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Question I am a bridesmaid in an upcoming wedding. From the beginning of the MOH shower planning, I let it be known that i had to work late that night as well as traveling to pick up children afterwards, and i would not be able to make it. Then 2-3 weeks ago, i was able to rearrange my scheduling to accommodate the shower (its on a Friday night). Now the MOH has been harassing me about how much money I HAVE to give her or I am not welcome to attend, and she suggested i not be in the wedding because of it. She has been horribly cruel, saying things like " i don't care about your drama!" I have already spoken to the bride about this, and my money situation is tight with all that my family needs to do in preparation for this wedding as well as simple everyday life costs (my husband is best man, all my children have roles in the wedding as well). She is ok with it and really wants me there. How do I get the MOH (who is also my husbands little sister) to stop harassing me and treating me like an unwanted party crasher?
Answer Kelly:
You have a tough one on your hands but you are in the right. You, or no other, is obligated to pay for a shower. The only rule that I have read consistently is that the mother of the bride or groom must not throw the shower...and actually, it includes sisters...but I think it is o.k. of the sister is the bridesmaid.
If I were you I would offer to help in any way that you can but stay with the fact that you are not able to contribute cash to the fund. The fact that your sister-in-law does not understand is not as important as that the bride does. I am assuming that the sister-in-law does not have the additional expenses of children, etc.
Sorry you have such an unpleasant situation, but weddings sometimes bring out the very worst in people.
Stick to your guns, don't let her bully you. She is the one that will be looking foolish if she continues her behavior.
If things don't calm down, you might want to not attend...you were not going to attend in the first place.
When there is a storm brewing outside...it is safer to stay home:)
