Expert: Esther Vardy - 7/23/2006

Question
What does "black tie Invited" on a wedding invitation mean?  Is it optional or required?
Thank you


Answer
Hi Sue,

Invitations to special events and formal affairs should  indicate what type of attire expected. Problem is not everyone knows what it means and throughout history they have all taken on different meanings.

"Black Tie" was orginally to indicate to the men attending what they should wear. The woman would dress as elgantly as possible, sequins, jewels, tiara's even!  As long as its fancy smanchy you are good to go. Here are the different ways to ask for "dressed up" in the wordings of invitations.

If the Invitation says "Black Tie" it is generally accepted that "Black Tie" requires formal attire. Take advantage and spiff up your man to the nines to truly look and feel his very best in a tuxedo. Today, "Black Tie" means formal attire, not specifically to wear a black tie.

If the Invitation says "White Tie" or "Full Dress"
He can step into the occasion looking dashing and proper in a traditional tailcoat. Wearing a white wing collar shirt, a white pique vest, white tie, and black trousers accented by the formal satin stripe. Complete his outfit with patent shoes.

If the Invitation says "Black Tie Preferred"
Indicates that the host prefers guests to wear formal evening attire to the special occasion. Black Tuxedo, White Dinner Jacket (mid-April through Labor Day) or a dark contemporary style tuxedo are acceptable (no Tailcoats). Non-formal Dress Suits are also acceptable, but not preferred by the host.

If the Invitation says "Black Tie Optional"
Is not as strong a statement for formal attire as "Black Tie" or "Black Tie Preferred," yet formal dress is appropriate and acceptable. Styles may include Black Tuxedo, White Dinner Jacket (mid-April through Labor Day) or a dark contemporary style Tuxedo (no Tailcoats).

If the Invitation says "Black Tie Invited"
It is a phrase appearing more frequently than "preferred" or "optional."  It means that gentlemen attending are welcome to dress in formal attire if they would like, but it is not required. Styles for these affairs are the same as for "Black Tie Optional."

Hope this info helps now and in the future!

Have fun,

Esther