5/20/2008
Q: My husbands son is 10 years old. From what we understand with the school, he does not communicate ... A: Your husband has joint custody and has as much legal right to request re-testing as his mother. He ...
possible disability signs	5/14/2008
Q: My husbands son is 10 years old. From what we understand with the school, he does not communicate ... A: There are many signs of autism and they vary depending upon the severity of the autism. I suggest ...
late night feeding/sleep issues	5/10/2008
Q: My son is 17mos. At bedtime after all lights are dimmed and stories are read I give him a warms ... A: Well the good news is you are doing quite well. I strongly suggest reading previous answers to ...
HELP	5/9/2008
Q: My son is 17 months and he goes to daycare, they told me yesterday that he was pushing down the ... A: I would ask your doctor for a referral to a play therapist and find out where all this aggression is ...
Concerns at one year	5/8/2008
Q: My son is one year old. My biggest concern is that he is not pointing. He will reach out with his ... A: All children develop at their own pace. However, your are concerned and I would check with your ...
one year old	5/8/2008
Q: I have a 13 month old, he has a great and wonderful personailty. I am struggling because he is so ... A: Each child is different and you child seems to need you more. Each child has a different ...
Pacifier use and sleep	5/7/2008
Q: I have a 6 week old that has gotten very attached to the pacifier already. During the day, she can ... A: I have to tell you I don't put much faith into all the latest baby "book suggestions." If you are ...
My Toddler Grabs the toys of other Kids	5/6/2008
Q: I have a boy, 1 year 4 month kid who has a new habit of grabbing the toys of older kids. Usually ... A: Your son is 16 months old and you are asking if it is normal for him to grab toys. Yes, it is ...
Pacifier use and sleep	5/5/2008
Q: I have a 6 week old that has gotten very attached to the pacifier already. During the day, she can ... A: It is interesting she only wants the pacifier during the day. Is she feeling anxious? I often advise ...
3 year old who's not sleeping	5/1/2008
Q: I am not sure where to start but I guess I have to start somewhere. My husband and I have 2 ... A: This is a very common question. Feel free to peruse through previously answered questions. What you ...
bonding	5/1/2008
Q: I have had guardianship of my grandson since Aug 16, 07, he was 18 months at the time. Is is ... A: Without knowing more about the circumstances of how you ended up with your grandson in your care it ...
premi babies	3/7/2008
Q: My sister just had twin boys Monday evening. Her ped. told her that she should keep them away from ... A: You didn't say how premature these twins were, however, they probably wouldn't have gone home if ...
My son will not nap on weekends!	3/1/2008
Q: My 20 mo. old son attends daycare during the week and typically naps between 2-3 hours without a ... A: Maybe he just misses you during the week and wants to stay a wake on the weekends. First check your ...
Is my Son Teething	2/20/2008
Q: My Son is 6months and 4 weeks old.. and from yesterday he started to refuse eating solids like ... A: Priya: Sometimes children are teething however it is also very common for children to get sore ...
grandson	2/19/2008
Q: could you tell me what would cause a three year old to hit people(including doctors)keeps saying ... A: Well children do not often develop behaviors they have not seen. They model what they see and hear. ...
18 month bully	2/19/2008
Q: I have and 18 mo. who is acting out in his class by hitting and pushing the kids smaller than him. ... A: My frist reaction is that he must be receiving this treatment himself somewhere. You may want to see ...
Todder not eating at the nursery	2/18/2008
Q: My 15 month old daughter has just started going to nursery 2 days a week. She was at home full time ... A: Certainly children do adjust. You may want to find out what is different about the food. Is it ...
terrible 2s	2/14/2008
Q: hi i have a 2 year old son who can be very sweet but also very bold tantrums spiting at myself ... A: First of all STOP giving him any attention when he acts out. It hasn't worked for your so far, ...
sleeping	2/11/2008
Q: My 9 month old can fall asleep on her own and does so at naptime and when she wakes most times ... A: What is your rush? Possibly she is just hungry at night. Taking the feedings away may cause you more ...
Multi-language babies	2/6/2008
Q: I am looking for a daycare for my 5 month old daughter (we live in Israel). I found someone really ... A: There are many different opinions about exposing infants to different cultural languages. Experts ...
Potty Trained 3-year old	2/4/2008
Q: I have a daughter who just turned 3-yrs old end of November, she has been potty-trained since the ... A: Understanding the why isn't going to really make you feel any better. You mention both children ...
Bed Time	2/3/2008
Q: My 18month old nephew has always been a great sleeper. He Has always gone right to bed and settelled ... A: Who knows, he maybe reacting to something new in his daily routine, he maybe having nightmares, it ...
Toddler girl stubborn and won't sleep at night	1/30/2008
Q: OUR FIRST BORN. ONLY HAS SLEPT THROUGH NIGHT DOZ.TIMES IN 2-1/2 YRS. 2ND BABY NOW 9 MO'S, HE ... A: First of all it sounds like your daughter is angry. She probably is hurting because she is no longer ...
1 year old - temper - screaming	1/29/2008
Q: I REALLY need help with this. Our 1 yr old daughter will scream (as if in intolerable pain) when she ... A: You have to make up your mind whether or not you want her to run your life for the next 18 years or ...
Tantrums	1/27/2008
Q: I am looking for some advice about my just-turned-3 son. His tantrums and mood swings are exhausting ... A: I can hear that you are frustrated and that you are challenged by this child's behavior. I have to ...
temper tantrums in INFANTS	1/27/2008
Q: My 5 month old granddaughter has a temper I have never seen in this age child. She arches her back ... A: At five months it maybe temperament. Different children have different temperaments. She sounds ...
Daughter not adjusting well to K4	1/25/2008
Q: My daughter started K4 this past September and she still gets quite upset when I drop her off in the ... A: Well the good news is she loves her parents. The down side is that it will be an adjustment for her ...
Toddler w/ Food Texture Issues	1/24/2008
Q: I'm hoping you can help me! My son is 2 yrs, 3 mos old. Up until he turned 2, he would only eat ... A: Sometimes this answering questions is a bit tricky over the Internet. I hope I did not offend you in ...
how to deal with 4 year olds meaness	1/23/2008
Q: My grandson Connor was located in Cali away from his father & me "Nana" and in a situation where his ... A: He has you and your love. While this should be enough I would strongly encourage you to get him into ...
GRANDSON MOTOR SKILLS	1/23/2008
Q: I am very worried about my grandson, he is 11 months old and he looks like he is developing very ... A: All children develop at their own pace. Developmental milestones (behaviors at certain ages) are ...
My 18 month old grand daughter.	1/23/2008
Q: She can not even say one word. I am really concerned, but I can't approach my son with this because ... A: You should be curious. An 18 month old who is not talking may not be talking for a variety of ...
Toddler w/ Food Texture Issues	1/22/2008
Q: I'm hoping you can help me! My son is 2 yrs, 3 mos old. Up until he turned 2, he would only eat ... A: Let me get this straight. The experts are telling you there is no problem and you are determined ...
My Child seems anxious	1/21/2008
Q: My 2 year old has always been sensitive to his environment and cautious about new places and people. ... A: First give up the embarrassment. You start worrying about what others think of your child's behavior ...
Eating Habits & teething	1/16/2008
Q: Our son will be 6 months old next week. a few days ago he started to refuse the formula. yet he has ... A: If he is refusing the bottle right now there isn't much you can do to make him take it. You are ...
Poo phobia	1/11/2008
Q: My son is four next month and due to start School in August. However, he clearly has poo phobia and ... A: I would try massaging him before it is time to go to the bathroom. Massage lowers anxiety, lowers ...
I need help	1/6/2008
Q: my name is Stacey and I am a 29 yr old mother of 3 boys. My problem is is that I feel I have already ... A: You are not failing you just need more support. I strongly encourage you to find a local parenting ...
toddler sleeping habits	1/5/2008
Q: Our 2 year old daughter has just begun to fall asleep before we do, but she still wakes up in the ... A: The best advice for good parents is to stop worrying so much. She is two...she won't be two forever ...
Sleep challenges at daycare only	1/3/2008
Q: My daughter goes to daycare for 10 hours, 4 days a week. She is 14 mos. old and in a room that has ... A: First of all recognize that this is a very stressful schedule for both of you. Next, what you can ...
helping my daughter to become independant	1/3/2008
Q: I have an 18 month old baby girl, she is my first baby. I have always been a very independent ... A: Your baby girl is 18 months old. Please let's not worry about the rest of her life. Probably she is ...
discipline	1/3/2008
Q: I need advice on how to discipline twin toddler prescool boys while I am in a wheelchair.The ... A: I am sure this is a great challenge for you. I strongly suggest you find parenting support groups ...
Happy shrieking	1/2/2008
Q: My 13 month old son has taken to squealing at the top of his lungs, especially when we're out in ... A: He maybe enjoying the sound of his own voice. He will get bored with this in time without any ...
children in the middle of a divorce	1/2/2008
Q: My mother had written you shortly ago in reference to my 3 1/2 year old daughter pooping behind the ... A: I am glad your little one is doing better and the advice helped you both. I don't see a problem ...
Won't hold bottle.	1/2/2008
Q: I have a 10 month old daughter that has been bottle fed from day one. All other babies her age and ... A: You have a perfectly wonderful baby who won't hold her bottle? Could it be that she prefers your ...
Peeing of pants by 6 yr old	1/2/2008
Q: I am the grandmother of a boy who turned 7 years old today (Jan 2). His parents are divorced - ... A: A child having pee accidents at the age of 7 needs to see first a pediatrician to rule out any ...
shy 5 year old	12/30/2007
Q: Our 5 year old daughter is extremely shy. She won't talk to any grownups (aunts, uncles, neighbors, ... A: Regardless of what I think or what the doctor thinks, how is what you are doing working for you and ...
Happy shrieking	12/29/2007
Q: My 13 month old son has taken to squealing at the top of his lungs, especially when we're out in ... A: He is getting way too much attention from you and your husband when he is shrieking. You change your ...
8mth Old Crying Uncontrollably	12/28/2007
Q: I have an 8 mth old son who has been crying uncontrollably since birth. I talked to his doctor about ... A: Poor little guy and you poor parents. Colic is so painful for babies. Realize this is terribly ...
preschooler suddenlt anxious and clingy	12/28/2007
Q: my daughter, who will be 4 in January, has always been, until recently, exceptionally gregarious and ... A: Your 4 year old seems to have a very active life. Maybe your husbands leaving and the change in ...
My 1 yr old boy dislikes me	12/27/2007
Q: My little boy is 12 months old, And I am having a really hard time because I feel like he hates me. ... A: Now that you have explained it this way it is a different set of issues. The issue is with the ...
My 1 yr old boy dislikes me	12/26/2007
Q: My little boy is 12 months old, And I am having a really hard time because I feel like he hates me. ... A: I am more concerned about you and this perspective that your child does not like you. This is not a ...
My babys head circumference	12/21/2007
Q: When I took my 7 month old baby to her Dr. appt. yesterday they told that her head has increased in ... A: I can hear the terror in your letter. You need to ask your doctor more questions. Often when things ...
what to feed a 8 month old?	12/18/2007
Q: My 8 month old daughter refuse to eat baby food and only wants to eat what I'm eating. She does eat ... A: Well I am prejudice. Breastmilk is best. Babies don't really need solid food much before a year. If ...
19 month old cries constantly	12/18/2007
Q: My 19 month old son has been crying/whining over everything for the past 4-5 months. It is really ... A: I can understand how frustrated and tire you must be. Have you checked to see if he is getting his ...
Baby sucking on hands a LOT	12/16/2007
Q: Our son (7 months old) is beginning to teethe and for the past 6 weeks or so has been sucking on his ... A: Evidently it is harder on you than it is on him as he is showing a preference for his hands over the ...
2yr old son cries so hard that he throws up everytime	12/15/2007
Q: Keller, I am writing to you regarding my 2 year old son. He seems to be very stubborn in ... A: I hope whoever told you to let him cry it out for awhile did not share this advice with you when he ...
possible sexualized behavior	12/14/2007
Q: I have a two and a half year old boy, he is still breastfed for comfort and sleepy time, but other ... A: Let's start with the tummy touching. Not a biggie unless he is forcing other children to let him ...
crawling	12/12/2007
Q: my daughter has started scooting. she is 44 weeks old and i was wondering and thinking that she ... A: Your daughter is roughly 10 months old and all children develop at different points in their ...
transition from a crib to a bed	12/11/2007
Q: My daughter just turned 2 on Nov. 18. She loves her crib. We are moving in January to a new house ... A: NO! Moving, trying to have a new baby and switching from a crib? How much is a 2 year old suppose to ...
Right Age to speak	12/11/2007
Q: I have a nephew which is going to be three on January 1,2008 but has not started uttering even a ... A: If this child is your nephew and you do not have custody of him you would not be able to consult a ...
Twins	12/9/2007
Q: I have 1yr old twins a boy & a girl, I was wondering what activity to do with them? I was thinking ... A: Sounds like considering the weather is cold you are doing a great job of providing activities. Maybe ...
Malicious 3 year old anger	12/8/2007
Q: Our son who has been three for about four months has been acting out in a very malicious way when he ... A: It is normal for children to get angry and act out when they don't get their own way. I am more ...
Crib Time	12/4/2007
Q: How long is it ok to leave your baby in the crib in the morning once they have woken up? If she is ... A: If your child is enjoying their play there is nothing wrong with letting them play. However, if you ...
my 2 year old daughter seems to dislike her daddy	11/29/2007
Q: My husband and I have a 2-year old daughter. He is disabled and stays home while I work retail full ... A: My answer is based upon what little you have told me. What first strikes me is this all seems to be ...
my 2 year old	11/28/2007
Q: i'm so tense i really need sum advice. plz help. i'm a mother of two. my daughter Amal is 2 years ... A: First of all your husband needs to understand that hitting a child will only make them more angry ...
hi	11/28/2007
Q: my 18 yr old boy will not response when i call and he keeps on playing...he is not pointing the ... A: It sounds as if you are worried about his hearing. By all means trust your instincts and have him ...
grandaughter pooping behind chair	11/27/2007
Q: My 3 1/2 year old granddaughter who has been potty trained (dry all the time, for over 6 months) ... A: You said it best in your own words. "She seems to be stressed." The first thing you can both do is ...
16 month old temper tantrums	11/26/2007
Q: I am a mother of two boys. My oldest is 4 1/2 and very calm and usually even tempered. My youngest ... A: Sounds like he is challenged using his words. Have you been teaching him how to identify his ...
23 month old won't sleep in his room	11/16/2007
Q: he has slept inmy bed up until last week and wakes@least 3 times everynight, I am now working part ... A: Well I will start with the toddler not sleeping and look past you dealing with this on your own (why ...
baby	11/14/2007
Q: My daughter recently turned 9 months old, and at her check up, her weight was 18 lbs 14 oz, 27 1/2 ... A: The doctor said she is fine, you say she is doing fine. Is there any logical reason you would need ...
will be 3 in Feb	11/12/2007
Q: my grandson will be 3 in Feb, is in a mothers day out program two days a week and is on the trail as ... A: Absolutely do stop. For so many reasons I could go into and the most important one is it is ...
will be 3 in Feb	11/11/2007
Q: my grandson will be 3 in Feb, is in a mothers day out program two days a week and is on the trail as ... A: It is not a boy thing and probably best not to go that direction as it just gives excuses for ...
will be 3 in Feb	11/8/2007
Q: my grandson will be 3 in Feb, is in a mothers day out program two days a week and is on the trail as ... A: Sounds like he is frustrated. You mentioned he has a hard time communicating. Has he been evaluated ...
M 3yr. old is having a hard time	11/7/2007
Q: I have 2 children, a 5 yr. old and a 3 yr.old. My son up until a few months ago has been quite ... A: You son is exhibiting signs of abuse. Regardless of whether or not the other mother is working with ...
potty training	11/7/2007
Q: She has been potty training for about 6 weeks. She has had no pee accidents since the first week but ... A: She maybe trying to tell you she doesn't feel emotionally ready to be a big girl. You and she maybe ...
My 18 month old is not sleeping	11/5/2007
Q: My 18 month son has been waking up many times at night screaming and waking for the day anytime ... A: Regardless of whether he had a check up a few months ago if you did not address this new behavior ...
odd behavior in 2 year old	11/1/2007
Q: my granddaughter, when first placed in a highchair at about 6 months of age, would stiffen up and ... A: This behavior will pass. However why not try and think of something she gets really excited about of ...
4 year old not sleeping well	10/29/2007
Q: You mentioned sleeping in your other answer to me. I wanted to mention that too in case you have ... A: There are lots of postings here for you to read on bedtime routines. I absolutely am not in favor of ...
sleeping	10/28/2007
Q: i have a two year old girl who has just learned to climb out of her crib. her first experience ... A: First of all a bedtime schedule is not the same as a routine. A schedule is about time and a routine ...
Question about food and my 4 year old	10/27/2007
Q: I'm trying to figure out an answer because this is making me nuts. My son is not a good eater. I'v ... A: I am not sure from what you wrote how much your 4 year old is actually eating however it doesn't ...
Positive Language	10/25/2007
Q: I am currently working with 2's and 3's. I need to know what to say and do when a child tells you ... A: Please feel free to peruse the numerous postings on positive reinforcement. Bad behavior, unless it ...
My toddler doesn't sleep	10/23/2007
Q: I have a recently turned one year old little girl who has had trouble sleeping since she was born. ... A: I found your question sitting in the question pool. Regretfully it had not been answered so I am ...
2 and a half year old Kicking, hitting and pinching	10/21/2007
Q: I have a 2 and a half year old boy. He is social and happy. Loves to sing and dance...overall a ... A: No I don't think you are being unreasonable expecting him not to hit and kick. However, you did not ...
getting my little girl off of drinking so much milk,and getting her off the bottle and eating food	10/20/2007
Q: My daughter is 2 years old. she drinks way to much milk and along with that she also is still on the ... A: Try making her food attractive to her. Making items with faces. Do a search on the internet and look ...
Daughters fighting	10/18/2007
Q: I am a 24 year old stay at home mom of two girls age one and a half and four and a half. My oldest ... A: Wow! Typically this type of violent behaviior is done first to the child and then they act it out. ...
follow-up	10/17/2007
Q: As an addendum to my previous question, we do have a routine of dinner, play, bath, pyjamas, books, ... A: It sounds like it is working for him so I wouldn't worry too much about it. Remember times are all ...
Baby refusing to feed except on the breast	10/17/2007
Q: I am a working woman resumed work 3 days ago. My 3 and a half month old baby refuses to feed on ... A: I found your posting in the question pool. Hopefully it has not been her a long time. I volunteered ...
follow-up	10/17/2007
Q: As an addendum to my previous question, we do have a routine of dinner, play, bath, pyjamas, books, ... A: Sarah: Good I am glad you have established the bedtime routines and possibly you could discuss with ...
4 year old sleep problem	10/17/2007
Q: I am the mother of a 4 year old and 2 year old. My 4 year old was a preemie; she had GERD and slept ... A: Quite bluntly, this much change in a child's life is not time for a power struggle over bedtime ...
3 yr old increased appetite and urination	10/13/2007
Q: My son will be 3 in January and latelly (past week or so) he says he is hungry within minutes after ... A: Sounds like you need a doctor's visit? Have you checked this out with his pediatrician? It maybe ...
4 1/2 year old hitting loved ones	10/11/2007
Q: My son is highly verbal and generally very well behaved, particularly at school and with outsiders. ... A: Never ignore violence. When I suggest ignoring bad behavior I am very clear we do not ignore ...
Daughter Screaming At Night	10/10/2007
Q: I am a father of a beautiful 2 & 1/2 Year old girl. Without being too proud, she is extremely well ... A: You are very perceptive of her comfort level. You don't need to take the crib away. Maybe just ...
Daughter Screaming At Night	10/9/2007
Q: I am a father of a beautiful 2 & 1/2 Year old girl. Without being too proud, she is extremely well ... A: It sounds like you may need to adjust your perspective of your daughter. She is obviously advanced ...
My 18 month old	10/8/2007
Q: I am a single parent and I'm havingtrouble leaving my son with someone when I need to run errands. ... A: Porita-Ann: It is a good thing he lets you know he doesn't want to stay with others. If he didn't I ...
after naptime crying session	10/5/2007
Q: I have a 14 month old who just started to walk, I do not know if that is relevant. My son was ... A: I know it is distressing to parents when their child is distressed. It is so because when he cries ...
Changing day-cares	10/3/2007
Q: I'm going through a divorce and have a 3 year old son. I would like to switch him from a home day ... A: Let me start by saying I am sorry you have experienced a divorce. Being a single parent is a heroic ...
bad sleeping habit	10/2/2007
Q: We recently moved, the move was difficult and on about our 3 rd night in the new house we were a;all ... A: Be patient he will get back to normal. You may try to introduce him to massage after he gets a bath. ...
My son doesn't show interest in reading books	9/30/2007
Q: My son is 23 months old. He has not started talking. He only says some word like mumma, papa etc. He ... A: Dea Ashutosh: Children and toddlers especially do not just show an interest in books naturally. ...
my 4 year old	9/30/2007
Q: I am concerned that my ex is coercing my 4 (she turned 4 today) into saying things that are untrue. ... A: Of course a 4 year old can be manipulated into saying something that isn't true if and usually only ...
2 yearl old at School	9/27/2007
Q: I have just joined my 2 year old at School. Its been one month and he goes for 3 days to school. He ... A: Even though you see other children playing near each other they are not often actually playing ...
Who is mental me or my 3 year old?	9/26/2007
Q: About 4 months ago it took my DD to her 3 year check up. As part of the developmental screening the ... A: Children do different behaviors at different ages. Developmental stages are only based upon looking ...
My Two Year old!!	9/21/2007
Q: I have an extremely energetic two year old, but I am at wits end with her. She is very mean to other ... A: Your daughter sounds like she is sensitive. Try reading the book the sensitive child by Janet ...
Food Throwing	9/21/2007
Q: My daughter is just over 12 months and has been throwing food the last week or two. She may eat a ... A: You are not going to like my answer. If she throws the food either ignore the behavior or stop ...
2 problems	9/17/2007
Q: My 4 month old son wont sleep more then 2-3 hours at a time during the night no matter how long he ... A: I did not at anytime say you were a bad mother. I regret this was the interpretation. My point to ...
2 problems	9/16/2007
Q: My 4 month old son wont sleep more then 2-3 hours at a time during the night no matter how long he ... A: I am not sure where you got the idea that a 4 month old was suppose to sleep all night long? Take ...
Toddler with extreme fear and anxiety	9/14/2007
Q: I am becoming increasingly concerned about my 2 year-old daughter. She seems to be on track ... A: Phobias and fears are very common with toddlers. Mostly due to their change in development. As they ...
preschool crying	9/11/2007
Q: My 3yr old started pre-school on Aug.20th and up until this week everything has been fine, but now ... A: Has something in her environment changed at home or at school? Three is a very young age to be ...
swaddling my 3 month old	9/10/2007
Q: I was wondering if it is okay to continue swaddling my 3 month old at nap time and bedtime. He is ... A: If you go to my website and click on services there is a toll free number to certified infant ...
swaddling my 3 month old	9/10/2007
Q: I was wondering if it is okay to continue swaddling my 3 month old at nap time and bedtime. He is ... A: Beth: Swaddle but each time leave it a little bit looser. Wean him off of it. I believe babies use ...
potty training	9/7/2007
Q: my daughter is showing some signs of potty training exmaple she holds herself even when she has a ... A: I believe in allowing the child to lead us through their own communication. By all means she seems ...
beds	9/7/2007
Q: my daughter is 2 in jan and was wondering if it would be safe to put her in a junior bed one thats ... A: I think you know your child better than anyone else. Let your instincts guide you. If she seems to ...
3yr old acting out	9/6/2007
Q: My 3yr old son is acting out. he has been getting into a lot of trouble lately at daycare. He is ... A: My point is that time out, punishing by removing items and especially spanking do not work. Why? ...
3yr old acting out	9/6/2007
Q: My 3yr old son is acting out. he has been getting into a lot of trouble lately at daycare. He is ... A: He is 3 years old. Something is causing him to act out and it sound like he is very angry about ...
baby on a plane	9/6/2007
Q: Our first baby is due November 14. We are planning a trip in mid February with the baby that will ... A: Is is safe as long as the doctor says everything is okay. You will want to check out the airlines ...
temper after naps	9/5/2007
Q: our son (25 months old) has in the last few months gotten up from his naps with a terrible temper ... A: When you say he only does this on the weekends and after he gets a nap, I wonder if he needs to be ...
4 year old	9/5/2007
Q: i was wondering if you could offer a timeline for me.i have recently found out that i have a ... A: I don't know that there is a timeline for something like this and there probably could not be. I ...
3yr sleeping	9/2/2007
Q: My boy just turned 3 last week but for many months now (not every night) he will wake up in the ... A: I have numerous posting on this site on the topic of getting children to sleep. Make sure to start ...
2 year old won't stop screaming	9/1/2007
Q: I am a two year old preschool teacher at a local church program. This is my second year and I have a ... A: She sounds like she has not had transition time. Two years olds are not ready to leave their parents ...
how to wean a 13mo old from crying all day at daycare	8/30/2007
Q: I have a in home daycare business which i have 4 3-4 yr olds and a brother of one that is 13 mos. he ... A: He is only 13 months old and is probably very anxious about separation from his mom. Have you tried ...
My toddler is keeping me up!	8/30/2007
Q: Help! My son Andy will be 2 on Monday and he decided to give me a hard time sleeping now! Here is ... A: I hope you posted this as a private posting because you telephone number is posted. I have a link on ...
OCD	8/30/2007
Q: i'm Claudia a working mom of a 3 year old girl, my question, could my little really have OCD, since ... A: I suggest find someone who is specialized in children's mental health for an evaluation. It is ...
Communication w/my 3 year old	8/24/2007
Q: My 3 1/2 year old son does not communicate well. He is extremely bright... loves to read, write, ... A: It cannot hurt to have him evaluated for autism. Fortunately these test are not uncomfortable ...
Poop Training Problem	8/24/2007
Q: My son is two and well on his way to being potty trained in most ways. We started at his demand and ... A: Honestly this one is new to me. You are not the first person to write about toddlers abstaining from ...
8 month old son	8/22/2007
Q: My son has been sleeping not well at all since we moved here to ny. He will sleep throughout the day ... A: Please due scan previous questions and answers on bedtime routines. Bedtime routines are very ...
jealous sibling?	8/22/2007
Q: I have a daughter who will be three in October, and a three month old son. My problem is, my ... A: She is three and her entire life of three years has only known attention. No matter how much ...
Sleeping and eating disorders	8/17/2007
Q: my name is Rebeca I have a 1 yr old daughter, who always like to wake up every night like around 3 ... A: Little ones often wake up at night. Their bodies are trying to get regulated to our time schedules. ...
discipline	8/16/2007
Q: My 4 year old grandson just marked all over my bedroom walls with a permanent marker. What do I ... A: I was trying to be tactful. My point was he is 4 years old, how did he get the permanent marker and ...
discipline	8/16/2007
Q: My 4 year old grandson just marked all over my bedroom walls with a permanent marker. What do I ... A: I am not an expert on getting off permanent markers so however that is dealt with would be best. ...
Curious two-year-old behavior	8/15/2007
Q: For reasons I won't go into, I've not been involved much in the lives of my one- and two-year-old ... A: Strained relationships with the parents always cause severe problems when it comes to doing what is ...
weaning from the bottle	8/14/2007
Q: My 14 month old daughter is attached to her bottle. We have gotten her to the point of drinking ... A: Giving a child a bottle at night is not only dangerous for their teeth it can also be a way for them ...
Getting my 2 year old to talk	8/13/2007
Q: I am a stay at home mom, and don't have many friends or relatives nearby with little kids. My 2 year ... A: You will want to read books to her that require her to participate. I would suggest taking her with ...
Getting my 2 year old to talk	8/13/2007
Q: I am a stay at home mom, and don't have many friends or relatives nearby with little kids. My 2 year ... A: First relax and have fun with her. Trust me she won't be little for long. As for her speaking this ...
toddler will not take NO for an answer	8/13/2007
Q: I have a 2 year old,soon to be 3 in November and I feel like he is the one in control. I work far ... A: You have several options. I would suggest a sitter until he gets his behavior under control with the ...
twins biting and hiting	8/11/2007
Q: my 22 month old twins usually play great together,but recently my son has started biting and hitting ... A: I am not an advocate of any type of harsh discipline however, you need to grab his hand and tell him ...
Potty Training Regression	8/11/2007
Q: I have a daughter who will be 3 this month. I am home with her full time. She is a very smart child ... A: Sometimes children just have potty accidents. Sometimes they may do it on purpose but more often ...
toddler will not take NO for an answer	8/11/2007
Q: I have a 2 year old,soon to be 3 in November and I feel like he is the one in control. I work far ... A: You may not like my answer. He is not the problem. I suspect you all are when he throws fits and you ...
Potty Training	8/11/2007
Q: At what age is the correct time to potty train? My daughter will be 2 on 10-10-07 and she is ... A: I would not enforce potty training I would however start acquainting her with potty training. The ...
Whining/when to start school?	8/10/2007
Q: I am a mother of two boys. My oldest is 26 months and is a happy go lucky little tike most of the ... A: Sometimes when children are feeling left behind because of a new baby or a major change in their ...
whinning infant	8/8/2007
Q: I have an 8 month old son. He recently started this whinning thing where he will be somewhere(high ... A: At 8 months old a baby is not likely to play long by themselves especially if this is a new thing. ...
clingy daughter	8/8/2007
Q: My daughter is 5 years old and has always always been extremely clingy to me. She is fine at school, ... A: Sounds like your daughter is experiencing anxiety and if this is the case she probably will not grow ...
21 month old not sleeping in her crib	8/7/2007
Q: My husband and I just recently took a week vacation with our 21 month old, and she had to sleep with ... A: Now is a really good time (because her routine was broken) to establish a new bedtime routine. Now ...
22 Month old toddler sleep	8/6/2007
Q: My name is Julie and my 22 mo old daughter is Chelsea. Chelsea is in the process of learning to ... A: First of all it is more important to be consistent with her bedtime routine, schedules are about ...
bedtime	8/4/2007
Q: what is an average time for a recently turned 4 yr old to go to bed? A: I am not sure there are rules for what time children go to bed. I would determine how much sleep ...
Timid 17 mo old	8/4/2007
Q: We have a 17 mo old daughter who is adopted from China. She seems to be very timid and shy in some ... A: Actually there are two books. The book I was thinking of is called the Sensitive Child by Janet ...
bad behavior	8/4/2007
Q: I have a 12 month old grandson. He is constantly hitting. He also throws tantrums, such as throwing ... A: This little boy is 12 months old and we are worried about "bad" behavior? Something is definitely ...
Timid 17 mo old	8/2/2007
Q: We have a 17 mo old daughter who is adopted from China. She seems to be very timid and shy in some ... A: Sometimes. Sometimes toddlers are, it really depends upon the personality. Who knows what her life ...
constant waking by 9 month old baby	8/1/2007
Q: I have a 9 month old baby boy, who was sleeping through the night from 3 1/2 months old, with the ... A: You introduced diary and this interruption in his sleep started. Why not back off of the diary and ...
constant waking by 9 month old baby	8/1/2007
Q: I have a 9 month old baby boy, who was sleeping through the night from 3 1/2 months old, with the ... A: Several things jump out at me. First he is nine months old and he doesn't have a problem with his ...
Potty Training Regression?	7/31/2007
Q: I spent about 3 - 4 days "training" my 3-year old son. By the end of that period, he voluntarily ... A: STOP..... Okay first of all have you asked the doctor if his bladder is normal size, if his kidneys ...
My 3 yr old does will not chew	7/31/2007
Q: I have twin boys. They will turn 3 at the end of August. One of them chews and swallows regular ... A: Sounds to me like it is possible he hasn't gotten his two year old molars (yes they are the ones all ...
My 3 yr old does will not chew	7/31/2007
Q: I have twin boys. They will turn 3 at the end of August. One of them chews and swallows regular ... A: The first thing that comes to mind is has he gotten his two year old molars in or are they still ...
Temper Tantrum	7/30/2007
Q: Heard neighbor child screaming/crying at top of lungs. Don't know child or mother but I was ... A: Well you did the right thing to get involved. Although you did not mention the age of the child, it ...
Toddler sucking on food	7/30/2007
Q: My husband has a 2 year old great granddaughter that we keep a lot. About 2 weeks ago I noticed ... A: The sucking of food could possibly be the two year old molars (very back) teeth are trying to come ...
toddler food refusal	7/29/2007
Q: My son (17mths) used to be a very good eater and had whatever I gave him by spoon. Table foods he ... A: Some of the foods you describe above that he has eaten in the past are rather tasteless. I suspect ...
Nap andsleep time after taking pacifier away	7/28/2007
Q: After only getting the pacifier at night, we decided to let the pacifier fairy come and let our 2 ... A: Taking a pacifier away is going to be a traumatic experience. It isn't a matter of doing it too soon ...
biting	7/26/2007
Q: i work in the day care setting and got 2 children who keep biting other children, the parents are ... A: First run out and get a book from the bookstore. Believe it or not there are books for children on ...
Potty seat	7/26/2007
Q: I'm been potty training my 28mth old son on a small seat you put on top of the big toilet seats and ... A: I would continue with what is working however, get the potty chair and put it in the bathroom. Let ...
Premature baby	7/26/2007
Q: Well my daughter decided to come early and 34 weeks and came out a healthy weight and not really any ... A: I think you are very worried about your daughter. These are mostly physical questions and you need ...
Weight & Swearing	7/24/2007
Q: I have 2 questions....unrelated to each other. The first is in regard to weight. My daughter is 27 ... A: In addition to my previous response I have a site I just love as a resource for parents and noticed ...
My 2 yr old	7/24/2007
Q: My 2 yr old displays lots of repetitive behavior for example he constantly wipes his mouth with the ... A: Your 2 yr old sounds like he is emotionally and physically sensitive. Smart children often come with ...
2 year old	7/17/2007
Q: When my 2 year old daughter gets hurt, she seems to get angry, withdrawn, and absolutely does not ... A: How do your or your husband respond when you get hurt? How have you responded to her since she was ...
Raising Multilingual child	7/16/2007
Q: My daughter is 15 months. We speak two languages with her Hindi and English. She has only 'mama' ... A: This question is difficult. There is evidence that children should not be taught two languages until ...
bedtime resistance	7/11/2007
Q: Further to the Q & A asked: Expert: S. Kessler Date: 4/16/2004 Subject: crying at bedtime You ... A: You may not like my answer and there are plenty of professionals who disagree with my philosophy. ...
Is this separation anxiety ?	7/10/2007
Q: My question is almost identical to one that I read from Erin answered by Cheri dated 8-9-06. My ... A: I have several responses to similar questions about bed times with children. Feel free to browse ...
3yo daughter hates school	7/10/2007
Q: I have a 3yo daughter (only child) who has been attending a moms morning out program a few days per ... A: I am not very traditional about children going to school at a certain age. Not all children are ...
Restless	7/9/2007
Q: My son just turned 1 last week. However, about amonth b4 his 1st b-day he started tossing and ... A: Sounds like you do have a sleep crawler on your hands. It is not weird at all and very common for ...
private parts	7/8/2007
Q: I have a daughter that will be 4. She is always trying to lift up her dress and say look at my ... A: Hey there: My point was to get a child's book from the library or children's books store which ...
private parts	7/8/2007
Q: I have a daughter that will be 4. She is always trying to lift up her dress and say look at my ... A: Being curious at this age about bodies is totally normal. However, her behavior is not socially ...
2 yr old's fear	7/6/2007
Q: Is it normal for a 2 year old boy ( only child) to be extremely afraid of other children, even small ... A: It is hard to tell what is going on here. It sounds like trauma or anxiety however sometimes ...
My two year old son	7/6/2007
Q: I bascially have two questions. first my son is now 30 months and has been potty training. The ... A: Typically preschool is 4-5 years of age, however, these are not definitive with any child. Most ...
My two year old son	7/6/2007
Q: I bascially have two questions. first my son is now 30 months and has been potty training. The ... A: If you are planning on more children I would get both books. If not then check the 1-3 year olds out ...
wrried mom of 10 month old	7/6/2007
Q: Is it normal for a 10 month old to not say mama or dada or not clap, wave, crawl, or walk? A: Even though children do these things at different times on their own timeframes not ours, just ...
5 month developmental milestones	7/5/2007
Q: I just had a quick question regarding my 5 month old son.Since he turned 4 months he has been able ... A: All babies are different. Some babies do some things earlier than other and then do other activities ...
Won't Potty	7/5/2007
Q: My son is 3 1/2 years old and won't even consider potty training. We have tried everything I have ... A: Yes let go and no don't point out someone else going to the potty. Let him make this discovery on ...
My two year old son	7/5/2007
Q: I bascially have two questions. first my son is now 30 months and has been potty training. The ... A: When children are abused as children and then they become parents themselves they struggle to know ...
Won't Potty	7/4/2007
Q: My son is 3 1/2 years old and won't even consider potty training. We have tried everything I have ... A: This is a power struggle and your 3 1/5 year old is winning. You have tried everything and it has ...
infant and toddlers in daycare	7/4/2007
Q: I have read (Dr. Joyce Brothers/Brazelton) that it is not recommended infants and toddlers be in ... A: These are very good insightful questions. I suspect you have already formed your own conclusions by ...
2-year old scratching	7/2/2007
Q: It all started when she got mosquito bites all over her. Then she wouldn't let the heal. Scratching ... A: I don't mean to offend you however I am going to be blunt. Sounds like she is aggravated by itching. ...
my 14 month old daughter	7/2/2007
Q: I cant seem to get her to drink anything else in her bottle at night besides milk, I try to be ... A: Personally I am not an advocate of giving little ones a bottle to go to bed with as they could choke ...
Toddler	7/1/2007
Q: I have a 2 yr. old daughter who will be 3 in September. I have two problems. First, she goes to ... A: The milk question is something you need to discuss with your pediatrician. I am not a dietary ...
Toddler	7/1/2007
Q: I have a 2 yr. old daughter who will be 3 in September. I have two problems. First, she goes to ... A: First of all, children's stomachs are as big as their fist. Ask your daughter to make a fist and see ...
Speech Delay	6/30/2007
Q: I have a 22 month old daughter who only says about a dozen words, but babbles 95% of the time. She ... A: Children do develop at an individual pace. Developmental milestones are based upon the majority of ...
potty train	6/29/2007
Q: she was our first child and she was spoiled alot i dont want to spank are holler at her so please ... A: I am glad that you don't want to use any negative behavior to get your daughter to potty train. ...
Potty training but wetting again	6/28/2007
Q: My 3 1/2 year old daughter was potty during the day and did a great when she needed to go potty or ... A: I am so glad you wrote to me. Potty training and negative consequences will not get you want you ...
HELP me with my 28 month old daughter	6/27/2007
Q: I have a 28 month old daughter and she is always hitting her 16 month old brother and biting him he ... A: First of all let me say how sorry I am you are experiencing all this frustration. Being a parent ...
pulling out hair	6/26/2007
Q: one of my daughters has this thing with pulling out hairs. She likes to pick at her arm and eyebrow ... A: You did not mention how old your daughter is at this time. However, even toddlers can exhibit signs ...
15 month old squeals/screams	6/26/2007
Q: My 15 month old son squeals all the time, whether it is in frustration or excitement. He also says ... A: First of all your son did not fail the developmental test. Developmental tests are based upon what ...
change of behavior	6/24/2007
Q: My 4 years old suddenly changed his behavior. He is not eating well, pee in his pants and became ... A: Any number of things could be triggering this change of behavior. Take a look at what changes are ...
introdusing a nannny @6 months	6/22/2007
Q: i am a stay at home mom with a 6 months old daughter,she is very much attached to me,because i ... A: This is not something you can do overnight. You need to take this one step at time. Spend sometime ...
My 7-month old doesn't want to eat.	4/6/2007
Q: I have a 7 month old baby girl and she doesn't like to have her cereal in the morning. If she does ... A: Sounds like you have a picky eater on your hands. First let go of any idea that she needs to eat ...
Fussy 13 month old	4/5/2007
Q: My 13 month old so cries and fusses all the time. He is very healthy and has no medical problems. If ... A: Melinda: First of all children are all different. There is a big difference between a 13 month old ...
Plane trip	4/4/2007
Q: I have a dilemma. I am a mom of a 11 yr old and a 3 1/2 yr old. I planned a trip to take alone to ... A: You need to listen to your heart. Whether or not you take the 3 year old to the airport is really ...
re: Toddler sleep problems	4/1/2007
Q: I have a 2 year old , every night he screams himself to sleep. We do not go in and get him out but ... A: I need to be very clear that this question was found in a question pool of unanswered questions. It ...
Toddler not sleeping through the night	9/20/2006
Q: I am a young mother of two wonderful boys. My youngest is 1 1/2 and he still wakes up in the middle ... A: While I am pro-sleeping with children and not a advocate of giving children bottles before bedtime ...
how to sooth a crying infant at daycare	9/18/2006
Q: I am a child care supervisor fo r my schools infant program. I have a 6mo old who is still crying ... A: I am not sure why your question was not answered before now. I am new on the site. So hopefully you ...
feeding options	9/14/2006
Q: I'm 8 months pregnant and have decided to formula feed...I'm a competitive athlete who has to get ... A: Jackie: Your question was not posted to me personally. I was not listed in this category those ...
need to give away family pet	9/11/2006
Q: My daughter is 4 yrs old and we have 2 dogs we are going to have to give away. She is going to be ... A: I see your question has been languishing in the question pool here. I just started in this section ...

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